He LOVES YOU if...I Episode 111

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[@dyliabella]

Lydia's comment about rewatching girlfriends reminds me of something i came across... that people with anxious attachment styles like rewatching shows coz it gives them a sense of ease, coz they know what will happen next in the shows and how it will end

[@wacekewanjoroge6679]

Oh wow that’s a very interesting point..makes so damn sense.

[@maggieshaka]

But murugi really has pretty eyes

[@thealuway]

I agree💯

[@Journal.TheFaith]

I totally agree 😍

[@annkariuki2236]

Totally 💯

[@NimoNjoroge]

💯🔥

[@Pink_dots]

Murugi has many pretty features. Her smile too, she has nice teeth😍

[@VictoriandindaB]

Despite having anxious attachment style and my man having avoidant, we compliment each other in the sense that, we are aware of our traumas and are working towards being better versions of ourselves. Sometimes it doesn't even feel like I am that anxious anymore or him avoidant. Thanks to Lydia and therapist Jeff, we had some of those serious conversations before, and I had my bare minimums....especially emotional security and how he treats me.

[@Dante_Seth]

My hot take is that men are just naturally worse at sustaining relationships. And I say this as a man who understands how patriarchy can isolate and distance a man from his own emotions. Where women will have close and intimate relationships with other women through out their life, (male friendships are not intimate or vulnerable 9 times out of 10) most men will never experience emotional and intimate relationships outside of their romantic ones. This makes it almost emotionally overwhelming to deal with another human being in this way especially if you weren't in any meaningful relationships prior. (Also why most men have avoidant attachment) This is why a lot of relationships end because the man was being distant and seemingly uninterested a few months down the line; which, in my opinion, is sparked by "burn out" from having to be vulnerable so often, having to look after another person's mental well being, and other stuff that are easy to do when you're in love. But fade after the honeymoon phase where that emotional inexperience starts to show. This can be overcome of course with therapy, self reflection, and a healthy growth mindset (measures I've taken myself) and may be less common than I lead on but I feel is true from my experiences and observations. Keep up the good content, you two are inspiring.

[@magdalinekinyanjui404]

Wow this is quite an elaborate explanation.

[@gracethuku4555]

I looove this. You breaking many generational issues by working on being better.

[@PhyllisWaithera-pq6fp]

A self aware man, and we love to see and hear it!

[@carolinenjoroge1195]

Does this have anything to do with how men are raised?I want to do better for my son

[@gracethuku4555]

@@carolinenjoroge1195 yes. socialization is the key to change. Like allow him to express himself and listen. Teach him that feelings and emotions are felt by all humans.

[@missw.4882]

Everytime I told this son of pharaoh 'I love you' he just smiled...one day I brought it up and asked why he never says it back and he responded ' but I don't hate you'....I just left....praying so hard I don't go for closure😂

[@joycemburu8041]

Am a lady who responds that way when someone tells me the same. Especially from a man and we are not dating.

[@carolinenjoroge1195]

Whaaat even a random stranger says I love you😂😂😂

[@nancychege6777]

You don't tell a man you love him first dear

[@eunice2665]

Son of Pharaoh 😂😂😂😂😂

[@jama3645]

“Red flags aren’t red flags if they’re what’s familiar” I needed to pause after that one!😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@esthermulu1229]

Expound please

[@jama3645]

@@esthermulu1229 If, for example, you grew up in a toxic or abusive home, you would be more likely to accept the same from a friend or partner in the future because you think that behavior is okay and normal.

[@nelly_phatado]

Lol, It’s Lydia realising there are avoidant women 😂 and as a representative of the avoidants, waahh si mlitukujia hii episode, si pole bas 😢 It’s just easier to switch off our emotions and go into robot mode to avoid hurt, it’s self preservation, we are really just scared little kittens on the inside 😅

[@nicolemaposa2792]

This video is an hour long but I watched it for maybe an hour and 20min because i had to repeat so many good points. Yall are easy to watch and listen. In fact let me repeat some of your episodes whilst i wait for the next.

[@ndutamaryhilda]

I knowwwwwwwwwwwww me toooo

[@misscarey]

I always rewatch their love letters on SNS podcast,that was a real bomb!! Its my 10th time watching that and ain't deleting that soon❤This two women are everything foshoo🎉❤

[@abbykykys4586]

Who else feels like time is flying, literally 😅 unafumba kufungua macho wiki imeisha 😂 Anyway it's good coz it feels like Wednesday isn't that far away 😊❤

[@akechelvira1890]

I loooove this episode, because it shines more light on the quality of a relationship. Even if a man doesn't necessarily do things that show that he hates you, it is more beneficial to know whether he actually loves you through these signs that you have given in the episode.

[@lynnettelucy1551]

Love the lighting in this video, its giving 🥰

[@tmipodcastke]

Oh thank you❤️

[@DebraSalama-c8x]

Am 21 years old but am learning my worth through this show..you ladies are like sisters I have never had..love your make up and outfits💥

[@shek1184]

Paused to just come and acknowledge that Murugi & Lydia's edges are giving life!!!!!! Now back to video

[@rebhoney6803]

I think anxious are attracted to avoidants because in the beginning, avoidants give cool, calm, collected vibes that anxious attachers crave. It gives stability

[@Elizabeth111t3]

This is actually true. I have realised most Avoidants are attractive because they give quiet, chilled vibes. You are actually right😮

[@paulinemacharia8415]

Damn! This is true100%

[@shammahnzaana214]

These days I just download. I don't even watch online anymore. I want to take it all in! Like a nice cup of coffee.

[@-gydeon-]

Lyd is making murugi think about he relationship even more this avoidant and secure attachment styles hits her deep down

[@Michelle-me6sg]

I'm an avoidant, my man is secure. He is absolutely amazing! and being with him brings me closer to being secure...They exist for sure...but a rare breed... I value him deeply.

[@mariewahu4724]

😂😂😂,not the little " herpe"😂😂😂 am on the floor,,,,Lyd soo funyy....im definitely getting my bar high with every episode too 💯💯

[@beloncekamz2821]

Definitely TMIIII 🎶💃🏿. Quick recovery Lyd❤. Love that lilac colour on Murugi🔥. I love how we are redefining some as Bare Minimum😅. Standards raised🥂😎.

[@judithsunga1822]

Love what Murugi says. I also want to talk about things or know when to talk about them and solve them. When dating I was an avoidant but after marriage, you don’t want to be mad for days .

[@tessy_Lo]

Episode 111🎉 We thank God for TMI ❤

[@muchirinjoki7332]

Yes that part on going for holiday and not having the impulse to post. I'm with you on that

[@eunicekamau-br4ey]

the test says am a disorganized fearful avoidant😪😪yawa

[@LadyPosh_254]

I normally take like 2hrs watching tmi coz I have to rewind till my mind processes but this one I'll watch twice for sure

[@charitykareh]

Lol 😂 thought I was the only one who usually rewinds their videos they are so informative.

[@LadyPosh_254]

@@charitykareh it seems tuko wengi 😜

[@amandawambui8063]

Tuko wengi🎉😂

[@kazmorich]

I find myself rewinding too so it can sink in

[@irenenjeri7523]

We are doing this together sis.....

[@abbykykys4586]

Im inlove with Lydia's outfit ❤

[@mswinniesoulgyshi3233]

Am a new member to this channel and am glad to be here . Watching each episode is enlightening me to be better for me .i love what you ladies are doing keep it up.

[@vvvvvvw915]

OMGGGG!!! I loveeee The new intro This might be my favourite episode And its episode 111 I love it

[@ndutamaryhilda]

My friend introduced me to TMI and I'm obsessed!!!!!!!!!!! My standard are on top rynooww can't even lie..... Its funny since I learned a lot of things I didn't know about myself and I'm not experiencing some things alone ,,,,like oooow woowww!!!!!!!!!!!

[@rachealmburu11]

I've been in situations where a guy I'm dating is jealous of how I talk about my dad. I'm still young, so I hope I'll figure it out and keep my husband to be first. I'm extremely sapiosexual, Murugi I feel it, trust me I've stayed in a toxic relationship coz the guy was so smart. He lacked emotional intelligence though ...pure madness

[@SunshineVickie]

It's my birthday but I have been waiting for this episode like my life depends on it🤣🤣🤣Best birthday gift.

[@PaulineMwangi-dc9xm]

Happy birthday 🎉

[@floicenyota8656]

Me too sis😂😂 Happy Birthday dear🎉🎉🎉 Blessings

[@rachelwamwere2275]

Happy birthday! 🎉

[@preciousosia6835]

Happy Birthday🎉

[@tmipodcastke]

Happy birthday, so honoured you get to enjoy this episode today ❤️

[@marythuo8404]

I the jiggling before starting when I saw "he loves you if "😍

[@Oregano987]

The last last chapati waahhhhh🤣🤣🤣🤣That's true love right there

[@charitykareh]

We always love love it here❤️❤️... The host looking good as usual . And yes today I've learnt my attachment style through the link you guys shared below. I'm Team Secure💯 .

[@vee3581]

Only discovered you and love your podcast. 2 young ladies with alot of great advice. Well done you 2. You're doing a great job

[@MAZE254]

I am this old to learn about my attachment style. Thank you gals. The love for TMI glows and grows

[@unapologeticallymega9936]

This was hilarious and also eye opening since we are single 😂😂aki my man

[@lydiamuhembere]

That colour looks so good on you murugi ❤

[@marrykamau338]

"If you don't love us just say ,so that we can block you😂😂😂" we love you big sisters❤

[@Mishelle_K]

"Those who don't trust,control" wuuuueh

[@charlesbeth1387]

It's great discovering my attachment style as secure

[@maggienjeri8723]

Thank you for letting know my attachment style

[@tfa4782]

The shade in this episode 😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂 the bar is higher than your man bringing you water 😢😂

[@riyahshamar2222]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@margaretkanganga4882]

😍Wednesdays are definitely for TMI😘 I LOVE EVERY EPISODE

[@tmipodcastke]

Glad you love them!Wednesdays are definitely TMI trademarked😂

[@iamemma_ochieng]

Yoh !!!just the other weekend his friends were like we've never seen him like this😂😂

[@mwthepublicist7800]

Am loving TMI,.....BEST PODCAST 💪keep up girls am in my 20's am learning and unlearning........🙏

[@WanjiruMuya]

Hey Queens looking gorgeous😍Lunch breaks are for TMI❤️

[@AllThingsLindo]

Definitely taking the test. Interesting. Thank you for sharing the link

[@graceguya1682]

Very interesting as always. A series on signs you hate / love your man or signs your woman hates/ loves you would be very interesting as well. Based on some of the submissions on this episode and similar past episodes, the bar on what women expect/ require in a relationship is quite low, given that we have been socialised to put everyone else's needs and wants first and our own last and be " nice girls". We get starry eyed at the bare minimum because we are used to substandard treatment. Also red flags are not red flags if they are what's familiar_ word.

[@tash5115]

A single babe here,will be back to give reasons of how "my man " loves me😂prayers queen betweeners

[@tadiwanashet]

Inbetweener reporting for duty! From Zimbabwe

[@tmipodcastke]

Enjoy this one hun🔥

[@chidoshayanowako8776]

Yaay fellow Zimbabwean inbetweener

[@allthingswamuyu]

Day made ,😍😍! Also is no one talking about the disorganized attachment style? 👀

[@TotBou]

I know right?,, i just took a test and found out i have disorganised attachment style😢😢💔

[@faithguwa]

Here for my weekly dosage😊😊🤗

[@akinimueni]

I agree with Murugi about sex in marriage...the pleasure after marriage can ease things into conversation. Also duty! Because he has to be dutiful ama?

[@j.maureenwanjiku3545]

When is government allocation security to these two treasures ? Murugi and Lyd ♥️♥️

[@RosaliaShiweva]

Thank you so much for this beautiful episode girls .. 💗💗

[@vickyakinyi773]

It's a mystery how I watch TMI for 3hrs and it's originally for 1 hr😮😮😅but I'm always posing and taking notes literally 😂😂😂😂

[@winnieowuor6946]

Whats a lil herp,a lil gonnorreah,lol.....i lve the sarcasm.

[@esthermulu1229]

Its murugi😂. 5 page power point presentation for only 300. Asaol😂😂 .. it's tough.. " What my baby wants, my baby gets" ( if he is capable) Thats the theme ❤

[@millicentwanja2579]

I laughed so hard...murugi can be hilarious 😂

[@ruthmaina5811]

You r such an encouraging soul,,, from Lyn show

[@kc_Dorcus]

Do we really have to wait till nextweek😢😭loved this episode ❤

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

Y'all are looking freeeeeeshhh

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you bebs❤️

[@annexismuriu]

I have done the attachment test. I am a Disorganized / Fearful Avoidant 😰

[@joycemburu8041]

Me too sis!

[@njulianyambura]

Me too😢

[@paulinegekonde6525]

Me too babe

[@fabeahyeboah7010]

I love you ladies ❤❤❤ I took the attachment test and I came out *secure* I think my parents did well with early childhood. Only that our relationships has become quite challenging, because I wouldn't allow them project their fears and disappointments on me. I feel like that will be a lot on my shoulders. I want to live life to the fullest and not leave in someone else's regrets in life.

[@michelleaseka2701]

Where's the link? I can't find it

[@its_.curvee]

"5 page power point presentation as to why you should get 300 bob" 😂😂😂😂😂😂very funny

[@terimyermuchemi4800]

1. Emotional 2. Mental 3. Physical 4. Financial 5. Spiritual This rating thing has made me realise why the money thing (50/50) never used to bother me for a long time... but his words would. It has made me realize what I value more and why my relationships played out the way they did. Loved this episode. 😊😍

[@stephaniewakesho393]

You ladies are hilarious😂. Love.

[@faithngwenya828]

These episodes make every Wednesday special

[@tmipodcastke]

Aaaw🤧🤗Thank you.

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

1.spiritual 2.mental 3.financial 4.emotional 5.physical

[@njambikiruga2515]

I knew my husband was the one when he stood up for me when his friend was being racist in my abscess...

[@rosegichia700]

How am I still watching this episode at 11pm yet i started watching it when it aired. Love you girlss Cant wait for the next one.

[@MeloXtie]

Needed this 😅..love from Uganda❤

[@JackieBirungi-eq7le]

Am here too from uganda 😍 love u ladies

[@InMyElement254]

Yassssssssssss🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤... I love the duo and I thought they should know it ! ❤❤❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you,we love you too❤️

[@adilais-haka4357]

hoping to see "she loves you if" version :>

[@lillianmugo5500]

Murugi I loved your makeup. So on point

[@viviannabulime1218]

Such a good episode 😊You ladies are everything amazing.

[@sheilaayie3186]

I'm here and I can't even relate a thing.😅

[@ivonna7916]

Say kufika mapema😂😂❤ I was really waiting for today's episode..... I love you guys😘🧡

[@tmipodcastke]

Love you too babeey🤎

[@Lizzete1007]

Murugi is sooo perfect 😭😭

[@lyndawanza4011]

That comment about he makes sure I don't get vaginal infections had be laughing my ass out😂😂😂,lol what you mean sis?

[@maureeniguanya487]

Wednesday class in session. let's nduthis!!!!

[@tmipodcastke]

Let's gerrit🤎

[@jesintahwanjiku2412]

But surely Lydia 😂😂😂😂😂😂aty the quality of heerr husband

[@mercynjeri706]

Love this ❤..love your intro❤

[@rosierosita.7235]

As for us, we are just there

[@albrightchemutai8613]

The parting shot😂😂😂

[@maggies_world178]

That 'wasilipe tu' took me out🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Perisjiego_official]

Aki I saw Lydia's pics and I thought to myself in mmmmmh🤔 she's put on a bit of weight a very interesting way. So imagine if I was those people who just say things to people without thinking not knowing what that person is going through.

[@Choc_Souffle]

My man for sure loves me❤

[@gracethuku4555]

TMI will you help you differentiate bare minimum and effort. Also, mnakaa poa sana. E for effort.

[@childofgod3135]

Wow🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 You guys mentioned my comment. I love you guys

[@MercyGakiiNjeru]

Waiting for next episode upload🥳🥳

[@janetokumu4904]

Woi murugi what has "Janet"done😂😂😂😂

[@Ndanumusic]

Lyd's Outfit 😍😍😍😍😍 puurrrr

[@lile_8266]

Uweeeh, I always thought my attachment style is secure but shock on me!!! Ati I am a disorganized/fearful avoidant attacher! What is that even?? Anyway, I think I assumed I was secure because a huge chunk of my dating life I have been I'm relationships where I felt loved. However, I noticed juzi juzi that I ghost people to avoid confrontations. Also, I will avoid any guy who has some qualities I see in my father, who has been present my entire life but is an alcoholic, verbally abusive and never the provider. This test was eye opening! I need therapy now!!!

[@TotBou]

I also have disorganised attachment. Wueh I'll just have to seek therapy coz now it's affecting my relationship and i didn't know that my childhood trauma is affecting everything around me😢

[@gloriamikara6634]

Took the test and I am apparently anxious preoccupied?

[@lucywanjiru2499]

I always sing with you guys tmiiiiiiiiii❤😅😂 content is on firee

[@carriemuriuki]

I'm a secure beb 😚😚 but with an anxious default 😢

[@esthermulu1229]

"Don't come here telling us he loves just because he brought a glass of water "😂😂 Murugi u are an attacker😂😂😂 jokingly

[@KeziahKamau-qu9pe]

That guy Lydia was talking about the one with the secure attachment...I feel really bad guys my bf is like that but I took it like a bare minimum 😢 feeling so guilty right now

[@linetkawira4605]

Love you all❤