Hayley Kiyoko's Advice On Coming Out And Loving Yourself

For #NationalComingOutDay, Hayley Kiyoko sat down with us to share her coming out story, her path to self-acceptance, and the mantra she repeats to herself every morning. ❤️
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[@oopsmygaynessisshowingagai9604]

*HAPPY NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY!!!🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈* for everyone who's not out, don't EVER feel pressured to come out, ESPECIALLY when it's not safe. Just know there are people who love you and care for you, and you have a whole family standing behind you. we love you bby gaes :)

[@dolorescavers6879]

shut up you homophobic prick

[@UnknownPerson-js2qt]

Random Guy12 stfu bastard. You the one going to hell for judgement.

[@samuelharding8717]

GAYBIES gaybies for everyone

[@beah8316]

oops my gayness is showing again I love your username so much!

[@imprisoned.marionette]

Dolores Cavers what do you mean? It was a nice comment,and you sound homophobic right now

[@iseegreatness]

God I love her so much and I am so proud of her for the impact she has made on the LGBT community, specifically the younger ones. Her music is amazing as well.

[@swiftie9455]

I came out today :) and I'm kinda scared to go to school tomorrow... but you made everything better ❤

[@amandalaskey1525]

You deserve to feel proud of yourself! That takes so much courage. Stand tall and strong and don't let anyone get you down.

[@swiftie9455]

@@amandalaskey1525 thank you so so so much!!💗

[@marionlusin6885]

I hope everything will go the way you want

[@swiftie9455]

@@marionlusin6885 thank you sooo much! 💖

[@backuplc332]

I promise it will all work out!

[@grey5395]

Hayley kiyoko is such a good inspiration 💜

[@lockheart619]

I came out to my best friend recently and she was like, "okay" I was glad she didn't make a big deal. I knew she was gonna accept me either way, but I didn't want a reaction that was too dramatic. Either way at the end of the day I like to be viewed as a human being so any reaction that does that is fine with me

[@Shadedancer05]

Congratz for coming out

[@lockheart619]

@@Shadedancer05 Thank you!💖

[@amelia-jk3bq]

@Lock heart I'm gay but I don't know how to tell my friends one of my friend sister is bisexual. I have all ready came out to one of my friends she okay with it. Do you have an advice?

[@Shadedancer05]

@@amelia-jk3bq well how i first came out i asked what they thought about gays and there like there cool then if they asked me why i wanted to know i'm like well i'm a lesbian since i am one but you don't have to try this

[@amelia-jk3bq]

@Kiyavi hatten I know my friends are okay with me being gay but I think I'm just scared

[@voletta950]

I’m gay and I haven’t even told my twin sister

[@megansworld2130]

Good luck xx

[@jsncros9897]

Lol me too

[@eddie-ut1jr]

i am gay and i just told my twin brother

[@imajoke9027]

i haven't told my twin sister either but tbh i think she's gay as well lol

[@petrasolano9531]

i hope you have now

[@jdz3742]

God bless you Hayley. You have helped so many people and myself as well. I’m closeted and unable to come out due to homophobic family but because of you I know I can be strong no matter what

[@ohmyl3s857]

I can't stop crying.. I love Hayley so much and like she's just so amazing.. And I can relate so much and j just want her to give me a goddamn hug

[@xBarksx]

Honestly this helps me so much. I only really accepted myself in the past year and it feels like I can finally breathe. The only person who doesn't know is my Dad, but I'll get there... eventually. Hayley, I love you to absolute bits. You've helped me so much, you help everyone so much - you're the best! Annnnd I'm gonna start telling myself I love myself everyday, too. Cause I suck at loving myself and believing I'm enough. Thanks a million times over. xoxoxo

[@nolaclifford3077]

I'm still trying to accept my sexuality. This video was amazing.

[@anorakquest4004]

it’s so hard I don’t think I ever will and I’m so scared

[@neikelysmelendez6990]

OMG! This make me cry so much, because a live a lie to myself!

[@angelp722]

Omg my love Lesbian Jesus,,,..,We Stan a inspirational legend,,.,,

[@amaiacarcedo1566]

Angie Lovegood is she lesbian or bi?

[@angelp722]

@@amaiacarcedo1566 she identifies as a lesbian

[@sashakogl8468]

2018 is a huge year for me. I stopped listening to others and I came out to nearly all of my friends and family and I feel so free and comfortable and so confident🤗

[@amelia-jk3bq]

Good for you girl😁

[@cldss.6293]

it made me cry because it was with Hayley's music that I managed to survive this year so terrible for me when I was on a bad day to improve I was going to listen to her songs, watch videos and their interviews. Thank you so much Hayley for helping me❤️ expectations has been a gift

[@celiasml]

I came out two years ago and It was the best thing I could have done. "You are enough" is my new mantra!

[@giorgiatrebiani2606]

i love you too hayley

[@cldss.6293]

Hayley and I have one thing in common, every day I say "I love you Hayley" too 😍

[@gateauderizz142]

Can't believe I'm going to see this wonderful girl in two weeks I can't waiit

[@jessicaparras7458]

Hayley always inspires me to be proud of who I am and who I love

[@cldss.6293]

same

[@user-vu6ke]

I remember watching this for the first time almost a year after it was uploaded. At the time, I was exhausted of being in the closet but carried way too much shame with my sexuality, and had a lot of internalized homophobia, biphobia and self hate to come out. Over the years, things just got worse and I went through very dark times where I would self harm and nearly killed myself. So many times. I just couldn't understand myself and hated being bi. Now, I FINALLY understand what Hayley meant in this video. Like I actually get her, and everything she said is so relatable. I'm in a space where I no longer carry shame with my sexuality. I've taken the time to focus on myself and learn to love me for me and no one else, all while understanding that self love is a journey, and not a destination 🤍 I'm in that period where I don't see a reason to stay closeted anymore, but the thought of coming out to everyone (including some homophobic family members) all at once is way too overwhelming and gives me a lot of anxiety. So, I want to start small - and come out to the friends I trust will accept me. Even if they don't, it will hurt but I GOT ME and that's what matters ❤️ I still want to come out slowly though, and eventually get to a point where I am an openly black bisexual dude, regardless of who you are to me 💯 Thank you guys sm for this video, big shoutout to Hailey for being vulnerable with her story ❤️ it's ironic how as queer people - we go through so much thinking we're alone but can relate to one another in so many ways 😌🤍 KZbin has always been my safe space ❤️🏳️‍🌈 love ya'll

[@nightskystars0762]

I love you Hayley

[@cldss.6293]

I LOVE YOU, HAYLEY

[@maaikedemulder3668]

I felt this video so hard... i loved hayley from 1991 (i wasn’t even born yet) till my dying day, she’s such a beautifull girl with such a beautifull soul. Helping everyone she could, just by using the perfect words. SHE DESERVES EVERY SINGLE GIRL IN THE WORLD. Love you little bean. ❤️

[@noritosaurus5170]

What a coincidence... I also say "I love you Hayley" 10 times in the morning 😂 * daily prayer *🙏

[@everything3314]

I came out in 5th grade and till this day it makes me feel so much better about myself it’s honestly the best feeling when the people u told understand ☺️, even if they don’t u shouldn’t care u love who you want to love 💕

[@UnknownPerson-js2qt]

I came out to my best friend a couple months ago. I was so scared and idk why. She has been my sister for 9 years now. Well I was like hey call me I gotta tell you something. She did and I was like hey guess what im gay. She laughed and was like saaaaaaaaame. I was like huh. She said yeah me too I couldn’t figure out how to tell you. That was one of the best days of my life. Telling my favorite person who I truly am and her understand

[@Maya-ht9tm]

A very important thing to remember when someone comes out to you- match their energy. If they're being casual about it, you should be chill too and not make a huge deal, even if you mean it in the best way. If they're crying or emotional, make sure you reciprocate the emotions, let it be a sentimental moment, tell them you love them. If they're really excited and happy, then be excited with them! Hype them up!! Everyone's coming out is different, and there's no one way to react:)

[@sophieking572]

Hayley, you make life so much better. You have helped and continue to help me and so many people

[@cldss.6293]

SAME GIRL SAME

[@joanna6648]

she has my heart. WE LOVE YOU HAYLEY!!

[@sheniquejackson5956]

Hayley Kiyoko is definitely and totally one of THE Best of the Best Singers and Best Lesbians of All Time throughout the years in the making of LGBT Community!

[@miguelangelbautistaperez1616]

Yes hayley kiyoko l love you ❤

[@soffxx5363]

I came out to one of my best friends today as bi. And although I knew it was highly likely that she would be fine with it coz we have other close friends who are lgbt+ I was still so nervous!! Ended up literally just saying "Boys. Girls. Both. Get it?" And she was like "ohhh yeah ahaa!" And i got so nervous and she was like "awwww its okay! Thats perfectly fine!" Im so happy I told her and she was so chill about it and I'm so happy about that 😭❤️😭❤️

[@yuviiii3223]

You are the reason I accept myself and find who really I am .

[@jareezzy]

i’m crying

[@talia6090]

I really want to come out but I’m so scared. A lot of people at school know i’m gay but I haven’t told my parents

[@jessicacosgrove6911]

Amada I normally don’t reply to comments but for some reason I gotta say you’re stronger than you think! You deserve the world and I know how scary coming out can be, I came out to my mom today and it actually went really well. I hope everything goes good for you and I wish you the best!! Stay stay you gorgeous human 💗

[@amaiacarcedo1566]

Amada I wish you the best!

[@kattwentyonepilots2837]

I have the same situation exactly and it's so scary

[@bisexualandanxious]

@@kattwentyonepilots2837 meh 2

[@Kodzuken.Pudding]

I came out as bisexual to my friends but I haven't even came out to my family

[@sourlemons4]

I love her sooo much

[@actoutgames]

This is incredible! Thank you so much, Hayley! I'm so excited that you guys got her to do a video, and it was just as good as I wanted it to be! Love you guys

[@myapapaya3525]

This is good information I came out as a lesbian in 2019 July and I was scared to scared that my friends would turn against me scared I would be disowned but no everyone accepts me for who I am. So if you're reading this remember that it's gonna work out in the end if they don't accept you remember that I accept you and everyone here does too I love you all and stay safe Happy Pride 🏳‍🌈❤

[@jordynlund8793]

i relate to this so much. thank you hayley❤️

[@themememachine4484]

this is so helpful and powerful for a young gay youth like myself. this is what i'm living through right now so seeing someone like hayley where she is today is so inspiring

[@avocadoeilish9976]

I’m crying omg

[@ohmyl3s857]

Wait do u have an instagram called Hayley's tuna melt?

[@avocadoeilish9976]

Lil Cookie's LIFE yepppp

[@avocadoeilish9976]

Lil Cookie's LIFE do I know u

[@sandrinebedard9548]

Omg I love your name. Thanks for making my day 😂❤️

[@avocadoeilish9976]

Sandrine Bédard thanks 🤠

[@nataliaruiz1299]

i loveee you so much hayley

[@anti_fragile]

hayley has to be my biggest role model. honestly, she's literally all i want to be, she gave me the courage to be proud about who i am after years of being scared and ashamed of it 🌸

[@abgaminggirl6011]

This was perfect! I saw this the day after it was posted!

[@thewinterizzy]

This is so sweet. Thank you, Hayley!

[@georgiaxx2531]

I think coming to terms with your own sexuality is always the hardest part, but once you have life gets so much easier

[@Evella1802]

I needed this

[@mariottabuttalapasta]

Everything gets better when you listen to Hayley !

[@katienajarro5204]

Thanks for the advice

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Amazing thank you

[@kaleixy]

*This is what I have always needed*

[@graveyardsoil]

Thank yooou my queen. 👏 👑

[@Paula-qd2wy]

inspiring, Hayley!

[@nicc4102]

to all the people out there who face stupid people and their stupid opinions: it gets better, you’re valid, i’m proud of you and I frucking love you. It gets better

[@isabelaweber4024]

Thank you so much! You deserve the world and all the love that is in it!!!

[@Tomex133]

Shes amazing

[@frauhuebner]

Hayley is just the best.

[@meaghanhallock4607]

I honestly can say that I can relate to everything Hayley talks about!!! Life within our selves is always a struggle!! Strength within yourself and believing that You are important everyday!!!!

[@ShadowQ-de2mn]

I love her accent❤️

[@Archanted_]

Thank you for sharing your story Hayley🤍

[@sylveandescapism7502]

I love you, Hayley. I think I might just come out to someone now, so Thank You.

[@weronikaszwarc720]

I came out to my parents a year ago and it went horrible with my mother. We haven't talked in three months and she has been judging me for a long long time. Now it's all good. We are all trying to understand things and to forgive I think. I feel a lot safer now that a year ago because those days I was so afraid that she's gonna kick my ass out of the house. It gets better!

[@BirgittaDenver]

This was so helpful. Even though I’m out to most of my friends.. I’m not out to ALL of them and my family (except my sister) at all. They’re heavily religious, I’m 19 and I got a new job yesterday and it finally feels good to work towards a goal, so I can leave home soon, so I can be with my girlfriend of almost 4 years. I’m proud of her everyday because she came out to her dad a year ago and that was so hard for her and her mother loves her the way she is. I just wish my parents were as supportive and wouldn’t get so scary at the idea of me loving another girl. I guess it starts with me & self love and my coming to acceptance with who I am. Thank you Hayley. This whole channel is so helpful. I know I didn’t have to go into detail about my life, but videos like this really help me feel like it does get better ❤️

[@presleya.3916]

WOW skinny legend...............what an icon

[@noritosaurus5170]

Hayley, Hayley, Hayley...how are you so amazing???? 💕

[@linnaebailon7702]

Omg I love Hayley Kiyoko! ! She's not only beautiful, but she's caring emphatic, and compassionate. Her music helped me come out as bisexual , listening to her helps me feel less alone! ! # I'm her biggest fan # She's also my future wife♡♡

[@alohavibes8086]

Wow. This is honestly so powerful. I hope more people know about this because it’s true. I swear on everything, Hayley is my Idol😩❤️

[@sashakogl8468]

I'm so happy, that you are there Hayley... You are so important for us and we are so thankful for calling you our idol😍

[@SakshiSharma-iq5te]

I came out today infront of 70 people today!!!... it's was a huge step for me I feel so vulnerable but I will keep telling myself that I am enough

[@itgetsbetter]

What! Congrats 💜

[@karmamelk9]

Thank you, Hayley! You're an inspiration to more people than you know!

[@number4xiuslunala698]

I love Hayley and her muisc. Just all the songs I've heard from her is great!!!

[@michaelmiller7786]

I love Hayley so much! It's so nice to be able to come out and have your family and friends love you and accept you for who you are.

[@eurekashine2995]

I came out in 5th grade... I first told the person I trusted the most which was my mom... She helped me come through to the rest of my family. Just believe in your self and every thing will co.e good as long as you have faith in yourself.

[@jackandthebeanstalk4253]

Queen

[@beaxx_2121]

i love yiu hayley your such an angel my inspiration..😊

[@abgaminggirl6011]

I love Hayley I discovered like 4 days ago!

[@cyrusblack7929]

I came for Hayley and I got sum tiny Hayleys Best day ever

[@cyrusblack7929]

Wow I’m the least serious person here...

[@onetrillionballoons]

I recently got trashed and finally had the courage to come out to two of my best friends from high school (I’m in college) and one said “no shit!” and the other said “me too!” So that was super fun

[@cheesenugget9845]

HAHA i love that

[@olgazajdlewicz8016]

I love Hayley so much ❤ She's my biggest inspiration I am at the moment of my life that practically all my friends know that I like girls but my best friend and family have no idea Love from Poland ❤

[@amelia-jk3bq]

Girl same here

[@richgamer2259]

i told a few of my friends that i am lesbian and then I told my mum but when I told one of my friends, he told me that he was gay and I was so glad and proud of myself for doing it

[@marriediguana]

She’s so amazing. I came out yesterday btw.

[@idocarefoegob]

WOO HOO! 💕💕💕💕 Happy National coming out day everybodyyyyy! 🏳️‍🌈 Let's make National coming out day into International coming out day!

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Hayley you are amazing and an inspiration to many people including me. I’m bisexual and I want to come out on June 1 since it’s pride month. I want to say that I’m bisexual in my Snapchat story so that all my friends know. However, I’m scared to come out because I’m scared that some of my friends will judge and reject me. I’m not telling my family yet because they are religious and I don’t think they approve. I think most people will accept me but coming out is still scary. I’m tired of keeping secrets and I want to trust the people closest to me.

[@jacobaeden]

hayley kiyoko on intomore and here?!?!?! nice.

[@michaelc.5809]

Lemonade Mouth anyone?

[@intense_vibration]

Michael C. hell yeah

[@user-ku5er9sj9f]

😍❤

[@simply.alyssa5096]

I Came out in august of 2018 but i recenlty came out public to my friends in december!

[@juliasiqueira3597]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@marinamuller6219]

She came out in 7th grade? I'm in 12th grade and still fucking scared of it😥 But this video helps me a lot to accept myself a bit more. It's nice to hear the stories of other people & how they managed to go through this😊

[@maryruthjohnson5224]

I can relate i been confused about my sexaulity since i was like 12 now I'm gonna be 17 valentines day I'm a quiet person and have always cared about what others think of me

[@sleepyowl76]

I came out as gay to a friend of mine who wasn’t as close (all my other “friends” are homophobic), and he just said it was cool. I felt so relieved.

[@marcieporter7606]

Omg I remember her from wizards of Waverly place :)

[@abgaminggirl6011]

The summer between 6th and 7th grade I came out to my best friend she was fine with it

[@poleprincess222]

What’s your favorite thing about girls? 🌈

[@MidnightEkaki]

their smiles, laughs, eyes, voice.. :)

[@mbee-xm4zt]

E V E R Y T H I N G sOrRy iM gAy

[@imprisoned.marionette]

I like everything but.... Girls are more considerate than guys, as I feel, and girls will probably get you, if you know what I mean, like periods. Just an example

[@sugary_kook3420]

I am bi I come out to my friends but i haven't come out to my mom and i am kinda scared tbh..

[@wymms88]

The wAy i. look at her 😊😊

[@nicc4102]

1:02 it didn’t make sense for a not-so-close friend of mine to come out to me for a long time. Like ofc I was outed to the whole school but why didn’t she came out to her best friend first ? it honestly made no sense to me. it finally makes sense oml

[@sisterdrago5503]

My birthday is on National Coming Out Day... The 11th of October!!!

[@stanloona6181]

Kyoko-san kawaii😍

[@xomizzyxo3281]

I know I'm very late to this video, but I've thought I was bi for soo long but I've just realised that I'm gay and I'm trying to come to terms with it and to come out all over again 🏳️‍🌈