Her man of 5 months asks her to wait 15 days before committing to her. He told her to wait.

[@RShaun]

I know people use “the prize” but women should consider themselves like a bank account. Either people are depositing in you or making withdrawals. Don’t allow yourself to go insufficient because you didn’t put a withdrawal limit (boundaries) before you knew what that direct deposit schedule (consistency) looked like.

[@Nicoe0987]

💜💜💜

[@rekanova3757]

This is facts! ❤

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

👏🏽👏🏽💯💯👍🏽👍🏽

[@moblack5883]

This is real

[@separateifyoucantrelate.]

Well said.

[@tisha812]

Question….why would you even want to start a relationship like this? He has to ponder….clear his head….move his furniture…set a follow up call for the 15th….do his laundry….phone a friend….all this just to say whether or not he wants to be in a relationship with you. I’m exhausted just listening to this. You’re beautiful…exhale and carry on Sis!!! When entering into a relationship it should feel good….Butterflies…flowers…and rainbows. I feel like you’re trying to comb through the weeds just to make it official with him.

[@she2good2btrue]

Send that man a “I hope all goes well with your move & your next” & keep it moving

[@mrs.w8193]

Actually silence is better. Just ghost delete and block. Any response is a validation. Hat gets under men’s skin is silence. No need to announce your departure. Just go

[@jayscott5618]

Or just move on

[@Mshaykay]

If he has to think about it.... He's just not that into you! 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@okbutexplainthis]

Would you say that to a man? “If she’s not down on night one, end it”. Sounds crazy right?

[@Lmao10752]

@@okbutexplainthisyou sound crazy comparing a woman giving her body a man on the first date to a man not knowing if he wants to be with a woman he has dated for 5 months….and been intimate with lol

[@cherishisgrace]

@@okbutexplainthis Some of y'all come up with the most ridiculous things to say. Y'all out here looking for free prostitutes and trying to compare it to a man not committing to a relationship, smh.

[@lesliejohnson-nelson4003]

@@okbutexplainthis it's been 5 months, keep up

[@okbutexplainthis]

@@lesliejohnson-nelson4003 Be nice, Leslie

[@piscespisces6]

“Until the 15th comes I don’t know where we’re gonna go from here” 💀 Bless her heart.

[@virtuous_committed]

No way in the world , a man would give me a deadline and tell me to wait. I would be cool to say OK. He would never hear from me again. And when he comes back I will tell him I made a decision for you.

[@justlurkin]

The catch 22 with you women is you have too much ego for men with standards but think you're better than the men without standards leaving you in no man's land. That's why you'll say to a man that isn't chasing you that you have a bunch of options anyways but then look at your options like you deserve better than them.

[@mrs.w8193]

Boom 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@debbyo8562]

These women are too grown to be feeling like this when a man wants you you know! Why would you wait for a man to make a decision? A man tried that breadcrumbing thing after a few weeks of dating he’s now blocked please ladies work on your mindfulness and well-being first! Be okay with being alone it’s a game changer

[@truettadevil]

It's like... block first, then think about it lol

[@Kissmyass155]

Many women are not use to being treated right so we don’t know what it looks like.

[@bisnisldy1]

Awww she definitely need to boost her self esteem. She thinking about that body count. She got so excited when she said suppose he says yes after 15 days😮 baby girl no! The mere fact that he not including you with the process of the move is all you need to know. Even if you’re not moving in together where is the involvement? He’s keeping you separate. Why isn’t he including you with it? Most people run towards their love interest to help keep them focused but he’s not doing that. But because she doesn’t want another body count she hoping for this disappointment. Self esteem is crucial here. We women cannot afford casual sex.

[@Gem-n-life]

The last sentence is entire word! I hope we begin to internalise and embody this!!

[@jetskipapi6193]

I'm gonna start telling ladies to wait until the 15th for my decision😂😂😂😂

[@natashaallen3502]

😅😅😅

[@caseyjakemorris]

Sounds like these job recruiters. Check in with me in two weeks for an update.

[@Time4change111]

I hope you're prepared to receive the same that you give out

[@jetskipapi6193]

@@Time4change111 Most definitely

[@beewilder7144]

​@@caseyjakemorrislol.. At the moment He's still reviewing other candidates. But he will be in touch soon and at the very latest will contact by the15th.

[@ruthgarcia5424]

Mama what was your requirements at the beginning?? Did you require exclusivity by a certain time frame? If the goals are off then move on. NEXT. Require it next time and have a timeline of purpose, this way people know when to check out if they not ready. Good luck ❤

[@tmcurly]

Didn’t require Jack

[@yanou4u]

The man dropped some gems. The chat section was filled with people with rocks for brains.

[@beewilder7144]

He's undateable. He claims to be healed. But he probably encourages and validates those women who give him attention. I'm throwing the red flag on this one.

[@bitokay147]

I love how she looks now , its a glow she is beautiful just have to show it !

[@mrs.w8193]

Get the relationship label before giving the cookie away. Once you’ve slept with him, you doing things backwards. It’s much harder cut your loses girl and move on. No goodbye, no closure just block and delete. Silence is golden.

[@Cherokeecandie]

Who said “Next Caller” 😂 I agree, is there a question or what?

[@mrs.w8193]

Damn the second guy can talk jeez. I fast forwarded and He STILL talking 😂😂😂

[@nailartexpress-pressonnails]

He is what he shows you!!!! Us as women gotta listen to our intuition and have discernment and move on!

[@didokinney9173]

Shawn was definitely speaking to truth alot of people need to listen to his message. They can learn from him. May God continue to bless him 😇🙏🏽

[@theveryplumdarcey]

That man needs to stop saying "you feel me" it sounds so dumb.

[@theendobeautee]

I didn’t mind that but I get you. I very much disliked his response to someone saying next caller. Like he didn’t need to respond like that or at all. People in comments will always be spicy. How people respond to little things like that tells me you don’t have discipline

[@theveryplumdarcey]

@@theendobeautee Agreed 👍🏾

[@HauzPlant]

I love when this man speaks. He’s so real

[@HeauxlisticLux]

Wait for an answer 😂...Boy bye, good luck with everything and take care. The end... Hopefully, you enjoyed the s3x & dates- chalk it up as a learning experience...Move on and don't look back...

[@AllThingsTara]

For the First Lady, I agree with everything Ashley said. Check out this book: Worthy by Jamie Lima Kerns

[@Nicoe0987]

Thank you! I'm ordering it,just read the reviews on it.

[@scampbell3207]

Me too, thank you

[@caseyjakemorris]

She’s dating out of her league, in all honesty. She’s not his best option. Deep down she knew that, which is why she didn’t push for commitment before 5 months in.

[@CleoCleans]

He got what he wanted. I’m sorry but you were intimate before commitment and even before clarifying. Ashley is 💯 correct. It’s sad that nobody is teaching these women this from earlier

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

Miss Lady, this guy already knows you ain't the one,,, men aren't complex, if they want you for a commitment, they aren't gonna keep you on HOLD they want you off the dating market ASAP

[@barackmarley4963]

If everyone is now a queen......then no one is truly a queen anymore.

[@s.crockett5457]

🎯COME ON... SAY THAT!!! The value isn't the same

[@Maremare680]

I don’t allow anyone to call me that.🙄

[@tmcurly]

Queen = a man’s wife IMO Legal marriage

[@dday3322]

Same for “king”.

[@barackmarley4963]

@@dday3322 tell me where on social media is there an over saturation of black men calling each other king.

[@moneydee9903]

People are overthinking this….. homie hit it, the box was trash so he’s trying to be nice. Side piece at best,sorry She’s a goddess? Says who? Clearly not the King that smashed and dashed. Delusional female logic😂😂

[@_belloty1394]

She should’ve given him till the next day ..to make up his mind .

[@sylviabooze7122]

Ugh 😩!!! so tired of ninjas getting on here preaching to women like they have all the answers instead of being about what Ashleigh’s channel is for

[@NoName-eq4fc]

Yeah I turned his part off. I didn't hear anything of what he said other than rambling.

[@MilaniB20]

If you’re looking to date & marry a man & be with him lifelong, then you have to listen to him & his perspectives. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@VWHNeal1018]

No go with the flow. I believe when you are starting to date, have a few suitors. Go out have dates, have fun and do different things to see how flexible the guys are. Go to breakfast, dinner, hiking, shopping, biking, a vacation, bowling , dancing. See how well those individuals fit into the things you enjoy in your life. And you will experience and see how well they fit with you. Never give your interest or time to someone who is not committed to a long term relationship.

[@MilaniB20]

She needs to date one person at a time to preserve time, energy, & money & vet properly, have discernment, have self control, have standards, have boundaries etc.

[@aquafina6544]

I grew up with both parents but we were not shown love. I never knew i was pretty til college i never knew how to be in a relationship or what a good relationship was bcus my dad was domineering manipulative mean asf and abusive. I was rased to be see and not heard especially if company came over.

[@tmcurly]

Coming to ask Ashley when you know the answer already ma’am 🙂‍↔️🙂‍↕️..

[@ShayLamere]

He’s full of fluff & has so many words that don’t answer the question.

[@gigif169]

Wow...the self esteem is in the toilet

[@iamgoddess9790]

that guy is in competition with women.

[@Topself24]

The chat is NEVER wrong. He high key talks too much. Yes it’s a chat platform but there should be even dialogue. It’s giving attention seeking and I do not think that’s a great quality in a man.

[@jalexiaofori4455]

If a man said "we will see where things go".it's a vibe ".let's not rush and see where things go"."lets wait for God's timing ".if you hear any of theses thing from a man runnñnnnnn to the nearest exit !

[@imanimcdonald4200]

That man is speaking nothing but facts. I thank Yahweh daily for my father. Rest well!!! That’s why it’s important not to have kids with. Too many broken humans who weren’t raised with self love

[@opinionatorX]

Sadly..Like most women. She has to many issues with herself and will go back to dudeno matter what. It's time for people to start taking time off from relationships and start working on themselves to be equipped.

[@radley3519]

The young lady from Tennessee/ phlebotomist would be cute with the guy in this video

[@genovasquez8361]

if i start of dating a woman, im never giving her relationship i dont have relationships with women i go on dates with.

[@HeauxlisticLux]

How didn't your autocorrect catch those lower case i's?... You are so unserious 😂

[@genovasquez8361]

@@HeauxlisticLux i dont care about english grammer, ill purposely spell words wrong now, engklish iz what we spek due to wyte supremacym, anglo saxons language , i will say just enuff fo yo a-Frame to overstand wat im sayin yo, it do what it do, u underdig, EYE sea u. feel me

[@juliatripp2010]

Eeuwwwe

[@genovasquez8361]

@@juliatripp2010 it seems like we are on the same channels

[@HeauxlisticLux]

@genovasquez8361 There truly is no hope for some of ya'll...