Why I Changed My Mind to Have a Baby

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[@HelloHunnay]

When did you become a part of Mai Fam?

[@nkosizandile7291]

From the very beginning, luv yah Jeannie

[@davajones5866]

A long time..even before actually subscribing

[@shirleybanks6582]

I became a fan some time last year during the peek of the pandemic!

[@andilelinda6696]

From the beginning. 🥰

[@monicafischer817]

3 years now , I too struggle with things from my childhood thats affecting me still at 34 , I feel you girl , your going to be a great mama I know it , that first time you hold him or her is the most incredible moment you'll ever have , you are so strong girl don't forget that❤

[@jeffrivera3612]

I love when someone over the age of 35 starts blossoming as a person. A lot of us younger folks, myself included at 28, tend to get discouraged when we think we aren’t where we need to be and thinking time is running out, but it doesn’t matter what age you are. Everyday is a learning experience whether you’re 18, 28,38 or 48. Jeannie is an example at how life can change fast even in your 40s. It gets better my people. I’m learning that as I go …

[@yairethcastro71596]

This. I need it. Thank you.

[@sibslawrence2335]

Beautifully said 🧡

[@EmyT]

Couldn’t have said it better! 👏🏾👏🏾I can attest to that as well, turning 40 in a couple of months. My 30s, especially my late 30s have been the most amazing years of my life because I have gotten to know and love ME. As I have getting older, life just seems to make more sense and I have found joy in the simple things and gratefulness in things I always took for granted, like just simply waking up each morning.

[@Amber-vu3yj]

Beautiful words. They blessed me too.

[@love19634]

Thank you so much for saying this. I'm 24 and feel like such a screw up

[@chello7262]

When my husband and I first started talking I told him I’m not into marriage and I don’t want no kids... I remember after months of dating after our talking stage he asked me “I understand your point but we don’t have to be like our parents.. we write our own story” girl he changed my mind cause he made me think “you’re right” I am not my mothers or fathers flaws.. I let fear hold me back. I’m glad to say our 6th wedding anniversary is Oct 30th 👻 and 2 beautiful daughters 🥰🙂

[@EmorettaRobinson]

Happy upcoming anniversary!🥳🎉 And your husband made a great point. I enjoyed reading your comment especially since it touched on some things I have been thinking about. I hope you enjoy your anniversary and wish you and your family many blessings and great joy.

[@HelloHunnay]

Wow, that's beautiful! Thank you for sharing and happy early anniversary!

[@PortiaLuxy]

Happy early anniversary to you

[@karinacarvajal9919]

Awwww, my heart! 😭 Such a loving and reassuring statement ❤️

[@THEDOORIZCLOSED]

Happy upcoming anniversary!

[@happy_healthy20]

It’s ok to change your mind, Jeannie. I wish you a safe pregnancy and delivery.

[@michelefearon8163]

Very touching Jeannie but let God handle your fears he can do anything you ask him to do. He has blessed you with this baby because he knows you will be a great mother. Put God first and pray always.🙏🙏💕💃

[@amybynum8962]

We are women we have a right to change our mind

[@freedom4063]

Her partner wanted baby..not her.

[@mellie1898]

Very touching and I am glad you open up and tell your story no one is perfect we all say and being through things we wish we didn’t . But in the end God has a plan for us he has a purpose fir that baby you carrying in . I pray for you and jeezy Jeannie Jenkins . And baby Jenkin

[@quatishajames42]

You shouldn't have to explain your decision to anyone! Wishing you and Jezzy the Best

[@maripinagolo]

Honestly seeing that she is 42 and pregnant gives me calm. I’m 34, sometimes I stress about the biological clock ticking. But I want to be a parent when the time is right and that means waiting a few more years (maybe). I hope for the blessing of motherhood and the satisfaction of helping a baby human bloom.

[@aprilf6443]

@Hulda's Journey • this was unneccesary of you to say wth is wrong with you

[@AmyLeeAngelLove]

Don't stress. I had my daughter in my 30s. You can become pregnant in your SIXTIES if you are still menstruating. I may even want another child in my 40s or 50s and I will be DAMNED if I allow anyone to tell me otherwise. Stay blessed.

[@michellelablue7]

I had 3 children basically all grown ( all way over 18) And started all over after a 26 yr relationship & had a baby @ 44& delivered at 45 - litterly 2 weeks after my 45 th Birthday 🎂 lol .And another thing ,still at 50 was having periods ,anyway also on my 50 the birthday, I had a hysterectomy 🤣🤣🤣So I was overjoyed that I had another baby ,then threw it all away 🤣🤣🤣Also she's 8 now & been with him 10 yrs 🙋‍♀️🙏🏼There's ALWAYS HOPE ,JUST TRY TO TAKE CARE IF YOURSELF ,DONT ABUSE YOUR BIDY TOO MUCH ,CUZ I WILL SAY AFTER I HAD HER THO ,IVE NEVER BEEN THE SAME PHYSICALLY,BUT DIDNT WANT TO RRALLY mention that part ,because I would always choose to do it all over again !!!!! ( My back a huge surgery ,pushed my bad back already had over the edge & had hand problems starting at 6 months & 4 operations & sitting here 8 years lata with ANOTHER trio to my hand doc a cpl weeks ago with my forearm & hand in a brace waiting for an MRI ,Just take care of yourself ,the more mature you are the better anyway ( The older you are the more PATIENCE YOU HAVE & ALSO THE MORE U CHERISH THINGS) .... PERIOD !!☺️😁☺️😁☺️🤗🤗🤗🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💜💜💜

[@ikalesunflower]

@@aprilf6443 but it is a fact alot of women are in denial about their biological clock and think its the norm to be a first time mum in your forties .

[@ladymich-j2e]

this gives me calm as well i just turned 34 got married at 26 but conceiving has been difficult, believing God for twins!!

[@charissemodeste6489]

"When GOD, REMINDS you, who's in charge " AMEN, Mrs. Jenkins!!

[@sflores9658]

Lmaooo y’all believe the most ridiculous things 🤣🤣

[@1beachygurl]

@@sflores9658 Ditto!:D

[@Tammy1579]

That was a word.

[@lasenoradelacruz]

I’ve noticed the common thing with people who don’t want children, including myself, is not wanting to repeat the same mistakes our parents did. Trauma is real.

[@kanakeh8846]

Interesting. Thank you for sharing. Take care, sis.

[@anton7579]

You are real you always have been beautiful jeannie mai i love you very much i feel with you 100% , you are going too be a very beautiful mother and beautiful wife may god keep protecting you and all of us i love my son i allays worry for hes own well being too even now that he has grown up everyone say i am a very beautiful mum i am like you very compassionate and real i hate fake person

[@EBURNIEinspiration]

🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@stephlyndsey3932]

Generational trauma is real. People think a cute baby is the answer. The answer is getting help and solving your own issues before having children.

[@HelloTuuuurdz]

For sure 🤚🏾

[@timonegooden5644]

I just hate that Jeannie has to be explaining herself for her life choices. Different loves yield different fruits!!! Congrats to her ❤️❤️

[@lonelrick]

you explained this so beautifully. "different love yields different fruit" - yess!!!!! She could've just said this and I would've been content.

[@stephaniestephen4997]

Love that!

[@lattymo]

Yesss

[@freedom_is_gold6747]

why do you that! jeannie mai is a public person to such an degree that she sits at an 4-5 women panel and gives, advice, discusses moral and difficult questions etc, so obviously many people have watched her as a role model! so it's not more than right, and i am not in anyway trying to critisize her in any negative way, rather stating that comes with game and career she has!

[@erinmariemason139]

,Amen Queen. Well said.

[@iamworthiee]

“I was meant to be a mom” yes you are. From day one on the real til now, you’ve grown so much & come so far. You’re going to be the best mom to baby J.

[@trashawn.w]

This is a very touching episode. To hear you say that you never wanted kids out of F.E.A.R. (False Expectations Appearing Real) of your child being hurt like you were from your childhood is really something. Jeannie... you are in SO MANY WORDS... an inspiration! You got a story like no other. You've been through so much in your 42 years of life including being abused & traumatized at a young age, going through a painful divorce & even having that near death experience last year (sorry to bring that up), but you've survived ALL of it & you're still going strong!!! And I think you going through all those painful experiences & surviving all of it & facing all your F.E.A.R.'s is what made you the person you are today, a strong, powerful & mighty woman! This child is a blessing to your life & you are a blessing to this child's life as well & like I said before, you will be an AMAZING mother. Because one of the jobs of a parent is to make sure that their kids have a better upbringing than they had, & I KNOW for a FACT you will get the job done! You deserve all the happiness in the world & more & I wish you nothing but the best of luck on your pregnancy journey & once again I pray you have a safe delivery. Stay blessed Jeannie!!! 💚💚💚

[@deilugo4813]

Beautifully said.... you sound like you're the best Friends we all need!!!

[@tamikacaballero3066]

I love your definition of fear your whole reply was beautiful. God bless

[@michelefearon8163]

Jeannie is really an inspiration to many. She is amazing and real. Your baby will be fine in Jesus name. 🙏🙏

[@HelloHunnay]

Thank you. ❤️

[@christinaaa_xo]

This actually made me cry, this was said so beautifully. ❤️❤️

[@ChellesShell]

I love that she made this episode!!! She doesn't owe anyone an explanation but I am sooo glad she is telling her truth! Everyone saying she divorced her ex because he wanted kids and she didn't, should watch this and really listen! She knew it wasn't the right choice to have a baby with him. I am so proud her being smart enough to wait until she knew it felt right for her. I am loving Mrs. Jenkins vibe!! I'm living for pregnant Jeannie!! She has always been someone I admire and I love that she is living her best life!

[@meh5069]

This is the conclusion I came to before I even knew of this video. Jeannie seemed to over compensate for her love for her ex husband, almost like she was convincing herself that she was madly in love…but I never bought it. Her love with her new husband is very apparent, she seems more comfortable and settled with him. I’m so happy for her and that she was able to take this journey with him. I wish them the best.

[@mandys1038]

I love that you've found someone who makes you feel safe and loved Jeannie. You are going to be a great mom, baby J is in good hands. You got this!!!

[@NellieKAdaba]

💯

[@lakergirl9805]

Because she is in a secure, loving relationship & felt comfortable sharing this with her partner. I think deep down she knew her ex wasn’t for her. I’m so happy for her & Jeezy. She’s going to LOVE motherhood!!

[@laughingvampire7555]

she was in a loving relationship before, but she was too stupid to realize that, he even waited 10 years for her to make up her mind, but she is too stupid that if she feels the pressure she won't do it. she is so infantile. And the break up of the relationship help her to unblock her own insecurities and stupidity. the not pressure of the new guy helped to avoid make her repeat the cycle and now that she was unblocked of her own stupidity she was open to having kids.

[@prettygirl71334]

And now he filed for a divorce oh boi 😮

[@LilyMendi]

I don't know Jeannie but feel so sad for her 😢

[@every8hours382]

Lol😂

[@hmmm2564]

😂

[@IdorenyinIbanga_]

We all deserve to change our minds whenever we feel like. He former husband knew she doesn’t want children, went ahead to marry her and then try to make her change her mind, which in my opinion wasn’t fair. Honestly, I am truly happy for them

[@jazzlucerito5790]

What

[@thruthemotions]

Right and Freddy made her out to be the bad guy when she was straight up honest with him about not wanting children. she never led him on. Ever.

[@LIL-MAN_theOG]

And this is a bullsheit statement... She basically lied. And you're an enabler. Just because the first man married her when she didn't want kids, didn't mean he didn't, and married her because he truly loved her. Bruh, got did dirty, because she changed her mind all of a sudden with Jeezy. Get tha F outta here. This is misplaced values and morals on your end. She owes dude an apology because she wasn't straight up that she didn't want one with the first dude... That is fact

[@brodywwww]

@@LIL-MAN_theOG at that time she didn’t though people change and grow so she needs to apologize for growing as a person? None of us were in their marriage she never bashed him but he bashed her that says a lot to me!

[@emilycruz5708]

@@LIL-MAN_theOG 🤣🤣🤣 She doesn't owe anyone an apology.She was 100% honest with him. I think you're Freddy or one of his friends.

[@myleenjan]

This baby is a product of your love. I didn't have great mother role models but that all disappeared when my one and only daughter was born. She is the love light in our eyes. Don't worry, you will be a wonderful mom and surprise yourself!

[@HelloHunnay]

Omg that is so beautiful. 😭

[@paigeburns734]

My mom had an abusive mom and she was a great mom. She just was determined to create a different path for us and I’m so grateful!

[@Calcifurr]

Jeannie, I too am Asian and went through the same trauma during my childhood. I just want to thank you for representing our community and telling your truth and being 💯 you. You have helped me heal in many ways. So thank you and I will always keep supporting you! You are not alone. I know this, because I realized from you that I wasn’t alone when you told your truth. Thank you. 💕

[@HelloHunnay]

We always have each other!!

[@LimaB30]

💗💗💗💗💗God loves you. I have been through it too and it’s hard to heal from, but I agree it’s good to be able to heal and grow and know you have other Brave women who continue to move forward 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@BeautyMeetsBusiness]

We all deserve to be loved and feel safe. Congratulations to you and JEEZY. I appreciate that you allow yourself to heal through your pain💕💕 I send you love and light💡 You and your child is covered don’t worry❤️

[@midnightoasis]

The moment you described your own baby waking you up from your nightmare.. I had goosebumps and balled my eyes out. Your words have touched me deeply and made me feel like I am not alone. I am now 36 and have started trying for a baby with my husband, but always had this feeling inside me before that I wasn’t ready. I slowly realized that I still have many traumas from my childhood that I had never truly worked through but instead kept it hidden like a horrible dirty secret. I am now looking to get therapy and counseling to confront and hopefully overcome them. And hopefully one day my husband and I will be blessed with a child that will have a safe childhood, loved, protected and cared for. My love to you Jeannie 💗🙏🏼

[@HelloHunnay]

I am so happy you, too, are going thru therapy! I feel exactly everything you’re saying. I’m praying for your path!!

[@DeliveringJoyMD]

I felt this episode on SOOO many levels! As a woman over 40, as a busy professional who struggles to see myself as a mom, as a divorcee’, and as someone else who has survived a lifetime of trauma. Thank you so much for your transparency and courage!

[@susanngugi4397]

You are a great blessing and encouragement.

[@elisejonesmayo3102]

Jeannie, the biggest hurdle was knowing you were scared from your trauma. You went to Counseling to begin your healing. Now you have a partner who also went through situations. Both of you are healing and going to be the best PARENTS EVER!!!

[@CrystalSicily]

AMEN to that!

[@HelloHunnay]

😭❤️

[@stephlyndsey3932]

The key is that she went to counseling BEFORE having a child. She didn't expect the child to be her counselor or to "cure" her, she did the work herself as an adult.

[@TruePathLiving]

I can't believe people are accusing this woman of cheating on Jeezy. They don't know her like we do. I pray Jeannie I PRAY that your relationship with Jeezy be restored in JESUS mighty name. You are healed, you are restored and protected by the blood. ❤

[@welllivedlife-desireeg2804]

This proves that when you are in a healthy, happy and safe relationship you can grow and blossom. The ex wasn't a healthy relationship. Her husband's love has allowed her to want to have a child which feels right for them. I am so happy for her!💕

[@creative2716]

As a new mother, you will have a tendency to over- obsess about dangers surrounding your child. Be aware your own insecurities can make it really hard on your child. You and your husband should always take about those issues and come to a mutual decision, to take the stress off. Very important. I am so happy for you (all three of you). I pray for a healthy & happy baby for you.

[@jobinapurvis920]

I agree

[@LY-wl3uf]

I don’t even have the words. You’re truly an outstanding woman Jeannie. Your baby is the luckiest in the world to have this version of you as their mom. 💗

[@n2essence]

Being someone who experienced the same thing as a child, for the longest I never wanted children. And I didn't understand why until you shared it yourself on the real. And then I started therapy and realized that one day maybe I can be a great mom despite what I've gone through. I just haven't yet met someone that I trust enough to share t hat moment with, like you. I've gone through times of accidentally developing a soul and losing the child twice, and ultimately blamed myself and all of my failures. I thought I was a burden to myself at that point. But maybe I will, I love your strength and your story.

[@HelloHunnay]

I am praying with you sis. What an incredible story .. thank u for sharing and pls keep me posted on how u are doing !

[@nsalimk1449]

Sending hugs and prayers for you to heal in Jesus name you are is special child he love you so much 😘

[@abbaswanjala8830]

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[@ytb8361]

💔💔💔💔💔 May God strengthen you I wish you the best ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@PAIP_Studio]

She is too old... If the mother is 45 years old 93 out of 100 kids are born with birth defects and health problems. It is unethical to have a kid at her age.

[@yasmeensbeauty2328]

I’ve had a similar experience. Was in an unhealthy relationship and never wanted a family. Found the man of my dreams and now I’m pregnant! The story of you dreaming and being awoken by your baby kicking is so moving. Good luck Jeanie. Live happy, free and fulfilled!

[@mqk1697]

Jeanie, your growth as a person over the years has been one of the most important examples in my life, reminding me time and time again that I am capable of overcoming my own obstacles. Thank you for choosing to be honest with your life journey.

[@misss7758]

So because she is pregnant that's growth? It's simple as she got married and the man wanted a child.

[@HelloHunnay]

Thank you for growing with me!

[@WallFlower08]

@@misss7758 Boy bye!!!

[@saradowdi8938]

I *WAS* meant to be a mom 😭 That hit me straight in the feels. I met Jeannie as an audience member in front row. She gave me a hug and was the kindest and most humble person. She deserves nothing but the best. I'm also due in January, Jeannie! Praying for our baby boys to be healthy and strong💙💙 Sending you soo much love!

[@shirleybanks6582]

I love when you said, “I was meant to be a Mom” ... that was absolutely breathtaking 💕You will be a great Mom🙏🏽

[@daishamariee]

Jeannie is easily one of the most honest and genuine kind hearted real person on TV.

[@loualbino5536]

😂😂😂

[@choltaire]

No shes not

[@powerfulthoughts1481]

@@choltaire exactly 😅😅😅😅

[@alanboy5532]

@@choltaire she's not but you're on her KZbin channel tho? 😭😭😭

[@dreamhunter5778]

her reason for not having a baby before are so valid. She finally feels safe and it makes sense for her to have a baby.

[@Blueheadhotshot]

I’ve never rooted for anyone as much as I have for Jennie. For a lack of better words, she is an incredible person.

[@ms.mystique8669]

Do you know her personally? You fanatics are a "special" breed.

[@queenvictory6916]

@@ms.mystique8669 you don’t have to know a person personally to want the best for them, I’m just saying.

[@pinksushi6375]

When I tell you that I bawled during this video. I am only a 19 year old girl, miles away from you, trying to dip her toes into adulthood. Thank you so much for teaching me the lessons that not even my mother could.

[@SandraJCTaylor]

This is so touching. You didn't have to explain yourself but I'm glad that you are able to overcome your past and be in a healthy, loving, and safe relationship to raise your baby. 💕

[@jocelynnicole663]

I love Jeannie Mai’s mindset because it shows how selfless she is and there aren’t many like her in this world today. She is honestly so smart with how she chooses to live her life and I respect her so much for that 🤍 her pain brought her wisdom and I really do relate to that!

[@lindamafunu8260]

Jeannie makes cry and most of the stuff she mentions I really relate to her like i have never related to anyone. Because it feels like that’s exactly my reality. Seeing her flourish gives me hope that all is going to be better with time with God ‘s blessing. I hope you keep shining and growing emotionally and spiritually in your journey as an adult, a mother, a partner. I will also be doing the same.

[@faithcamille5089]

I can't get over how impactful your platform is Jeannie. God uses you in such impactful ways. Thank you for being willing to share and be so transparent with us. You are truly inspiring in so many ways. That kid has the best momma ever!

[@smilesallround]

Off topic but is that you in your profile pic? If so, you're really pretty 😊

[@murticejackson5133]

Congrats Jeanie. I'm glad you are finally enjoying happiness in your life. God's blessings to you and your family.

[@toopoiseddiary]

I here hurting. I feel you Jeannie. I just need you to trust that everything is going to be okay. 💕

[@a1anna]

You caught my eye a cpl seasons back on the real on an episode where you started crying when discussing your trauma as a child. In that moment i felt this connection bc you were on the show everyday happy & bright & all these great things but internally still trying to cope with what had happened to you. I used to struggle in silence about my ptsd and seeing you made me feel not alone & how much you are an advocate for women who go through those things. I know it’s a hard knock life out here but Jeannie you got this fr! We have watched you evolve into the woman you are today and everytime i see a post or story, i get more & more proud of you! It’s so many young women like me who see you and feel like nothing is untouchable! Try not to be hard on yourself and sit and reflect on this amazing life you have worked so hard for. It’s scary & it’s not a book on how to be the perfect mother but the fact that you’re already so worried & wanting to give this baby everything you didn’t have makes you perfect already. I’ll always be rooting for you Jeannie🤍

[@evethmartin-morris5391]

I here you girl life is hard we women go through a lot it comes out i different ways in life I no and understand what u e saying

[@HelloHunnay]

We're never truly alone. We've got each other!

[@amazing5392]

You such a sweetheart ❤ God bless you

[@amara523]

well said. i agree with all you said.

[@gabriellaaresto6484]

“I was meant to be a mom” !!! I balled. I look at you and listen to your story and there’s so much I can relate to. Tho I’m not ready to be a mom, I know that because of my struggles and the healing that came through that, god has prepared me to love, just as he has prepared you. I’m so happy for you Jeannie. Thank you for always being real. You have no idea how many log us you are helping. ❤️

[@Kimberlydo97]

Jeannie, hearing you say "I was meant to be a mom" was so touching. God's timing and healing is so perfect. Thank you for being raw & honest. I am so happy for you, Jeezy, and baby!

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

Jeannie, you are glowing *Spiritually* and the light you're shining is leading others to a closer relationship with the Lord and a deeper faith. Keep shining! Your raw openness invites others to investigate the traumas in their lives, overcome them, and march forward into many aspects of Love. I'm so glad I found your channel yesterday! 🤱🏽🍼🤗🥰

[@brendadickson9583]

True her openenes is helping me to know even after the trauma I went through I will find love n will heal

[@nicolejohnson952]

Girl I felt this completely, “I don’t trust myself to protect someone else” . Girl you will be an amazing mother! I felt this same way before having my daughter , I’m 25.

[@as19J01]

I haven't been through the same trauma as she as and I'm still scared of raising children knowing very well what people are capable of. So to know that Jeannie has come so far that she's now ready to have children is amazing 💖

[@Stephsgotit]

You never disappoint Jeannie. I'm so happy and proud of you, coming full circle is quite an experience. You are going to be a great mother. Not because you're perfect, but because you've had good and bad experiences and you know the difference. So you can direct your words and actions in a direction that can be more helpful to you and your growing family. Hope that made as much sense outside my head as it did insides. LOL Thanks for always being you, in all your stages.

[@HelloHunnay]

It definitely made sense. Thank you!

[@TheJoyJourney]

“I was meant to be a mom” So beautifully stated Jeanie! Yes you were! What a great affirmation for us mamas that took the scenic route to our babies. God bless you. This one was a tearjerker for me🥲.

[@normacolon9618]

Scenic route????? Would like to know what that is in this case??

[@TheJoyJourney]

@@normacolon9618 Meaning not your traditional love….then….marriage….then baby in a baby carriage. For many of us it’s a little more complicated than that.

[@ngonhuthuy2124]

I can't fully express how listening to your stories helped me. I too went through the traumatic childhood, went through a first marriage, not ever wanting kids but now I do with my love. Listening to you talk, sharing that with your fam especially your mom, it's healing me slowly inside. Being in a traditional Vietnamese family, abuse and divorce is not easy to bring up. Thanks for being my outlet. I'm super proud to witness a Vietnamese woman influencer in this generation ❤

[@Zepha-Education]

When a woman (makes up her mind) and says she not going to carry your children her body is aware. But when love really takes over there's no no no limit... and that's what happened to Jeannie! There's nothing like carrying a baby for that man you bond with ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ThePeetes]

I was the same. I met my husband and had zero desire to be married or to have children. After a few years I realized he was such a great man 🥺 a great human. Somebody I could trust to have a child with. To make a commitment to. Someone I knew wouldn’t abuse or abandon me or our child. It was absolutely because of my own trauma I didn’t want to get married or have a child but I found someone that made me feel safe, heard and loved. So happy you found the same ❤️

[@normacolon9618]

Happy u found the one. I have 2 and never found that love from them had to do it practically By myself

[@DannieLj14]

This is awesome to hear and makes me hopeful. I don't want to be married or have children due to my past experiences. I pray I'm healthy enough mentally and emotionally to accept the right man into my life to maybe have these things. From one woman to another, I'm genuinely happy for you and any woman who finds this!!💜💜

[@fiesta195]

"When God shows who's in charge" that a take home. I love you so much Jeannie and am truly happy for you.

[@ladeelesha9824]

This was so real and vulnerable. Self realization is such a powerful thing. Continued blessings🙏🏾

[@pf5219]

I always told everyone and myself that I didn’t want kids and I always said it was because of my PCOS and the fact that they told me at 16 that I couldn’t have kids. I didn’t realize until you said that failing to protect myself and having that fear of not being able to protect another human from that experience is exactly how I feel!! Please continue to always speak truthfully as so many others might have difficulty explaining or finding the exact words to say. You’re speaking for those who still have a hard time talking. ❤️❤️ wishing you the best in this new journey of yours!

[@NestingNova]

Bless the person that organized these words. 😘

[@NestingNova]

Bless the person that organized these words. 😘

[@StressedOutMonkey]

It was the, "I WAS meant to be a mom" that did me in. That touched my heart and made me feel so proud of you, Jeannie. Sending you lots of love from a fellow Vietnamese homiee

[@rebeccataylor7728]

This is such a full circle moment for all the people who have watched Jeannie from the beginning of The Real & her first marriage to now. She has always radiated such positive energy but now she just radiates this beautiful happiness and love. 💗 I’m so excited to see her be such an amazing mommy

[@phanienelson5175]

Jeannie, I can say so many things about what you said in this video. The fact that you are making a conscious effort to be a better parent is most of the battle. Once you see your child, God will give you EVERYTHING you need to raise them healthy and secure. I felt the same way you feel about having kids and it is my constant prayers before God that helps me. Blessings and peace to you.

[@kaverirozoseua3459]

Jeannie would make a good actress. She is an extraordinary story teller. I can listen to her speak all day.

[@gertrudecalloway7649]

I think U will make a good Mom, because U waited until U was ready. A baby showed you'll love for each other.😃💯😃 Bless the three of you'll Calloway 👌I love your show.

[@itszbebabaybee]

I’ve thought the same thing! I wonder if she would ever consider acting

[@Joseph-zd7kg]

She is an actress...

[@stormyzee5272]

This year has taught me that anything is possible when God is leading us. I'm so inspired to just let go of my fear and the pain. God really be loving us through the people in our lives. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️🙏🏾 God bless you and your family ❤️❤️

[@chinanguyen2260]

I need to do the same and let go.

[@sweetcaramel4750]

Aww Your comment is so Beautiful and enlightening I Love how You say God loves Us through other People You are so Wise ❤

[@FruityUnicorn17]

“God loves us through the people in our life” I love that.

[@conservativenewyorker7384]

Yes, let go and let God 🙏🏻

[@bonitapandora]

God knew I need to see this comment. Been living in fear and terrified to dream, but I’m slowly (snail slow lol) coming out of that. Blessings to you and everyone in the comments.

[@0104brit]

Even though you don't owe us an explanation, I'm glad you shared your story in YOUR words. I hated all of the speculation done by people who don't even know you. It's your journey, and your growth 💜💚

[@aaabbbcccc3171]

My husband came from a broken home and a very tough upbringing. He swore up and down he never wanted to get married nor have any kids. Here we are today married with 3 kids and he’s talking about us maybe having a fourth child. It takes that right kind of love and happiness and it can change your whole world. God brings people in and out of your life for a reason! This episode of yours really hit home for me because In some ways it reminds me of my husband.

[@BF-bb5us]

Some women don't want kids full stop and it's very patronising when people tell them they will change their mind

[@aaabbbcccc3171]

@@BF-bb5us what does that have to do with anything i just said?

[@blacklungsanji3]

@@BF-bb5us what does this have to do with a comment or the video? What Jeanie talked about is that due to her life experience she didn’t want to have kids and how she changed her mind after being in a good relationship and the commenter is talking about her relating through her husband’s situation with the video.

[@BF-bb5us]

@@blacklungsanji3 it's clear my comment was to say that irrespective of trauma, some women or men simply do not want kids. We always try and conjure up excuses as to why some don't want kids because we can't handle that not everyone wants the same thing!

[@aaabbbcccc3171]

@@BF-bb5us Once again, what does that have to do with my comment let alone the video? Don’t take a beautiful comment and a beautiful video to twist it into someone’s else’s trauma or anything of that nature. It’s okay to let ppl change. It’s okay to let ppl be happy. If you paid any attention to the video, it’s clear she wanted kids, it’s clear it was HER decision. And the same thing goes for my husband. It was HIS decision. So, a certain kind of love, something special, can really change a persons heart in a GOOD way. Keep that way. Don’t distort someone’s happy ending just because someone else’s ending is different.

[@whitelotusbaby9160]

You are going to be a great mom Jeannie! 42 is still a great age to have a child, possibly two. I had my first baby at 52 and it was the best decision ever!

[@CROSSTATT]

That's a wonderful story! I believe that you women can birth a baby and have a healthy low risk pregnancy, also. Even we men can have fertility issues. It is so important that we are sensitive to others about this issue. I don't just mean you and me, I mean people in general.

[@ChisomAkahTV]

Oh wow. Thanks for sharing

[@BeeChance]

Great testimony

[@DaCash_C]

Omg that’s so beautiful

[@chelsiebarbara4722]

Wow! This is wonderful and inspiring

[@josethuzhca1271]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I am 26 and I never wanted to be a mom, ever, but now that I’m in a relationship where I feel safe and now that I am actually trying to do the work to heal and be a better person, I actually feel like I want a lil girl 💕

[@stixb.7749]

when jeannie talked about feeling bullied by others, even when on camera, i know exactly who and what she's referring too. I love watching old clips from 'the real,' and i could always see the lowkey look of defeat on jeannie's face when this person would take jabs at her. i could always tell that jeannie didn't really know how to stand up for herself all the way, especially with the personality of the person she was dealing with, and it broke my heart. but its clear that this is a different jeannie that we see now. jeannie, your new found confidence makes you GLOW! you stand in your beliefs, and as a fan i'm so proud of you and i'm so happy that YOU'RE happy.

[@trulyrblessed]

@Mama Universe Tamar!!! But all the girls would take slick shots

[@jyn88]

@@trulyrblessed I think Tamar got better over the seasons though. Amanda was another who didn't seem to like Jeannie.

[@misselle1430]

Why did they not like her ?!!

[@bbdass4598]

Tamar did, Adrienne joined in too. Every guy except Freddy dumped her. But let's be real Jeannie was also bullying and nasty to Freddy. It's all on camera . It's fine if she didn't want Freddy. But she really abused a good guy from her baggage.

[@kathyalexnguyen]

@@bbdass4598 agreed. But I don’t see why Freddy and his partner still feel the need to talk trash on Jeannie after her announcement that she’s pregnant. Seems utterly childish considereing he has his own family. At least Jeannie has grown up and continues to work through her issues and problems.

[@ramirezanamarie]

A child is a miracle of God. How beautiful is the love of God for us. Congratulations.

[@sofiacabrera3473]

amen God is good

[@TheAniyaMarie]

God is with you Jeannie & He spoke to you through your baby when he/she woke you from your bad dream.God loves you & He’s not done with you ❤️🙏🏾

[@titisikeu9398]

Jeannie, no body will ever hurt you again! You are safe and Jay is there to protect you.I have no doubt you both are going to be amazing as a parents.You are an inspiration to me.

[@BriaBarrows]

Amen

[@Idontknowho.]

You can tell the baby has played a huge part in Jeannie’s healing 💕 she deserves to be happy and is going to be an amazing mother 🤗💜

[@larrywells4437]

You’re going to be such a great mother, Ms. Jenkins. You and your husband’s child will know a love that’s so unreal that when they explain it to other ppl it’ll sound like a fairy tale. God will protect all of you. You got this:)

[@starchannel123]

Like a fairy tale? Don’t exaggerate. The child is going to have old parents. That comes with some hardships down the line.

[@larrywells4437]

I can see you didn’t really pay attention to my post which is sad. I was referring to the love they will give to their child. And I hope you receive the same love from your parents.

[@marleenb4705]

I love how you are glowing. Your so fruitful... you can tell your so full of love ❤. Thank you for sharing with us your most intimate personal experiences within your life. I love you.

[@HelloHunnay]

And thank YOU for listening and going thru this with me!

[@AshleyKelly777]

I admire you, Jeannie. I know I'm not only speaking for myself when I say, you never cease to make me smile, laugh, ugly cry, etc.. Vulnerability is not easy. You have a choice to not share the "bad & the ugly" but you do... Thank you for that!! You impact and inspire so many. I value your decision (both times), & ELATED that you are now about to welcome Baby J to the world, glowing as you are. 🥰💖

[@FruityUnicorn17]

Thank you for being so honest. This definitely reminds me of how important healing from childhood trauma is and how vital that feeling of safety in a relationship truly is.

[@HazelVTcha]

I’m sorry for what you’ve had to go through. Trauma stays with you forever and I’m glad you’ve found someone to hold you when you need it. Your video with your mom about the abuse made me come out to my mom about my abuse I remembered when I was around 7-8 years old. Thank you for such a raw video. ❤️

[@abbyguerrero2303]

I’m sorry you’ve went through all that you have Jeannie. No child deserves to go through those life-changing trauma experiences. It was never your fault. ❤️ you’re so strong and I truly admire you!, you’ve shown me it’s okay to not always be okay, to face head on all of the trauma & break generational curses of never speaking out. We love you Jeannie Mai❤️.

[@HelloHunnay]

Love u too Abby!!

[@kingbentley8210]

“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans”

[@etf42]

what bible verse is this?

[@dianakatamani6638]

@@etf42 it’s not a verse just a saying

[@cynthiapalacio7026]

Proverbs 19:21

[@dianakatamani6638]

@@cynthiapalacio7026 it’s not the same but I get it🙏🏾

[@philisiwengxabani9587]

Childhood trauma is so painful, I share the same sentiments like you Jeannie. I do have a daughter but she is everything i am not and i thank god everyday. She is so vocal, smart, confident everything i was not. I grow up in times where as a child you just do as you told our parents built this huge wall that they are parents and we are children you cant share. I really admire you...

[@wendymunoz3860]

At the end when you said “I was really meant to be a mom” I felt that in my heart. You are going to be an amazing mom, no doubt about it.

[@mistymojones9280]

Jeannie!!!! My son was born when I was 41 I went thru all of those emotions, thru him I have been healing, unlearning, facing my fears and regaining my confidence. Being sexually violated as a child and never feeling emotionally safe is traumatizing to say the least... Heal on Jeannie & Thank you for being so transparent.

[@samarakiely2733]

Love how u still advocate for woman’s choice and childless woman!! Love that, so many people go so the other way and try and convince women that they to will change their mind one day, instead you just shared you journey and still spoke up strong for the past Jeanie and other women, love that so much, a lot of respect for your balance and maturity

[@AnneMSantiago]

I love how humble, vulnerable, and real she is.

[@lizzymillymizzy2680]

Every woman has the right of autonomy over her own body and to decide whether or not she wants and needs to be a mother. When it is done for the right reasons, they make awesome mommies! Congrats Jeannie you're going to be absolutely fabulous! Your Mai-Fam believe in you #babyJ 💖💖💖

[@thezanarose]

Sounds like she has PTSD with her dreams/nightmares. That feeling of being unsafe is usually PTSD or CPTSD. I’m pleased she has overcome so much. That takes immense strength.

[@melindahmkhwanazi]

I'm just happy you got to decide whether you wanted a baby. You got to plan, you had the opportunity to get a man that truly wants to be a father. That last part is key, it's so important.

[@SheSomeoneSpecial]

I cried watching this, I never ever heard my true feelings out loud.🥺 the “not feeling safe” & everything else resonate so well.🥺 I felt this too my core.😭🥺

[@beverlygarza733]

Bless you

[@TheQweenVLOGS]

I love how you are able to articulate your feelings and fears. This is life changing and to be able to see the growth and realizations concerning so many relationships is amazing. You got this girl!

[@BSOG3]

I hope she is able to forgive her tormenter. She did nothing wrong, was a victim of the bum who abused her, and she survived it. Jeezy is a strong man who loves her for the full and whole woman that she his. I'm happy for them and hope the best for their little baby and family. Thanks for sharing your story Jeannie and just live in love. Be blessed!

[@phenixmccoy4387]

Yes wishing them the best

[@beautifulgal92]

It's okay not to forgive someone. You can not forgive someone and still heal.

[@emilycruz5708]

​@@beautifulgal92 I can see that, I was molested as a child. I forgave him not because he deserved it. No, because I didn't want it to control me. He has no control over me. I forgave myself and I forgave my mom for not seeing the signs and being too trusting.

[@erico0310]

You deserve every bit of happiness and I love seeing you so happy. You've got this, Jeannie! You're going to be an amazing parent!

[@HelloHunnay]

Thank you Eric!

[@brittaniimarkee]

This makes me so sad to watch back after the fact. I was so hopeful and so happy for her to find this kind of love. It was inspiring. Now I’m just like… well…. Anything can happen.

[@mariyaa111]

As a Capricorn, empath sister who has been through the same thing as a child… I could always see in Jeannie that it wasn’t that she didn’t want kids, it was that the thought of having kids and then being hurt, and going through what she went through as a child, scared the life out of her.… She is going to make the most amazing mother ever, I am betting she has a baby girl, life is funny ways of bringing everything full circle! Jeannie DO NOT WORRY! My husband and I are both over protective bc we both had childhood sexual abuse, we communicate with our children in ways that our parents weren’t capable of, our children have been taught since they could speak that their body is their body and that they are in control of who is allowed to touch them, even my husband and I. We teach them that they are ALWAYS allowed to say NO to physical contact. We ask if we can have a hug, we explain to them in a way that they can understand that bad things can happen and we don’t allow sleepovers at all. I cried watching my this video. I can’t wait to see your beautiful baby!!

[@kkay9144]

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[@prayerwarrior3030]

Thats new age

[@aseasyas4cfro643]

🤍

[@beinfinefeather205]

I can't even! oh God, I'm so emotional watching this and literally sobbing. the level of happiness that I feel from you and for you is so high. Congrats to u both!

[@fmanzo13]

Not me crying at my sons baseball game! Jeannie Mai, you are so ready to join MotheHood! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@HelloHunnay]

LOLLL omg! Thank youuu

[@tashalmwoods7103]

I can relate to what Jeannie is saying about trust and fear. I am so happy that she found love, safe love, strong love, trusting love and is in a great space in life. Thank you for speaking your truth ! Thank you for facing your fears. I salute you as a woman, a wife and a mom. You rock 🥰

[@NPUnplugged]

I use to have dreams about falling down the steps with my daughter in my arms while I was pregnant, I use to wake up in the middle of the night terrified bc I thought I rolled over on her, but she’d be in her bassinet sleeping. Those thoughts won’t ever really end, but I believe that is what makes us stronger, and more aware. My daughter will be 5 and I swear I haven’t had a good nights sleep since I found out I was pregnant lol, but it’s so worth it and I cannot fathom how I lived 30 years without her. Once your baby is born the need to protect your child will be stronger than ever, no matter what your baby will always love you unconditionally.

[@estherturay1174]

Me too

[@ET-zd2er]

This video spoke to the deepest part of my being. You described your morning incident with so much heart one could feel Baby Jenkins’ sweet and strong healing energy kicking you awake-Baby Jenkins fiercely loves you! Thank you for sharing and being so open with your journey, you are helping liberate and initiate healing to so many viewers. Blessings💖

[@NicoleEstUneFille]

The piece around psychological safety that she speaks about is so validating. Thanks for truth-telling JM!

[@MrVevlet]

Agreed! I actually raised it in therapy. It really resonated with me.

[@meemeepalmer4144]

The fact that u r scared n crying at the thought of ur child possibly being harmed,shows us that U r a strong woman n mommy.u have protected ur baby from day one so I know once it is born U r going to b mommy bear n will maul anyone who even look like harming baby Jenkins.I see the love all over n thru U!!! The baby is lucky to have u as a mommy!!!💞💞💞💞👍🏽

[@roseom2878]

Jeanie I just want to give you the warmest hug.When you said:"I never felt safe in my entire life". I felt that! The road to recovery is long. But look at God!! You have a wonderful partner now. Seeing you happy gives me so much joy. Praying that God protects and guides you on this journey

[@ashleykoonce584]

I like how her baby was kicking her and trying to wake her up. It was like the baby was saying, “Mommy wake up. You’re safe now. Daddy and I can protect you now. Mommy, you’re safe now. Wake up.”

[@bennysmiley]

Jeannie has really taught me so much throughout the years: respect women’s choice of not wanting to have kids, the importance of healing and that divorce isn’t definitely a failure. Thank you so so much for opening to us and your vulnerability!

[@shwetaheals]

Hi, I am from India and I hardly watch any video outside my country, not bcz I discriminate but it never happened, but today when I was confused whether to have kids at 32 or not and I found your video, I cried first time listening to someone outside India, thank you so much lady. Hope you have a great motherhood

[@muycaliente6196]

Honestly that's the reason why I don't want to have kids either. I'm crying and nodding along to what you're saying. But if anyone can protect their kid from such situations it's you Jeannie ❤

[@CLM83]

Thank you, Jeannie. You being open and talking about feeling ‘safe’ in the love you’ve founded with your soulmate….mannn… I’m in a 14 year relationship with someone. No children. Never had that urge or so. After a lot of thinking I know now that the lack of safety in my relation prevented me to be my true self. You are such a positive inspiration. Thank you for being you!

[@HelloHunnay]

This can be worked on. Present this to your partner, and suggest therapy for you both. Things can change.. 14 years is a long time. Otherwise .. u know the answer ❤️

[@m.samuel6350]

“Be happy with who you are and what you do, and you can do anything you want.” Jeannie, Your heart and mind is ready to be the best Mother you can be! You were meant to be the beautiful Mother you are soon to become🙏🏻 God got you and no one can ever hurt you again. You’ve learned that not only will you stand up for yourself but that God will fight your battles for you.😍😍😍😍

[@modikiramaisa4619]

😢😢😢😢 sending you tons of love Jeannie ❤