Glow-up Weekend in Nairobi / boyfriend time & mother wound 💅🏻🌷

[@Lantronic]

Amazing vlog. Loved the bar and the market.

[@ainoluo]

Thanks a lot! ☺️ I enjoyed making it!

[@joshuadanceteacher]

I see you going far with your blog, coz I love it🔥

[@ainoluo]

So kind, thank you! 🙏🏻

[@mwendapoleee]

Wow that mother wound thing is so on point , I catch myself doing things my mother did which I felt were not correct but as you said it is still a taboo to voice it.But my kids are different they are in a different culture and free to say what they think.

[@ainoluo]

It’s a heavy topic, right! Sounds like you’ve healed some generational wounds if your children are able to feel more free :)

[@geofreykato3976]

I like your video

[@Dunkay_]

yksi parhaista youtube-videoistasi 🖖

[@ainoluo]

Voi kiitos paljon! ☺️🌷

[@Dunkay_]

@@ainoluo jatka hyvää työtä rakas

[@ooluta7578]

Sorry. Was it a cold like/viral infection? Nairobi seems to be going through a flu/cold season....

[@ainoluo]

I know right, I wasn’t the only one! Might be our friend from 2020 as well cause I was suffering 💀

[@nanlog4303]

All these routines are special, the efforts in self improvement commendable... But they all pale in comparison when those little sprogs turn up.... & you realise that they are the ones that really complete you as a person... At least for me and many others I know.

[@ainoluo]

Well that ain’t the season I’m living yet is it? :) Doing all I can to build a solid foundation to hold a space for the new arrivals one day.

[@isabellezionchipochaishe7103]

Thank you for talking about the mother wound. As a mother, however, I would like to know where you draw the line between guiding your child as a mother and causing harm. For example, say I have a funky body or mouth odor I may not know about, I think I would rather I hear it from my mother in a safe home environment and fix it than have the whole school talk about me and my funk body or mouth odor. So I am so confused because for example when I want to teach my daughter something like look presentable when going out, look the part, do your hair, etc because I love my daughter the way she is no doubt about that but the world doesn't know her and judge her for how she presents herself to them at that interview, how she looks, how she is dressed, how she communicates, the whole first impressions thing. And so who do you want to hear that from? Your mother or your potential employers? I genuinely want to know that is why I am asking this question. I would like to start or have a conversation with someone about this. Where does the role of a mother cross over to causing a mother wound?

[@ainoluo]

Glad the topic resonated! :) I can only speak from a daughter’s point of view, but I absolutely think it is your job to tell these things to your kid! I think it’s the way to go about it that matters - gently guiding, giving her time to learn, letting her shine, also accepting yourself and not nitpicking either her or yourself in front of the mirror (many of my friends associate their insecurities with mothers who were always commenting on their own weight for example), stepping back when it seems too much, offering options… I remember one great thing my own mom did when puberty hit and it was not seen as appropriate to go braless where I lived. She took me to a store to get a really nice set rather than shaming me for how I looked without. Offering solutions kinda thing :)

[@Eliteboy254]

Is hiding the face of the boyfriend in the whole darn video a product of this mother wound thing? I am hearing about it for the first time.

[@ainoluo]

Woah what makes you so annoyed that you can’t see someone’s face? 😂 If you’ve been here before you’d know that it’s an executive decision of mine to keep that part out of my KZbin.

[@Eliteboy254]

@@ainoluo I was wondering whether that executive decision of yours had something to do with mother wound(?). Because people normally don't hide the face of a person they would describe as supportive.

[@ainoluo]

@@Eliteboy254 Most KZbinrs I personally follow don’t show their partner to keep an important part of their life private. It amazes me that that could bother anyone.

[@ramsyrama]

@@ainoluo Ignore him,,,he wants to see his face so that he can google him and try to trace which tribe he comes from,...he is Kenyan like me ,,,I know why he is being nosy

[@lillianebwire4897]

​@@ramsyrama😂