Girl Talk : 10 Things To AVOID DOING IN YOUR 20s ‼️ | (( Must Watch))|

[@gigijanae1460]

I honestly can't stand the people in the comments justifying having kids and raising them in poverty just to say "I have kids" or because of a fear of lower fertility as you get older and less chances of having kids. I'd rather have no children than raise my baby in a small one bedroom apartment in some sketchy gang and drug infested neighborhood sleeping on some dirty mattress on the floor wondering whether I should pay my light bills or buy groceries with the very little money I have. I'd rather have no children than send my child to a low-income school where they are exposed to a toxic school environment. Stop thinking about the cute baby face for a second and start thinking about the toxic environment you could potentially bring a child into. I personally would want the absolute best of the best for my child.

[@malia4459]

You could have all the riches and your child could still die in a car accident. sometimes life is just life

[@tianatiana5109]

Everyone who have a child in their 20’s aren’t broke, live in hood & struggling.😕

[@malayshiabrown5411]

children early = cash loss

[@yonce2347]

@@NM-ru2qj Love and support doesn't feed kids.

[@verateevy1414]

@@malia4459 @q

[@stellakamau6994]

Another tip is stop comparing yourself to other women. Heal your inner child and thrive in confidence, being secure and self love. Do that for yourself first instead of waiting for a man to validate you. Not every one has good intentions

[@collegegrad2955]

I argee with you!!!!! Great point

[@TwoPrettyRedDimes]

Fax

[@NeverLetLoveGo]

And have a good mental sense of who you are, be confident in yourself and stand for something!!

[@mikayacox3035]

Honestly having a child out of wedlock and when you are not financially stable is the WORST thing you can ever to do yourself.

[@AmorieAudrey]

This comment needs to be pinned.

[@RoseMiah9191]

So true! Plus finding a man in general is hard, having a baby from another man is harder, finding a man, who‘s financially stable or wealthy when having a baby from a former „ accident“- impossible. Now go to work.😎

[@bratz4lxxx23]

My gurls remember the 4Gs 1. God 2. Goals 3. Growing 4. Glowing Remember this focus on these things the best thing it will help you when you feel down 😉 I hope you have a good day my gurls ❤❤

[@kpop-lb3uk]

Wooow❤️

[@brittneysmith3065]

Do not waste your 20's in a relationship that isn't going anywhere! I've heard too many stories of women who decided to spend their twenty's in 10-year long relationships playing wife to a man who doesn't want to get married hoping one day he will change his mind. He won't! Save your time and energy and find a man who can't wait to marry you.

[@aminah761]

brittney smith yesss

[@alext3480]

yup! literally thinking of Cassie

[@ijeBeauty]

I’m 22 and during this quarantine I’ve developed my own self care routine/regimen and it honestly has made me feel soooo good 💗🥺

[@adaintydream8759]

Would you mind sharing? 🙂 I am on my fem journey and looking for some motivation during the quarantine i have gained a few kilos!

[@ijeBeauty]

The Learning Ella My journey started during this quarantine by binge watching multiple KZbin videos and brainstorming my life through and what exactly I wanted to change. I started with exercise as the first thing, I created a consistent exercise schedule that I’ve followed through. The next thing I did was to learn how to cook and make foods that I like to eat. A whole self care process. Then of course I also looked into upgrading my fashion sense (which made me start a KZbin channel for try on hauls) And I purchased different skin care products from amazon to try out for weeks and figured out what worked for me. My entire self care and regimen was all about leveling up and honestly learning how to do things for myself the way that I like it. And of course writing down my goals as well along the process. I never had the time because I’m always in school, but quarantine gave me more than enough time to do all this and also graduate from college 💕

[@adaintydream8759]

ijeBeauty Thank you Girl! All the best for your bright future! Congratulations on starting your KZbin chnnel! I am visiting for sure! 💕

[@rahinatu2060]

You are so pretty

[@siyamamkelanompula-msomi1616]

Same here sis 💓

[@aimanose3433]

Having a strong relationship with God is key! ❤

[@ms.s18]

Amen! 💕

[@chichisosweet2141]

Yes everything else will fall into place

[@naynayhi93]

Yes!

[@sweetandyyy]

Amen💓

[@alext3480]

i'm trying to get like this too

[@antoniamonet8497]

1. Take vitamins, work out, have a beauty routine 2. Dont send nudes 3. Don’t follow trends 4. Don’t blow your money 5. Don’t mess up your credit 6. Start a business 7. Understand that friends come and go 8. Don’t limit your job options 9. DON’T HAVE KIDS 10. practice femininity

[@sophiejosephbrown]

For my ladies past their 20s, yes you can start your business, invest in yourself, etc. Success sees no age.

[@lester2588]

Yassss!!!! Thank you for saying this! I’m 32 and just got my Bachelor’s degree. I still have so many things to get done before I turn 40. It’s actually exciting seeing all the opportunities and options available out there. It keeps me motivated to keep going. IT IS BEVER TOO LATE, LADIES!!! ❤️

[@taelahharris7154]

I'm 19 and a mother. Y'all have your babies laaaterrr enjoy your ability to get up and go! Everyone assumes young mothers don't have it together, but I do. a 730 credit score, 17 months until I graduate nursing school, and constant income all while keeping up with femininity and leveling up It is hard but I'm doing it, with a child!

[@BVLV]

Wow that must be hard ꨄ but I’m glad you’re doing fine though ❣︎☺︎︎

[@naynayhi93]

Yes maam

[@sabrinam4335]

Yes I agree, enjoy ur 20s everyone ☺ I had my child at 19, its not easy but you just have to keep going, am 35 now & my daughter is 16, I work in finance & my child is the biggest blessing ever 😙 stay blessed and beautiful 💖

[@taelahharris7154]

KittyEars&Headbands I have a husband ..

[@taelahharris7154]

KittyEars&Headbands please expand on the purpose of this comment?

[@QueenStatus2012]

Honestly, having children out of wedlock is a disadvantage to any women whether in their 20s or older. There are so many advantages of a two parent household than a single parent household. This still proves true even if the two parent household is dysfunctional. Read the comments, majority of the females upset about the kid part are single mothers. Which is not surprising. If you are a women read and understand the statistics and try to defy them! Recreate your narratives. If you are a single mother seek wisdom from other women who were in your shoes. But don’t be in denial. Unfortunately, the negative stigma and outcomes about having children out of wedlock and young are seen every day.

[@AlexanderThompson75]

Im 25 have my B.S completing my Masters in 2021. Been married to my husband 4 years now working on starting an LLC. Got a job at publishing company as a content analyst 1 years after college and i actually got the offer when I graduated but i was pregnant with my son and I kept in contact with the company. Now I work from home with a 401k/insurance in NYC. Look ladies. If you have a kid in your 20s you can still reach for your goals and more but its important who you have a kid with. My husband lets me still be me and do things that i want to do and just because i have a kid does not take away from my individuality. Be organized. Write down your goals. Dont fall into the stigma you have a kid your life is over people that say things like that havent lived life themselves. Keep in shape! Let your partner watch the kiddo and go get drinks with your girls its all about balance.

[@naynayhi93]

Love this

[@AlexanderThompson75]

I hope this helps anyone that are in the same boat ❤

[@nelit708]

Girls idolize Jada and how she had her baby loyal young, but in an ig live she literally said she regrets having him so young and wishes she waited and told girls to wait til they’re older to have kids. Even if you can afford it, having a child while very young is NOT IT! Literally every older woman I know has told me the same thing to not have kids until I’m closer to 30. I’m 19 and I don’t get why people my age continue to do this and become baby mamas in this day and age.

[@TheeBratzDollxox]

Unfortunately some people don’t have the wisdom and foresight others do Hun. Some truly have to learn the hard way. Best thing you can do is make smart choices for yourself and pray those young women see the light one day🙏🏾

[@alext3480]

@@ScientificAnomalies876 i doubt. most are unplanned pregnancies

[@diyaperry6820]

Neli T let’s be real if LIL BABY was doing right by her..she would feel different. They would be one little happy family. Lil baby is the problem not her actual baby.

[@cherryivana1129]

Neli T I love Jayda Wayda but I 100% agree with you.

[@nelit708]

Cherry Ivana right, I like her too, that’s why I was disappointed in her when got preggo. Like she had a millionaire company at 20 years old, one of the most poppin ig girls, but decided to fuck it up and become a baby mama, smh. Perfect example of a fumble. Sad

[@WinyMary]

Video tips: -Take care of your skin and body -do not send nudes/ record doing something (Save your reputation) -Do not follow every trend (be selective) - Do not blow your saving (save and invest) - Do not ruin your credit (If you cannot buy it three time Do not buy it at all) - start a business (selling clothes, youtube/ explore your dreams) -Understand friends come and go (it's a part of life/ God making room for someone better) - Do not limit yourself to dead end jobs (explore different careers) - Do not have kids young (you won't have enough time for yourself) -Do not forget to practice your femininity ( really set foundation for yourself/ start listening to podcast and read books/ watch movies with feminine characters)

[@LovelyCeee]

I had my kids at a young age and I AGREE with this video! To each it’s own but this video is on point. There is no need to rush having children. Get your life in order first; finish college, or start a successful business. The struggle bucket life is not where it’s at !!!! Children are a blessing but become MARRIED, and Successful FIRST!!! More MARRIAGES & GRADUATIONS, less baby showers, and young single motherhood !!!!!

[@nelit708]

I’m 19 turning 20 in 3 months and I started my first business early this year and am planning to start my second business within the coming months. I also have great credit and am in in the process of teaching myself how to invest. All of these take a lot of self discipline, but I’m glad I’m doing it now and setting myself up to have a bright future. Big ups to all the other black girls and black women who are out here grinding as well! Please don’t let people discourage you from doing what you need to move up in life, black women we do not have to settle for mediocrity!!!Continue to make smart and wise choices y’all, we got this!!

[@Harley10S]

Happy for you, good luck on all your endeavors😍

[@constanceamaokyere2029]

You inspire me girll!

[@Honeynlocz]

I’m literally turning 20 in 8 days

[@constanceamaokyere2029]

In advance💖

[@nelit708]

Thanks everyone 😘😘

[@14purplehearts]

One thing I’ve noticed though is that guys seem to have their friends longer? We definitely need to stop letting guys and petty arguments get in between our friendships.

[@MYFBAMB]

Yeah but if a guy or a petty argument can be the cause of an end to a friendship, then it wasn’t a friendship meant for you to begin with. Just saying.

[@14purplehearts]

Purple Fanta true but a lot of times those are the causes of ending lifelong friendships.

[@thebtchthathikes1008]

Don't you know? Females don't have friendships. They've got leashes. And if you just so happen to walk in your own 2 feet expect to WALK ALONE!

[@kensigregory361]

Advice I heard from successful elders: Don't do drugs at all or consistently, or you'll regret it later. Don't drink alcohol if you don't want your kidney to fail later on in life. Be careful with the company you keep while you're young, because they'll either stop your growth or help it. Make sure to or try to keep a clean record at all cost. Be selective with the men you date or the man you'll decide to marry.

[@nthebear1144]

Thank you

[@kensigregory361]

@@nthebear1144 No problem.

[@emmarose7491]

Spot on. This should be in the video.

[@fatimah230]

Don’t forget about sleep! Try to maintain a healthy sleep schedule. This is something I’m struggling with but I gotta get it together lol

[@KaylaL830]

Yes!!

[@awkwardletter9533]

I used to feel like I was weird because I didn’t work all hours of the night and stay up like typical 20 somethings..Until this year! Nowadays I’m just like “Screw it, I’m tired. I’m going to bed!” at 9:40p. I’ve also been told I look like a teen.

[@chibukonwachoka3564]

You are right about that! Good sleep is fundamental.

[@chibukonwachoka3564]

@@awkwardletter9533 that is wonderful🥳

[@carmellabrown3335]

I agree with the majority of these. This is very good advice. The only thing I would say ladies is don't get caught up in trying to be the next Beyonce. What I mean by that is, she mention dead-end jobs. When I heard that, I thought of jobs that are not glamorous. Jobs that don't necessarily pay the most money. Of course we should all strive for our best, and live our best lives. But if you are not in that position yet; do not be harsh/downplaying yourself. Self-love is very important ☺️.

[@TwoPrettyRedDimes]

EXACTLY

[@ginalienn1112]

Thank you for this because I’m currently working retail lol

[@carmellabrown3335]

@@ginalienn1112 Do your best, try and maintain a positive attitude because people love to try people working in retail. Hard work is always appreciated sis 👌

[@cendychery9743]

I really liked this video, as someone in my early 20’s, 22, I’ve learned that you can’t fall in love with every guy that treats you nice. They might not have the same goals or mindset you have about not being stagnant and they just might get comfortable with you working hard and providing that motivational energy.

[@kpop-lb3uk]

Same❤️

[@Mrs.Rhoden]

I’m 31 and I get told I look 21 everywhere I go 😂🙌🏽🎉

[@Aja.S]

I decided to cut off all my friends so called friends and focus on myself ! I was the once caring too much and they took me for granted ... never taking my news !

[@raheljustina5262]

La Marquise I was forced to do that too...best thing that ever happened to me! It wasn’t a choice but it was an absolute blessing! I wish you good luck!!!

[@Aja.S]

@@raheljustina5262 thanks Sis ! luck on our self development and feminine journey

[@lebogangmaila]

5. Do not ruin your credit 6. Start a business 7. Understand that friends come and go 8. Do not commit yourself to dead-end jobs 9.

[@alext3480]

most women having babies in their 20s are not married, or they are not procreating with a high value man, they are raising babies in an unstable income, etc....that's why she said don't have kids young plus i feel like all these women are going to regret that they didn't live out their youth when they are 40, 50 even 30 years old...and are just trying to make themselves feel better but disagreeing with you

[@user-cfam3.o]

I'm 19 and I'm so happy to say I started all these early. I own a skincare line,make my money and have being in skincare for about three years now......This makes me so proud of myself

[@4everLovely21]

I’m 27 and a mother. Honestly there is never a right time to have children. I absolutely liked this video overall!

[@cleo9297]

Just turned 20 and at 19 i made the conscious decision to never give up on myself and to always cherish my soul as well as the body that I am in

[@Nydidthat]

Coming from somone who has a child young DONT DO IT! Of course I LOVE my son and wouldn’t trade him for the world but it definitely isn’t easy to learn yourself while your raising someone else. Now I’m not in a bad situation by any means (own house,car, side hustle, job, etc) but life would be 10x less stressful if i would have waited 💯

[@ivaniah438]

Most people who have kids in their 20s unfortunately did not plan it, that’s was because they didn’t use any form of birth control and not because they wanted to have kids. I doubt most females in their 20s really want to have kids. It happened because they weren’t careful, even for celebrities but the difference is that influencers and celebrities are more stable to raise their unplanned kids. Use birth control!

[@Sweatyhorsecock]

Birth control is terrible for the female body. We need to teach women how to track their ovulation/cycles to prevent pregnancies tbh

[@calmmindfullness]

What about if you get married young?

[@amaragrace94]

I'm sorry but if you didn't tell him NO until he wore a condom, or if you didn't make sure you were taking your daily pill or had a different form of birth control, you planned that child. We gotta stop acting like we don't know how babies are made and hold ourselves and the man you choose to lay with accountable. Now if you are on birth control or you used a condom but it broke AND the next day pill didn't work, THEN it is a true accident because you did everything you could to prevent it. We have to be responsible. In addition to birth control, keep track of your cycle and ovulation window, so that you can be extra vigilant during that time.

[@daylaylaysart_16]

All of the points you made are solid advice. Including the kids, in your 20s everyone is still babies, you’re not even a fully mature adult until 25 because that is when the brain is fully developed. Also, not everyone wants to have kids which is not talked about often and is often shitted on by people who have kids saying “you’ll change your mind”, “kids are great”, “you’re selfish if you don’t want kids”. Yea, women should be more selfish, all of the money that would have gone to hypothetical kid is now going to everything I want in my life. I want five bedrooms? Yes. Why? Office, game room, beauty room, closet room, my room. I want to go out and have fun because I can afford it? Yes. No stress? Yes. Live my life with no one waiting on me? Yes. Not everyone wants to be a parent nor does it mean they will be good parents. Majority of people I have met in my life should not have had their kids; either emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive towards their kids. However, having kids should really be taken into consideration as it’s a lifetime of responsibility. If someone has kids, great; if someone doesn’t want kids, even better. Women, you don’t have to have kids if you don’t want to. Your womanhood is not define by being a mother. As a woman, it should be about just you as a person!

[@maame6768]

21 for women 25 for women

[@daylaylaysart_16]

K k unsure by your comment? What do you mean?

[@nthebear1144]

Friends come and go that’s what I am learning

[@alext3480]

same

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

This is excellent advice and well stated. I’ll be 30 in four months, graduated with three college degrees in Business/Accounting, and no children throughout my 20s. Also, I’m currently engaged and we have dated for over 10 years. I would always stress this with my younger family members not to have children young because having children at a young age, as you mentioned, hinders you from discovering your identity as a person. I’m now investing in trustworthy companies and starting a 401k immediately. Please stay safe. ❤️

[@joyceadena]

Soo amazing could you be my mentor😍

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

WINNIE WANGARI Thank you. ❤️

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

Joyce Adena How old are you? If you’re in high school, you should focus on your studies and some extracurricular activities. Stay away from distractions such as boys and other activities others do to be “cool”. Just because every girl is in the Instagram “baddie” culture doesn’t mean you have to. You must become your own person and take school seriously. Same for boys, usually they don’t know what they want and you don’t know what you want because of being such at a young age. However, I did meet my fiancé at high school, but high school romances are rare. It’s best to avoid boys altogether in high school. Dating can wait and that special person will come later. I’m sorry this comment is long, but those are key advices I have for young people. I hope this helps you. 😊❤️

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

KittyEars&Headbands He works as an operator for a pharmaceutical company that makes ice packs for hospitals and some beverage companies. The company is called Pelton Shepherd. He is thinking about climbing up to supervisor.

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

KittyEars&Headbands Thank you and you’re welcome. ❤️

[@bemydinosaur13]

Having a baby at 26.... Having babies young is healthier for your body and for the baby! Much lower risk of complications or infertility, it is when your body was designed to do this. I am married and have a stable career though so def don’t rush into having babies if you don’t feel secure in a good supportive relationship/financially

[@naturalbodyandskincare9965]

I’m worried that when I ready to have kids (out of uni, married with a partner, savings etc.) it’ll be too late. I really want kids and a few of them tbh. It really worries me

[@bemydinosaur13]

@@naturalbodyandskincare9965 you can do it! Stay focused on your goals, work on your career and your finances, and you'll find a partner doing the same! Be true to yourself and your values while dating. There are more young men out there who want to be a loving and supportive husband and father than the internet will have you think!

[@hannahzain1609]

I’d say live the moment and don’t waste your 20s worrying about things , and TAKE PICTUREs through out your life your body //beauty at 20s will not be the same at 30s! Not saying you’ll be ugly I’m saying DIFFERENT cause I regret not having any old pictures but hey it’s okay cause now I started taking pics ❤️much love

[@aliemyra2933]

I'm turning 15 in 12 hours but im still watching this video 😌 Better to start early!

[@BriannaxChaiyou]

myra Yes, it is best to start early and avoid distractions such as boys since you’re 15. I believe in you. ❤️

[@ZaniahSlayed]

Yes I’m so happy for you and happy birthday 💗💗💗

[@aliemyra2933]

Thank you guys so much !💗💗💗

[@JustJoyyy]

That’s the best.Happy birthday in advance hun🥳😘

[@itzli_7930]

i just turned 15 too

[@musa_fxl]

I’m 19 and I’ll be turning 20 In September before this year came along I wasn’t really as wise as I am today. I always thought a man needed to take care of me and all I have to do is sit back, maybe it’s because of my parents relationship, but the older I get I realize that I need to work and improve myself for myself and no one else. I’ll have to live with myself for as long as I live and ever since I’ve tried to be more independent and self aware, starting with little things like having a morning routine, reading a book and not stay to long on social media. I don’t have the money for a business yet and don’t have a business plan but I’m getting there. I really appreciate you so much miss feminine cause you’re teaching me things that no one taught me. Thank you🥺❤️

[@ruthmaina4305]

@Firdausi Laila Musa... I had the same mentality. However,it changed when I was 'crucified' with my someone's money (someone close in my family.) I strive to work and use my own money... return any debt and live a free life with no one's disturbance in my business.

[@ruthmaina4305]

And also try to have a simple on budget routine... don't wait on any man to take care of you... You'll end disappointed 🙄

[@musa_fxl]

Ruth Maina I had to learn this the hard way when a man asked me what I brought to the table and I asked him what his sisters bring to the table? He said he knows the value of his sister so any man would be lucky to have them. This man is my boyfriend

[@BubblyRosé2468]

@@musa_fxl IS? That's what he thinks of you and you're still with him?

[@musa_fxl]

Pinkpanda4 he apologized saying it was just a joke

[@Sophie-ud2tf]

I’m in my 20s! Thanks for the video. Love all your tips 💜💜

[@AmaraB]

This is really good advice. I just turned 24 and I’ve been doing all of this. Working on my credit and self care plus I’ve had my own business since age 21. I’m currently working on eating better and taking care of my body so I stay in shape

[@LinzeyLiNO]

Same here!! You go girl 🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@ginalienn1112]

I’m almost 24 also!

[@truvy_5544]

something a lot people forget is that its okay to take breaks, mental health is important; if you feel like you wanna take a break and work on yourself or get closer to your kids/family/SO/etc do that. dont think of time as a ticking bomb. its people in their 40s that just started businesses, that changed their eating habits and now looking younger, started working out and everything. dont feel pressure that your not successful at a certain age. soon to be 20 and people around my age wanna be wealthy at a young age to the point they feel like having fun is a burden.

[@rachealwashington5662]

I believe that it’s okay to start a family in your 20s. Just make sure you have them in wedlock.

[@OnlyMagentaCA]

'Avoid allowing yourself to get washed' I need to here that the most right about now 😭 My self care routine has suffered

[@ImabelleRegine]

I see so many young girls looks so old. All that drinking and drugs washing them out smh its so sad like come on baby girl take care of yourself.

[@yourfemininefuture6061]

‘In a world full of trends, I want to remain a classic’ Iman. I stand by this firmly! Such important tips, thank you!! 🥳✨

[@somaokereke5002]

I agree with everything you’ve said. However, there is no late age to start a business

[@Janicesaheed]

She just suggest it’s more better because you are more free, and it’s easier.

[@jenniferrodriguez1550]

I agree on the nudes part. However, ladies if you ever find yourself in that situation, you have the right to sue due to emotional destress and defamation. Take his ass to court if you have to. Depending in the state you live may determine the length of jail time and compensation. Educate yourself. Protect yourself. Things happen, keep leveling up and being the woman you deserve to be: www.cnn.com/2017/03/12/us/nonconsensual-or-revenge-porn-recourse-trnd/index.html

[@dancingdivazriooo]

My advice would also be don’t do casual hookups either because you never know if someone could be recording you without your consent or knowledge :/

[@RachelNicole]

I’m doing self care Sunday rn getting my bubble bath ready 🥴

[@TheFabulousUnorthodox]

gorl me too!! just got done :)

[@venithy5749]

For all the hate related to her promoting starting a business: She didn't say you must start a business, what she wanted to say most likely was that for those of you who *want* to start a business or have a *talent/skill* you are curious about turning into a business you should rather at least try to turn the dream into a reality in your 20s (instead of delaying it for later) because the more time passes the less likely it is that you are going to attempt to. Or the more difficult the change will feel to you. (You'll probably have a family, not so much energy anymore, lost motivation etc.) So this part is suitable for those who *are curious or want to turn their dream hobby into a job*. She didn't exactly say go start a business even if you don't like the idea just because it seems like a good idea. Hope it clarified it more!!

[@catm.l.5951]

Another really good tip is exercice and try to eat as healthy as possible! If you look fit and slim you will automatically look younger and healthier :)

[@ginalienn1112]

I’ll be 24 in a few weeks. So far I’ve done well in my 20s but I do need to start moving forward in what I truly want to do career wise.

[@kennedicampbell8505]

a part of taking care of ur body is no soda and fast food but yall not ready for that conversation

[@leleste5465]

Ooh 😯 that’s why I only drink juices 🥤 and am vegan 🌱

[@kennedicampbell8505]

RileyCj 0 keep going! i was vegan and i felt better than ever!

[@dj_here]

@@kennedicampbell8505 wat happened

[@maseridesu]

@@leleste5465 that’s awesome! I’m vegetarian on my way to vegan, hopefully I can stay in the right path 😊

[@leleste5465]

@@kennedicampbell8505 why did you stop ?

[@armarosamohead728]

I turn 20 this month and this is God sent message.

[@taybee4653]

100% agree with not having kids in your 20. Especially if your not married, just my mantra.

[@cherryivana1129]

That part!!!

[@ntsakomaseko6190]

Amen!!×

[@YS-in1jk]

Good vid - but also remember it's never too late to do better! People have different starts in life and if you only manage to get it together at an age post 20's then that's your life's journey and is no less valid. But thank you for the video and encouraging our youth! xx

[@cieralashay1921]

This is something I wish I saw when I was in my early 20s. My cousin did hint to some of these things. She told me “Get your education, all these other things will still be there when you’re done.” I appreciate that you took the time to figure this out and put this vid together. I’m gonna send this to my little sister. Hopefully something resonates w/ her like it did w/ me.

[@misssunshine6622]

Im in my teens but better to know now and early then when it is too late 🤗

[@h_ypegirl]

I’m 18 and I’ll be 19 soon. I always watch your videos, they help me become wiser.

[@sydsuperbee]

Everything is about that child AND you, never feel guilty for still loving yourself and doing things for yourself, young mothers. We are people too we are individuals with our own individual needs, desires and dreams and those are just as important as they were prior to motherhood. Just make sure your child(ren) is(are) taken care of first, and do what makes you happy immediately after.

[@shanawilliams2979]

*Do not have kids out of wedlock

[@Melly16yr10]

Huge mistake yikes 😱

[@lookslikedi]

I’m 19 and this is perfect timing lmao, thank youuuu

[@tshepiempopi.11_11]

Not all heroines wear caps sis❤️👠 thank you so much for this information! I'm 26 and I wish I had someone like you in my early 20s but I'm glad I found this channel today😍 Much love from Botswana 🇧🇼 💕

[@gloriaa.2442]

“Every child is a blessing. Even when a child is not planned or prepared for, every child brings an amazing opportunity -a child who could transform the world in ways we can only imagine.”

[@marcosgarcia7386]

Every single soul is a gift of life and Every life is unique in their own ways, You create and your creation creates everything is more beautiful because we are mortal and we won't be more lovelier than now. After 50 years from now we are gone from this universe so I guess that it's better than living for ever !

[@b.goddess1940]

Respectfully women MUST stop telling this lie to themselves being a mother out wedlock is or will be Ok. It’s literally a recipe for disaster and if your baby daddy don’t work there a few men who are willing to step in to marry yiu

[@tapped564]

These videos have been very inspirational. For my older ladies like myself, it’s never too late to try to do the best you can. Self improvement never gets old.

[@griseldaguerrero7199]

I agree with everyone, just wished I should've married in my mid 20s and had kids with the one that got away. Nowadays many men don't want to marry.

[@estrellaverbeck]

You said something I've never heard before... Do not have kids. Celebrities are the exception not the rule. Thanks for clearing that up 😘

[@BriannaMelissa]

I’m about to turn 20 in 2 weeks I definitely needed to hear this thank you 💕

[@KinksandTwist]

Aww❤ You're 22 now. How's it been ?

[@efanden]

But, when you go from a job to another one, some recruiters might see it as a sign of instability. If you want to work in a certain type of field, you may do a lot of internships to see which place attracts you the best. But not too many different jobs. Try to have a red string for all the things you dabble in. So you can show that you knew exactly what you were doing, even if it's not the case. As long as you can justify it, you won't seem like an unreliable person.

[@OnyxxRose]

We have the same name 💛

[@efanden]

@@OnyxxRose Really ?! I rarely find someone with the same name. Hello you. 😹

[@MsAnn2]

That's true but I think her main focus was don't spend a lot of time at dead end jobs

[@efanden]

@@MsAnn2 I guess that was her point. Which is true. In your 20s, you shouldn't limit yourself.

[@shanaleasha6550]

Also you don't have to put all your past jobs on your resume. Recruiters will more than likely judge you when they see it even though they dont know your personal situation. It's not an obligation, what they don't know won't hurt😉

[@MariyahGabriel]

I agree with almost everything on this video, with the exception of having kids, but I like the point that you made, if you have the means and are financially stable with a loving husband in your 20s then I wouldn’t wait to have kids. Unfortunately many people don’t realise just how difficult it can be to start a family after a certain age and that can be overlooked in our society also until it’s too late. Great video. xXx

[@isabellasophiarose1100]

Exactly

[@bluereign9533]

I’m in my late 20s and I really appreciate it. Lol I broke the one rule tho don’t have kids early😂😂

[@bluereign9533]

Appreciate this video*

[@anastaciathomas1215]

I started having kids early (23) but I got married at 20. I would’ve waited at least 2 more years but I wanted to be done having kids by 30.

[@bluereign9533]

Anastacia Thomas see I had my first child at 19 I was married and got divorced 2 years afterwards then not protecting myself I ended up pregnant again and had my second at the age of 22

[@keneishamcdonald]

You’re not the only one. I had my daughter at 20 🤧🤧

[@mondeliyungu5711]

Thanks queen!!!! I agree with all the points you just stipulated,I'm in my late twenties but people think I'm only 22yrs🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ....and savings n start a business queen it's a must.💯💯💯💯And it is the best time to get the best education and choose the best career that will help you in future.

[@ynezberg-jones8601]

I truly enjoy these videos. I had my first child at 20, and I am more successful than I ever been. If you are in your 20s, pregnant and watching this video do not let her words discourage you! Yes you will be limited in certain things such as freedom, but ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD! I was able to graduate college on time, buy a house, have a successful career, great savings all while being a mom in my 20s. I don't think her comments in the video are meant to be hurtful/attacking those who do have children or expecting, my take from it is just wait! There's no rush because if it is meant to be it will be! P.S. - I'm a fan of these videos and will soon start documenting my feminine journey

[@alext3480]

women still shouldn't have kids at early ages...it's too much baggage that comes with it.

[@sbusisiwelinshaba7841]

I actually like the idea of having babies at a younger age, you will still be young when there gone to college. It is also draining and difficult getting pregnant and raising kids at an older age, you have less energy at an older age....it's okay to have kids in one's mid or late 20s.

[@alext3480]

@@sbusisiwelinshaba7841 women who have kids early still get drained...it's even worse because most of the time they raise the kids by themselves spending the rest of their youth taking care of someone. getting pregnant at 30-35 is still fairly young i think. but i kinda agree with the last part. but women shouldn't be having babies in the 20s just to reach their biological clock is ticking

[@beyonceschild]

@@sbusisiwelinshaba7841 sorry I'm not wasting my 20s on a kid

[@sbusisiwelinshaba7841]

@@alext3480 I'm not for having a baby by oneself as a single mom, but having a loving partner and a good career. I see alot of young girls who have careers in their early 20s and also meet the love of their lives. I personally had a career at 21 and i was engaged, but we ended up breaking up. However it is an individual choice. I just noticed that in my 30s, i don't have the same energy i had in my 20s and things do get more difficult with time, especially at 35 and above, unfortunately women don't have as much time as men, the clock does tick faster in the 30s for me personally.

[@ilonildea7930]

From the bottom of my heart ^Can you do a video on things to not/do in your late/teens? I am 15 so it would help me A LOT especially coming from a mature perspective 🥺🥰

[@niawilliams2656]

Totally agree with this video do not have kids in your 20s it’s better to wait when you are more established and have more to give to them

[@gakiikinoti4514]

Saw a meme the girl was saying how if she ever ended up pregnant that nigga would have beat her 10-nil

[@6figurebeautyboss33]

Another good tip is to refrain from a lot of drinking and smoking. It’s so bad for your skin and body. It’s ages you and smoking is bad for your teeth.

[@dw3675]

Facts

[@imaniinspires]

This was good girl even with mentioning the kids. Bc so many people are afraid to speak on that & I’m glad that you did.

[@caitlinmorley384]

DO NOT and I mean do not Listen to the Credit advice in this video it is so incorrect Now let me educate you from someone who has A mother as a debt counsellor (who is 20 lol) , 1, going into collections will not ruin your credit report providing you can pay the full amount when required. 2, bailiffs and repossession companies only get involved when it’s way down the line, for instance say you miss a payment on A phone bill the bailiffs aren’t going to come and repossess you. It takes three missed payments and then it becomes a ‘ default ‘ you will then be taken into collections. Say you then pay the amount off in full your credit report will not be impacted (apart from 3 missed payments) if you still can’t afford to pay you can agree a payment plan with the courts (IVA) this can be more damaging but only last six years and if you are also 20 and watching this you will still have time to buy a house and it won’t ruin your life forever. That’s it from me hope you learnt something new and please ignore the credit part from this video thanks

[@__badlilvibe9006]

Avoid getting many tattoos abd if possible don't be pressured to get any.

[@Bianca.Roxana]

"Don't have kids." YESS!!! 🙏🏼

[@DNGH814]

Please make longer videos. I can listen to you all day, you have taught me so much💜🧡

[@lyanneedwardnatalie]

Thank you for this!! I’m turning 20 this Saturday and it’s so nice to hear this 💓💓

[@lyanneedwardnatalie]

Jaliza Neybuci Thank you so much 💞💓💓

[@Mscocoapuffz]

Thank you for the video! Spot on with some of the things to avoid in your 20s and I would only add do not lose you hobbies or interest because of a relationship. ❤️

[@nthebear1144]

Thank you Queen I’m 17 turning 18 and this is so important

[@__tee1992]

Same, this video is gold

[@starsuperville6863]

Samee

[@carla0322]

Omg I‘m 17 too and turning 18 soon too and this is the second comment I saw today saying the same thing. What’s going on with us 😂😭 #crisis

[@nthebear1144]

Carla 03 haha we growing

[@gorgeousreese9741]

I love this. I been feeling like I’m so lost. I’m in a really weird place in my life rn. I didn’t really have guidance. I’m 22 and my life is all over the place rn. Thank you for this beautiful video it’s gone help me create a balance In my life!

[@anacastro8172]

I’m dead at the city girl part “Act up you can get snatched up” 😂😂 no bitch fr that is the opposite of what you want to be viewed as!!

[@jessychirenge]

I'm 19....taking notes for next year

[@lazaneemiller3938]

Same sis👑

[@rendallsofia1194]

Me too

[@Gleetoz]

Same boo 💗

[@belindanjonguo3816]

This channel is changing the stereotype mentality for me....I can't say how much my confidence has improved since I started watching this....Thank You❤❤❤

[@OriginalCuukee]

Wow her voice is so soothing...good for my soul very important message

[@euniceanderson3856]

I was browsing and came across this video. Thank you so much for the knowledge! Although I’m in my late 20’s, I’m applying many of these concepts to my everyday life. I would also add- making an investment in your education. Whether it’s a degree, certification, online course etc. the benefits are immense and you will never regret it ladies!

[@dj_here]

Make sure the investment is lucrative. Something in finance or tech

[@sedulousblog6379]

I love this KZbin channel. You’re a blessing

[@MissFeminine]

Thanks love !

[@freedanancy7314]

Thank you for going straight to the point No unnecessary things at the beginning Nice talk💕💕💕

[@Laquia]

I'll be 30 next year in the late fall. Will be 29 in 3 months. This video was informative and eye-opening. Thank you Miss Feminine. I follow Black Excellence on KZbin!

[@GraceFEni]

I love this!! Could you give some podcasts, books, and movies that you’d recommend to grow your femininity?

[@shaniaelibox4038]

Check out @Asha Christina KZbin channel. She helped me so much .

[@cherryivana1129]

Grace F. Eni heyyyyy sis

[@fallyhally1234]

Tip #2 is sooo important. I made the mistake before my twenties 😔

[@cynthiaagudosi1311]

We all do boo❤ but look at it this way, now you know better and you will do better!...wish you the best

[@Tefahh.c]

I agree with everything you hit on in this video and this is just a response to some comments I feel is just a lil ignorant and insensitive I’m 25 my son is 6 we both have never wanted for nothing I’ve never lived in the city or in poverty at all my son knows nothing of tht life and nor do I. Also never had to be on any government assistance. I definitely didn’t have a child just say I have a kid lmao. I think comments like tht is why ppl get offended bcus of the assumption tht every young person with a child is living this way 🤔. But with all tht said I would’nt encourage anyone to have a child they aren’t ready for no matter the age simply bcus it’s hard to work on yourself and raise a child if you are still learning wht you want out of life and a lot of times young relationships dnt last bcus you grow and realize you and tht person want different things and probably have different views on how you want to raise a child I think thts more of the challenge then deciding on feeding my son or paying the light bill...but you can have a child and still be feminine and still achieve as long as you put yourself in better situations and make better decisions moving forward.

[@yxiiiu]

When I was 18, my mom opened up a credit card in my name and didn’t tell me. Long story short, I went to the hospital and she put the bill on my credit card without my knowledge. She gives me the credit card a few months later and tells me not to use it. About a year later, I get curious about it and look up what’s been used on it. I discover my medical bill has been going unpaid for months. My credit score was completely messed up. It sucks because I’m 20 and already have a crappy credit score even though I’ve never used it. Despite raising me, my mom has never really liked me ever since I was a child, and it shows.

[@can4623]

Smh

[@can4623]

I’m 27 and I basically inherited my grandmother 7,000 debt. I will not be paying that off. You can still get your credit score back up but it’s gonna take a while. And my credit score just got in like the 600s.

[@can4623]

Also I hear like it does disappear from your credit report in a couple of years. Because when I was younger I used to go to the hospital a lot and I didn’t have health insurance and I will get bills from the hospital like $1000 but when I look on my credit report I don’t see it

[@yxiiiu]

Can that’s so strange. And im sorry to hear that. I have health insurance which doesnt make sense as to why my bill was that high. Anyway, thanks for responding!! I hope it does eventually disappear.

[@tionnajohnson8430]

Wow I feel bad for you 😔

[@Mariatheemermaid]

Wait so how do you save, start a business, keep your credit up all while completely supporting yourself at 21 😭😭😭

[@molaykollie7771]

Have a budget and saving write down y’all goals what you want save and earn.

[@faniceangatia915]

20s stretch from 20-29 so you have time to figure that out

[@Mariatheemermaid]

Fanice Angatia ❤️❤️❤️

[@adrinikaatkinson]

This the one right here 🥴

[@isabellasophiarose1100]

Babysit like crazy. Thats how i did it.

[@latanyasjourney4389]

Maybe I missed it in the video but don't waste your time trying to change a man!!

[@lashayjoi9226]

10 things to do while courting/dating as a feminine partner?

[@rosediamond9583]

Can you make a video for teens I'm 16 and I am learning so much for my future 😊

[@pamelawanjiru5231]

Wow. This is amazing. Keep taking notes. I wish I had access to this kind of information as a teenager but I am glad I did eventually.

[@rosediamond9583]

@@pamelawanjiru5231 thanks

[@rosediamond9583]

@Doris Okafor thanks

[@abigaildziedzormazameti1222]

Ghanaian here

[@rosediamond9583]

@@abigaildziedzormazameti1222 me too

[@aminah761]

U can have kids young only if ur married . U shouldn’t tell young women to not have children early that’s the black woman downfall we put our career before getting married n having our children in our early 20s . Then we running around looking for a man in our 30s n being desperate to have children when our bodies start to shut down ... men go for younger women this is a fact ladies take advantage of ur youthful years

[@jellybeans9283]

And financially prepared

[@aminah761]

Unicorn Soul of course u shouldn’t be married if ur not financially ready that’s common sense 🙄

[@EsiriE]

!!!!

[@whyaminotoriginal]

@Tika Summers say it loud for the sister blocking they ears in the back !!👐