Hair Mistakes That Age You Faster // SIMPLE FIX TO COMMON MISTAKES!

[@melissac7908]

I was sitting in the parking lot waiting to get my hair cut wondering what to do with my hair. I checked my email and there was the video that Justin made for me. As I sat in the parking lot watching and reading the comments, I was so taken back by all your comments of encouragement and kindness you all have shown. Thank you! Justin provides a safe and amazing community for us to share, as well as great advice. Thank you, Justin! I went with the last suggestion. Thank you!

[@megcormack681]

I hope you love it Melissa❤

[@brendaserafino5034]

Excellent choice! I’m sure you’re rocking it! ❤

[@masonc4105]

Love the new hair cut Mom!! For all y'all wondering it looks great

[@labornurse]

You have such thick, nice hair I'm positive anything you choose will be great! I hope 2023 is YOUR year! God bless you!

[@msnetz45]

I’m loving the shorter, maximum curly style! I also like the sleeker shape, too. If you were able to have the shortening and layering done correctly, I bet you can do either one, depending on how you feel on any given day! You do have beautiful, expressive dark eyes and great cheekbones, and with your new style, I hope they really stand out! If you feel more confident, I hope you can focus on all the positives you bring to the world, starting with your open, friendly expression that just drew me in with your very first photo!

[@masonc4105]

Love the new hair cut Mom!! For all y'all wondering it looks great. Thank you for all of the amazing comments. My mother is an amazing person thank you for the outpouring of support.

[@Irish-Triplet]

What a great son!

[@maandren]

That is awesome! Hope she love's it too! ❤

[@LaurieLeeAnnie]

Thank you for commenting on here for your Mom. She has obviously been a wonderful Mom to you for you to be such a lovely son! 🧡

[@marelunareikiasmr]

You're mum is beautiful and has kind eyes 🥰

[@kelliedoxiern4308]

Mason so awesome to hear! I wish I still had my son.

[@kristinlane597]

Melissa, you deserve to feel good about yourself inside and out. From an outsider's view, you have beautiful dark, kind eyes and they work so well with your rich dark hair colour. Know that no matter what physical changes that your body has been through, that you are loved and deserving of it. You are worth taking care of! And when you start really loving yourself (and a good start is self-care) your physical self will respond with better health and you will be drawn to habits that support that.

[@justinhickox]

Yes to all of this!!! Love it! Thank you for sharing it!

[@karenparham7080]

Kristin said it so well. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Your beautiful ❤

[@rosehuff5347]

MELISSA, you are so brave to allow your image to help so many of us make changes in our own appearances. I also need to make some changes but do not know what to do! You go girl!

[@leeannechiles6810]

Hi Melissa! I also went from a size 2 to an 18/20 due to hysterectomy and 10 other surgeries over a 10 year period. No one tells you about all of the side effects. I have since taken control of my life and my look and gone bold and silver. I'm 55, have naturally curly, brown and silver, and I cut 15" off and am letting the silvers go silver!! You would also look fabulous with a shorter cut and gray. Stop the madness of coloring! I was coloring every 6 weeks with auburn. I just said I'm done and since then, been growing it. It's shaved on one side and longer all over and it's short! Something i said I Wouldn't NEVER do. Never would I have thought that silver hair would be something I would embrace, lol , but I did. I had the same style you have, the long hair, thick, oval face.... me. I looked on pinterest and found a cut that was bold and brave. I was tired of looking like a mom. All of that being said, take it as an inspiration. You have total control over your body and hair. Don't beat yourself up for gaining weight. Just change your habits, add water and less carbs, and protein. I did an Atkins and also I did a Medifast program to lose more than 100 lbs. I used Optavia, but it's just a suggestion. You look beautiful no matter what you choose to do with your hair. You ARE worthy!!! And important!! I wish you luck and happiness!! If you want to friend me on fb, feel free and i can tell you more, should you like. But, my hair is like yours, curly, wavy, but now it's shorter. I love it!! Best wishes and hope you picked up some great tips!! 👍 🙂🙃🙂🙃🙂

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@leeannechiles6810 Silver hair is fine unless you are like me and the "grays" are wiry and brassy, like old pubic hair. Then, you are forced to stay on the color tread mill until you run out of normal hair. Fortunately, for the time being, I've only got a few wiry pubic hairs on my head.....😄

[@PookieK]

Melissa is a beautiful woman. She has gorgeous skin, amazing eyes and cheekbones. What a courageous woman to do this to help herself and all of us watching. I stopped coloring my gray hair in 3/20 and it was the best thing I ever did. I’m fully gray now and love it. I agree you have to put down the color when you are ready

[@justinhickox]

I love this! So true on all accounts!

[@Nissa55574]

Same! I'm 48 stopped coloring 3/20 when I started working from home. Was tired of being a slave to coloring (natural hair is black)

[@mouse9727]

I completely agree with you. I stopped colouring my hair a few months before I turned 50. I had been dying it since mid twenties. I was ready and it was so liberating. Melissa is a lovely lady with a radiant smile. I hope the comments help her

[@leahrowe847]

I grew up with a Mom who's treasured each & every grey hair as a badge of honor, & in her 80s she's still got a more than 50/50 black hair/grey ratio... LOL! So when mine started getting Li'l shoots of grey in my 40s, I just adopted the same attitude & I don't regret it at all. It probably helped that my hair dresser said I could pick between the perm for curls or color, & of course I choose the curls with volume & that wash & go ease. Love the tips & advice~ Thanks for sharing!

[@carrieace5884]

Dear Melissa, I am so proud of you sharing your story. That takes a lot of courage! Your story hit me personally. I had my thyroid removed to to cancer cells growing. No one prepared me for the weight gain. I had gone from a 10 to 16. I was a hard and long process. I have come to love myself unconditionally. This body is just a vehicle. Your spirit and soul is who you are. Do not let anyone one anything steal your shine. Keep shining my love! You a more powerful than you know!

[@Andra-cr9cd]

Melissa, I too had a full hysterectomy and have hypothyroidism and understand the struggles you are going through. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some grace. Your body has been through a lot so give it time to heal. Whatever suggestion Justin gives will just be icing on the cake because you are a beautiful person inside and out! Sending prayers for continued healing.

[@justinhickox]

Thank you!!! It’s great to hear this from someone who’s gone through it as well! Love this!

[@carrieboese9670]

I’m in the same boat as well. Thank you Melissa for putting yourself out there and sharing your story and questions.

[@sherryalexander2421]

Hi Melissa! I am a 62 year old woman and I decided to stop coloring my hair a year ago. I didn't approach the adventure as "giving up," rather I wanted a new experience! The decision to not color my hair anymore made me feel in control and not society. Meaning I wasn't going to let others tell me gray hair makes you look old. I love my hair and the different variations of browns and gray. As Justin stated ... you have to do YOU and what YOU are confident in doing. You are a beautiful woman and I think Justin's suggestions would look awesome on you! Take each day as a step towards who YOU want to be. You've got this!

[@Msmeohmy52]

63 year old here! As a child of the 1970’s I’m enjoying the Freedom of my natural hair color it’s quick and easy, I have more free fun time.

[@sherryalexander2421]

@@Msmeohmy52 yeah! It's the best feeling to be free of hair color. I bet you look fantastic!

[@MusicLover-sb7mo]

Melissa, so many of us relate. I gained a lot of weight during menopause and it was a true bummer. I didn’t feel pretty anymore and sucked into the idea it was inevitable. So I decided to just roll with it and stopped coloring my hair. I wanted to embrace the gray trend but was disappointed it wasn’t more gray. Lol. Consequently the shade just looked dull and made me look even more frumpy. After 5 years of not liking it, I introduced low and highlights and love it! I grew my hair from a short style to a youthful bob. And I stopped worrying about my weight, bought clothes that flattered my frame, upped my skin care routine and always wear lipstick even if I wear no other makeup…it livens my face. The reduced stress by not worrying about my size helped me lose some weight naturally which motivates me to eat nutritiously 80% of the time, but not deny myself a little fun the other 20%. I will never be super thin again and I am okay with that. At age 64, I feel and look better than I did 10 years ago. My motto: Focus on things in your control and continuously make little adjustments that make you happy. Justin’s hair suggestion both curly and straight will look amazing on you and bring out your beautiful eyes!

[@dtraveler3080]

Just to add, if you ever do decide that you don’t like what you weigh, please try this: try not to eat just after 6 or 7 pm( depending on when you eat breakfast) eat in an 8 hour window. Exercise 30 minutes, just 4 times a week. It is that fourth day that allows you to lose some weight.🎉 Good luck to you in the future. A darker brown powder will cover roots.

[@michelledugal5386]

Hey Melissa Can completely relate to your story. Things are tougher with hyperthyroidism and it’s easy to lose faith when attempts to feel better about yourself are thwarted. Know that you are beautiful and your attempts to feel better about yourself have helped many other women, including myself. Sending love and appreciation to you and Justin🤗❤️

[@justinhickox]

Yes to all of this! Love it. By having the courage to put herself our there, she's helping SO many others who have the same struggles. SO true!

[@justinhickox]

Thank you to ALL of you for leaving such amazingly positive and supportive comments.

[@shelley37]

My comment on this video seems to have been replied to by a scam-bot. Just an FYI. Maybe let other viewers know?

[@kathrynmilliken5430]

Know that you are not alone. Other women are going through the same or similar situations. Self Care is so important. Nothing is better than going to a salon & coming out feeling relaxed and renewed. Best wishes on this journey. Remember: you are truly stronger than you know.🤗

[@justinhickox]

You’re so spot in with this! Self care in all respects (emotional and physical) is a powerful medicine! Thanks for sharing this.

[@lpittman1509]

Melissa, I feel everything you said in your email. I struggle with all the same things you do. I turn 51 this year. I went gray during the COVID shut downs of 2020 and I'm glad I did most days. My hair in healthy and fuller now and I have saved a ton of money. I strive to accept that although my body is not as young looking as I'd hope, I have lived a well lived life. I have stretch marks and all the markings of a woman who has bore children and loved her family. I have laugh lines, because I have lived, loved, and laughed. On my best days, this is enough. Best wishes.

[@janiem6347]

Melissa, I can totally relate. I used to be a size 6 and health issues and low motivation have gotten me to a size 16. 😔 You might not feel beautiful but I wish you could see what others see: gorgeous thick hair with wave/curl, good complexion and pretty eyes! You can totally rock whichever hairstyle you choose!! ❤

[@debrataylor315]

I stopped coloring my hair at age 50 and never looked back. I get so many complments on my hair. I say embrace your gray! I am 67 now and love every age. I think your attitude and positive outlook on life do more to make you look and feel younger than anything else. Also having a 20 minute workout that keeps you toned and feeling strong helps too! Good luck & God bless...

[@Becky_in_Tucson]

Sending hugs and support for Melissa and all of us who are struggling with unwanted stubborn weight.😘That last haircut idea looks so beautiful on her!

[@evarkf]

Cut sugars and carbs. That means, no potatoes or rice etc, no bread. Just eat lots of veggies. You will be full. Trust me. I’ve lost 40 pounds in 2 years like this. No sport. And many “cheating”, like some bread on the weekends and even a burger a week. I’m 50.

[@elainegeber4604]

As I am only reading this several months later, it is heart warming to see the encouragement and support that Melissa received. It takes courage to put yourself out there. Women too often feel bad about how they look, and struggle with health issues that cause them to feel even worse about themselves. However, when we learn to love ourselves and see our worth, we are able to find and use simple ideas and tools like meditation, or as Justin demonstrates, hairstyles that flatter our faces, make us look more youthful, but more importantly, make us feel youthful and good about ourselves. I am so grateful to have found him on KZbin.

[@cherylbelott]

Melissa, I admire your courage for sharing about yourself. So many of us can relate and in turn you have helped others. 💕 You are a natural beauty with a very approachable, kind, gentle looking face. I hope you were able to be encouraged by this video, and thank you Justin for what you share with us! God bless!

[@justinhickox]

Thank you! You too!

[@angicatron8512]

Melissa you’re adorable, and I have been recently diagnosed with some medical problems as well in the past 3 years and I can feel your pain. Please just keep going take a deep breath and never quit smiling, it’s so sweet. Thank you Justin, your videos have helped me a lot

[@maritedurand2173]

MELISA!! The first thing I noticed at looking at your picture, before reading your email, was your approachable demeanor, you exude kindness and warmth. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, amazing thick hair! Which makes it for ENDLESS possibilities. Great bone structure too!! But above all beauty comes from within and you project that beauty!!! Chin up Melisa !! You are gorgeous !!! Hang in there, you are not alone. Aging sucks no matter how we encounter along the way. Know that in this community we support you and hug you from wherever we are !!! ❤❤❤❤

[@g3andrea]

Melissa, you are beautiful...inside and out. We all hit that point in life when are forced to reassess our looks, our changing bodies, and our personal style. If we didn't, we could become trapped in a time warp. Look at this moment in time as a chance to reinvent yourself, embrace a new and authentic version of your personal style, and find a new sense of freedom. Justin does of wonderful job of honoring women and helping them look and feel their very best about themselves. You are asking the right person for advice!

[@justinhickox]

Thank you! I couldn’t agree more with all of this about Melissa and I truly appreciate your vote of confidence in my channel!

[@michellep2278]

Honestly my first look was not Melissa's hair but beautiful face, eyes and smile! I love all your ideas Justin especially the curly look. You got this girl!💪🌞

[@justinhickox]

I agree. It's so funny how we often see the worst in ourselves. I didn't see ANYTHING that Melissa mentioned in her email. I noticed her eyes and her smile first.

[@marthabennett6056]

Melissa I really admire your ability to open yourself up and put yourself out there. One thing I’ve found about color: I let my hair go grey but thought it was too boring so now I get cool toned highlights a few times a year and it’s soooo much easier and cheaper than all the coloring I used to do. What I guess I’m saying is that color doesn’t have to an all-or-nothing proposition. 💜

[@diannhoward9903]

Melissa, “this too shall pass “ comes to mind from someone who had no hair 18 months ago. This was after chemo treatments for breast cancer. I was unprepared for how much that affected my self confidence. I always had longer hair that had been colored for years but now am rocking short, grey & silver hair! You are still beautiful and deserve to show up everyday as your best current self. Wishing you only the best in your health and hair journey!

[@cindybrill498]

I am 62. I had a hysterectomy at 52, learned to style my curly hair at 57 and grew out my natural color at 59. I know whereof I speak! You are a beautiful woman. You deserve to feel good about yourself. You’ve had a lot of changes thrust upon you. Now, it’s your turn to make the changes you want. Pick one area you want to make a change and do it. It may be scary at first, but it’s also empowering to take charge. Do your research. There’s a wealth of info online about any topic: going curly, going gray, losing weight after a hysterectomy. Find support through groups of others making the same changes. Facebook has all kinds of support groups. I wish you all the best on your journey!

[@beverlyhardy4398]

Melissa, what a great smile you have! Justin always gives such good advice and can’t wait to see what he has for you. I went gray and never regretted it. Love yourself ❤️

[@justinhickox]

Thank you and I agree! I noticed her smile as well!

[@gisellemineur821]

The fourth style is so pretty, sleek, stylish and an elegant look for her. I love all your videos Justin.!

[@justinhickox]

Thank you so much!!

[@wendycarames9926]

Melissa, thank you for sharing your struggle because I think everyone goes through what you’re feeling at various points in our life. Here’s what I’ve learned: people see kindness, authenticity, willingness to encourage and coming along side, loyalty as beautiful, not the made up beauty queen who is trying to convince the world she’s got the world by the tail. She may at some points but most likely feels just like you at some point. Be true to yourself, be kind to yourself and learn to see the qualities that make you truly beautiful. They are there!!

[@amyschubert4000]

You’re brave Melissa. It’s hard to be honest with others about ourselves. Thanks for sharing your delightful self with us.

[@karenrios2024]

Good morning! In seeing your photo you have so much love in your eyes! It shows your inner beauty and peace!

[@justinhickox]

I love this!

[@IndependentHairstylist]

I agree with you, Justin….you give up coloring, when YOU Feel you want to do that. Melissa- you are a beautiful woman! I really liked the curly style, along with the idea of adding dimension into the hair. Super Cute!!

[@strawberry1025]

Hi Melissa, l too have hypothyroidism, the autoimmune version, and l say 'Solidarity!' to you girl. You are marvellous to have survived your illnesses, and now is the time to thrive. Hugs.

[@sheilavetter2958]

My hair was thinning so badly but after having it cut into that long layer style that Justin says looks good on anyone I can't believe how much thinker it looks and handlels. The hair style made all the difference for me and I am sure it can work for you too. Many of my health issues are similiar to yours so I can relate. Always remember, God didn't make any junk and God made you so when you look in the mirror see the beauty in you. Then go for the hair, makeup, and clothes to enhanse what is already there - you just have to see it. Everyone is beautiful - they just have to see it! Sending my love and best wishes for you as you go forward.

[@lananorris7058]

Melissa! You are beautifully and wonderfully made. All of us go through so many changes as we age. Please focus on the things you love about yourself and do things just for you. I’m 55 and retired. It’s been a whole new mindset. One thing I’ve learned is that if I don’t love myself and take care of myself, who else will. It also helps you to look at the beauty in others and TELL them. So many times I’ve not realized how important that is. Tell others if you see something remarkable in them. Kindness costs nothing and is sooooo rewarding. It will be returned to you. Enjoy your life. Take time for yourself. Big hugs! 😊❤

[@smiling_eyes7903]

Melissa to venture into such a sensitive area requires an extremely brave & courageous lady. You, Melissa, are that brave woman to me by sending in your photos and personal story. I personally relate to your story and I admire the courage it took to do it. You have inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and do 1 thing to step out of mine. Blessing and much gratitude for sharing the gift of yourself with us! 💞🫂💞

[@crisscat1034]

Thank you Melissa for putting yourself out there for everyone to see and being so courageous in telling us how you feel in your email. I can tell you I have been fat shamed 3/4 of my life. I can definitely relate to the weight gain and the struggles with that alone! Justin will give you great advice....how do I know? Because I binged watched his videos. Like you I was at a low point with my feeling pretty because of thinning hair (I'm 54 with baby fine hair) my hair is board straight and thinning on the top. My hair length and shape was similar to yours but thinner. I watched Justin's videos and decided to take his advice. I moved my part from the center and had more layering done. Against my own personal preference of keeping the longer hair i went ahead and got some length cut off because my face looked longer and droopy. I have rarely if ever colored my hair. I had gray hair all over and my natural hair color looked dirty and awful really. I used Justin's suggestions from his videos and got my hair cut in more layers and alittle shorter, moved my part and had my hair colored all over. I have received compliments like crazy on the style/color and told the look suits me well. I feel more confident and look younger. My spirits have been lifted for sure! Keep smiling and don't be afraid of change because once you do it you will love it and your confidence will soar!

[@anntowry1792]

Melissa, don’t give up. You are a strong person to even put yourself out there. I admire you.

[@reginabuchanan7499]

Melissa, first, you are lovely! You still look young and vital and your hair looks like you can do so many fun things with it. Second, kudos to you for being real and vulnerable by honestly opening up to Justin and his audience. We can’t always avoid health problems and their effect on us, but we are so much more than the sum of that! I am telling you this as someone who has really gone through some very intense life threatening and life changing problems that also greatly impacted my appearance. I learned that on so many levels “appearance” is not just how we look, but really how we ARE to ourselves and others in our life. You ARE lovely and that shows through, even if it is hard for you to feel it or see it sometimes. Please take time everyday to appreciate yourself and remind yourself of how wonderful you really are. ❤

[@kathywinslow7993]

Hi Melissa, I just found Justin's videos...literally all day on the couch with my dog now doing nothing but watching.😊 So I'm a little late commenting. I hope you receive this quick note. I was going to try and think of something profound to say here. Honestly, I just want to tell you how much I admire you for speaking up about your challenges and how you feel. I haven't watched to video yet, but I'm excited! You are absolutely beautiful! And that's before his advice. You don't need to change a thing to be gorgeous but it can feel great to make a little change and feel more in control. I'm sure he has wonderful ideas. Regardless of whether or not you decide to, I am in love with the community he is fostering. I'm happy you are here and that I found it as well! I wish you nothing but the very best💕

[@Gerylovebg]

Melissa, I see a shine of positivity in your eyes! Life can be hard but I hope you never lose it, because that look in your eyes made my day!

[@karenmackenzie5697]

Melissa, you look warm, kind and genuine. You seem friendly and approachable, like someone I would want to be friends with. That is far more important than anything superficial. Be kind to yourself. You deserve it! ❤️

[@debreale5236]

Melissa, I hope you’re feeling encouraged and excited about Justin’s ideas. Great job, Justin! Your story about the weight gain and thyroid issue sounds like mine. I had to change my (not good at all) eating habits, but discovering the thyroid issue and getting meds for that helped. Until my 40’s I could eat anything (not that I should have)! I was inspired by someone at church to join Weight Watchers, and that was so helpful. It offered a support group and lots of information and definitely changed my life. I’d have to look it up, but I think I joined in 2003? Anyway, met some great people and changed my habits. Praying for your good health and happiness! Take good care. ❤

[@justinhickox]

This is so true. I'm huge on nutrition. It plays such a missive role in EVERY part of our lives! I'm definitely not always the best at it, but I try for sure.

[@melissagurney7727]

Sending you big hugs Melissa! I can see your beautiful smile and can imagine how that smile helps so many others feel joy. I've been going through much of the same experience and have found that self care will will build your confidence and focusing on serving others gets you out of your head and helps that confidence shine through! And lastly we all have this insecurities regardless of age or beauty so feel free to shine and spread the love!

[@justinhickox]

This is SO good! So true about focusing on others! I also love the idea of how Melissa’s smile creates joy for others. It’s one of the first things I noticed about her as well but I didn’t connect how it would make others feel. We’ll said!

[@dawnsfields]

Melissa, you are not alone. I would bet there’s not a person here that hasn’t felt like you do at some point in their life. These past two years for me has seen menopause hit me like a freight train! I mean BAD! It has taken a lot of effort to pull myself up (physically and mentally) and start living what I’m considering the second half of my life. We basically have the same face shape and hair length and curl pattern. I think you’d look lovely leaning into your curls. I decided to go grey after much consideration and I’m loving the freedom and the color.

[@barbaramorris923]

Now that I’ve watched the full video, I love the curveball cut and style! I particularly like the way Melissa’s face looks with the bangs sweeping down a little over her forehead. I also love the curlier option and think that would also look great if the bangs were just a bit more over her face. However, as someone who has difficult growth patterns around the hairline I know it can be tricky to get the hair to fall in just the right way.

[@justinhickox]

I totally agree! Growth patterns will dictate a lot.

[@trudieristich795]

Do you ever feel like you're a beautician not a magician unfortunately when I was younger I was always wasting time on my hair because both sides had to look the same until I got older and it just doesn't work that way cuz both sides aren't the same and you just have to do whatever you can Lessons Learned

[@evljazzhands4990]

Melissa, having been almost where you are (hyst, hypothyroid and weight gain) I was so happy to see this video. It helped me a lot. And I think that being vulnerable enough to share your journey shows so much confidence! I read that you went with the last cut. I thought it was great and hope you are enjoying it. 🤗

[@debrakline8436]

I liked the shorter, layered curly result you chose best for her! And nice advice about color vs gray!

[@tishlowe6716]

Melissa, you have gorgeous eyes, great cheekbones, and a beautiful smile. You got this, girl!

[@justinhickox]

Love this!!! SO true!! Thank you!

[@Ipadgrandma]

Melissa, I can totally relate. However I recently got the best hair cut of my life. I’m 63, overweight, and have hit many bumps on the road of life. My hair has many of the same issues as yours. I got a U shaped cut with layers, part on the left side. It’s easier to take care of now than before the cut. You have a beautiful smile. Enjoy your life. You’re a beautiful lady.

[@kellygates6468]

I didn't "give up and go gray". At 36 I decided I wanted to see what the gray hair would actually look like if I stopped dying it. 10 years later I'm still rocking it! I get complements all the time, often from older ladies who tell me they don't have the confidence to try it. I always tell them to just try it and I bet it would look awesome. Don't get me wrong growing it out sucks. I had shoulder length hair and it took about 18 months but it was worth it and I have one less expense and one less thing I have to spend my time on.

[@jodieeining1917]

My superpower is recognizing kind people. I can tell you are a kind person by your eyes and your sweet 1/2 smile Melissa. 😊 Best wishes to you!

[@cnburton1]

Melissa, I have had similar feelings with low self esteem issues with weight gain/ health concerns. So you are not alone! Love the wave in your hair and what a nice smile you have. Keep on your path to wellness and tell yourself one positive thing everyday .

[@DrSonyJackson]

Melissa! Kudos to you for noting where you currently are and asking for the help! I love that Justin is positive and professional and constructive in his "critique". You're a winner!

[@jeanie1569]

Melissa, I cried when I heard your email read. First off, you are beautiful and brave for bearing your soul. As someone who went from a size ten to a size 18, when menopause hit, I can relate to the loss of self confidence and feeling hopeless. But it's not true, you've changed physically but you're still an awesome, brave person and that will always win the day over physical appearance! I love your hair color and I too struggle with the same issue of texture and graying. I'm letting my hair go gray. But I love your color and if I decide to do color again, I would like it to be exactly your color! Remember you are Beautiful and you have strength and courage to let that beauty shine through.

[@lauriehutchinson791]

It's very brave of you to reach out. A lot of women feel the way you do. You are helping people by what you are doing.

[@justinhickox]

I couldn't agree more!

[@lisaevers3052]

Melissa, I applaud you for putting yourself out there for guidance and ideas! You are a Beautiful woman with great insight and I hear the struggles you described. Stay patient and positive during this growth period in life… choosing healthy options for not only your body, but also your mind and spirit. Hugs, health and happiness in 2023! 🙏🌹 You got this! ☺️🎶💥

[@justinhickox]

Love this! Staying positive is one of the most powerful medicines we all have.

[@alyshiarobison2290]

Melissa, you've been through so many health hurdles lately and are still rolling. Your will to keep on keeping on and trying to find the confidence you've lost is a testament to me that I can find beauty in my aging, thinning, flat hair. Thank you for showing your zeal for life and sharing your story with us all.

[@ChereeLS]

Melissa, I see so much kindness in your eyes AND enthusiasm as well!! Girl, you wrote Justin a letter for ideas/help, that shows me that you have some energy and hope too!! I believe that because you have hope in your heart, then you can do things to keep growing your enthusiasm and hope, then put your mind to it to dig out of this rut and circumstances that you spoke about in your letter to Justin. Each step is another one!! I think reaching out to the people in your life who love, challenge, and encourage you to be your best self would be helpful too. It may be challenging, but I think you have what it takes to keep showing up and fighting the good fight!! May God bless you in all you do! Keep growing hope and keep going!!😁🙏🤜🤛💪🖐🙌👊💗

[@justinhickox]

This is so true! Asking for help or guidance is always scary but doing it on this level takes a LOT of confidence!

[@cecilopez3369]

Melissa, I am joining this a couple of months, but I have so say that the first thing I noticed in your picture, even before Justin read your letter, was the kindness in your eyes. My best wishes for you to feel your heart, find your spark, and make your mark. Your vulnerability to share your e-mail really melted my heart with love. Thank you for sharing your humanness with us.

[@angelastephens4247]

Melissa, You should be proud of yourself for reaching out to ask for advice- and I thank you, because my hair is very similar! I feel disheartened by my hair too. Health issues and the resulting weight gain is an doozie to deal with. When you look in the mirror don’t forget to see “you” not just your hair or a few lbs. staring back at you. You have a warm, welcoming, beautiful face. I love the soft, subtle highlights Justin added at the end on you!

[@geetkrish1813]

Hi Melissa I just broke off a 5 yr relationship listening to hear him say I am imperfect. I know no one is perfect including me too and that that’s okay. I have gone through two divorces with similar men too. What I am now as a result of all the past experiences is a mother of two amazing boys 23 who is becoming a doctor and 12 a smarty pants too! They are very happy and I am too. I have also become a dog foster parent and a great dancer! Learnt tango, swings, Latin and more. Life has kept me going even to the gym (I am not slim but I am strong) and you will definitely find that too! Because of all these dancing and performing I have also learnt to look and feel better. Salon nail spa home routines etc! Girl you got it so flaunt it ❤love yourself ❤thanks for this channel I was looking to spice up my curls for tonight’s dance!

[@kimmckenzie5276]

Melissa, you are beautiful. I’m struggling with some of the same issues-especially the weight gain and larger frame now. I work everyday on living myself as I am right here, right now. It makes a difference. Much love to you.

[@ninahall2845]

Melissa, you are not alone! I hope you are encouraged today! You are beautiful! First step in coming out of the darkness is embracing yourself again. Blessed wishes

[@pjk1714]

So glad she shared this and although it might feel vulnerable, many women experience this. The ideas provided looked lovely and actually made her look more youthful and bright. I let my own hair go salt and pepper using argon and rosemary mint oils to calm the texture and any frizz from wave. I noticed the side bang was below the cheekbone which happens when growing out. I wisp mine up and away to create balance before my next trim. I sincerely hope she feels as pretty as she looks. It's difficult to see yourself compared to past. She needs to embrace her beauty and push for medical attention for her bone quality, liver and heart. After surgery, I returned dramatically to a midline of myself I felt better for but took 16 years instead of the average 10 to get. Thanks for sharing your fantastic ideas and lifting her up. Well deserved. ❤

[@Ipadgrandma]

Justin. You are so right about the gray hair situation. I get tired of coloring it but then it reaches a point where the gray depresses me and makes me feel old. It doesn’t happen all the time but I give it a try and then realize I’m not ready for gray and color it again. Someday maybe. Maybe… Thanks for your great advice and your kindness.

[@larissaseals5340]

Hi Melissa, I too have been in a similar situation and put on some weight and I know what it's like to not feel beautiful anymore or not tip feel like yourself. Once I stopped focusing on trying to look like I once did and started becoming the new me, buying myself new clothes for my new body and focusing on doing pilates I started feeling beautiful again and now although I'm not as thin as I use to be I feel more beautiful than I ever did. I'm sending you love and prayers. You've got this! Try not to focus on weight and just focus on being the best version of yourself at any size.

[@susanzelisko6845]

Melissa, you have survived some horrible issues. You light shines so brightly! You are beautiful in every way

[@jillwalls9801]

Hi Melissa! Thank you for being so brave and putting yourself out there. Many of us face similar challenges and choose to hide. You are beautiful and an inspiration!

[@pirateslife4me]

Melissa, you have such a kind face and open eyes. I can't help but wish for you the same caring talk, unapologetic admiration and heartfelt encouragement you would give to your best friend! I think you're a beautiful woman - we see your shine! ✨️

[@liztaylor5714]

Melissa is a beautiful lady who, because of physical changes, seems a bit lost. When I had a 25% weight gain just after menopause I couldn’t adjust until finding styles that suited my new shape. Far better to forget the styles that used to suit and start over trying everything new until a new style is discovered that both flatters and feels right. Melissa’s hair is lovely and the straighter style you showed looked amazing! I fully understand what you say about when to go grey but would add that a good way to dip your toe in the water is to have highlights and lowlights professionally done - that’s also a lot less maintenance than a full colour as roots don’t show so should be affordable at the salon with not needing to be done very often. I’m positive that when Melissa learns to dress her new figure and successfully restyles her hair she’ll regain her self confidence and be really happy with herself again. Go for it Melissa! Liz (Isle of Man). 🤗

[@justinhickox]

I love the point about finding a new shape that fits your face now. This goes for everyone as we age. If you gain or lose weight...our faces and bodies change regardless, changing our style with them is HUGE!

[@wendiezzes2281]

Melissa, Ive been in your shoes. You are not alone! You are beautiful, your eyes are sparkling with life and I cannot wait to see what this makeover does for you! You are deserving of such attention. You are worth it.

[@MountainRiverRunner]

Loved all the hair styles suggested here. I was a brunette when I was younger and than as I grew older and started to get frustrated with the white hair and trying to keep those roots covered, I decided to do a 180° change. I now have gone lighter with my hair. At first it was putting in the blonder high lights so the white hair wasn't so prominent as my hair grew, making it less noticeable. Than as the white continued, I increased the amount of light hair. That made it so that my friends and family didn't see a drastic changh overnight. Now I am a very active 75 year old with light blond hair instead of going all white, which might not be bad, but I am happy with my look.

[@ShirleyDeeDesigns]

I like the curls! I went gray last year and so glad I did! I’ve gotten more compliments on my gray hair than I ever did as a brunette!

[@heatherbaker3903]

Hi Melissa, I'm a 48 year woman struggling with health problems too. My weight has climbed close to 200 pounds in the last 10 years and I've tried a LOT to try to loose it. I don't feel very pretty any more either. I'm a 6 foot tall woman and I used to weigh about 140, which is great for 6 feet. Now I'm over 300 and feeling pretty or feminine when you can't get clothes that fit is very hard. Luckily, my self-worth and self-esteem are not reliant on my weight! You need to look beyond the mirror to see what is special, unique and beautiful about yourself. Are you a mother? An artist? A hard worker? Do you have strong ethics? Are you a good friend? Are you funny, brave, intelligent, strong, resourceful, gracious, giving, thoughtful, enthusiastic, passionate, inquisitive, diligent and loyal? What positive words apply best to you? Because I'm sure there's a lot more you have to offer the world than just what a mirror would tell you. It's important to feel good about the way you look, but don't forget how much more important you are than just your appearance. You are beautiful, inside and out. And, you are worthy.

[@joannamcdee9061]

I notice the openness in your eyes Melissa. Not that they’re open wider or anything, but that you see the truth of whatever, whoever is before you. And that, in my experience signifies the possessor of an open heart, loving, warm, embracing and full...it’s a rare gift Dear, one that I’m sure those around you cherish dearly...

[@lyndacanger8762]

Melissa, your story was my story as well. I am 63 with hypo , curly hair, dyed, way more curvy than I'd like. I grew out my hair during covid but in the long run (after 2 years) I went back to a lighter hair color so that I didn't have to dye it as often. I still do it at home with a service that delivers. My grey hair was actually more work than a six week touch up. My hair is curly but I found (as suggested) that I look better with it straighter. To baby my hair, I dry it after it is 80% dry. Holds for days and is easier to pull up as well. I am working on making better food choices and my dog loves the extra long walks. I added putting on make up every day and emphasizing my eyes which makes me feel better. Take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally and all together you will feel better. Baby steps. Know you are not alone. Your story is the same one that so many go through. Better days are ahead.

[@kirstenschull2010]

Melissa, you are brave! It is easy to hide, but you reached out... you know you are worth treating right! Bless you.

[@lisaswords1582]

Hi, Justin! Love your adventures and scenery, but really loved seeing you back in the salon today! Hoping to see tutorials on live clients, especially doing fine hair styles for volume and appearance of thickness, especially with product suggestions!! You know I love bobs and lobs. Thank you so much!!! ❤️

[@lisaswords1582]

@@RogueWave2030 I so wish I could go and him do my hair, just one time! Long time fan!! ❤️

[@justinhickox]

Hey Lisa!!! Thank you so much! I definitely want to do some live work this year and I actually DO have a video already planned in a few months. It’s tough to be around the salon when we’re traveling full time but who knows, there may be a couple more videos this year that land me there. :). I always appreciate your input! Remind me of where you’re located again? I can’t remember…

[@justinhickox]

Thank you so much! I actually designed everything myself so I take that as a HUGE compliment!

[@lisaswords1582]

@@justinhickox Mississippi, near Tupelo. If you have heard of this city!

[@lisaswords1582]

@@justinhickox You should! 😊

[@gramcracker557]

Melissa, I am in the exact same position as you😢 I have type 1 diabetes, fibromyalgia, heart issues. All if that was enough to deal with but was recently diagnosed with Primary Biliary Cholangitis! I have gained a lot of weight, pain is severe and am totally exhausted! I don’t leave my house. You look beautiful! I’m sure Justin will do his magic on your hair, which will give you back some confidence. I’ve been cutting my own hair because I don’t want to go out in public. When Justin is finished with his magic touch, you will be even more beautiful than you already are. Sending prayers and wishes for a more confident and happy year to come.

[@Gma22kids]

Hi Melissa and HAPPY NEW YEAR! You have a beautiful complexion and smile! Many of us struggling with the same issues you describe so thanks for sharing your story. I hope you're able to implement Justin's suggestions - I think he did a great job (and Justin you ARE that COOL!) Love this channel - learn so much!!!

[@sheilahburnham5782]

Melissa, you look like a very kind soul, so please, show yourself some kindness. You have been through a few really big changes recently. It takes time to adjust to these things that didn’t really happen overnight. Show yourself the kindness you give to others, take things one baby step at a time, and you will see your inner beauty come out again. You’re still in there, just morphing into a new version of beautiful.

[@suebutterworth4936]

Melissa, what can I say. I know what you mean and how you feel, but you know you have so much going for you as your glass is half full!. You are on the right side of your health problems and will be able to plan the next few months, even the next year so at the end of it you will have direction and feel so much better 🙂. Your hair is going grey, so what! Decide are you going to work with it or continue to put in colours... I am the same, thinking 'oh no look what is happening ' but then I started listening, not just to my family (whose job it is to make me feel better 🤣) but friends and even people sat in the salon who passed comment on my colour and how it is blending in nice with my original brown and where the sun had naturally streaked it... So I listened and I looked in the mirror and saw what the saw... and like you I had no wrinkles, I had a nice smile and I started feeling younger and well 'me'! But one important point I have to mention to you, OMG your hair is gorgeous! It is thick, plenty of it whereas mine is thin and very fine.... you luck lucky person 😀. So listen to what suggestions Justin comes up with (I haven't watched the video yet) .. them look in the mirror and have a play until you decide what you want but don't forget if it is wrong at first it may grow on you, but if not it will just grow 🤣 Take care and enjoy each day xx Sue, Wales, UK

[@justinhickox]

I love this. I'm also happy you were able to find the confidence to listen to others and see what they see. That's not always easy when it comes to finding the good in yourself. Well played! Thanks for sharing this!

[@lmh8642]

Melissa! You are on the right track! Self care is SO IMPORTANT and SO VALUABLE for each of us! Keep taking care of you ❤️

[@bryancrumley8488]

Melissa, you are the love of my life and you are are the most beautiful, amazing person I know. I love your hair in any style that makes you feel comfortable and happy. - love your husband ❤❤❤❤❤

[@stylegrace6980]

Melissa, you are beautiful person inside and out. Let your light shine, girl! Rock whatever style you want. You got this!

[@lightbearer90292]

Hello Melissa. Am familiar with those feelings due to health issues. 💥 Light and ❤️ Love to you. And as I'm Irish a Shamrock ☘️

[@justinhickox]

Thank you! I appreciate this a ton!

[@Snowystardust12]

Melissa, its women like you, courageously vulnerable, who uplift all women! I was struck by the soft romantic features of your face which radiance kindness and warmth. You have an expression of gentle grace and beauty. Wishing you the best on your journey!

[@stephanie92098]

Melissa, people see you as more attractive than you do. When you look in the mirror, all you see is your appearance. When others look at you they see something different such as personality, kindness, intelligence, and sense of humor. All these factors make up a part of a person's overall beauty. Hope you can learn to own it. Based on your photos, you look lovely inside and out.

[@justinhickox]

This is AMAZING! SO well said! Thank you!!!

[@EricaSpradlin]

Melissa, As we move through life; I have noticed the best feature to any look, at anytime is a genuine happy smile. I realize this seems hard to do. As for myself; when I feel down, I stop to think about something that always brings me great joy. Then I move forward with that thought and grin. Beauty comes from within, and gorgeous when shown out! Much love!😊

[@susanhenley8240]

Melissa, We are all created in God's image; we have feelings and they are all iportant. You are beautiful on the inside, regardless of what and how you feel on the outside. Focus on being healthy, rather than on what clothing size you are.

[@justinhickox]

So true! Spot on. Thank you!

[@lorestefani]

Melissa, you are a brave woman looking for the help you needed… we should all do it. That’s the first step to make things happen. Wish you the very best!!!!

[@sylviashanabrough6515]

I think her color is too dark, hair needs more volume in the top with less volume on the sides and maybe a little shorter. Melissa has very pretty eyes.

[@penelope5500]

Totally agree. Shorter... w/ some volume worked into the crown. It would be so much more flattering.

[@justinhickox]

You’re definitely on the right track! I also agree with you on her eyes. I noticed that as well.

[@rowdybliss]

Melissa, changes in life are inevitable… but the fact that you have the will and the courage and the desire to feel better in the face of your changes is a massive, brave step towards feeling better, and I so admire you for that. It’s gutsy, and it’s badass! ❤ I pray that you find your footing on your journey and that no matter what changes pop up to challenge you, that you will still maintain your determination and keep your inner fire lit. You’re amazing!!!

[@jenniferharrington4694]

Melissa, you have such a beautiful smile I bet you light up the room with Joy every time you walk into the room. Never lose yourself in your own image of yourself. My husband’s grandma had a post it note on her bathroom mirror that changed my view on life: “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. Always look for the silver lining in any situation and you will find yourself happier overall 😊

[@hollyan]

I love the last one - layered and add some highlights to cover grey coming in. A new hairstyle always makes us feel good ❤

[@ExitAllianceRealtyCA]

You are gorgeous Melissa!!! I love your hair and think the length with curls is so pretty! Get that diffuser out and scrunch away! I have a couple fun tasks to suggest you do daily. When you wake up, take 2 minutes to think about what you are grateful for. If you can, write them down in a journal you keep by the bed. During the day take the time to send an email, text, or call someone and tell them how much you love and appreciate them and/or share a fun memory you have of them! Last, at the end of the day before you fall asleep take 2 minutes to think back to your day, what was great about it and where could you improve. Think about what you are grateful for and then get yourself a good nights rest. I promise after a few days/ weeks of doing this your life will be so fulfilled and the beauty we all see on the outside will shine even brighter from you on the inside! Happy 2023! Thank you Justin for asking us to do this. Positivity breeds positivity! You are a gem and regardless of what you say I will always listen to your amazing worlds of wisdom! 😊

[@TheSuedevo]

Melissa, I first noticed your beautiful eyes. Which I usually notice first on people because it shows the window to their soul. You have a beautiful soul. I completely understand the health issues. I went through cancer treatment and lost my hair. At first I could only see how I had changed physically, but finally embraced the difference and worked through it. Knowing you are worth it is your first step. You are worth it.

[@miryanahill3842]

Melissa, know that you are enough! Life’s journey is in every smile wrinkle, and baby pound, and illness that you’re been through. But through it all your beauty has never changed. There are people in your life who don’t see the flaws you see. They see your soul, it is beyond beautiful. It is you, and you are enough ❤️

[@tammybardon599]

Melissa you are beautiful!! I know exactly what you are going through. I’ve experienced weight gain due to cancer treatment and went from a size 2 to a size 10. What I do is thank God for every new day! I invested in some good makeup and it makes me feel great!! God Bless you girl!!!

[@ingridrobison7586]

I think Melissa is so strong and courageous to ask for your help. Her asking for help is helping so many of us who are in similar situations. She is beautiful and your suggestions really enhanced her natural beauty. Great video. You are so encouraging!! Keep up the great work Justin!!

[@stihmar]

Melissa, The bravery it took, for you to put yourself out here to ask for help speaks volumes of character. This makes you a beautiful person in my book. I'm suffering from a lot of the same issues (different health issues), and I just do not feel pretty anymore, either. This video is golden. Thank you!