UNREALISTIC Expectations, EMOTIONAL Men & DYSFUNCTIONAL Families with Love McPherson

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[@prettycaramel9237]

I love how this podcast has begun to transform even the creators. I've disliked the guy in the white hoodie so much so bad so long. His growth during the progression of this podcast as he's introduced to healers, has been beautiful to witness. ❤

[@nawi332]

It's true! I agree Tysean has grown so much!

[@prettycaramel9237]

@nawi332 You see it too!? Look at God! I used to suck my teeth when he spoke, but now, he's so handsome.

[@nawi332]

@@prettycaramel9237 I have! He'll def be married before Ryan!🤭

[@dw9054]

I’m so proud of them and their openness to learning and growth .

[@ruthbright4449]

Yeah this was not their plan but it was definitely God's agenda but it is beautiful to witness. That's why this platform is relevant about relationships it's therapeutic to say the least.

[@sweetksdelightsllcjax]

She’s full of wisdom!!!!! BRING HER BACKKKKK 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you guys for being so VULNERABLE. I definitely feel identify with the experience you both share all the time!!!!

[@vernetta111]

Yes she broke it all the way down

[@NeriGongora-k5x]

Omg I feel like I just got a free therapy session. This was one of the very best life discussions I’ve heard in a very long time. Epic!

[@vernetta111]

Ever !!!!!

[@BetterLoveMovement]

PURE 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 THIS RIGHT HERE is the podcast we ALL need! Our black family is in CRISIS right now and we don’t even fully know we are in DEEP trouble!!😢

[@esolo7485]

😭Tysean Jackson and Ryan Catchings How brave to share your experiences with/without a father thanks for being vulnerable. This is the key to heal teen/young males/families. this conversation needs to be had to begin the healing.

[@cliftonwhite108]

I felt Ryan's pain talking about his absent father to his ex's Dad. I literally felt his transparency. May God bless you.

[@cathys.7230]

This! This is what our community needs! These brothahs are doing some SERIOUS work. THANK YOU BOTH & those behind the scenes.

[@vernetta111]

We need more of this

[@enjoylifemuzic]

🙌🏾❗️

[@eclaudynevilfrant3159]

This podcast has become so good ! Even the hosts are growing … it is beautiful to see… and the quality of guests is better and better. Love McPherson is a great voice in the relationship space!

[@Peaceful-rv1tb]

Each generation should stand on the backs of the previous generations for greater progress. More mentors, guidance, love, self improvement, prayers, learning, teachable spirits and better confidence are all strongly needed by us ❤

[@ijananathaniel]

Definitely felt the adult trigger about waiting for dad who never came when he said he would. Someone not keeping their word is a huge problem for me. So thanks for helping me see the connection.

[@nadinelindsay3012]

This is so very true. I find that men who come from a 2 parent homes that were healthy treated me better and knew how to have a healthy relationship.

[@dswannbeautyartist]

This!!!

[@gintoki_sakata__]

Yet didn't stay?

[@meenameena-dd2zy]

This episode is worthy of watching multiple times. Love McPherson said, "Choose somebody who loves you enough to change your diaper when you turn 70." WOW! she was spitting straight facts. YUP! THIS EPISODE WILL BE REPLAYED.

[@CareerPivotNow]

This is probably the best relationship and dealing with trauma conversation while addressing the little man and little girl inside that I have ever seen on the internet.

[@vernetta111]

I agree

[@iammoxxi]

1000000% agreeeeeeeeeeee

[@maureenwakoli2201]

💯💯

[@SasheikaT]

These men are doing God’s work! Bringing these conversations to the masses, particularly black communities. We need this! I need this. Whewww this is good! I pray more black men come across this video!

[@sherisecarter3548]

This by far was on of the best speakers I’ve heard on any platform. Thank you Ms. Love for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. Thanks to the host for having positive, constructive discussions that help us understand and overcome our experiences. Much love to you guys and prayers for continuous success!

[@rachelvillafana6263]

I’m choking back tears listening to this episode 50mins in. I have struggled with performance and independence all my life, always saying I didn’t want to be like my mom watching her endure certain things based on her inability to “do better” for us. Thank you, Tysean, for your vulnerability 🙏🏾

[@lb1798]

32:55 I'm choking back tears as Dr Love describes "your PERSON". EVERY THING she is saying is true. I had my person for 48 years. ❤💔❤ Nothing can compare to him. 37:44 ** Happiness Formula**

[@brandonshorter1053]

I understand... I can relate to this!!! I pray 🙏🏾 that you will continue to mentally , physically, and spiritually

[@Christian80806]

I'm so glad she's addressing this because I've been saying for the longest that black men are not raise to be husbands like black women are raised to be wives. And being a good father STARTS with being a good husband!!!

[@Christian80806]

@@timothyrobinson3938 huh??? I can’t relate & don’t know what you’re talking about. Im not a feminist. Wasn’t raised to think submission was wrong. And I’ve never been taught that I don’t need a man. Maybe you’re speaking of some other kind of women 😬😬😬

[@thedojoofmanhood2136]

​@@Christian80806How are bw raised to be wives but the least married? I don't understand

[@Christian80806]

@@thedojoofmanhood2136 because a lot of them waiting on black men who are in prison or don’t wanna be married sadly. That’s why I advise people to broaden your scope of preferences when it comes to race. But black women refuse and will wait forever for a black man who may not want them, or isn’t available.

[@thedojoofmanhood2136]

@Christian80806 I mean...Other races of men have always been able to date BW. As a whole, they choose not to marry BW. It's not very likely a woman who is waiting on someone in prison or can't get a quality BM can somehow get a quality Asian/white/Latin man. It does happen but that's extremely rare. However, I'm still not understanding how women are raised to be wives so often if they're raised by the least married women. I only date BW, so I'm not bashing, the logic doesn't make sense to me though.

[@Christian80806]

@@thedojoofmanhood2136 if im correct bw who date outside of their race are more likely to get married. Women who date black men are more likely to become single moms. Again I could be wrong. I can’t remember where I heard this stat from. But yea. Again it’s because black women are waiting on black men to marry them and refuse to date outside their race that’s why they will not get married even if they are wife material, that’s how that happens.

[@docd2026]

I was slain 50 times during this interview. Mrs. Love McPherson is incredible. The story about asking your father for something and he doesn’t do it so you spend on clothes…. Had me!!!! This was incredible. So many moments that has me journal writing!!!

[@jimmyjnmary3729]

Thank you so much for bringing this strong woman to the platform. Amazing professional

[@stellamgeyi6732]

OMG... I am crying... I was raised by a single parent, I'm a Dr now however, I feel I still have nothing to show for it after 8yrs because I'm expected to pull everyone (from my siblings to my uncle) it is tiring, I've thought of abandoning my family several times... move to a different town & change my number...

[@denise4743]

being the strong one is overrated. trust me love you can't run from yourself, yes you can distance and enforce tough love. don't be an enabler. I know what you feel it's a heavy weight being the responsible relied upon one.

[@luu2807]

@Stella and @denise4743, I feel your pain- iam in that category although the responsiblitybhas gone down a bit bse all my siblings have now finished university (7 of them) I have had to learn tough Love and I have learnt that NO is a full sentence. You just have to say no if it’s not health related. Find comfort in all the things you have already done ….it will be difficult because we only know to support others. Don’t worry God will reward you but learn to say without feeling guilty.

[@betty9549]

I hope that this conversation will heal all the disrespect, lack of compassion, and unrealistic expectations between black men and women. Thank you for bringing this episode to us.

[@hithere8261]

Yes I 100% agree. My son's dad died when my son was 3 and I've raised in as a single mom - he has 1 more year and he graduates college. I made sure that he knew that he WAS NOT the man of my house but instead made sure that he learned what a man's responsibilities are, and so far so good.

[@K33MA]

I loved her perspective, she has to come back to share her wealth of life...💯

[@laviniamonique2592]

She doing God’s work. This is by far the best episode! I hope she got a WHOLE a check for this episode because she handing out healing and saving lives in this one episode!

[@tiarragray4731]

We need to continue these conversations! I know in my heart people will take self inventory and accountability and begin to heal. The suicide rate will diminish, marriages will last, and healthy friendships will form and flourish. This is my vision. Thank You Love!

[@1andOnly-r9r]

This podcast and Dr. Spirit, I think, are the best interviews they've had. I hope they become regulars and i definitely want to see Ms. Love on a live show!

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

Imagine your name aligns with your profession. Spirit and Love, how cool us that 😎

[@rq2212]

This lady last was spot on for me! I’m going through my second divorce after being single for 10 years and I seriously have given up on all intimate relationships. I’ll keep an open heart even though I really just don’t like people all that much!

[@Heyu7her3]

Single women live longer & are happier, so 🤷🏽‍♀️ It really is necessary for a spouse to bring something & add to us

[@adrianem3662]

This was an awesome discussion! As she talked, I discovered I have four rooms of trauma. I have a clothes and shoe addiction, And I discovered it came from me, asking to be on the cheerleading squad, and my mom said I can’t afford it. At that moment, I decided I was never going to not do anything I wanted to do that went for me and my children I also understood Tyshun”s ah-ha moment as I am an over achiever, determined not to be with out for the family as well. I married at 52 and have my first wedding anniversary on Thanksgiving. I feel like I need to tell my husband about all of this. I think it will put things in perspective. This platform is amazing!

[@spectacularrichbeautybrilli]

This therapist is EXCELLENT. It is clear that she loves her craft. She listens extremely well and asks the best questions at the right time. 🤓

[@cathys.7230]

I HAD to join while watching this episode. I found this 1 week ago & these young men are doing the WORK that we need. Tuscan has the needle, Ryan has the thread, & the guests are the sowing machines. Each time I watch an episode, something in our community gets a few stitches that repairs us. THANKS young men & a big thanks to all the guests who are doing the work as well! I needed this to help me grow and reflect! ❤

[@AleciaDistin]

THIS!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY AGREE AND I HOPE THAT RYAN AND TYSEAN SEE THIS COMMENT! 💯 💯💯💯💯

[@glendanesmith]

You have to be healed enough to recognize dysfunction when you see it.

[@NoelDyanasty]

❤️😭💝💚 yes facts goddess

[@jennifermorales5476]

Omg, man. She had me all choked up listening to her talk about trauma. I want her to be my therapist, for real, for real. Love Love, much respect 🙏

[@MichaelAlexander1967]

Mrs. Love McPherson is is a treasure of wisdom and knowledge. She’s giving us gems and nuggets!! I love the conviction of people who really “know” what they’re talking about. She’s 40 years strong 💪🏽❤👍🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽. Great choice Tysean and Ryan. God is LOVE and God is good !👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. “Live” - bring her back.

[@LenaTheSage]

This was so good. She brought so much texture and context to emotions, healing and love. Thank you guys for your vulnerability. Because it actually takes so much strength. It’s helps more people than you know✨

[@mariemuhammad7983]

I love how Love validates the super mom struggle by even confessing how difficult it was with her having a husband.

[@bdott1538]

@@timothyrobinson3938Supermoms are upholding the Black community currently. They may not be doing it well…bc they were never supposed to have to do such, but that doesn’t take away from the enormity of what they’ve done when fathers and husbands have been in short supply in too many Black homes. They are indeed supermoms. They keep their children fed, housed and educated in a dynamic that should have at least two adults to supervise and provide structure and two incomes.

[@sfreeman417]

This episode was like therapy. The host and Initiates are healing together! ❤ Ty and Ryan were in deep thought. Love to see it.

[@cdnicole30]

❤

[@rachiebabie901939]

This gave me goosebumps. Love is so wise and she dug deep. I always say that the older I get the more I realise we are just older versions of our younger selves - our inner child is still there. Thank you guys for being so courageous to be vulnerable. I salute you, we need more of this internal work! ❤

[@SimpleNClassy1]

LIFE this is one of the absolute best healing episodes. Love was speaking to the audience in “Love”. Everything makes sense

[@simoneardis5115]

I’m 55 yrs and thinking about looking for love again. Good food for thought🌷

[@ccblessed2]

Great conversation! The likes don't match the views...these brothers are putting out great content!

[@aricab71]

I am so grateful for the content that is being presented on this platform! Watching the growth of these 2 gentlemen has been very encouraging and a blessing to many! May God continue to move and bless this podcast!

[@datijerge3051]

Marriage is the highest risk activity one can ever do in life! That hit hard!

[@hair399]

Wow, what an episode!!! Kudos to Ryan & Tysean for being so transparent and vulnerable. Hearing their experiences and responses helped me to understand my past traumas and especially the traumas of the men in my life. Love, you are indeed a very wise woman. Thanks to you all!!!

[@NikkiBeDoingStuff]

I was in the same position as Tysean when it came to the toxic arguments between my parents. I found myself trying to always protect the peace in the house and guard my younger brother. Now, my anxiety is triggered at the first sign of any disagreement.

[@queenkristine9590]

hands down, out of all the wonderful guest you’ve had, this one has it most spot on, with the least personal baggage brought into the conversation. truly a healing show today. thank you.

[@Jody7778]

She definitely have to be on the live show. She's awesome.

[@Shana-r5f]

Y'all have no idea about the amount of healing you've been bringing into my life. Thank you HI

[@sherrilstalley4699]

This podcast was awesome. So appreciative of the gentlemans openness and the guests wisdom.

[@cathys.7230]

I’m watching this again to get what I might have missed the 1st time. TySean and Ryan, big ups to you both! You are building! You 2 are building up while others are tearing down and ripping apart. Thank you!

[@OneGoodWoman84]

My My My she hit so many topics on the head directly.... sharing until all My family and friends have listened to this

[@DrGeorgianne]

Many of us need to go back to youth and come back to adulthood refreshed

[@lynzypooh80]

Watching these episodes has been so therapeutic for me. Teaching me so much in each sitting. Knowledge, Wisdom and Understanding is at the top of my priority list.

[@Express2BU]

Thank you Hardly Initiated for another high level perspective from a Wonderful mastermind Mrs Love.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾#LIVE Thank you I will never give up ❤️

[@toya7644]

By far, it is the best podcast and advice I have heard on this topic. What an amazing woman with a vast amount of knowledge. I felt like she was that favorite auntie giving you sage advice. Thank you for having this much needed real conversation .

[@nkhen_c357]

I love her......She makes so much sense and makes you do introspection on your decision, reflect on your childhood and family history.

[@HisEssenceofLife]

This sister right here!!!! I could listen to her for hours. She is giving free counseling with this convo.

[@msalwaysbeautifuli]

This podcast alone brought tears to my eyes on so many levels. I’ve watched several videos but this one right here touched on so many levels

[@iampresstaza9291]

Tysean made me cry ❤ praying for him a lot of healing! Love your vulnerability.

[@pracs3377]

Thank you for this episode. Love is a blessing. The woman and the gift from God. So enlightening and healing.💚

[@LoveTranslated]

Thank you for this one. Wow. It's amazing how Love is able to speak right to the soul of men. Her level of understanding is uncanny. There are a lot of fake "gurus" and "therapists" online. She's a real one. She's genuine and rare. Her words blessed my life. Gave me much to reflect on. Is she accepting new clients at this time? 🙏🏽

[@barryvincent5720]

Wow! This episode is blessing me immensely! ❤️🙏🏾

[@kenyaparmes1544]

WHEW!!! Some major, golden nuggets up in here! Especially when Love spoke on how we rationalize trauma! That example of “my daddy was a serial cheater, but he was a good dad” --the thought that we would actually separate the two…and build a high tolerance for abusive behavior and wonder why we are broken. I know too many in this category and I’m exhausted.

[@vernetta111]

I honestly feel like everyone in the black community needs to sit and watch this video young and old to have a better understanding this has opened my mind my eyes and my spirit

[@Georgeghumblewhite]

This episode was so powerful and amazing life changing 🙏🏼💯🙌🏼

[@chrisb5311]

Mrs McPherson is GREAT...

[@monsieurnoir207]

This was your greatest hour of your career. I grew up in a two parent household but my son grew up in a divorced household. I would love for us to join you. I would like to hear the prospective from the child's point of view. I love you too.

[@SoSheDid...]

This is a raw, rare and much needed discussion 🩷🫶🏽🩵 My deepest Thanks to all!

[@Outta12]

This lady is awesome. We need more of her.

[@CandyCoated96]

Bing her back. This was very good. I related so much to what she was saying. It was like therapy and revelation. She exposed somethings I never thought about. Also you all talking about your own experiences are confirming. I appreciate that vulnerability. Because as humans we have so much in common with each other. Thanks for this episode.

[@cheryldevers7750]

I am in my sixties and am full of love,and have things set in my life, but would love companionship. Thank you Ms Love for giving me hope that it possible to have a relationship unique to my needs and not just a standard one. I made past choices, but God will make future one. This show is awesome and Tysean and Ryan are amazing young men. Much Love. 🙏🏽

[@jraysor24]

This right here, such great introspective conversations that allow me to process my decisions and how it relates to my trauma. Thank you Love! And HI! Bring her back for sure!

[@JusDiff]

This is an AMAZING episode. Love is such a GEM and has sooooo much widom, patience, and experience. Such a blessing.

[@valnaviawalker2657]

This was so a powerful episode, probably one of thee best episodes. Love spoke to my heart. I was trying to explain some of these same issues with my son. This was real and so genuine. Thank you guys for having her on.❤

[@mkeld8513]

She is a blessing! Looking forward to seeing her again on your show.

[@JaeC444]

Man this was soooo beautiful! I love the vulnerability you both shared in this pod and I wholeheartedly appreciated and agreed with Love! She dropped some gorgeous gems 💎!! God bless you all!! This was much needed!! ❤❤

[@nhouston7]

The Gems dropped from this teaching of Wisdom applied. This was so very necessary and I absolutely got what I needed from this. Thank you H.I. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥❤️💯

[@vbanks9357]

Wow Thanks For Addressing so many issues in the black community ...etc....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ashleyenglish9987]

Whew!! This episode was exceptional. Thank you!!

[@Unique_144]

I love this podcast more and more with each episode. What an honor it is to have a front row seat to see 2 black men grow and mature in life, love, and manhood. Great job Kings! 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@feliciawilliams9008]

I will never give up on LOVE!💕

[@42Israel1]

Oh my goodness, this was an awesome interview! This was my first time ever hearing Mrs. Love and she was phenomenal. Thank you so much HI team!

[@candacewarren8490]

This is real trauma work for relationships with self and others. Black men are so important as both fathers and husbands……obviously given this conversation healthy black men are not an option, but paramount to improving the black family and black communities

[@PhoenixRising82672]

Oh now black men are important

[@rachelphillips5576]

I learned a lot about me and my childhood trauma from listening to Mrs. Love. She is excellent. Great job inviting her on Hardly Initiated. This is one of the best podcasts I've heard in months. Thank you guys. Keep up the great content

[@enumangene6914]

This was very introspective, love to see her again ❤

[@debbieridgeway8470]

Such a great woman to share her wisdom! This amazing podcast applies to everyone! Thank you all so much!

[@mitchj35]

This podcast was SOOOO amazing!

[@ayyb6789]

This was a great conversation, thank you men for having Mrs. Mcpherson has a guest.

[@toomuch8931]

The fact that she mentioned “love being a risk” let’s me know this message is being driven with limited knowledge. Love and loving others in relationships are never a risk but rather requires genuine intent. Because just like a child (minor under the 12) will never regret loving ppl no matter the abuse imposed on them is how we need to learn how to love. Not to accept abuse, adult privilege helps us STOP ABUSE!! Catch this message and live great and fearless in our SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST!!! HE IS THE ONLY WAY, THE ONLY TRUTH AND THE ONLY LIFE AND HE WILL TEACH YOU EVERYTHING!! Blessed are those who believe and haven’t see 🙏🏾❤️

[@bdott1538]

Love is a risk…romantic love is, that is. Agape love is not.

[@sabreenahrochelle3989]

I’m late to the watch party, but thank you so so so much Ty and Ryan for your vulnerability on this episode…you are really practicing what your show is about and I was so grateful for you sharing and the chance for you both to have some healing Blessings ~

[@mariemuhammad7983]

Grown men wrestling with arrested development. Childhood is so important. You only get one (.)

[@shawnaw9750]

Great conversation. I truly enjoyed it.

[@Nichole4Hope]

I needed to hear this. Thanks for having this episode. Had me in tears with childhood trauma that God is healing me from.

[@kayannthegreat]

I missed part of this during the live and had to go watch that part right away. This lady is amazing, and so humble too! Can't wait for her to join us live!!!

[@efe3881]

LIVE!!! When are we going to make this live show happen?

[@clairegeza5097]

waiting already from Zimbabwe

[@swinters_real]

I just want to give both guys a BIG hug!! I love watching your podcast!!

[@ryyanmanasseh8146]

No disrespect, but you guys have exceeded expectations ❤ again. The best ever. Sista Love was absolutely 💯 amazing. Bless you all 🎉

[@yvonneanderson2634]

Excellent… thank you!

[@Justritamich]

She broke everything down! Especially the filters to the whole first date mess. Not dealing with prior trauma will be carried for a lifetime. Stop making other people pay for trauma they didn't cause

[@KayQhosa]

💯💯