Therapist Breaks Down Couples Fighting in Movies & TV, Part 2 | GQ

Marriage and family therapist Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile breaks down scenes of couples fighting in movies and TV, including 'Schitt's Creek,' 'Big Little Lies,' 'Ozark,' 'My Cousin Vinny,' '500 Days of Summer' and 'The Sopranos.'
00:00 - Intro
00:52 - 'Schitt's Creek'
04:27 - 'Big Little Lies'
08:48 - 'Ozark'
13:08 - 'My Cousin Vinny'
19:09 - '500 Days of Summer'
23:30 - 'The Sopranos'
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Therapist Breaks Down Couples Fighting in Movies & TV, Part II | GQ

[@reinaashley2593]

can we please get a "therapist breaks down parent/child fights or sibling fights"?

[@farahiccol3424]

yes or a child psychologist that reacts to negligent or abusive parents and child trauma in movies

[@sqoishicasette]

Even best friend relationships ✨

[@Nunofyabizzzzz]

Psychology in Seattle!!

[@gattwinkelfatima-zahra8278]

yes!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

YES!

[@tionak]

“Learning how to trust again is YOUR responsibility” well let me sit down and shut up then 😖😅

[@isitoveryet9525]

That part hit me in my soul 😭

[@sarahnoonchester6599]

Me: I come here to watch these messy couples. 😊 Also me: Actually comes here to get read to filth and learn a little about myself.

[@enima8055]

ikrrrr

[@rossdiamondthief6627]

I’m still taking responsibility for that and I STILL can’t trust again🥺😭

[@zerocool6257]

hearing the truth hurts a lot of the times

[@cicicerreta]

I love that you said, “I would never say… but would you blame her?” Because I know how you feel. Your opinion vs what you are taught on the job don’t always match up 😂

[@Hello_Gorgeous]

Exactly. I've had clients where on the outside I had to say how that behavior wasn't the right thing to do but on the inside I'd be laughing and saying they deserved it.

[@foolslayer9416]

I hate people that enjoy making people upset. And I have a tendency to want to harm people who have a hoot out of upsetting people.

[@Julia-lk8jn]

I would think that if one partner enjoys taunting and upsetting the other, and is utterly remorseless about cheating on her ... get out of there. There can't possibly be anything left to salvage in that relationship. I suspect women are often in a situation where they feel that "at my age, whom else am I going to find?" Hopefully: yourself. Because if you stay with somebody who treats you like that, he'll know that you will stay on no matter what he does, probably tread you worse and worse and finally leave you after all.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@foolslayer9416 Yeah, that scene definitely made me want to punch dude….I guess that’s job well done on his part lol

[@loveisanopendoor3532]

Yesss thank you for bringing her back! She’s so incredibly insightful and well spoken, bring her back for part 3 too

[@enneirda07]

Being well spoken is part of a therapist job so that should be no surprise 🙄

[@loveisanopendoor3532]

@@enneirda07 okay??? She's still really good at articulating her thoughts very consciously and peecisely which takes great skill and intelligence which she's clearly abundent in. It was a compliment so why the tone???

[@shakirajarvis7147]

@@enneirda07 commenting about being well spoken is doing the thing, 🤨🙄. Issa big no, every single time, lol.

[@famd4962]

@BlackJack this was not the topic of discussion. I’m not sure what your playing at but nobody asked for your thought on what you commented.

[@famd4962]

@BlackJack not only did nobody care about what you had to say, but you seem to be in conflict with yourself right now. Not a single soul cared about your opinion on that topic. In other words keep your thoughts to yourself if it adds nothing to the current topic of discussion

[@tshephangmotlogelwa384]

As someone who is studying psychology, watching people break down any sort of erratic behavior, especially fictional, is my guilty pleasure.

[@thatkidkgosi]

Wow

[@epichourtime]

Ok weirdo!

[@sonicandroxas]

Thx for sharing with the class... Any 1 else.

[@cicelyinamerica]

Sameeeee

[@deeqa.a5026]

Kinda sound Sociopath to me 👀

[@DezraIngridAAmar]

Can a therapist break down toxic family relationships on movies?

[@kimberlywilson7929]

August Osage County

[@matxalenc8410]

@BlackJack I thought in other comments you said she was using feminist theory, not patriarchal theory. Make up your mind.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@matxalenc8410 I guess BlackJack’s account was terminated, so sad lol but they seem to have been arguing with everyone, just for the helluva it. I see replies to them, under almost every comment calling out their hypocrisy 😂

[@TY-lg1iu]

Hereditary diner scene!!

[@matxalenc8410]

@@isitoveryet9525 He told me they were the same thing. I'm still not so sure about that. Oh well. He's gone now.

[@lydiak.1254]

I like her and the party planner the most. Happy to see her back.

[@elisa.r.g]

Party planner was awesome!!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

I could not agree MORE! By far they have been my favorites.

[@arturoclavero9774]

Oh oh I hope they bring the part planner back that video was so fun

[@solegonz762]

They are both amazing talents for sure!

[@jessle1133]

Please bring her back for parent/child relationship!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

I would LOVE to see that.

[@ladywalda5838]

My father always said my grandfather would tell my grandmother "We'll talk about it in the morning" because by the time morning came she "would forget what she was angry about" I guess that's precisely why they slept in different rooms, didn't speak to eachother and she loathed him till she died.

[@motakuw_2906]

Wow that's not how I thoght that's gonna end

[@Aurora1122]

Wow - she is amazing! Her tone, the choice of words, her whole demeanor just pulls you in, makes you want to listen to what she has to say. I don't know about family and marriage therapy, but I want her as a life coach! And on a different note - she is gorgeous!!!

[@AZ-ti8jt]

Wow! Everything you said is what I was thinking! I want her as a friend.

[@jenm1]

Please stop doing the ‘black women will save us all’ trope

[@duhmzdaih]

@@jenm1 You're just jealous of her amazing hair.

[@jenm1]

@@duhmzdaih My comment is in support of black women

[@Aurora1122]

@@jenm1 I don't exactly know how to respond to your comment as it has nothing to do with any sentiment reflected in my comment, sooo...have a great day :)

[@blossomnessstudios4446]

I bet my parents would've fared a lot better if Dad agreed to couple's therapy. But he was raised and now believes that therapy is ONLY for "crazy" people. It's so ridiculous.

[@WHATAREYOUDOINGINMASWAMP]

As someone whose parents went to therapy for their relationship, I HIGHLY recommend it and I think they would too. My dad was also untrustworthy of therapy but my mom said she would have to end their marriage if he didn't go and they went and are so much better now. I think it took him realizing that if he wanted to keep my mom in his life he would have to compromise and it also ended up changing him so much for the better.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@WHATAREYOUDOINGINMASWAMP That’s amazing, happy it worked out for your parents ❤️

[@wraithsoldier4920]

Its for rich people

[@francookie9353]

@@wraithsoldier4920 In the US maybe. In Germany at least it's for people who need help.

[@magnarcreed3801]

I think relationship therapy works better than personal therapy.

[@GorillaTactix]

This was really on point! If you don’t know she does have her own KZbin channel. It is in description.

[@soyyo4154]

Her ‘page’ is unavailable🥺

[@xiolinorchdork]

Look up Steph Anya!

[@GorillaTactix]

@@soyyo4154 you can also just search Steph Anya on KZbin and she should pop up

[@maybolh]

I just subscribed!

[@SamMKKK]

Wow, thanks! I didn’t catch this till you mentioned it.

[@ririschannelx]

500 days of summer was truly ahead of its time exactly

[@kimberlywilson7929]

That movie is so infuriating. Ugh. People really play with people's emotions.

[@marinadeburgos8666]

I like the whole point of the movie of deconstructing the everending happy ever after of the 90's romcoms

[@kimberlywilson7929]

@@marinadeburgos8666 That's actually a good point.

[@pouchl6574]

I watched some months ago and I felt like I was the one in the relationship with Summer.. I was so hurt by what she did.. I mean why wouldn’t she just tell me she was just in a awkward period with her man or something.. I was sooo hurt

[@jjosephine]

@@pouchl6574 when i was younger, i hated summer, but the older i got and the more experience i gained, i now understand both of them. yes, i understand how he feels and his feelings are valid, but she really did express her thoughts on commitment, and that she couldn’t give him what he wanted. She was honest about her feelings about it, he just didn’t want to listen.

[@jessi330]

I love the emphasis on sleep/hunger having a big effect on reacting and arguments. I wish she mentioned how it was very dismissive when one partner would bring up one issue and the other person would redirect, counter and completely disregard it. It's dismissive and avoids acknowledging the other person.

[@oldladytrexarms]

Physical aspects affecting arguments and reactions, too. I am physically disabled- joint deformities, arthritis, chronic pain, fibromyalgia, migraines, nerve damage, etc. This already takes a toll on me. Add in my ADD/PTSD/Disassociation and my eating disorder (sometimes I eat and sometimes I forget to eat. I overcame Anorexia but don't really feel hunger and sometimes forget to eat despite having impounded it into my brain and having people reminding me to eat,.) and sometimes it just makes me say way worse things than I mean to. Making jokes about me getting into crashes and dying or being accident prone and dying was a big problem my husband said made him cry so now I am working on trying to ensure I never say that because I don't mean it but disabilities can really drive you nuts.

[@cuddlypop23]

is it insane to say that i love these breakdowns so much because i’m emotionally inept and need emotions explained to me?

[@whitneynelson9124]

My personal answer: No.

[@gabriella-emmanuellesaro2970]

The "can you blame her" made this whole video. Pleeaaase bring her back!

[@feminist6715]

She’s so intelligent and well spoken.

[@xtuffcookiex]

I’m really hoping she gets a part 3. I enjoy the insight she brings and her point of view is so uplifting .

[@AceHBK972]

Counseling Psych PhD student here. LOVE her videos! Bring her back! Really great job in both her vids. This is why I refuse to do any counseling. The stress!! I focus on forensics and assessments. Would love to see her breakdown 'In Treatment'. Vanity Fair's relationship breakdowns are great as well.

[@mcgil8891]

Omg yesssss, love that show!

[@kingananas]

It's so impressive how neutral she is in almost everything. im watching these scenes completely on someones side but she has criticisms and praise on both sides - way more than I can ever imagine.

[@prettyprincess8187]

Me watching these when I'm single as a Pringle: WRITE THAT DOWN, WRITE THAT DOWN!

[@jm3267]

Jokes aside, it's not a bad thing to do! I feel like when you're in a relationship and there's dynamics that have already become habitual, it's very hard to do an intentional change with how you interact with your partner.

[@silvervixen007]

😂😂

[@nomadine85]

Aren’t Pringles never single? Or is that the point? 😅

[@oceaneo4603]

It's a bit of a big strech for the mind, but I think this video could be helpfull for any kind of relationship or even interaction. I am also single and have no problem with that. But sometimes I feel like I've been drag in the middle of a weird couple relationship. Just like in the 1st part, in the office when a married couple argued in front of their guest. It just made want to take a shower. I wish this was mention in part 1 or 2 on those videos. It's a very important issue, in my opinion.

[@ashleyd8885]

I could watch her analyze couples for days… so knowledgeable and easy to listen to! Thanks for bringing her back for part two!

[@justanothervoice2538]

This whole series is must-watch material for... well, pretty much everyone.

[@samiaosmanoriginal]

I WATCHED HER THE FIRST TIME I MISSED HER SO MUCH

[@paolasejasayala6472]

Me too! I even subscribe to her yt channel!

[@Gleenet29]

I JUST found part 1 so this is a BLESSING to get a sequel RIGHT AFTER

[@solitarelee6200]

Honestly it wasn't until I watched these videos that I realized HOW MUCH "good argument" techniques my best friend and I use, and how much that's why they're my best friend and my favorite person. I feel safe around them even when we fight because I know that even if it's scary and frustrating and upsetting in the moment, we're going to figure it out, and all of these techniques are things we were doing but didn't have names for! Knowing now that it's something people go to therapy to learn, I feel really proud of them for being able to do this stuff in the middle of a fight even tho we're both just still in our 20s.

[@bludelight]

I was hoping she would show the difference between the Sopranos and A Marriage Story and look at that. This is great!

[@anonomous8649]

Love what she says about money. Money doesn't buy love but it definitely makes or breaks marriages. My partner and I struggled at first because he's an impulse-buyer and I'm very frugal. Compromise is everything in these situations, and I'm so glad my partner has been willing to compromise and change as we gear up to get married.

[@ajajohnston572]

Please please please please please please please bring this woman back again and I would love to see a parent and child relationship episode but I would like a focused on specifics such as mother and daughter, father and daughter, son and mother, and son and father focused relationships explanations. For example why is it that some mothers in a way hate/become jealous of their daughters looks or achieving or whatever. What is the psychology behind that? And I would love that for all four of the categories listed above. That would be fantastic!

[@hanan54]

She has a yt channel !

[@jennawatson6571]

I love listening to her. She’s so impressive with her explanations/assessments.

[@loiracitr]

For people in a situationship I would just give one suggestion: set your boundaries and ensure that they are respected. If you are ok with sleeping [going on holidays together/meeting the family... Whatever it is] with someone that doesn't want to define your relationship this is fine, but if you don't just aknowledge it yourself and express to the other person. I think everyone has its own specific boundaries and they are all valid and legitimate

[@TheErinlw]

I’d love to see her breakdown the dinner scene in Hereditary

[@ronbuil6923]

I think she did in part 1

[@rodeorip]

@@ronbuil6923 she has not broken down that scene yet, in part one she did the dinner scene in Malcolm and Marie

[@tiffanyreene7955]

Ooh I love the information she’s sharing. I would love her take on other relationships like parent and child and friendships, even though some of these, if not all, can be applied to both. Love her take on the situationships because this generation has a problem with that. Also, love her hair!😍 need that hair routine sis👏🏾👏🏾

[@annaeverette8960]

Not just this generation, tbh.

[@NotAlwaysBilly]

So glad she's back

[@mads6412]

BRING HER BACKKKK!!!! This information is so vital for everyone, not just couples!

[@TheKeeroop]

I’m just gonna say I want her in my life guiding me. she’s not only a professional but puts every issue in a simple and understandable way. Truly a free therapy session watching these Obs: it would be interesting to see parents - children arguments too

[@Jane2856]

Jason Bateman and Laura Linney could use some lamps. I don’t know if it would fix the marriage, but at least they won’t be stubbing their toes while they argue in the dark. Could’ve used the bribe money for light bulbs.

[@lindseywagner641]

Hahhahhhhhhhahhahahahahhagaggahahhahagagagagaghhahahahhahhahahahhaha

[@anitaandneedle7545]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Savage!

[@packnetadaija]

I was so excited when I saw that you brought her back, I could watch her talking about various relationship scenes for hours. She is amazing

[@BetterLifeAhead35]

She has the demeanor of my favorite therapist. Very calming, rational, insightful person

[@JackiJinx]

I love this woman! She focuses on the things I easily miss and I appreciate it greatly

[@Qveenshxt]

This is the video I’ve been waiting for! Ive been hoping and praying for part two since I saw part one! I love her!!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

Easily one of my favorite of the "breakdowns." You are so clear in your explanations.

[@user-dq1ri4bd5z]

Great video!! Thank you for sharing your insights and teaching people about conflict resolution, communication skills, etc. Love part 1 and 2!! 👍

[@phae1574]

They brought her back and we thank them. Now do it again!! 😩👏🏾👏🏾 Steph Anya, MFT is her KZbin channel 🙌🏾

[@tylerhackner9731]

I love psychology so this is my guilty pleasure

[@kirahoffman5167]

Please make more parts!!! Stephanie is amazing! I'm interested in psychology, and she is fascinating to listen to

[@cammymc1982]

She really needs to react to episodes of Dr. Phil, I will like her take on his ''therapy sessions''.

[@vinnyninja3552]

Already need a part 3 and I'm just starting part 2 🙌

[@88marome]

00:52 Schitt's Creek 04:27 Big Little Lies 08:48 Ozark 13:08 My Cousin Vinny 19:09 500 Days of Summer 23:30 The Sopranos

[@symonew33]

I’m so glad she’s back!

[@spammusubi1607]

I really enjoy her insight and these videos! Keep bringing her back, I’m also definitely gonna subscribe to her KZbin

[@clare8146]

Yay I’m so glad she’s back for another video!

[@aliyahmg]

My favorite! I love when you guys have her. She’s so good

[@hairindiamonds]

Stephanie is amazing, I love her analysis!

[@monchiquita25]

I've been waiting for this!! Thank you GQ

[@soyyo4154]

Very Educational, ThankYou.

[@anacardenas8827]

Love this segment ❣️ keep them coming! If I may suggest Outlander 1x09 would be great to see her break down a particular scene in that episode

[@reginaharris4089]

I love your videos. Thank you so much. My past relationships resembled these along. I learned alot.

[@victoriaselwyn8781]

Loved this two parter. What a great therapist!

[@radrose4864]

This woman is amazing. Please do a part 3!!!!

[@victoriag2397]

This was sooooooo great!!!! I need more of her!!!!!

[@brazilremani1284]

Glad she’s back! Now for part three, can she look at romantic relationships on reality shows? That would be great 😀

[@empresssk]

She’s already done one with the Married at First Sight show on her KZbin channel. But yes, more would be great

[@Spanek88]

YESSS I've been waiting for this

[@emmyashbaugh]

Heck yes! Thanks for bringing Stephanie back, she's the bees knees 💕🌻

[@christinemullaly2581]

Oh my goodness I LOVE HER. gorgeous, wise and intelligent woman! My therapist is amaaaazing ( I think most therapists are) and this woman absolutely knows what she's talking about. Wonderful video!!

[@briannaj411]

LOVE her breakdown videos!!!

[@lybeat_gang]

This is great information. Well done!!!

[@joshuacampossandi5007]

Yaaaaaaaaaassss queen, happy to see her on this channel being featured again 👐🏻❤

[@efnfen]

I would like to see more of this woman. These two videos were amazing.

[@denisenoles3159]

She is fantastic! Part 3 please.

[@DaysieRose]

Yay she's back! I love this woman ❤️

[@marie-jeannerivest3029]

Thank you for your insight on this situations. This video has been very helpful for me. You communicate very well. The ease that you have to bring forth the true nature of each argument made me able to apply them better to my own experiences. I would love for you to do a video on the relationship between Lily and Marshall in the How I met your mother series. In a lot of ways, their communication strategies (-mostly) have helped me in managing arguments with my partner. I wonder what your take would be on that. I'm thinking mostly of the way they would pause an argument when things got to heated, in order to better serve their relationship on the long term!

[@gwenythice7230]

Yessss part 2! Note taking will commence

[@masonrock]

This is such a great series. I would love for you guys to bring her back and do more.

[@viv771]

I wish this was more clearly labelled a part 2 because the title was cut off and I didn't even realize it had come out! She's so great I hope she comes back to discuss more couple and/or family dynamics

[@nzebram]

Yay part two, love her

[@tytyprada]

More of her!! Please and thank you.

[@springmaiden123]

Thank you for linking her KZbin channel!!!!!

[@tatigalactic]

I really liked her analysis!

[@skinsciencebymira]

I would love a full series with this therapist! Love her

[@TheMoises1213]

Everything she said was soo true dam it’s soo good. Keep getting her back!!!😩❤️

[@Aliekjjj1995]

Yesss she's back!

[@monicasotelo5351]

I LOVE these videos with her

[@Maya-xt5ku]

We need a part 3!

[@Jll-fj3kc]

Great intervention ! !

[@fatimah1]

I love this lady! She's so smart!

[@welikelethabo]

I’m happy she’s back

[@nevaehjackson5948]

Bring her back for child/parent arguments !!!

[@theminidino]

I missed Stephanie so much!

[@piyush.ochani]

We need part 3!

[@nagygreta5295]

This Lady has taught me more, than my school in the last 8 years

[@mangoliys]

i’ve been bringing all of her videos i love this lady and i don’t even know her

[@carlyhope]

YAY, she is back!!!

[@KarelinaCA]

I love her, she is so calm. I hope she is back soon

[@nituraa8147]

Yesss she back!

[@LisTheNinja]

I could literally listen to her speak all day and just absorb all this information like a sponge omg ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 the brains on this woman!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@robbinb6659]

She is wonderful at explaining and breaking things down. If I had to have a therapist I would want one like her.

[@melissabritonunez3135]

I love her there should be a part 3

[@elishaschwartz1697]

This lady is very articulate and great at explaining things. I enjoy listening to her analyses 👏🏼

[@trillwill93]

I need a part 3