Girl VS BOY: Should Single Christians stop having sex?

Pastors always tell us to stop having sex. But is that actually possible?
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[@beautytawiah7021]

Hey to you out there who is still waiting to get married to experience it.....we are many out here and it's going to be worth it....Even though it's not easy to wait ,we shall wait on the Lord🙏🥺

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

It's worth the wait... Absolutely!

[@winnieogbaji5062]

I’ve broken my fast sisters😂 It’s worth the wait😅 This was wholesome to watch Maybe another day, we talk about the struggles that came with waiting and the little initial struggles that come with breaking your fast, cos you can’t expect to be a Pro at something you only barely imagined! I got married on Easter Day and all glory to God who’s able to keep us from falling🙏

[@beautytawiah7021]

@@winnieogbaji5062 hello dear I would like you to share with us how it went.....I always imagine my wedding night😃....May God help us ooo because sister has no knowledge 😂😂

[@the_triciaa]

Amen🙏

[@anidora5149]

Just my thought now. Every wait is worth it.

[@prisca_rator]

“Stop spending idle time - let every meeting be purposeful”

[@afiangbe]

It is refreshing to see beleivers talk about sex, and sexual purity. These are important conversations we need to start having. And God bless the guests for encouraging us with their stories.

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

I quiet agree with you. It's a topic we can't afford to shy away from

[@VICTORIAADEJOH-ph1fb]

I love it it makes me feel like am not different or tag holy holy.. yes to sexual purity

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

@@VICTORIAADEJOH-ph1fb if they tag you "holy holy", wear the tag with your full chest

[@VICTORIAADEJOH-ph1fb]

@@onuohaudochukwu6180 thanks dear... If no be God I for don fall but I wear the tag with my full chest

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

@@VICTORIAADEJOH-ph1fb God dey for you. No shaking!

[@tenigma__]

You see the statement he made about "Not seeing women the way he used to". Is such a valid thing in today's lewd society. Sometimes women wonder why some men treat them casually. It's the lens and we also don't help them when we conform to their/our sexual desires. When people heal from sexual sin they also have to heal from the perspective they see the opposite sex. Else, they still keep disrespecting and hurting people.

[@alerorichards7073]

NCCF will never die, Hallelujah!!! NCCF, impacting lives since 1900

[@Biblestudywithjoy]

Yes oh my dear nccf will never die

[@Jeffrey_JFxTrade]

1900? 😮 When was NYSC formed?

[@Minstrel_Eno_Essien]

Yes Ooo! 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[@favouradeyinka1281]

Hallelujah... We are serving a living God 💃💃💃 That song eh

[@kiddies_bedtimestories]

Rural rugged will never die, hallelujah. Jesus corpers will never die, hallelujah!

[@yomide_naturals]

This guy was featured in Pastor Mildred's movie "just us girls" 😊

[@estheradeoye]

@@yomide_naturals Yessss!!! as Tomiwa.

[@Glory_Pokuwaa]

Haba! I've been trying so hard to recall the face😂😂😂

[@sussannamensah-ametume5048]

That was why I watched the video

[@EghenayarioreOmorogbe]

Yeah...he is the one that wants to steal Kayinsola from Munachi

[@gesiereegbegi7610]

The face was literally why I clicked the video. I was trying sooo hard to figure it out.

[@A-P...]

The devil thought he had us (this generation), but glad to see break free testimonies and resolutions to love and live for GOD. Our souls is escaped! Glory!!!!!

[@okafordivinelove5814]

"the gospel is not something you preach, it's something you live". I love it❤

[@feyikemitomilade6025]

It’s not easy, am almost 31 and been single for the longest cos most men don’t buy the idea of celibacy but I keep on going because I know God gat me and will send me his son who is also practicing celibacy

[@eboselume]

Yes Sis! I remember the scripture: Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 Papa can see your work and He’s with you.

[@amarachimichael-eke1785]

This is a great watch. NCCF remains a blessing. It's an environment to grow in spiritual things. Sexual purity remains the goal.

[@Beloved_Boahemaah]

I loveee that she reported both of them to their mentors for accountability. Love the idea of not having idle time, and curating an environment where sin cannot thrive!

[@betinioo]

😊 Listening to this from NCCF Family House in the city I'm serving as well. 😄 I thank God for her life and her testimony.

[@eboselume]

awesome...

[@KlaraSagay]

My baby girl Tosin!!!!!! I bless God for you! I bless God for COVID! I bless God for 2020! I bless God for NCCF! and I'm most grateful to God for God's mercy!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@asueilouakuru7674]

Wow.. this is amazing and this is real, alot of us christians have and are still struggling with masturbation and even premarital sex, but as he said "the more we spend time in and with Christ, the more the sin nature drops off and we become more like him", so never ever give up on ur self, as long as you're in Christ, your sure that you are an overcomer and u will OVERCOME 👏👏

[@nelloigwe9757]

Thank you Gideon and Tosin, thanks for sharing such sensitive parts of your life to encourage others. God bless you. Nccf has done such an amazing job with Christian Corper’s. You can’t live in that house for a year and come out the same. I lived in that house and also planned to leave after one week because the rules were too much, but now I understand that it was for safety 😂 Well done guys 👏

[@eboselume]

I'm so happy to see this comment. God put Tosin in a place of safety. Sometimes God will take us away from certain places and people to reach us.

[@MissBryant96]

Thank you to the speakers for being so vulnerable and sharing their experiences ❤❤❤

[@favourihezie4672]

Thank God for NCCF NCCF will never die... hallelujah...🎵

[@favourihezie4672]

Wow it's beautiful seeing believers talk about this. I'm sorry y'all had to go through what you went through but big thumbs up that you're able to talk about it like this openly. God bless y'all

[@favourndakara]

Her story is just a reminder about the power of environment>>>>. There are places that won’t let some things thrive!

[@eboselume]

Yessss. “Power of environment”

[@innyjosh6964]

I really like and commend this program I love the how real the guest are, they shared their story in truth with details. Now this is Christianity not the one you pretend, condemn and still live in sin. God bless the host and the guests

[@jonathanobiri3356]

I'm so glad i saw this. Big ups to Gideon. I'm super happy for him. The Lord be praised.

[@eboselume]

Hallelujah!!!

[@estherwithessence]

Not me thinking “I know this guy, but I don’t know where I met him” 😂. It’s just us girls…he’s the guy that annoys me (always feeling too cool)

[@Simply_yoma]

Lol😂 he's that guy!

[@church_girl]

😂😂😂😂😂 unnecessary hatred

[@estherwithessence]

@@church_girl he was the one that ruined Kayins relationship na, and he was still acting cool😂😂

[@bvy21]

I knew i recognized him from somewhere! that beard is almost a disguise loll

[@VICTORIAADEJOH-ph1fb]

Sexual purity involves no sexual activity

[@abigailoladipupo5578]

Sex is a beautiful thing in the context of marriage. Anything outside that is shortchanging oneself. Sex is way more intimate than just an intercourse. Well done @Eboselume! ❤❤❤

[@josephinekusi4537]

Thank you both for being open to talk about this. It’s really hard for people to open up on social media and be truthful and be real so that we can learn. Thank you

[@NanyadPodcastar]

I gained a whole lot from this episode,notes were taken,decisions were made,prayers were made too . Thank you so much ❤

[@eboselume]

@@NanyadPodcastar hallelujah!!!

[@adekola_twelve]

Thank God for NCCF! Kai! I will never forget the spiritual experiences I had! The back-to-back exposure to the word, prayer and fellowship really sharpened me for the years ahead! Any "gbogboti" family here?

[@eboselume]

haha. I love seeing all these NCCF testimonies. I wasn't part of the fellowship during my NYSC time but its nice to hear that it was a blessing to many

[@kaylamaecoke]

Looooooooooooord! Interesting take on this subject. Thank you for your willingness to always have the uncomfortable or even unconventional conversations. I really liked how they broke that down. Needed something like this as a teenager.

[@eboselume]

You are very welcome Kayla. I'm glad that it blessed you.

[@afolabiafolayan7370]

Thank you to the guests for your vulnerability in sharing your stories. It’s so encouraging seeing young people talk about the struggles in the past and how they overcame this. This will be so helpful for young people and the coming generation. This encourages people that they are not going through what they are going through alone.

[@tallntechy3024]

I loved watching this. I have liked, subscribed, and will definitely share 🎉

[@Thesalomeomubo]

I appreciate this people for opening up about thier past

[@Ella-mu6rn]

I thoroughly enjoyed this and to think I was like ‘huh?’ in the beginning 😂 when he mentioned not being celibate. You had me there loool

[@eboselume]

@@Ella-mu6rn 😘😘😘😜😜

[@Beloved_Boahemaah]

Powerful testimonies! I’ve had the honor of meeting Gideon in a community of women and now I understand why his hands were behind him the ENTIRE time! Glory to God for keeping and preserving you both!❤

[@ruthjanet3222]

Wow This is beautiful I'm super glad to hear young minds talk about this because sometimes I wonder if I'm in the wrong space or something is wrong with me. I just discovered I'm only in the wrong place, Christianity for me is an attitude, a way of life. It doesn't matter what others say, I will keep living right.

[@eboselume]

Yes Girl❤️❤️…There’s nothing wrong with you! You’re for Christ and you should be proud of it. You are light in the place you are in and your light will change the atmosphere because darkness doesn’t overcome this light of God💗

[@joyaliu9884]

Really love the sincerity and honesty in this video thanks alot for been so open minded...not everyday we find videos like this

[@eboselume]

Thank you for watching. It took a lot of courage for them but i'm glad that they did.

[@beautytawiah7021]

​@@eboselume Hello sis please what is the matured age for a lady to get married

[@opaleyeruth4257]

NCCF doing the most It has always been a turning point and may it ever be😊 The love of God, personal instructions and opening up to mentors Thanks guys for being vulnerable 😊

[@yomide_naturals]

Yesso, God gave us those rules to protect us

[@nathanielenoch-ahiamadu2922]

I loved the intro, very captivating. Lovely and inspiring content, very very useful information and great help.

[@keziahndunda6344]

Thank you for this topic I love authentic conversations I have been on a journey of sexual purity but off late I have been wanting to have sex .we need more of this conversations

[@SmoothsayerStudios]

This was such a great watch! it was really interesting and I love how real the guests were. so many useful notes. Thank you!!

[@lwanelemathebula461]

Thank you for your transparency. This is everything...we need to have more conversations about this. God bless you

[@estheradeoye]

These are issues that actually need to be discussed. Thanks so much for this video ❤❤

[@eboselume]

I'm glad you enjoyed it Esther. Thank you for watching

[@oluwatomithomas180]

May God bless the two individuals who gave their testimonies. Their testimonies were extremely powerful, and I was deeply moved, almost to the point of tears.

[@eboselume]

@@oluwatomithomas180 wow… all glory to God ❤️

[@xxmamaxxable]

So SO good!! Really loved this! Well done to you all! Also love the set and editing style!

[@Julez_baby]

I love how real this topic is

[@eboselume]

Thank you

[@yomide_naturals]

Never been celibate... Let me watch first

[@ikeblessing7157]

I started watching this and fell inlove with it cus this really need to be talked about, most christians feels akward to talk about sex also most churches don't even know how to engage on this topic. So i am reaally greatful to come across this.

[@eboselume]

We thank God✝️❤️

[@247BRIDGE]

In Port-Harcourt, ladies ask you out and so boldly. So weird place. I can't forget 2020. And by the way, NCCF does corp members great good with discipline, which some conflate with legalism. But there's something quite off about the title of the video.

[@Minstrel_Eno_Essien]

NCCF to the rescue! 🔥🔥🔥

[@Agnes.shines]

Gideon really came here to preach,bless his heart and Tosin God bless you too❤

[@richards_greatman]

Eboselume, you are really young looking. I froze when i heard '...my husband'. Thank you for putting this together, i love it. I appreciate the lady and guy for walking us through their tunnel. We all have our dark parts but when we find the light they make us wiser not scary. Thank you once again. Could you please drop their social handles ?

[@eboselume]

haha yes i am married😄

[@eboselume]

What the devil meant for evil, God turns for Good.... also, their social handles are highlighted in the video.

[@gifte1319]

Thanks so much Sis God bless you. I was really blessed by the relatable piece❤❤

[@eboselume]

I'm glad to hear this. God bless you dear❤

[@akunnaanikpe5891]

I was into a relationship, we never had sex as in penetration, but we had foreplay and I was not happy but, i want to live a sexually pure life😊. Nice one guys, i love the fact that you are so real with this. I pray i have the courage to share my story one day

[@user-Justie]

Foul play but no sex?🤔😂

[@Sportlovers18]

Yes absolutely possible was in a relationship also no sex but we had foreplay and it wasn't a good experience after we did it

[@Vie870]

Can you still be with the same person, even though you guys fore played. Can you still say you had no sex? I mean you guys actually had no sex

[@Vie870]

​@@user-Justie That is very possible and it's nothing to laugh about. I think we should be more respectful to people's vulnerability

[@Sportlovers18]

@@Vie870 might sound weird but bro we didn't make out there was no penetration

[@adunniade7934]

Wow...... Thumbs up to Gideon et Tosin❤️

[@jecholiahtimta1596]

Ebose❤ I love the contents you're putting out here! God bless your creativity.

[@eboselume]

@@jecholiahtimta1596 praise God oh!!! He’s the giver of all creativity ❤️

[@Simply_yoma]

This is wholesome! Thank y'all so much ❤

[@babatundeoluwatobi8655]

Good job, brethren.👍 May the Good Lord forever keep and guide you through life until eternity. Amen.🙏

[@uwandufavour1695]

This was really helpful 😊

[@OlayiwolaEniola-rp4sy]

This blessed me a whole lot. God bless you for this session.

[@ShalomChidimmaUkwenga-ky2fj]

I subscribed because I love how real the interviewees were❤

[@eboselume]

Thank you 💗💗✝️

[@josico02]

new subscriber here! i loved it❤

[@Victoriaakunyili]

Second time I'm hearing this emptiness thing and it's definitely relatable 7:35

[@TitilopeOtemuyiwa]

I was having some wrong thoughts today and i am glad i saw this video, it was for a purpose 😊

[@eboselume]

Praise God! Stay strong dear

[@TitilopeOtemuyiwa]

@@eboselume yes I will Thanks sis

[@moh_your]

This was worth it ❤

[@GetSlappedPlease]

A great take on this my community of people

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

I love this, Ebose. Please keep it coming. God bless you, sis!

[@eboselume]

Amen. May we continue to create for God!

[@onuohaudochukwu6180]

@@eboselume Amen!

[@eboselumenimhanyehor5092]

This is wholesome.

[@estheruzoma2140]

This man is from just us girls❤

[@Biblestudywithjoy]

Nccf will never die

[@ntenewe3321]

God bless Nccf!!

[@julianahthona8756]

This is good content. ❤

[@OkedejiJumoke-iu8my]

Well done girl This interesting

[@clarksontejiri4630]

The rules are to protect us !

[@adoizaoni1535]

Good one!God bless you❤❤

[@goodnewsjohnson9972]

Are you sure this guy isn't Pastor K's relative? Cos I see the resemblance in his face, gesticulations, smiles and how he talks.

[@rarashideout1416]

Was looking for this comment

[@kiddies_bedtimestories]

They sound alike.

[@Michaelfiyinfoluwa]

Thank you so much for this. I learnt so much.

[@eboselume]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Chidera-jx4ip]

Thank you for this video, It was so helpful ❤❤

[@JenniferOmemma]

It’s not easy to wait on the lord but please hold on and ask the holt spirit to fill you and control your thoughts because in this kingdom it’s PURITY OR PURITY.

[@eboselume]

Yasss

[@olamideogunlade5064]

Amazing Amazing testimony

[@otsimajeeboh6923]

So Insightful!

[@eboselume]

Praise God

[@faithBlondon]

. It's very difficult if your dating someone whos not on abstinence journey, or doesn't care for it but as hard as it is, its beneficial spiritualy and emotionally, until marriage.

[@Tosinaiyedogbon]

@@faithBlondon Hi faith, truth is you need to know if the person you're dating is ready to go on that Journey with you. People talk about red flags, it is a red flag if he doesn't appreciate your keeping yourself till marriage, it is also a red flag if he's okay with it for you but he's having sex. The Nigerian wedding movie that featured Banky W and his wife; he went on the Journey with her because he loved her, he did not complain at all. In our case the Love of God in a man will make him help you on the journey till you both groups married. May the Holy Spirit guide you on what to do.

[@faithBlondon]

@@Tosinaiyedogbon thanks but as im single as a pringle so luckily not really a big problem for me

[@eboselume]

@@faithBlondon lol. But when the man comes make sure he's ready to pursue purity with you because he loves God.

[@Vie870]

​@@eboselume There's a comment about having foreplay with your partner but no sex. Then deciding to abstain, both parties. On the road to abstinence, can you still boast about the no sex?

[@corneliabayuo6194]

​@@Vie870no ma'am outside marriage foreplay is a sin . I learnt this from a book by Tim Lahaye The act of marriage 🎉

[@malviq]

Thank you❤

[@ogechiemmanuel1444]

May God help and keep us Amen

[@mensahaugustina1747]

Thank you for sharing

[@edumaba]

“In front of your mother’s shop” That be hardddd😂

[@Y_B_C_M01]

Frlll

[@eboselume]

like seriously. The guts the woman had is mind blowing

[@clarksontejiri4630]

Amazing

[@Tumi_onlife]

Blessed wow!!!

[@okoroogechi3588]

Would love a differentiation between celibacy and sexual purity. I saw it being used interchangeably during the conversation and it didn't satisfy per say why I came here. It was a nice watch however getting to understand that youth pursue sexual purity and that it's possible.

[@Tosinaiyedogbon]

Hi Ogechi, we all know that our body is the Temple of God and should be protected from all things that are not of God. The Bible talks about taking care of your body including your dressing, what you eat, drink etc as the Holy Spirit cannot dwell in an unclean space. In celibacy, some do it till the find the next best person, some do it so they can just be clear and some do it as a sacrifice but it becomes Sexual purity when you're entire being (mind, body & soul) is offered as a sacrifice to God. This shows that your thoughts and actions are of God's will and when God looks within he will not be able to find anything unclean. Jesus said it's not the act that makes it Fornication or Adultery alone but also the thought. I hope this gives a better understanding ❤.

[@afolayandammy9161]

Sexual purity is a deeper version of celibacy. See it as the way Jesus Christ described Adultery. In the old testament, when the law of adultery and fornication was given, if you don’t have physical sex with someone, even though you lust after them with your eyes and mind, you are believed not to have committed any sin of adultery or fornication. We can say you are celibate even though in your mind you have slept with like 20people. But when Jesus came, He came to teach sexual purity. He taught us that even if you dont physically have sex with somone, but in your mind, you lust after them or had sex with them in your mind, you have already committed adultery/fornication. So see it this way, Celibacy = Physical abstaining but your mind and spirit is still drooling after the opposite sex. Sexual purity = Your Physical body, plus Spirit and soul is staying totally away from any sexual actions or sexual thoughts outside marriage. So you may be practicing celibacy but not entirely Sexually pure. But sexual purity captures all your spirit soul and body and makes you fear God in thesense that you stay away physically but your heart is also away from it

[@okoroogechi3588]

Thank you for this explanation. Both were very insightful and I fully understand now. Thank you

[@ngwabenjamin2310]

My question is when did they start and which bible did they read

[@ilolojeedith3599]

I agree to this sexual purity and celibacy thing i have been practicing it for a very long time now but one thing ive come to understand is that overcoming sexual urge is not easy we should come to reality because as for we the ladies truth should be told when menstruation and ovulation period sets in our body always respond to the sexual urge that comes from it so how can we overcome this when we are practicing sexual purity and celibacy?because no body ever talks about this side when it comes to sexual purity stuff ,please lets leave spirituality out of this and face reality

[@DailyInspiration77109]

This is not a question at all. Its like arguing against the bible. And that disqualifies to be " single Christian " it is either a christian. ie. Follow of Christ and his word or you are not

[@Victoriaa-sm9ev]

Did you watch the video?

[@favourndakara]

Accountability 📌

[@PE.COOOKS]

🔥🔥🔥

[@ngozinwafor2022]

29 elderly 😂😊

[@eboselume]

lol he was 15 at the time 😄

[@alysseking1]

😂

[@funmilayotaofikat9002]

❤❤❤

[@Milyme83]

Ouf soul ties... o

[@preztjuswoman]

Swapping spirits is sweet and juicy? Sins of the flesh

[@eboselume]

@@preztjuswoman having sex with your husband or wife isn’t a sin of the flesh. Sex is a lovely thing but it is for marriage. That is what we were saying. When you have it before marriage, it is still nice but doing it then is wrong and a sin. We choose to wait till marriage

[@preztjuswoman]

@@eboselume I was responding to your comment that sex is sweet and juicy. When you made the statement there was no mention of marriage. Anyone having sex outside of marriage is only swapping spirits. My apologies as I too was not specific 🙏🏿

[@eboselume]

@@preztjuswoman ohhhh I get you now. Thanks for explaining❤️.. and when I said it, I had not mentioned yet that I was married so I get you 😂

[@preztjuswoman]

@@eboselume No problem, thank you for the positive interaction! Much love and respect 🙏🏿❣️

[@faithdogara9843]

I don’t understand you people saying you’re not celibate you’re sexually pure. Part of sexual purity is being celibate. 😂😂😂 Saying it like it’s two polar opposites just sounds silly. No offense. Yes, celibacy needs to be beyond abstaining from sex and should cut into your thoughts as well. However, if not that you were simply baiting us, I don’t see why you felt the need to say you’ve never been celibate, then you go on to explain celibacy 😂😂😂

[@omojesu7]

✝️🎉🎉🎉

[@victoriahoneygrace2329]

My friend @moscakery sent me this link and i cannot but be grateful. I have been blessed by this message. It's super wholesome ❤

[@eboselume]

Hallelujah. Thank you Victoria for watching