GREEN FLAGS don’t mean anything anymore... l STORYTIME Dating in Korea🚩

[@sadweryiw6441]

Love bombing has become the new trap - so manipulative and so insidious. Sounds exactly like my recent ex. The key to getting out of that is perception/intuition.

[@pls-shanice]

you guys are so pretty

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

🥺❤️

[@janasiajanasia8610]

I literally screamed when you said he’s almost 40 that’s INSANE!! He doesn’t value himself or his time at all, let alone other ppl

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

GIIIIIRLL I had to put my clown makeup on

[@shristi1970]

girlllllllllllll, I went to new york for a guy that love-bombed me . This man paid for my flight I insisted on paying for my hotel, safety first. We spoke for three months, he would call me every day, he would send me flowers, and got me uber eats when I was sick. In the end, he was like let's just be friends . Ps I am from London. This is not a Korean thing I think the players have figured out the formula.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Noooooooo f’ing way !!!!

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

I would’ve fallen to my knees girl

[@tatih209]

The whole story makes a lot more sense once we know the dude was nearly 40! In general older men treats you better. I have that theory that men your age (1-3 years gap) will not emphasis on the gentleman part but you have a lot of fun with them. Once the age gap is over 7 years, they really want to take care of you and and show you how masculine and charismatic they are. It is not really about the age but about the gap. While the story was QUITE FRUSTRATING ( dude be wasting people time like we are going nowhere in this lifetime) I feel like it happen a lot when for older men. So definitely not you.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Thank you for saying that because I was seriously rethinking my entire being hahaha

[@NT-fq8sk]

I’m late to comment. But one thing I have realized living in Korea is regardless of the cultural difference you should trust your gut, intuition and/or God given discernment because it will save you a lot of time. Sorry this has happened to you but his humongous loss.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Very true! Thank you 🥰❤️

[@sweetbitterpink]

I didn't even know those were "green flags" lol. What I consider "green flags" are like the values they have and seeing if they are different or not from mine, for example: religious orientation, their position on socio-political issues (like capitalism, over-consumption, acucumulation of wealth, etc), on human rights (what they think about LGBTQ+ rights, feminism, misogyny, sexism, labor rights, racism, the immigrants situations and so much more). Those things are important to me and they are my green flags, these aspects are fundamental and non-negotiable (to me), is good to put them of the table. And it seems that these issues are difficult to bring up in a conversation but the reality is that when people talk, even sometimes in casual conversations, they express (intentionally or not) their position on all these issues plus the way they behave says a lot as well. And this is the bare minimum, bc the standard doesn't stop there, of course. Personality aspects also count, such as their temperament, their social life, their family relationships, their alcohol consumption, maybe also their job, and so on. Btw, maybe it's my personality but I always find the excessive politeness of some men (regardless of age) to be false and impostured. And that eagerness to be overly attentive and "gentlemen-like" has always seemed unnecessary to me. I prefer natural, genuine and relaxed interactions.

[@grace2128]

NO WAY cette vidéo date de 1 ans pourtant je pensais avoir regardé tout les vidéos de votre chaîne seigneur dire que je pensais grave c'était une nouvelle vidéo jusqu'à voir la date des com 😭💀

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

😂😂 a blast from the past!

[@sarahaile]

he went back to his ex...he probably showed her that he'd moved on and then decided to get back together. 😒

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Very possible!

[@fatisummer9106]

Is that why he introduced her to his friends because they had mutual friends and he wanted her to know , but guys who are still in love with ex GF ,usually talk a lot of their e xs ,My gf was like that and like THIS blah blah blah

[@mayavril1]

I think the other scary thing with korean/asian guys is they seem so timid/harmless/gentel/polite even other conservative cultures that are say Muslim it puts you at ease and then bam you're caught unawares by their douche behaviour or scandals like upskirt etc cos being a nice guy is just part of their "culture" whereas in other parts of the world generally you can really go by the way a person behaves to know if they are a gentleman or faking or easy going etc in these cultures showing your true colors even women is so punitive so everyone masks themselves by this mr/miss friendly persona. Really good to know even in not jumping into thinking friendships are that deep cos it could just be "politeness" lol

[@ellapierreserra]

It happened to me, and he litteraly broke up with me on my birthday. At the beginning i thought he was going through a mental health crisis so i stood there for a week trying to understand and stuff and "support" him. Until he told me that he did NOT know, what he wanted. Hahahaa.. I never contacted him ever again after that. We worked together, it was THE WORST! I felt worthless, like a trash bag someone descarted. But in front of him i acted like i didn't care at all. Anyway, it took me 8 months to completely get over him. It's been almost a year now, since next week is my birthday again. I think this video was a present from God; so i won't feel alone (or CRAZY) and to, of course, close that chapter definitely! Thank you so much! ❤

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

So sorry you had to go through all of this... but glad you put it all behind you! We really hope you'll meet someone who will treat you properly!! And early happy birthday 💛

[@bakgal2174]

Ohh la chute, ma belle, c'est dur purée. Fighting !!! Mais plus sérieusement, c'est choquant comment certains hommes sont "déterminés" jusqu'à mettre autant d'efforts pour finalement back up à la fin parce qu'ils savaient déjà quel type de relation il voulait, enfin bref...le début d'une psychopatie y'a pas d'autres termes 😂😅

[@sofiaspetsieris6799]

I feel like a red flag was that he constantly talked abt the future and marriage cuz if a guy did that to me I would think it’s weird and sketchy😂

[@fatisummer9106]

Maybe beacuase you are not in culture where "Dating for marriage" exist, when you both are in blind date or meeting in each other with regard of marriage talking about the future and asking the serious question is required , seeing that he is 40 years is normal to talk like that

[@sofiaspetsieris6799]

@@fatisummer9106 not when u first meet the person…if I first meet a person and they start going on a whole rampage how they want to marry me in the future I’m gonna think that’s weird cuz it’ll give me the impression that they’re obsessed with me and want to trap me in their life or smt

[@fatisummer9106]

@@sofiaspetsieris6799 No you have to talk about these things on the first date in "date in regard of marriage " ,if you are not on the same age about your future plan there is no need of wasting each other times, if you don't talk about your plan of marriage and your future plans the other party will think your not sincere or serious and of course wont want to have a second date with you

[@fatisummer9106]

@@sofiaspetsieris6799 But of course you dont bomb love your first date or accept any kind bomb love or else you will look like play boy ,like the guy in the story

[@sofiaspetsieris6799]

@@fatisummer9106 I don't mean u should not talk abt what u want in a relationship long term... I mean that u shouldn't say "I will marry u" on the first date cuz how do u know ur gonna even marry the person after only knowing them for one date?!

[@tizzaray]

you guys are a MOOD! ma insta homepage is popping cause of ya'll! keep up the good work Queens! Much love from the UK.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

🥹🥹🥹 that’s so sweet thank you

[@pru8097]

20:38 NOOO SIS 😰In the states we have commercials showing ppls last text and some of them are literally one word before they get into a fatal accident. But i get that you're saying normally he would just text even if he was in the car so this was abnormal for him. Also i've also texted and drived but im working on not using my phone especially when i start surfing for music cause its bad and ived had some close calls

[@Pearlebaby]

Man I had a similar situation haplen to me smh. It's crazy. Thankfully there was absolutely no kind of intimate physical interaction. I felt like I wasted time but not really lol.

[@wordswithkay]

I’m sorry but who has the TIME to love bomb. That’s crazy

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Psychos 😂😂😂

[@phaedra5283]

The good guy is good until you tell him no. Then it gets interesting.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

So true

[@virginiealohaa8163]

I agree 10000% with everything you said but I'd like to add whyyy introduce you to his friends as well!?!? That's so weird lol Is he just going to his friends saying that's the next girl I'm "having fun" with or what!?!?!? I'm very curious what he said to his friends behind your back lol

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

I ✨shiver✨ at the thought

[@jacquelines3685]

Beautiful Ladies!!❤️

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

You are so kind!

[@tiffanynguyen2156]

It seems common that pretty black foreigners have dated famous men in Korea. I just saw a couple videos that expressed the same.

[@donamorenoable]

"Let me tell the people"✋🏾 "Keeps couple items in the backseat"😂

[@pru8097]

12:34 NOT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WOODS GIRL 😭 I would be so scared to go out there especially if i just met them a few weeks prior so I would be side eyeing him and promptly decline.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Hahaha good point but just to clarify, it was an organized camp site with other people next to us etc etc 🤭🤭🤭

[@pru8097]

@@LiveOutLoudKorea Ohhh okay that makes sense 😭

[@LovelessBeloved1]

Hey girl👋🏾 could you pls let me know where you got your wig from? It is beautiful ❤

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Hi my sister gifted it to me!

[@glorychioma0919]

i love your hair where did you get it from in Korea

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Actually bought it in France!!

[@Snowlily01]

23:00 maybe it’s just my high alert behaviour but a man like that would not leave a woman alone in his place foolishly. I have a feeling he had cameras in there. Obviously hidden. It’s way more common and sneaky in South Korea than you can imagine. They usually sell these hidden cam recording on highly exclusive teleogram channels.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Scary stuff :(

[@tumelonyokong1265]

Korean men in Korea and churches in Korea are giving we're in the same whatsapp group #scary 😩💔

[@sadraolaedo4733]

What do you mean?

[@patturnweaver]

I hope foreign women don't come to Korea expecting to change the country- that is difficult. Language and cultural barriers are no joke. Consider carefully before you come here.

[@JesusAndLiliana]

this sounds so much like my girlfriends ex! ill reforward this video to her. Thanks for uploading guys. ill stay on the look out for these dusties

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

As you should !!! They’re insane

[@c.uni2370]

I don’t understand men & their brains 🧠 my ex insisted we become official dated for 2 months… said he couldn’t breathe and felt like he was gonna die not being able to see me. Bought me flowers held the door for me. Got me chocolates and cute desserts everytime he saw me. And then after two months he told me he couldn’t handle the distance when we was only an hour an half apart 😂 then a month later he contacted me again telling me that he got spooked that we moved “too fast” 😂 like sir I feel like didn’t even share a damn thing a bout my life to u 😂

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Insane!!!

[@SoulPatroller]

Is going to sex workers not an easy option for these guys? Seriously, if they know they only want sex, why not straight up pay for that rather than wasting time and money tricking someone who wants a relationship?

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Honestly!

[@justcyn8600]

le gros red flag de ce garçon est pour moi clair ahah , le garçon était beaucoup "trop parfait" . Après je ne suis jamais sortie avec un coréen mais cela me parait très suspect qu'il a été "AUSSI" investit ( je ne sais pas comment le verbaliser ahha ) .

[@justcyn8600]

Généralement , ça cache beaucoup de chose ahah

[@justcyn8600]

De plus ,il faisait beaucoup de chose , sans réellement définir la relation , sans expliquer sa démarche ...

[@justcyn8600]

Moi ça ne me choque même plus , les garçons sont devenus des sorciers mdrrr . Ils savent ce qu'ils veulent, ils sont prêts à parler avec toi , te faire croire qu'ils sont prêts à être dans une relation etc.. pour que toi , tu te sentes en "sécurité" et te faire tomber love pour qu'au final , ils t'utilisent et te laissent sans aucune information

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

T’as tout compriiiis

[@MaryanneArty]

Gbam! You have just hit the nail on the head.

[@Snowlily01]

10:00 is it just me who thinks this guy is doing things way too quick? Like seems like he’s in a rush and that’s never a good sign

[@faizajanisjason6688]

Ohw love bombing :o It's hard to be in couple these days, Lord have mercy😩

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Really is.. :/

[@manscreations100]

Girl. I was tired for you listening to this whole story 😅

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Giiiirl!!!!

[@ClayMastah344]

Y’all are TENS

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

🙈🙈

[@amused890]

Bro i haven't seen more pretty girls then them. Off topic jlbut facts

[@darodavid4378]

Well, in summary it was a waste of time. Meanwhile, with all of that and how you handled it, I'd say you're kind tho 😅

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Hahaha yeah! Actually just lazy to deal with more bs so I just let go lol

[@pru8097]

15:07 Love bombing and future faking 😭

[@makinsomechanges30]

This dating story was really good😅😅 . I was like ohh he was a zaddy😂.

[@EverestOnyekwere]

I don't understand, are you guys kinda semi-identical or fraternal twins or just friends??!.. I mean, are you blood sisters or friends?..

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

We’re friends.

[@EverestOnyekwere]

@@LiveOutLoudKorea okay. Thanks

[@elenakursteiner4729]

I Wish that Girl from Left,in blue dress,did give opportunities for her friend,and let her also speak out:) and No:I'm not racistThanks ❤

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Duly noted ❤️

[@jacquelines3685]

@@LiveOutLoudKorea WTF🤷🏽‍♀️

[@danielfortier2812]

Sounds like you wanted more and are upset they didn’t. I’m mean you can plan hypothetical futures. Possibility is cool. Why did he do this? Easy answer is because he wanted to and he wanted to test the water. You asked for absolute of are we and he said maybe and you got scared.

[@LiveOutLoudKorea]

Exactly! Haha