GRWM + Goal Setting | Kiki Said So

[@saint6416]

Please do NOT quit Cocktales Keeks 😢 the show is original, creative, fun & refreshing! I think you guys are the blueprint & thats why other shows mimic what you all do (no shade, it’s room + money out here for everyone). But I do think there’s room for growth in the guest dept. I think you guys definitely collab with great guests but collabing with bigger names or other podcaster/youtubers with a cult following could help boost you guys to reach broader audiences. As much as I hate to admit it, toxic men with opposing views make for good clickbait. Tonight’s Conversation crew, Navv with Broken Play cast & Joe Budden could be starting points. Or consider assistance from a media company or manager. I’d love to see you all grow and roll into more opportunities.

[@saint6416]

Also since your audience is 30+ consider older women like video vixens (sheneka Adam’s, Bernice Burgos), ex-strippers or sex workers (Kash doll, tiara walton) and more entrepreneurs (Ming Lee). Not limited to these people but just ideas to grow your network. A lot of podcasts appeal to younger women (easier to influence + manipulate) but what about those of us who have grown from that but still love lighthearted fun & a good ki. Hope this helps 🫶🏾

[@KikiSaidSo]

@@saint6416 Thanks for the feedback! Funny enough, we had Sheneka Adams on back in 2017, unfortunately she wasn't the best guest because she wasn't very open to the topics except for the ones about her cosmetic surgery. Sometimes that happens and we've found a lot of times we have high hopes for guests like that and we let them know in advance what the show is and what we'll talk about, but I guess when we hit record people get shy/nervous. Will definitely try to get more guests like that in the future.

[@mamaT.111]

My friend just text me the other day & was like “I’m cracking up at Cocktales right now!!” & I’m like girll I literally just finished the episode! Lmao we met at school this year and just so happen to both be fans of your show as well as Whoreible. My main complaint is Medinahs holier than thou attitude lately as if she’s too good for certain things/people/ways... Its one thing to grow & evolve but its another thing to have your nose high and act like everyone is beneath you… I’m happy for her being in a good relationship but lets find a balance and still have fun on the pod in the meantime. Sooo, yes! Lets get back to the funny, lighthearted content! I dont ever miss a Cocktales pod but I look forward to Pour Minds more because its girl talk with open minded, nonjudgmental funny content!! You would thrive there, Kiki. Wish you the best! Xoxo

[@KikiSaidSo]

Thanks for the feedback! Definitely some things for us to think about and apply going forward.

[@montinezkornegay1316]

Notice the growth a while ago. I’m here for it . Build your brand ! Stay the course! Your audience should be maturing also!

[@tyrag.7560]

Loved this vlog! As someone who has watched this podcast from the beginning, I think ya’ll are just growing as people. And unfortunately, sometimes your followers won’t always grow with you. The content and conversations are more mature, relationship statuses have changed, etc. I’m older and can relate to you both in several ways, so that’s what keeps me a forever fan. Always happy to support you guys whether ya’ll continue to do the show or venture off to new, individual things. Just keep us informed! 🤍 Also, looking forward to hearing more about the details of your trip! I turn 30 in January and was hoping I could just pay to go on your trip to avoid planning myself! 😂

[@ayanarosa7442]

i’ve been listening to you guys for a few months now so i’m a very early listener, i still enjoy the content i like a lot of guests you guys have on but i also love the old episodes a little more i understand you guys matured but sometimes the unhinged content is what kept me watching lol

[@morgandavis9387]

Loved this grwm. Have listened to the pod for years but really enjoy this format hearing from you directly. And love on the pod when you guys have guests who focus on wellness. ❤

[@KikiSaidSo]

awww thank you!!!!

[@katalinabarron3141]

I’ve missed your personal content! But yasss you ladies please continue Cocktales till the wheels fall off! Y’all have really been the big sisters that I can relate to when anything happened in life and help me laugh & bounce back 💓💓

[@lara8139]

I’m an OG listener and started listening from 2017 lol. I personally think it’s just life experiences that shapes topics and discussions on the podcast. I do notice more seriousness on the topics now and I felt like it was due to just maturing more into womanhood and understanding relationships in depth. I wouldn’t expect y’all to always be outside and have endless cocktales. One of the episodes that truly helped me was when the gynecologist came on and she made some really good points when it came to black women and fertility preservation. There were things I took notes on and brought them to my own doctor lol

[@christinajester1678]

Hey Kiki Thank you for being vulnerable and saying that I don’t think a lot of women say that it’s refreshing to hear you say when things weren’t going right in your life and you enjoy watching videos of other people living theirs. I think we all feel that and not much people say that, but that’s pretty much how I ended up on your page. I enjoy your blogs because I’m at a place in my life where yes things are happening, but the timing isn’t right. I feel like I’m not living my best life, I should be doing more, every time I come on your page it inspire me me to do more.

[@KikiSaidSo]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@sweetie4305]

I started listening to Cocktales about a year ago when y’all were on Shan’s podcast and absolutely fell in love with y’all. This podcast was for me. A 30 something who enjoyed talking about sex and dating in this generation and listening to others talk about it too. I really enjoy going back through old episodes; especially trying out the cocktails y’all share. If y’all decided to end Cocktales, I wouldn’t be mad. It’s apart of evolution. And I don’t feel like y’all love as much anymore. Just take a break. And plus y’all did 400 episodes! That’s alot! And amazing! I’ll support whatever y’all decide to do. Just keep the episodes up so we can enjoy.

[@jaybd6562]

KIKI PLZZ DO NOT STOP COCKTALES !!! I began watching you guys back in 2022, I came across you guys through Pour Minds. I really enjoy you and Medina's chemistry and viewpoints, I admire how you guys can disagree, but continue the conversation and explaining your viewpoints. It is also very fun making the cocktails that you guys create. Keep going and growing ! We love yall !

[@mamaT.111]

I like the idea of writing your negative thoughts out, too. I usually go about journaling in the ordinary way of gratitude etc but I do think I would benefit from writing out my complaints because Im in a relationship and sometimes I can dump my emotions and negativity on him which is something Im working on so I’m gonna try that method too. Its all about balance, theres no ONE way to journal. We just gotta take it one day at a time and honor how we feel in that moment when we sit down with our pen and paper. Everyday our intention for journaling may be different. I hope you find your flow and stay inspired to keep writing!

[@KikiSaidSo]

🤎🤎🤎

[@shareenaturner1793]

More videos like these on KZbin for sure are my favorite.. missed ur lives on IG. Lov that your goal setting I went ahead and did some while listening Im trying to also journal!!! Keep going sis we’re still here

[@ErikaAyana]

I love Cocktales and want to see it flourish like your friends so bad! In my opinion there was a certain point where it no longer felt like “a safe space” from the combination of some judgy/hypocritical comments/feelings expressed with the pullback of sharing at the same time. I think there’s a space for people to feel how they feel and to keep things personal but then the concept of the show needs to also change/evolve to fit those circumstances.

[@kimq7328]

Omg yes!!! I feel like ever since the other girl got in a relationship she’s now super judgy and forgets all she has shared about her past and is now hypocritical. I don’t think they mesh well anymore.

[@bonniej925]

Kiki! I love the podcast and was an avid listener prior to the pandemic and would listen during my morning and afternoon commute. My reason for not listening as much now is because I work remotely.

[@KikiSaidSo]

Thank you!!! And yea I've definitely cut back on listening to pods when I don't have to be in the car/travel as much.

[@keyannabrown5838]

Hey girlie 🤗 i hope you’re having a great start to your refreshing journey.

[@KikiSaidSo]

Thank you! And I am, day 1 went well and got the video posted so day 2 Is on track, mostly. I'm feeling like Ina Garten from Barefoot Contessa so I think I'm gonna get dressed and go to the grocery store and make a meal for my imaginary family lol.

[@ErikaAyana]

I also think you need to start doing more alone! Podcast features, posting your thoughts on Tiktok, being an ATL lifestyle girlie, etc! Maybe even a side pod like B.Simones/Mandii, etc where it’s just u and different guests! People still see it for you!

[@anuradhalagna2424]

Please do the desserts cookbook!

[@joyflashnflair9086]

I love cocktales and I actually have been listening since the beginning, I used to listen for every drop but I have noticed I like to wait now for visuals. So it did slow my consumption down. Also I prefer just y’all. I’m also a Patreon member

[@jannathomas692]

I have watched cocktales for years…I’d have to agree that while the serious conversations are nice occasionally, more fun, comedic episodes are what I’d like to see personally. Respectfully, It is also different bc Medinah is no longer dating and it is different to see a more mature, refined, church going Medinah. Lol not a bad thing, but different so I can see why a former listener may not love the current content.

[@breannadevoe1722]

Yesssss you said this so perfectly! I miss the fun hoe stories it was exciting to watch but now it’s different 😞

[@krystalb0385]

Hi Kiki! I use to be an avid listener and kinda fell off for number of reasons. 1. Life just got busy 2. I find myself enjoying just you and Medinah. Although, you’ve had some great guests, I prefer just you two. 3. …And the big one…Medinah got a boyfriend. I am super happy for her but I always end up falling off when my favorite creators get a significant other. It changes the vibe of the content. Nonetheless, you two are still my favorite go to sex podcast! You got me through so much and I really hope you’ll get more listeners! ❤

[@KikiSaidSo]

Thank you so much for the feedback 🤎

[@brianawilliams7846]

Hey Kiki, I listen and I am subscribed. Thank you for the vulnerability.

[@KikiSaidSo]

🤎🤎🤎 Thank you!

[@livallure]

Awee, I needed this!

[@KikiSaidSo]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@lovepeacexsoul]

I keep a journal at my desk (at home) and I find that it’s easy to pick it up whenever I’m taking a mental break or something like that . Since I’m at my desk almost everyday it makes the habit more consistent . My goal is to go for a 30 min walk every single day…I have a reminder set daily on my phone at 4:10pm…now sometimes I don’t (been slacking) but the alarm is helpful .

[@KikiSaidSo]

That's a good idea, I need to do the same. Maybe I should put mine on my desk too and instead of scrolling IG, just journal a bit.

[@VTG510]

I love the podcast ♥️ and I really enjoy your personality particularly. I think the show has become more serious and for an older crowd. I’m 28 and I really enjoyed hearing about the different sex stories you guys shared bc it was something you didn’t see from black women and it empowered me sexually. I think you guys should get back to the roots of the show and maybe add some new segments. For example, maybe a snippet of you cooking for date night on the podcast and the whole episode on patreon. I love the show and hope you guys decide to keep it going 🥰

[@missmiathe1]

hey Kiki! I’ve been a cocktales listener since 2021 I started from episode 1. I loveddddd the episodes down!! back then they were more fun & exciting. ofc you ladies are more mature & I get the privacy aspect if it all but I think the show kinda slowed down for alot of listeners. Yall should def keep the show going but maybe add a lil more “UMPH”. or maybe yall can add another co host.

[@TheBlackAesthetic]

You should consider making an accountability patreon. I am an artist and struggle with promoting my work consistently.

[@letashaluxuries5661]

Yes get back to the light heartedness of dating. I get it serious conversations is needed to build a healthy relationship. I use Fenty beauty and skincare. I just joined the Clean Skin Club and so far my skin ❤ it. GRWM, check ins, cooking videos yes, yes and yes. Been here since the beginning but these past months have been topics I’m NOT interested in. Those will be the one’s I didn’t watch or like. 400 episodes is a big deal 🎉🎉500 would be a great ending if both of yall are growing in different directions.

[@SiimplyKeish]

Hey Kiki! I read quite a few comments and agree with most ppl on how it’s becoming more mature. While that’s great, I love that for yall, but I’m a Virgo and my feedback is completely diff. I love both of yalls personality and def prefer to watch vs listen. I cannot stand when yall have the guest sitting there forever before yall introduce them. I understand yall have church announcements but can they pls wait till the end or be plug during a break? The announcements in the beginning really turns me off cause I miss when yall would just start talking. And speaking of talking, go back to talking over each other 😭😭 I know that sounds terrible but I mean bounce back and forth off each other during the catch up. Kiki you haven’t shared much about your personal life in a while babes yall don’t give the men nicknames any more. I know Medinah has a bf but I miss yall coming in telling us about who yall were with over the weekend. You don’t have to share all the details but get a little graphic with it. Sorry if that came off rude, I’m at work typing this. I’m still listening though. I love yall!

[@KikiSaidSo]

Hey girl hey, and thanks for the feedback. STOP! Don't you or anyone look at this comment and be like bitch I ain't reading all that....i retyped this bout fifty eleven times cuz i really wanna get out these thoughts and I want to be clear even when I'm not always sure and because I appreciate you telling me and I know others feel the same. Annnnnd before i decide not to be vulnerable and not speak up because just two days ago I was on my soapbox in the book club reminding the girls to speak up about what you want, where you want to go and what you want out of life, you never know who is listening and those feelings and this major shift upwards in my life literally stemmed from this video right here and comments like yours! I don't think I gave anyone else an essay response and I really should just put this on the teleprompter and record another video to get up it up real quick saying all this lol, and at first I said I wasn't but after i realized everything i typed up was looking like a book, I hit the copy/paste to a google doc! Let me take another shower because it's hot out and walking this dog got me feeling musty and while Lume can definitely have you smelling fine, the way this baby keeps trying to lick me i must be salty as a potato chip from the sweat. Gonna do another get ready with me so I can also stop procrastinating with these vids and pics i gotta take and get it uploaded today. I'll leave you a comment to let you know its up (but i hope you're subscribed and that you hit the bell icon to turn notifications on for alllll my videos.

[@SiimplyKeish]

@@KikiSaidSo Kiki 😩 my apologies if my comment came off rude. I was at work, listening to a diff pod, and it reminded me that I wanted to leave feedback. So I was typing fast and did not reread. Not sure how you received my feedback but I was replying with love and good intentions. While I feel how I feel, yall still my #1 pod and I just be like it is what it is. But I watched a very old ep the other day, before my comment. Yall had a friend name Hanna on, and while you and Medinah were shooting the Sh*t she was just sitting there cause one of you said something like we’ll give you a proper introduction in a min. And I watched her laugh silently while yall had a good ki ki and that happens often. Where as I see on other pods, they let the guest chime in and still eventually get around to a proper introduction. A podcast with too many ppl talking over each other is indeed caos. But you guys used to have a good rhythm with sharing what you been up to and the other chimes in and yall laugh and it’s all good. I have a point where I feel like this changed but don’t want to mention it here. And I don’t mean get graphic fr, I understand growing and maturing but you on your vlogs and you on cocktales now seem like diff ppl. And I just want that same Kiki persona to come back to cocktales. Now what’s for you is for you, but with some of the ppl you two have collaborated with, there’s no reason why you two shouldn’t be offered similar opportunities. And of course Idk that you haven’t but what you said on this video sounds similar to something Medinah said a while back. And I want those opportunities for you two too cause someone said yall were the blueprint for these others pods and yall damn sure are!! Now idk if this comment was any better girl you know is virgos walk a fine line between sweet & rude. But babay, I am subscribed, rang the bell and all the good stuff girl. I’m rooting for yall!

[@KikiSaidSo]

@@SiimplyKeishoh girl it didn’t come off rude and i didn’t get to to the grwm yesterday but i am today. I just know that sometimes i think that because ppl don’t know more of my real life and why i don’t feel comfortable to share as much on cocktales and what I’ve been going through that i felt moved to explain in more detail. and the comment was a prob too long by KZbin’s standards to post. Short answer is, when you tell people you’re stressed, depressed, and really going through some serious things that aren’t what I’d consider trivial for my own life, like silly man problems i won’t care about in a month, and that you’re really not doing well mentally and you’re doing your best to get through it and keep going…and they don’t have consideration for that, it’s still “you don’t share anything, we wanna know who you’re on a date with, we wanna know who u having sex with, do u have a man, blah blah blah” it’s like damn im trying not to have a damn breakdown and totally lose myself and yall are pressing me about dates and s*x when i literally said im not interested, im not doing it right now, im trying to work on me and being my best self. Yea it doesn’t feel safe to share anything. What i do have isn’t fun, and nobody is listening/cares anyway. That’s really how i feel a lot of times plus there’s a little more to it than what you’ll see on an episode. Anyway it’s getting recorded today, hopefully

[@SiimplyKeish]

@@KikiSaidSo I read your response and I’m thinking, I can’t recall if yall have ever skipped an episode. I think I heard you mention you started cocktales after listening to pods like The Read and girl, they take breaks often to take care of themselves. Kiki, your true supporters would understand. All the comments I read with ppl saying it’s diff but more mature and you two are growing, if yall need to skip a week or two, we will be just fine. Have to take care of yourself. We want yall to be happy, paid & healthy ok. Lol now let me go see if you posted this video cause I been at a Bnb putting your vlog on everyday 😭😭

[@mygoodsis1933]

I started watching cocktales during the Panasonic & the original chemistry was amazing. Medina was very unhinged and it was always something. Now yall are more mature which is to be expected- growth wanted. BUT yall give uninterested sometimes. Medina literally turns her nose up to some things almost giving prude and as a Libra myself, I know we get that way when we’re living different lives than what we used to but it can be perceived to some as thinking you’re better than people. Then while medina tells her boyfriend stories kikis like okay wrap it up & being more quiet than usual. And you’ve expressed you wanna protect what’s dear to you but tbh it’s MANY pods that ppl know they’re w someone but no names. Pour girls, the jokes on u, all kinds. I would say be more personable bc it doesn’t give personably anymore. ORRr do cocktales REVAMPED w a whole new vibe giving talk show. Either or.

[@missmiathe1]

Also I think the vibe between the 2 of you just feels cold. it feels like yall don’t talk outside of the podcast at all! the convo is slow , idk in the earlier episodes it seem like you guys actually hung out so it made the pod better because you would tell us about the events! I think it’s just lacking chemistry in short.

[@Sarahgreen634]

I think not hearing positive cocktales from you both or just reading listener cocktales killed it for me. Also, there isn’t a good synergy between you guys, sorry but I think you’d go further with another co host.

[@KikiSaidSo]

I've got to get back to actually making the cocktales lol but I'm getting back in my groove, it's coming

[@mygoodsis1933]

ALSO Caresha stole yall pod card game idea. Yall card game came out first.

[@shareenaturner1793]

I just want less guests and more girl talk. but if we’re gonna have them the need to be lively. I understand life is changing for you both and I love that but the energy is down more so w medinah and not you.. love you both

[@KikiSaidSo]

I personally love the girl talk episodes, any topics in particular you think would be good for us to discuss on the show?

[@TiffanyWestNyc]

I stopped listening to the podcast, well all podcast in your category because I feel like you guys didn’t get the success it deserved compared to your peers. So nothing against yall I just feel like it isn’t fair when yall made the blueprint. lol it’s a stupid reason but I hope you understand what I mean! I hope you and Medinah are okay, I hope the audience understands things don’t last forever!

[@KikiSaidSo]

aww man, lol. I kinda get what you're saying but I do wonder why you not seeing the success you think we deserve made you stop listening? Honestly curious if you don't mind sharing a bit more.

[@TiffanyWestNyc]

⁠@@KikiSaidSoI feel like you guys deserve more, I feel like it’s unfair certain podcast(I won’t say any names because that’s classless) had perks I thought y’all deserved. I guess you don’t think of it like that cause you focus on yourself(your podcast)! It’s unfair to me like hurts to watch or hurts to listen lol like yall should be having more yall kept things real all the way through but I guess that’s the game you know it’s not talent it’s who you know! Just saying! I don’t wanna name names cause your friends with some of them and like I said it’s classless

[@tonyjones-lg3zu]

Honesty coming here ok I think people love cocktales people love you and people love your co host now I know that people miss the stories from the old days the good the bad fail or success that is alot of the excitement of the show, we have watched you guys grow and applaud you for doing so, so we get that you won't always have a personal sex story but that was what pulled people in no offense to the reading stories we like them to but that's not what made anyone subscribe no offense some enjoy living vicariously and some just like hearing your personal adventures some just enjoy being able to identify like hey I just did the same thing last night 😊 because ultimately it's you guys we are interested in, we like your personalities and your interactions when more in tune, that being said a bit of a push off may be because some of us don't enjoy seeing slight jabs being taken or disdained or just outright disrespect being shown to one another or to a guess. If you have been going through a tuff time in your personal life we haven't noticed not because we don't care (sorry if you have feel better you are great) but because you don't bring it on camera, your co host is having a bit of trouble keeping it professional we as your audience we understand that life takes you on different journeys sometimes and you both have grown so much from when we started with you, but you both are aware that this is an entertainment business BUSINESS feelings shouldn't be disregarded but also shouldn't change the dynamic of the show things can be brought up to help others, to learn from, and to laugh at ourselves or seriously in a light hearted or fun way if it is going to be on camera, the attacks on co hosts and guests not fun to watch it's cringing and it makes people pick sides separating your audience. Example the episode with mandy is self explanatory I only brought it up because of the comparison that happened on that show whoreble decisions and pour minds are not better shows ( I only mention those two because they are the only ones that compare in my opinion ) but I have heard both shows admit that there have been times that they couldn't stand each other but I didn't show on camera and they worked through it and get on with the show if back and forth banter does take place neither person checked out and just stopped participating in the show or became aggressive or cut off the guests, that pandemic episode with pour minds was a good time, that we all needed, should have let the good times roll but no an attitude of oh you all are so rich the bbd's the man had was in a store bag not a silk bag or everyone is engaging and laughing and the guest is cut off like anyway were moving on no matter who invited the guests or what the relationship is off camera they are still invited guests that combative attitude towards Lex showed before we were made aware of the roast beef or chicken beef what ever they called it was made known but when the shows reversed in guests and host it wasn't shown if you know how to act sometimes you know how to act all the time this rudeness has been displayed towards you and other guests as well. Now I don't want to seem like I am picking because yes we also saw when came in lit tfu and almost put your treasure of pleasure in that lady's face during her detox presentation 😂 but I am sure that you had a talk with yourself (HR Department) and I don't recall seeing that again but the other issues are recurring attacking and/or checking out during the episode especially with guests who may or may not return is not a good time or interesting it's annoying and a downer we hear you ladies working on your physical,mental, and your relationships and the real ones are sticking around because we are proud to see your success and your growth you have come a long way and you have put your all into this don't throw out the baby out with the bathwater this show is your baby dry it off and raise it don't drown your dream regroup with your co hosts ask her to think beyond her honeymoon phase and look at how far you all have come with the show and if she sees any way she can merge it with her new way of living if her life journey is taking her in a different direction wish her well and continue to advance with your show it's still your baby just not so little anymore now is a teenager and we all know you have to handle them differently maybe focus more on introducing your audience to different aspects of sex and people in the sex world like Sir Marvelous or people giving firsthand experience to some of the products you endorse, hell sex just sent mandy to the ER they are not on any more add some of that to weird sex it's so many avenues to go down with sex most people have it most of them love it and it's not going anywhere I really hope you ladies find a great space and keep going you have built up a following and that is hard to do and time consuming can't wait to see amazing new episodes of Cocktales all the way up to it's ripe old age😊 I hope you get a team to help take some of the load off, maybe internships until your budget will allow you to upgrade them to employees anyway we love seeing Walker just getting big you and Jay are hilarious just being silly and arguing 😂. You got this just stay with it. Don't quite you are smart and creative you both are.

[@anuradhalagna2424]

I wonder if the decline in listeners is just from the pandemic ending, I used to watch cocktales for hours during lockdown after I found u guys from whoreible. I still watch weekly! but maybe that accounts for the difference in numbers. Maybe take a break instead of ending the show 🥺 and focus on promoting the show on different outlets so more people can find it. But ofc do what is best for you guys!

[@KikiSaidSo]

I'm sure the pandemic had a lot to do with it and people's habits/routines changing, valid points.

[@lara8139]

I’m an OG listener and started listening from 2017 lol. I personally think it’s just life experiences that shapes topics and discussions on the podcast. I do notice more seriousness on the topics now and I felt like it was due to just maturing more into womanhood and understanding relationships in depth. I wouldn’t expect y’all to always be outside and have endless cocktales. One of the episodes that truly helped me was when the gynecologist came on and she made some really good points when it came to black women and fertility preservation. There were things I took notes on and brought them to my own doctor lol

[@shareenaturner1793]

I just want less guests and more girl talk. but if we’re gonna have them the need to be lively. I understand life is changing for you both and I love that but the energy is down more so w medinah and not you.. love you both