Growing up Mixed: On trying to fit in, building confidence, beauty standards, and self-discovery.

In this heartfelt conversation, Tori shares her journey from Uganda to Japan, navigating cultural differences and experiencing culture shock. We talked about the upbringing in two distinct cultures, exploring how the household balanced similarities and differences, and the experiences as a mixed-race individual, struggling with stares and bullying. Tori talks about her struggles with racism, identity, and fitting in, ultimately finding self-acceptance and confidence in high school. We also talked about the challenges of toxic friendships, body dysmorphia, and the importance of changing mindset, and the impact of social media. The dialogue turns to getting to know Tori better such as fashion trends and personal preferences. Throughout, Tori shares her wisdom with her experiences and insights into a rich tapestry of identity, culture, and self-discovery.
0:00 introduction, meeting up
01:07 getting to know Tori, Growing up in Uganda and moving to Japan, culture shock
03:43 learning about both culture (was the household divided, similarities, differences)
06:46 Experiences of being mixed (being stared at, how was it growing up in Uganda)
10:30 Racism and identity (racial comments, wanting to be one race more than the other, trying to fit in, being bullied)
17:25 self-acceptance and gaining confidence in high school (being popular, being on the swimming team, puberty, body image, being around good energy, fluctuating in body confidence)
21:45 Struggling with toxic friendships(negative influence of others, body dysmorphia, eating habits, the importance of changing your own mindset
25:28The fluctuations of body image, beauty standards in both cultures, the stress of following beauty trends.
27:47 The impact of social media (shopping addictions, beauty trends)
27:44 being you embracing your own beauty, changing your mindset.
30:38 the struggle with clothing sizes in different countries
32:25 the complexities of being mixed, Balancing between two cultures, sense of belonging, are you more this than that, different cultures, effect of culture on your personality)
38:35 being passive aggressive and direct
41:40 feeling accepted by family, pressure to fit the standard of both culture , being treated differently)
44:37 Different personalities in different languages
45:53 Engaging with Japanese culture (movies, tv shows)
47:27 Confidence and self image (social anxiety, inner and outer confidence, the way you to talk to yourself)
54:18 Dealing with racism during Covid 19
56:07 Favorite fashion trends/ fashion inspiration
59:30 Sunset or sunrise
01:00:38 City life or nature life
01:02:15 Tori’s wise words :)

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Such a good epizode Mai!!! Tori seems like amaizing soul❤❤❤

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Tori doing podcasts!?? 2024 gonna be a good year fr!!

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You've grown soooo much Tori. It's been nice hearing from you after such a long time. Wish you all the best❤

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