Healthy anger vs Toxic anger

We all experience anger at times, and though we may have been taught that it’s inherently bad or toxic, anger is actually an important, healthy and valuable emotion. It tells us when something we care about is under attack and mobilises the body to take action. It’s our expression of this anger, or lack thereof, that can be problematic. Whether we’re prone to lashing out or bottling up, shifting to a more skilful and mindful expression can greatly benefit our relationships with both others and ourselves, and even our physical health.
In this episode of Mentally Stronger, I break down four styles of anger expression - aggressive, passive-aggressive, suppressive and assertive - and invite you to consider which of these rings true for you. If healthy anger has never been modelled to you, it’s easy to default to an unhelpful style. Once you’ve taken that first step of identifying where you fall, you can start to shift into an expression that allows you to healthily and constructively honour and communicate your needs and boundaries. I share three tips to help you do exactly that.
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[@alexandrianova6298]

1:42 just starting off, thank you for not trying to sell acceptance therapies only to not accept anger and try to win about not winning trying to say right or wrong don't exist as some sort of glorified therapeutic opiate. I really think some therapy is just bad and this is makes me feel safe. It carries real information. It's having the inner technology to unpack it well without being overwhelmed by the trapped intelligence that is the problem.

[@terry63lee]

anger is a release. it is toxic to keep it bottled up inside.

[@MelliOBrien]

Yes, healthy anger is such a great skill to have. I had to do alot of work on this myself as I used to repress it. Thanks for your thoughtful comments and for following along Terry : )

[@madeleinekruhsberg2484]

Thank you for a great podcast. Very interesting and educational!

[@MelliOBrien]

I'm so glad your finding it helpful Madeline : )

[@alexandrianova6298]

5:16 I stopped here. Sometimes anger like this is a way to assert boundaries that you don't want to be in relationship with someone. In that case it's not wrong to not be in relationship. Being in relationship is not inherently a good thing, especially when the person is a stalker, someone parasitic financially and health wise to you, or otherwise a real bodily threat. Thanks for trying.

[@wellness-coach]

Please help ❤