Hey Steve: Having A Baby On My Own

[@inthezonenews]

I'm a single mom and its very difficult, my son father died when he was a baby. My son is now 18 and hurts and cried in my arms expressing his need for a father. I'm looking for a male mentor for him.

[@ladycatfish2896]

Says every single mom. Now, in your case, you didn't divorce your husband or he wasn't a deadbeat loser, but most dudes still won't want to be a pseudo-daddy. And those dudes who do......probably aren't gonna be dudes with a high self-esteem. I'm assuming you are a Western female. Not only that, your son is now 18. Isn't it a bit too late to get a daddy now? The years are already gone and he is an adult now. He needs to be his own daddy, so to speak. If all he needs is some mentor, that's what coaches are for. Male teachers, pastors, etc.

[@helialamster4002]

Shout out to you raising a kid by yourself.you are such a Beautiful soul

[@FaithandNova]

@@ladycatfish2896 it's NEVER to late for a dad. I mentor teens and young adults they need the love from both a mother and a father. They express their hurt and pain from feeling incomplete

[@Mohamedbkrrr]

Seems like a good solution. Find him a mentor. Good luck

[@Uchawibeatz]

So sorry for your loss!

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

Isn't what she describing known as a 'sperm bank.'

[@joshua50101]

exactly what I was thinking, you don't even really need to go up to some guy and come to an crappy agreement on that matter, seems more like she is kinda dissapointed on herself to think that way and wants some guy to lift her up by cliches such as: "you are smart" "you've got your act together go find some guy to form a family with" etc.

[@TomiaMacQueen]

She probably wants more choice in the man she chooses. You don't get to meet and ask questions if a sperm donor..

[@StrongnBeautiful]

Yes. She wasn't asking about *how* she was contemplating *should* .

[@Aya.82]

Yes, but the way she mentioned it's cheaper or no money plus she get to meet the man in person.

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

Steve is true. Being a single mom is never easy. Even if you can support your child, he will still long for a father. The child will still long for a complete and happy family.

[@lilshep2439]

You might as well just adopt one

[@lilshep2439]

Excellent observation but I’d rather have known that I was given away for maybe financial reasons or something else when I’m mature enough rather than my mother not wanting a male in her life cause of doubt

[@etf42]

she should only be able to adopt with a partner.

[@jessicavincent2450]

Getembydadozen 243 still raising the child alone

[@mr.richard3109]

@@etf42 not true..

[@truththekid]

Getembydadozen 243 she seems like she wants one of her own though

[@joshuavildor2824]

Regardless of how a relationship ends, a child needs their father present in their lives.

[@12MYCRYL17]

a RESPONSIBLE father/mother/parent* makes no sense if they aren't responsible enough.

[@bambi3404]

No they don’t, Myself and several others have been raised by a single parent, (in my case, my mother) and have done perfectly fine thought out childhood and adult and don’t lack any type of skills

[@joshuavildor2824]

Shiamba Crompton lucky for you. But that’s not the case for everyone else.

[@bambi3404]

Joshua Vildor yeah of course, but that doesn’t mean every child NEEDS a father. Every child deserves love, care and stability, you can find that in a single mother, a single father, two fathers, two mothers or even grandma and grandpa. A child needs love care and stability not a mother and a father specifically

[@kyramannix3950]

Nah. A lot of us are fine

[@cosmosfusion5902]

I don't understand people these days.

[@vinqunnarobinson]

For real 🙄 could of just went to a sperm bank

[@FaithandNova]

@Really 69 exactly

[@galaxi407]

You don't understand how women want to be mother's alone? It's not a new phenomena.

[@myrnaandre5490]

Hum, fathers leave too! Exactly what a woman to do? Denzel was from a single mom, do what feels right for you, be ready financially and forget everybody's opinion

[@olakunleolafisoye8433]

@Cosmos , me too. Too many crazy-thinking people these days. Too much freedom n comfort make you crazy sometimes

[@petittall557]

Lesson learned: being intellectually successful doesn't necessarily mean being smart in real life. The School of Life is the best !!!

[@pepperanntocool7665]

she is educated but afraid to make mistakes like most people

[@TomiaMacQueen]

She's educated and tired of dealing with men. The more educated the woman the harder it is. She's probably making good money as a lawyer and most men can't deal with making less than their partner because they see themselves as the bread winner. Unfortunate for the successful woman, but till often true.

[@Buggu3]

Facts!

[@the_w189]

@@TomiaMacQueen nope, woman who make a lot of money do not want men who make less, ask them, they will tell you. men can stay forever with a woman who makes a lot less money, almost all succesfull women can't. most man marry for love, most women for other reasons

[@freeman7079]

Amen. In fact, it my just make you more prone to narcissism

[@vickijones2013]

she need a puppy or foster a child

[@HD-Australia]

Yes, foster a child

[@chriss6531]

Vicki Jones you said a puppy 😭😂i know that's right, selfish ass woman

[@warreng5257]

She needs a cat hahaha

[@tati5228]

No nothing is wrong with being a single mom ... if she thinks she can handle it then she should .... the child would survive

[@ec4145]

@@tati5228 intentionally bringing a child into a fatherless home is selfish. Survival is a minimal requirement, and we should aim higher for our children.

[@rubarahman4710]

That suit looks so good on Steve!

[@SUN-it6rf]

I am a divorced mother of one. Both of us are in our daughter's life , NO if's and but's. No single parenting for us. Now she is in her 40's and well rounded in her career and social life. We owe it to the children we bring into this world. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@thambec]

Okay. So the 1st lady is a successful lawyer because she had the time to put into her career. Once she had a child (on her own), she’s not going to have that time to put into her child without help, that’s where the father is extremely useful. She THINKS that she will be able to maintain her current career momentum as a single parent, and from my understanding of American work culture, that’s not going to be an easy task. She needs to think this through more practically

[@Altamirana713]

R T All she has to do is hire a housekeeper and nanny and even a chef/cook. A nanny could even be hired to take care of the child 24/7. It’s not hard at all.

[@StrongnBeautiful]

A lot of fathers aren't "useful". *That's* the trouble.

[@Red_1976]

I’m a single Mum (not by choice) & it’s tough. Childcare is expensive & totally defeats the purpose of working full time. I gave up my job/career for a few years just to raise & spend time with my daughter.. because the early years are crucial to development. She needs to think things through, it’s definitely not a walk in the park contrary to what people with no kids think. It’s totally worth the sacrifices you make though but don’t go into having children with one eye open the other closed, your tricking yourself & will be worse off for it otherwise!

[@laurenk3459]

@@Altamirana713 Then why have a child if you are then going to ignore said child and pass them off to hired people 24/7? I was adopted by a single woman, who was making good money at the time. My grandma helped raise me but still at a certain point my mom gave up her job because it did require her to be away from home at times and she wanted to be active in my and later my brother's (she adopted again) lives. She needed to be around for us.

[@ineedhoez]

You say that like men take care of children. Women carry the slack any way.

[@jennamakinen7113]

Lesson of today: Face your fears. They might not be as big of a deal as your fear is making them to be.

[@joannbowden6220]

First of all, don't judge me. 😂 I'm a 60 y/o gramma that is devastatingly terrified of the Dark. Always have been, always will be. It's not about just turning the lights off & facing one's fears. For me it's a full blown panic attack that borders on cardiac arrest. So no, I won't be turning no lights off at night. I always worked the night shift when I was a nurse, so I could sleep in the daytime. Now that I'm retired, I stay up all night, sleep during the day. When I die no burial for me. It's dark underground.

[@benparadise11]

@@joannbowden6220 😂😂💀

[@joannbowden6220]

@@benparadise11 just curious, why do u find this funny? No, I'm not offended. My grandkids think it's funny also. Lol

[@shareforachange]

@@joannbowden6220 Wait, so you think this is NOT funny? 🤨 Fear destroys, it never builds I was actually pretty scared of the dark too but I’m learning not to right now, been walking in the dark for about a year now and something bad “that I always thought would happen, like zombies around or some evil 5hit” NEVER happens. I will not live my life based off fears, specially this one right here, affects every other area of one’s life. Again, FEAR NEVER BUILDS, IT DESTROYS

[@deela262]

​@@joannbowden6220 "you" won't "see/ feel/ know" it's dark underground after "you" are dead. Coz that's just what's means by death. Your body and mind are no more functioning, you're gone! We all must aim to die without fear(s). A fearful mind cannot visit heavenly abodes. Instead we can consciously cultivate faith and other virtues which can take us towards light upon death. Fear, strong aversion or strong negative mental states can only get pulled towards dark woeful abodes. Bless your lovely soul❤.

[@lifeofabyoute3674]

Sis said single by choice i spit my tea😂😂😂

[@gothamtyler]

Boy I tell you 😂😢😂

[@etf42]

she should have just said single. by qualifying it, it makes her sound like she is not single by choice.

[@jacquebradley9017]

Huh?? I’m single by choice. What you trying to say??

[@europeangoldfish99]

Her face doesn't look its by choice

[@TF-gf3fs]

@@europeangoldfish99 TROLL

[@valerie4912]

She could freeze her eggs while she waiting on mr.right 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@cahillcowan2506]

Val erie smh

[@brenw1816]

Val erie 35 is already late how much longer should she wait..her eggs will go stale at some point 😅

[@valerie4912]

Bren Nimo That’s cold, Bren 😂 That’s my point though. She can freeze her eggs now then use them later.

[@brenw1816]

Val erie it’s going to be too late then...pregnancy is not something to play with one bit

[@valerie4912]

Bren Nimo It won’t matter if it’s her eggs and they were frozen. A 60 year old could have a baby from eggs she froze in her 20’s. A few hormone shots in the butt, insemination and a doctors watchful eye; VOILA!

[@mariadasouza1954]

So why did they put up the photo of the white girl first about having a baby on my own when the actual person who say that is black

[@javiruiz4405]

Louisa Browne because I guess people are racist!!

[@Peopleschamp_7]

I guess they figured she wasn't attractive enough. Kinda like the young pretty black girl who was on the thumbnail, but it was really about a caucasian male who needed tips on how to fix his swag. It's biased towards good looking people. Click bait I guess.

[@sixmabona]

I guess they didn’t put a picture as a thumbnail which allows KZbin to automatically choose a timeframe for a thumbnail

[@mestillme5537]

Louisa Browne REALLY...GOOD QUESTION!

[@peacheskong2245]

You clicked on the video, that's all that matters.

[@talondaecckles8524]

Wow thats where we are in society. Choosing 2 b a single mom. I guess.

[@noidea6558]

Umm yeah because what’s wrong with it?

[@etf42]

@@noidea6558 the problem is that children from single mother homes are worse of in every possible way. thats whats wrong with it

[@stevemortay]

A selfish choice and what happens to the child after all, the child will live a miserable life of no father due to one selfish momma that can't sacrifice. ...this world is making people to be independent unnecessarily due to non tolerance of others

[@noidea6558]

OluStephen OmoT. Having one parent and living a financially stable life is better than having two parents living without understanding each other and being broke. So i don’t see anything wrong or selfish about it, just my opinion.

[@stevemortay]

@@noidea6558 ur opinion is right but that's not how a healthy society is built. We must all start reorientate each other against selfish interest both man and woman and start loving the other person first for the love of humanity.

[@Rickyralph]

For a lawyer she sure is asking a stupid question. Beat that stereotype just adopt a child then.

[@tati5228]

Or she could go to a sperm bank 🏦

[@Figs3]

I don't think it was that stupid. She's financially stable. She knows what she wants. So she asked the question. She had siblings, she has both parents. She may not have thought of asking those questions. Or thought of what an only, single mother raised child would think. I'd prefer her asking than doing and messing with a kid's life.

[@Buggu3]

I wudnt want her represent n me

[@Rocanala]

Adoption isn’t for everyone

[@joymosley8997]

Steve has a lot of wisdom.

[@melissadin9718]

Excellent advice Uncle Steve. The 1st audience member spoke out of fear.

[@vanessasunsetvalley3501]

Steve actually anwsering the question 😂

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

This is not the 1st time.

[@JRob594]

I grew up without a father so I know how painful it can be trust me a father is definitely required in the household

[@oviewealth5477]

Whatzpp Dr enema I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here,..... ..

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

My father was in the house but abusive and neglectful and didn’t worked and we lost our mother because of him.

[@Squishy-ho7zd]

@@lifeisbeautiful9455 exactly sometimes a mother is all a child needs and that’s ok

[@VE3RKP]

Heck with being scared of the dark. Its loosing internet connection lol

[@bebebe1354]

Lol

[@diedriegibbs6938]

The lawyer that wants to voluntarily be a single mom, left my mouth agape. I'm a single mom of a 7 year and omg, I'm glad I have my family as support....that is not easy at all. Children are financially, emotionally and mentally draining for someone to want to voluntarily go that route. You don't have someone to share the burden nor the discipline with. Speaking from experience and I'm glad my parents are around to snatch up their grandchild, or my brother who would just come and take him. Omg. For a woman that has her degrees and a lawyer, she isn't making a responsible nor logical decision. First rule of parenting, THE CHILD'S FEELINGS AND WELLBEING, WHICH IS PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL COMES FIRST.

[@HelloDarling73]

Sound advice, I've seen personally not having my son's father in his life. Its tragic

[@abisagboayomide1531]

Come to Nigeria and scream your life out in fear... LMFAO We're used to the darkness baby! 😂

[@TrinandCo]

LMFAOO Sometimes NEPA kills me at the time it wants to go off😂😂

[@TimothyAlexzander]

2wks later Alina: hey steve I'm still scared

[@VillaFanFTW]

Other problem is, any time she feels, she can take the guy to court. Courts will go for any single parent to make the other person pay, the courts will always look out for the child. Also lawyers... You make a lot of money but you work a lot of hours. Any firm makes you work 40 billings hours, which is likely 50-60 hours unless you're really good.

[@noukpokinnouolivier7000]

Hi Steve, you really inspire me everyday Thanks. Greeting from Benin Republic

[@morpheus1586]

"Single by choice" 🤣😂🤣

[@johnmackey5150]

😂😂

[@RizzoDaManiac]

😂😂😂 No such thing

[@tianamiller6820]

Yes believe it or not some women are😊

[@SAMack-xd2fn]

Very crafty wording...what she means is that no one wants her

[@suzanneschulz8479]

😉😊😍😘

[@kristind8756]

To the lawyer lady... if you want a baby, go for it. If you have love to give, give it to a baby. He’s not wrong. Sadly most kids don’t know who their dad is and Mom doesn’t always know either. She’s not wrong either. Finding a partner worthy isn’t that easy for women (or men) who have standards.

[@Meeeeeeeeeeree]

This is selfish.. go for it? So purposely bring a child into this world without a father? That can be extremely destructive.... do you see how some fatherless children sre more susceptible to self esteem issues, going down the wrong path and in general just not having proper male guidance can have a huge impact on a young man bc they don’t have someone of the same sex to look to for a role model and how to become a man. A girl without a father can have extreme issues with male relationships bc they didn’t have a proper example of how a man should treat a woman, and in general a fathers love is so so important to young girls. Ofc they can possibly have male role models outside of their father but it isn’t the same. They may just resent them/ their mom

[@Livhappy25]

It’s selfish. Think of the child.

[@the_w189]

@@Meeeeeeeeeeree indeed, she is just creating a problem. is either going to stay working full time and paying other people to take care of the little one or she is going to make a hell of a lot less money... it takes two.... 60 years ago people understood this...

[@nomercy9240]

get your woke ass to the twitter please.

[@mukulkansara1907]

Instead adopt one atleast he/she will have somewhat better life by having atleast one parent which is better than having none

[@bu4930]

so my question to you all saying she is selfish....so what if she never finds "the one" is she supposed to give up on her dreams of being a mother? Single parent homes are not negative situations, the negative part is the immaturity and drama that the irresponsible parents create. If she is able to provide a safe, loving, financially, emotionally, and physically stable environment WHY NOT? Some women will settle for anything just to have a man sad smh. I'm glad she is strong enough to stand for what SHE believes in even if most disagree.

[@vizeas]

B U so true i was 35 when I decided to start the process get artificially insemenated i was not in a stable relationship, but I knew I wanted to be a mother. Two years later I am 8 months pregnant and happy.

[@iisuperstarii7310]

This is so messed up.

[@ineedhoez]

True. True.

[@geremymason5936]

Why not? Because her children are missing a vital figure in their lives. Why is it selfish? Because she doesnt care about the welfare and development of her own kids; she only cares about her own desires. Its not about the attitude of the parents that makes single parent households difficult situations for the kids; its the fact that they are missing a vital person in their lives. Parents need both their father and mother.

[@geremymason5936]

@@vizeas thats great for you. Glad you're happy. What about your child though? Do you even care how not having a father will impact him/her? Bet you dont. Either that or you think you can fill both roles to which I'll ask, how can you fill the mans role when you're not a man?

[@thiha8372]

I had the same fear untill I was about 10. My father knew eventually about it and took me to the basement with the lights off. He taught me that night through darkness, he yelled att me and told me to repeat him. ”I’m not scared of the dark, there’s nothing to be afraid of”. I had to repeat that verse for about 20 times and he left me there alone untill he came back again later on and braught me home. Now I’m never afraid of the dark anymore. true story

[@XRandomXShinigamiX]

She is just fueling the single motherhood dilemma

[@erniez7259]

When a relationship goes wrong it also goes very wrong for the men given that divorce courts favor the women and the alimony drains the work driven men something that society has taught men to become. No one ever thinks how stressful it is for the man since we have a talent to hide our struggles and might lead to suicide.

[@jbscotchman]

Once again Steve is preaching the truth.

[@judahtribe7]

Why don't he just say it's plain out wrong why does he straddle the fence

[@judahtribe7]

Here's what I'm saying too hell it's just a byword now for Christian

[@jakezone1]

you did a good job talking to her instead of saying she's crazy!

[@mzxjayxyo]

This is totally relatable! Maybe she got out of a toxic relationship and is choosing to remain single at least for a while. That’s where I am in my life and I just turned 30. My biological clock is also ticking so yeah I can definitely understand where she is coming from. I do think that she should look in to adoption though

Jess Y girl you’re 30. Are you living in the 1800’s or something?? You literally still have a good 10 years to breed, your biological clock is NOT ticking.

[@esosau898]

Your mum sat outside your door, black mamas ain’t doing that!

[@StrongnBeautiful]

😂 So true.

[@chillywill95831]

Black mamas ain't the best, just sayin'!

[@artist-scopes8357]

why are people in disbelief when she said "single by choice"?. I know a lady in the same situation and she started getting marriage proposals at 19!. so far I've counted four or five the most recent being about two or three months back and she still says no to them and she's dosen't even want kids! all her siblings have families and they've been pestering her for years. she isn't badging. just because YOU think all women want to get married dosen't mean it's true.

[@jennifercarrillo1277]

Love STEVE’s answer!!

[@biohazardtrash1357]

I'm a single mom, it's hard but I wouldn't trade it for anything. People don't ask him where his father is thank goodness. He's 5, maybe that question arise when he's older, maybe not.

[@bigred76able]

It's the single by choice comment that caught me off guard, like come on now . 🙈😎

[@23imansaray]

That first lady was trying to have a baby for selfish reasons. Firs off, a father has rights unless he signs them away or a judge takes them away. Second of all, even though she is doing well now, things can always change. Something out of her control can make her lose her job like a company buy out, an economic rescission, or an illness can happen to her that can make it difficult to work or something could happen to the child that make a finical strain on her life.

[@cutienerdgirl]

How is wanting a child from a sperm bank selfish??

[@ceceprincess4758]

true

[@swiitdoll]

She has a career not a job. If she lost her job she’ll update her cv and get another one ASAP

[@ineedhoez]

But 16 year olds have babies all the time. You want her to NOT live her life bc of what MIGHT happen?

[@the_w189]

@@ineedhoez 2 parents is always better then one. that mostly dumb 16 year olds get children does not change that. you do not 'deserve' a baby, you do not 'earn' a baby. you should only make a baby when you have everything she / he needs, that's not just food, that is a man and a woman (or a woman and a woman or a man and a man) it takes two, two is better, two can be great, one can be sufficient at best

[@bluejay3125]

The best way to overcome a fear is to face the fear

[@Zainito_]

Steve always have great advice. Real stuff. #RSA

[@lovovictor410]

Watching from Guyana I'm big fan of Steve

[@vgreene77]

🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾

[@timypaul]

There are great women out there, and great guys if everyone should fight hard to find someone before calling it quit and speak nonsense like that. *THE ONE WHO SEEKS, FINDS.

[@myrnaandre5490]

I was 40 when I got married a 2nd time after being single for 15 years. Thank God I had had a boy from a previous relationship. Personally a child gives my life meaning. To each his own, no judging...ever.

[@the_w189]

the child had a second partner and I hope you didn't make the child while knowing you would not end up together, right? when you get at a show like this one, your asking to be judged so we do

[@yakosinnromero9398]

Adoption is her best choice.

[@jarjeestariq8561]

Presence of a father figure is VERY important for child/children. It has a very big impact on their personalities and their thought process

[@Squishy-ho7zd]

Not as important as you think. My father has never had a good impact on and it’s the same for many people.

[@jasminerobertson4913]

I totally get where she's coming from

[@lellouch9643]

Steeeeeveeee !!!! I loooovee youuuu ❤❤❤❤❤ 😭😭😭 i wanna see you before i die lol 😂❤

[@lellouch9643]

Yeees ❤❤😂

[@lellouch9643]

@Ed Miller ❤

[@giabrooks2717]

I know it sounds crazy but I understand her completely. Thank God I'm doing great financially. I want to have a child myself. But I feel like it selfish because I have friends that grow up without a father. Which is what stops me.

[@ceaser8999]

Gia Brooks your future child thanks you

[@StrongnBeautiful]

You don't have to be a single mother. Make an arraignment with a man who is in the same situation as you. You can co parent.

[@saquoiag]

I loved his response!

[@writerspen010]

Mm, I had a fear of the dark happen to me as a young adult. For me, the fear would flare up whenever my depression and anxiety were peaking. I'd be willing to guess that she also suffers from generalized anxiety, and if that's the case--and if Steve's suggestion doesn't work lol--she should consider going to therapy, get tested for anxiety disorders, and try treatment and/or medication for at least 6 months to a year (or get some anxiety workbooks if therapy isn't an option).

[@kathyalex778]

Every child needs a loving mother and father. Do not start your child's life with a screw up like WILLINGLY choosing to be a single mother.

[@chkaouakhadija3241]

We love you mr steve from morocco

[@vwiggins9797]

If you are an attorney, why are you asking Steve about legalities?

[@Pinky_Piie]

Facts

[@bq-9238]

her question wasn’t about legalities, if i’m not mistaken.

[@bq-9238]

her question wasn’t about legalities, if i’m not mistaken.

[@vwiggins9797]

@@bq-9238 thanks for your feedback because I could be wrong. In her question, she used terms such as: "enter into an agreement", "maintain legal rights", and "family law". She should be asking another attorney not Steve. She needs legal advice because the father could change his mind. Bottom line, Steve is a comedian. He gave her a serious answer but it didn't address other options for her such as adoption or sperm bank.

[@lynnetrathen4587]

Having a child on your own is fine it’s everyone own choice. I never had a father and it has NEVER bothered me. Here’s a question how can you miss what you’ve never had???? All that father daughter stuff was never an issue as I had the most fantastic mum who raised all 4 of us

[@Joy-xu9wk]

That was YOU. I know many people who wished they had a dad. When they’re getting married, when they need advice, when they need a tire change, when they need A lot of things. Your mom was exceptional I’m sure of that, however, despite what you may think- people need fathers. Statistics across the board show the worst outcomes for children coming from single parent homes. It doesn’t mean that ALL children who come from these homes are messed up, but statistically speaking 90% of prison inmates for example didn’t have fathers, most single teenage moms, didn’t have fathers. a general life rule (whether your religious or not) that I’ve always applied, is “what it takes to create, is what it requires to sustain”. So it takes two (male and female) to create, it takes two (mother and father) to raise and sustain. You get thirsty? There’s water to quench that, now you may have some soda, but as much as soda quenched your thirst, what you needed was water.

[@Tolu1994]

she really needed to hear that.

[@kittytaughtu]

Why is it so hard to believe that a woman chooses to be single.

[@shunpo9]

Only 1 out of a 100 people actually want to be alone.

[@jnewcomb]

@@shunpo9 And she wasn't one of 'em. She says so. But we knew when she said "single by choice" it was a lie. It's hard to believe people would rather say it's a lifestyle than say, "I'm lonely, the clock is running down. I've given up on finding love so I just want to make my own." That's a lot easier to believe. And there's nothing wrong with it. But when you can't convince a room full of strangers you're single "by choice," you've got deeper personal issues to deal with.

[@Mario_1611]

Don't be stupid. Lol.

[@saadalmhnds4402]

Steve we love you from Sudan

[@matshabalalaeleki]

The lady scared of the dark must come to SA and loadshedding will cure her 😂

[@oviewealth5477]

Whatzpp Dr enema I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here,.....

[@oviewealth5477]

±²³⁴⁸¹⁴⁵⁸²⁷⁶⁴⁷

[@nes4114]

😂

[@queenmaz7nomusa411]

I'm glad she asked and I liked Steve's reply very much

[@laurieg.1413]

My girlfriend has 2 girls without the father and the children answer when asked where is your Daddy - they say he is a test tube. They are all a very healthy family.

[@elisianemendesdasilva3233]

Laurie G. 😔

[@mesoanto1031]

😆

[@icecreamgirlrockyroad3547]

Being a single mother is so hard I wouldn't wish it on anyone ..days I just hurt for my kids most of all

[@eubr4746]

The second girl - scared from the dark - needs a spiritual cure. !

[@mesoanto1031]

She need Jesus

[@marlonecampbell1750]

Good question. Many women think of this. Its important it's addressed.

[@dance4life1208]

whats wrong with having a sperm donor? i thought about doing it myself , just for the simple fact i never had a man and dnt think i will..everyone is different

[@ronaldreagan388]

Nothing wrong with it, just like Steve said as the kid grows... there will be questions to be answered like wheres the father and all that. So it's something that can affect the kid. It wont just be about you, its gonna be about the kid more importantly.

[@ramblingmillennial1560]

Being a single mom is not easy. Plus these kids are more likely to end up in jail than kids with 2 parents. It's selfish to be honest. That is what is wrong with it. Just a dopt a child if you don't have a man.

[@dance4life1208]

Rambling Millennial ok it would be the same thing if I adopt a child I can’t tell people how to have kids

[@marianaestradasalas]

I see nothing wrong. It's the same thing as if a woman has a kid with a man who doesn't want to be responsible for a child, and is never around. The only difference is that with a sperm donor, you chose it and can probably afford a baby, when a man leaves a kid the mother didn't choose that. In the end you tell the kid the truth about where they came from, they're smart and times change

[@StrongnBeautiful]

@@marianaestradasalas, thank you sis. SMH. People acting so dag on special about this! 😔

[@nmalik1]

The woman at the back at 4.00 rolling her head like "white peoples and dey prablams"

[@jenniferbaker3074]

I disagree with Steve on this. I'm 34 years old and have 2 wonderful sons that I'm raising 100% by myself by my choice. As for answering the question, "Why don't I have a Dad" I tell my boys, you are special and your family is different. I am both your mom and dad. I'm the one that goes to all the Dad events my boys are involved.

[@stjjnr980]

Jennifer Baker Goodluck to you

[@bambi3404]

This is the same for my mum, raised two girls by herself, sometimes it doesn't work out but for us it did and it's a great privilege to be in a all woman family. 😊

[@Joy-xu9wk]

You are not both mom and dad. You are a great Mom, but you will never replace a fathers prescience. That mentality is dangerous.

[@TheSteiner12]

0:33 that "yes" in the background though...

[@makomakowa6296]

this woman has seen a lot, broken relationships, relationship wars, dysfunctional family relations . her greatest fear is bringing her work home, thinking she would fall in the same cycle as the cases she has fixed. this is failure of imagination

[@mesoanto1031]

She want to intentionally destroy her relationship because of probably

[@JJPODGaming]

Just adopt a child

[@jaycitytv4657]

So what about adopting

[@jesie_ray9852]

3:53 that was hilarious 🤣🤣

[@jwilliamcosby]

Who left that much beard liner on Steve? 😯

[@1castellp]

Me: My fear is hitting the ground at terminal velocity. Steve: you gotta face it. (Pushes me out the plane with no parachute)

[@kimmi1031]

Everybody is talking down the woman who wants to have a kid on her own but i don't see the problem. If she got the cash to pay for it , then go for it. Steve was talking about the tough questions the kid may face but life is full of tough questions. Being a single mom is tough sure but it's not impossible nor is it a bad thing. My parents were divorced when i was 8-9 and my mother moved out of state. Did i get the "where is your mom" questions? YES. Did it bother me even a little ? NOPE! I was fine as a kid. On average i was happy. I was even happy that they were not together..... And don't get me wrong, i love my mom. I will always love my mom but i know I would rather they be divorced. So this lady wanting to find a sperm donor speaks to me. I don't have a kid, but if by the time i turn 35, if i don't have a kid by then i will probably do that. I know how growing up with a single parent is , and it is not nearly as bad as people claim it is for the kid.

[@strikerron2252]

it may work for you but there are a lot of kids who want to have both mother and father

[@ineedhoez]

It is so hard to find a partner. I feel her pain.

[@oviewealth5477]

Whatzpp Dr enema I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here,..... ..

[@susanmoore6177]

I did this pretty much exactly and have no regrets. I was 39, newly divorced and didn’t want to have the pressure of wanting to get pregnant while simultaneously looking for a partner. She’s 5 now, I’m still single and I do hope to find a father figure for her, but she’s beautiful and happy and very well-adjusted. She has uncles and cousins who are role models, and God-willing-she’ll have a Dad someday.

[@piyushsaraf7604]

Hope everything works out for kid best luck

[@larissadueck2643]

A fatherless home is the #1 predictor of criminal behavior

[@thaintriguing1]

That’s just selfish 🤦🏾‍♂️ makes me glad I’m single with no kids; smart enough for a degree in law but dumb as bricks

[@NUTZONYALIPZ]

Steve's beard is getting better I can't wait for mine to grow out like that.. Steve is lined up good!

[@HD-Australia]

Being a single mum BY CHOICE is one of the most SELFISH things a woman can do. She is DELIBERATELY DENYING the right this child has to his/her father. Circumstances which lead to Dad not being in the picture is a different situation, but BEING DENIED A FATHER BY CHOICE.... that is a gross violation of the human rights of a child

[@fromspace7]

Agree 100%

[@charity9660]

Or just adopt one. There’s plenty of kids in foster care.

[@MicLabTv]

Single By choice ... maybe because you don't have any other choice

[@jayjay189]

😂😂😂😂😂💀

[@queenie6015]

I doubt she has no other choice. Om single by choice and I dont want to be married either because men are very unpredicatable and I refuse to go through what she has said. Its VERY common. I'm leaning towards doing foster care or not having children at all and take care of the many nieces and nephews that I have and I'll be fine ❤

[@queenie6015]

@AY F Right. I dont want one either. I made the choice to be single.

[@habenhaben5268]

You're great lol

[@HD-Australia]

What about the babies' choice? No father by choice?

[@SpendtimewithCoco]

God bless you Steve Harvey Your answers to each and every question is so logical and so real. God bless you really 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@andiego39]

Are you keeping me? When the child will ask for his dad you what will you tell him?

[@HD-Australia]

She says, "I decided before you could even speak that you should never have your biological father in our lives because I am an empowered woman who makes my own choices...." What a friggin' tragedy

[@andiego39]

@@HD-Australia I don't think if she will get along with the child she will have. Someone like me I have been looking for my data for 13 years now, she will make the child suffer both mentally and emotionally. That is what I am going through now, not having your dad your mum dies when you are 7yrs and you don't know any relative around and you are in a 3rd world country it was tough for me I am turning 25 but still looking for my dad is feel there are a lot I need to learn from him. There are many reasons why both parents should raise a child

[@elizabethtimothy4776]

The truth! Just like if you had one that left the family, incaserated, died.

[@bruceleeroy8302]

I am just wondering the legal ramifications for the man. Is there any situation where he's forced to financially support this child?

[@morgandawn6413]

At her age I'd go for it.

[@Reallychris_]

There's a lot of successful women and the men nowadays are intimidated by them. Rather than embracing the woman who has worked hard; the men would rather label them as a feminist. So those men then find a woman whose standards are low or not there at all, and puts them down for not doing enough. It's extremely rare that you'll find a man whose not intimidated. I see why she's doing what she's doing. She's getting older, time is not on her side, and she's running into men who are most likely intimidated by her success. She'll become submissive to the right candidate.

[@SuctionMonsters]

Well said.

[@sleepy-peepy]

The fear of rude, nosy strangers asking your child “Where’s your dad?” Shouldn’t stop anybody from becoming a parent if they feel so called to raise a child. Sometimes you just need to tell people to mind their damn business.

[@aguy9071]

Missing the point. Whether you care to admit it or not, having both parents in a child's life is extremely beneficial. A child who is lacking one will constantly be reminded of that

[@karolmel19]

For some reason as you grow older you can't sleep with a light on it's annoying...that's what got me over my fear of sleeping in the dark...😁

[@JamieLillyBunch]

I diddnt have a father growing up and I’m fine and it diddnt effect me. Lol my mom was enough, I love her so much!

[@369tfs]

JamieLillyBunch your a girl that’s why, men need a father figure. Think about that.

[@scottelkinsmedia]

A father is a irreplacable REQUIRED piece in growing up. Thats sad u didnt get to know that.

[@bambi3404]

scott elkins it's obviously not required because all us kids with single mums didn't just die because we didn't have dads. Two parents are a luxury, not a necessity.

[@Joy-xu9wk]

How do you know it didn’t affect you?

[@waheedahsrecipes5004]

THIS IS ALOT OF BULL PEOPLE JUST WANT TO DO JUST TO MUCH WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT BE BLESSED

[@jayguti9658]

People are in the comment section assuming she has high standards. Maybe she just hasn't found the right man because she is super busy and doesn't want to find a man online.

[@wildbillkerr8041]

Hypergamy and the wall, just the facts!

[@ceaser8999]

I can bet she does have high standards as a lawyer , she might be pulling six figures. So why not give the guy who works hard at Walmart a chance instead of the other lawyer-tier men (salary) her age a chance who will target women who are younger and prettier than her? That’s why she’s single because I’m sure there are guys who like her but they probably don’t make as much as her , but noooooo..... she just has to have someone better or equal to her but that is a limited pool filled with guys who are looking for girls way better looking than her

[@ceaser8999]

Hypergsmy! Guys with money have no problem dating the fry cook at McDonald’s and starting a family. But statistically, it seems women hardly ever do that. Become wealthy , then date the fry cook!

[@Star-vg7ix]

Good reasoning Steve on the single mom thing.Thank you.

[@matthewmontgomery31]

Want a child with out each parent is not good.

[@AhmedalHijazi]

The best way to overcome the fear is to face it .