“They don’t experience the pain of one bad outcome, they experience the pain of 100 bad outcomes”. Oof, that one hit hard
@rafaelgonzalez41755 ай бұрын
That is false. You can make the choice to do 100 bad outcomes. out of 100 bad outcomes.
@JoshHitti5 ай бұрын
@@rafaelgonzalez4175 wut
@rafaelgonzalez41755 ай бұрын
@@JoshHitti Enlightenment. Is that not the subject? The experience of enlightenment is only for the person in AP state. In AP state you can choose to do only bad things to the real world. Every choice you make to affect the real world does so only in a negative way. In AP, experiencing enlightenment, you choose what you want to do, to those you do not like. Because everyone else you would not want to do a bad thing to. Enlightenment.
@HistorybyLeo5 ай бұрын
A hero dies one death but a coward dies many deaths
@jmalmighty54335 ай бұрын
@@rafaelgonzalez4175is English your first language cause whatever you are saying doesn’t make sense within the context or even grammatically???? :////
@midnitevibez5 ай бұрын
I think I’ve naturally come across “living in the present” over the last few months and it is blissful. I picked up tech repair as a hobby and when working on such small and complex things it must have your full attention and the mental benefit I noticed was incredible… that’s when i realized real happiness or peace isn’t from the people we know, the things we accomplish or the materials or objects we own, it’s the ability to think outside of one’s self for stretches of time. Keeping my mind occupied in healthy ways has changed my view on so many things I used to view as pure negatives and is helping me think things through differently since I’m more used to removing myself from the Center of my thinking
@midnitevibez5 ай бұрын
flow state is the hardest drug I’ve ever experienced and it’s truly so rad
@lakshaykochhar67995 ай бұрын
So, how does this flow thing feels? I'm kinda curious.
@samysue105 ай бұрын
@@lakshaykochhar6799 It feels like you are really connected to the current moment, like everything just feels right. Time passes by really fast and I know I feel a lot lighter physically when I’m in a flow state
@midnitevibez5 ай бұрын
@@lakshaykochhar6799 it’s just when you’re not thinking about anything else but what is in front of you. For me it may be trying to fanaggle a wire in a difficult spot but magically you’ll look up and hours have gone by and it’s almost like this electric feeling that you feel completely in control and connected to whatever you’re doing… sorry if this is vague it’s kinda abstract to describe
@midnitevibez5 ай бұрын
To clarify it’s not quite the same as hyperfocus but hyperfocus can definitely make the feeling more intense I think
@AskConner5 ай бұрын
1. Stop chasing dopamine 2:31 2. Dissolve your ego 8:09 3. Live in the present 12:53 4. Developed a one-pointed mind 19:02
@patobarajas72075 ай бұрын
lol thank u , I was so confused.
@kenpanderz5 ай бұрын
"just be happy 4head" Yogis: "yep"
@broadbandtogod5 ай бұрын
👍👍
@CursedZorthan5 ай бұрын
5. Dissing incels 22:00
@nathanmaxey29665 ай бұрын
@CursedZorthan 😂
@Marshall6095 ай бұрын
Before, I was in the loop of negativity & depression. Later, I found this channel and I feel like got out of this loop. Now, I understand the true value of life. Thank you Dr. K.
@AlexDavidkova5 ай бұрын
One of the things I learned in the addiction recovery center couple of years ago is something that I love suggesting to ppl when I see them struggling for the future and it is "Be here and now". There is also a quote that says: "Tomorrow doesn't exist bc it still haven't happened, yesterday has already been, so it stays in history. There is only one real day in the entire year and that's today".
@rememberDay15 ай бұрын
When you’re actually going through withdrawal,, and post withdrawal these word games dont really mean much 1) you have to really want to get clean 2) you have to be willing to suffer 3) with no promise of “faith” or that god will save you; only that you’ve abused enough so that you finally understand that getting high (in whatsoever way you choose) is always the worse choice (its not wrong, but you deep down know you’re squandering your potential) Main point being; you’re going to have to suffer to get clean: physically; but whats worse is that psychological demons will haunt and chase you (the ones youve been hiding/escaping from) once you are sober…they will come screaming at you. So then your battle begins because you will face mental anguish like no other as the demons arise… but you must accept them and let them ride through you (without getting carried away in anger and resentment, depression) and experience all that pain and cleansing while holding onto your commitment to stay sober and hope to move on to a better life. For a real addict cliches are only so useful…you need practical advice so I hope this helps anyone struggling cus ive been there. A cheat code for cravings is just take deep breaths for as long as it takes for your craving to chill… + the extreme desire to get clean ✌️
@iluxa-40005 ай бұрын
Exactly. It's the thoughts, the ideas of the future or the past that haunt and hurt you. In the moment you are doing just fine. In my case - often times I think "man, I'll never find love, and will die alone without even knowing how it feels", and it hurts really bad. Awful pain. But if I stop and think for a minute - am I doing ok now? Yeah, I'm sitting in my office, chilling, enjoying the cool summer day. It's enough to be happy. And if I think further - even if indeed I never find love, and I'll be sitting on my bed in my 70s, and think "hm, I indeed never met anyone" - I am certain that it wouldn't hurt much. Maybe a tingle, sure, but not the crushing feeling I have when I think about it now. That's the paradoxial nature of our brains - the projection, the mere thought we make for ourselves, the future that we make up entirely or the past that is already gone, hurts so much more than the actual life does
@MrNemay5 ай бұрын
My favorite "every day's doomsday"
@Taima5 ай бұрын
@@rememberDay1 Facts. Besides, telling someone to be in the present moment is literally the last place they want to be when going through withdrawal. It's liking inviting someone to pull up a chair in hell. Maybe it's best to get comfortable, but you're not really going to, and all you want is to be before or after the anguish.
@Taima5 ай бұрын
I agree with @rememberDay1's response to you, but I do also really like the "Be Here Now" quote in general. It also happens to be the name of the documentary that was made about the late actor Andy Whitfield (the first guy who played Spartacus in the STARZ series from 2009-2013) and the battle he unfortunately lost to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma I believe it was. Very good, very sad. But I digress.
@iluxa-40005 ай бұрын
There's something in this video that I needed to hear. "You can move in the right direction, but ultimately, the end result is out of your control. People can dislike you or you can get fired from your job...". And that's what I've been struggling with a lot lately. I think I'm doing the right things, I'm trying to improve my life and myself as much as I can, but often times I see no improvement. And I think that just need to accept it - what is important is that I'm doing my best, everything else is ultimately irrelevant. Like, I can be the best version of myself, and try and try, but still never find a partner that would suit me, because that's up to chance. And I need to learn to live with what I have instead of mourning for something I don't
@deuteriumtritium97005 ай бұрын
If you believe in the concept of Karma, have faith and keep going No action goes unaccounted for Your points are accumulating like water in a dam - and at some point, the dam releases and it's going to give you returns gushing with force And it does work with just trying your best without only caring for the fruits of your effort. Because even if it doesn't "work out", that's only based on our perception of what a working out situation is supposed to look - there's no absolute truth to what that situation is
@rafaelgonzalez41755 ай бұрын
My explanation would be the world around you. As many try to be better the result becomes the world around them. How can I be the only one? It doesn't make sense anymore. Then the realization hits. I can only be as better of a person in comparison to others. You are the only one. Until you find another that is doing the same. Compatibility. People are always going to be a box checked off. Am I this type of person, or maybe that type of person. Do I socialize with only those that think like me? The majority rules, YES.
@sharafkhan93335 ай бұрын
welcome to the world of serendipity my friend
@sharafkhan93335 ай бұрын
Welcome to the world of serendipity my friend
@TheSubpremeState4 ай бұрын
@@iluxa-4000 Google" I am that". Ramana Maharshi. They both explain how you are not the doer. Your just a witness so .....relax. alternative is the scientific proof. Google RR free will debunked. Not many accept it easily
@Jamb135 ай бұрын
I cant imagine how important this channel is to the evolution of modern society
@a_bar85795 ай бұрын
This person's topics are distinct from the rest.. I am an Arab person who does not know English, but KZbin's automatic translator provides me with a great service ❤️
@Taima5 ай бұрын
Yeah, translations are awesome. Is KZbin/Google actually good at translating Arabic/English now? It always seemed to be one of the worst out of the languages I've seen. Chinese usually ain't pretty either.
@a_bar85795 ай бұрын
@@Taima Excellent, you can understand the meaning in Arabic
@_WeDontKnow_4 ай бұрын
Much love from America, I love Dr. K's content. Very well educated from both the Eastern, and the Western part of the world.
@vellom3 ай бұрын
@@Taima AI has changed this drastically.
@RowenaSnow-px3jg2 ай бұрын
I am a Western person and find this man's insights very valuable. It is important to look outside one's own assumptions sometimes.
@brovoker345 ай бұрын
I don't really need this advice anymore, because I have pulled myself out of a pit of despair. However, the eloquence of which you explain things I have realized but don't have words for, is remarkable. If you are a lost, depressed person, listen to this man
@rorybessell82805 ай бұрын
Mindfulness is a great tool for everyone, depressed or otherwise. I've never been depressed in my life, but taking up a journey in mindfulness has still been the most powerful thing in my life
@TKInternational765 ай бұрын
Mate have you realised? No?
@detroitninjas5 ай бұрын
@@brovoker34 he’s different bro it’s like he’s saying what I’m thinking
@goku123494 ай бұрын
Did you do it without the therapist or meds. I think I can pull myself up but then I start doubting myself. It's an vicious cycle.
@MyDestinyDear3 ай бұрын
Yes!!! I send his videos to everyone because apparently when I tell people that the reason I am how I am is because I am genuinely happy being myself. It’s a recipe of Being grateful to be alive. Being thankful of your existence. Knowing yourself. Acknowledging your bad and working to improve it without letting it define you. Embracing change in all forms Being open Get in touch with your body and your emotions. A positive attitude goes along way. Manifestation, fake it till you make it. It works. Sure I am not happy 24/7 but I am never unhappy to be alive. I may be temporarily sad but FUCK I AM FUCKING ALIVE and it feels so incredible every time.
@BogdanBogdanovichBogdanov5 ай бұрын
As a recovering alcoholic and poly addict who’s been practicing Buddhism for the past year or so this really resonated with me.
@solrosriddare72645 ай бұрын
I like your name
@xuitha44565 ай бұрын
понимаю
@vodkacannon4 ай бұрын
What do you mean by poly addict?
@BogdanBogdanovichBogdanov4 ай бұрын
@@vodkacannon not exclusively addicted to one substance.
@sweepingpage18455 ай бұрын
After trying so many things, enlightenment is the only thing that has genuinely helped me overcome a lifetime of depression. Thank you for covering this topic.
@VeritableVagabond5 ай бұрын
How did it happen for you?
@sweepingpage18455 ай бұрын
@@VeritableVagabond A book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
@VeritableVagabond5 ай бұрын
@@sweepingpage1845 what practice did you do in that book? How long did it take you? Were you practicing hours a day before waking up?
@fawazahmed49785 ай бұрын
@@sweepingpage1845 dude i read the book and it seemed interesting, it makes sense to me (i guess a little counter productive if im validating it through logical thinking when the idea is to get to a place beyond thought). Despite it somewhat clicking i just can't make any use of it. It's like someone saying videogames arent good in excess, explaining their reasoning and you're like oh yeah ur kinda right, but then you go play them anyway. Have you or anyone else reading this thread experienced this before where all these concepts are agreeable but you havent changed despite it? what things can i try?
@sweepingpage18455 ай бұрын
@@VeritableVagabond Mostly just embracing the concepts in the book as fully as I can. I've listened to the audio book 3 times now, and I'm working through his follow up book, A New Earth. I wouldn't say I'm "cured." I'm still dealing with apathy and established bad habits, but the misery is practically gone. It shows back up from time to time, but quickly leaves again. It doesn't have a home to stick around in my mind and my heart. I was led to this book by Nate Muri, Thrive Like a Viking here on KZbin. He's big on practices and resilience. I think he prepared me to resonate so much with the book.
@Sean.F5 ай бұрын
Great summary of some of the most important things this channel has taught me. Used to suffer for years from depression and anxiety on a constant basis, and so many different "goals" or solutions I was given or set for myself failed to make me happy. In the end, simply through learning this stuff and practicing it through meditation, therapy, self-inquiry and journaling - Life ended up becoming infinitely more enjoyable and less stressful, without anything external changing at first. Until it becomes common consensus that our internal wiring affects our happiness and suffering more than our circumstance (Beyond the baseline of survival and security), and that we CAN change the internal in so many different ways - the mental health epidemic will continue.
@peeteri955 ай бұрын
Do you have any general advice? What impacted you the most?
@KK-sg5gl5 ай бұрын
Have you become goal-less? Because I have. And absolutely nothing interests me anymore. Maybe it’s just a phase but I can’t be bothered to invest any energy into anything.
@kymbbm5 ай бұрын
@@KK-sg5glthats just apathy and giving up, its not a good thing.
@KK-sg5gl5 ай бұрын
@@kymbbmI’ve heard some non duality speakers mention it, but not enough to cure my doubts of what you’re saying. Dr. K doesn’t seem like he’s in a “no self” state. So I’m not sure if he’d know what I’m referencing. Has your self dropped away?
@Sean.F5 ай бұрын
@@peeteri95 *What impacted the most, In order:* 0. Purpose / Values Inquiries - For me, the biggest hurdle to overcome after over a decade of misery was Self-hatred and apathy. Very difficult to even want to try to change things when you're your worst enemy... But too bad, we're stuck with us for life! What helped motivate me a bit was Dr. K's journaling prompts for "Dharma / Duty", what and who I truly valued and had a Duty to get better for, even if I didn't feel that Duty towards myself at first. As well as basic stuff like Action-oriented thinking rather than Results-oriented. Gotta realize that the mind is wired to self-sabotage, and figure out ways to circumvent that. 1. Journaling - every single thing that lead to suffering, no longer letting it just be in my head. Every "problem" I've had with myself and my life (Even without fixing most of them, ended up becoming way happier in life), every issue, every repeating emotion, putting it to the page, exploring it. Take it out of the black box and see how much gets hidden by the top-layers and the avoidance. 2. Meditation - Both sitting with that discomfort and emotion that surfaces and isn't as suppressed by distraction as it used to be anymore, but also sitting in PEACE, disentangling from it at times, finding ways to relax from it instead of always pushing and pulling on it. Not reacting as much. Takes a lot of practice, Dr. K's scientifically validated "20 minutes a day for 8 weeks" was a challenge for me at first, but after a few months of having that be my main "goal", started getting close and noticing improvement. 3. Research - Had to stop pretending I know how emotions and thoughts work best anymore, despite being over 20 years old! Or that I was a special snowflake who discovered "true, unsolvable misery" and all the other 8 billion people (or 100 billion throughout history) are wrong or lucky. Started researching my issues more thoroughly, seeing different approaches to anxiety, depression, shame, etc online. So much is available, so much to consider and try to apply. Philosophy (Stoicism, Buddhism, Sartre, whatever interests you), Psychology, Neurology, etc. Dr. K content and suggestions helped a lot. Claire Weekes was a very eye-opening perspective on Anxiety for me. 4. Therapy / Coaching - Then, started bringing up all the shit I wrote with a professional. Didn't find the perfect fit instantly, but eventually found someone I can "use" - the therapist itself doesn't matter as much as how willing you are to engage, IMO. Every session where we dug deep enough to bring up intense, stuck emotions, felt so rewarding, so relieving afterwards, even when we didn't find "the solution". Simply sitting with it, knowing that's okay. Sometimes we DID find actionable steps that helped, started exercising more and finding ways to enjoy nature. By this point, a year after starting, life was pretty relaxed and enjoyable despite not having made many big changes. Kept getting better though! I don't know what path or support works perfectly (or even just well enough) for you, but I hope you keep looking and trying. It's worth it, it's doable.
@dido_da5 ай бұрын
Here’s the way I think about the relationship between the future and suffering: Pretend for a second that you’re, for some reason, incapable of conceiving of anything but the present. Suffering is essentially a dissatisfaction with the present, and requires that you’re able to conceive of circumstances other than what you’re experiencing. But, if you couldn’t conceive of anything but the present, you couldn’t conceive of better circumstances. Therefore you wouldn’t be able to suffer. You’d automatically accept the present in its entirety. That’s why achieving one pointedness of the mind leads to happiness. Suffering is just literally impossible in that state.
@Volkbrecht5 ай бұрын
It doesn't work like that, at least not across the whole board. We have natural needs. Those not being met causes immediate suffering that doesn't require conceptualisation. The easiest example for this is pain caused by injuries or sickness, or hunger. You know without even thinking about the future that your present state must change. Your idea comes into play only when the basic needs are more or less covered. When you are thinking about life in terms of more, better, improvement. But once you slip below a baseline, you'll feel that your life is shit, right then and there, and not because you'd rather have a nice car instead of a bicycle.
@samysue105 ай бұрын
@@Volkbrecht That’s not true, even when I feel sick or am lacking in food you can still have such a one pointed focus that I can ignore those negative feelings. I haven’t mastered it but I’ve had moments where things were going to sh*t and I was still able to shift my focus on what’s in the moment and even on positive perspectives. It’s very difficult and takes years of practice but I believe it’s possible to be blissful and happy even on the verge of death if you have mastered your ability to focus.
@onyxrose7865 ай бұрын
@@Volkbrecht I think you are confusing pain with suffering, you can be in pain but that doesn't necessarily cause suffering
@baronvonkek84675 ай бұрын
Improvement is also impossible. If you can't be dissatisfied with your circumstances, you can't make them better.
@musickerem5 ай бұрын
@@baronvonkek8467 Improvement requires comparison and the abstract concepts of "good" and "bad, or "better" or "worse"
@adacougdirector5 ай бұрын
One of the hardest lessons I've learned is what you speak on in regards to self perception. I fixed all problems. I was 550+ lbs. Depressed. Binge eating disorder. Weed abuse. No job. No degree. In the last three years I've lost all that weight. I got a job. I'm in my last year of a CS degree. Survived a breakup and have a new girlfriend. But I was still miserable. I thought losing all the weight would fix me. I felt like it was causing me all this pain. And then I finally lost it all and I was kinda whatever about it. I had just moved on to judging myself about the next thing.
@marcrodill26865 ай бұрын
Dr. K changing the world one KZbin video at a time
@morganseppy51805 ай бұрын
I had time so i watch a twitch vod of his, and it connected points that ive ignored in myself. A lot to think about
@Freevo173 ай бұрын
You have no idea the appreciation I have for your channel. What you do for younger people is truly remarkable and I wanna thank you for all the effort you put into guiding our future society to better places.
@s0cializedpsych0path5 ай бұрын
I had an NDE 6 years ago, and it DEFINITELY changed the way I think and behave. I used to be suicidal... was for about 23 years.... I would look for the things to be unhappy about, because when things were going good, I would always be anxious that it was all about to fall apart. Since the NDE, I'm more often happy than not. I seek to help others attain it... I'm generally a LOT less selfish.
@tasfa104 ай бұрын
@@s0cializedpsych0path do you mind telling what the experience was like?
@prfectnplayz64175 ай бұрын
I would argue that one is able to think about a good future outcome and feel the pleasure from it the same way as the negative thought. I sometimes create fake futures where I imagine myself succeeding in any way possible and I get a rush of dopamine and chills and motivation from it. It can even be things that may not even be physically possible for me for things that will never happen, but it’s the thought of succeeding that gives me motivation and drive.
@arnoldcoleman145 ай бұрын
I agree to a point, i've also learned from andrew hubermans podcast, that to have motivation to do difficult things that would lead you to a better life, you need to learn to activate the motivation (dopamine) during the difficult thing, not after or before. So during the thing you might start dreaming about a good future. I've had some success with this, but its too early to tell. (Imagining a good outcome, getting motivated to make it happen and making it happen)
@guitarhero-z2m5 ай бұрын
Whoa, genius
@HakunBR3 ай бұрын
Well i agree, but for me its not like the actual thing, idk if we release the dopamine, maybe we can feel a little more happy imagining a future, but idk if that is the chemical acting...
@k9s2music655 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Dr K. I’ve been meditating at least once if not twice a day and it’s really helped me unleash so many deeply trapped emotions. I’ve suffered from such internalised feelings of low self worth and chronic low mood and anxiety. Can’t thank you enough, your insight which you offer for free is such a great guide for my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really hope my thanks reaches you some day 🙏
@zazaonwow5 ай бұрын
Not only am I extremely early on watching this episode but it speaks directly to me and what I've been going through. Thank you for your insight Dr. K
@Schismatise5 ай бұрын
14:05 "This doesn't work for pleasure ... You can't think about playing video games and get that rush of dopamine." One of the most intense sources of happiness I have ever experienced was the anticipation of playing a video game. I feel good when I think of positive things I might do. Food for thought.
@peterrosqvist24805 ай бұрын
That’s excitement, but that’s different than the actual dopamine hit. A better example might be eating dessert or an orgasm. You cannot simply think about an orgasm and experience the dopamine hit from an orgasm, but you can experience the anticipation of it which is also rewarding.
@bobrandom55455 ай бұрын
@@peterrosqvist2480 Comparing apples to oranges. No, you can't experience future dessert or orgasms, but you can also not experience future pain from cutting your hand off. You CAN experience future positive social experiences and any other future pleasure not caused by something "physical" like eating food. I'm not buying the whole claim that you can't experience future pleasure, but you can experience future pain. I'm open to evidence though
@igotbluesdevils5 ай бұрын
Actually, as Dr Robert Sapolsky explained, dopamine isn't actually the reward/pleasure neurotransmitter. The real dopamine "hit" comes with the anticipation of pleasure. Especially in case the reward/pleasure isn't guaranteed, the "hit" is stronger. This is the actual mechanism gambling and casinos work with.
@conscientunit11575 ай бұрын
@@igotbluesdevils well, that kinda explains why dopamine doesnt lead to happiness
@igotbluesdevils5 ай бұрын
@@conscientunit1157 Yup. It also explains why a lot of people keep chasing "the next thing" (job, wage, partner, car, shoes, vacation..). It's never ever enough, and it never will be..!
@OpenSourceAnarchist5 ай бұрын
Extremely helpful as always Dr. K. I have autism and anxiety, but I no longer have dysthymia and I am on a path to awakening, I hope. It's certainly not for everyone, but Lucy saved my life and shut down my default mode network for the first time in my life. A true ego death. I've found Buddhism to be the most comprehensive philosophy and psychological model to explain that intuitive awareness and disattachment to any identity "I" felt that day. My goal is to overcome my addictions, keep meditating, and taking up the monastic life when I can sustain a constant practice. Jhana is the key! May all sentient beings achieve liberation, and may all my fellow autists get some ketamine infusions :)
@dirkpopowitz3645 ай бұрын
Dear Alok! I really can‘t thank you enough for your passionate work, your warmhearted charm and your healthy and inspiring sense of humor! As a diamondway buddhist practitioner with a history of polytoxic substance abuse since i was 11 years old, combined with Videogame-addiction, and now 18 Years of Experience in (buddhist) meditation and a recently diagnosed ADHD in my 40‘s, i can‘t tell you how much value, insights and encouragement i receive through your content and you as a person and example! I consider you a true Boddhisattva and a friend on the way although we’ve never met in Person. May you live a healthy and enjoyable life for as long as possible and benfit as many beeings by enabling them to understand and work with their minds! Thank you from the depth of my heart!🙏🏻 Om ma ni pe me hung
@Justfor2day103 ай бұрын
I suffered with chronic anxiety attacks, OCD, depersonalization and depression on and off in my life. I slipped into a five year non stop fight or flight coupled with OCD, depersonalization. I started meditating and now I don’t have any of that but I also lost excitement in life which is weird as hell. I don’t feel depressed I just feel like sitting by a river all day alone
@Justfor2day102 ай бұрын
@@JagdeepSandhuSJC I definitely don’t care about money or material things but thanks for the response
@seantheansea579211 күн бұрын
@@Justfor2day10 how long did it take to see changes?
@reyhaz5 ай бұрын
I've got enlighted not through meditation, but realization. Always thought, I was neurotic or something wrong with me, as I never seemed to fit into society or get along with people. Now I know, I'm just wired differently. With that knowledge, I was able to accept myself as I wasn't a defect, but a different kind of unit. That also enhanced my relations with others and the world.
@reyhaz5 ай бұрын
@Jumpingjackflash123 well, since the state of enlightened is pretty much subjective, as the notion is about how you understand the world around you.. it is for me, prolly not for you.. but it's the same thing that I don't believe in Siddhartha is being enlightened as Buddha, but that's my atheist side.. which I do not put out on everyone's statement just to hurt their feeling, so I could feel a little better or superior.. good day, mate
@diecar1285 ай бұрын
The two track mind is really on point for me. Often when im talking with people theres a second voice judging the conversation because it feels it needs to go perfect but in the end it makes me come off as weird. When i let go of the expectations is when i make real connections.
@losowaistota89325 ай бұрын
I have a case of mild mental disability and it happened that I had some bad experiences and went into psychotic episode. During one of them, something clicked and during like 2 days I started thinking differently. The ecstasy of realising you just are is something irreplaceable and actually got me interested into Buddhism and Doctor K channel.
@Jack-fw7wd5 ай бұрын
Type shit
@themudpit6215 ай бұрын
Don't chase your psychosis. Please, be safe.
@eebbaa55605 ай бұрын
@@Jack-fw7wdnah cuz what do these dudes be talking about fr ☠️😭
@losowaistota89325 ай бұрын
@@themudpit621 do not worry, it just appears when I am stressed out of my mind. I didn't have one since then
@rafaelgonzalez41755 ай бұрын
I did experience that. As I looked at reality I was the only one there. The people all around me were not aware at what seemed to be a distance, But I was aware that I am somewhere no one else is.
@anormaluser57505 ай бұрын
I think the idea that luck determines your happiness has affected me a whole lot. Sometimes I think that everything I hold is unstable and might break due to inevitable RNG. But this channel has helped me take a different approach
@quantessenzАй бұрын
“Looking for consciousness in the brain is like looking Inside a radio for the announcer.” ― Nassim Haramein Same with enlightenment.
@kalebvick5 ай бұрын
Wow, the last time i was this early to something someone had to cut my umbilical. Thanks for posting, this is my favorite subject :)
@cominforyachips5 ай бұрын
Any progress I seem to make with meditation, which looks like feeling more relaxed and more comfortable with myself, is immediately disrupted by my living situation; walking out into the kitchen when my father who has bipolar disorder is out there immediately will pull me back into anxiety and raise my heartrate and increase my stress response. I just wanna know how exactly I’m creating my own suffering when I have to live with someone who’s had multiple episodes and despite my best efforts my feelings come back. No, security does not bring happiness, but it is the prerequisite for if you want to achieve it. You need a good base point.
@TheShmoopsie5 ай бұрын
Hey, Im in a similar situation and I feel for you. A big thing that has helped me is the cognitive reframe of "I have the equivalent of Mike Tyson in my kitchen, and I can spar with him whenever I want". Going into it not expecting to win, but to know you're going to not only get thrashed, but also collect the best XP/hr at the same time, made me kind of appreciate the situation from another light
@cliffordgoh5 ай бұрын
Use the sensations you feel in your father's presence as the meditation object. Don't try to aim for equanimity or use the meditation as a band-aid to feel more relaxed. Instead, accept the feelings so that you can process them. Better yet, practice metta / loving-kindness meditation, send love to your father. You create your suffering by your internal reactions to your father's behavior, this reaction comes about because you have subconsciously, in your childhood, created a narrative about his role and your role. Granted this is extremely hard to break out of -- families are some of the most heavy karmic relationships we can have in this life. I grew up with a narcissist father and took me years of deep meditation and inner work to get to a point where I'm not affected anymore. All the best
@seekingfinding62045 ай бұрын
I think being able to be calm in this situation would require the meditation skill of a master. However, just the fact that you are able to calm yourself at all is good - you may not be able to remain calm in all situations, but learning to be in control of yourself when away from the stressor is extremely important for mental health. People who can't get out of fight-or-flight mode will end up with chronic illnesses, and you are teaching yourself to return to calmness when you are away from your stressors. Good job, keep doing it!
@samysue105 ай бұрын
You’re on the right path, the goal is not to be calm and relaxed, the goal is to not react. When you feel those feelings just observe them. Don’t feed into the feelings or thoughts. It’s very difficult but over time the more you practice the easier it becomes to be able to stay clear headed even when faced with a threat.
@Grandof-the-PentastarAlignment5 ай бұрын
@@cliffordgoh Doesn't acceptance of a bad situation just give way to it appearing more often?
@outgroup5 ай бұрын
I don't know how Dr. K always has a relevant video made right when I start having problems.
@Entwicklungshustle5 ай бұрын
Maybe your brain starts adapting to Dr. Ks upload schedule 🤔
@vladislavkaras4915 ай бұрын
Well, the more I watch this channel, the more I am interested in yoga! Those tips are awesome, thanks for the video!
@vishalgarg10035 ай бұрын
1. Not chasing the dopamine or pleasure 2. Disable the ego ( dmn network sent on vacation ) 3. Focus or live in the present 4. One pointed with ur mind
@cliffordjohnson9435 ай бұрын
When I experienced a spontaneous kundalini awakening, it actually expanded my consciousness and an increase in synchronicities with numbers and other things in my environment. I experience fewer thoughts and a greater calm throughout the day. It’s really coming to the realization that you are a infinite eternal Soul(Consciousness) having a human experience through the illusion of physical reality, and you actually remember the blissful loving feeling of Heaven when you become one with everything. I’m sure more people are waking up to the fact that they are simply awareness, and the ego mind is really there to perceive your experience.
@abdosouraya61655 ай бұрын
Thank you for bringing this information to such a broad audience. I'm so lucky to have found meditation as an early adult, I feel like life is so much fuller and I'm nowhere even near any perceived endgoal!
@kylespevak67815 ай бұрын
22:16 this is totally me! I think it comes more from trying to be conscious of the other person having a good time that it ends up making me have an awful time 😂 I've also experienced this at some concerts where I can read the facial expression of the artist and noticed that they aren't enthusiastic about the performance they are giving, that it's more like a job to them and it takes me out of the experience because I'm watching an artist I love actively not enjoy themselves
@Kylie-wc4gx5 ай бұрын
I recently got into a practice of mantra, to help train my mind to single pointedness! Just repeating "i am" for at least 10 mins a day helps immensely with my overall happiness and calm, leaving me with a sense of mental spaciousness. Also, I'm not sure I would consider this enlightenment, I would consider these methods some of the necessary mental tools to start awakening, which will ultimately lead to enlightenment.
@kenjones1023 ай бұрын
You might get more out of it by adding "That" (I Am That), and gently putting your attention on the mantra when thoughts crowd your mind, instead of rapid repetition. The prize lies in getting what That is.
@Kylie-wc4gx3 ай бұрын
@@kenjones102 the goal of repeating "I am" as a mantra is not to focus on getting anything at all, but returning to the ground of being the 'i am-ness' that is underneath all thought.
@kenjones1023 ай бұрын
@@Kylie-wc4gx Well, I suppose that's one way of resting in awareness.
@JLM1PBАй бұрын
14:20 I would go even further, you can think about pleasure and experience pain (craving, urges, guilt), acceptance and letting go is key. Thank you for the video Dr
@senpailucy225 ай бұрын
Visited a moksha temple on my trip to Nepal.. absolute peace
@JohnSmith-fo5cx4 ай бұрын
you say peace, but the irony is it can be that way due to the suffering of other people.
@senpailucy224 ай бұрын
@@JohnSmith-fo5cx lay off the shrooms bro.. drugs are bad
@JohnSmith-fo5cx4 ай бұрын
@@senpailucy22 just using logic and reasoning. Meditate on it...youll understand why....probably.
@tommcgill86013 ай бұрын
I am currently in recovery for a ketamine addiction. Explains pretty well why I have managed to reduce my use down to about monthly. I feel little to no suffering or difficulty until I have around 20 days clean. I have been building up journalling, meditation practices and connection to other members of a fellowship to break free from the cycle. When I use, I use far too much and it has a catastrophic effect on my mind and body for 3-5 days. My use used to be every day and a lot, continuing to do so like that would have spelled loss of organs and nothing else in the best case. The answer for me is definitely holistic and mostly spiritual.
@sara.e.11115 ай бұрын
This is one of the best informational videos I've ever seen/heard and the title doesn't do it justice with what was shared 💎🗝️❤
@NinaNova_5 ай бұрын
This is among the top three most personally life-saving videos you have released; and I will not pick a favourite because of how each one helps me through different points of my life. You along with my counsellor have changed my life in such an enormous way that I went from not being able to envision a tomorrow to wanting to actually pursue a therapist position in psychedelic and other novel therapies; it's my karma calling me... something *you* taught me. Thanks for everything Doctor Kanojia; I hope we can talk over a professional basis someday :')
@sibagasser5 ай бұрын
I actually would LOVE a "Dr. K's Guide to Enlightenment" program
@MM-nx8dt5 ай бұрын
I too, would join his cult.
@InfinitePisces2 ай бұрын
I think I found your channel at the right time in my life. I’m really interested in learning more about living in the present
@tom-ment-Capybara5 ай бұрын
Alternative title: "man meditated under a tree for 30 days, this is what happened to his brain" (This is a joke, you need more than just meditation to become emlightened) Edit: If i knew so many people would see this i would have made it better lmao Heres a better version (Inspired by replies): "Local man sat under a tree for 30 days and ate some porridge, this is what happened to his brain"
@HeyHereTer5 ай бұрын
"... after getting dispatched, he was able to make a full recovery."
@joostvhts5 ай бұрын
@@HeyHereTer ☝🏻..where we are now.
@BunnyUK5 ай бұрын
Local man
@monster-tc1nz5 ай бұрын
B Presented to the emergency room feeling peaceful
@Liam-ke2hv5 ай бұрын
I love you for saying this combination of words
@kylespevak67815 ай бұрын
19:22 I totally have a two track mind but I believe that the one track isn't always necessarily bad. It definitely is the where the anxiety can come from, I am not arguing that. But I think sometimes it is helpful to have one brain focused on a physical task and another brain focused on other things at the same time
@SLAYERSARCH5 ай бұрын
god bless you DR. thank you. you are helping humanity and it's the greatest work you ever did.
@Anonym-yr4qn5 ай бұрын
I've had similar thoughts just last evening. I like things to be easy and i prefer to make it easy for myself. Meaning: Stopping to think and just doing or not doing it without further thought. It feels very liberating and relaxing. Because i am constantly overthinking. It's my second oxygen. And it's hell. Always has been.
@KrishnaRama-kn5bc5 ай бұрын
It is scary that you need to grind in med school with loans and academic pressure , and decades of medical experience only to realise what a villager in a rural small town setting in india was saying about human physiology and happiness was right all along . This is such a table turned moment .😮😅
@CariMachet5 ай бұрын
@@KrishnaRama-kn5bc add to that like super a lot of centuries ago a villager knew … but it was because of the vedas
@guaranagaucho30714 ай бұрын
Gautama came from a very rich family. Shows even more that money does not satisfy desire.
@IlmiMulhid4 ай бұрын
@@guaranagaucho3071 also read story of nachiketa, Yamaraj offered him everything materialistic but he choose to understand reality of being bcoz he knew material things cannot satisfy him.
@KrishnaRama-kn5bc4 ай бұрын
The point is , never look down on age old advices or practices that were believed for millennia by certain people , because you don't understand it. People in the west often suffer from the mental disease called superiority complex and they have plundered much of the world proving that .
@Wolffanghurricane3 ай бұрын
@@guaranagaucho3071Gautama is a fictional character
@Ranas-qm8vn5 ай бұрын
00:00 *🧘 Neuroscience of Enlightenment* - Overview of Enlightenment concept in Eastern spiritual traditions. - Disconnect between happiness research and actionable information. - Introduction to exploring neuroscientific mechanisms for sustained happiness. 02:33 *🧠 Dopamine's Role in Happiness* - Dopamine's role in pleasure, anticipation, and behavioral reinforcement. - Tolerance development as a trap for dopamine-driven pleasure-seeking. - Diminishing returns of pleasure from dopamine activities over time. 08:11 *🧠🤖 Ego Removal and Default Mode Network* - Impact of ego on sustained happiness. - Association of default mode network activity with self-critical thoughts and unhappiness. - Neuroscience support for disconnecting the ego from happiness. 12:11 *🎭 Living in the Present Moment* - The brain's tendency to experience hypothetical pain but not hypothetical pleasure. - Understanding the bias towards future losses over gains. - Linking present-focused living to sustained happiness and well-being. 18:27 *🎮 One-Pointedness of the Mind* - The negative impact of a two-track mind on emotional suffering. - Relationship between mental focus and suffering reduction. - Connection between video game mechanics and focused engagement for enjoyment. 21:13 *🎯 Achieving one-pointedness of the mind correlates with happiness* - Yogis discovered that one-pointedness of the mind leads to happiness - Flow state activities can bring pleasure due to one-pointed focus - Orgasm provides addictive joy through the one-pointedness of the mind 22:38 *🧠 Implementing key principles can lead to sustained happiness* - Avoid chasing dopamine and pleasure for lasting happiness - Work on disabling the ego for mental well-being - Focus on the present moment and maintain one-pointedness of the mind 23:34 *🌟 True happiness comes from within, not external circumstances* - Real happiness is not dependent on external factors - You can achieve permanent happiness by controlling your mindset - Activation and deactivation of specific brain areas determine happiness, not external achievements or circumstances 22:42***
@infinitenothingness5 ай бұрын
You are the happiness you seek. ⚪️ 🙏 Namaskar 🧘♂️
@thehardhustlers4 ай бұрын
I hope you understand how much videos like these help. Every time I get into some small rut I come immediately here and it's like I automatically get the answers for my current issue.
@Dolritto5 ай бұрын
5:29 Outer Wilds is in a heartbeat THE game I'd want to experience again for the first time, I'll recommend it for any gamer enjoying meaningfull for the playthrough logic puzzles and learning story through experiences - best played with minimal to no spoilers for planets included! Doc with another great video and as always whit topic that is relevant and interesting; shout to Dr K Team!
@kairilassard71513 ай бұрын
You can definitely experience pleasure from looking forward to the future, but if you look forward to worldly things it doesn't work. Look forward to concepts like perfection and ever growing bliss and you can and will feel pleasure about it.
@V1brationCanine5 ай бұрын
Thank you for covering this. I've reached moksha four times this year 'cause I've had so much trauma (didn't know what it was before it happened at first). My muscles revert back to their old, trauma-consumed selves. I'm still working on improving.
@DaveE995 ай бұрын
Four times, I got once and then realized how screwed up others and society were. How did you do it 4 times.
@V1brationCanine5 ай бұрын
@@DaveE99 Long story short, I've been through extreme suffering for the first two decades of my life and all I had was my own mind - nothing else. Thinking was my constant. It destroyed me as it would for any abused child, but I adopted a military mindset of discipline at a young age and was smart enough to learn the correct lessons. This along with infinite time to think for myself tore me apart multiple times, however getting out of the abuse and dealing with my mental injuries and continuing to think logically and understand others' perspectives, and the reality of mine, over the years was how. There's so much information and feeling to portray in this I hope that made some semblance of sense. I hope to publish some novels and release some music once my health permits me to work on them.
@itsneekeetah5 ай бұрын
Hey Doc, you should interview Jamie from Casually Explained. He experienced self-realization, so this KZbin crossover will be fire! He explains all the mechanics of "enlightenment" in a very logical, secular way.
@Bloodfencer19905 ай бұрын
It's funny. Playing a new game it used to be painfull for me to stop or stay away from it. Now I can set it aside and focus on things that need to get done or other personal needs like food. Thank you for your guide to mental health. It has helped me so much in a relatively short time. Much work is yet to be done for me, but I am looking forward to it even if it is a struggle.
@mumblaff5 ай бұрын
Does getting here early mean I’m on the right path or avoiding the path through jumping into KZbin for distraction?
@JakeIsTiredd5 ай бұрын
Depends. Did your journey here start with curiosity or avoidance?
@Createddead5 ай бұрын
Yes
@kalebvick5 ай бұрын
Seeing as I was 4 minutes ahead of you and my life has never been better, I'd say you're on the right track 👍
@mumblaff5 ай бұрын
@@JakeIsTiredd I’d say 60/40 but I wont say which way it’s split in case my subconscious is watching
@0Ciju05 ай бұрын
It means absolutely nothing lmao
@vegetibilis24225 ай бұрын
Automatic negative thoughts are on the default mode network so when we get a better physical state which produces our experiance so one improves the other , its all about doing the exertions thatbproduce detmerministically specific improved endstates within the experiance\physical state (dead-dying-sick-healthy -ascending -pristine\optimal)
@hoykoya33825 ай бұрын
It's not for me to claim that I reached enlightenment, but I think I did. But it costed me severe suffering before reaching that. Yes doc is right. Permanent happiness does not mean all the time. It's a sense of "contentment" or "fulfillment" without even achieving anything - without even doing anything.
@FreedomBreeze245 ай бұрын
it's not enlightenment if there's doubt. Check out the channel Simply Always Awake or Frank Yang
@rotisseriechickenlover-jb4cc5 ай бұрын
perfect timing as i began reading “awareness” by anthony de mello
@gd-qh9wj5 ай бұрын
8:03 i always love the cut from the put together smiling Dr K in the ad read then hairs a mess button down not happy Dr K
@jesseanonanimous87285 ай бұрын
Fine advice for those with anxiety - currently feeling pain from thinking about the future - but the idea we can't "live in the future" and experience pleasure now, is wrong. I've done it. I was tired of feeling pain about the future, so I managed to turn that specific paradigm around.
@sejalsocial5 ай бұрын
For those who want to get more information on "Enlightment", you must read Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. He has explained all his experiences and was in a state of perennial bliss (sustained joy).
@linaewert39855 ай бұрын
This is so incredibly valuable!! I’ve literally thought about studying neuroscience just so I could be able to translate all the great yogic teachings I have learned during deep immersion. You just did exactly that 🎉🙏🙏🙏
@sergoamv-73015 ай бұрын
Sometimes I do feel pleasure thinking about the future, like when I'm thinking about ending my studying and having some free time
@adam53625 ай бұрын
I think that has to do more so with anticipation, as Dr. K described
@teemue4 ай бұрын
Darn. Instant subscription. One of the beat videos out there. My hat off to you sir. Will keep listening more.
@Nikimoney865 ай бұрын
"You can not experience future happiness" he says, as he is basically ecstatic at the prospect of the viewer being helped that he's imagining as he's speaking of it.
@counterintuitivepanda45555 ай бұрын
That's not happiness. True happiness is only in the present, future based actions aren't. You mix up your words, descriptions and feelings and dont realise it.
@GhostZeroGZ5 ай бұрын
Anyone that claims we can't experience happiness from thinking about future scenarios has never once thought about fapping after work Or in a more wholesome light, thought about the prospect of seeing their crush later
@kezzyhko5 ай бұрын
@@GhostZeroGZ Or thinking about a meal when you're hungry. But at the same time, thinking about minor annoyance brings more discomfort, than thinking about something good brings pleasure.
@pookz30675 ай бұрын
He’s not talking about excitement about future happiness or anxiety about future failure. He’s not saying prospects in the future can’t affect your happiness today. He’s saying that thinking about future happiness has huge neurological differences from actually experiencing it in the present, especially when compared to future thinking about unhappiness. When you think about unhappy scenario is playing out, your brain works more similarly to the event actually occurring to you now. This is not true for thinking about present happiness, is is just an undeniable physiological fact. He does not confuse his excitement for helping people as simulating the happiness he will feel when he actually helps them.
@GhostZeroGZ5 ай бұрын
@@pookz3067 You're telling us it's not about anxiety, then proceed to describe what is essentially anxiety. And we're saying you can be happy now by thinking about potential happy futures, just as you can be upset now by thinking about potential future failures. I don't know what mystery you think you're solving for us, but this ain't it chief. I deny your "undeniable physiological fact"
@reeferseasaltАй бұрын
Another banger. You make so much sense out of complex ideas. Thank you so much.
@camronchlarson37675 ай бұрын
I needed this reminder. Going back to review your analysis paralysis video 👍
@Peter-rn5bu5 ай бұрын
I'm glad that we can all think together and share ❤
@Samuel-q1s2x5 ай бұрын
Staying happy always is from the Self because we are that happiness and we just forgot that we are eternally at peace because we are eternal life itself
@9_______9_______9-i9m5 ай бұрын
I would say I have achieved enlightenment, I learned to meditate in such a way that I can bliss out anytime I want, full body chills and a rush-like feeling you'd get from taking ecstasy or something. The thing is though, it's not effortless, it takes a fair bit of effort to remain in that state at all times, to hold that state of mind from the moment you wake until you go to sleep, I'm sure it's possible, but it takes a lot of effort, at least I imagine at first it does. I would like to get to the point where it becomes easy and just naturally how I am. And I think it's also important to consider the fact that there will always be ups and downs that life throws at you, that may sort of knock you out of enlightenment, a death in the family or something upsetting, it's normal to experience the whole range of emotions, but not normal to be happy all the time.
@MusiicRoolz5 ай бұрын
I don't think that's enlightenment? enlightenment is like oneness with the self and the world that exists regardless of what's going on externally. it's more than just a feeling, idk. to me it's detachment from everything - happiness, sadness and suffering
@Elfyja5 ай бұрын
@@MusiicRoolz I think both can be correct. The realization, and the feeling of bliss.
@xanderheiple79595 ай бұрын
lol
@9_______9_______9-i9m5 ай бұрын
the reason I am able to bliss out like I described in my original comment IS that oneness that I have achieved 🤷♂️. That should have been self-explanatory but I guess not for you - once you experience enlightenment you know what it is and how it feels and you have no doubts about it. You literally feel "lightened" like you weigh less and are in a state of flow. I don't think you've got there kid, long ways to go for you it seems 😉 carry on
@9_______9_______9-i9m5 ай бұрын
The two are inseparable, idk what this dufus is going on about. The oneness part should be self-explanatory, that is the source of being able to bliss out as I described. Some people, like this NPC, are just stuck in a box
@kylespevak67815 ай бұрын
To me it seems very obvious to fix your outlook to make yourself happier, but to most people I try and share this with when they are unhappy, they refused it and tell me that they are so sure they know what's best while not really getting any positive results.
@shawntco5 ай бұрын
22:05 - You don't gotta call me out like that
@NeonSloaney5 ай бұрын
I had a serious manic episode recently and I like confronted who I am as a person (there's a cavernous emptiness in me) and decided I liked the scaffolding I put up that is around that, and I also listened to a King Crimson album called in the court of the crimson king and decided to walk up the blue mountains in Sydney from emu plains station to blaxland while meditating on indigenous concepts like belonging to the land and welcome to country. I've since learned that it's not enough to live your life you have to find lessons, learn them internalise them. One I really took to heart is the indigenous idea that you always have what you need. I think the biggest difference between us and societies pre agriculture is that they really focus on internalising lessons, all school teaches you is to wrote learn and get a surface level of understanding.
@rajdeepchakraborty95335 ай бұрын
"before enlightenment: chop wood and carry water after enlightenment: chop wood and carry water"
@dmtdreamz77065 ай бұрын
What art tries to do is it tries to slap you awake by putting the beauty of infinite creation a little piece of it up on display for you on a pedestal so you can look at it and say oh yeah. Of course. Look there it is. It's so beautiful. It's so amazing and then that opens your eyes a little bit and you can say oh yeah look that thing's beautiful too and that's beautiful and that's beautiful and that person's beautiful and I'm beautiful. Oh my god it's all so beautiful and then that takes you to a whole new level as a human being and then you can delight in reality and you can enjoy everything as one giant work of art. Cosmic work of art.
@taymustard6205 ай бұрын
Last time I got enlightened I ate 10 mcdoubles fell asleep and got kicked outt of mcdonalds
@sunshoe-l5r5 ай бұрын
Sounds like a good time actually
@Devon-hw6ih5 ай бұрын
After ten mcdoubles you're definitely the opposite of enLIGHTENED. 😂
@paulwenzel89145 ай бұрын
My friend you got mclightened.
@diecar1285 ай бұрын
Sounds like a regular Tuesday
@taymustard6205 ай бұрын
@@diecar128 ohhhhhhhh
@phpwutz5 ай бұрын
Explaining dopamine in terms of buffs, stacks and minmaxing is truely a gamer move. well played, sir
@apexofhumanity5 ай бұрын
Through some miracle, I achieved enlightenment for about a week. Long story, but it was the most amazing experience of my life and completely turned things around for me.
@FreedomBreeze245 ай бұрын
it's not enlightenment if it was just one week. Check out the channel Simply Always Awake or Frank Yang
@MicrogramHeathen5 ай бұрын
Lol it’s not something you can switch on and off.. so question if it was even on to begin with..
@apexofhumanity5 ай бұрын
@@MicrogramHeathen given your name I'm going to assume your familiar with how I got it to turn on. I've got 20 years of experience with these things, but nothing like that had ever happened to me. I can assure it was real. Changed my entire life's trajectory. I'll probably never achieve that state again but I feel very fortunate to have experienced it.
@aindividual92345 ай бұрын
There is a good quote I love from Jim kwik. There is no good or bad memory, only an untrained mind
@_Adie5 ай бұрын
This two-track mind shit is the realest thing I've heard in a long time. Like, you wanna tell me that people DON'T constantly analyze every detail of every moment while talking to others? Sometimes it happens, sure, but it might as well never. You know how Telltale games have those dialogues you have to pick? That's how I often feel when talking to someone. Like, I can imagine those dialogue options, pretty much. And then I take a note of a person's reaction. Not subconsciously, it's quite literally like a narrator in my head. And then, obviously, I have to think about that conversation for the next hour. And that anxiety part, ooh baby. Yeah man, I can create infinite universes, and seemingly none of them have a positive outcome. "If I can't pass this test, I'll have to retake, it'll make me feel like an idiot, everybody will know, I won't then get a chance to apply to this other thing on time so I'll have to do something else, but I don't know what and even if I find something, how will I know it won't suck" and so on and so forth. Also, the "be in the present because you can't afford to think about the future" bit got me. I play fighting games a lot and oftentimes the reason I give is literally "because there's no time for me to think." Things are happening lightning fast, this ain't no chess. Like yeah, I react and have a gameplan, but my great strategy doesn't go further than like, three seconds. And while it doesn't necessarily make me happy per se all the time (like, it's hard to feel happy when I got my ass kicked 7th set in a row, but that's a different issue), I am definitely in the moment. And while I might be sad because I suck at the game, I'm not sad because of everything else. And that's a net positive, for sure. ...until that spills over and my mind goes "well if i can't even win at a video game, what the fuck can i do bro, what's the point" so i just have to quit before that happens and we good
@MicrogramHeathen5 ай бұрын
I’m like that 24/7
@EyeOfTheTiger7775 ай бұрын
If you're thinking like that about your next response to someone you're talking to, and taking notes of how they are reacting every time, isn't your conversation happening noticeably slow?
@_Adie5 ай бұрын
@@EyeOfTheTiger777 That's not really how that works. Not in a literal sense. Granted, I also didn't describe it the best. It's hard to explain, it's more like "if you know you know" type thing.
@absolvt_4 ай бұрын
Really appreciate your efforts to bring back wellness to online hooks, in such sea of noise, your clarity is inspiring & helpful
@lonemichi52895 ай бұрын
So no levitating? D:
@AlbertWolfe-p9v5 ай бұрын
Haha nice
@complexi_Lexi5 ай бұрын
😂
@LuisSierra425 ай бұрын
I am levitating right now
@thespiritschild5 ай бұрын
I mean, why not? Try and find out :D
@cheoomes44345 ай бұрын
If anyone does know how, please let me know.
@jahoffm15 ай бұрын
Very very good video. Talking about the present and our 'scuffed brains' made great sense. The first arrow always hits, don't let the second!
@spacemonke29375 ай бұрын
Yeeeee this is the kind of video I was waiting for
@noctislucis99392 ай бұрын
I do agree that, getting detached from 99% of the things in the world, is the key for happiness. Attachment brings happiness in short term and unhappiness in the long term. And the opposite to the detachment
@Erikkurilla015 ай бұрын
The BIGGEST LIE You've Been Told About Money is that it doesn't grow on TREES!! 😆
@Lemariecooper5 ай бұрын
I agree with you!! Money actually grow on trees but only on trees that was planted by you!! These tress are referred to as investments. How you diversify your investment portfolio matters
@jessicasquire5 ай бұрын
Diversification is the key. My portfolio is well diversified with the help of a financial adviser. This helps me make more than +400% monthly on my investments.
@tahirisaid26935 ай бұрын
I'm intrigued by this. I've searched for financial advisers online but it's kind of hard to get in touch with one. Okay if I ask you for a recommendation?
@jessicasquire5 ай бұрын
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Angela Lynn Schilling” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
@tahirisaid26935 ай бұрын
Wow, her track record looks really good from what I found online. I'll take a chance and see how it goes. Thanks for the info
@ICantBelieveAdiWasTaken5 ай бұрын
"Why buddhism is true" by Robert Wright as well as "The molecule of more" by Daniel Lieberman and Michael Long are two absoluetly fantastic books on these topics. Wright looks at the connection of Buddhism and neuroscience, as well as recounting his own experience with meditation as well as tips for beginners. "The molecule of more" is more focused on the dopamine system, how it works as well as how it can be abused like in videogames, advertising etc. TLDR; Those books good. Please read.
@grindhardbusiness5 ай бұрын
I used to be enlightened but I lost it... It's so easy to lose but so difficult to aquire. I should have appreciated it more. Now trying to get it back
@delphinebez30455 ай бұрын
Watch Matt Kahn...
@FurlessApe225 ай бұрын
As the buddha said, all fabrications fail and fade so practice diligently to achieve enlightenment. If you truly achieved it, you are on the path of awakening within 7 lifetimes, guaranteed. If you've actually achieved stream entry and thrown off the first 3 fetters, you can get it back. If you haven't, well, you should still endeavor to do so.
@GlowBowlPhilosophy5 ай бұрын
I'm on a similar path right now. I wish you all the luck there is in your journey bro. Don't forget a saying by many enlightened people of the past: The harder you try, the harder to attain. And the less you try, the less you attain. ❤
@themudpit6215 ай бұрын
why don't you just enjoy life as it is and stop wasting time messing with yourself and inducing psychosis?
@pointlessmike5 ай бұрын
All these "wise" people trying to sell us permanent happiness think we're morons. Ain't nothing permanent.
@rikablauberg75485 ай бұрын
This explains why doing crafts or arts is making people happy. It it someting you do over an dover agian, so it is not really a hight dopanim thing, you dont think about your ego since you need to be in the present and immerse in your project. It always facinates me how ancient teachings figured something out which we can now study and proove
@pisky50675 ай бұрын
I still don't understand why so little people practice meditation. The world is so chaotic, yet the solution is so simple. I mean sure, without desire there would be no progress, no inventions, no development. Progress happens because humans aren't satisfied with what they have right now and want more. So I don't think that leaving your family, becoming enlightened and just simply enjoying the blissful experience is the most optimal solution for every human out there, but I think that every human would be a lot happier if he wasn't dependent on external events, and even if things didn't go according to plan, he would accept it, because there was no other way, that's what happened and that is *the way*. No ruminating over what could be, or what can be, but simply appreciating what *is*. That doesn't mean everyone should just drop everything and be happy doing nothing, but do the work, and not get lost in one's mind entering the cycle of suffering.
@tiger-bee5 ай бұрын
I'm convinced dr K is enlightened and know when to release these videos to effect most people.
@dankyoutubes11205 ай бұрын
I never thought enlightenment was permanent, it seems to be something you can get to once in a while
@Entwicklungshustle5 ай бұрын
I, as someone who is the personification of a random ass dude in the internet, can say, enlightenment is permanent because it is not an emotion. It is rather the absence of the weird ass bad shit your brain does 😂 also I think the description of "permanent happiness" is kinda misleading, because, as I said, it is NOT an emotion. It is more like enjoying existing or something, it's kinda weird to explain 😂
@dankyoutubes11205 ай бұрын
ok
@ianoliveira69035 ай бұрын
If I remember well, an explanation that I liked about the permanence of enlightment is that it is a way of seeing the world and yourself, that once you can see it you can't unsee afterwards. Another analogy is that losing enlightment would be like forgetting how to walk or how to speak your native language. The enlightment would not be a state of mind in this sense, but how you will relate with the states of mind you will have afterwards.
@jillianminton85065 ай бұрын
It’s growing and always evolving
@counterintuitivepanda45555 ай бұрын
Nah... that would defeat the purpose. The rock inside which no external wind or waves can stir... that's enlightenment. If it can be stirred and we can go back into our petty and shitty lives, then it is meaningless. It's as meaningful as playing League of Legends
@saraswati13865 ай бұрын
That's why i love the symbolism of the Nandi; one pointed focus. ✨️🕉✨️
@halqthedarktemplar5 ай бұрын
Enlightenment makes a sagittal section of your brain and turns it yellow
@themudpit6215 ай бұрын
Yeah, I noticed that too. Not sure I want yellow brainitis.
@dmytoe56795 ай бұрын
Whaat?
@watchvideo72255 ай бұрын
Rupert Spira has the most sophisticated understanding of enlightenment, god, happiness and life in general that i have ever witnessed. For anyone who really wants to know more about these matters, i can only recommend to watch an introductory video on his channel or website. Spoiler: All the things listed above are actually one and the same.....
@julesvandijck50225 ай бұрын
Im going on a meditation retreat in Nepal for 2 months. Do you have any tips for me?
@Wise_Mindful_Powerful2 ай бұрын
This is the most concise and accurate video I've seen on the topic ao far. Thank you!!