He ghosted his family, the internet found him in 16 hours

A man who went viral for completely abandoning his family, and who was hunted down by internet sleuths, has broken his silence. But who is he, how did he pull this off, and how exactly did a team of online gumshoes track him down? We have all the info you need on this episode of Scroll Deep!
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[@mickyodell]

He met her with 2 kids and left her with 4. A real life “double it and give it to the next person” moment 💀

[@mymai5859]

Very astute

[@WithoutRemorse12]

Both those first 2 kids are from different fathers.

[@vrroomm]

@@WithoutRemorse12 what’s your point

[@WithoutRemorse12]

@@vrroomm Both those fathers are not involved in their child's lives. This guy was about to adopt them. So there is more to this story.

[@SueeXO]

@@WithoutRemorse12 he should've thought long and hard about that before impregnating her as well.

[@rivka8576]

Yeahhh all the bros and chads out there complaining that there are too many single mums out there don't realise how common this is...

[@IkesPimpHand]

As common as women leaving their families and marriages but getting custody so they can get child support/government assistance?

[@beanboy5963]

How is she leaving her family if she has custody? She’s just leaving the man. Also wild to assume she gets custody just for government money and not because she idk loves her kids or something 😂

[@IkesPimpHand]

@@beanboy5963 wild,not incorrect.

[@ingrid9635]

​@@IkesPimpHand Let the pain goz brother. She's gone. She can't hurt you anymore

[@overlordfemto7523]

Why are women sleeping with men who have multiple children? Why does the woman in the story have THREE baby daddy’s?

[@nia356]

men abandoning their families is one of the most consistently common things literally ever lol.

[@pearlangeline]

Since the beginning of human existence....

[@nessmarroquin5717]

No actually thats a myth! It wasnt a natural thing that just naturally happened. Many ancient civs condemned that kind of cowardly dishonorable behavior. @pearlangeline

[@lilacscentedfushias1852]

Then single mums get attacked for it, the men just walk away, while they’re visibly pregnant…we all know how it goes

[@pearlangeline]

@@lilacscentedfushias1852 Because men will always sympathize with the lowest quality of man before they ever sympathize with a woman......

[@sshii]

And men like that just loooove the internet until it whips back to bite them. 🥳

[@alyssamichaela]

The fact of the matter is that its a LOT easier for a man to abandon his family than for a woman. And yet ive seen so mant stories like this where the dad just decides "hey i dont like this" and dips. The woman has no say in the matter. You knocked her up, bro. It takes two to tango. Why is she the only one who has to take responsibility?

[@carlycrays2831]

I think I have only really heard of this happening with a woman I knew once or twice. And when it did, the dad also dipped and the grandparents had to take the kids. But it happens so often with men. They just one day decide that being a parent isn't fun anymorw

[@weewooweewoo906]

my dad did that to his previous marriage before my mom :\ and his dad abandoned his family too, they thought he died.

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

this is why things like condoms and male birth control pills exist

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

@@carlycrays2831 that’s more often the case w/ men from low income neighborhoods that ones from working middle class to rich neighborhoods, but ofc there’s outliers

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

@@weewooweewoo906 I’m sorry to hear that

[@willd.4808]

"If women don't wanna get pregnant they should keep their legs shut" if men don't wanna be dads/pay child support they should keep their legs closed. Just sayin'.

[@CamarasOpinion]

Right, keep them pants up and zipped closed.👍🏾

[@Joe-iq1bu]

@@CamarasOpinionyou holes really don’t realize how privileged you are

[@devinleija3203]

Well I mean if they dip obviously they didn’t know them well enough to have a kid with them goes both ways for guys and women

[@jaciriley123]

What has this got to do with her husband of many years abandoning her and their children? This wasnt a random hook up or unwanted pregnancy this was her husband, I highly doubt she would have married him if she thought for one second that he would ghost her and their children. So telling her to keep her legs closed to her husband is abit ridiculous and redundant

[@CamarasOpinion]

@@jaciriley123 Exactly

[@samanthaabreu782]

Once a teacher told me that freedom for a woman means being able to provide alone for her children and I never understood why, now I know.

[@hazelhadley-britt6396]

What utter nonsense. Misandrists everywhere.

[@GogiRegion]

@@hazelhadley-britt6396Wanting guaranteed security is not misandrist.

[@iceheap9422]

​@@hazelhadley-britt6396make men stop leaving and then we can talk lol

[@hazelhadley-britt6396]

@@iceheap9422 make females, more than 50% of divorces files by females, stop kicking the fathers out childrens lives.

[@sshii]

@@hazelhadley-britt6396They won’t pick you.

[@TC-ku4vv]

I know men leave, but he left her while she was pregnant. They had a whole life together not a one night stand. That's so cruel and sad.

[@nattylite9220]

lol I’d tell you what my kids dad did (it was much worse imo but I’m biased) but I’m not gonna trauma dump on the internet 😂😂

[@CamarasOpinion]

​@@nattylite9220Prayers for you.🙏🏾❤️

[@TheSecretPassword]

It’s common

[@kineticmeow9242]

It’s why the childfree women movement is growing.

[@bombshell938r5]

it's common

[@GrandHighGamer]

Some random guy: *ghosts his family* The entire internet: I have a very special set of skills...

[@ccc-qp7el]

If the law doesn't want to do the job, somebody else will.

[@braverydiaz4097]

No guys this story gets so much worse! This guy is a con man that also skipped out on his employees and investors he never payed back! I think they’re actively trying to find him to sue

[@lure7812]

huh?? this is extremely common i feel like 75% of people don’t have fathers because of this reason….my dad left my mom when she was pregnant and when i was a baby he told her “i’m over it why aren’t you”

[@feltfrog]

Yeah my dad had an affair and left his wife and his 9 year old and 5 year old daughters who loved him

[@lure7812]

@@feltfrog

[@feltfrog]

@@lure7812 right?? i just hope next generation of married couples will be better at communicating their needs and feelings more

[@wesleytwiggs7687]

You can feel that way if you want, but it’s actually nowhere close to 75%. Most guys will live up to the responsibility. These stories are horrible, but don’t let it taint your view of men as a whole.

[@NatUTubeful]

🙄​@@wesleytwiggs7687

[@thejosh3866]

50 years ago, guys would move one town over, buy a new car, and their family would never be the wiser. Now it doesn't matter how far you go, you'll be found.

[@fymbra360]

You say that like it’s a bad thing 😂

[@zacp2770]

One can still move within an hour of their abandoned family. Just need to stay away from social media and tv programmes wanting to interview you. Thats hiding 101

[@amberbridwell1561]

This!

[@pinkimietz3243]

I dunno.

[@evercuriousmichelle]

So he wasn’t paying child support the whole time he was gone?

[@Kaeros77]

Considering lots of men don't pay anything, even while present or their location being known, it doesn't surprise me that he paid nothing while hiding

[@littelcreatchure506]

I'm only 2 minutes into the video but basically most of the time child support is only legally mandated if you have some kind of custody agreement, which usually only happens if you're divorced or otherwise legally separated. But when your spouse just dips unexpectedly and is impossible to contact, I expect it would be difficult to obtain that kind of legal recourse. Iirc there are ways to have someone's custody removed without them signing off on it, but it's very difficult.

[@carlycrays2831]

I don't get why people are shocked by this. My dad owes tens of thousands

[@carrington2949]

You have been sheltered my friend.

[@dipset4016]

So the “I just want him to sign some papers” was code for “I just want him to hand over large sums of cash”

[@scottietrademark]

It always baffles me when I hear a man complain about "the ole ball and chain" when they're the ones that propose?? Why bother if you're miserable lol make it make sense

[@overlordfemto7523]

It baffles me when women cry about “he’s a deadbeat” when they’re the ones that let him hit it raw.

[@_holy__ghost]

​@@overlordfemto7523these two things arent remotely the same but judging by your embarrassing comment history you dont really care

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@_holy__ghost women are glorified holes :)

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@_holy__ghost abortion is worse than abandoning

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@_holy__ghost they are exactly the same thing btw :) don’t let deadbeats inside you and you won’t have deadbeat fathers

[@DavySilverwind]

I think it is cool AND scary that they could track him down so fast!

[@chaoticsad5549]

He by no means was trying to hide, he was on a TV show.

[@Ashbrash1998]

​@@chaoticsad5549That was a year before he left tbf.

[@Ashbrash1998]

The internet is a scary place

[@neff6185]

@chaoticsad5549 a year BEFORE he left her

[@markefann1969]

thank you for your coverage. This was hilarious! I am a former employee at the restaurant he abandoned. We are all laughing our guts out over your vid. We have a go fund me for the staff under GHOSTED RESTAURANT - C Salt Employees Lost wages fund.

[@tanmaz8006]

.. Why do you have a go fund me I don't understand??

[@markefann1969]

@tanmaz8006 23 people were not paid for their last week of work. people with families. was trying to help, there was interest in us (abandoned staff) but it was pretty fleeting. The story is now over.

[@overlordfemto7523]

Why do you need a go fund me? Why not just get another job?

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@markefann1969you started a go fund me over one week of lost wages? 😂

[@markefann1969]

@@overlordfemto7523 bounced checks, unpaid overtime, reimbursements for J1 worker visas and private events never paid. plus the final week. 23 people owed.

[@suddenlysavannah]

my favorite thing about this show is that it's always been called Scroll Deep

[@rando58]

whos gonna tell him?

[@PufflePie]

i think it’d be interesting if they pivoted to more youtube-centric stories. could rebrand as “youtuber news” or something.

[@rando58]

@@PufflePie and then make a podcast of some sort?

[@takemybloon1210]

What was it originally called?

[@rando58]

@@takemybloon1210 youtuber news

[@aylenvillarreal5439]

I wish we could just make the same for missing people, like the really missing people. The only scary part about this is having proof of how incredibly effective and unstoppable the internet community can be in tracking a person down, yet how horrendous groups of people still manage to fly under the internet's radar.

[@Carrybean]

I get what you are saying and I do agree, but people who have been abducted, beaten, are inebriated or were drugged or somehow restricted in how they can communicate and seek help for themselves also cannot be found as easy. Because they usually didn’t disappear with the intention to disappear, someone else made them disappear. They don’t walk away from everything without a trace as if it’s a choice. This guy just decided to walk away and pretends and lies as if he didn’t abandon his family and as if he wasn’t a deadbeat dad and a terrible husband, though he is. People like him also can’t stay away from looking for other people to confirm his own delusional grandure, so he’s easy to find because of course he’s trying to find a new date and new jobs and new people to adore him, because he really believed he got away with abandonment and everyone just would love him no matter what. That’s so different than someone who would want to get help but can’t and genuinely can’t access the resources or ability to try to reach their loved ones and go back home. He had all the resources and just chose to live a lie and manipulate others. It’s very different.

[@aylenvillarreal5439]

​@@Carrybean Oh yes, of course it's a very different situation. He's a douchbag, and that's it. I was just "thinkinh out loud". It just occurred to me that it would be nice if we could find this "easily" people who need finding.

[@nessmarroquin5717]

That is a thing though? There's even a group of HS kids doing it now for like 4 or 5 years? People ARE trying

[@DjurslandsEfterskole]

​@@nessmarroquin5717 Can you share more info on this? Sounds interesting

[@nxctem]

there are online communities working to find missing people. While the internet has been amazing in finding people, it unfortunately can only take us so far with people who did leave a digital footprint. he was on TV and posted his stuff online, so it was easier for people to track down where he could be. not all missing people will be doing that. even in cases that they do, it’s tricker since they might realize they’ll get tracked down if they go online.

[@_letstartariot]

There are so many men who did what that dude did. Not even mildly surprising to hear of a man abandoning his wife and children, leaving her with all the responsibility whilst he does single life 2.0. Feel nothing but contempt towards men like him. This bs is mostly always put on women.

[@SiasiasWorld]

it’s really sad too especially since people will also blame the woman without realizing it’s not always easy to tell when someone’s a bad person; many people don’t show their true colors immediately.

[@destinycallahan9157]

I wish the law was that if you can’t get in contact with a person for more than a year and you are trying to get a divorce the court should just grant it for you. It’s not fair to keep a person legally bound to someone who doesn’t want to be found. What an irresponsible piece of garbage this man is.

[@AnnikaSvedlund]

Gone Guy poster in the back is perfection

[@rinisonline4312]

this is what the other perspective of “dad went out for cigs when i was a kid and never came back” looks like

[@slinkywhippet]

"'The Bear', more like 'The Where?'" should've been the line 😆

[@Diamondgamervideos]

I thought more like "not there" 💀

[@slinkywhippet]

@@Diamondgamervideos Love it 😁

[@samuraicode4264]

Thats what I said!

[@mandisamoonz]

i came to say "Not There"

[@thecrimsoncure8201]

More like "The Deadbeat Bear."

[@divinechord7]

It takes a special kind of coward to up and abandon your wife & children, & a new born at that

[@attitudeproblem6462]

But people are scratching their heads as to why marriages are decreasing…😒😒😒

[@overlordfemto7523]

Idk maybe because like this story shows, even wine with 3 baby daddies still thinks she’s entitled

[@attitudeproblem6462]

@@overlordfemto7523 She _is._ Just b/c she got 3 toads before doesn’t mean she deserved a 4th.

[@_wayward_494]

@@overlordfemto7523 dont get with someone that has 3 previous kids then, simple. He did though

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@_wayward_494 why is she getting with a new man when she already has 2 baby daddies?

[@_wayward_494]

@@overlordfemto7523 why you getting with someone that has 2 baby daddies?

[@henrytep8884]

Bro needs to pay his alimony and child support

[@justine8387]

This is exactly why those laws were made. Too many men thinking their legal responsibilities are identical to their moral ones. If there is no legal responsibility... then they just shrug and walk way from the families they created.

[@selmalarsson8920]

The rat wife wasn’t assassinated, she tried to assassinate you and the rat, I don’t know why you would forget that. Scroll deep lore is famously easy to remember

[@rebecca4722]

Exactly not convoluted at alll and definitely appeared on an internet show called scroll deep

[@maryalicefike4704]

my eagle loving mind can NOT comprehend the mashed potato seeking badger

[@rn2787]

Have you ever heard of deadbeats? Families get abandoned by people all the time unfortunately.

[@LisaHarvey16]

I was married had 4 kids with my husband. We divorced and he never paid a penny ever towards them.

[@ccvv1119]

That’s legal?

[@LisaHarvey16]

@@ccvv1119 There are always ways to manipulate the system and he found them.

[@viceb7]

​@@ccvv1119obviously not

[@ChuckleHoneybear]

Can we stop normalising men having zero responsibility?

[@BubulinaMC]

Yes, hard truth…some men do this and some other (or even sometimes the same) men hate on single mothers. 🙄

[@overlordfemto7523]

As they should. Single mothers are a plague on western society. Those men abandoning women, were mostly raised by single mothers themselves.

[@overlordfemto7523]

Those men abandoning women were raised by single mothers themselves. You have multiple generations of men raised by women, what did you expect to happen?

[@gz5405]

⁠​⁠@@overlordfemto7523 why no disdain from these men towards their fathers that abandoned them with their mothers?

[@overlordfemto7523]

@@gz5405 because that’s very rare contrary to feminist propaganda 😂 80% of the time the mother leaves because “muh happiness”

[@saguaroK]

​@@overlordfemto7523 dude what????

[@TheMedicatedArtist]

It’s literally a trope for a man to leave a woman once she’s pregnant or soon after she gives birth. This usually happens when they’re FWB or dating though, not married; that’s probably why the story went viral.

[@fryone]

its also fun that no one mentioned how the welfare system made it a life hack for ladies to have more than one baby daddy, decimating the nuclear family unit. the state helped, its not really 100% human nature

[@brittr1358]

@scrolldeep You actually have more influence on the future morals of these 15 year olds watching than you think. Studies have found a strong male roll model telling teen boys that r@pe is wrong does more to stop r@pe than anything else. It's so powerful, charities now exist that allow men to volunteer and be that strong male roll model teen boys need. If you look into the psychology of how important strong moral men are to both boys and girls, you would be filled with just a ton of anxiety from the weight of that responsibility.

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

This needs to be a pinned comment, because it is so accurate!

[@britgraham-sommers4494]

The fact that we need entire websites devoted to warning each other that men are lying and cheating… I can’t even. This is why I’m single 🤪

[@Ashbrash1998]

You can't really just have a second family or abandon your family like you used to. The internet sees all and knows all.

[@kepriest]

c'mon benedict 'the bear? more like, not there!'

[@VixxyCopeland]

Tbh, if you don't want to be with your spouse anymore, that's fine. Divorce her and handle your business as a father. It's so often that people wish to blame the mother in the situation, but legitimately, We have to stop. He made the choice to date a woman who already had two kids. He made the choice to marry said woman. They both agreed to have two more. And then he made the choice to leave. Everything that happened afterward is a result of his actions. I don't really like the concept of putting your business online like this, if I'm being honest. But if he actually just dipped on his family, I don't think he gets that much grace.

[@spooky-spaghetti]

scroll deep's got the internet drama/30-year-old british children's tv genre ON LOCK

[@bluecollarmenproductions]

I laughed so hard when you said there’s over 200 groups

[@Hnj-f]

This story is crazy!!

[@stillred]

Oh yes my father did this to my mom. He suddenly disappeared while she was pregnant with me, no trace no nothing. Turns out he had run away woth another woman and they left tp another country the same day. I found his contact when I was 16, I needed some paperwork done, he acted as nothing even happened lol

[@HellaJ77]

At the ripe old age of 47; I STILL adore A Bug’s Life 😂

[@gilnahnu]

geez this problem of men just up and leaving is increasing so much in the states

[@caderlocke8869]

Can they possibly scroll any deeper?

[@AmyAberrant]

Bodger and Badger?? You’re making me feel so old

[@user-gn4pk1qd2l]

Men ☕️

[@Genesisorgin]

Men 🍼

[@ransvd]

Dude! How have I not stumbled upon this channel! I watched your Snapchat show back when I was in highschool. Subscribed, bell rung. 💗

[@savage.4.24]

In 1922 my great grandpa left for milk. 3 years later great grandma remarried. When my grandma was 14 in 1935 she went across the continental us to find and meet her father. He had a wife house job and 2 other kids. He sent her on a bus back home from new orleans back to oklahoma after she rode a bus from oklahoma to new orleans. She had nobodys permission-the police were looking for her for 3 days.

[@drivethrupoet]

I was looking for someone to comment about going out for milk. I guess it's been too long since that was actually a thing.

[@yothiga]

And Bumble said celibate is not the answer 💀

[@anthonymort5202]

I just noticed that the poster in the back says gone guy instead of gone girl

[@nessmarroquin5717]

Yes it is and has been a very common thing unfortunately 💔

[@dyskelia]

I’m over here in Dallas not surprised it happened here 😂

[@viceb7]

Same unfortunately

[@litlpuddy]

Loll amazing vid, love it!

[@tygressblade]

Yep this is historical and currently common.

[@clairdelunedenouveau1497]

Thanks Benny I'll make sure to remember that for when I'm old in my 20s

[@Starsongzz]

Cookie Cat-he left his family behind!

[@rebecca4722]

Rat mentioned 🤯

[@alexben7462]

Additional context, the wife was a serial cheater, refused paternity tests after being caught. She wanted money so she caused a ruckus.

[@rl1314]

I love how everyone shamed him and it's so public he will never escape it. Protecting any future women he tries to get involved with. I hope the government garnishes his wages to help support her and his kids.

[@nbunnysnowboard]

Jamn’ 94.5 getting a shoutout 🙌🏻 that was my favorite station growing up!

[@Grace-er9ep]

The Rat is the perfect husband and if you really KNEW Scroll Deep you would know

[@sunflowermyeyes9758]

The set up, CHEFS KISS ❤

[@Grace-er9ep]

The snaps I love!

[@foreign_objective2855]

I know it's irrelevant to the topic but what I'm shocked about this video is the guy commentating. How do you not know that men leaving women to avoid responsibilities as a father is a common problem? Or even finding out people treat women who are victims badly, even saying "there's a first time for everything"??? How are those rare/first time occurrences to you? What world do you live in?

[@smellylorenny]

Pretty sure that ‘first time for everything’ comment was sarcastic dude.

[@somesortofdeliciousbiscuit3704]

That happened to my bother in law - his wife abandoned him at Xmas one year and it took him 3 year to get a divorce from abandonment of the marital home. There weren't any children though but he had to rehome his dog with his parents.

[@LeanneModenPoet]

Aaaaaand now I have the Bodger and Badger theme tune stuck in my head - sigh. THANKS*, Scroll Deep! *No thanks.

[@ConejitoPequenito]

I'm begging you to go into that lawsuit

[@thelegoonurfloor5347]

Don't have kids ladies.

[@allisoneuph1]

This is a wild story!

[@dsatt57]

It’s been going on forever. When the stock market crashed, men just left. Some killed themselves but others just left. During WWI and II, some men never went home and stayed in France and other countries to start new families with women they met there. Lots of books have it as a plot. Women know it’s a risk. We hear about it all the time.

[@spoodlydoodler3552]

Single PARENTS are a different breed

[@mamasquatch]

My dads on his 4th wife. He just made families and left. Complains about having to pay for his past mistakes... Aka his 2 daughters.

[@areallyboredguy5825]

1:56 I mean losing love is more damaging to a persons mental health than money. You can be happy with a middle income and love, you can be unhappy with millions and lonely.

[@dandeliondizzy]

Lawsuit shocking dismissed by the judge? Dude you’re crazy for making that claim, do better research.

[@dianadoraen7864]

Shockingly was a sarcasm here I guess. Also, dude claimed he lost the money he had never earned. Lost job opportunities my ahh.

[@mayowhishes]

2:49 * i slowly nods yes with the crowd *

[@VeeAmericanEagle]

lol I’m from Boston and your Boston accent was 😂😂

[@shestolemythunder]

Yeah, I would find it waaaay too scary if I was a victim of stalking if it's this easy to find people online!!!

[@drivethrupoet]

That OP was so well written it almost sounded like carefully crafted fiction.

[@therocketboost]

I think it was cool AND scary. Scoory.

[@bluecollarmenproductions]

The internet is crazy

[@stephaniejohnson583]

This video added a subscribe to my list.

[@kittiescorner222]

It's actually easy to get divorced without knowing where someone is unless you want money from them or have kids.

[@MeowsyMcdermottEsq.]

Rather be abandoned than annihilated.

[@britollefson2170]

It's both amazing and scary how easy it is to find people with the internet...

[@SiasiasWorld]

absolutely, like the amount you can gather on one person with just a name is insane

[@julesolaguer8679]

hilariously lovely

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

2:48 I literally started nodding too 😭

[@turquesa_8056]

A badger wanting mashed potatoes isn't weird. We have the cookie monster LOL.

[@catie5939]

"can you wrap your eagle-loving mind around that"

[@beckyginger3432]

Omg i saw bodger and badger live as a child!!!😂

[@AkachoOmulepu]

Why is it "caucacity"and not "caudacity"?

[@TrvisXXIII]

I ghosted my family, except they’re my siblings and parents

[@Rosaedora]

Because she filed for divorce, she'll add to the 70% of women file for divorce stat, even though he left her.

[@nattylite9220]

Hey it’s the guy from the one Snapchat show 😂😂

[@bromleyben2004]

My main takeaway from this video was the Bodger and Badger theme tune which is now going round and round in my head. So, thanks!

[@meowcasts]

1:14 yes please do make a video on that kind of group 😂

[@hylianflower9681]

She should be able to sue him lol. Get alimony for the last year and CONTINUED support

[@kimboslyce7863]

Are we dating the same guy groups started in 2020 cuz we were bored af. 😂

[@islandboy4445]

I'm glad that he's having to take responsibility for his actions, but as an introvert who is scared of society already, this is kinda my worst nightmare 😂

[@You-th3cn]

its so easy for you to not get a woman pregnant and then leave luckily xD

[@islandboy4445]

@@You-th3cn true 😂 so glad no one can do that to me, I got my tubes removed and removed the possibility lol

[@doyoureadme94]

Eagle-loving-mind…I am WEAKENED. 😂

[@pierrelaplant7926]

I cant comprehend bodger and badger.