gone to the village | lempies

[@lisagonyor5125]

Thank you Alex. Your child is your responsibility. If your family wants to help, they can visit you and stay with you and help you for a while. Don’t send your child away. Build bond with your child.

[@Lempies]

In this era traveling and getting visa is hard due to COVID-19

[@marycole7196]

Lempies, you can't win this. Don't agree with you at all. Keep your child, and take care of him/her. That's the path you chose. GOD bless.

[@mufasasdaughter4831]

Don't send away your baby to a far away continent from you. Baby NEEDS to be physically close to both parents. Stop this madness Lempies

[@pascahoaes302]

Aje,give your husband the time with his beloved baby,keep your child and enjoy every step of her growth

[@sheroar]

Yes please..

[@lindulafromthelandoflindaw287]

You are so on point Alex.. I would never consider sending my kids away and I was a single parent..

[@glgartman]

Thank you. You are a true mother. Lempie needs to grow up.

[@SizzlesDiaries]

This discussion is a tough cookie🙈. As a Namibian born outside Namibia by young parents who juggled studies / work and separated from family back home because of war, I grew up with mom and dad so i know how sweet that was. Ale and Lempies you can do it, besides time fly by so fast before you know it Olivia will be a big girl. Much love fam🙏🏿😍

[@SarhaXimeliPaulse]

Baby Olivia looks so good in her traditional dress.

[@rachelnghifewa5908]

I like the fact that Ale is always calm

[@ilenishawapala2946]

Lempie really needs counseling very fast. I have been controlling her for a while since she gave birth she has been acting really strange, and imagine the other day she was talking about having a second baby while in her head she is thinking of sending Olivia away wow wow just wow. Kehole uunona mbela. I go to school, work and still taking care of my baby girl, i dont even want peopke telling me about sending her away to stay with mom oshili aaye. what is she trying to bring up. Jeeez this woman.

[@glgartman]

Thank you for a great comment. Lempie needs to grow up and needs counseling to help her do that. Please, please, please not another child until she learns to think of someond other than herself.

[@charlenelegerton6288]

Limpies, stop being so bossy

[@ckaz1176]

So many harsh comments directed at Lempi here! Sending children to their grandparents is a normal thing to do in a lot of cultures however, Namibia is too far to be dispatching a baby of Olivia's age. This is a critical developmental stage when parents and caregivers need to be consistent in their approach or else you create mental health issues in your child... difficulty forming healthy relationships, mistrust, self-harming, suicidal tendencies etc... I still don't think that Lempi is seriously planning on sending Olivia to Namibia, they have brought up this topic for discussion, more like a critique, and instead of all these harsh comments, people should just learn to put their views across, instead of being so personal. I don't know this family on a personal level, by the way. I enjoy debating topics without being mean and too personal.

[@israsiananyemba3982]

Lempies we miss you on your utube channel. Bring your utube channel back.

[@claudettewhite8913]

Stand your ground Alex. Out of the question to send your child away for the first 6 months of her life when she is building important bonding relationdhips. Your child, your responsibility. Think about single parents who have to do this on their own.

[@alicefindlay6391]

What is wrong with lempies it must be a struggle living with a person like her, you stand your ground arly your daughter is more important than anything in the world.

[@glgartman]

@@alicefindlay6391 Thank you! I don't think Lempie feels any bond with her child. She tries to make it look like it sometimes for the videos -- patting her back nervously and shaking toys in her face, but it's all so stiff. Totally different than when Ale is bonding with her.

[@diananicholas6007]

Don't send her away period

[@judithharper6731]

I have worried about you, as a parent, for a long time. It seems you were not ready to have a child, Lempies. Ali is so much more mature, loving and generous with both you and Olivia. Children need their parents. Grandparents have had and raised their children already. Do you not want your child? How is it so many other women can do this and you seem so bothered by the responsibilities of parenting? Children are a blessing. I am feeling both sad and disappointed that you would be so selfish. Separating Ali from his daughter would be cruel. You have a nanny! Many don’t even have that. Putting a child on hold while you grow up? Really? No thought for Olivia’s needs? Wow! Children who are separated from their parents during their developmental years have problems later in life. OLIVIA NEEDS TO BE WITH YOU. Visits to grandparents are fine but that’s all.

[@loveyhamukwaya4924]

Yooh, Lempy, you are really blessed. Focus on that, stay with your beautiful family. Yes it's a difficult one taking care of the baby and working, make time for your beautiful family. You can do it🙏

[@Lempies]

Thanks Hamukwaya 🤗

[@charlgeorgia6029]

Lempie , Do Not send your child away.

[@tli_TripleLindongo.]

It's good when you raise your children on your own as a mother, father. So when you will grow old you will have family of love with a strong bond . But if your children are raise up by other people .your children will be attached with those people's and think they are thier father, mother. Like me don't have any that love with my parents because I didn't grow up with them. Just succrifice to raise your own children

[@tag475]

Visits only. As someone raised by their grandparents for the first 10 years, as was tradition in my country, it was hard to bond with my mother when I first went to live with her. I had the option to send my daughter to her grandmother on the otherside of the ocean and did not find that appealing because of my experience.

[@paulachin9130]

My mum left us with our grandparents to come to London many years ago and I was really happy with them as they showed us alot of love. My mum sent for 2 of us leaving my brother behind then sent for him many years later. I wished she had left me with my grandparents as I never bonded with my mother and she never showed me any love at all.

[@ndinaimasiku2785]

I totally understand what Lempie is talking about, having seen that practice commonly practiced here in Namibia by my tribe, but I wouldn't send my child to my parents regardless of where they live (town or village), except for holidays. I had my first child at the age of 23, but decided to struggle with her all the way. I wouldn't miss out on any stage of her life. I believe that you both are in a more fortunate situation and will be victorious in the end

[@emanuelaberaldo5272]

Your husband is so freaking patient with you and thank God Olivia has him

[@Lempies]

Marriage 🙌🏽

[@ikemabettina4540]

I think this is just a general topic.. after all, this couple has got the final decision in their minds.. go for what you think is good, fair and will benefit both of you and most importantly, it won't bring chaos into your relationship. From a caring heart...ILY❤🥰

[@glgartman]

Go for what will benefit Olivia -- she's the first priority now! It's hard to imagine this subject even being discussed. I hope Lempie doesn't have another child until she grows up herself.

[@ikemabettina4540]

@@glgartman please heal, children have been raised ever since and nothing happens to them. . This couple said it clearly at the end of the video that Olivia is not going to go anywhere, it was just a general topic that I think you will not get to understand why it's brought up.. .. come on.. How do you think people in their right mind would do such...

[@susanjoseph345]

Don’t even think about it😱 I did it for six months with my six months baby, thirty two years later I still experience guilt. It’s best you live in a one room with one parent working. All children remember is the love and bonding not the big house and toys, they would have as much fun playing with a box. I know it was provoking thoughts. Nuff love

[@EsterMaupa]

Hi guys, interesting topic, I have lived with my own kids for the past past two decades, my mom is in the village, personally it feels unfair to the kid so young to be denied bonding and their parental love and care time when both parents are alive because the jobs are demanding that. Parents should just squeeze time and reschedule themselves to accommodate both their jobs, kids and demanding social activities, not short cuts or easy way out🙈🤷‍♀️.Times have changed even in African culture people just visit relatives in the village and take their kids back with them. In the future it improves parent and child relations. Some parents at home struggled to raise us and of course they will gladly accept the kid or offer to help but they are probably tired with pressure of work over the years and they deserve to rest and be taken care of themselves. May God grant you both wisdom to create strategies you both love and agree to in order to overcome these 21st century challenges. My piece😘😘😘😘love you both.

[@sharonthomas902]

Lempie you have a point but Ali is right .You have grow up with your child stuggle as a family.Those things happen back in the days, things have changed now.Motherhood is a challenge but work with it Lempie its worth to work as a family. Your mom has been a parent already now you both have work through the problems.Lempie its ok .Do not separate from your baby, sometimes this can also be traumatic for some children. It will work out in the end 🙏

[@thandekambhamali6074]

Olivia s smile took me 😅😅😍oooh so precious.

[@damaq2889]

Lempie must be going through postpartum depression. That’s strange that a mom would want to send her new born baby away to another country. Regardless if it’s her grandmother. If it’s for a month, (only because it’s a far away country), then it’s fine but not for months! Sorry I side with Ale!

[@glgartman]

Lempie doesn't worry about building a bond with her child. That's been obvious from the time Olivia was born. Ale, I'm sure you know Olivia would need the consent of both parents for this to happen. Don't let it!!! Olivia is much too young to be torn away from you right now. She could develop a feeling of abandonment that could lead to serious mental issues later in her life. Let Lempie go if she wants, but Olivia needs you -- the parent who bonded with her so wonderfully and naturally.

[@Lempies]

Zelda you are very right 🙌🏽. If she sends the child to the village, I will…

[@ckaz1176]

Come on guys, Lempi's not seriously thinking about sending Olivia to Namibia. This is just a thought provoking discussion they are having. Lempi knows the difficulties that children face when they get seperated from their parents at that young age... they develop attachment problems and they may end up with personality issues like difficulty with relationships when they are old.

[@glgartman]

Issues like borderline personality disorder, which is very difficult to treat and destroys people's lives. One of the main underlying causes is a feeling of being abandoned by someone you formed a bond with early in life.

[@alicefindlay6391]

Should send her Lempies back to Africa and Olivia stay with Ale think they'll be much better off.

[@ilenishawapala2946]

@@alicefindlay6391 🤣🤣🤣i was thinking the same thing. She really gets on my nerves sometime.

[@loveyhamukwaya4924]

@@alicefindlay6391 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sheroar]

@@alicefindlay6391 Sometime i am just shocked how she lempie is reasoning.i think it is just a discussion but ayeee😂😂i real like hiw Ale always reasoning and he is real mature.

[@foreveryoung733]

Lempie, I totally agree with Ale. My husband and I tried that when our son was just over a year old. We missed our son so much I was glad when I went back to England to pick him up (unfortunately my father passed). We lived in Canada. Absolutely not a good idea, especially when you have to send them abroad.😩✌How old is Olivia now? Remember when she was born!! The last time I watched your channel you had a live-in babysitter what happened to her? Unfortunately, because of illness and hospitalization I haven't followed up as much as I would like to.❤❤❤

[@sharandabraithwaite7093]

Hi guys good topic: I have three kids I looked my kids after all and they are 22,19 and 3 it called being a parents looking after your kids is not easy but you have to do it, I'm not saying they can't spent holy days by grandparents but not parttime or full time, that Bond don't be there when that happens.

[@rainymakgati4097]

Interesting topic. In my opinion it is a no, no matter. I grew up with both. my parents (sad story for the orphans, yes grandparents becomes an option). With my children as a single parent early in their lives, I chose to take them with even though things were rough. I believe children need to grow up in their loving parent's vigilant guidance . They can visit grandparents, not live with them...Early years of a child is full of fascinating experiences, young parents need to see every step and grow with their children 🙏💯

[@denisewalker7217]

Ale, I agree with you 100%!! 👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 In your case you are older adults, you waited until you were ready to have children, you both have jobs, so you waited for this wonderful blessing (Olivia) to come, not to send her away! Lempie, I know you said this is your culture and I respect that, but being parents come with many responsibilities and parenting a child almost 24/7 ( there are exceptions ) is one of them! Just look at how far Olivia has grown and how precious and happy she is. I don't see you Lempie sending her away, because I see that special bond you & Ale both have for her. Happy Saturday!👩🏽‍🦱

[@Lempies]

Thanks Denise

[@AlineNeza]

I would never send my baby away even for a week .... She goes to tagesmutter for 5 hours a day but that was also really hard for us in the beginning

[@Riaashy]

Alex is right ✅ on this one, Olivia is still young and Namibia 🇳🇦is miles away. If you guys you were in Namibia you would send Olivia to the village cos any weekend you will go visit her.

[@bettyamukugo8657]

It's a very big No pls don't send baby Olivia to the north In Namibia pls it's not good for both you an Olivia because kids are supposed to make us feel good and happy after a long day at work pls lempie pls just stop being that typical yashe and forget about sending baby Olivia to Namibia pls oh aaee that's not fair just try and see if you can get a workin baby sitter or something

[@LoideShikwanyu]

We miss you my people auntie lempie when are you uploading new video 😢

[@paulineallen7621]

This is definitely team Alex. No way to sending Olivia away. Think about all you would have missed if she were not around.

[@not-even-german4892]

She is too young for that & needs her parents around.

[@debramedina9347]

My kids were always with me. I don’t send them away. They are adults now and they know how much I love them. You don’t have babies to send them away. If mom needs a break, go. Dad wants baby at home. Baby stays home. Period. Today I go to my son’s house to help out with the grandkids. They don’t send the,m away.

[@missl2074]

Lempie I raised two children as a single parent with a demanding job that involved a lot of traveling. Kids need their parents even if it means seeing them just for 3 hours per day, they just look forward to seeing them everyday. It means a lot to them. I personally believe and have seen it too many a times that depriving children the needed parental attention causes mental instability for the kids that lasts throughout their adult life. It's not fair to the kids and I personally think it should be part of a discussion when planning pregnancy so that both parties can have time to digest it and make an informed decision. It's a matter that's too sensitive to the child's well-being. Happy parenting 💥

[@selmandeyanayih]

I understand where Lempie is coming from, it is quite common here in Namibia. I did that with my daughter when she turned 1 because I had to focus on University. However, I would not encourage it if one has a better option.. With my son I said No, we will stick it out. Ale is right, that bond between parents and children for the first year of their lives is one that is crucial for the child. I strongly believe if that is interrupted, you are opening a door for separation anxieties and abandonment issues to develop. Yes, I know it is tough being a parent and we are faced with tough choices all the time but does it mean that just because those choices make sense to the parents it is better for the child, emotionally and psychologically? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@rmbonds]

Can't believe she wants to send her baby away. She should not have had a baby. Her parenting style is different. Geez😬. I would never send my baby away. We both work.

[@connerfox9144]

my friends little sister went to her step-mothers country until she was ready to start school but she is more like a sister to her mum that mother daughter and she doesn't mix a lot, she sees herself separate from and she struggled with language. She grew up too fast too and is a little woman who runs rings around her parents now.

[@robynabadie5861]

Hello I want to tell you I miss you all I pray you come back soon. love your beautiful baby girl.🥰

[@sophiaacorlor6510]

Olivia is here to stay with mum and dad. Kids grow fast and before long they'll be out in College and then making their own lives...there you'll have an empty 🏡 home and be missing them. Enjoy every bit of Olivia's life now - better be planning for her brother or sister. That will let her grow with a sibling together. It'll be best for all of you. Check that out quickly rather than thinking of sending Olivia to the village.

[@Lempies]

In this case they can explore the farm together 😂

[@ravenharris1257]

Don't send your child away to Italy or elsewhere for more than a short visit. Grandparents do not need to be raising your kids when you are financially capable of doing so. Bonding is absolutely important.

[@Lempies]

When you say financially capable, what do you mean🤔. here we’re talking about time and not money 💰

[@carolynricks6854]

This discussion is a difficult one to have, that said, it would never be a option for me. Lempies is using apple and oranges in this discussion that is not defendable given the decision to become a parent. I concur with Ale that you would miss the milestones and the parental bonding for time greater than one month.

[@monicahansle2266]

Most definitely not,,... those early years are bonding time... once you decided to become parents you must dedicate yourself to the child through good times and bad times. Lempies dear I’m with Ale all the way, very wise and always practical...Hang in there al little longer and enjoy her, because time flies these days 💪

[@EmiliaJohannes-n4k]

Tuma okanona konghada tukwiinine Alex natukwathe 8:44 8:48 😂😂😂

[@emilyshangy5409]

I don't think it's a good idea, your husband is acting fine but he is not happy about it, it clearly shows that he wants his baby girl around, you will be more worried about her either, just keep your baby until you are both ready to visit for a holiday.

[@normabrown4138]

Hi guys Ale is a 100% right Oliver needs to be with you both you can't send her away because you are both working. The reason you have a children's is to look after them ,to see them grow and not to miss a thing that they do that's part off parenting. You don't have children because you want them in your life everyday not to give them away because you can't cope. Limpie there is a saying where there is a will there is away you will feel bad in the long run if you do this,I pray that you get this out off your mind you are both good parents ok.Love from London ♥️🇬🇧

[@julesaloebeautyhealthprodu637]

Missing you guys, how is Olivia. am sure she's grown up now.

[@maggyamweenye3968]

Where is our lempies long time?

[@Chach-se4nq]

Where did they go???

[@rebeccanamibia1284]

Where are you guys?

[@selmaamutenya8159]

Can some please share with me the title of the son on the background during the introduction

[@cynthial5901]

I agree with Ali and not send the child to the village, because yes there's a bond between child and mother.

[@glgartman]

I don't think there is a strong bond between Lempie and Olivia. She wouldn't even hold her to feed her as a newborn -- she prefered being milked by a machine and shoving a bottle in Olivia's mouth while her baby was lying flat on a pillow with no mother-baby contact. Luckily, Olivia had and has her father!

[@Lempies]

OMG things things that women say to each other 🤭.

[@paulineallen7621]

Guys, are you having a discussion or is Lempie trying to convince you her thoughts are the only option out.

[@_lenamagano]

I think she's trying to convince😂🙆‍♀️ but this has nothing to do with culture. Children really need to grow up and be with their parents. As for me personally I'm still being hurt by the fact that I grew up far from my parents, So I think Ale is right and they shouldn't send the child away👍

[@paulineallen7621]

@@_lenamagano Without that bonding with parents ones children could become estranged. Children can be nurtured by anyone with the capacity to care for them and love them. That person or persons become the ones who the baby will bond with. Often this happens when parents have no choice or they lose custody for myriad of reasons. But like Ale, when you have the choice, chose your child.

[@magrethelindi1590]

Lempies you are missed, why disappearing without a notice, pls tell us, what happened

[@rmbonds]

Think Olivia is attached to nanny.

[@omaramcfarlanewilliams2368]

I could never be away from my child for more than a week and he is 7 years old.i have only left my son for a week when he was 3 years old. It Wasn't easy.

[@bebois2529]

Lempie where did you get your glasses from please?

[@Lempies]

I think I got them from Amazon.

[@teopolinandeapo6521]

The way allie say but us🤣🤣 we are over 30s it kill me

[@Lempies]

😂

[@mariaingo5562]

Nooo Lempie think about Ale ,s love with Olivia, pls do not dissappoint him.

[@sharonthomas902]

Limpie i kind understand what you are trying to say but babies these days are mature than you know , how will the baby feel, she will love her grandmother butbthey miss their parents as well as well.What ever time you spend with your child its precious, treasure your time now, in no time she will off to college .lol Spend time when the baby is young is precious , time missed even if its 20 minutes each day is ok.Lempie dont overthink so much .

[@elizabethbradshaw5063]

No keep your child home it is nice that you can stay home with your children

[@mufasasdaughter4831]

I think this is just for clicks. No one in their right mind would chose a job over raising your little one. It's a crazy idea.

[@katrinajohannes574]

Don't send the baby away

[@ndeshiangala111]

We missed u guuuys hope you're well😊

[@iitamartha2284]

Good and congratulations

[@yvonnemcgee2599]

Hi lampie Ali it's been awhile since seeing you to hope things are going well

[@omaramcfarlanewilliams2368]

I left my job to stay home with my child. Couldn't see anyone else raising my child.

[@nicolepilgrim3142]

It’s not fair to drop kids at the grandparent to let them raise them fully ( unless the child parent is incapable ie mental/ physical challenge, abusive, parents died etc) otherwise you should parent your own children, nothing wrong with a little weekend visit at the grands or watching baby for a few or letting them chip in for unlimited periods (if they want to) when on vacation or holiday, but in my opinion your grand parents done drain all their energy raising you and are in they honeymoon phase of life, are older and honestly would provably be too much stress on them raising a baby all over again from scratch, they should be resting now and offering advice and wisdom.. they retired from child raising now

[@mathieuswife3292]

🙏🙏🙏

[@mariajason1293]

Where are you my couples? How is Olivia?

[@imNinah]

I miss the lempies😢

[@reginadmahabirfmworldperfu211]

Hi Lempies long time no see, pray all is well 🙏

[@annalinekelamutilifa8790]

Don’t send the child to Namibia please 😁

[@marietaylor5174]

Don't do it guys; it would be a big mistake IMHO.

[@EmiliaJohannes-n4k]

Tuma okanona konghada tukwiinine Alex natukwathe

[@yvonnemcgee2599]

Hi Lampie and Ali it is ever day planned to work things out with your child it does get better in time

[@engelvanholland2096]

Don't send your baby away. Rather have someone to help you out while you're at work.

[@jeanminnifee1937]

You would miss too many milestones.

[@jodyamupala2069]

I think I get Lempie. It’s just that Namibia is too far. And you guys are both earning a salary, you guys are not struggling at all. For now just keep her. Atleast till she’s 4, then you can send her for a year. For now bond with her, and teach her oshiwambo please.😊 Other than that, it’s ok to think that way. It’s just too early. I however would suggest that it’s much safer to bring your mother to Germany, then sending Olivia now to Namibia. I do agree with Ale. A very understanding husband wow. Much love.

[@maryryan]

Lempies give into your husband.... Lempies you have your point.... I see it done in Africa...🥰🙏🏻

[@robynabadie5861]

I got my grandkids for 2mos when they were 1 1/2 and 3

[@earlineedmonds264]

Don't send your beautiful baby away.be strong Alex

[@charlenelegerton6288]

Italy will be better, for a short while

[@hilmamoore5909]

That should of been discussed before you had a child stop the foolishness

[@Lempies]

So my baby spending time with her grandma is a bad thing 🤔

[@rubenjanson9263]

Don't send Olivia to Namibia

[@Lempies]

Namibia is beautiful 😻

[@christofinajackson9384]

Early gang gang 🥰🥰🥰

[@laviniahamunyela5964]

Notification gang 💞

[@sandratarmamade5420]

Sorry. Is just my thoughts. Are you serious lempie? Are you ok ? It seems you are facing a king of postpatrum depression. Is just strange that mum lempie want to send olivia away. How come Lempie. I stand on Ale side.

[@hyacinthreno]

Kempis why even discuss that option? You’re creating scenario that doesn’t even exist in your life. If you need to make that decision you’re not ready to have children.

[@ayodeler39]

How about this option: 0livia starts to be a little jet setter by spending two months each every year with both grandparents in ITALY AND NAMIBIA. If you start now she will be a pro by the age of 5. Back in the 70’s when I worked for Alitalia in a West African country I escorted unaccompanied minors (UM’s) as young as 6 years back and forth for Easter and Christmas holidays in London and Rome. Their parents were expats working in Embassies and similar companies with demanding jobs. Now you are in a position to plan ahead.

[@mufasasdaughter4831]

That is NOT good for a child.

[@glgartman]

To an infant or young child that amount of time could feel like an eternity and having it repeated periodically could be disastrous.

[@ayodeler39]

Ime looking through the lens of grandparents being true family and how they can build a strong relationship with the little one so she looks forward to spending short periods with them. A special bond can be built which is possible if all concerned are able, positive and loving. I

[@augustasmith4797]

Olivia is not going no where. Both of u should find how to balance your work and taking care of tour bundle of joy(OLIVIA). U should not even think of having another baby soon.

[@EmiliaJohannes-n4k]

Send her to us please 🙏 we need to have time with her

[@erinahkisakye6338]

Hmmm Hope she finds rest she needs you can stay with your child no need to stretch grannies

[@udawyma1682]

Sending your child away is abusive...the need is not there. Silly wife.

[@glgartman]

Not "silly wife" -- selfish, unfeeling mother.

[@ikemabettina4540]

Before calling someone names, you should've watched the video until it ends.. 😅😅 negativity aside😅

[@sandratarmamade5420]

*postpartum

[@lettysirkkaiyambo4186]

Long time

[@sophykere6471]

Lempie you always sound too bossy

[@selmashiimi78]

She is abit not serious. The child is born by two parents from different background, so Namibian culture shouldn't dominate. Is not safe at all to send her to the village kowambo. Not at all!

[@Lempies]

Can you elaborate…. Why do you think Village is not safe 🤔

[@hilmamoore5909]

Hell no don’t send your child away for someone else to raise her then you should not of had a child.

[@dianamainana4910]

Lempies why would you put your Job as a first priority. I advise you drope working percentage and have more time for your Child. Or Ali becomes Hausmann and you work 💯 if u so love working: Never will l even attempt to think of spending a few days without my 3 years old child talk less of a child less than a year.