HEALTHY MEN - BROKEN MEN & TOXIC MEN by RC Blakes

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[@AliseIam]

Broken people generally don’t take the time to heal before they move on and they end up breaking others.

[@nsengahughes9403]

So true

[@yuvonnesingh9032]

Amen

[@iamjen.B]

They also don't COMMIT OR WANT MARRIAGE.. 👍

[@joyce5738]

This is sooo important for all to hear !! Thank you, and God Bless!😊🙏🙏🙏🌹

[@TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion]

It takes The Glory of God to conceal a matter; The honor of Kings to search it out. Continue to teach the Daughters of Zion, The Sons of God and The Multitude (Strangers/Gentiles) that have cleaved to you. The Heavenly Father, Heavenly Mother (Wisdom/The Holy Spirit), The 24 Elders within The Counsel of Heaven and The cloud of witnesses salute you Pastor Blakes. ~Shalom~

[@stayreal5083]

A guy friend once told me to pay attention to the friends your man hang around, because most of the time toxic men hang with toxic men and cheating men hang with cheating men, lazy men hang with lazy men. A good honest hard working man is going to have friends with these qualities as well.

[@katalynbabe]

Yes birds flock

[@cachaygreen9641]

Yup!

[@dolphinlight]

I learned this from experience. Your friend is right.

[@thinkuknow789]

Watch out for a man with no friends at all! Another red flag, he gonna want you all to himself, and won't want ya around any friends!

[@adriennej860]

Birds of Feathers will flock together(words of my old Mother 80+)

[@doshinall]

"A man who is not healthy will always try to clip your wings when he knows you're an eagle. He will work overtime to diminish you." That really hit home.

[@lucygoose6237]

I hear you. I have felt this from my own Dad, my brother, and elsewhere.

[@miriamhavard7621]

No lies detected.

[@tatianaz8365]

On point

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Deep

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

A woman too.

[@Giftis2sing]

“When a man finds himself broken he will be jealous of his woman’s success”. Wow! “Broken men don’t know how to love a woman”. This is all fact!! My last relationship.

[@soiledskin]

💯 💯

[@cheburrell3989]

Yep!!

[@cassanix9093]

Same

[@triciaa2156]

Wow that’s how it was for me my ex was never happy for me it was like he wanted to compete with me it made me sad that he was like that 💔

[@nancyregina6790]

Broken people need healing!

[@faithlives5643]

5 ways not to be used 1. Believe patterns not apologies 2. Don’t fall in love with potential 3. Believe red flags 4. Know your worth 5. Don’t lower your standards

[@rmbrugge]

Great tips

[@5thHouseProductions]

Believe patterns not apologies! That is a word! We are creatures of habit, watch what they do, and believe half of what they say.

[@terrybuckley2850]

Amen 🙏🏾 and more Amen’s! Anyone can change, but no one is changing for another person. So when they show you who they are...believe them. I don’t care who you are, how attractive and successful you are...if they are not the one for you...STEP (in my Martin Lawrence voice) Matter of fact, 🏃🏽‍♀️ for the hills!! 🙏🏾 Ladies, you are worth it!!

[@travelchannel304]

I think im recognixing when i see it , sense it & how much is activated * what's dormant. It usually shows up in my body or Spirit will give me a hint. Its taken a while to recognize how to translate info i get into understanding when to paused and just observe if actions match up. Knowing this, no one gets to see my booty in public!! Shoot. Lol makes abstaining Very Easy!

[@courtneysmith5211]

Yes thank so true I just ended it with a toxic man I knew the signs I choose me over his broken spirit I wasn't the problem he was too much trauma

[@williammcdaniel6823]

I am a broken men honestly seeking to become repaired and whole im 34 looking to get my life back on track sincerely

[@loveatlast3927]

♥️ the fact that you seek to is proof that you will ‼️♥️💪🏿 much blessings to you on your journey

[@yvettecook9870]

I agree with Love at Last. Just acknowledging it is a step in the right direction. Many blessings on your journey. You got this!

[@ohemaa6703]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Brooklynsho]

I salute you! You got this 💪🏾💪🏾

[@loj3268]

This is so great to hear, keep going, as long as you seek to get your life back on track you will. Just give it time and be patient and keep working on you. Also keep seeking out strong men like RC Blakes to guide and learn from. I don’t know you but I’m very proud of you. ❤️

[@PamelaMonroe07]

“A healthy man will never diminish your self-esteem bank. He’s always pouring into your self-esteem bank.” ❤️

[@ChristyShar]

Love this !

[@karenmcgee1869]

Amen! I'm praying to receive a healthy man.

[@judycrumbly914]

Thank God for you and Lisa such a Blessing

[@sryder8312]

Preach sis

[@daphinebonner7645]

I will rather be alone than settle for less than my worth! Some men want bck what they neglected, and in my case competes w/my Word knowledge trying to put Christ forgiveness to me I should consider his forgiveness (I have), and settle bck dwn with him...his wants no longer mines, It died, I mourned and Its burried!! ☝🏾🙏🏾👌🏾👋🏾

[@briannebogle8008]

“A healthy man has the GRACE to empower his woman. “ ❤️🙏✨

[@PatricaKing]

I said.. " Where has this preacher been..?" Holy Spirit replied "he's been here all along, but ....you are finally ready to recieve what he says." Thank you Jesus!😇

[@doritalynnreynolds5195]

Yes, exactly!!!!

[@RealLadi228]

So true! I actually remember when he came to utube, but I didn't keep listening til now been fully awakened since 2016.

[@londiwenomusatsosane1645]

wow, I am with you here

[@jessicagutierrez2640]

Right!!! 🙌🏼

[@janicesmith5050]

Thank you Father GOD! I Just found his channel tonight!

[@SouthernSweetTee]

"Sometimes you're so broken that your normal is dysfunction. Your function is dysfunction." If this ain't a WORD!!!!! 🙌🏾

[@keitalattimore7984]

Powerful

[@denisefox7874]

@RC Blakes Jr Yes! My stability was instability. My life is a mess, as I speak I locked myself in the bathroom to hear this as he's mumbling about how he had to make dinner. My son....my poor son. My husband is like what you said, "who you talking to, where you going" he is also like you said easily angry. Anything I say he gets defense. My poor son hears us everyday. I stand up for myself, I have a amazing relationship with my son. He's mad at me for marrying him. I told him he wasn't like that before we were married. I turned off the tv last night to hear him talk and he got mad that I didn't have to turn it off, that I can watch my shows, got up said sorry ( like you said always apologizing )for being in my way and went to the room for the night. Except to see what I was doing pretending to get milk. I can't anymore, I can't and will not fix him. My poor son, he doesn't say good morning to him, good night, he just controls all of my son like a soldier. I can't afford to leave...my poor son. I sleep with my son almost every night and we sit up and talk. My best time of the day

[@LG-kx8xl]

@@denisefox7874 He might be jealous of the attention you give your son too making him pick at your son more. Idk, but some of these behaviors sound like narcissism. A narcissist will blow up about something & others will get away/get quiet & then when the narcissism wants things back to "normal", they can 1. Stop speaking to you for days (actually waiting for you to speak to them, 2. Will go around snapping at everyone in the house (they try not to in public since it would make them look bad which is a no-no), 3. Start being extra nice to "buy" you, but no apology. Major gifts can be pawns to try to take from you later to try to hurt you. Narcs have a tendency to pick at kids over nothing "military style" since they can't defend themselves or they will be extra nice to them if you're not speaking so as to think they have an ally.

[@denisefox7874]

@@LG-kx8xl he does have narcissistic traits for sure thank you so much for reaching out to me have a blessed day

[@greaterishe7197]

My GOD FROM ZION!

[@jelloshotsani]

“If you’re not looking deep before you leap, you will drown.” 🙌🏾

[@sigabou7296]

Amen

[@JaniceMWaters]

That is heavy!!!

[@tommycriscitello6235]

Amen

[@osml2.0]

yeah I drowned. lol

[@jelloshotsani]

@@osml2.0 Same. Happens to the best of us lol

[@barbaralemarier4421]

If there was only one video that I could listen to for the rest of my life this one would be it. This man is a rare diamond. May God richly bless him and his wife.

[@pennygarcia9699]

He is, class and wisdom and calm spirited. Appreciates women and my goodness we don’t find men like this. 🤯

[@joanwhite3749]

I am very I want to ask this question it might sound silly can God heal them critters I know he can do all things through Christ Jesus'

[@venessafields6945]

Thank you, thank you coming from someone who knows what he is talkibg about

[@sacredalkhemia28]

,9o

[@ellesyncronicious969]

Same!🎉

[@natashaevsimon1441]

A toxic man will pretend that he is on the path of healing and use this to further abuse his victim. This is a toxic man.

[@edith324]

Thats all they grew up with when they meet someone different they don't know another way so they make them a bait. this is experience for 40yrs.

[@tiffwashington1]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@lucygoose6237]

My father in law is famous for "I've changed enough" 🙄

[@katalynbabe]

Yes

[@marleypup4462]

YEP! Covert narcissist

[@knowyourkismat]

“There’s nobody walking on the planet that deserves you sacrificing your life for them in hopes that they do right by you eventually” Wish I heard this 10 years ago!!! Thank you pastor 🙌🏽

[@resarm5007]

Boy do I understand this! Gave too much of myself and my life to someone who didn't value me. I raised his 2 children tho, so hopefully I did something right! 😢😔

[@AwesomeMe47]

Ditto

[@jamilam2242]

Currently me but I’m almost out of here 😔

[@thakasato3743]

You and me both

[@chelceasurgenor598]

I was hoping my husband would change. But now I see he never will. Yes thank you pastor

[@Holistretch]

My past ex fits “Toxic Man”, my recent ex fits “Broken Man” exactly and my current bf fits “Healthy Man”. Hallelujah 😅 It took a LOT of self growth and hard work to attract a Healthy man. Amen.💓

[@punk.rock.hippie]

Amen!!! This makes me so happy for you! I love to hear about my sisters finding love and health❤️

[@TheBlessed64]

Good morning! Wow, happy for you. I’m waiting patiently!!! Enjoy your life 🕺🏽

[@foziaafzalbhat4911]

Give some tips to me as well... What you did???

[@foziaafzalbhat4911]

@RC Blakes Jr oh wow

[@Holistretch]

@@punk.rock.hippie Aw thank you!!🙏🏼💓

[@cinnamonbk1186]

Letter F: Avoids deep conversations Letter G: Can't express his feelings Pastor Blakes, you are speaking the truth on so many levels right now

[@PamelaMonroe07]

“No healthy man is going to be calling himself the ‘prize’…umm-mm...No.” 😆

[@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407]

Yeah my ex bf told me in December if I played my cards right, he might be my husband in 2021! About 5 minutes after that, I said if he plays his cards right, I won’t break up with him!

[@anonymoususer5999]

@@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 amen sis 👏 but would you consider this a power trip issue?

[@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407]

Anonymous user; why such a horrible negative screen name?

[@RealLadi228]

Makes so much sense...

[@Beautyforashes613_]

That’s cause the woman is the prize !

[@brittanyb5942]

"A man can change but you can't change him" wow 💯

[@HollijoyJohnson]

Realness 🤔

[@lajuanamckinney1951]

Yes you can't change no one unless they are willing to change. That goes for men and women. I believe

[@aneesa7021]

Duh

[@shayvonwilliams-broady7310]

@@lajuanamckinney1951 ¹r1

[@laraoneal7284]

We can only change ourselves period.

[@Ddeath.Eaterr]

“A man can change, YOU can’t change him.” A word !!!

[@belevhersboutique4727]

Absolutely! That was his opening line💯💯💯

[@carieyounginsurance]

I’m separated from a broken man with toxic qualities as well. He’s getting help and therapy but I believe our marriage has run it’s course. He’s emotionally exhausted me and took my peace too long. I wish him well, but I do feel I chose poorly. Thank you for this video

[@c.r.l2117]

My current situation. Sis, my soul is so tired!

[@charlesdial7152]

My wife and I are at this point right now ourselves after 22yrs, I definitely ran her down but I just can't see her with someone else, and that will be hard for me to deal with. I do need help and support to release my anger and hurt from all these years.

[@Patti-mp2ng]

i’m

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@charlesdial7152 That's a step to admit that. Get the help, or you'll drag all that into your next relationship. Not wanting her w/ someone else doesn't mean love though. It just means possession and that's not healthy. Wanting the best for her is wanting her to be w/ someone who treats her well, and deal w/ the sting of that.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Yep, I chose poorly too. Mine gave me that most lacklustre pitch to come back, but he doesn't really want me and still doesn't respect me or realize what he lost. The girl half his age finally ran out and his money ran out, and home security is what he wants back. He hasn't even bothered w/ counselling and I see no change. Just the same empty promises I've been hearing for over a year, while the affair continued and all the painful stunts and lies he pulled while he had his fun at my expense. He's out 4 months and I'm still struggling, but I know it would be worse if he was back.

[@alwaysaccurate8725]

Background -00:00 Healthy Man- 13:12 Broken Man- 39:38 Toxic Man- 1hr mark 📌The whole video is a blessing♥️

[@JB-gt5ws]

Thank you!

[@natachamartintarot]

Thank you for the time stamps, it is all awesome advice, but, just needed specifics 🙏♥️🦋

[@thatonegirljazmyne1397]

Life saver 💛

[@nellywk.9851]

Thankyou 🤗

[@Dixieland-kj4yu]

Thank you!!

[@tabithabrown5591]

A broken man is very dangerous! A broken man is seeking their Identity and portraying to be someone else It's sad but so True!!!!

[@loriperkins8490]

Amen yes!! 🙏

[@dineatrislloyd9365]

Yesss👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@ashleysno]

👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@petratuomi1202]

A healthy man is a giver not a taker and unguarded, keeps no secrets, but walks he talk!! Pastor, the way you break things down, is so refreshing! Thank you.

[@riorio-rt1oq]

I know one who thinks he is healthy and try to help every woman alive I ask him what about the men we are losing them he said amen🤷🏽‍♀️

[@farfetched9296]

A healthy man don't talk HE DO....it's crazy how no one took time to teach us about healthy and toxic men. My parents we're too busy trying to marry me off to anyone. The things I know now🙂

[@joenathan7962]

I disagree with unguarded to an extent ,some info is for wife only .Man will become broken by telling all his secrets right away. The Only reason a woman would want to know the deep stuff too soon I believe is because most likely because she's studying him. Filing those possibly hurtful vulnerable memories in the gaslight weaponized drawer for later. . Be careful what you say. Speak only with purpose respect, and after its ben thought through. Don't ever make promises either. If there's a chance you may drop the ball let that be known . Lets your yes be yes and your no be no. . :) My opinion only God bless all my brothas and sistas !!

[@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407]

Amen!!!

[@caljackson962]

HALLELUJAH. I HADN THOUGHT OF IT AS CLIPPING MY WINGS BUT MY GOODNESS THATS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED. NO MORE.

[@ingridj7070]

A REAL MAN won't mind hearing this. Men who are broken and toxic will turn away from your channel and this video altogether ❤❤ God Bless You R.C Blakes❤ Amen ...❤ CC

[@cindyking7229]

I prayed for my kids dad to change for 20 years and he never changed because he didn't want to change. So last year I stop praying that prayer, so God sent me the exact man I was praying for him to become

[@loveinautumn3978]

Congratulations sis! Hopefully God will send me a God fearing man who wants to be in covenant with me.

[@cindyking7229]

@@loveinautumn3978 keep asking God

[@Joureyoffaith555]

Congrats ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@latashalewis873]

I believe you,sis!

[@tiawannarichmonde250]

@@loveinautumn3978 That is good that she had her prayers answered. So many women settle for being a baby mama when they deserve to be a wife. It doesn't take years for a man to know that a certain woman is the one. If he wants her, he'll treat her like gold and do whatever it takes to get her. A man like that will come only from God Himself.

[@welldonerae4052]

I really appreciate you. I love my father but he doesn’t have the time to teach me about life. I feel seen and taken care of when I watch your videos. I wish you knew how much you have helped re-mold my spirit 🙏🏾 I quit smoking, quit drinking, cut ties with my abuser, im not fully healed but I’m on the right path. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@redtigerlily8165]

That is a beautiful thing. Congratulations! May all the rest of your days be blessed!

[@Pinkpanda811]

Good for you, sis! I love to see people level up their lives 💕

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

I’m so glad your doing better sis, keep going

[@leonajordan4365]

Do your thing -- keep soaring🙏🏾

[@MissLindsayRochelle]

Wowwww sister!!!! I’m proud of you!!! TRUE Testimony!!! Keep doing good!!!

[@kitana3977]

I'm a broken man and want to change desperately. I'm about to lose my beautiful wife and family. Learning how to ignore my childhood wounds and constantly seeking God for His help. Please pray for me. Much appreciated. Joseph

[@vivavidadela]

At least you recognize.

[@TT-th1gb]

Bless you and pray for you

[@equitablehealthcare-drnatashak]

Please go to Christian counseling.

[@seedofisrael1356]

Please go straight to God and not these demonic made churches!!

[@miamiller9435]

First of all you must go to God yourself and pray for yourself and family!

[@vanessahill0505]

I was married to a toxic man, who very easily cheated on me and accused me of being a narcissist, with borderline personality disorder, all so that he could justify being an adulterer, who didn't want to work. Married his mistress (18 years younger than him) who died, five months into their marriage. Apparently drank herself to death....Thank you RC Blake's for reminding me of the Queen that I am and always was. Shout out from the beautiful Cape Town, 🇿🇦

[@aubreybryan5332]

Wow..., this one is deep 🤯

[@GiaCruz]

I’m so sorry that happened to you and thank God you escaped!!!! 🎉 hope you are living your best life now!!!

[@PetitHibou72]

Hello South Africa, from Texas! I love that RC is teaching sisters worldwide, how powerful. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope the peace you’ve found is deep and lasting, in Jesus’ Name. 🙏🏼💖

[@mayashiva3287]

My dad was a broken man but after he married my mom he wanted a family he can be proud of and realized that starts with him. He succeeded in his goal and he is well respected by his children. His father physically and mentally tormented him and his mom. But made a conscious decision to change that in his own family. Love my dad ❤️

[@Cat-sx6ep]

when you break the chain you are healthy

[@stephanieorme2950]

❤

[@dempress3549]

Oh that's really encouraging, God bless him

[@sheliaglass484]

You just confirmed what we all should know. A man changes when he makes a decision to do so. And a real man who wants to break tge change of dysfunction can! You don't have to have the life that was modeled before you if you know it is not a good one. He wanted a healthy family unit and worked to do the opposite of what he saw. The winners in all of this is you and your family. Praise God!

[@ladyzinada5341]

Amazing GRACE how sweet it is

[@angelabennings8027]

I can not lie, this is the most valuable content being offered on KZbin. May the Lord take this message far and wide, and into the communities that need it most! I pray that this information breaks generational curses.

[@kayyoung9242]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@psalmfiya6315]

AMENOOO.......💪😂🌻💛☀👋🙌🌴💚🌍💙💓

[@sarayaturner6170]

Have you took a look at Gino Jennings on tube. Trust your walk with God will never be the same 💕

[@amarieneal7233]

Yes to your prayer in agreement to heal folks from being, violated & abused & turning toxic as men & women, boys & girls who needed renewal to God's great purpose & place of love ❤, wisdom, respect 🙏, honor & being victorious over all things in life, in Christ Jesus name, Amen !!!!❤❤

[@Melissakay09]

Amen 💕💕💕

[@HarlemDuke]

I’m not even Christian and I listen and watch your videos. Your words are beyond the bounds of religion. I just sent this video to a girlfriend of mine, so Thank you 😊

[@CBrown86]

I watched this four times to make sure it sunk in.

[@MyCrownstar]

YES. I’ve made it a favorite so once a month I can go back and listen to it! If I meet a man (lol) I will listen again.

[@adriennefavors2474]

I do this too! If I start dating someone, I’m like let me go listen!

[@fionawmukuriah]

That's commitment 👏

[@walcott70]

When it comes to relationships hunny you will never have enough knowledge. I don't care what the preacher, therapist, or book says. When dealing with thy flesh enter at your own risk...

[@birungicarol4935]

Every time I met someone

[@unitrarenee1406]

"A BROKEN MAN WILL BREAK YOU... YOU DON'T POSSESS WHAT HE NEEDS"!!! OMG... so on point!!! Thank you sir.

[@alice-asmithhill8123]

A broken spouse will break you.... You simply don’t possess what your spouse needs, to create healthy partnerships, forgiveness, receiving conversations in a mellow tone of voice, and develop with time a loving marriage you desire..... when your partner chastise your feelings, it’s their way of deactivating that persons need for them, by devaluation, belittled comments, pressing on past hurt, and creating a space of loneliness in the current moment. They do the deactivating for one purpose. To elevate the pressure from having to express his or her deepest feelings. The broken man don’t want to change for you so he creates you this image of self being a looser. Your friends are gone, family, job all gone. You get a new friend and he or she takes a jab at you by saying “hey go visit such a name and the new person is so boring.” They never like the old friend neither, but they know the hurt left behind in the broken friendship. Now the hurt partner don’t feel like going out with a new friend because his or her spouse devalued them and caused pain in association with that new friend. It’s all a roller coaster ride, the partner is hurtful and never remorseful because he or she is broken, and want you to feel hurt also. It’s a petty and hurtful game. I’m so sick of crying and not hearing a word of remorse or compassion. He said “you want to be sad, so I can go do what I want to. Go do it and I will go my way.” A ploy to find a new person then ditch you. Leaving you scorn for lifelong feelings of hurt and loneliness. A broken man wins what ever he puts his mind away from. He created the opposite of what he wants to make it seem it’s all your fault. Then not talking about it leaves the hurt to rot and pile up and up and up with hurt inside, never to be cared for and finally you go and the broken partner don’t care. The broken partner made sure they didn’t invest a heartfelt forgiveness nor compassion towards you so they haven’t any remorse. Remorse is not possible because they convinced themself and you that your not shit and not dependable, not faithful, not trustworthy, not fun, not pretty, not a lot of things that YOU TRULY DO MAKE SPECIAL, YOU ROCK THOSE FLAWS Flawlessly, AND IN ONLY THE FABULOUSE WAYS THAT YOU COULD. Not nobody is like you - god bless your God given uniqueness. Amen!

[@babybudd5848]

@@alice-asmithhill8123 I haven't even watch the whole video. Be i came across this and, WOW, very insightful. Thank you. 💌

[@tamibell4888]

@@alice-asmithhill8123 Amen sister, I once had a husband that did me that way. He did an made me feel all those things. He was a broken man an I was a empath always trying to see the good in him, so I stayed for years until he literally broke me an threw me away for another woman. Took me foreve to get over him an the hurt. 10 yrs later, now I met Jesus an have climb out of the pit of pain an our Abba Father has wrapped his arms around me. 😇

[@shirleycollins2185]

Yes.

[@madelinebigio7565]

Yesssss but the men needs help ! I have 3 brothers and only one matured but not all of them !

[@foziaafzalbhat4911]

A healthy man is a giver... Time, attention, love, care, available.. A healthy man is a listener.. a man who is not a listener is a toxic guy..

[@rahimi4762]

But the lady’s box ain’t hot for that by media design

[@RealLadi228]

Has a great heart great energy!

[@RealLadi228]

@@rahimi4762 If its about her box she might not be a great catch?

[@thinkuknow789]

Oh the toxic ones will pretend to listen, and care. Then they usually take whatever you told them in confidence, and twist it somehow to false accuse, and use against you!

[@aimyrenee4200]

In my case I think he is using it not in a good way for me. God has shown me over n over. When do I forgive n stay

[@octaviagrant2109]

I'm 49 and my dad never prepared me for a relationship with a man he was broken so he couldn't give me what he didn't have. Thank you for being my spiritual father

[@bellydanza85]

“Stop popping all this gum, stop taking all these booty pictures; and start thinking your way through life!” - RC Blakes. My pastor don’t play! Love you!

[@sammih7849]

Amen!

[@amberwise1148]

One of my favorite highlights!

[@shug_no_avery8172]

Lmao@popping the gun because it’s so true.

[@shug_no_avery8172]

@@amberwise1148 yesss mine too. He said in one of his father daughter talk videos

[@tiawannarichmonde250]

I like his teachings. He makes a lot of sense. I'll also add one thing: Avoid a vengeful man. Look at the mem who have killed their kids to get back at their mother. Some women have done it too, but mostly this has been the pattern of men. I also (first and foremost) want to go deep into a man's childhood. This will tell you a lot about his attitude and good and/or poor decision making. So, Pastor Blake is on point.

[@francinemitchell8682]

I am so tired of these broken 💔 men wanting good natured empathic women I refuse to be your 🚪 mat therapist.

[@lenaanthony8869]

Absolutely..and men need to put away their ego and get help!

[@kayyoung9242]

Bingo

[@amberparedes875]

Big Facts 💯

[@wonnielee3407]

How this comment don't have 1000 likes

[@shontasmith9362]

Truth!

[@wandanelson9888]

The toxic man is a narcissist. Very insecure, pressured to succeed from parents, grandiose, Mr. Wonderful in public but oppressive and verbally abusive at home behind closed doors.

[@aroyaldiadem3873]

This is so true. You just described someone who I just had to part ways with to the tee. Just devastating!

[@kitana3977]

That is exactly me. Broken but seeking healing through God. Trusting Him only

[@joycemmccullers7915]

I can really relate to what you're saying

[@patricetheauthor6535]

I know of that type of man unfortunately

[@Vixinaful]

Narcissism is waaaay more complex than that and theres a whole spectrum and types.

[@margokerby1533]

Reverend Blakes, you are the older brother every woman needs. Thank you.

[@stacyo.1080]

I almost lost a wonderful man, who was everything I wanted in a man, because I thought he was boring. Pastor, after dating men who I thought had the 20 percent that was missing and the excitement I was looking for, I knew I made a mistake because they didn't come close to how he treated me. I was broken and dysfunctional because of a divorce and had lots of luggage. Thankfully, I worked on myself and he took me back and I have never felt more loved by someone.

[@tonyaarnett2461]

I'm happy for you. I'm also learning something's about myself. How long have You guy's been together?

[@11940ful]

I hope you had his babies.

[@kerrondonegal-ewen9479]

Awesome 👏

[@rahimi4762]

But why does the right man has to have the bad mans left overs? The best years was still given to the devil. Thank god you came out of the dungeon and started to love yourself so you can recognize

[@evka24]

@@rahimi4762 right man himself most of time had other experiences too. No one have to take leftovers. Find a be worthy of virgin girl if that’s ur priority

[@P_Murriel]

As a male this has opened my eyes plz do female version. I have recently found you on KZbin and been following all your male lessons. Would love more male lessons.

[@leonajordan4365]

You will be blessed Anthony-- with his teachings- 🙏🏾

[@ladyzinada5341]

Amazing

[@ladyzinada5341]

Keep listening. Your on to something

[@keisha2shoes]

He has a kingology series

[@keisha2shoes]

He had the female version up

[@Iamlonndanicole]

A healthy man these days seems very rare. Trying to keep my faith that a lot of the broken men and women will be healed so that restoration of Kingdom family will be seen in these last days.

[@denetriawright9100]

that's a word!!...

[@princizzraven2000]

Amen I’m believing in faith with you. With God all things are possible 🙏🏾

[@Vixinaful]

Hear, hear, sister! ❤️

[@geedee2501]

Amen! This here is it! 2 Chronicles 7:14 14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I think there's not too many healthy men or women these days. If they have a good heart and you are both sincere, healing can happen in the relationship.

[@lebogabe]

Thank you Pastor, God bless you. I'm a broken man, in the process of becoming a healthy man and I praise Jesus for this.

[@jenniferjones1470]

"A man can change but you can't change him" LOVE IT

[@MsPat.212]

True facts

[@angelabaldwin9889]

If he loves u, a healthy man will change.

[@jenniferjones1470]

@@angelabaldwin9889 but you should distance yourself from that process because it's between him and his Maker. We as women want to be the solution the change maker but it is a mystery. Do not try to change him. You are the prize. the reward for a good man.

[@angelabaldwin9889]

@@jenniferjones1470 I meant or was trying to say he will make changes on his on accord to better himself… because he loves you…and he wants to do this. It’s like he will upgrade himself. Your love makes him better,lol.

[@jenniferjones1470]

@@angelabaldwin9889 I got it, cool.

[@simoneammon9874]

When you are in a relationship with a broken man, it doesn't matter how much you build them up, they feel intimidated by you, and are scared to be controlled by you. If there's a problem they will often try to run away, (either physically or emotionally - stonewalling) and have a tendency to behave in a passive aggressive way instead of being assertive. Even if you are confident, if you spend enough time around them, you start to feel broken and insecure because you have to diminish yourself and be constantly accommodating them. The guy may not be abusive or controlling, even if he's super passive where he can't meet your needs, it can be toxic.

[@deloresiles2341]

So true! I’ve been married to one for years. He always wanted to be the “smart one” couldn’t stand for a woman to know more than he did…he wanted someone to “dumb down” in order to feel good about himself. Very, very sad 😞 I didn’t buy into that though.

[@SaniyahRaks]

Amen...

[@kitana3977]

Unfortunately that's me. That was me and slowly healing from all my insecurities.

[@Giftis2sing]

Wow now it makes sense. I always wondered why when I would say something or make a comment about something my EX could never just agree with me. Even if I knew that I was right, he would still argue me up an down that I was wrong. That was the craziest thing to me. He was definitely a Mr. Know It All. SMH

[@jaketasjourney]

Wow that's interesting 🤔

[@riahs.7578]

I hope more men find God and become whole.

[@crystalcormier9376]

Amen sis I hope so too. God bless

[@MANDEE7962]

Yes amen

[@iamjen.B]

This is the very reason churches are full of singletons..nobody wants to change men/women. If their heart isnt right before God there will be no change period.. You cannot change a person, 👍

[@7reload777]

God is not real 😅🤦🏾‍♂️

[@dollyjohnson5848]

@@7reload777 you ain’t real

[@ms.h4541]

You need to make a healthy man boot camp. I honestly don't think toxic men are aware that they are toxic bc they lacked a godly father figure to teach them.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I don't think most toxic men know they are toxic either. Mine sure didn't. He had Godly parents who were very principled. I don't think he much regrets what he did to me, but he is ashamed that he let down his parents values that he was raised w/. They are both deceased and he got worse after his mother died, starting his affair shortly after. He was the youngest andhis mother really favoured him. I think that's part of what made him so entitled and immature.

[@jzloveinfinite]

They won't attend. I know someone who does this for men and attendance is very low. It's really heartbreaking to see. 😢

[@nathalie8497]

Do not fool yourself They DO KNOW

[@CodyCole80]

@@nathalie8497I believe they know too, which is why most don’t show their abuse or bad side until they’re behind closed doors.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

@@nathalie8497They know because they have senses that pick up on healthy men and they feel envy and jealousy towards them. Healthy men take responsibility for themselves and their actions. These men are surrounded by women who respect him. I was dating a man and what was a huge red flag for me was his response after being asked about his relationship with the women in his family. I didn’t ask in an accusatory manner, but he basically had no functioning relationship with his sisters or good communication with his ex, or any women in his family. There’s just something off about that.

[@brandyalaman8461]

This is so TRUE. In addition to this, a broken man will hide himself in a LIE and believe his OWN LIE!!

[@sharoneh8929]

O my God Yes!!!

[@lala5061]

@sharoneh8929 yes they will...will be so angry with the facts and true will sit right there and lie because they so ashamed...forget apologizing for it sincerely and taking accountability but recreate it and truly believe a lie version 🙄😒

[@TheAdvantageCounselor]

Broken men hide behind an identity rooted in his work.

[@peculiar7911]

Yes ma'am

[@mssimone7147]

Yes!!!!!

[@indyTyson]

Unfortunately I've only been with broken and toxic men and when I tell you, this was SPOT ON about their characteristics!! Working on myself in order to be healthy and attract a healthy husband! Pray for me! 🙏🏾

[@lovingpia27]

Wow, this me as well. I am praying to God to heal me from childhood trauma that I endured from both parent especially my dad. I placed my dad on pedestal but he was never available emotionally and physically. My goal is for God to heal so I can attract the man he has ordained for me.

[@caljackson962]

BOAZ IS OUT THERE SOMEWHERE. FOR ME SOONER THAN LATER I PRAY. THIS WAS JUST THE TEACHING IVE NEEDED TO HEAR.

[@akosuaakos9336]

Same here. How do you go about working on self? Praying a healthy overcoming victory for you!

[@365SELFINTEREST]

🙏🙏🙏

[@arnelevans6779]

@@akosuaakos9336 Working on self is basically letting go of the past, asking for forgiveness for yourself, for allowing hurt in your life. Prayer works too.

[@michelleleigh3739]

I’m speechless , every every woman ( young girls need to hear this ) I’m soooo thankful to have found your ministry . This was a gift from Jesus 🙏😇

[@mypath4711]

And also a lot of us women are attracted to the broken and toxic man because we are intimidated by healthy men, im changing! Bye bye toxic and broken hello healthy 🙂

[@michellebrim9485]

You are so right

[@missfitphamous]

I just realized that about myself .. you are so right.. I wanted validation

[@Abovegroundview]

A lot of us women date men we feel are below us so we feel superior because we know if we date a man who is in a better position than we are I will require us to look at our own short comings and change what we've been doing for years. That is a painful change that many do not want to undergo.

[@mypath4711]

@@Abovegroundview lets do this no more

[@free2fly374]

Wow great point

[@maudie3684]

A healthy man empowers his woman. Thank you Lord Jesus this message is for me.

[@debramarsh1261]

Me too.

[@karenaturner8074]

I am not with a healthy man every dream I have had he has shot down or mocked. I wanted a child daycare in my basement he said what about my man cave, I said we can turn the garage into a room he said what about my car where am I going to put it. He does not support he tries to control instead but it doesn’t work because I usually avoids him. It is not the best relationship he has no social emotional intelligence. I feel that he does not love women hood. He is also a minister and feels because he goes to church he is doing the right thing. That is so far from the truth. I used to buy into his negative comments and was wondering what I could do. I realized that it has nothing to do with me. We have been married for 14 years to be honest I feel like I have allowed him to steal my life. He is not physically abusive he is passive aggressive. He is guarded and believes he is smarter than most. He is very intelligent I must say. I only have gotten glimpses of him as a healthy minded thinker. He does not like to answering questions. This is so good I will definitely educate my girls on what to look for.

[@karenaturner8074]

RC Jr I must say that. You paying attention to my post just in lightened my spirit I will down load the app for some pointers.

[@debramarsh1261]

Thank you We all need them too hear this Open your Ears Men please.

[@karenaturner8074]

The man I am married to is so closed. He only lives in the Ego and he will not learn from me nor does he trust me. Not that I have done anything to him it’s what he thinks others have done and since I’m to sucker he try’s to break me. The number you have RC was to long.

[@merrytunes8697]

“Let’s have a self respect challenge”. Yes, society has women thinking men are the prize now...we have to remember we are the prize

[@Drealoveu2]

Amen

[@miriamhavard7621]

Amen!

[@broncomcbane6382]

Disagree. God made WoMan from Adam's rib because he declared it was not good for Man to be alone. But there is nothing specific about WoMan until like Psalms, where it is said that a Man that has found a Wife has found a good thing.

[@merrytunes8697]

@@broncomcbane6382 you’re proving my point...but lets agree to disagree. Peace be with you.

[@broncomcbane6382]

@@merrytunes8697 ok. I dont know...let me finish this video 1st

[@robertsidwell5856]

This is brilliant . I’ve just lost the woman of my dreams. The age of 59 and I just realised I am a broken man. Father died when I was eight and I’ve been ruled by my ego ever since. This Video has been so hard to watch , what you say is hard to hear , and I don’t know what to do first to help myself heal. But at least now know for the first time in my life , I see why my life has been a collection of failures particularly in my relationships. Thank you for this video. I hope I can finally heal and find some happiness , finally. Even after suffering a heart attack, I feel like God has given me a second chance to sort it out and become the man always wanted to be. I think I need a strong male mentor and a good therapist ….any suggestions?!🙏🏼

[@Gloria_All_Day]

Give me boring, I'll take that, because I'm boring too. 😊

[@chasingclouds7101]

Me too lol!

[@user-kpkxgtj]

Me too. Give me boring and predictable - any day, everyday, because that's how I am 😊

[@venitaw957]

I love boring...it’s peaceful!

[@terrybuckley2850]

Ditto!! 👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@ohemgee4359]

Stable and Reassuring would suit me nicely. Matter of fact, I would be thrilled.

[@maudie3684]

Broken man is passive aggressive and intimidated by your success not good chemistry. We need to be equally yoked.

[@shanellamalcolm210]

This is the type of man am with

[@nequasheavenlycreations5016]

This is so powerful! I almost married a broken man. I left the relationship because the double mindedness was too much and the verbal abuse was a deal breaker!!

[@Sally75015]

I’m trying to leave to😞

[@DrHen-xd3rv]

This is very powerful. Im literally in tears right now bc for over a year i was celibate and doing better as a person but bc i was being impatient and ready for family and marriage although I knew him and knew the baggage. So upset with myself because I KNEW BETTER. Been dealing with a roller coaster for over a year and I'm tired. Im ready to get back to the motivated person that I was before.

[@ChichiMarie]

Huge deal breaker

[@Shayvideos1]

@@Sally75015 do it..emotionally disconnect first but don't let it be so obvious if yall live together. If he has or has potential to be violent, leave in silence and leave now. Stay with someone or have him put out your place but if he's violent, you leave as soon as you can.

[@toshiapallesen9152]

Glad you listened to your intuition knew your worth and bailed 👍

[@toniaparker3543]

So very true my ex boyfriend was very broken. You couldn't say nothing to him without him getting upset. Punching holes in the wall don't mind hurting himself. He felt that he didn't need help with anything. Even though it was hurtful but at the same time the relationship wasn't going anywhere anyway. He really didn't want me I was just there. I'm glad I'm not with him anymore best thing I could have done.

[@lala5061]

Im so happy u got out of there because that wall is what he wanted to do to u...that is a huge huge flag to ruuuunnn...breaking things gotta put there hands on something when in disagreement...don't ask me how I know 😒

[@rinawilliams6249]

Wow!!!! What a revelation!...a man don't have to sleep with you,to form a soul tie..preach Pastor,preach!.

[@t.calhoun8765]

I just saw your comment and said omg now I understand.

[@gracelovepeace1]

Very true, I know from experience.

[@mariongore728]

Yes

[@theom1442]

I never knew that😱😮🙏its true when they say learning never ends...I always thought as long as you don't engage in fornication or any sexual activities before marriage you're safe. thanks 💁‍♂️

[@hunnyb1308]

Emotional Soul Tie, can be just as worst as a Sexual Soul Tie.

[@skyboundzoo7529]

i am a man guilty of all of this the holy spirit convicting me through your words thank you for your obedience to talk so candidly on a tough topic thank you

[@tintina2753]

So proud of your honesty bro . For this I pray there is hope for your healing if you are willing to trust God and work on yourself. All the best!

[@kitana3977]

Same here Sky Seeking healing every day

[@anneiconex1473]

@skyboundzoo @kitana l think that’s healthy that you recognize it. I’m sure you can heal. Take action and move toward a healthy mind. God Bless You ! !

[@mariebrunson9078]

God bless and keep you in his care.

[@madelinemclean3263]

I can't change a man, only God can do that!

[@LL-ip5mm]

And he himself can change him self if he wants too and believes god will help him do so

[@Itssofiz.]

Amen I'm testimony of that amen ,🙌🏽💓

[@shawnadionatutt]

This entire message added so much warmth to my body and spirit. I went through a 5 year Narcissistic relationship and became so insecure, unmotivated and lost. I’ve been looking for inspiration for about 2 years now and you definitely added spark that I needed. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. 👑

[@pricillageorge6593]

I'm proud of you. I'm struggling to get over a narc relationship 😩

[@keenas.8701]

Relatable! Amen.

[@chantemckeithan372]

Yes the narc will drain you to the point that you don't or can't do anything else for yourself. They drain the life out of you..

[@aubreybryan5332]

Totally 💯 relatable

[@doriscrumpton2980]

Sometimes a man may have brokenness and toxic behavior. So we women need to have discernment to vet a man before dating a man. Listen to what comes out of his mouth and that will tell you what's in his soul. We women need to listen and pay attention to his actions and what he says. Don't talk to much, just listen to what's coming out of his mouth an watch his actions and do they line up together. Don't soul tie with a broken man or toxic man.

[@OpulentAristocrat]

Preach 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@SoothingSoundsGL]

Absolutely! So true! Listening is key! If they are inconsistent in what the say and do that’s a huge red flag 🚩

[@PrarieWarrior]

Amen!

[@MeMyself984]

Amen amen amen! A wise woman told me that experience does not have to be our teacher.

[@staceybelle7041]

Sometimes it takes a few months for people to reveal their brokenness and it takes longer to see one's toxic nature. Also you never know someone until you live with them.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

A lion ain't gotta tell nobody hes a lion 😂😂😂😂

[@Rita-cy3qw]

Right 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@austingilbert9350]

Not true... A lion roars for a reason, to make sure he's heard, incase no one is listening. I've realized in life, coming from a single mother household, women can't raise boys. Love my mother, no issues... Women think they understand men. They do not... That was 80's 90's propaganda, otherwise marital rates (Black Community) would be better. Meaning, women would've used their experts knowledge for the betterment of a marriage, instead of benefits granted by family law via divorce/baby mama. The women from these prior generations could've taught this/our current generation of males, and females the right way... By teaching us the truth... Black matriarchs could've gotten together and formed a coalition of members and perhaps establish networks that could've reached corporate scales by this time. Oops, that didn't happen, we got BET, Oprah/OWN, Tyler Perry, Reality TV, etc. When Malcom El Shabazz was assassinated, our black patriarchal structure had been massively crippled. No devaluation of Dr. MLK Jr's. assassination or significant works, above and beyond. Although MLK assassination sparked the riots, the black males of the Black community took to the streets and carried out what Malcom X was advocating for most of his tenure, as our leader. RIP to both MLK, and Shabazz. It is true, men speak a different language. Me personally, I had to bust my ass to eradicate the "Simp/Mark" issues that came from being raised without my father in the household. I had to seek mentorship from various elder men who witnessed those events, or like my father, who was just a child, in order to complete my growth, and learn my trades (still pursued College). That's where the real stuff is at! Men of principality, are far more adept at handling and understanding there EQ and EI, than the average man despite being evil or good at heart... Honestly, my opinion regarding principalities are, they are guidelines that merit and condemn the actions and conduct of an individual's treatment towards him/herself and others. Principality is the gauge to where we are able to measure a man's character by means of integrity, or infidelity (thievery). Women must understand on a societal degree, that men (Black men) have been subliminally and spiritually repairing, and are preparing to return to our original, true, social, and patriarchal statures, within our community. Hopefully, by the time the Xiennials are reaching middle age (2050's), Blackpatriarchs will thrive once more, and the souls of the people will be mended. Therefore, so we (Black Community) can return to establishing and reaffirming our economy (Black Economy) once again, in likeness as in the time before Congress inacted Integration in the late 1960's. The, "True Black Economy" (TBE), must and has to be established, for future generations to have better social avenues for business interests, intellectual resources, financial programs that educate better, and a stronger community coalitions that ranges from coast to coast, to further supplement the "Black Common Economy" (BCE) networks (Hubs) we have today. That right, Money Trust Programs for B2B. I admit, I'm quick to hold any person accountable, but most expedient to inform any woman, with respect, regardless of race, thoroughly, when she is at fault. For when she begins to lie, deny, deflect, cry, insult, and/or spew malice. My roar becomes epic. My reason becomes sharpened, and if I must put down such falsehoods, spoken from her mouth, then my temper either drinks blood by the broke or eats straw like a lamb. Most brother's don't truly know how to handle a womans mouth, when she speak out of line... Most cases, women are very cunning. They are extremely keen, at knowing they cannot chastise (whip, inflict punishment, to censure severly, in order to solicitate an approved behavioral/performed outcome) men in order to have them carry out their whims, instead most women are commonly prone to mildly insulting their men in order to spite him, when he says "NO" , or implies it. If this behavior continues to accumulate it will thus transcend to numerous amounts of issues. Ultimately, leading to all kinds of circumstances for the man, because the woman knows not restraint for her mouth, or does not care, and most commonly, she does not listen, because she is either waiting to talk, or mainly talking over (loudly) her man. Weaker men will endure this behavior, until the woman can see with physical eyes, the outcome of her man's point. From there, she might or might not apologize for her past behavior, or simply attempt to justify it. If the woman is shrewed (archaic), or is a vixen (informal) she could violently, or abruptly insult the man yet again in order to reestablish herself. Men, are too strong to physically chastise a woman, and are insane if they do (personal opinion), so he battles her with his words. Disadvantaged state, for a man with a lesser EI/EQ. He may stress and struggle reasoning with her, and with her mouth may not yield willingly. She's determined to make her point, and have the final word. The common woman today, is better educated, even if she chooses not to attend college, better informed, career driven, competitive, vocal, independent and assertive. She may not possess all these qualities at once, but nonetheless she values her savvy. Her mental stamina is strong, and her cognitive reflexes stand at ready for debate. Lastly, the term, sassy, is now an underrated term for, classy. She displays these cognitive qualities daily, and may be unaware, as well as most (Non-Caucasian) men, that she is giving off masculine energy. Pride, peace, comfort, and security/stability, within the home, will all be in jeopardy, if the man cannot transcend, or manage his EI/EQ. Let's not talk about Domestic Internal Family Disputes. Who wants "That Paperwork" in their lives? Therefore, men should be preparing for marriage after age 30, and marry younger, "my personal opinion". Logically, it minimizes risk. Furthermore, I've only dated two women that can/could cook. I MEAN REAL FOOD FROM SCRATCH, my lady now, for 6yrs., and an old girlfriend from Tyler Tx. back when I was 21. Post MLK/Shabazz assassination, we are black men born from Matriarchal families. Single mothers generally struggle with sons starting at ages 12-13 yrs. After that, most male operate on instinct, until mid to late twenties. No excuse, but true. 1965 black women traded their husbands out, who were already contrived by a society creating laws to stop their social, civil, and economic growth (Jim Crows Laws). Be it, academics, innovation, law, trade skills, and from 1915-1935 black man couldn't compete for any major world championship titles via sports/athletics. It is extremely sad and hurtful. Due to the uncontrolled mouth, most women unfortunately, wait for there turn to talk, or just talk over their men, without listening, women fail to hear keywords when a man is making his point. So, when the situation/circumstances comes to an abrupt. The woman, instantly blames the male, loses memory, accepts 0% accountability, and potrays herself as the victim with family and friends, after their egos are bruised, my family included. If man is married or not, kids or not (Canada), the man is subjected to family law, and is force to co-parent, against his wishes. I've seen this outcome too many times, with both my parents marriages, friends, co-workers, "overheard it at the barbershop", the list goes on. Yes, this topic brings about some serious toxicity and brokenness, because of the prospect of a lackened/slackened in-home environment..., where discipline, order, and conduct should be maintained and governed, a woman no longer has to file for government assistance, or file an "At Fault Divorce" to get her man in check after vows. The machines, of Family Law, Feminism, and Matriarchal household deficiencies are already in place to keep the mans life off balance, if he's not careful until he matures in his late twenties, thirties. Black men in particular, have a tougher "go at it" against these social elements. Mostly because of their foremothers' accepting government assistance post MLK/Shabazz assassination, thus forcing the Male (Blackman) out of his home. Separation, split, divorce, call it what you want. But the U.S. govt., supported by state burecracys of the time, anticipated (psychologically) that most men wouldn't leave their homes despite assistance, and thus put the husband and wife at odds. The money goes to her now, and thus came the ego. Our foremothers, turned on our forefathers, after 400 years Black man and Black woman endured Slavery, Reconstruction, Civil Rights Movement, and more. Sad things is, women don't care about that "1965 Truth", even when they hear it. Because, they like the way society is today, and don't care to listen. Marriage is children, Love is about sex. All men should marry after age 30, and marry younger women, in hopes of a longer lasting marriage. Therefore he can enjoy comfort and administer sound countenance in his home. I speak in representation of men with integrity, strong or weak in their EI/EQ. Houston Tx.

[@misstiana77]

@RC Blakes Jr you’re not the real RC Blakes so stop trying to scam

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@misstiana77 Its the same thing I thought and wanted to write but then I thought what if RC wanted to reach out to Austin who made an extremely long comment to what I said...and then I also thought what if this person is trying to get me to contact him by leading me to believe he is RC (which I wouldn't do even if he is the real RC Blakes cos I have no business contacting no married man privately like that).

[@godizself1]

@@austingilbert9350 Wow. You alright?

[@kannese]

You know the language of LOVE. It does not brag nor boast it is patient and is kind. A real man will speak to you and you will never be afraid

[@kannese]

@RC Blakes Jr 👊🏼

[@gegeunique8257]

I got a letter from a narcissist and he even wrote it out himself “I built you up and tore you down over and over again” I’m glad I didn’t ignore the signs or blinded myself thinking he’s confessing to make a change, but it doesn’t work that way. Please ladies never ignore the signs especially if he’s telling you and showing you who he is already.

[@hayamy3583]

"Lost puppies" I call them. Ive picked up a few in the past. Theyre so cute, and theyre sad and we think we can fix them with some worm paste and a wash. But, eventually, the mistreated dog will bite. He has to choose to learn to trust.

[@w.v.e.8643]

Exactly!!!!

[@ladyzinada5341]

🤣. I shawl got bitten. 😅

[@lindagilbert5733]

@@w.v.e.8643 you are such a blessing to social media keep doing God's work God's way

[@francinemitchell8682]

Yes I picked 3 lost puppies I had to release them back to dog pound.

[@juneelle370]

😂 it totally works as a metaphor but in my experience animals who’ve been abused can learn to trust. I did adopt one female who was a challenge to the end but she was still family. This stuff doesn’t work with humans~ we’re a different kind of animal! 💜 brains so big and so much hurt. It sure can be done but only on an individual basis with Creator~with free will!

[@hopeinhumanity.]

May I add to the list... A healthy man has an openness and willingness to watch and learn from R.C’s videos that are shared with him 😌

[@O4FOXSAKES]

I totally agree! Men should strive to be a better man every day. Never stop growing. "If you ain't growing, you're dying". Treat your woman like a queen and you'll be her king!!😊

[@MarcGthaGreat]

Amen!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾✊🏾

[@faithwatari7210]

I'm sorry but I think this is manipulative. A healthy person won't manipulate another to do what they desire. If you are healthy, you should be able to accept that probably he doesn't enjoy listening to the videos coz it's not his kind of thing. However, he has a healthy attachment nonetheless. You can't rate someone's healthy state by his ability to accept being arm twisted to do what you like. That's unhealthy in my opinion.

[@hopeinhumanity.]

@@faithwatari7210 I understand that and agree. In this case it was posted because someone had watched the video and it was posted more as an appreciation for that person watching it (and seeing the comment).

[@1234nfd]

😂😂😂😂

[@His_creation]

"A healthy man has no secrets"

[@kpmich8252]

Dayuuuummmm

[@stephiiuni]

Definitely was dealing with a broken man. I had to let go because I started to feel like a burden to him. Always apologizing, self-sabotaging, not being supportive, and always in his head. Hoping he will get help the needs someday. In the meantime, I have to move on and live my own life. 😥💔

[@LisaButterfly-lf7vb]

"A man that is not healthy is going to try to clip your wings when he knows you are an eagle", Pastor RC Blakes, Jr. This is a very liberating statement. Thank you Pastor Blakes please keep your wisdom coming for the ladies out there and also the men!

[@edith324]

There are plenty of fish in the sea most of us are fishing in the wrong sea so we end up with sharks lol.

[@ameliabeneby2981]

Toxic was definitely my child’s father. I wish I would have acknowledged the red flags sooner. Never answering my questions. Inconsistent. Anger issues towards women. Noncommittal. I ignored his energy and paid the price in the end. Currently working on my healing and looking forward to the future.

[@Jit_N_LadyDade]

Same I’m wishing well on your journey with your family. They don’t care about no one, not even the child. Just lingering to feel some type of substance i case they need supply

[@marquettashahid3328]

Bless 🙌🏿 you. SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN.

[@Ann-pn9or]

33 years here....

[@brittneyberry4934]

The way Pastor Blakes is with Ms. Lisa just simply makes me feel gr8 inside. I know God is going to give me that some day...when im ready. My mama always says God dont bless a mess. And im a mess. But ill get to where he wants me.

[@leeevesheher358]

Amen sis

[@chumieoctober6921]

It is indeed liberating to see how a man can love a woman in a very healthy way.. God can indeed give you that..♥️

[@ilissawalker7051]

Ikr.

[@tacowboys6890]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾& in that order darling..........Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ” Philippians 1:6

[@TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion]

It takes The Glory of God to conceal a matter; The honor of Kings to search it out. Continue to teach the Daughters of Zion, The Sons of God and The Multitude (Strangers/Gentiles) that have cleaved to you. The Heavenly Father, Heavenly Mother (Wisdom/The Holy Spirit), The 24 Elders within The Counsel of Heaven and The cloud of witnesses salute you Pastor Blakes. ~Shalom~

[@micahasmr9937]

Omg, this is the father I needed in my life growing up. I thank God it's never too late to learn and grow.

[@mnorwo2]

"When you begin talking about being equally yoked, your partner has to have the capacity to contain you"! -RC BLAKES JR. Deep!!!

[@dazzkapp]

“A man that’s not healthy will always try to clip your wings, when he knows you’re an eagle.” You are preaching! And I am receiving🙏🏽

[@ATurnergirl]

Teach’

[@carolp2244]

You are great. I needed to find you on this you tube. GOD sent you to me!!! Thank you.

[@practicalteachingchronicle6631]

Someone FINALLY talking about it. Pleass help MEN. They are so insecure, have identity crisis, have bruised egos and suffering from massive inaccuracies

[@Giftis2sing]

I wish more of them would chime in and follow Pastor Blake’s. 🫤 This is my prayer. 🙏🏾 My EX would never sit and listen to this type of teaching because he’s not ready to hear 👂🏽 the truth and to make a change.

[@TopExoticfoods]

WOW! Thank you 🙏 I’m a women who is currently married, trying to understand why my husband is the way he is. Also, on a healing journey while making plans to leave him without any hate/ bitterness towards him.

[@cakesinthecity]

Just finalized my divorce with no bitterness but i won’t make the same mistakes again

[@christanavaughn6224]

“My value is not based on acceptance” great quote

[@Smart2GoTraining]

"I got my self together and went back and got my woman!" ~ Powerful!!!! LOL

[@catherinerowe9793]

"A queen asks questions that only kings can answer" PAH so good!!

[@sada-goddess7731]

Currently practicing accountability, I’ve attracted broken AND toxic men with a hint of down low. That’s a wicked combo. Doing the work on me lead me to this editorial. Thank you for your words of wisdom and obvious commitment to giving us the tools to relate to ourselves and others better

[@sundaylass6828]

I feel this ❤

[@nottedeliziosaa]

I like the fact that you make a distinction between toxic men and broken men. Because sometimes we feel guilty leaving a broken man because we think he is not a bad person he is so nice, he really try... yes he is not a bad person but he is broken.

[@wanjirunjoroge5942]

Yes, and importantly, you still can't fix him.

[@littleredhen8205]

@@wanjirunjoroge5942 That part 🙌

[@tiffanylee6475]

Facts

[@Trust788]

Broken men can become toxic it's best to just seek a healthy man

[@mariewilliams3203]

Yes

[@KrystleLaughter]

I wish I had this information 15 years ago. Thank you for being the father many of us never had. I’ll continue to use my books and channel to help other women heal.

[@lmoody2825]

Same

[@cheyluv6256]

Yes sis amen 🙏🏽

[@MichElle-py8lk]

Hiya Krystal I see you comment on Tony Gaskins videos as well 👋🏿❤️☺️

[@indigoearthangel888]

💯👌👏

[@MichElle-py8lk]

@RC Blakes Jr what you are doing is fraudulent!

[@cassleahg487]

“Let’s have a self respect challenge” yes ladies let’s do it! Thank you pastor 🙏🏾

[@startrade8130]

Great suggestion! I'm in!❤

[@barbaraandrews5218]

Let us learn together help us Lord your way is the best way give him all the glory thank you Jesus if Jesus is first his guidance will get you through this Victory is already ours in Christ Our Lord praise him let us learn listen believe father will finish what he started in each of us Faith Trust believe victory Hallelujah thank you Jesus lovingly winners

[@barbaraandrews5218]

Let us learn together help us Lord your way is the best way give him all the glory thank you Jesus if Jesus is first his guidance will get you through this Victory is already ours in Christ Our Lord praise him let us learn listen believe father will finish what he started in each of us Faith Trust believe victory Hallelujah thank you Jesus lovingly winners

[@jenniferjones6233]

Ppp

[@pazyamor1313]

Loveeeee this❤❤

[@karinteeples6517]

These are 💯 truth! As women tho’, until we heal our own brokenness from childhood trauma or abuse, we will subconsciously continue to be attracted to an abuser whether physical or emotional thru neglect, abandonment, etc. we will not be attracted to a healthy, whole man. It actually will detest us. Look at the patterns: continued relationships of hell. I did the work on myself and the patterns stopped. Good word sir!!🙌🏻🔥

[@Rueben7-q3r]

💯❤, I did the inner work on myself too and I'm so hopeful for my future relationships 🙏

[@MissModernprincess]

Thank you for you comment! I am doing the work and it seems like it will never end! But reading your comment makes me have hope!!!

[@lisaprude7285]

After watching this I ordered my husband food to his job which I never done before. We haven't been talking lately so when he text me and asked me did I order him food I responded food and a video and I sent him this video right here. I think he liked it he mentioned since last night 3 times he watched it. I'm not go ask him what he thinks . I'm go wait til the right moment and video and do it again. Thanks for the video.. by they way I have a broken 💔 man

[@ladyzinada5341]

Awesome

[@thenotsolazymom4871]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

Right ...Woman.😘......Not Women ..✨..or God would of made MANY at Once 🔂

[@lisaprude7285]

@RC Blakes Jr thank you so much...I will do..I'm waiting on his decision if he going try to make this work or he is going to walk...I took off for Monday the 22 so we can spend a night out and discuss what are issues and can they be solved I even asked him can we do a husband and wife contract. So I'll see how that goes but so far I'm listening to your videos you and your wife have and also if he stays I'm going to purchase your books..if not I still will purchase them to learn how to heal...and move on.. thanks stay safe and blessed

[@Talkwithtina808]

Love this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@queencleopatrabeverly7914]

Don't sit around and wait for them to change themselves either 💯 I feel if a couple is working towards the same common goal they can grow together in God

[@LittleMissSunshine721]

Very true!

[@angelbrown3162]

Give me boring give me stable give me honest and it’s definitely beautiful to walk your talk

[@judeenblair9619]

I 've not met healthy yet. I'm waiting

[@jeanshea6259]

I've been hearing you most of the night and now all morning. I have been unknowingly narcissistic supply for 25yrs. I am now in therapy diagnosed with PTSD. I'm a mess but for having you to hear from about this because you give me validation that I'm not crazy and delusional like he would say I was whenever I would defend myself. I'm so sad because I'm 64 now and will die alone with nothing to show for all my years of employment. I gave it all up to him. I just say thank you Bishop. The best thing I've learned from you is your parts when you speak from the Bible and Then I know Lord Jesus knows of these hurtful women destroyers. So I find some relief having faith that Jesus will deal with this person accordingly. Amen. Thy will be done.

[@ney1238]

I am sorry you went through this , i wish you healing and the ability to feel the love of god which is the greatest love and that will make you feel complete , i wish you to find and know yourself beyond this story and this identity and i wish you to embrace all of you and enjoy being alive , you are a courageous woman .

[@lanam1636]

It's never too late, remember that we're all in this together, my friend in her 20s got permanent damage to her bones from her last toxic relationship the attack will affect her for the rest of her life, she chose to forgive him, move on with God's help & therapy and she's chosen to start over, it's never too late in life, God has a blessing coming for you that you can't see right now but it's coming. What matters now is that you are free so that you can live life freely and how you want to, remember that age is just a number, your spirit is the most important thing, we're all in this together 💪🦋✨🌸 we got this

[@Hypotica4HisSLAVEINAMASK]

Time is just that. It was Sara who had a baby in her elder years…. It was Jesus who was baptized into his years! Time wasted but today starts a new day!

[@radaka]

Don't worry about having nothing to show for when you pass away hunny, you can't take it with you anyway. And peace of mind & contentment is priceless! I know it's awful to have spent so many years on a person that didn't deserve you and only broke you down. But don't beat yourself up for someones mistreatment of you. When you have a good loving heart, it's not easy to recognize that some people don't! Or that some people can be so mean, hurtful and destructive. Be easy on yourself and be kind to yourself. It's not over till it's over. God bless.

[@1010QUEEN7]

Don't feel bad the same thing happened to me a 38 year old sham of a marriage to a narcissist he destroyed my life and everything in it. But I will rise with God we can't lose look up to the hill. All our help comes from the Lord ❤❤❤

[@Tomisrhythm09]

I dealt with a toxic man before and he actually admitted to housing several demons and I found he gained pleasure in bringing misery to several women

[@1010QUEEN7]

I swear you are talking about my narc husband lol

[@MsFox2u]

A broken man almost has some of the same characteristics as a toxic man. I just got out of a relationship six months ago with a guy who was both broken and toxic. Everything you're saying about both of these types of men, fits him.

[@vanessabeasley3402]

"Alpha males are quiet! They are not interjecting themselves on every scene". Absolutely.

[@lindasmith6668]

I am a giver and it blesses me to know that a healthy man is a guver and a listener. Thank you Bishop.

[@crystalcormier9376]

All I can say is hurt people will hurt people in so many ways. Smh

[@shamonshontay5644]

Yeah but it's not ok, people need to heal themselves and get help. And not damage an innocent person.

[@hunnyb1308]

Toxic, recognizes Toxic.

[@hayamy3583]

Amen.

[@TubeYouInger]

Unaware hurted people will hurt people over and over again and play the victim!!! Aware hurted people that are working on themselves and take full responsibility and commitment towards thenselves can hurt other people and try to do better another time. Just alike healthy people. But they will continue to heal themselves.

[@littlecrowders7089]

He has no ability to feel empathy! That explains a why I could cry myself to sleep after he's hurt my feelings an he just sat watching TV or sleeps off. Thankyou for this session its so much knowledge packed in one.

[@c.r.l2117]

Yes God!!! No empathy....smh

[@kokoalaska9888]

Pastor you need to be a sanctified comedian!😂😂 “ Wassupp mane, the king is here , the king 🤴🏾 is here!”. I’ve dated those types thinking they were fun and the life of the party...turned out to be insecure man-babies🙄

[@overcomerbtboj]

I know! He had me rolling in tears 😂😂

[@cymonearcher4882]

Healthy Man - 0:00 Broken Man - 39:35 Toxic Man - 1:00:00

[@soystef]

wow my soul felt that- knocked a breath of air out of my lungs when he said "a healthy man is unguarded"