Tips on How to Fit In With Locals in Hawaii

[@lordkent8143]

As a local I never thought how hard it was for some mainlanders to make friends here until I met a California native studying here and told me how local people here are harder to approach and hangout with. I was baffled because this girl looked local and was nice. But it turns out she told me the social dynamic is different vs California. In California according to her, young people were always down to make fast connections and invite people to stuff in college. But here in Hawaii, she noticed how strong groups are and helps when you already know a so and so/ mutual relation in a group. I get it now, Locals are normally friendly in the outside to strangers but keep distances for friendships. Having a mutual friend or someone they might know definitely help break the ice and gain their trust.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing. Definitely tougher to break in, but once you're in, you're in.

[@tracyalan7201]

Understandable. It depends on how people connect and amount of time spent together. People have different values at different points of their lives. As students in college, you have class and boom, you're out and headed to the next. If you work together or room together, its more time but if never bond over anything and no effort to spend time talking one on one, never going to bond. Attended college as a local, but most of my friends were people I knew from high school, the few that I made good friends with were the ones that I actually worked/studied/chatted with. I worked part time and had to commute back to my work place after school, with no time to chat. In days earlier, trying to make small conversation with a stranger is tough, now, its practically impossible with corvid, robbery or assault, so can you blame them.

[@SassyPantsDiary]

I moved from Maui to Cali and immediately was treated so warmly, not with racism I felt in Hawaii. I love California!

[@jnak974]

Moved from Hawaii to Cali and experienced racism by someone mocking my accent. The difference is that I was ready for it because I’ve lived everywhere.

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

@@jnak974 Most people in Cal either don't speak English, or if they do, it's "Yo bro, Yo cuz, Ay foo!" English.

[@peneljsmith]

I'm Canadian. One day, my sister was wondering how anyone could want to move to the States. I said that I once thought of moving to Hawaii, and she said, "Oh, that's not the same. Hawaii is like a different country".

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Well, Hawaii is like a different country, culturally.

[@Bmadsi1950]

Hawaiʻi IS a different country. It was a kingdom before American business interests overthrew the rightful monarch, Queen Liliʻuokalani, and the US illegally annexed it. It’s still a sovereign kingdom in the eyes of many, including myself, My mom was born on Maui not long after the annexation - she’s long gone but, if she were alive today, she would be appalled by what her home has become - a rich, entitled people’s amusement park. Sad…

[@SabrinaBella36]

I’m Canadian and would move to Hawaii in a heartbeat. I love the culture and people, have a friend there, and of course the islands are just stunning. Ironically I never felt like I fit in where I live but felt so at home in Hawaii. I wish it was attainable to get a visa or greencard somehow.

[@Mikethecoolguy]

lol this aged poorly. Canada has become a communist hell

[@tatankahanska120]

​@HelloFromHawaii yulps It is i was born and raised in honolulu i lived in montana and Saskatchewan Canada. I would say the country sidemen area is beautiful but real boring

[@dianeamantiad8527]

Right on braddah...I'm a kama'aina and moved to L.A. All you said is true. We are our own country and mainlanders are nice; but, they have to change their mentality if moving here. Respect and Aloha are everything and no high makamakas allowed on Hawai'i (especially with kupunas)! I appreciate your videos. Positive vibes only! 'E Maika'i ! Mahalo Piha!

[@stevenrich1819]

I’ve lived on the Big Island now for 3 years and just about everything you’ve shared in true. Hawai’i is a very unique place and yes compared to the mainland, you may find some things to be a bit strange. One of the most important lessons that I’ve learned is to accept things the way they are. Go with the flow and don’t get frustrated. You will eventually fit in and if you have a giving spirit and understand that it’s a privilege to live here not a right it won’t take too long to be accepted. Agreed that there are some you will never get along with, move on and find the ones you will. I will also tell you that friendships are different here and once accepted, you become family. Hawai’i is a wonderful place to live. The majority of the locals are kind and accepting, you need to be the same if you want to fit in and live in paradise.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Appreciate the comment. Agree that once you're accepted, you're family.

[@leslieholmes2899]

Everything was spot on. I met locals at work who taught me pigeon and that was huge. I have never been treated poorly on any of the islands and I credit that to letting people tell me their story not blabbing about myself or my family.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Great advice on listening to the stories of others. Some locals can talk forever. 😁

[@cathleensmith4243]

This is why we love living here. We have met some great people and look forward to meeting more people like you! Thank you again for your channel!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo! 🤙

[@effpatriarchy]

I've yet to meet anyone that wants to meet up. If they have, you don't hear from them again. It's tough... But I'm still pretty new

[@cathleensmith4243]

@@effpatriarchy Yes it is challenging. Many changes have affected the way people socialize and see each other.

[@effpatriarchy]

@@cathleensmith4243 I think that's true everywhere these days. Pandemic makes it harder. I moved here to not be a minority for once... I see the irony now

[@conniephillips8217]

Very truthful and important words of wisdom! These are the guidelines for moving anywhere with especially with the new culture. We're moving into their territory not them moving into ours!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@Ironmonk036]

7:18 Personally, this was my pet peeve when I lived in Hawaii in 2015. Most people in Hawaii discriminated against anyone who doesn't look Asian, Samoan, or Hawaiian as a "mainlander." It doesn't matter how long you live there, they tend to treat people like tourists or 2nd class citizens. It made my 3 years there a living hell. How can anyone outside of Hawaii respect the problems and struggles of Hawaiianers when they are so quick to hate on outsiders? This issue needs to change.

[@saharagold]

True. Like Thai with the 'farang'.

[@jnak974]

I live in a pretty rich area on Honolulu. I was with my buds and they look Polynesian while I look racially ambiguous. I waited for them at the door and noticed this white guy was only stopping Filipinos and Polynesians. They payed for their items and about to leave and I just knew he was going to stop them. Sure enough, he stops them and I just asked him, “ hey bro, I don’t see you stopping any of the Japanese people that leave, what’s the deal?” Hawaii is basically the place where everyone gets screwed.

[@nelsonluke6007]

​@@saharagoldor Filipina with the KANO.

[@GamelanSinarSurya]

Mahalo Braddah for this beautiful video. I love all your stuff, but this one really hits home. As a mainland haole who relocated to O'ahu's Windward side (I spent 10 years in Kane'ohe and Waimanalo) I find all of your comments and advice totally true. Simple things like humility, generosity, and friendliness, coupled with respect for elders and patience, really do make life so much better for yourself and everyone around you. I became friends with some native Hawaiians, went fishing and surfing with them, learned some Hawaiian music and a little 'Olelo Hawai'i. Although circumstances forced me to move back to the mainland some years ago, these things never left me. I will share your video with anyone planning to visit the islands, so they can understand local culture, and have a positive experience. 😊🤙

[@rickchapman3051]

Your third point is the most important. Sometimes people will just not like you. (Or anyone like you) sometimes they might even be family. All you can do is keep clear of them and do your best to not push their buttons. I find it easy to make friends in my neighborhood. Everyone seems to walk the neighborhood at some point. I always say high and try to listen. . . Yes listen to their story.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@garyreid6165]

Great video. I think your three tips apply everywhere. No matter where you go, you are a stranger. Even if you learn everything about the culture and respect for the traditions, you are still a stranger. As it was said in the pilot film of Knight Rider, “One man can make a difference.” Or the verse in Lionel Ritchie’s classic song, “Say you, Say me” goes; “As we go down life’s lonesome highway, it seems the hardest thing to do is to find a friend that’s you. That helping hand. Someone who’ll understand. When it seems you’ve lost your way, you’ve got someone there to say, “I’ll show you.”” No matter where you go, having one friend in that place is valuable and can give you a sense of security because that friend is watching your back. I remember speaking on the phone with a friendly young woman who worked at the Chamber of Commerce in Honolulu. I was interested in looking at the possibility of moving to Hawaii. She told me that she had gone to school in the Mainland and didn’t like it. When she returned, she felt a lot better. I still want to see and experience Hawaii. Peace, brother ✌️🤟

[@HelloFromHawaii]

🤙 Hawaii will still be here whenever you can make it.

[@David-nx2vm]

We lived on Oahu for over 9 years - 3 Air Force then post retirement 2nd career. Our kids are hapa so they blended and as military brats they made friends quickly. Our son played HS football and a common sight at our house was my wife trying to cook enough rice to feed his lineman buddies after practice. Or those same linemen - the entire team actually - watching out for each others’ younger siblings when they started their freshman year. One huge family. I volunteered at our church downtown and was also a Scout volunteer. Immersed with locals. Yes, they may take a little longer to warm up to you to see if you are sticking around, but if you’re a decent genuine person you will be fine. You’re right, no matter what you do you will still encounter the occasional “we grew here, you flew here” angry local, but if you develop friendships with others they will counterbalance that and you can put it in perspective. Nice backgrounds at Ala Moana beach park - miss that place!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing. Glad you had a great experience and your kids acclimated with other kids. 🤙

[@beldaadrovel2990]

Next month will be 1 year since I was in Kihei, Maui. My 1st time ever on a Hawaiian island 🏝. Only there for 2 days, but, my 1st hour after landing (changed into my bathing suit in back for the car, my son dropped me off at hotel (long story)) I walked to Kamaole Beach Park One. By myself. No one with me. Walking along the beach and waiting for the sun to set. My 1st Hawaiian Sunset, my lifetime DREAM. NOT sad. Just at peace....then this 60some year old surfer , with the most BEAUTIFUL smile 😍 started talking to me. We kept the conversation going and as the sun was setting, I was mesmerized by HIM. Not my Hawaiian Dream to see a Sunset in Hawaii....he told me " Don't look at me!! You're missing the Sunset!!" It was a beautiful Sunset btw...of course. I told him, "Do you have ANY idea how beautiful you are? You made my 1st Hawaiian experience EXCEED my wildest dreams. Thank you"😍 we took a selfie together. We didn't exchange numbers etc. I could just talk to him forever. We shook hands and we didn't want to let go. He made me feel at home.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Awesome story. Glad you enjoyed the sunset and conversation.

[@bw5277]

Thanks for sharing. I get back to Hawaii, Big Island several times a year. I enjoy going on long walks and talkin story with everyone!

[@liberty4175]

I think you approach people with a smile, make them feel that your not a snob. That it’s all about family, the outdoors etc.

[@frankstanley6440]

Thanks. Great as always. Might be helpful to go into detail about the "mainland mentality" because a lot probably don't know/realize what could be a problem in Hawaii.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@alioreo2451]

No disrespect but I think the important thing it for mainlanders to realize that they are in a different place. Hawaii is part of the USA BUT they should also take a moment on their flight over the learn about Hawaii. I'm a Canadian. This video made sense to me as in Canada there is a phrase "native time". Derogatory in nature, but it means to the Native, it will start when it does. People need to realize Hawaii is a culture of beautiful people. It isn't a destination, it is an experience.

[@harryshigeura3892]

Also courtesy, no sarcasm, humble behavior, awareness that there are 2 different cultures here, basically the local Hawaiian Polynesian type and the local (roots in the plantation) type, both very different cultures and the many sub-cultures stemming from each ...

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@secretadmirer5006]

You nailed it with * humble behavior.* Americans in general tend to be "me first," brag, talk about themselves too much, etc. - which does not go over well with Hawaii/local culture. Living on Mainland many years and I have to remind myself to tone it down when I go back to Hawaii.

[@michellebrandtfrederick9415]

100% true! It helps to get involved in the community. I volunteered at Waimea Valley, met one friend and that's how I built my group of friends. It is so important to truly embody the spirit of Aloha. Be kind. Be open to new experiences. Learn the basics of the language at a minimum. Learn the traditions. You love to be in Hawaii because it's Hawaii. Why would you want to change it? Honor and respect the culture and don't forget to show respect to the Aunties and Uncles. Just my 2 cents. ❤️🌈 Mahalo for all the wisdom you share. Shoots! 🤙🏼

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing. Glad you were able to connect with others.

[@tammybowers3453]

ALL of your advice is spot on. Thanks for sharing.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@normandea]

Relevant content as usual. In fact, your advice could be tailored for anywhere in the US. I've long thought about moving to Hawaii, but your questions hit home. How do I make new friends? How do I build a community? Very insightful stuff.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo. Yeah, it's tough to meet new people anywhere. I've found that there are just some challenges that make it tougher in Hawaii.

[@tracyalan7201]

Be honest, be humble, be generous (in spirit), be dependable. People don't like braggers, undependable or takers. The spirit of the islands are its people, they all pretty much share the same spirit of giving/acceptance. If you give from the heart, people will recognize and recipricate.

[@normandea]

@@HelloFromHawaii I would also think that an Asian American moving to a heavily Asian state would be fairly easy, in fact easier than caucasian folks moving over. Perhaps not? I guess the same difficulties apply.

[@tracyalan7201]

Maybe you should have mentioned about the honesty/shibai? Meeting people and wanting to associate with them, will depend on the honesty factor. People will be listening to how they say things/what the say. They will notice the eye problem.... Once, they notice the that, people will realizing they can't be friends with someone undependable, whether never reciprocating or always taking, taking, taking...... The people are generous, but once they notice that the other person isn't reliable, dependable or reciprocating, it's going to be hard to mend that relationship. Sometimes, there only one chance at making that good impression and people have memories like elephants.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Great point. Sometimes you only get one chance to make an impression and that impression will stick.

[@robertsmulling9976]

Mahalo for your video. I grew up in Illinois, lived in Los Angeles for 11 years then moved to Seattle. Been here for over 29 years. If it is hard to make friends with the locals of Hawaii, I'll fit right in as it is very difficult to make friends here in Seattle. If you are born, raised, and continue to live in Seattle, you will have lifelong friends. But if are not, and you move here, you will always be considered an outsider. It's just the way it is here. Most likely, following your advice, I probably will make friends in Hawaii faster than I ever did in Seattle! Should I move to Hawaii in the future (and I want to), I will remember your advice! Mahalo Nui Loa!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Interesting. Didn't know that about Seattle.

[@cynthiamarie9961]

Well said Chris and said so politely, your advice will help many newcomers. Very much enjoying your videos subscribed and looking forward to many more!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@jonnuanez2843]

Mexico and Hawaii are very similar. I came to Oahu and for the first few weeks, I thought "didn't I just leave this?" There were some things that frankly were off for me at first. Then one day, everything just clicked. Also, like Mexico, it is very true that some people will just not like you. That's kind of a human trait. (I kept more to myself in Oahu cause I have a very ethnically neutral speaking voice despite being Latino and raised in L.A. I got a ton of flak living in Tijuana and I didn't want to get any more in Oahu. I never did; things were fine. But I do remember accidentally boarding a bus that didn't stop until Kapolei. I didn't want heads turned because I asked a question of where we were going cause of my voice. I stuck it out and it became a lol adventure. Also, me and a Lion Coffee barista exchanged gifts in good tidings. No motives other than to show gratitude. And a couple of the guys at Hawaii Self Storage on Ahua St were crackups and golden people)

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing. 🤙

[@SamUndJet]

Your videos on everyday Hawaiian culture are admirably filled with candor, personal anecdotes and optimism. In other words, they embody the generosity that you describe as a hallmark of the Hawaiian people. From a mainlander planning to move to Hawaii, I humbly thank you for posting.

[@lynneeskil595]

I moved to Maui 18 months ago and have never been happier. I vacationed here for 50 years and it has always been a magical place. My mom decorated our house with touches from the islands and dressed me in clothes made in Hawaii. I stood out in church with my aloha fabrics. It was too expensive to live in the Seattle area and all my connections have passed or moved. My brother moved away to Walla Walla and started his family over 40 years ago. We had quick weekend visits a couple times a year. 4 days a year!!! Now I get quality and quantity time with the entire family. Everyone is relaxed and happy. So this has been my best decision ever. The people in Hawaii are welcoming, caring, generous, and diverse. I volunteer on Maui to give back and become a part of the community. I get to learn something new everyday. The beauty and wonder of the island is breathtaking. I feel like the luckiest person in the world.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for volunteering and giving back to the community. 🤙

[@jnak974]

If you think white people get discriminated against in Hawaii, that’s true. But the story that never gets told is that it happens to local here just as much. I’ve worked at corporate jobs here where they won’t even post Hawaii based jobs locally which is why all of our highest paid rep where all mainlanders. Another job I had was the same thing so all our store managers were from the mainland. Been to so many stores in upscale communities where the front desk only checks to see if locals have their receipts unless you’re a tourist. Went to a restaurant in Kakaako and they look at you like you shouldn’t be there. I’ve lived in many places so I can blend easily and I see things for what they are.

[@HanHaole]

Spot on, bro! I am kama'aina going on 5 years now, and didn't realize how many of these characteristics I have come to embody and embrace. Lucky we live Hawaii!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@WestbyNorthwest]

Great advice and insight for everyone any place you live!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@Pureexhiliration]

Not so sure about the "any place". In New York City, people sometimes get a little weirded if you are Hawaii level friendly to them because they are so used to being on guard.

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

@@Pureexhiliration Same in California. I’m in the SF Bay Area and if you do that here, you’re an instant “creeper/weirdo”. 😂

[@fsanchez4905]

Looks like people in Hawaii have the same head nod as the Chicano (Mexican-Americans) people in California. We give a small head nod when someone is close by, but if their are at a distance then it's a big head nod. When I was in Maui, I was getting a few nods and felt right at home. I found the locals to be very friendly towards me. Yet, I could see how hard it could be to really fit in. Mainly for the reasons that you stated. Great topic, great video.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing. Didn't know that the head nod was a thing in CA.

[@tatankahanska120]

I got off the plane from the mainland. And my pidgin went come out as if i never went leave Oahu. I was born and raised in Makiki in Honolulu. I have so much love for my home

[@austinrussell4252]

Glad you were honest about #3. I don't think its personal just is what it is and have to move on which can be really difficult for people who have never had this experience before.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Yeah, it's tough to do everything right and still not fit in. But there are plenty of wonderful people in Hawaii to meet and get to know.

[@liberty4175]

We Love Hawaii. We love Hawaii so much we honeymoon 36 years ago. We went back with our first born little girl. Then wen back with our second born boy , then again. Then with our first born wedding. 5 times not all consecutive years, except one time we went back to back. It’s the most beautiful place on earth. We met a local at the Hilton Hawaiian Village. We became friends that first time we met her she upgraded us to a better room. We surprised her when we showed up in one of those back to back. We went to all local eateries, went deep into local territories lol. We’ve visited Kauai, Maui and the big Island. We can adjust to the locals.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Mahalo for sharing 🤙

[@Kevin-xi6ts]

I went to Hawaii a few weeks ago. I went to a luau and I asked a group of local people, “ how would you like a nice Hawaiian Punch? And then I took a swing at this guy, but I missed because I was pretty hammered. Anyway I was thrown out. Aloha

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Glad nothing came of it.

[@evalina98000]

Mahalos fo ur mana'o.👍🏾Most times wen folks talk bout how mo bettah t'ings are where dey came from, I stay quiet but 1 time I said, "Everything sounds so wonderful there, I can't imagine why you'd leave such a great place." Den I left fo keep my mouth shut. 🙊

[@HelloFromHawaii]

lol. That's a good response.

[@marceld6061]

Don't feel bad. I think that was the perfect thing to say.

[@Bmadsi1950]

It’s ok to tell them how you feel. If they things are so much better back home, they should go back home,

[@michaelflores3767]

Tantaran! 🦹🦸I thought that was a Mexican thing. 🤣🤣 But Tantarans are 🩲Guess that word is everywhere. Like Pan. 🍞. Love the channel content. 👍🏽🤙🏽

[@logikell]

It's hot here and I want to go into the water but it is dirty? Tourist board not gonna like that. 😁 Friendliness, generosity and humility, people everywhere need to practice this. I enjoy your videos.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

lol. Yeah, tourist board not going to like that since it hurts the Hawaii brand. 😆 But for that morning, it was true.

[@syedtaqi6122]

Great advice for people who want to either visit or live in Hawaii, the pace in Hawaii is different, the people are more relaxed in some ways, it’s that Aloha spirit and lifestyle, and for the people coming from mainland it’s a culture shock. Hawaii is probably one of the state with most ethnic diversity and they coexist pretty nicely. People are humble, but you have got to give them respect and show kindness to be treated likewise.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Yeah, it's a pretty unique place where a diverse population lives together and makes it work.

[@saharagold]

Why Elvis loved it so much.

[@mitaalqahtani]

So true. Thanks for the great sharing.

[@kevinsam3]

I appreciate your sharing on making friends in HI.

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

I am reviewing this video and enjoying doing so. 1) A little himakamaka goes a verrrry looong way. You know da kine: They sweat perfume and crap ice cream. They think they are above everyone else. No ack li'dat! 2) I think that expecting people to be late for anything is helpful, too. I had to let go of my punctuality expectations, which took a little time. I loved seeing a Hawai'ian wearing a t-shirt with the saying: 'I am not late. I stay Hawai'i time." 3) Go Waianae side, say to Makaha, and you will see a lot of prejudice against Ha'oles. The Mokes are big, and the can glower at you. Stuff can get dicey quickly. I never let it bother me, too much. I smiled and asked them how they were and ... most melted, smiled and laughed. They just wanted to see how the Mainlander would take them, that's all. NOT saying that is the right way to behave. But, it must still be understood. It is their aina, not mine.

[@erickim2025]

Enjoyed ur vid, never heard tantadan in long time, 1 point to make might is "no try too hard, be yourself no act" be nice to everybody 😉

[@roycinco5919]

Spent Christmas and New Year in Oahu recently to visit our daughter who's a student missionary on a one year assignment. I fell in love with the culture and the people. Now I'm seriously considering applying for a traveling job with the hopes of staying permanently. I work in healthcare and have been researching if I can afford to live there.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Lots of opportunities in the health care industry.

[@SallyFunakoshi]

I believe as long as you have a solid SMALL group of friends who can positively influence your life. That is all you need. One thing I have to disagree with you on is…. Orange is a great Starburst flavor! 🤣

[@HelloFromHawaii]

😆 Gotta go with the red and pink Starbursts.

[@DustinCasler]

Great video. Most of these principles sound similar to what we have in Texas and really should be everywhere.

[@yvonnesmith8245]

Thank you for your wonderful videos! Love ‘em!

[@flot5926]

Very well said. I believe no matter where you're from or where you go you cannot get 100% of people to like you. If you're sincere and humble you'll attract the "right" people for you. Love your scenic videos. 🤙🌺

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@fanofthemoons7772]

Love the vids! I was wondering could you explain what it means to change for Hawaii?

[@HelloFromHawaii]

I think what I was trying to say was that Hawaii is very different than most places and you'll find that it's easier for a person to change and adapt to Hawaii than for that person to try to change Hawaii.

[@lancesay]

been to hawai'i so many times while in the navy... and several times by myself the lay-back altitude of "ball pen yung" or relax and dont worry about it altitude is almost the same as laos. everything you just said is spot on.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Wow, didn't know they have that laidback attitude in Laos. Mahalo for sharing.

[@hdc36969]

I enjoy your videos.Ive been living on Oahu for the last 16 months.I moved here from Baltimore Maryland.Thank you!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

How has it been? Crazy 16 months?

[@hdc36969]

@@HelloFromHawaii You guessed it,but everything you have said has been accurate up to this point.🤙🏼

[@denakelley4363]

I do see this as a challenge if I were to move to Hawaii. I'm white, I feel like white people are not particularly wanted. After a bit of learning about Hawaiian history (what I wasn't taught in school) at the Iolani Palace and the museums I can sort of understand it, but also I wasn't born when that happened, either. On my last visit, exactly two people spoke to me that weren't being paid to speak to me. They were both fellow tourists. I would imagine if I moved there I would feel isolated for a long time.

[@briandoortodoordelivery2236]

Excellent and accurate advice on some difficult topics, delivered with aloha. Well done. I would also add in LEARN THE HISTORY. Unfortunately, the overthrow of the Kingdom has been omitted from high school history on the mainland for several decades now. Without knowing the history of what happened here, it would be impossible for a newcomer to understand or relate to local attitudes and behaviors.

[@collette2990]

Hello from Texas. From Kailua!!!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@collette2990]

@@HelloFromHawaii I grew up Kailua. Kailua Beach everyday!!! Shorts, T-shirt and slippers. Bathing suit underneath at school then after school, talk about running so fast as your life depended on it. I lived on Kaulani Way. My Aunty moved to Hilo and loves it! But, you know how Kailua just has that extra special something you can’t completely explain. The feel, the energy, the magic!!! Lolololol It’s part of my heart forever. 🤙 I’m so grateful for your channel. Aloha a mahalo.

[@carolglover3582]

Oh Kailua, my favorite beach. Beautiful area.m

[@ginanguyen3716]

I love Hawaii ! 💐😍

[@starv1nmarv1n88]

Just got back to Boston, MA from Oahu. I loved it, Waimanalo beach was my favorite. Got stung by a jellyfish for the first time in my life at Kalama beach though, left a scar on my elbow 😭

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Stay safe up on the east coast. 🤙

[@richardmccarley281]

Were you at Ala Moana beach park?

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Yeah, it was a nice day. A little hot, but nice.

[@ryanjay707]

Being Filipino and built like a Islander. People always think I’m from Hawaii. The employees from Hawaiian Airlines always ask me if I’m going home** when I’m come to visit 🤙

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@mariatan9129]

If you check coments a year after. ... just take it easy and dont trash indiscriminateky. I lived here 30 yrs now n in other mainland states . And can only complain about the absence or poor street signs allover the island. ...and poor lighting along likelike hwy and going to northshore . Although 😢😂 My motto is Safety over punctuality.. enjoy your healthy beautiful environment and your input is as important as your attitude. Btw there is nothing wrong with supporting goodwill o thrift stores to get your aloha shirts. Omce you wear your shirt is your BO that matters. !! Lol. Enjoy. Stay humble. Your personality speaks volumes.

[@peterjna12]

1. Having an Asian ethnicity helps. 2. Knowing local people. 3. Act chill. Low key. 4. Never come empty handed. 5. Be patient and learn to live the slow life. 6. Always bring the local green water to share, Heineken, and ono kine things. Big shaka. Comes down to the two golden rules. Malama da 'Aina and malama everybody. And never cut anyone off on the road.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@kaiwildly3938]

If many or most people would apply some of these principles to anywhere they went to visit or live, it would be a better, enhanced life. I love Hawaii.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@bfjl86]

Moved here two months ago. Absolutely love it! People aren’t as friendly right now though…. Except from a distance lol Still having problems remembering to call people by auntie and uncle

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Two months is pretty short. Give it time, especially given how things are.

[@BEZY-vk1hy]

I'm an introverted person who enjoys keeping to himself, so it's going to be a big adjustment for me. Also, how can you call the lemon flavour junk? The orange, I agree!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@hhyamamo]

This was a very good post. I personally liked the head nod acknowledgement which I will continue to use on the Mainland post-COVID…no more handshakes. Some of the insights an info has been helpful as I assess a possible move back home but after 20+ years, it’s, as you know, not easy. I’m looking into 100% remote work and seeing if my current employer will support it as well. Wish me luck.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@abelzoni2138]

I was new to Hawaii. I was walking home on the first day a high school. I local guy was walking toward me on the sidewalk. My instinct was to not make eye contact. We walked by each other and I heard him yell at me. "Hey F#*kah!". I turned around and he said "Hey when someone does this, he gives me a head nod, you do it back" he gave me another head nod. I gave a head nod back. He turned around and continued walking. Lol.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

lol. 😆

[@captainmike808]

Nailed it when saying it is easier to change yourself.. 🤙🏼 Also, follow your own Kuliana and things will be much better.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@bubbadmatt8124]

I'd love to live in Hawaii, but I fear my shyness would hold me back. Gotta love social anxiety disorder.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

It's hard now because everyone is keeping to themselves. But eventually things will open up and hopefully get back to normal.

[@meshiesplace6886]

Did you pick up those starburst and put them in the trash? Or did you leave them there on the ground?

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Normally, I'd pick them up, but kind of risky during these pandemic times.

[@jacobr4558]

Great video! I really appreciate your thought on just moving on from certain people. Growing up there and being a local haole there's a certain desire to want to fit in and want to be liked by everybody. So sometimes even when you try harder it makes it worse with those kinds of people. So I really appreciate your thought on just moving on from those people because there are a bunch of other individuals who aren't that way. You may never get that person's approval or acceptance. And it's like that anywhere sadly.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Yeah, you might run into a few stubborn locals, but there are so many others who are welcoming and friendly.

[@lynguyen-np6ed]

Hello, I'm thinking of visiting Hawaii from the mainland beginning of November. Is it strictly for vaccinated people?

[@HelloFromHawaii]

No, it's not just for vaccinated people, but you do need to follow certain rules. You can check out the Safe Travels Program for more information.

[@suehofkamp8594]

Thanks for this. I am moving to Waikoloa in October.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Hope you enjoy Kona! It's beautiful.

[@Shadbraw]

Where did you film? The background is beautiful.

[@rayage777]

That's magic island / ala moana beach.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Magic Island at Ala Moana Beach Park.

[@Shadbraw]

@@HelloFromHawaii thanks!

[@alexcarter8807]

Magic Island, where starbursts grow on the ground ... it's maaaaaaaagic

[@dng6121]

I was born and raised in Oahu. I got into alot of scraps in public school. never as an adult. I was never considered local to this day.

[@keaka560]

Here's one not to offend, be a tourist. We love tourist. Come visit any time but don't forget to back. Don't tell us how to live. Don't block my way to the beach. Don't think you better than us. Respect the land, the way of life, the culture and us

[@glennsak]

Hope you picked up da trash! Great video BTW. :)

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@adamshipley5415]

I've got that shirt in grey! Nice! 😁👍

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@alohaseemaui]

people who vacation on oahu can't make true friends because they are only here for 5-7 days. Just be respectful.

[@tonisanoedelacruz9754]

Don't critique our foods, customs, diversity. Respect them instead. Asking ignorant questions to be funny never breaks.any ice here. Just smile and say hi.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@Harlowerayne]

Thankfully I am not having that problem. Hours after arriving I was befriended by TWO Kanaka Mā'oli as others. I am getting along here better then I've ever had in the states. I enjoy chatting with Kanaka Mā'oli in their Hawaiian most appreciate it. There is a really sweet wahine at the Mālama Market, she really appreciate it when I greet her in Hawaiian. I love it here on the Big island. Hawai'i is illegally OCCUPIED by the damn US! Queen Lili'oukalani was placed under house arrest until she allowed the US thug-giverment to take over the government of Hawai'i. Corporations rule the US government and also Hawai'i. Sanford Dole comes to mind. I will NEVER acknowledge the LIE that Hawai'i is a 'part' of the damn states and I am not an Hawaiian.

[@theketovorian]

Enjoyed the video! We are contemplating leaving after 20 years. Being here during covid gave us a scare. Especially when the shelves started to empty at the grocery store. Can you make a video to discuss please. Realized I have no idea what your name is?

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Chris. I should probably make that clearer in my videos. I still remember those times when the shelves were empty and people were panicking. Crazy that we all made it through that.

[@drivehard2395]

Moving to an Island was a goal, and one of my considerations was, "What if the boats stop?" and I realized Hawaii wasn't self sustainable at all, and far too many people where living there as it is. The island don't need me. So I visit once in awhile.

[@ty12880]

How to fit in with locals in Hawaii? Back in you parking spot. I have never seen so many back in their parking spot. So they can get a quick get away so they can hurry up and spend nearly an hour in traffic. Are you one too? Please explain why.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

I'm not sure why locals like to do this. I've heard the argument that it's safer because you aren't backing out when leaving.

[@cueproductionslive3613]

Bless you boy…what a beautiful spirit…mahalo 4 being U

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@CharlesLockhart]

I see things pretty differently, but I still enjoy your videos. Thanks for that hard work!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Thanks for the comment. Any suggestions for fitting in Hawaii?

[@CharlesLockhart]

Early bird, you. Sunday morning, just finishing my first cup. If someone gives you food in a container, always return that container with some food you made in it, or in a paper bag with the container in it. Always stay after the party and help clean up. Always show up with food. Get a cooler (go full haole, make it a Yeti), one you can carry, always show up with a little food, pupus, and some cold drinks. Some beers. People will tailgate at a kids football practice. Maybe not soccer, too middle class, too many soccer moms. But lots of other things.

[@CharlesLockhart]

It’s hard to tell when someone asks you “how’s it going” if they’re really asking. I have local friends who will say “hey, how’s it going,” and then will be completely put out by you telling them. You have to recognize that often it’s a social nicety, not an actual question. The best answer is “good, good, you?” Also, people you meet, cash register lady, waitress, librarian, people who you don’t know, they say “how’s your day,” or any variation, just give that answer. If they really mean it, they’ll ask a follow up question.

[@CharlesLockhart]

Second cup. Don't argue with local people about their self perceptions when it come to their group. Example, you believe in the "friendliness, generosity, and humility" of your group, and you believe that other groups can't have those qualities. And I've heard that from many local folks. It would be totally fruitless to argue against those views, so don't. Best to 100% agree with both of those views, set yourself up as an exception, and move on. There are many great conversations you can have with people here that have nothing to do with that, learn to switch topics to one of those. Ask them if they have a secret ingredient to their SPAM musubi. Do they fry then dip in sato-shoyu, or fry, then mix sato-shoyu in the pan and push it through, do a little braise in that sauce? SPAM on top or SPAM in the middle? A little furikake, or maybe even a little extra salt? Definitely learn that local people express themselves in a certain way, and integrate those into your own behavior.

[@CharlesLockhart]

However, do set boundaries. Many people have voiced to me that racism in Hawai’i is ok, because of the way it’s done, as opposed to how it works on the mainland. I’ve found that I have to gently assert that I do not agree with that. Never take part in any racist stereotyping, but I think that goes for anybody, anywhere. Just don’t. I remember driving with my first boss in Honolulu, 1995, he's Japanese-Filipino. Black guy drives by in a really nice sports car, turns to me, "I bet you don't think black is beautiful, right?" I told him I thought Black was very beautiful, made it really clear I got not no dislike for anybody, and we established that I was not never going to get with him on his views. A different time, out drinking with guys, all local Japanese except one local Chinese guy and me. The Chinese guy gets up, goes to use the bathroom, all the Japanese guys start dogging him out for stereotypes and stuff. I'm like, "bros, do not be dogging on my Chinese brother." They stopped, laughed, rolled their eyes, gave me the look, said "alright...." and knew where I stood. Did not stop them from doing it again, but at least they knew where I stood.

[@amyswares]

BAHAHA Junk Flavors....#fact Thanks for the great tips!

[@pacthesharwell3598]

Hello sir, my sister was born. Tripler Army medical Hospital. April 2, 1976 My father is Black, mom Philepena. I served, over a year there. Doing homeland, security for 911 I also had a Hawaiian detachment with us, when the Hawaiian, detachment trained with us , on the mainland no problems ? Then when we transferred, to the Island. The love was gone...

[@bigislander72]

Locals can be super provincial that's why. Like no other state because it's so far removed from any other, both geographically and culturally. You are either from here or not from here, no middle ground. I am a blonde haired, blue eyed white guy and still get stink eye from certain locals. In my hometown not so bad, but other places I'm just another f-in haole that's just the way it is. But I've heard it can be even worse if you are brown skinned and could pass for local by appearance...because they think you local but the second you say something with no accent they will know automatic.

[@jefferylorance7988]

To make friends ? It starts with you.. Read the book “How to make Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie…it’s more then you think…a make sense book..plus his other..How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by the same author…both will change your life!

[@user-l4y7r04wy6iv]

Exactly. The most important thing in the universe is to be COOL, by whatever local, regional or national definitions. Essentially, you gotta look cool, act cool, talk cool, think cool, behave cool, drive a cool car, tell and laugh at cool jokes and stories, exude coolness. Then and only then will people accepted you and be your friend. If not, you will be looked down upon as childish, immature, naive, a nerd, a wimp. At worse others will bully, gossip about, and, or cheat, swindle, rip you off. At best, they'll just ignore or shun you. The best thing is to be a _hikikomori._

[@Wahhhheyinfinity]

Same with Florida 😢

[@charityf888]

I have wanted to visit hawaii since highschool. I learned about the Hawaiian queen that was forced to abdicate the throne.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Yeah, lots of great Hawaiian history. And it's always better to learn about it when you can see the places they are talking about in the books.

[@doninhawaii4433]

My wife told me to get in good with the aunties. They loved me so I was good with the locals. Lol 👍🤙

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@benavenido6056]

Wow! Sounds like Hawaii is very much a different country even if it's a US state. But I wonder how much of that description has been exaggerated mostly from mainlanders who come there and maybe didn't expect that there is going to be that many asian americans though the official stats from the Hawaii wiki by 2020 is that whites are at 22.9% and asians are at 37.2%. I did think about moving here from the Philippines because I want to experience the US experience although you saying it's like a different country is interesting though for my sake it could be advantageous now that I think about it since if i go to the mainland i could have more experience of racial discrimination compared to Hawaii which is like part Americanized part Asian (i wonder how would you ratio it being americanized vs asian though). I've read some answers online that say asking how Americanized is Hawaii is like asking how Americanized is Iowa or something and that different states of the US probably have their own distinctions, not just Hawaii, one user said and that most people aren't just really observant but that they exaggerate it with Hawaii more since it's separated geographically and have huge number of asian americans compared to the mainland. So i'm wondering what the ratio of it being americanized and probably how much has been exaggerated that it's nothing like the mainland but at the same time i feel like that point (when you said Hawaii is like a different country) as stated by you could maybe not be argued since you grew up and lived there yourself. but when I see celebrities that were locals in Hawaii or even contestants in US shows that are from Hawaii, they seem very much American to me. perhaps not a hundred percent but you can tell theyre still Americans in the way they talk and things like that. there's no communication problems. this is just a perception from someone who lives in Asia and has never been to the States both in the mainland and in Hawaii. What do you think?

[@TF-fv6lt]

Kiss your Auntie's cheek again! Hahaha! So awesome!

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@SunnyIlha]

C'mea Auntie! I gotta give Yu kiss ! 😁

[@richl6725]

These are not exclusive to Hawaii, what you are saying tends to work wherever you go. I have been to many countries and a simple good morning in their language goes a long long way. Aloha and keep up the good work.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@alioreo2451]

This is a great video. Thank you. I think, and may be wrong but just be open and friendly. Tourist or someone who moves to Hawaii. Be open, be friendly and just be, This is not meant to be a trigger or offensive, just an observation. It sounds like a typical "Caucasian" mentality. In Canada there is a reference to "Native Time" which is meant to be derogatory, but it is also a more laid back approach to life. It will start when it happens.

[@harrysilver9702]

EDDIE WOULD GO ! 🤙

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@zolikahawaii]

Brah you were at magic island! Which Kakaako building do you live in ?

[@juniorkawai6131]

Here's a good tip. If you're a student-athlete and your sport is volleyball, play for UH you become "instant ohana" no matter where you're from. The locals will treat you like a celebrity.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

True 😄

[@Pixics]

This seems like the same etiquette all over the states, but just some places choose not to follow them.

[@miketexas4549]

Put the words "yeah?" or "that's why" after every sentence.

[@carolglover3582]

Ala moana beach park. Beautiful.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

It's great. Good view of Diamond Head. Lots of space and parking.

[@carolglover3582]

@@HelloFromHawaii hi, was just there on a visit. Have a son in college there….so beautiful but understand a good of the day to day challenges faced with housing costs being so high, gas’s prices as well.

[@ChrisCannon007]

Very good :)

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@Harlowerayne]

Mahalo, a nui loa🤗

[@mariarohmer2374]

Great video.👍🏽These behaviors should be exercised on the mainland too. Should not be so hard to try and be open, friendly & humble to others. Unfortunately it is.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

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[@hayambangkok]

Did you go to Punahou High School? Your face is familiar.

[@HelloFromHawaii]

Public school 😆

[@hayambangkok]

@@HelloFromHawaii Right.