Heartbreak Hotel: "Esmy" Valdez v Jordan Sherman

[@NaomyP]

Trauma bonding at its finest, they don't need to be together and why on hell do they want to bring a child in this toxicity? gaslighting at its finest

[@helgapataki4156]

He's a joke, he's trying his best to break your spirit so you'll only look to him for validation. Girl MOVE TF ON!

[@t.c.5456]

Yesss

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@helgapataki4156]

@@t.c.5456 ❤️

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

Her: I know for a fact he’s cheating, and he called me a slut. Also her: I love him and I want to marry him! WHAT?!? 🤨😂

[@melissabrown-rose9183]

She needs therapy

[@emilyfeagin2673]

@melissabrown-rose9183 So does he

[@jessicanelson6160]

I would definitely left him.

[@Jedi_Jonson]

😂😂😂😂😂 fucking wild

[@Afrolatinalexi]

AMEN...talk about it!!!💯 Has zero respect for her!

[@jasmineelise424]

she’s setting such a poor example for her daughter😢.

[@MH_Prof]

That “tough love” statement…I dated a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and he lived and died by that statement. He felt God put him on earth to show others tough love. I used to ask him who was in place to give tough love to him, because he was not perfect. He would just give me a blank stare. Beware of people who feel like they do no wrong and have the need to keep everyone else in line.

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@MH_Prof]

@@grassh0pper Didn’t realize I was required to comment on both of them. I commented on him because of the comparison I wanted to make to a man I dated. Just because I didn’t speak on her doesn’t mean I didn’t see faults with her as well.

[@kerry-annwilliams2915]

I ohh so want to tag him with this 😢😢 i felt n live EVERYTHING YOU WROTE

[@SheniceSays214]

Nothing irks me more than a man who is proud to do fatherhood, but not marriage. Not understanding that a marriage you can get out of, but fatherhood is for life and permanent. Fatherhood to him is about tying her down and trapping her.

[@NephelyDeBussy]

Her daughter is star-struck and secretely in love with her stepfather. Well, she can have him! Ms Valdez's low self-esteem and desire to be with a trendy white man at all cost, is the reason she's unable to decide what's right for her : DUMP THE SMUG SMILING CHEATER!!!

[@SheniceSays214]

This is what happens when a dude knows that she loves him more than she loves herself. Trust me, he will use it against you.

[@tareva_]

“He’s a nightmare” but outta the same mouth “I want to have his babies”… make it make sense. Why bring an innocent child into a nightmare??

[@farhiahaji7946]

This woman is desperate for him and he knows I feel sorry for her 😢

[@jessicasmith6470]

I do agree. She is very desperate with low self esteem.

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@grassh0pper]

​@@jessicasmith6470What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@beb5407]

​@@grassh0pperwe saw your first comment 😂😂😂😂

[@marcusmelancon3426]

I think it’s trauma bonding like she said in the beginning their trauma is what connected them so she doesn’t want to let him go because he’s the one person who understands her but he’s causing her more trauma and I think he’s breaking her down so she depends on him for love and affection

[@Lee345Je]

Have 0 children with this man and WAIT until a good, kind, caring, MATURE, loyal one comes along. ❤

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@Lee345Je]

@@grassh0pper Oooo ok. Pray for her then.

[@kattiethomas4687]

Amen

[@kimh7978]

Why is this woman wasting the court's time? Regardless of what she says, she's not going to leave him.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

“Do you see who’s name is back there???” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Judge Star

[@TheeMichellesMind]

Periodttttt!!! 💯😆

[@LoveAngel333]

"I wouldn't usually date women like you" Me: Well you let me help you not date one like me now GOODBYE and GOOD NIGHT He would be dumped

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@jmars8828]

Low self esteem

[@LoveAngel333]

@@grassh0pper are you okay? You may need to get some therapy.

[@dshannasanders964]

Yeah it may have hurt but I would have bounced.

[@samiazidane5041]

100%

[@erinjohnson4273]

They don't need to be together. She was wrong for slashing his painting, and he doesn't trust her

[@shemeka340]

Her: “what does girls bending over have to do with him selling his art?” Him:” they might be buying a painting 🖼️” Judge Star: “Well you’re not talking to people’s behinds are you??” Me: LOLOL 😂

[@jackieo8672]

She doesn’t deserve to Mentor Women!!! Allowing him to treat her like this. What nontoxic behavior will she teach others.

[@ybshadyii4375]

THESE TWO ARE VERY TOXIC AND PROBLEMATIC.

[@amayagriffin1531]

F trust they don’t even respect each other you can see it in both of their actions

[@34Nails]

He’s accusing her of doing what he’s doing💯

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@rennaeh6682]

@@grassh0pperwhy are you repeating the same sentence on every comment? Dude, let things go! You can’t force others to understand your pov.

[@keyiarich3900]

Exactly, that's exactly why he didn't want to see her phone.

[@arayaklove]

Now she got her daughter thinking a dusty is a good man. Terrible.

[@reddqueen9722]

exactly i was thinking the same thing

[@josannefrank]

Well said😂

[@cadillacdeville5828]

He was insensitive,crass, projecting, rude and gaslit her .. CONSTANTLY.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Unfortunately, that’s the kind of man she attracts.

[@TB-fk4qm]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@ebbyf294]

Facts. He's an insecure man and knows she's out of his league, so he's trying to make her feel less than what she's worth so she won't leave him

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@grassh0pper]

​@@TB-fk4qmWhat about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@angielyons980]

Please so not being an innocent child into this toxic relationship. She needs therapy and he needs to grow up. I hope her daughter does not continue to believe this is healthy.

[@elledesignsart]

I understand that he's lacking but why gloss over the fact that she assaulted him and vandalized his property in public. Let's address that bullshit. She seems to be receiving all the grace but where's HER accountability.

[@ambersandifer7401]

Exactly!! That wasn't okay at all!

[@bryanbeeman5256]

She grew up in foster care. That excuses all behaviors past and present. Haven’t you been keeping up?

[@zulu3274]

😊 just the usual bias during most of the cases nothing new to see here...

[@josweetlove1537]

Judge Star always advocates for the women encouraging their bad behavior and spoilt/childish antics.

[@confusions2534]

@@bryanbeeman5256really so just bcos you grew up in a foster home you have no accountability?

[@Kendallslovejoy]

They both toxic.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Yep

[@LIVEINPEACE2023]

EXACTLY!!!

[@Trishdagr81]

Trauma Bonds are dangerous! That’s all this is!

[@DJ-vj4vi]

Lets be honest she is just as crazy as he is because she assaulted a grown man that could have physically taken her out.

[@robbbietheim2096]

Knew Judge Star was not gone let him off the hook on that weight loss issue after what she went through in her own battle congrats to both of you lovely ladies ❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@robbbietheim2096]

Is that the normal though, or was it a one time thing, he more was responsible for creating, we were not there, but I assure you if it was as bad as you think it was, then why is he still there

[@emilyfeagin2673]

If someone would grab any part of my anatomy and say “ I usually don’t date women like you”. I would have been gone. Dont insinuate I’m not up to your standards and tell me you “ liove me” later. That’s not love

[@grassh0pper]

@@emilyfeagin2673 fu*k your feelings And this is what I mean. Women just don't see other women doing wrong things ever. You cannot see a whole each other accountable. You're forgetting that she is toxic. She assaulted him and sabotage a business transaction. That's grounds to kick her to the curb. She's toxic and she's going to end up with more toxic men because she deserves to be with one unless she gets help

[@grassh0pper]

@@robbbietheim2096 One time too many, you wouldn't say that if the man had slapped the woman

[@jo-annbastings]

DOUBLE STANDARDS! CLEARLY DOUBLE STANDARDS!! He probably embarrassed her in front of her friends but she attacked him in front of potential clients ready to pay bid bucks for his arts. Her despicable behavior is disgusting. Judge star asked the right question…why are they together?!?

[@sybilwhite1259]

They need to diffinetly leave each other alone!!!

[@ANGELAKCLAY]

RUN! ❤🙏🏼☝🏿🙌🏻

[@sharondriastradford2907]

Run! To the nearest exit!!! She needs to leave him ALONE!!!

[@ANGELAKCLAY]

@@sharondriastradford2907 I know Right! ❤🙏🏼☝🏿🙌🏻

[@StephSteph5]

We need to hear both sides of the explanations without them being interrupted

[@anonymousreview1049]

These are two wounded souls.They both need healing. Hurt people hurt people. Counseling, therapy something!

[@keyeviondavis9647]

Eminem should have stayed in his lane, he doesn't deserve her, there is nothing attractive about being insecure 😮😮

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@paralegalkc]

It hurt to hear how his jokes hurt her feelings and how he still thought it was funny. My ex would do that. I was the joke of many jokes now he’s begging to come back no thanks

[@wordplay6665]

He’s insecure because he knows she looks good and will get attention. Her low self esteem is keeping her there. My boyfriend wasn’t happy about my girls trip to Mexico either 🤷🏽‍♀️ had a ball😂

[@qmartina81]

And the fact that she said he doesnt want to go with her speaks volume. If you wont do it, dont get jealous if she is having fun with other people.

[@anonymousreview1049]

They are far from the peaceful shores of a mature relationship. They both need to get individual help for themselves. Let it go for now.

[@Spexsavvy]

As a former foster child myself we often get into relationships that reenact the same roles we had in our abusive childhoods in an attempt to subconsciously right what went wrong. She needs intense therapy to continue her healing.

[@thesweetlifeofgbaee]

pulled her body in front of people in public. weirdo. He knows he has to keep belittling her to keep her

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@emilyfeagin2673]

I would have dumped him on the spot. Talk about rude. Then in private , he talks about having children? Oh heck no

[@maryharrison3291]

She can do so much better than him.

[@WilliamDavis-j5m]

no she can't. that's why she wants to have babies with him despite all that

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@julianiwhite]

Going solely on appearance she looks out of his league so him trying to breakdown her confidence is typical smh

[@radfayknelanger7349]

I don’t think she’s all innocent either. They both need to grow up and I think they need to move on. It’s too much damage there.

[@pdonwarrior453]

Both individuals have been through trauma and are adding to each others pain. I would advise them to end the engagement and become friends or at least get individual counselling

[@ShanetteLewis]

how in the world does monkey ears have the audacity to say something like that! she’s gorgeous and he’s not attractive at all… he’s trying to make her insecure to keep her! disgusting to say “put a baby in her”🤮

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@Remember_Eden]

You sound like a bully.

[@michaeldavidbattle]

He's not attractive

[@VictoriaBelton]

He is a mess. Girl leave him.

[@silvainatkins5550]

Trauma bonded relationship. She definitely needs therapy and work on herself.

[@emilyfeagin2673]

And so does he!

[@Killercakes24]

Damn i usually don't defend women who hit someone..but .c'mon she saw her mother being killed.. she is so broken ..she needs serious therapy!!!!!!!

[@bryanbeeman5256]

She said if she’s crazy, he made her that way/.. nah, she was crazy way before that.

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@Muffinsz]

It’s still no excuse to put your hands on someone

[@omgmazin]

She has past traumatic experiences that may never be resolved, you have to be careful because a person's past reveal themselves, sometimes with catastrophic results, the first 5 minutes was really about her past experiences, 🤔

[@grassh0pper]

Exactly 💯

[@grassh0pper]

She is toxic

[@tearapowell3780]

Trauma bond We hope that ppl who relate will know and not do us the same but reality is they broken and broken ppl break. Once you heal go get somebody healed! Thank you for this reminder for myself! Thank you for sharing

[@ANGELAKCLAY]

Miss' Tell that Little Boy Bye! ❤🙏🏼☝🏿🙌🏻

[@desmondlester1790]

These are the guys they stay with and never leave.

[@34Nails]

He only needs another phone so he could cheat without getting caught and he didn’t think that she would find out or see the other phone. That was the purpose of it. He wants to be a dog💯

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@emilyfeagin2673]

Exactly. You don’t need a seperate phone for a business in most cases

[@bryanbeeman5256]

After a tough upbringing and a SERIES of TRAUMATIC RELATIONSHIPS…. What does that mean?!!?

[@emilyfeagin2673]

She’s been abused since her arrival on the planet. Her step father murdered her mother and killed himself. In front of her Can you imagine carrying that burden your whole life? How could you heal

[@elledesignsart]

Judge Star....looking fantastic is that fushia. 😊

[@34Nails]

My boyfriend can look at my phone anytime he want to because I have nothing to hide and I damn sure don’t have any fear of him finding out that I’m cheating💯

[@agadonk]

But he don't need to be checking it like your dad.

[@grassh0pper]

​@@agadonkWhat about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@agadonk]

@grassh0pper lol you know I was talking about the commentor, not the video. You tried dear. Take a nap.

[@beb5407]

​@@grassh0ppercan he please hush 🤫🤭🤐😶🤥

[@34Nails]

@@agadonk in reality he don’t check my phone but he can anytime he wants to💯

[@JaySunshine-gq9jh]

He has a lot more growing up to do. To mature into a man, he is too immature, she needs a man not a boy who doesn't respect her and takes her as a joke and embarrass her in public

[@bryanbeeman5256]

No… she needs therapy… and more therapy…

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@grassh0pper]

This is what we mean, when we say women don't see men in pain

[@emilyfeagin2673]

grassh0pper There is a story by melody Beatty in a book called “ co department no more” A woman goes to a mountain top to learn everything she can. But every day someone comes and hits her with a stick. Finally one day she put her hand up to stop the blows Then the wise soul tells her “ you have learned the lesson. You will never know everything there is to know. And only you can stop the pain I can see you are in pain. And it breaks my heart because I think you are young as well But only you can address the issues that are causing you pain. If you are suffering get the help you need. It’s out there. You have the internet at your disposal search for help. Then reach out It’s difficult and it’s scary. But you owe it to yourself I wish you well

[@zoespeaks7404]

How do we brush over the fact that she assaulted him? If it were the other way around ..

[@grassh0pper]

Exactly 💯

[@emilyfeagin2673]

He assaults her with his words and actions. Constantly What she did wasn’t right. But do I understand why she did it? Oh yeah

[@zoespeaks7404]

@@emilyfeagin2673 So you understand why she physically assaulted him? Is there every grounds for assault? Is there ever a reason to understand it? She should LEAVE if he assaults with his words, not HIT the man and then destroy is painting. Accountability is a real thing, no one’s tying her to his leg.

[@carolynthompson1895]

Toxic on so many levels. They are not good for each other.

[@dukeyoungsworkout513]

Dam the judge not giving him a chance from jump. She started off playing the victim and using her past trauma for a reason to why her relationship isn't going right. That's low.

[@grassh0pper]

Read the comments, apparently every single woman fell for that. This is what we mean when we say women don't see men suffering.

[@emilyfeagin2673]

grassh0pper Women do see men suffering. But sometimes it’s something only you can fix Men have to take responsibility for their physical and mental health as well as their behavior

[@dukeyoungsworkout513]

@emilyfeagin2673 come on now? This case was clearly one-sided from the beginning. She was the one who physically assaulted him, and she didn't bother to go in on her for her behavior. It was completely dismissed. She played victim the whole show. Being the mediator you have to get on both. If not, one will feel more important than the other as if they do no wrong. And that's just what happened in this case.

[@grassh0pper]

@@emilyfeagin2673 You have to be a fool, I guess you don't live in reality do you? Men deal with this on their own. It is women who for some weird reason cannot hold themselves accountable. She literally started the video by saying "he made me crazy." That's how most women think and feel. they never hold themselves accountable it's always somebody else who makes them crazy. You are saying men should take responsibility but yet you never said that she needs to take responsibility, she is damaged and yet you never mentioned it, why? This video clearly shows it. why aren't you holding that woman to the same standards

[@vickypogue1167]

There Daughter iS Smarter than They iS!! She Can Teach Them!! If they only Listen!!

[@Can-1981]

I don't like how the judge downplayed his art value & didn't address her assault & vandalism. Where's Judge Toler😤

[@evonjohnson4078]

Is that a red dress she is wearing? The flags are red but she can not see it. How could want to have his children after a behavior like that? Really insensitive for a man in love to his girl.

[@michaeldavidbattle]

She's gorgeous

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other accountable? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@thePhoenixQueen]

I'm so glad she took those earrings off. They were a bit much.

[@VictoriaBelton]

Run girl run

[@dre23404]

Damn did Star just skip over the abuse she did to him

[@lynettewashington6443]

The judge didn’t gloss over what she did.

[@SweetestNya]

Whew judge got them Tina legs! 😂❤❤❤ Go girl!!

[@jmars8828]

Unnatural 😊

[@marieperez3796]

Absolutely that’s what trust mean , so important in a relationship. No privacy.

[@mayasilliman1465]

Walk away lady or be a doormat!.

[@henryashmeal8724]

I believe that this court should also give them the lie detector test, because counselling alone is not enough they need to have an avenue where someone can say enough is enough and have the evidence to show

[@josweetlove1537]

I cannot watch these shows for very long. The clear bias of Judge Star is disgusting. The men are always at fault like if the women are always perfect angels. The husband must cater to the woman's every whim or else Star beats them into submission. I am no advocate for men at all times but you must be fair and listen to both sides before you comment Star.

[@KWin-ik5cl]

If you feel this way, how come you don’t leave. What else does he have to do for you to realize he ain’t it?

[@ashasundas1406]

They need to go separate ways period 💯

[@bryanbeeman5256]

No family structure, grew up in foster care, a lot of violence in her life… and I’m sure she went through that phase that women keep talking about when they’re younger and want to be out in the streets. She needs to find someone that’s been through similar situations as she.

[@grassh0pper]

No she doesn't that's how toxic relationships are made. What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put his hands on him

[@barbiebarbie8849]

she got surgery talk bout she work hard … yes after the surgery 🚩⚠️☠️ they dnt need kidsss

[@keshiaPckns]

She should RUN! He is a dog whisperer, gaslighter, narcissist!!! He is using all her trauma against her! 😢😢

[@LadyBug-sd9sk]

She looks great!!!

[@Sarahlee358]

My question is.. if you come hollering how awful he is on divorce court, why are you with him?!

[@nightrain55]

Did the judge gloss over her out control actions at the art show

[@tenaloving5155]

Why is she trying to have a child with this man

[@ninadavis5517]

I'm trying to figure out WHY she is there? He's disrespectful, belittling and rude. There is nothing to redeem. You can feel love for someone but respect and love yourself MORE...WHY in heck do people want to make babies with people they won't marry you???

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other accountable? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@TooReal_]

Her voice is ANNOYING

[@WilliamDavis-j5m]

He's insecure and so is she. He has issues and to be fair there's no way that a man should be with a woman who's willing to sabotage his work. He needs to leave her alone and be alone. They both need to work on themselves. He has a lot more growing to do and she's too fixed on being locked down by someone who shouldn't be right now

[@grassh0pper]

Exactly

[@amenahking7863]

So we just gone skate past the condoms in the car like that didn't happen??

[@grassh0pper]

What about her? Do you see how you women can't hold each other accountable? She's toxic. She takes no accountability she's violent she put her hands on him

[@AubraHenderson]

HÉ IS CHEATING HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE

[@rodcliffneal1849]

She is as guilty as he is, judge was very one sided on this episode, she need to do better and not side with the woman automatically

[@LIVEINPEACE2023]

The witness was a waste of time.😮

[@DominiqueCecil]

Yeah neither of them are innocent

[@dennwilliams3342]

She’s instafamous , is this for clout???

[@asiablue8996]

This big 👂 insecure joke

[@lillianwilliams5510]

Why do women stay with men who controll them. If they marry them within 2 months they know if they made a mistake. Don't they get to know the person b4 they get marry. If they aren't married don't marry too soon. Trauma is nothing to be taken lightly

[@HighDesign31]

She is Stunning...he is Not!

[@AlenaReed-by5sd]

Actually he is Handsome.

[@Purplegirl-pi1jo]

Why in the world are they trying to bring a innocent child in this toxic relationship! And her daughter thinks this messy relationship is good shows that she does not have a good role model, And would except this type of behavior from a man!!!

[@All_Things_Shay]

Why do toxic couples always want a damn baby. This makes me so mad, why are yall trying to have a child just to traumatize them. Lawwwwd🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@lauriewelker4466]

Look, I get she has valid complaints, but seriously?!? Nothing about her actions at his art show? That was inexcusable!!!

[@AwesomeKpopFan]

i was laughed too hard when i heard Robert laugh 5:49

[@bigdaddyromeo9631]

She's in love with a jerk they got her acting ratchet over females because she know he's cheating on her

[@t.b.blazenb.p.-wb6hc]

Yes, teach them Judge Starr Jones fore they do not have an understanding of how to treat one another as well as boundaries w/others. PeacePeace✨

[@lillianwilliams5510]

Judge is recently angry all the time. She rarely advises the couple to get counseling.

[@charlenetolar9470]

A child shall stay in her place young lady. In he is a abuse man who call a woman out her name like that NOT a man.