My Transgender Partner is Transitioning After 17 Years of Marriage

We have decided to share our family's journey with you all in hopes that we can humanize what a transgender experience can be like. Since Shaye came out to me in 2019, I have learned that being transgender doesn't hurt anyone. However, our culture has a lot of baggage around gender and so many perceive being transgender as a threat. People assume this is a craze or trend because more people are coming out today as transgender than ever, but the fact is that trans people (often referred to as third gender or two spirit in a variety of world contexts) have been with us since the beginning of written human history.
I used to think of gender as a binary thing. As a feminist, I thought a lot about gender differences and saw men and women as "the opposite sex." Now, however, I see that there is a spectrum in gender identity and expression that is a separate thing from biology. Men and women express their gender in so many ways; the transgender community is similarly diverse. At the end of the day, we're all part of the human family.
When you see someone's expression that's different from what you've been taught is "natural", it's understandable that there is initial discomfort, but I ask you to push beyond that. Transgender people are not problems. They are vibrant and wonderful. My journey with Shaye has taught me that loving and championing a transgender person makes the world more beautiful.
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[@GreatScotts]

We ask for respect and open-mindedness as you learn about our family’s story. You can learn more about Shaye’s transition here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKGqe2uIjMekrKM.

[@TariAkpodiete]

You should pin this to the top

[@KristyRadio]

Thank you for sharing! Wishing you both all the best!!!

[@ourfather7]

It cant be done. Physically. Satan hates us and this is his ploy! And the suffering. Please stop. Cry out to JESUS and nothing else.

[@onewotldgovernmentonlywhen9044]

Daniel 11:37 New King James Version 37 He shall regard neither the [a]God of his fathers nor the desire of women, nor regard any god; for he shall exalt himself above them all. About the antichrist

[@onewotldgovernmentonlywhen9044]

You are very sweet to your husband but please don’t forget about the salvation of his soul as well. It is something that is eternal

[@kirtbateman6702]

Amanda and Shay, I’ve been wanting to write to you for a long time. I found you via your “why we left” video, which I’ve now literally watched 20 times. It so beautifully encapsulates what a faith transition looks like. For some of us. I just wanted to tell you that I think you are the bravest, most articulate, most selflessly loving, most “I want to be them when I grow up” people that KZbin has to offer. Your hard truths laid bare for the world’s judgment cannot be easy, but it’s so important in our world to hear stories like yours. I believe you are changing lives!!! What greater blessing could you give to your children or others that know and love you than to be authentic. Both of you. Amanda, if I were 25 years younger and braver, I would seek you out to be my bestie. Shay, your bravery gives me chills and makes me want to be a better man (and I certainly wouldn’t mind getting my hair back-that would be a dream come true). As a nearly 50 year old, gay, ex-Mormon, husband, and father who still holds incredible shame for just being me, your videos bring tears to my eyes and fill my soul with hope! Please keep sharing when you can. And THANK YOU for letting us strangers have a glimpse into your journey. It is a blessing to this total stranger, anyway. With love and incredible gratitude!!!-KIrt (SLC)

[@GreatScotts]

Kirt, you are so kind! Thank you for taking the time to share this with us. It means more to us than you can ever know. ❤️❤️❤️

[@dalenemoore]

Oh Kirt! Your words are so beautiful and 4:03 so loving. I’m in my 60s and likely could have been your church bestie back in the day. I can tell you are an incredible person. Hope your life is happy, satisfying and full of love now. 💙

[@vickismith2872]

I forgot in the past to say how beautiful your piano playing is! I enjoy it very much. You are talented in many ways!

[@chasingtheadventure5908]

I’m blown away by your beautiful support of each other ANDDD the filmography!! So incredibly well done.

[@mariamikkelsen4803]

This is amazing. I recently saw your story of leaving the mormon church and about your journey in that. To have come this far and to see your love for each other in all of thia is amazing. ❤ All my love to you!

[@klimtscat347]

What do these people do for a living, I wonder! Because all of the treatments the husband explained he went through in order to appear more "feminine" really cost a fortune.

[@livelovelocalmi]

Amanda is a professor in English literature.

[@walquirp13]

​@@livelovelocalmiand what about Shaye?

[@clover5923]

Yeah, same thought. They seem really rich and are able to do the transitioning more quickly than other trans. Still happy for them though ❤

[@janekirk-coughlan4123]

I believe Shaye is a filmmaker.

[@sanchezhandymen3444]

It is expensive and I am sure they worked hard for what they have, Perhaps they can start a charity to help others in need.. they seem like nice people who would be advocates... seems like there faith and journey would lead them to giving to others. But who knows...

[@NerfHerder909]

I'm not sure how this (and your video about leaving the Mormon Church) popped up on my feed, since I'm not/have never been Mormon, and I've never watched your family's channel before, but I am trans (albeit going in the opposite direction, as it were), transitioning older with a partner. I just wanted to thank you for posting this; it requires a lot of nerve to put yourself out there this way as your transition is happening, especially in the first couple of years, and while I think it's important and really does help increase understanding of the trans experience, it's a really vulnerable place to be in (for both the trans person and their partner!). So thanks to both of you for putting this out there and helping to humanize the community. I wish nothing but the best for both of you, and I hope that Shaye's recovery from FFS is going well!

[@nickio.5513]

I don’t judge the way people want to live, but I know for myself I could not mentally handle my partner doing this. But I hope the best for them.

[@helenalovelock1030]

This lady didn’t either

[@LembeckIsStaying]

Do you mind elaborating?

[@lolraacheel]

It definitely depends upon the relationship you have with your partner. Some will be understanding and open, some will not be.

[@jamessmith6363]

@MrFukoltanot true

[@Piecesoftheshadow]

@MrFukoltaThis applies to all marriages and couples.

[@littlebitmckee8234]

I know this sounds so superficial - but your husband was so handsome. Do you miss him looking like this? I know you are obviously happy that he is finally comfortable in his skin, but do you miss seeing him like this?

[@user-rc8tp6si7j]

Even more superficial how do feel that your husband now your wife is better looking than you?

[@33snowgal]

Loved you use of morman stories quotes, it was such a great episode and clearly more has changed since then

[@RoadkillbunnyUK]

I’m so proud of your courage to come out and especially share your story with us on KZbin. My youngest daughter is trans. She came out to me when she was 13. I am gay so she knew our home was a safe place with only love and support but even still she was scarred coming out to me. She is 16 now and has been out an socially transitioned for over two years. Unfortunately here in the UK there are huge waiting lists for trans care and as I am a significantly disabled single mom who is medically retired I don’t have the funds to pay for private care. I am going to tell her all about you. Thank you for putting yourself out there I know that in your community coming out is no easy step.

[@natashak3387]

I am so happy that this channel popped up on my feed. I have huge respect for you both. I thought of my church I have been going to for almost ten years. My church's famous statement is we are a movement for ALL people. I know many that are either gay, lesbian, trans, etc. I love them all so very much! They want to feel excepted just like anyone else. I LOVE all people, even you!

[@whitneybennett4980]

I feel like your videos have truly opened my heart and changed my perspective, thank you for sharing! I also used to be Mormon, but fortunately for me, my story was different because I got to choose that path and it only lasted a short time (16-18). However, because of that experience, I feel like I was able to be more open-minded to hear your story and I am grateful for that.

[@rebecca2930]

You each have given each other the shots of therapy of one form or another to reach the ultimate goal. Good for you.❤

[@catecate2809]

I’d love to have a video from Amanda’s perspective. From being told in 2019 while still members of the church that your husband came out to you til now. You are so supportive and that’s great however I just wonder is there also a grieving process? It makes me wonder as humans are we all more fluid than maybe we want to believe or know? Are you physically attracted to the physical changes? I know intimacy is very much a mental connection but it’s also very physical too. I know I want to believe if I was in your shoes I could or would be as supportive. I mean loving someone for who they are on the inside doesn’t change but physically they do. I’m fascinated by your journey. I’m also curious how this transition is affecting your intimacy from Amanda’s point of view? You don’t have to answer these questions I’m just “thinking out loud” if you will. I just wonder has your relationship become more like 2women best friends sharing makeup, clothes etc? If Shaye fully transitions and gets reassignment surgery loving and supporting her is one thing but at what point are you sacrificing your happiness for the sake of Shaye’s happiness?

[@cristinarudnik2386]

Great question/comment!

[@maryhazlett]

You say your kids are excited, and I get that. How are you explaining this to them, and what will change in your parenting? I personally think of people as "people". However, gender is important, as you both well know. Are you trying to navigate the difficult trail of what the relationship with your kids will be? Will you be "father"? Will you be a version of "Heather Has Two Mommies"? I hope I'm not sounding disrespectful because that is most definitely not my feeling or intention. I can only imagine the familial difficulties you are experiencing. If some are as I imagine, you are very very brave. I honestly pray that you continue to have the strength to stay on this journey. I'm glad Skylar is with you. To him I say what I mean for you too, really for anyone: any church which tries to impede love, tries to shrink it, tries to judge people for loving, does NOT follow or witness to the gospel. Not Mormonism or Catholicism or Christianity or Judaism... Those places limit people, and don't want them to grow. Those who may sacrifice relationships in order to walk beside Shaye and Amanda are truly listening to that still small Voice heard in the wind. They, too, are brave.

[@letitiakearney2423]

@@maryhazlett Pope Francis accepts gay people as he explained in an address two years ago that their was science to back gender up.

[@MomtoZnE]

I have all of the same questions. If I were in Amanda’s shoes I can’t say that I’m sure how I were to react. If his sexuality is changing, hers has to as well for the marriage to last.

[@auggiedoggiesmommy1734]

I’m sure she grieves the life she thought she had but probably grieves the life she thought she would have in her church. Change happens and humans grieve all kinds of things. I think kids are so much more resilient than adults give them credit for… especially when they are loved and are allowed to express themselves authentically,unlike being forced to conform to norms just because…or even in many cases discarded because of their religion (I saw this sadly OFTEN with LGBTQ kids in Utah when I visited teens in the state hospital with my therapy dog -kids who had been told basically “be the way our church wants you to be or get out of our house” - makes me sick as someone who couldn’t have children, I can’t imagine!) I think these kids are being taught to love no matter what …the thing we all need the most. We all make sacrifices for the ones we love …. we have no idea what they have agreed to regarding her fulfillment. But what do we do if a spouse gets a life threatening,terminal or disabling illness or accident? We don’t (or shouldn’t) just leave and there are MANY challenges with illnesses. I hope and pray that the alt-right moves on from spewing their dangerous hatred at this vulnerable population (mostly for money BTW … they sow a seed of fear and then say how they will fix it if you send money. What they don’t tell you is that the money raised for an issue mostly doesn’t necessarily all have to be spent for what it is raised for …and think of this … $250,00,000+ was raised for #TFG court cases about the election … just an example of how much money & the reason fascists ALWAYS create an “other” … fear that gets votes and money). I’m also glad we are mostly/individually much more accepting. These kids just love their Dad or whatever they decide to call her.

[@InterDivergent]

This is such a moving story. Stumbled across your channel by chance. Thank you for sharing your story and for being so authentic, real and loving/supportive towards each other.

[@Justine-ut8ho]

Just discovered your channel and it’s so amazing to see her confidence and peace a year later. I know some partners can’t stay for the transition and I honor that. But, I’m so glad you gals have made it through so well. And to have gotten through high demand religion to self actualization intact is a miracle in itself. You guys are so so so lucky. Praying all those who can’t reconcile their Faith with their true selves knows God truly loves them and will guide them through becoming self actualized.

[@kerstinklenovsky239]

Watching this, I suddenly realize that your whole story is about love because you have chosen to make it about love. Sadly, many trans stories are not. You are admirable. Others can learn so much from you. I certainly can. I wish you every good thing for now and for every step on your way.

[@soupturn2485]

Please this comment made me tear up after holding back throughout the whole video 😭

[@montealmay5739]

Same

[@renaissancewoman3770]

Your sense of humour with each other is so funny. Thank you for sharing.

[@UteGoldkuhle]

Remarkable! I am new to following your journey! Oh, how you have and will help so many who can relate to your struggle, who never understood, who were buried in ignorance, . . . You both represent a level of love not many ever reach! ❤

[@robbjones6475]

I am so happy for you and I love your family for their support. I was married for over 41 years to the most wonderful person I’ve ever known, loved and knew all my secrets. However, my wife was honest with me and told me she could support a transition but could not continue to live with a transgendered person. Because I needed her in my life as a partner I gave up on the idea. Anyway, she passed away very recently and I’ve lost a very large part of me, it’s hard to move forward. At 69 years old, I’m at a quandary what now? I’m relatively healthy for my age, always a little feminine, and very financially secure, but… Anyway I love your story and applaud you. Thanks❤

[@roygeorge5364]

It's okay for you to do what you need to do now. It sounds like you and your partner were supportive and loving and had great communication. You are not disrespecting her or her memory by being you. I would say the universe set it up perfectly - you had a loving partner who has sadly passed, but you have time left to explore you. Good luck and much love to you. 🧡

[@lisac1819]

You're so lucky to have found each other it's beautiful to see. Sadly, far too many people don't get it they dont recieve the love support or understanding that you have for each other. I'm sure you must know how much you're helping show us all how to be better people. Love is not just a word x

[@SamanthaPearson]

Shaye & Amanda, thank you for another generous look into your lives..this video was so insightful. I've been he/sir/young manned, so often. I don't take offence to it. Partly because I know people are just responding to what they're hearing or seeing. Although I've been transitioning since 2015 I'm still 6ft 1in with broad shoulders, & a deeper voice than I might like - although I am working on the voice - so I can't blame someone for their initial natural reaction to me. I realise that this is an older video but still, congratulations on getting your ears pierced, shaye. They look lovely 🙂. I got my own pierced in December of last year, after a friend recommended it. I too was a tad nervous, beforehand. But I was pleasantly surprised by the ease & speed at which they were done. I barely felt a thing, & I love my little studs (lol). Your hair transplant looks fantastic! I had mine done in London, last year. There were three procedures in total (6200 follicles). It was pricey, but so worth it! there are times when I think if I should have gone to Turkiye instead (with regard to cost), but I am still so happy with the results. My hair hasn't been this long since my late teens! (lol). With my facial hair removal, I started with Electrolysis, then when my local practitioner got quite busy after the covid lockdowns, I switched to Laser hair removal. Now (when able), I do both. Laser is definitely the less painful option...Electrolysis can be something of an endurance test, at times! (lol). But I can't really complain that much, I'm just so happy with the results so far 🙂. I've been on Estradiol for about 6 years, & I'm so happy with not only the physical changes, but also the psychological ones. I feel like I'm on a much more even keel now..more centered, like you said 🙂. Because I've never really been a fan of needles, & my doctor was concerned that the patches would aggravate skin (Eczema), I was put on the gel. I'm up to 4mg a day..I've also been having decapeptyl (testosterone suppressor) injections every three months for about the past year or so. This has been in preparation for my future surgery. With regards to future surgeries. I've been referred to a London Hospital. Going by the letter I received, I'm hoping that my GRS will be no later than sometime in the middle of next year. I do intend to get FFS, after I've paid off the loan for my hair transplant. I'm hoping to remove..or at the very least diminish these male facial traits. I've seen a number of before & after videos, & I'm hopeful 🙂. Shaye, your family is truly wonderful. If you hadn't already done it years ago I would end this comment by (respectfully) saying marry that women, marry that women right now! (lol). Amanda I love your sense of humour at the end of this. If I may say so - & again, with the greatest respect - you two are just the perfect fit. Best wishes to the whole family 🙂.

[@abigail1783]

The transition journey must be so challenging. It's beautiful to see how supportive her wife is. Unconditional love

[@domesticdomination]

Thank you for being bold and open and living your truth. I'm so proud of you, Shaye. As an non-binary former mormon, I'm here for you.

[@amandayoung8808]

I understand that Shaye is attracted to women even tho he’s transitioning into a woman but is Amanda attracted to women? How does this work in an intimate level? Was always curious about that in a relationship where one transitioned

[@IxiaRayne]

This had me bawling my eyes out. I’m so so thankful for you sharing your story with us and being so open and vulnerable. I’m so happy you’re feeling more free to be authentically you, Shaye. Love. That is it. Love above all. Just love people. ♥️

[@Undeniably_Me]

My MUA for my wedding was a trans woman, & she was so afraid of backlash that she didn't want to come into the sanctuary of the church for the ceremony, and I had to nearly BEG her to at least come in afterward for pictures. Nobody was rude or standoffish toward her, but she was very weary of ppl's intentions. Her anxiety got the best of her, and she did leave shortly after dinner was served. That was close to 10 yrs ago now, and she's much more confident. I've loved watching her bloom!

[@EvanLuke3]

I am so blown away at your bravery. My son came to my husband and myself just a few weeks ago and told us that he feels like a girl. There have been so many emotions since that moment. When you are pregnant and then give birth you never imagine that one day your child might say, “I want to be the opposite sex.” Your video was so open and honest. I was sad when it ended because I wanted to know the next steps. It’s true that life is all about change. I don’t want to lose him. I want our relationship to stay strong. I cannot thank you enough for making this video. It shows the real, raw life. Maybe people don’t want to see that but I find it beautiful. Your love between the two of you is beautiful. Please, if you feel comfortable please share your journey. I will be on my own journey myself. All the best to you and your family. 😘❤️😘❤️

[@elliotelephants60]

Hi, I know I’m not exactly who this was written to, but I’m a trans young adult who has worked some with parents of trans kids and I actually have a playlist for parents (and for other groups) of videos that may be helpful if you want to look at it. I’m sending my love

[@missnaomi613]

Fellow parent of trans beans here. I don't know how old your kiddo is, but mine are all grown. (19, 22 and 25.) My 25 year old came out as trans when they were 20, and realized they were non-binary about a year(?) after that. And I'm super excited that my 19 year old has recently given me permission to tell the world what we've known for about 3 years now, which is that she's a girl. Life is full of surprises, and it's our (responsibility and) honor to stand by our kids as they face the challenges on their respective paths. Wishing your family all the best as you navigate new territory. 🙏❤🏳‍⚧

[@erindowling8540]

@@missnaomi613 I am confused. You said “they” then you talked about a 19 year old and a 25 year old. Are they both trans?

[@sarab8332]

It takes a lot of bravery to come out of the closet. It took a lot for your son to tell your husband and you that he feels like a girl. He is reaching out to both of you for help. Gender is between the ears and the person knows what gender they should be. Make sure you communicate well with your child and support your child. Depending on his age, you will need to put a transition plan, therapy, hormones, surgeries, ect.. Embrace and love your child.

[@kristengilliam-coomber8457]

Thank-you so much for sharing this journey, it really helps us on the outside understand better. Your relationship with your partner is truly remarkable and inspiring.

[@suzannefernandes5510]

Oh I'm so glad your videos popped up on my recomendations. You guys are beautiful in every way I can't think of. Thank you for sharing your experiences and conversations with us!

[@leahsamaniego4507]

My partner just came out to me as trans. And I’m so excited for her and her journey. It’s going to be a slow process because she’s still coming to terms with everything. But I want to be supportive in whatever way she needs. It’s cool to see some of the doctors who help with the transition process

[@lauracornwell9129]

I began my journey with two good friends to help me. One of these was Chloe. She passed coming up on one year ago. My other friend, my partner, lover, and husband has walked this path with me. You're well on your way. Hold your head up. You have such amazing support and love!

[@caroleasswad7824]

Are you still a couple and staying together as that and family? I invite you to share that part please I love your support for eachother, it s Beautiful . You are extraordinary!👍🫶🏻

[@lauracornwell9129]

Hi Carole. Bill and I are still happily married. I couldn't ask for a more loving and supportive partner. Chloe lived with us. She was an amazing person as well. She suffered from heart disease and finally Parkinson disease, which was related to Agent Orange exposure in the jungles of Vietnam. She was a medic and a nurse for forty years. With only one sister who cared about her, the rest of her family did not accept her transition. So, the three of us became a family. Chloe passed quietly in her bed. I thought she was asleep when I discovered she had gone on to her next journey. It was such a privilege to offer her peace and sanctuary. Her most feared concern was to die alone in a hospital, as she had seen so many lonely people pass in her career. So, Bill and I journey on together. As a person who transitioned later in life, having a supportive partner and best friend couldn't have been any better. We also attended a Unitarian Universalist congregation in Frederick, Maryland. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful we were to find such a good group of people that cared so much.

[@emmachandler6780]

Wow I admire you ,your strength and honesty you must of been scared but confronted it to become the real you and have the support of people whom love you I admit I never understood buy I never bothered to try and understand which was my ignorance I support you and am learning from you about this I thanku for that people r too judgemental these days live your best life I say x

[@UNOmasUNO1]

I Watch some of your videos and I like the fact of you guys not pushing others to believe in terms of transgender ideology, i do have so much respect for people like you guys as long they don’t tell me how to pronounce he, she, they, them.

[@user-mp4zs2by9m]

Courage meaning (Brene Brown) is “Sharing from the Heart”. There is so much authentic vulnerability, courage & heart in this video. So much love in this family. Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@andreaavila3302]

Just a note about piercings, if Shaye plans to get more than she should definitely go to a tattoo/piercing parlour! A needle has way less risk of infections than a piercing gun and you should only get pierced with a needle if you do helix and any other cartilage piercings! Looking forward to more updates on your journey!

[@joanasoares8674]

seeing his brother supporting him made this even more beautiful, i am so glad so so glad

[@janetrojas8939]

that support cost him his marriage so glad he chose his family

[@sparky955]

Amanda & Shaye: from the heart of a 66 year old widow…love is love. God CONTINUE to bless & keep you & your family. Walk in love & peace.

[@robertbodek4473]

You are an angle to support shea in her journey! I applaud your support

[@biekevanriel5231]

Amanda you are a strong person,as Shaye,sending so much love❤

[@The_One_and_Only996]

So happy to see your brother there supporting you. I’m glad you are getting to be yourself and it makes me happy to see your partner and other family members giving you support!

[@afullchalicevlogs7979]

Me too! Family support is SO important!

[@readycool9600]

I agree 100% but don’t understand his ex’s shallow mind. It had nothing to do with her personally other than her appearance. Skyler is such a great guy he will have no problem finding another person who is more open minded.

[@carlasmith5165]

Wow. This is a kicker. Amanda when you love,you love. I see your daughter is okay that dad wants to be a woman. How are the boys working through this change? Shay is going to look like Violet.

[@KJ-wh8fu]

"The greatest achievement in life is to be authentically you." YES

[@mosaicowlstudios]

The first work I saw of yours was your "why we left the LDS church" video. When you showed your artwork, I knew you were a special person ❤❤ it is so lovely to see you living as your authentic self and loving who you are!

[@rondaborgert5170]

I love your relationship ❤️ ♥️ I have a 27 year old Transgender daughter, so I can relate to a lot of what you have shared. You both are beautiful and kind, and I wish you both so much success going forward. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@daisymay271]

May I ask, what piano piece was played in the beginning of this video?

[@ccm8817]

Because it's beautiful

[@lorettajones6120]

Shaye and your precious partner I am here from your brothers channel. My heart goes out to you and EVERYONE that is trans or gay...as a Christ believer I must show grace...cause at 73 I have needed grace a lot. My son is gay and he went thru crap...Just love him and his husband more than you can imagine.

[@Brian.8272]

This was great to watch, being your authentic self

[@anissachard]

Thank you for these videos. I am also a wife of someone who has transitioned. We are also LDS. This has helped me so much. ❤

[@sarab8332]

Are you still members of the church and how has that gone.

[@letitiakearney2423]

The church doesn’t recognise transgender people and gay men have to stay celibate.

[@valarya]

As a mother of a trans man, I'm here to hold your family in my heart with UNCONDITIONAL support. 🥰🥰 What an incredible family you guys have to join in this together with love. Much love to all of you and I'm excited to go on this journey with you.

[@infiniteinfinity9802]

Hi! I’m also mom to my beautiful daughter who is trans. She is married to a beautiful woman who is the love of her life and both are super supportive of each other. So glad your son and my daughter are living their lives being true to themselves! So proud to be her mom🤩Very happy this young couple is sharing their story!!! Sooooo helpful!!!! Much love in their videos🌻🌻🌻

[@valarya]

@@infiniteinfinity9802 🏳‍⚧🏳‍⚧🏳‍🌈Absolutely!! I love that there are people like you in the world. 🥰

[@stezi8059]

You guys are amazing and so full of love, beautiful on the inside as well es on the outside. I admire, how brave you are and how true to yourself and to the world! And see how far you already came. Imagine where you'll be and how you'll feel in 3 more years. I (stepmom of a trans child) wish you all the best, all the love and all the support. Only the bravest souls here have the greatest tasks! So much love from Germany to you.

[@angiepangie989]

I'm here for the positive message and warm fuzzy feeling, but I'm staying for the high quality production you put into these videos

[@maryanntownsend2889]

Amanda please make a video showing us how you explained Shay’s transition to your children. I don’t understand but will,respect Shay’s decision. Amanda,you are an incredible person and the best to you Shay.

[@jeanettelester9609]

I've come to your channel at Skyler's suggestion and now am compelled to binge watch your videos. You are such wonderful story tellers of this story of searching, transformation, love, and exceptance. Plus Shaye, your piano playing is absolutely beautiful.

[@CathainSeo]

At 5;04 is so true, not requiring other to validate one is the route to contentment.

[@BENDITAABUELA888]

ITS A HARD WAY TO UNDERSTAND!!! BUT ITS IMPOSSIBLE TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY WHEN THEY DONT WANT TO UNDERSTAND!!! ALL THE BEST IN UR TRANSITION LIFE!! ITS AMAZING U HAVE SOMEONE WHO SUPPORT U BECAUSE OUT THERE MANY PEOPLE CALL US CRAZY OR CONFUSED OR PERVERT AND SOME FAMILY AND FRIENDS KICK US OUT OF THEM LIFE!! N BEING LONELY ITS HARDER THAN ANYTHING BUT GOD IS ALWAYS GOOD IF WE HEAR FROM THE HEART ❤️

[@huntp1291]

Hey I just stumbled on this video. I try not to watch too much about other individuals transitions as such but the way you spoke about your feelings, the fear etc.. resonated so much in me because that's exactly how I feel especially about losing my wife. Unfortunately she has stopped being supportive and as such because she can't deal with things but Ive fallen back into repressing my true self to make her happy. I'm going to show her this video later because it speaks volumes. Thank you for sharing. Good luck in your future as your true self , I shall follow your journey.😊

[@louern123]

this is one of the best videos , maybe THE best , of the 350 channels i’ve been subscribed to, for 16 years . ❤

[@rayoliver760]

What a great video! I am so glad this video came up in my suggested reels while i was watching another transgender transition video! While im not out myself yet just hearing Shaye's coming out story and also the support from his wife was euphoric enough for me! Im so excited to watch more of their videos when I have free time! Of course I'll go back and watch all of the older videos too as I already have a love for architecture, real estate and interior design!

[@ambermarcum9147]

I used to be much more of a KZbin viewer and kind of got away from it. But so thankful you popped back up on my IG feed. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Amanda you are amazing, please share your story and POV as well. I was so happy to see that Skylar is supportive as I was wondering and hoping he would be. I initially found you guys through his channel when the quints were much smaller. Love to you all. Please keep sharing and shining your light in the world. We need beautiful stories out there so others can learn, grow and be comfortable.

[@kellxe4229]

Love you both but wanna shout out Amanda! Your love for Shaye goes beyond all boundaries. You both have beautiful souls 💖💙🤍

[@brianr6704]

Your videos are wonderful you share your story so beautifully. My journey has been very similar to yours. Until I I was about 52 years old no one in the world knew my secret it was my greatest shame. I told my daughter first and then my wife and son. I’m 61 now I started transitioning when I was 58. My only regret is that I didn’t start when I was younger. Like you I have the love and support of my family, especially my beautiful wife who I just celebrated 38 years of marriage with. I don’t know how I would have had the courage to go on this journey without them.

[@clairerussell7596]

Do you feel like you’ll mourn the partner you were married to before? This is my first time watching you and the flashbacks are like an entirely different person I’m just wondering if it will almost feel like grief of losing your partner

[@soapqueen2008]

That's a weird question to ask they are still the same person

[@jennacarroll9200]

I think you're so strong for following where your soul led you. Many people will never know the freedom you're experiencing.

[@Pcarleton03]

Shaye, you are worthy of all the love in this world. You have a beautiful heart and soul and I wish you so much love, peace snd happiness for who you have always been Shaye!!❤ from 🇨🇦

[@zuglymonster]

Does Shaye go by Shaye still or is that her post trans name? I heard her brother call her Skyler. I just don't want to dead name. Or did they keep their name like I chose to because its gender neutral? I'm just trying to learn as much as I can as my egg is cracking

[@Teajay21]

Skyler is her brother's name she still goes by Shaye

[@sfulk2]

I have watched your videos since the beginning and I am so proud of all of you!! Especially Shaye, obviously, but the whole family…it’s just so lovely to watch them walk alongside this adventure. Great job, everyone!!

[@RobynsGrrls]

What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it. You and Amanda are simply amazing... You are very lucky, Shaye. I totally get your nervousness at times, but you do seem so settled, so at peace in most of your videos. Amanda is your cornerstone, not everyone is blessed as you are. Sending hugs to both of you!!

[@graceochieng8900]

She looks younger now then she did before! Incredible. If I’d walked past her as a man, I never would have guessed about the turmoil she was experiencing within herself. Good wife for being supportive bc I don’t think I’d be able to accept it, I would have to leave the relationship.

[@Sentientmatter8]

We call that the transgender fountain of youth 😁

[@lauren-thomas]

that's one of the benefits of going through puberty again. I've seen people look 20 years younger after a year of HRT.

[@mariannbrady2539]

In my experience, the best way to change hearts and minds is through sharing stories.Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing yours.❤

[@susanrnbc]

Thrilled to see Skylar there supporting you at the pride parade. And the idea that being stuck in a static place is where suffering comes from really resonates with me. I grew up in a very strict conservative Christian home where everything was black and white and there was no room for questioning or change. I am nearly 72 years old and the biggest changes in how I believe have happened in the last 15 years. I am completely different than I was then-I’ve become a liberal, progressive Christian who believes we are ALL created in God’s image, and that we are ALL worthy of God’s love. I’ve found a church where I can practice my beliefs and where ALL people are welcomed, accepted and included. Our church vice president is a younger gay woman. She is soon to marry her partner in our church. Our little church is growing ever since we “came out” as accepting and including the LGBTQ+ community. It is an exciting time and gives me hope for the future in the middle of so much worldly ignorance and fear. Thank you for sharing. It takes so much strength and courage to do what you are both doing.

[@SJPLilac]

I love what you are teaching your children. They're not just learning tolerance, but they are actively embracing the journey along with you. Your wife is so awesome!!!

[@user-yw8oc5gu3u]

As a man he was extremely charming. As a woman she's extremely breathtakingly beautiful. God loves shaye❤

[@Authenticwings]

Hi there, I just want to say I know it’s hard, but it’s worth it! I too was raised Mormon, and most all of my family still is. My mother passed away before I transitioned, but my father knew before his death. I too never thought this would happen but I am so glad it finally did. MTF, transition. I know exactly what the masks are, the lack of identity, the lack of hope and never being comfortable with myself, ever! My partner and I still remain together (he is a gay man); but we have learned that love transcends our bodies, and the physical appearances. He is my partner in every way, and he has helped me to create a very wonderful life. I transitioned 2 years ago in July. I know what the electrolysis is like…OMG!!! I did learn that not everyone is good at it, so you need to search for someone who is really good (they are worth the money). My body surprised me, and it changed in so many ways that I could not imagine. I am glad. You guys are here…keep telling your story, it is actually not an uncommon one!

[@helenatessmann6044]

This is incredible. Well done, what a courageous choice to have made. Sometimes accepting ourselves can be the most challenging thing we do in life

[@juliaross7841]

So much courage you have, and your family and children. Bless you and Amanda!

[@kathleenschoultz]

I love that you are supporting each other so much. More of this love to the world. You will do great in life

[@amylink7199]

I’ve been watching you via Instagram for awhile and I have gotten a bit attached to you and your sweet family. This is the first time that I have gotten a back story. I never realized the amount of pain that you were in, Shaye. I knew that your decisions definitely had to be painful, but I just didn’t know how much. You are beautiful and I am so thankful that you have each other. I am thankful that you found your way out of controlling religion and into the beautiful life that you have now.

[@joyowen-jones9871]

Thank you for including me in your journey. Watching your transitioning has inspired me. You are beautiful people. Thank you. I needed to gain understanding in an area that is very new to me. 🙏

[@lesleyM84]

becoming and being our authentic selves should never involve shame or condemnation.. it is such a layered complex journey by itself.. emotionally, physically, spiritually… adding layers of disapproval and possible abandonment is just so much added toxicity.. let’s just lean into be each other’s support system especially when it leads into uncharted, surprise directions..✨💖✨💖✨💖✨

[@kristenkaz3080]

Shae’s partner/wife is an amazing woman to go through her own transition in this process.

[@froggreen2067]

I hear her being bossy and forceful.

[@kristenkaz3080]

@@froggreen2067 I guess I hadn’t thought of her that way. I was thinking she was just affirming her partner’s way of thinking. But I can see now why you’d think that. Interesting.

[@elliotelephants60]

I’m transmasculine and although my journey has looked different from yours in many ways, seeing stories of other trans people- of trans joy and trans resistance- always brings me joy, comfort, and strength in this world we’re in. I was actually sitting here kind of procrastinating giving myself my testosterone injection- considering putting it off until tomorrow- but watching this reminded me of why I do this and why this is so important to me and how much it has changed my life for the better so I prepped my shot while watching this video. Sending love from Pennsylvania 🤍

[@idontworkhere]

Just a reminder from a senior user of HRT, don't skip days. The human body doesn't skip days on when it produces hormones so it's best to maintain a consistent time and day for the best results. ❤I switched to subcutaneous to reduce muscle damage and can use a smaller needle so it's less painful. Hope that helps

[@lizhoward9754]

When you said “have you talked to a transgender person” really hit home for me. I met and became friends with a trans person back in the early 1990s. I learned sooo much from her. Prior to meeting her, I just thought transgender was some really weird thing that didn’t make sense. Boy was I wrong. My friend was a cross dresser “macho” guy who was a married doctor attracted to women. She paid an ENORMOUS price to shed this male self. She lost her marriage and license to practice medicine…remember this was the early 1990s. Anyway, I learned everything from my friend of 30 years ago.

[@DS-zo8xs]

How are they doing now?

[@gingersnapppp]

"this idea of arriving somewhere with self is an illusion" wow yes

[@luisavega8218]

Amanda, I'm so overwhelmed about your love for Shaye, truly, both of you are amazing, I was scared because as Shaye said, people tend to fear what they don't understand, and I didn't understand, I didn't understand completely about the transition, thank you a lot for sharing.

[@Durga695]

It is so heart opening, to witness this Scott Family transform, support and love each other and remain partners. So glad your family and friends are with you on this adventure especially our hero Skylar who is becoming stronger and a most wonderful dad. Much love and inspiration to be myself from Israel.

[@sophiatheisen565]

shaye you look absolutely gorgeous! you are literally aging backwards and you look so happy and healthy! amanda, i admire you . i imagine this was equally as hard on you and you are handling it with such grace and love. you two are such an amazing couple and i’m so excited to watch this journey ❤️

[@maryhazlett]

I watched this thinking Shay is gorgeous!

[@Benniibennii]

I am so happy to be learning about this process and journey with y'all and how open and accepting and willing to learn along the way your family is for Shaye.

[@MarcAndreSchmid]

Unbelievable… First, I was following you because of your beautiful house project. Then, I saw a beautiful family. Now, I am so thankful for all I learned from your channel. Shaye is such a beautiful human! Your family just got more beautiful! Many thanks for sharing this with us. All the best from Switzerland ❤

[@cheykath]

I am grateful for this video. Thank you for sharing your story. Have I ever talked with a trans person about their journey? No, and I have never understood it. Which is why videos like this are needed. I think we all need to learn to listen when someone tells you who they are. Blessings to you. ❤

[@ivannikovatalks6906]

There aren’t enough words to describe how amazed I am by you as a family. A couple of years ago I found you while searching for some festive/home decor content and even back then I was amazed by the family dynamic and love you had for one another. You opening up about your religious upbringing and now about your gender identity, sharing this journey with us makes me so proud of you. I want you to know that as an open lesbian I am forever grateful for you being brave and strong enough to share your journey with us. I hope you feel loved and supported on your journey to your true self. Your community stands with you ♥️

[@rickysmom809]

The piano sold me. ❤❤❤ Love hearing it. Emotional story.

[@tonyiannazzo1072]

Hello Scott’s new to the channel question for you may I ask where you performed the hair transplant procedure in Istanbul Turkey? Great job! God speed with your new journey

[@GreatScotts]

Long hair center. They are amazing.

[@tonyiannazzo1072]

@@GreatScotts Thank you!!! ❤️❤️

[@tonyiannazzo1072]

@@GreatScotts is it much more economical than getting the hair transplant done in the USA or Canada? I just saw the KZbin videos, it seems like a very high end office for this company worried it could be expensive?

[@daniellecalder5193]

I have been here from the first really epic faith transition video and I am so happy to see this update as well! Congratulations and so so so much love for you and your family! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@AWDTH1111]

I am curious as to how you came to the conclusion that you are supposed to be a woman or where the line between feminine men and trans woman are. I am a 30 year old man. But I have long chin length hair with bangs, I wear makeup, more flowy and feminine clothes and female styles and shaved all over including my face. Yet I know I’m a man, am attracted to women. I am merely sensitive, emotionally aware, love beauty, aesthetics and feeling cute. I am aware that I am not what is considered a “normal or stereotypical” man by society. It’s annoying because society doesn’t cater much to men like me unless they consider me gay which to many’s surprise, I am not. What is the line between the two? Anyway just curious and want to be open minded and mean all love and respect to you and your journey!

[@GreatScotts]

Amanda here, 👋 I don’t think there is a line. I think there’s lots of shades of gray. People use language to describe different experiences. Some men like you might call themselves gender queer. I’m not sure if you align with that descriptor or not. Shaye isn’t calling herself a woman, but is taking steps to show up more femininely. The same thing with pronouns. I use “she” because it feels right to me, but she doesn’t expect that of everyone. I think a lot of people get caught up on the semantics of the transgender movement but what we’re really talking about is just individualized human experience. There’s so much diversity in the transgender community, and so many ways that people express their gender differently. Thanks for telling us a bit about you and your experiences. Wishing you the best!

[@AWDTH1111]

@@GreatScotts Thank you for taking the time to reply and the insight in it. I find it interesting that Shaye doesn’t seem to definitively have a label as a woman but just expressing what is culturally seen as feminine along with what personal characteristics are defined as feminine in constructs as well. I’m very curious to see where the road takes you two and the deeper insight others can glean from in their own lives including myself!

[@sarab8332]

@@GreatScotts Everybody falls different on the spectrum pole, you have binary and non-binary people. No two transitions are alike, we just need to be ourselves.

[@kelziebub1]

I am so happy for you and the support and love you have seen in becoming your authentic self. I found you guys through your brother's channel and seeing Skyler be an amazing advocate is heartwarming. Thank you for sharing. Love to you all x

[@katecox4339]

So proud of you for not letting your beliefs ruin your life. I am so proud of you.

[@karalee6522]

I can't imagine the bravery it took to share this, especially considering the current climate (it's toxic and hateful in so many ways). Really courageous to open your home up to the world. Thank you! humanizing trans people will save lives.

[@Brian.8272]

Her wife is amazing