Going Gray: My First Haircut in Almost 3 Years

[@MyLifeInTheDesert]

Ok so it took me about 2 years to grow out my gray hair. Was battling negative remarks left and right. One woman at work gasped when she saw me. Someone else said “you were so attractive before”. Unfortunately one day I went home and colored it and was immediately sick to my stomach and depressed. I am starting all over again at 46. Bought some wigs and toppers to help hide the growth. IDGAF what people say this time around

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you for sharing your experience here💜 Hearing negative comments can break you down so much and I'm really sorry you had to endure such mean treatment. Good luck for your grow out! Please join our Facebook group, The Gray Book, too! We share our stories on the group and I think you may find some inspiration and support for when you need it most!

[@charlottesmom]

How is it going? Growing out confidently I hope, I'm in the same boat as you. 👍🏻😊

[@lbar9720]

I'll bet that the "gasping" woman is less than perfect. It always amazes me by the lack of couth imperfect people have! They somehow think that their opinions mean something positive. Remember one finger pointing out, leaves three pointing back, maybe mention that to her the next time she shares her invaluable opinion! Good for you to find your value.

[@kimivlach7052]

@G-do8ro........ that sounds so sad and depressing doesn't it....... So many women never seeing their natural beauty.......

[@TrinaGallo]

Omg! People actually said that stuff? To your face? That’s CRAZY! I was totally white to my ears at a family barbecue last month. People looked at me a little weird, but only my drunk cousin made a stupid joke. I laughed. But maybe in NYC we’re more laid back? I’d break out in tears if a friend or stranger gave my hair a negative comment! I can understand why it would affect you. But it made you stronger!

[@seaofsolace]

You look absolutely gorgeous! There is something so rebellious and edgy about women with long grey hair. It is like a huge F you to beauty standards. I am going grey too. I hope my hair turns out as gorgeous as yours.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@NikkiFrost14]

@@Jess_2025 and it doesn’t look good at that age either, dying it Proverbs 16:31 🌸

[@rac7773]

Beautiful hair before and after the cut. I wish more women with silver hair would keep theirs long. It is the most amazing accessory a woman can wear.

[@thenew_knew]

I totally agree!

[@lr1732]

Same thing with length. I am 54. Still have long hair. I will never cut it short. I am going gray; it is coming in like highlights so it look good so far; but am not into cutting my hair simply because I am getting older. I love to see older women with long hair.

[@cesarbenji3062]

Long grey hair is so beautiful !!! Let's grow longer !!!

[@thenew_knew]

Agreed! I love the length! There are some amazing gray hair extensions you can get to make it look even cooler!

[@renren7233]

Wow, I also want long grey hair. I have now a grey, sort of long pixiecut. Can't wait to have long hair again. I still have to adjust to grey hair, I am 49 years old, but now my hair is healthy and thick again. And that is also worth something. I love the grey, but I cant stand the people who are saying: you looked so much younger with brown hair :( Well I know, but that is not the reality anymore..... Grey it is. And this is also beautiful :)

[@thenew_knew]

I love love love THACK hair...it looks so good with braids, buns, top knots, everything! Jelly! And grey it is! 👊

[@heatherlukhard9505]

I finally realized gray hair wants to be left alone. I can go weeks w/out washing it. It's an adjustment of course. But once you quit the frequency & use grape seed oil & Shea butter...it's the softest BEST hair I've ever had. I used to just use baby shampoo but now I do use a purple shampoo as well.

[@thenew_knew]

It is so great when you figure out what works best for you!

[@hh4553]

You're gorgeous!! I'm 38, started going gray after high school - used to pluck the silver strands out. I'm incredibly excited to let my silver grow in. Hoping my grey looks as awesome as yours. Cheers!!

[@thenew_knew]

I'm excited for you!

[@treelore5100]

You are so lucky she was honest. I had my virgin greying hair highlighted, I asked to be taken down only 2 levels instead she stripped it down to white and then toned it. My hair is like straw!! the problem is that white and grey hair is more delicate. She also did not listen to me. I am now growing the highlights out, one year out so far. Will take a good three years as my hair length is the same as yours. She did you a favor. Mine did me a disservice. You could do lowlights, meaning darker under would give a nice contrast and minimal damage.

[@m.hosterman8375]

This looks excellent. My greys are really coming in and I always debate dying them. But I think I'm gonna go for this hairstyle. Your skin and brows look great too!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! I hope you decide to let your grays shine!

[@denisearonow4921]

For me one of the best things about going gray is the freedom from applying color, but everyone is different. Luckily my hair turned out to be pretty (if I do say so myself).'Love your long layers here in California, lol. I use my wardrobe to introduce "edge".

[@thenew_knew]

I totally agree! Wardrobe is a great way too! There is nothing like a gray hair X a black leather motto amirite?!

[@denisearonow4921]

@@thenew_knew, exactly!

[@pallascat8542]

I started going gray at 22, and the way it grew... like gray horns... so I colored it. After a lot of years it finally looked better. That's when I let it do its'own thing. Long or short did both and some inbetween. Had let it grow to see how long it would grow and it was down past my butt. Unfortunately, because of a health problem I had to cut it short. But I'm growing it out again and plan to continue to do so. It's now about 4" from my waist. There used to be a thing about older women not having long hair but I'm so glad to see more women my age just ignoring that. I'm in my 70's. I've been really enjoying seeing more young women letting their hair go gray if they want to. I also chuckle at the young women bleaching their hair to go gray. I just found your site and I think your hair looks beautiful!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! You keep doing you!

[@ren8240]

Let's call your haircut "The California silver fox" 🐺 I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE long grey hair so much & the elegant, witchy, boho, vibe it gives. I'm just past the 2 year mark in my grow out & need a good haircut! ☺️💜

[@nikkiturnup1688]

I luv the gray silver hair

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! Me too!

[@tammylawson3376]

I'm 5'2" and have not dyed my dark blonde hair for four full months. I've been coloring my gray roots and hairline for ten years. I'm at peace with having gray hair now. I want to grow mine out... I'm Leary of it getting heavy and overwhelming on my figure. I am a 38-40 C/D. You inspire me more to do this. Thanks!!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you for watching and good luck with your grow out! You've passed the four-month mark which can be the hardest part :) you've got this. xo

[@angie5life-is-good]

Good choice. It looks great

[@micheles501]

Hello from Pennsylvania! Love it! You were one of the first KZbin channels I found when I started growing out my gray! So nice to see you on here again. Always enjoy your videos! Thanks for the update. So cool to see your length!

[@denisekerr5452]

Happy New Year from PA also. I watched your transition and have also enjoy your update. You're new style is beautiful on you. Thank you for sharing your journey.

[@thenew_knew]

Aww thank you for watching! I'm really glad my videos could be helpful in some way! Keep growing strong :)

[@conniemurphyover70stillgla47]

! glad to see you didnt cut it short :)

[@thenew_knew]

Me too!😜

[@IWantToMature85]

I enjoy your channels, Lisa and Connie, but what is wrong with short hair lol?

[@HappyHealthyWealthy7]

Oh My!!! You are so wonderfully gorgeous! So happy to watch! 🫶❤️🫶

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@mgnaturals7110]

Your hair looks super healthy! you look soo good 💕

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you so much! It feels really healthy too after my long-overdue haircut!

[@kimweidner7351]

You look absolutely amazing! My hair too has grown quite a bit and it is down my back. I have type 3a/b curly hair so it’s kind of hard to see the gray, but it’s there! I am loving your middle part too, my hair looks like yours when I blow dry it straight, I don’t think I can wear a middle part when it’s curly, though - you’ve inspired me, thank you. Thanks for sharing too, you are so beautiful. ❤️

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you for watching Kim, and thank you for your kind words. Keep loving your natural hair color and keep growing strong!

[@sabrinamerrick1271]

Color is multi dimensional ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@JPSkyeBlue]

❤️ I haven’t dyed or cut my hair since Feb 2020 - and so I’ve got sort of a grey/silver into previously dyed dark hair look going on. And my hair is LONG. Loved your video - identified with so much. Laughed so hard at your armpit comment - bc I say that all the time! Like, little discussed issue with long hair - getting it stuck in your armpit! I also feel what you said about wanting to still be able to have fun with your hair while still loving and embracing your natural grey. Would love an update on how the extensions were - I’d never thought about that as an option. I’m currently debating about when I finally cut off all the previously dyed hair and am just grey - doing like a peek a boo dye of dark underneath? Hmm. TBD. Also would love to hear if you got a big barrel curling iron and if you liked it! Love how your cut turned out - you’re gorgeous!

[@thenew_knew]

Wow, it's been over two years - you've come so far! Congrats! I'm really glad you liked the video. I'm actually planning to give an update on my extensions on the blog soon. The peek-a-boo sounds really fun. I say go for it!

[@silvercurlszelda]

Your hair and the haircut and you are beautiful! They did a great job!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!!

[@BBGG-5]

Gorgeous I cannot wait till mine is that long!💞

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! I didn't want to cut it for so long!!

[@BBGG-5]

💞

[@heatherlukhard9505]

Im NOT a L'anve rep. Lol. But I use the L'ange Le Volume blowout dryer (a big hair dryer brush). If anyone gets it, I'd get the one w/2 interchangeable brushes, smaller & larger. . It dries hair really fast & makes my hair SO soft & frizz free. I also use the L'Ange Le Duo. It's a straightening iron that can curl also & has cool air vents on outside to set curl. My curls last for days. I also use a few of their styling products. Disliked a few also. I wish I'd found them at start of going grey. Curling/beachy waves feel like less of a demarcation line & mix around colors. I grew out fully 5 yrs ago then colored & TOTALLY regretted it. Now I'm 3/4 grown back out.

[@katsohal]

Very pretty and young looking

[@kimivlach7052]

My grey hair looks a lot like yours. Except mine is a short pixi now ( due to losing it due to chemo). I've always have had long hair, so kind of hard having such short hair. But much better than no hair... Lo L!!! You long grey hair is gorgeous! Can't wait for my hair to grow out some!! Cheers!

[@thenew_knew]

I imagine that is huge adjustment. I love your attitude and positivity in spite of difficulty. Good for you!

[@evasingh7231]

My gosh you look so beautiful and cool with that grey!! Absolutely not old or boring of whatever. I am just at the beginning of this journey, at the difficult point of 5 month🙈...it doesn't look cool of edgy at all, ha ha. Just mousy. I really hope that it will turn out more beautiful than now.

[@thenew_knew]

Hang in there, Eva! It gets better. Also you may find that you want to switch up your makeup + clothing colors to go with your gray. Check out the blog for more inspo - www.thenewknew.com.

[@donnaalexander753]

I grew up using a curling iron and agree it gives a too tight of waves. When I found the Revlon blow brush, it gives me body and waves without being too tight. I use a regular hair dryer to get the majority of moisture out of my hair. Then go in with the blow brush to style at the end. Highly recommend.

[@thenew_knew]

Yes! This seem similar to the Dyson Air Wrap - would you agree Donna? Thanks for the tip! xoxo

[@pamfrank3962]

Your hair is stunning 😍

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you so much 😀

[@lorrainevallee6145]

Wow love the color Merry Christmas 🎄⛄

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you Lorraine!

[@Purplenpinkk]

I love your hair. So beautiful. This is my goal. I used to have hair long and straight like yours when I used to dye it. I've been growing out my gray and want it to be long again...but gray. Love your accent...reminds me of Boston.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@mihaeladog7187]

You lucky to have that hair bc most of us by the time hair turns gray it also turns thin and falls. It’s the hormones and genes .

[@kimgraves2419]

Your hair is gorgeous and so are you.

[@ASMRaphael]

Whoa, you look so amazing and classy! :) I love it :)

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you so much!! I love that you just used the word "classy" it's one of my faves - lol.

[@jwb3136]

The extensions will be so fun. I’ve been doing my own tape ins for the past year while I’ve been growing out my grays and cutting off the dye. It will look great

[@thenew_knew]

Sounds awesome! Why not have fun with your hair right?

[@conniepleasantnails]

Was that the same stylist that gave you your cut where you took the last bit of color out of your hair (April 2019). I never use flat irons or curling irons on my hair to create curl. I only use Velcro rollers. I never want to accidentally use too much hear and create any yellowing I would be bummed and then want to cut out the yellow and I’ve been working hard on growing my hair out. Your cut looks nice. I also watch Nikol Johnson videos and she has helped me with this grey hair journey so much. Your cut looks great. 💕

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you so much, Connie! Like you, I do try to avoid heat as much as possible.

[@TrinaGallo]

I loved watching this! Perspective is everything. I got a glaze because the white was SO white that I looked washed out (I’m fair skinned). But now I miss it! But length? My hair grows sooo slowly now, I get 1/2 trims every 6-9 months just to keep it waist length! And I go in, stand, she snips, & I’m outta there ASAP! I think it looks the same- still beautiful! Oh no I think extensions are a bad idea!

[@thenew_knew]

Perspective really is everything!

[@marthapichler3216]

I like your style, greatings from Austria, stay well

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@michelles2299]

I ordered the shampoo

[@pagey5483]

Wow you look gorgeous and rock the grey hair. Think a shorter shaggy bob would look really hot on you. My stylist has suggested a gloss on my hair and I’m having it done next appointment. You should think about that too.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! I've tried it short before and I just love the long look right now - maybe I'll go for a shorter bob next :)

[@slightworker5554]

I thought you had colored it! I really like your hair, the color and the length

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! Au Natural!

[@freeindeed77]

Love your hair!

[@thenew_knew]

Thanks!

[@DaphneSantiago]

Looks fantastic! I love my Dyson Air Wrap - highly recommend it for ease and loose curls.

[@thenew_knew]

Thanks Daphne!

[@julieturner1541]

You look gorgeous with long hair.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you Julie! xx

[@julieturner1541]

@@thenew_knew you are most welcome

[@YasmineSay719]

Did your hairdresser mention clip-on extensions? That would be a healthier cheaper option. You could clip them on whenever you want and it’s damage-proof. Your hair looks beautiful ❤️

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@kellyharbaugh9391]

It looks great!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you!

[@deniseeustace9603]

I absolutely love the cut too. You look fabulous, don’t have extensions they sound like a pain in the ass and why bother with all that faff when you look so damned good now. Look forward to styling product review video.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! I may take them out after one run..I just really want to mix it up - I can always go back! 🤍

[@thenew_knew]

Too kind!

[@m.hosterman8375]

@@thenew_knew I can't wait to see em! Sounds like a fun way to make hair look thicker too, if needed (you don't obviously!)

[@BrendaKay2024]

Your hair is beautiful,,as is...love it...

[@thenew_knew]

thank you!

[@crazyhair5019]

Let's grow your beautiful grey hair longer !!!

[@thenew_knew]

yes!

[@Moon-lt5bi]

Miss you!

[@EmpoweredBeautifulAgeing]

Love it so much, congratulation, a goal for me 😘

[@thenew_knew]

You can do it!

[@mariemcgrath8681]

Love it. So beautiful ...

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! 😊

[@Pstrawberry-t7s]

I love this length on you. The longer hair looked good too. I don’t think you even need hair extensions, your hair is beautiful as is. You may want to try Velcro rollers. If used the right way you can easily get the bouncy waves at the bottom and the look like you just walked out of a salon. You have some great ideology about gray hair. I had brown hair your length now and 6 inches of gray growth and then decided to blend my whole head of hair. I was very nervous so my colorist is doing it in stages over several months. First she stripped the brown to a bleachy blond. I went back 3 weeks later and she toned down the blond to a more natural blond. Then in 5 weeks she is going to start blending more with hi-liting. Luckily, my fine hair did not break off. I have been using really great products to condition my hair. I was disappointed though, she cut about 5 inches off and now my hair is just hitting my shoulders. Can’t wait for it to grow long again. I’m very surprised your colorist doesn’t want to add color to your ends to blend. Your hair looks like it could handle it. But, either way, you hair looks great.

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! Sounds like you and your stylist have a created a good plan that is working for you. I'm so glad you found a supportive stylist! That is hugely helpful. Keep growing!

[@lilierose7948]

Stunning hair!! You are a beautiful woman :) The only thing… I think the colour of your top doesn’t do justice to your hair, the gray seems to fight with it… but this is just my humble opinion.

[@thenew_knew]

Oh thank you! The top is definitely whiter than the ends FOR SURE!

[@ZZgem]

I’m curious what the “wolf” cut is - is it that mullet trend? I can so relate to the hair in armpit discomfort! That’s when I cut a few inches off myself. I have lots of layers to give me bounce and body for my waves/curls. I wonder if rollers r a good way to get large loose curls without too much heat?

[@thenew_knew]

Yes it is! I was asking my hairdresser how I could recreate this look and she recommended those huge velcro rollers or a 2" curling iron. And the wolf is like a shaggy Farrah Fawcett from what I've seen. Your hair sounds beautiful! xo

[@LittleIowa]

The texture of my hair has changed due to going gray it's more of a course hair or at least the gray hair is and I'm curious on what shampoo would be best.

[@thenew_knew]

I experienced the same thing! I also noticed I was getting a ton of new growth during the early stages of my grow out and all the baby hairs were sticking straight up making it look frizzy!! I really like the Innersense Organic Hydrating Cream Hairbath and conditioner - both really moisturizing.

[@LittleIowa]

@@thenew_knew Thank you

[@elisnova8826]

moc prosím o automatický překlad česky .Please

[@michelleaw1325]

Make no mistake, you and others like you( myself) are nothing less than a badass.To bare it all publicly is not for sissies😉. In the end when all is said and DONE...we are the champions!

[@thenew_knew]

Ahh, yes!

[@barbarabonk9022]

I need your advice please help me I’m letting my gray come out it’s not much growth yet I have super light blonde hair so it really blends nicely I would like it to come in as quick as possible but I know I have long hair at one that being said should I go to the salon when I have 6 inches of my growth and they can just do it gray

[@thenew_knew]

I'd create a plan with your stylist. It sounds like your hair should grow out really nicely though. You may want to consider a purple shampoo if you hair starts to yellow at all.

[@BrendaKay2024]

Its beautiful,,I wouldn't touch it with bleach...

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you Brenda!

[@4LaSirena]

Absolutely beautiful! Thanks for the info on the metal shampoo! Look into the L'ange Le Curl 32mm big barrel wand. It was just on sale for $19 on a 12 hour sale. Read the reviews, more pros than cons!

[@thenew_knew]

Thanks! I'll take a look ;)

[@sula1529]

I think shorter around your face would be more uplifting?

[@rochelleholmes9271]

You can get your hair cut to your shoulders with some layers and buy hair pieces if you want to put your hair up or back. Just a suggestion.

[@thenew_knew]

Thanks!

[@NikkiFrost14]

Proverbs 16:31 1 Corinthians 11:15 🌸

[@raquelgarcia2861]

Hair shaping, not hair cut...beautiful long layers!

[@thenew_knew]

Thank you! I love it!

[@nothingworksworks3511]

Hair extensions compromise the natural hair. Do you, but IJS. I do cushy silk sleep in rollers 1x/wk. Then I can sleep w a bun, or even nothing some nights & hair is still smooth w volume & ends aren't rumpled

[@saffysaffy3239]

No offense but to.me it looks exactly the same as b4

[@elizabethcurrie4920]

Why have grey when you don’t have to?

[@ris5749]

Why color your hair when you don't have to???

[@elizabethcurrie4920]

@@ris5749 so you don’t look old and washed out.

[@emmylou-y4b]

All of this is about personal choice. I'm almost 2 years in and get so many compliments about my hair. I was going to the salon once a month for a single process color plus, I had to touch it up and use powders in-between appointments. It was exhausting and never felt like pampering. It's not for everyone but I'm very happy.

[@strangehobbyist4953]

​@@elizabethcurrie4920 Some people are so confident and embrace aging that they don't need to present an illusion by hiding under bleach, color, dye, etc.

[@elizabethcurrie4920]

@@strangehobbyist4953 If they’re preening on U-tube it’s doubtful that they don’t care about their appearance. So, just saying, if you want to look your best, gray hair is not flattering.