MONTESSORI AT HOME: Sensitive Periods

[@denizthekid3642]

It's really nice watching your videos, but everytime I feel a bit incompetent myself and I get curious how you can cope with the tempo of having two kids and doing the house works and your videos. We have one baby and I already feel overly tired. How do you handle everthing? Is it that you are more experienced mom with the second baby, or your husband or someone from family helping out? I will be thankful if you can fill in some gaps for me.

[@HapaFamily]

I’m so sorry, I certainly don’t mean to make anyone feel that way. 😞 My goal is simply to share my passion and information about Montessori parenting with all of you. :) I’m pretty certain that my days and parenting experiences are just like everyone else’s, complete with all of the overtired, coffee-fueled mornings and moments that make me want to tear my hair out. 😂 No one is a perfect parent, and that’s okay. 💕 I do all of my KZbin work at night, after the girls have gone to bed. Which translates to a lot of really late nights for me, while still having all of the early mornings like everyone else. I guess I’ve just learned to function on less sleep, but otherwise, things are pretty much the same in our home. It’s funny that you ask about having someone to help, because it’s literally just us out here. All of our family and friends live out of state. My husband is able to help out with small things like walking the dogs, or one or two nights of the week he’ll cook dinner… But for the most part, it’s a one-woman show over here, with me doing most of the work throughout the day (at least as far as the kids and housework are concerned). Trust me when I say that it’s not easy, and there have been many nights that I have thought seriously about throwing in the towel… but to know that I’m having a positive impact on so many other families around the world keeps me going. :) Thanks so much for your support!

[@noemischaffer6861]

@@HapaFamily You are doing great! Thank you for your honesty and for encouraging the rest of us.

[@denizthekid3642]

@@HapaFamily Thanks for taking the time to reply. I think it is very important you are showing us your respectful and patient approach to parenting. Raising a kid this way is very important for the society believe me. Parents usually are unaware they are harming their kids trying to teach them something via criticizing, disapproving, blaming rather than accepting them as they are and teaching them how to achieve better behavior or morals. This is usually because the better way of teaching things is not generally known to us. Too much criticized and restricted kids start to loose their self confidence and start feeling there is something wrong with them. Research shows this slows their brain development and when they grow up they become angry, unhappy and disappointed individuals. You seem to very well understand the world from the perspective of a child and are able to give them what they need in a respectful manner. It is also great how you give them responsibilities and make them feel an important part of the family. About the amount of work I am trying to cope, when I see you it makes me want to do better and in time I find ways to deal with things. It may be an inspiration or through popping up of an idea in my mind both are triggered by watching and seeing different things. I like the positive effect overall. Maybe one thing you may consider could be also showing some of the challenges you have thus taking our experience to another level. Hope it helps 😊.

[@l.mekras4082]

Berda I remember when I used to feel that way too! I promise, you will get into a groove or flow eventually. That’s not to say your days will be perfect or there won’t be hiccups, but you will develop a routine that works for you and your family. Don’t worry, you’re doing great!

[@denizthekid3642]

​@@l.mekras4082 :)

[@naturesfistlor9457]

Thank you for the black representation with the thumbnail.i am a new African American mother and I don't see alot of others like me embarking on the Montessori journey. That was beautiful not sure if you recognize the impact of that. Love your channel btw ☺️💖

[@HapaFamily]

It was most definitely intentional. :) Lots of love from our family to yours!

[@LemonDove]

I recently came across Supernova Momma on Twitter (also on TikTok and a little bit on KZbin). She’s a Black mother sharing info on the Montessori methods and positive parenting she uses w/ her neurodiverse children. I’m just an aunt but her tips on handling & preventing tantrums has been pretty helpful for me when babysitting.

[@naturesfistlor9457]

@@LemonDove this is great I'll definitely be checking them out ! Thank you for sharing

[@jasminethomas4734]

Absolutely. I am a French and Spanish teacher and I make a point of choosing children/teenagers of colour when choosing photos for my PowerPoints.

[@briannanelson4791]

I love seeing it too. All we ever see is what Hollywood portrays in movies and on tv. Seeing families of any color together always touches my heart, but when I see a black family it makes me happy because it reminds me that what Hollywood chooses to show us is not representative of the whole race.

[@kevingee2393]

Yes, the sensitive period for babies for language development is spot on & my wife had the idea of one parent one language. My wife speaks Tagalog and I speak English to our baby. My daughter picked up Tagalog so fast. I was so surprised by how much she absorbed

[@Eby_Starzy]

That’s because she spends much time with your wife than you.

[@BoysAreSmellyo]

Your videos are awesome. Consise and to the point. No blabber. Thank you for teaching us about Montessori in an easy to understand way. I read one Montessori book and it was very dry. I felt like I was reading a textbook

[@AmiableGrace]

I swear, I come back to this video every six months as my daughter progresses through the periods.

[@letyvargas9052]

Hello, I am mother of one 11 month old baby. She doing all the simple milestones but i was amazed by how ur youngest daughter named mia. She get up on her chair, eats on her own, drinks from a regular cup and even helped you cleaned. How did you teach your daughter each individual thing? That is amazing, please be proud of your teaching, patience, and your daughters.😊 i want to keep learning and putting it in practice. Stay safe and i look forward in watching ur videos.

[@sylvievicenza179]

You are passionate! It was very interesting. I could be a grandma but do not see the day it will happen. I would love to go back when I had my 3 kids and use what you talked about. Thank you.

[@odileidysbasanta]

Love your new posting hours! My 2 years old son is extremely interested in numbers right now. He is counting all the time and he recognize the numbers. The activities that you mention have been crucial in this process. Thanks for this videos. I can tell you do a lot of research and I truly appreciate it.

[@pizzelle2]

Your videos are the best. You’re a natural at sharing information. Thank you so much for this!

[@lexiswan312]

I love your videos so much! I honestly feel like you’re my friend😂 thanks for being so informative❤️

[@eyestotheskies]

We don't have a Montessori school nearby and can't afford for me to leave work and homeschool, but your videos give me so much useful information on how I can provide excellent learning opportunities for my wee ones at home, even if they have them alongside their mainstream schooling. Thank you for these videos!

[@gatissmidrovskis9410]

That intro music! :) It's so interesting how Chef John made such a great association with this soundbite and himself

[@april8291]

Really love your videos and truly appreciate the knowledge you have to share. My first is 7 months old and I have his room almost completely set up Montessori style with a Waldorf flare. Haha. I was a Software Developer for 14+ years before he came along and now I will be looking into becoming certified in Montessori style teaching. Thank you again.

[@hummingacre595]

Fantastic video! I read Montessori from the start (amazing read). But I like coming back to specific topics in your videos. Thank you so much!

[@marcimay2975]

Very informative! Having three older boys and now 20 month old twins, it's amazing how accurate these sensitive periods actually are! Also, BOB books are the BEST!

[@MiaJuaneza]

I love this topic. I remember how we discussed this back in my University years. Thank you for doing this! I’m sharing this to my family and friends :)

[@karlysheridan2880]

Love this super helpful video! Also loving that wall art in the background “play is the work of the child” 💗

[@anamikasharma537]

You are a natural narrator. Great video.

[@montessorybychoice3156]

Hi Ashley ..I am from india and i like ur content very much..i have recently started learning about montessory learning and implementing those methods for my toddler..thanks for useful information

[@yarmaaruf9362]

I adore your videos, really i can not pass a day with out watching 5 of your videos you teach me a lot you are a real new innovation to me to be honest you can not expect how much i love my mom but some times i wish you were my mom in order to be as ordered caring loving as you and if every person raise their children as you we will have a much more beautiful peacfull world

[@HapaFamily]

Thank you so much for your continued dedication! Glad I can provide enjoyment to you, while continuing to educate 😊

[@vineetamendiratta5121]

I liked your comment. I also like that you did like your own comment or did not beg for likes. So so true

[@monica6376]

Ashley , I feel you are my best friend during my maternity leave , my baby is two months younger than Mia, through you videos i know what I may need to prepare for 2 months later and 3 years later! Can’t not thanks u enough for all wonderful ideas about monetesori....Ps: I named my baby’s best friend( her favorite doll ) with ur name , and my baby is hapa

[@yeemonkhine7632]

I am at the very beginning of my montessori teaching journey and thank you so much for sharing!

[@maryflorencebibbin9789]

You are so wonderful and truly a Montessorian with passion and authenticity! Thank you for making it easy for all to understand Montessori's perspective of sensitive period.ove. love all your videos and have been sharing it with my friends

[@unityk5986]

You are god sent!!! Thank you thank you!!!

[@Julia-pf6eb]

Your videos are so useful I think I should pay for them to watch😂 I took notes for the positive discipline videos and showed them to my husband. I finally sort of convinced him there is another way to discipline children. Why my words are so weak but yours are so strong?

[@mckpayjhn]

i’ve been following your channel for a while and the other day in my human growth class i had to write about child development so i used some examples from your montessori videos since my paper was on montessori!! i got an A :)

[@ramonacosuleanu3332]

A very important information for all parents. Thanks a lot for this video.❤

[@mssheepzzzz]

Wow thank you so very much for sharing your knowledge of Montessori!!!!

[@Elvaelvaku]

It’s a very informative video! I feel very stage is so important from newborn to all the way to at least 6/7 years old!

[@dianagreene4257]

Thank you! My three year old just got really excited about letters with no warning and I wasn't sure what to do with it.

[@magnusagatha]

I love that you recommend Bob Books! Those are what I had in Kindergarten!

[@zelmariepretorius]

Gosh! I love you so much!!! This is so helpful. So happy I came across your channel last year. You're just freaking amazing! 🌹❤️

[@kathleenm482]

I love your content. I am a first time mom and the information you share is so helpful. Thank you!

[@emilyroberts9297]

Ashley. Seriously, you make such quality videos! I hope you realize that you have a knack for explaining and teaching this subject, I always feel more confident and able to include Montessori in our home after watching your videos. Thank you for doing these excellent videos!

[@lilylebowsky5908]

Your videos are sooooo infomative. I deeply thank you You are doing a lot of good to parents who wish to enjoy appreciate and educate their child.

[@freespiritdamsel]

This is incredibly helpful for a mom like me who is new into Montessori. Thank you for posting this video series.

[@philippapay4352]

You really did quite a thorough overview and a couple of ideas I'm going to implement. Thanks.

[@EveArtie]

I agree. I will as well!

[@choosnau]

You look stunning. Thanks as always for the information

[@Kjaskar3003]

I stumbled over your videos just yesterday and I am really interested in the montessori way. I will definitely buy me a book to read through and try to get some structures of it in our daily routines and life. As to the things you say in this video, I see how I subconsciously just started to read and talk and sing to my son right from the moment he was born (at least every time I was with him, he was almost 12 weeks early so I haven't been with him alle the time during his first month and a half) and although he was this early he started babbling things I said at about 8 months. He loves us to read books to him, sometimes when I let him play alone he'll just take his favourite stories and "reads" them by memory. He even corrects me if I read something wrong :) Sometimes when I'm reading I'll just point to him at one part and he'll finish the line. It's so awesome.. He memorizes songs and stories he likes really fast. I can't even count how many stories and songs he is telling or singing! He is now 3 years and 2 months old. :)

[@anna-katehowell9852]

Three is also the age that most Suzuki-style teachers will start accepting violin and piano students!

[@english4doctors520]

I can see the effort you put in creating this video. Thanks a million!

[@samanthakluske8231]

I have just found your channel and I absolutely love it! Every video so far has been so so helpful and so clearly explained! My daughter has just turned one and I have just been introduced to Montessori ways and I am finding your videos to be the most useful tool so far! Thank you ☺️

[@loryrowe6581]

I always watch your vlogs and love your contents. I am a first-time mom and learning positive parenting and educate myself about how to raise toddlers in a Montessori way is interesting. Thanks for sharing your experience and knowledge with mothers out there.

[@45frankieb]

I love your video clips! I have a one year wee boy and find your advice very helpful in his learning! X

[@priyamehra5127]

You are simply amazing

[@vasudhal7]

Your videos are wonderful. I am happy that I found them.. Thank you.

[@hmb899]

How odd I was just reading about this yesterday in the Montessori toddler book. Such a coincidence that you made a video on it.

[@samanthakwait8782]

My son is super into lining up objects especially if they’re different colors right now

[@yurjhr1662]

Thank you so much for this. You are a god send.

[@westcoastgal4078]

Really enjoy your videos. Informative and clear. Thanks for all your effort to share this information!

[@saradirenzo7240]

WOW that was a lot of great information. Love your videos and share them with my 3 children who are parenting their own little ones. Would love advice for grandparents.

[@danarbeauty3711]

Thank you for being you ❤️

[@vivianpolikar4446]

Hi Ashley. Loved the video. I know formal education is not encouraged for toddlers, but I was wondering if some kind of language class would be beneficial to take advantage of the sensitive period (for a foreign language not talked at home). Thank you!

[@Jane-qg4jr]

Very sad, that the sandpaper books aren't available in german- I couldn't find something similar. Does the number thing includes numbers 0 to 10 or even higher? My daughter (almost 2) loves a KZbin channel that has children songs. While we are in the kitchen we sing them and she tells me, wich one is next. She is very good in talking yet and I'm very proud of her and wen can communicate in a good way. Thanks for your video!!!

[@maip2005]

This was wonderful to see, thank you! My kids are going through a period of getting upset and angry with each other, 2.5 years old and 14 months old....snatching from hands etc. trying positive discipline but I haven’t seen any results yet

[@calico27]

I am having trouble with something similar. We have cats who are extraordinarily tolerant, and my 2.5yr toddler now has started not respecting their naps, eating time etc.. and plays a little rough, plucking whiskers, touching their noses a lot etc. My angelic cats don't hiss or swat or show her that it is not ok.. they just run away or slowly get out of her grip! Positive disciplining has not been working lately, toddler thinks it's all very funny. I am hoping this is just a phase! I have a niece who is awful to animals because my BIL and SIL just consider them as entertainment for her. I have been stressed and anxious to NOT let my daughter become like that! Don't know if anyone has any tips for this.. but if anyone does - would highly appreciate it.

[@eveliseteixeira902]

Hi there! Thanks for the video, very informative. I would like to point out though that according to Montessori original texts the sensitive periods are language, refinement of the senses, movement, order, small objects and social aspects of life. Everything you said makes a lot of sense according to the philosophy (and I do agree with what you said) but there are no potty training, emotional control, vocabulary and reading and writing sensitive periods mentioned in the original texts (I never came across them and was not taught about them during my Montessori teaching course). It will not make much difference to parents what was originally said by Montessori or not but I thought you would like to know. I really like your videos and thanks for helping parents around the world to adopt a more respectful relationship with their children!

[@HapaFamily]

Very interesting! The periods that I came across in my research were discussed by a MACTE accredited training program, and were reflected in a few other sources I have read in the past. I do so appreciate you taking the time to clarify, though, and I am curious where these others originated from. :) Which program did you receive your training in (just curious)? 🥰 Thanks again!

[@eveliseteixeira902]

@@HapaFamily I am training with MCI in London-UK. I will ask my tutors about possible differences in training and interpretation of original texts between the UK and USA and get back to you with more info.

[@HapaFamily]

Evelise Teixeira Thank you! That would be wonderful and much appreciated!

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

I love the sign behind you!

[@dongxueguo2972]

Awesome lady~ Thanks for your all useful information~ I am learning a lot from you~

[@gaelleangwafo5500]

I’m so happy I found your channel!!!

[@EveArtie]

Hey Ashley, you're kind of wonderful! Thank you! Love from Australia

[@butterflyrose4518]

Love your videos ❤️ thank you I hope to make a channel too someday. I always use and love the Waldorf and Montessori approach. Blessings!

[@lalaNomada]

Thank you for your great videos!! Would it be possible for you to recommend the "right" way to introduce the sandpaper-letters to a toodler? How is it appropriate without overwhelming them?

[@marie-louiseweerheim4224]

Ashley did do a video on learning to read

[@nylemama5804]

Thank you so much for the useful info!!

[@SoundWaveFilm]

Love these, very informative!!

[@kaitlync15]

How hard is it to switch to Montessori if your kids are already 4.5 and 1?

[@clagelmencias]

Hello, your videos are really helpful. I feel like I'm super late learning these things. I hope I can still catch up with my toddler. I have a 2yo and he has only 50 words in his vocabulary which is supposed to be 200 words in his age. Thank you for your helpful videos. I am really learning a lot. Please keep on posting. I will also use the montessori techniques with my 1yo. How do we handle speech delay?

[@katymusict]

Thank you Ashley! This will now be my go-to video for sharing a Montessori with others! This is also a great summary of sensitive periods for me as I begin this journey with my first!

[@kazisiminara6372]

I have two questions. 1. My 16 month old daughter not playing independently what should do . 2. If i am sit with her to play and if anything she can not do she through that toy or activity what should do.

[@pranikaworld6673]

Watch independent play video

[@chelseahealthwealth528]

Thank you as always

[@jrios4451]

My boys are the same age as your girls . How do we overcome my 3 year old Ethan from playing to hard with my 12 month old. He could also be emotionally aggressive with him. He pushes him out of his way sometimes causes him to get hurt, or take things away from him .. I don’t want to use the word bully but ... yes, it’s like he’s bullying him . And idk what to do. How can I help him get along with Noah ?

[@howonlee27]

How does Montessori address religion? Thank you! I love your videos, especially as a ‘Hapa’ mom of two girls myself!

[@ebbytrevino5488]

Love this !

[@tateecanmakethat]

One thing I am curious about is the fact that small objects and choking are around the same time....

[@DanielaRamirez-wy1fp]

Thank you so much for the info. I just ordered the alphabet book! What would recommend for a 1 yr old who's into exploring all the time?

[@tatianalozada5412]

Your videos are very helpful keep them coming lol!!!! (:

[@briannawright6460]

What is the Montessori approach to sleep? I know floor beds but what about in particular with sleep training (helping them learn to fall asleep independently)?

[@alexandrawood6330]

Out of the recommended books for reading, is there a particular one that goes into detail about sensitive periods and activities to do to support them?

[@rachaelharrison5507]

Should I not add musical instruments to my son’s learning shelves before he is 3 years old or is it ok for him to engage in play with items before his sensitive stage for that item?

[@Charcharazard]

Help!! I need montessori ideas for 6 month old - DIY only - independent play - full time working from home COVID19 stay at home parent!!!!

[@kutekakes]

Thank you so much 😊❤️

[@sadiaabdi1432]

Wow mashallh ❤️❤️❤️❤️🇸🇴👌🙏

[@msmyr21]

Hi Ashley, thank you for sharing your videos, really useful and love it! My daughters are 3 and 4.5 months, is it too late for my toddler because when I read many of montessori learning is for kids until 3. Thank you🤗

[@827honey1]

Great video.

[@purplecaterpillar8658]

When I have kids I want to let them use imagination play, but I agree with everything else in Montessori. How would this transfer over if they go to a Montessori school? I feel like it would be confusing for a child if imagination was only allowed at home. Any thoughts?

[@julial.b.6800]

The concept of imagination is quite prevalent in Montessori school. There are the Great Stories, for example, which ask a child to imagine the scientific creation of the world, etc. Also, in many presentations, we Montessori directors ask a child often to imagine something. For example, in introducing the concept of division, we ask a child to imagine sharing (something) with people...hope this helps! There's a difference between fantastical imagination and real world scenarios

[@purplecaterpillar8658]

@@julial.b.6800 Sorry I should've specified! I meant fantasy imagination. Thank you for taking time to respond btw :)

[@julial.b.6800]

@@purplecaterpillar8658 Appreciate it although it was pretty rambly haha

[@patriciaaareis]

Thank you for that video!:)

[@ismrph]

Isnt too late to start to have routine for 15mos old?

[@soibefire08]

My daughter will be 3 next month. I want to fully incorporate Montessori into her life. Is it too late?

[@vineetamendiratta5121]

No. She has made a video on it. Her daughter is 3 and a half now. Motessori continues way untill high school. Sorry for the late reply. Love India

[@rencho8236]

Amazing!

[@amandaparrett7459]

So I just stumbles across ur videos and I'm so ready in just 2days now to bring this into my 16 month olds life but I am kinda worried and scared how to start and do I just jump all in or slowly add it?? Can u help me please

[@sarahnicole9046]

I'm just curious what you would suggest doing if I want to follow Montessori but once my children reach school age I am unable to send them to a Montessori school where I live so I have to send them to a public school. Do you have any tips for if I can only follow Montessori at home? Thank you

[@laurawilliamson888]

So if my daughter is 20minths I've missed the toilet learning stage?

[@jackie4114]

You may have missed a sensitive period, but every child is different. Remember, even outside a sensitive period, a child can learn something; it's just easier to do in the sensitive period because that's when they are keenly interested and absorbed in this topic. Signs to look for if your child is in a sensitive period for toilet use would be them following you and your partner into the bathroom, an interest in their genitalia, interest in pulling their own pants up/down and dressing themselves in general. Also, some children get to a point where they decidedly dislike the feeling of being wet or dirty. If these don't sound like behaviours your child has exhibited, then she may not have gone through this sensitive period yet. If you remember some of these things happening, then you may have missed it. But that's fine! You two may just need to work a little harder to get it done. Good luck!

[@Whybuymiami]

Wow 12-18 mo for potty training?! I’m not ready for this 🙈

[@jessicachurch319]

There’s a common misconception that it’s easier for children to learn languages than an adult’s. That’s actually not true! There have been several studies that have found children pick up native accents a lot easier than adults, but the ability to pick up and understand different languages is no different than an adult’s, and in a lot of cases since adults have knowledge of another language to use as an example while they’re learning, they actually have an easier time picking up the new language than a child who is struggling to understand their own native language still. Loved this info on sensitive periods but wanted to clarify this point a little :)

[@calico27]

This is interesting and contrary to what I have always heard and believed till now. I myself moved around quite a bit and had to learn different languages throughout my life. I speak 3 fluently (can read and write 3 scripts).. I have studied 3 more.. and have had to function in an environment of 2 other languages. And found that I got conversational in languages much faster in my younger years than the later ones. Can you point me to some of the studies you mentioned? I am curious.

[@sasha021392]

💗

[@vivianpolikar4446]

Me again. Does it mean that dr. Montessori encouraged kids from 2.5 to 5 to be alphebatized?

[@vineetamendiratta5121]

No !

[@tshiree2855]

all great info, but delivered very fast.

Well shit I totally missed the toilet period

[@amiliasofia7563]

Would people seriously read to a child in a monotone voice?! 🤦