Hierarchy in Korea & Awkwardness w/ In-laws? (자막)국제커플로서 시부모 & 장인어른과의 관계

[@celinecupcakes]

This combination of a chilled down vlog and a "discussion" part is super nice to watch👍🏻😍

[@jennaleigh1853]

My boyfriend and his family came to the US when he was around 10 years old. They accepted a lot of the cultural norms here in the states, specifically when they interact with Americans. However, in their home and interacting with family, it is as if they are still living in Korea. When it came down to meeting his parents, he gave me the low down, and told me the "Korean Parents' Expectations" when meeting a girlfriend for the first time -- IT WAS SO NERVE-WRACKING. I never felt so constraint by rules when meeting someone. Going into it, I knew that it wasn't his parents who were making these rules, but I still felt like his parents would be stern/strict/haughty because of these expectations. I was so wrong -- his parents are the sweetest, but I TOTALLY 100% agree with you Sarah -- it's the rules and expectations that make me feel uncomfortable and unsure, not my boyfriend's parents. The great thing is though, when they visited me and my boyfriend at my home, they kind of flipped the tables and went by the American customs. They brought beer and snacks and were able to relax in a less formal environment. It is definitely a great learning experience for all of us :) Thank you both for your great channel! I always look forward to your videos when I wake up Sunday (:

[@경니-n8s]

Jenna Leigh Funny thing is that koreans feel the exactly same when they meet their boyfriend/girlfriend's parents for the first time!! Haha those strict rules are just as hard for us too:((

[@2hearts1seoul]

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[@charlietu]

hey guys - just curious if you could list the recipe for your sesame dipping sauce? i live in new york city and need some new flavor inspirations (especially with dips) - thanks so much!!

[@2hearts1seoul]

Sesame oil, and a pinch of salt & pepper! So simple, yet so yummy :D

[@기어카르만]

한국도 점점 시간이 지나면서 개방적으로 변하는거 같아요. 50년 전의 한국문화와 현재의 문화가 다른것처럼 50년 후에는 어쩌면 한국에서도 며느리가 시부모 앞에서 누워있는 광경을 볼 수도 있을지도 모르겠네요 ㅎㅎ

[@paulinelunacy]

Hi Sarah and Kyuho, i'm a franch girl living in France and i'm actually in a long distance relationship with a Korean guy living in Canada right now for studing. We are not even talking about marriage or things like this but i'm sure one day i'll have to meet his parents in Korean and i'm already really nervous about it.. Lately your videos are helping me a lot because i think your relation is pretty similar to ours.. So i just want to thank you for sharing so many things with us~~ :)

[@jaehyungkim3214]

Pauline Lunacy in my humble opinion, relationship is difficult regardless of culture. Being a 38 year old single man, the only thing I've learned is that men will never learn about women no matter how old or smart he is. Relationship between a man and a woman is like holding hands while walking along a stream that from time to time becomes close and sometimes wide. lol

[@stevenzechmeister5993]

Jae H. Kim nicely put, kim!

[@kessaria92]

awwww i feel you TT although im 24 y.o. i already know ill stay single too....forever #TeamForeverAlone

[@kittyfr_kr]

Hi Kyuho and Sarah ~ 😊 So I am french in relationship with a korean man for about 5 years now (I am currently living in Korea) and about the hierarchy I do not feel any awkwardness about it. My boyfriend's family (including grandparents, aunts..) do not expect me to act like korean girlfriends would do, they are extremly tolerent though I do respect hierarchy but if I do anything wrong or anything they wont even be offensed. I would say that when I first met them, I felt really awkward but because of language barieer... but that's only getting better and better 🙂 However when my Bf first met my parents in France, he felt exactly the same way as Kyuho did and was over polite maybe? He was quite uncomfortable with the way french families are outgoing and friendly😅

[@dayahsamad]

i cant wait until you guys reach 100k subs! this channel deserves more love

[@jenniferyoo2683]

Agreed! So real and down-to-earth :)

[@lillyc9634]

Truee! They present this very smart mature but also friendly and cute, real relationship

[@suyeonlee4601]

Right! I want more people to experience this couple's videos. If so, those people would be able to have a good chance to share the other people's variable and valuable thoughts on living in different cultures.

[@Woojupapa]

예전부터 느낀거지만 세라님, 참 말을 중립적으로 잘하시는것같네요 뜬금없지만 신기ㅎㅎ

[@Fubaba88]

맞아요 저도 그생각 했어요~ ^^ 세라님이 중립적인 태도로 말씀해주셔서, 어떤 의견을 가진 사람이라도 인상쓰지 않고 볼 수 있는 영상인 것 같아요. 만약에 세라님이 내 생각은 이래! 이거 말고는 아니야! 라고 해버린다면, 이 영상은 다양한 사람이 시청하기 어렵겠죠! 제가 규호와 세라의 영상을 좋아하는 이유는, 사소한 말한마디라도, 사람들의 다양성을 존중해주기 때문이에요. 그리고 제가 정말 배우고 싶은 태도에요! I really agree that Sarah takes a neutral attitude and appreciate that. Because Anyone didn't feel uncomfortable when they are watching video which has some discussion. If Sarah says that "This is my idea! I am correct! ", very few people who feel the same way are watching this video. The reason I like Vlog of Kyuho and Sarah is that They respect various people even only world.

[@이동재-f5z]

매주 일요일 저녁마다 기분좋게 보고 하루를 마무리합니다 항상 감사합니다^^

[@thatguy9634]

Can you guys talk about culture clashes when it comes to dating. For example, when approaching a woman/man, is there major differences in the approach from a western culture versus the Korean culture? Can you also talk about any personal experiences you guys may have gone through when your different cultures may have lead to a misunderstanding or argument. Thank so much, keep up the good work, love your videos!!!

[@Mylifewithptsd]

Yes, great suggestion! I would love to hear about it too.

[@2hearts1seoul]

We actually already made a few videos talking about these topics in the past, try searching though some of our older videos :D

[@아마테라스-s2q]

서열문화 자체는 나쁘다고 생각지 않습니다만 지금 우리나라의 서열문화 대다수는 좀 없어져야 된다고 생각합니다. 그 서열문화에 기대서 갑질을 하고 싶어하는 사람들이 솔직히 많은것 같거든요. 마치 자신이 서열이 위니까 니가 알아서 존경을 표해라..이런식? 어쨌든 이 문화는 상당히 잘못된 거라 봅니다. 존경은 강요하는 것이 아니라 스스로 마음에서 우러나와야 하는 것이니까요. 옛날에 어떤 어른들은 서양사람들은 우리처럼 높임법도 없고 해서 예절도 모르는 사람들이라 편견을 갖기도 했지만 실상은 아니죠. 영어권 국가에서 우리처럼 높임법이 없다고 해서 나이많고 현명한 어른들에게 존경을 표할 줄 모른다는건 어불성설입니다. 오히려 우리나라의 이러한 서열문화의 강요는 신세대들에게 반발심만 불러올 뿐이죠.. 내가 너보다 윗 서열이니 내말대로 해라...라는걸 어른들은 아랫사람을 위한 충고라고 생각하지만 요즘같이 급격하게 변하는 세상에서는 와닿지 않는 부분이 더 많거든요. 즉 공감이 안되고 현실성이 떨어진다고 느끼고 있습니다..반론을 제기하는 순간 예의없고 세상 경험이 부족한 풋내기 취급하는 분들도 많구요. 극단적으로 얼굴에 핏대까지 세우시면서 마치 자신이 잘못한걸 인정하게되면 모든 인생이 부정당하는 것처럼 화내는 분도 보았죠..살면서 정말 어른다운 분은 두 분 정도 보았는데 아랫사람의 말을 경청하고 인정할 것은 인정하며 스스로의 인생을 돌아보시며 자신의 잘못은 인정하고 진심으로 사과하시는 모습을 보았는데 오히려 이런 분들이 서열을 강조하시는 분들보다 더 대화도 잘통하고 공감이 되더군요..

[@스파랜드]

아마테라스 지금 님이 말한건 극단적인 경우만 그런거고요. 요즘 어른이라고 누가 어린 사람한테 막 강요하고 그럽니까? 오히려 나이든 사람들이 어린애들 무서워서 뭐라고 못합니다. 담배 피는 청소년이나..학교에서 예전처럼 선생님이 애들한테 막하고 때리고 그럽니까? 오히려 선생이나 어른들이 애들 피하는게 휠씬더 많지. 그리고 단어가 무슨 서열문화... 이래서 대단한거 같지만 실상 한국의 서열문화는 끽해야 호칭과 몇가지 사소한 행동만 남아있죠. 어른에 대한 존댓말과 나이든 사람앞에서 누워 잇지 않기.. 이정도죠. 말만 서열문화라고 해서 거창하게 보이지 실상은 별거 없어요. 그리고 뭐 대단한 강제성도 없고요. 그리고 이런 문화가 꼭 나쁜것만 잇는데 아니죠.존경은 강요되는게 아니라고 하셨죠?존댓말이나 어른공경은 존경의 의미로 하는게 아닙니다.한국만의 예의입니다. 서양인들이 식사때 소리 안내고 먹는거와같은 기본적인 예의라고요.이건 존경이 아닙니다. 그나라의 기본예의와 규범이고 규칙이죠.

[@yeti2026]

스파랜드/ 아니요. 회사생활 해보면 아시겠지만 강제성이 엄청난 수준입니다. 님의 말처럼 극단적으로 치부할 것이 아닌 아닌 보편적인 경우에요.

[@이k-t8m]

아마테라스 저도 아마님 말씀에 공감하고 갑니다:)

[@tttd454ddfgu7y]

존댓말이나 높임법이 없는게 아니라 영어 자체가 존댓말이야 빡대가리 새끼야...원래 구분했었는데 아예 모두 존댓말 쓰는걸로 통일됬다.

[@새-l7m]

스파랜드 학생이신가본데, 사회생활해보시고 말씀하세요. 군대의 연속이나 다를바 없습니다. 아마테라스님께서 하신 말씀은 굉장히 보편적인 경우죠.

[@aqswdefr5290]

비모의 표정이 잊혀지질 않아..ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

[@pinecones.pixels9056]

There's a big cultural differences even in the USA. I'm from the east coast (New York) and they're from the west coast (California). They're very laid back, like to do everything spontaneously, and are open on a more superficial level, while my family is intensely passionate about everything, plans every second of every day, and are a more private people. When my in-laws where here over Thanksgiving, I had dinners planned for every day. We only ate here twice, and all the rest of the time we went out to dinner per their request. I thought it was extremely rude to turn down someone's hospitality ,but they thought they were making things easier for me by just going out to eat.

[@laurengibson748]

You should've just told them what you were making then made it versus giving them the option to eat out. But there's also the thought that if they're coming from the other side of the country they probably also just wanted to experience the atmosphere of being there versus being stuck in your apartment/house. This does sound like an uncomfortable situation but as long as you know their intention isn't to be rude I don't think you should have taken it like they were being rude when they had the intention of being considerate. I see my mom doing this all the time with her in-laws and she's 50 its just a bunch or miscommunications and misinterpretations.

[@laurengibson748]

You should've just told them what you were making then made it versus giving them the option to eat out. But there's also the thought that if they're coming from the other side of the country they probably also just wanted to experience the atmosphere of being there versus being stuck in your apartment/house. This does sound like an uncomfortable situation but as long as you know their intention isn't to be rude I don't think you should have taken it like they were being rude when they had the intention of being considerate. I see my mom doing this all the time with her in-laws and she's 50 its just a bunch or miscommunications and misinterpretations.

[@nishaismail]

Beemo is too cute! 😻😻😻😻😻

[@meogia4518]

Beamo is a cat with personality....so cute. I love it when you guys eating at home. Another great video...soothing my " Seoul" if you know what I mean.

[@Merryn13]

I just came across your guys' channel and I can't believe I didn't find you guys sooner. I am Canadian and grew up in Toronto and Gander (NFLD) and my fiance is Korean; born in Seoul but was educated in the US and Japan as well as S Korea. One of the things that I was aware of earlier on was that my fiance was the first son of the direct line for his family. Before we ever talked about marriage it was made evident that his grandfather (head of the family) did not want him marrying a foreigner. My fiance's younger brother was free to marry whomever he desired, but my fiance was to marry a Korean woman. As it became more and more apparent that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, it became more important that I meet his entire family. I had already met his mother, father, and brother briefly and they were (thankfully) extremely kind and welcoming, but the thought of meeting the head of the family (in particular when they have 양반 ancestry) made me very nervous. I just wanted them to like me enough to let me marry into their family and I knew that would be a lot to ask. My Korean is at an intermediate level, but the second I stood in front of any of my future in-laws I froze. Korean is my 3rd language after English and French and I don't know how many times I accidentally said "Oui" with a quebec-er accent (which comes out sounding a lot like "왜") in stead of saying "네". Luckily, his grandfather and I bonded over the fact we both love to collect and have a passion for history and learning (the fact that I went to 고려대학교 and know 4 languages helped a bit as well). During desert my fiance's grandmother was very happy and said something that will stick with me forever. She commented that she didn't understand why it was such a big deal that I was not a Korean woman when the very first ancestor in their own family book had been married to an Indian princess. "Where else do you think we got big noses?!", she said in Korean. Since then things have progressed quickly. Things happen extremely fast in the ROK in comparison to Canada and we are to have our Korean wedding in May. Even though I feel more and more comfortable every time I meet with my future in-laws, I still worry I may unintentionally do or say something that might offend them or make them think less of me. On the other hand, my fiance and my dad in particular have formed a buddy buddy relationship I could have only dreamed about. My fiance tends to keep things to himself but I can tell the more he was around my family the more comfortable he became with the fact that hierarchy doesn't exist on my side. Thank you guys for posting! It is so nice to see another couple with such similarities to myself (East Coast Canadian) and my fiance (foreign educated and multilingual South Korean).

[@ohyeahmeow]

Damn ! This would make an amazing k-drama :)

[@mylefteye]

OMG. And here I thought you totally blew off my question from last week! LOL. 😂 I was like, "Maybe they're super busy with filming. Oh well." ...Whaddayouknow, I show up in one of your VLOGS!😲😀 I'm touched, thank you, you guys!🙏 On to the topic - Yes, I totally forgot the hierarchy system in Korea and what it factors in especially for Sarah. Kyuho doesn't have to worry about it as much and I liked how he described it: "Free." He can just be him around your parents. I mean he shouldn't be throwing F-Bombs around your parents (lol, too casual😆) but he has it a bit easier being that you come from a western culture. I'm not married myself but my siblings are and when their spouses come by my parents, they act like themselves but there is that respect level you have to watch for being that I'm Asian. (American) It's not as bad as the hierarchy system in Korea. It's like with any culture I guess around the world; that casual-ness with that amount of respect for your elders. ☺ Whew! I don't know where I was going with that LOL but let's end it here. Thanks again for answering my question. Never in my wildest dreams I figured I'd end up in one of your VLOGS. Holycrap you made my 2017 start off quite well!😉😊 Thank you thank you thank you. Another great discussion you guys. 🤗🙌🙏 P.S: You gotta love when cats smell there bum or other cats bums, they get the, "OMG Wtf did you/I eat?!?" stink face. Kills me every time!😂😂😂

[@2hearts1seoul]

+mylefteye Haha, we were hoping you would see this video 😁 Thanks so much for the question--we've been meaning to make this video for so long, so it was pretty much the last kick in the butt to get us to finally sit down and have that chat. LOLLLLL, and we were debating whether we should leave in that Beemo stink face clip, but we couldn't NOT leave it in 😂

[@mylefteye]

@2hearts1seoul: well I guess I was the one who gave you guys a kick in the behind.😂 Who knew. Haha. Oh before I forget, in relation to hierarchy: the Korean age system. How did you feel about that? It's a bit fascinating and probably a bit stressful as well being it correlates with the hierarchy system. I mean who wouldn't? Once you step in Korea, you age a year and for some, you age by 2!😲😢😭 You can save the answer for that later in one of your "It's coffee time" discussions. 😊 And Beemo... that cat can do no wrong, I'm glad you included it.😀 Okay, I got to go sleep tomorrow. The work week is upon us. Goodluck to us all. LOL.😣😢😆 Bye you guys!🤗

[@skid631]

서양에서도 격식을 차리는 자리에서는 윗사람이 들어 왔을때 앉아 있다가도 일어서던데 한국은 격식있는 자리에서만 하는게 아닌 일상에서도 한다는 차이 정도일까요? 일상이니 당연히 가볍게 지키지 특별히 형식은 없을거라 보는데 사실 사람 사는데는 다 비슷하다고 봐요.

[@lee4774]

저도 결혼한지 10년째이지만.. 늘 어려워요~ 시부모님과 친정부모님도 사이가 나쁘시진 않지만 서로가 실수하지않도록 늘 예의를 갖추고 조심하면서 지내지요~ 저희 가족을 봤을땐.. 앞으로도 서로서로 쭉 이렇게 지낼것같아요~ 서로가 친구처럼.. 가족처럼 편하면 얼마나 좋을까요?^^ 하지만 한국사회에선.. 아직 어려운게 현실인것같아요~ 규호씨 세라씨 이번 영상도 감사합니다. 늘 재밌게 챙겨보고있어요^^

[@2hearts1seoul]

+eunju Lee 안녕하세요 😊 조금 무거운 주제일수도 민감한 질문일수도 있는데 이렇게 답변해주셔서 감사해요^^ 예의를 갖추고 실수를 안하도록 조심하는것은 좋지만 너무 과도하게 신경을 쓰다보니 제 생각엔 그게 되려 부담이 되는것 같아요 🤔 늘 시청해주셔서 감사합니다 :)

[@dtlee808]

Sorry you are under the weather, Sarah. Hope you feel better soon! Thanks you guys for sharing a little insight to the expectations from both cultures. I think the key is to first understand and respect each other's culture and upbringing. Keep educating us. Love learning from you! ❤ Aloha!

[@kyaraAthena]

Mexican girl with british inlaws here, my relationship with them has been very friendly but awkward as well, they are extremely concerned with what I like or dislike and might take serious offence (not on purpose but I had hurt some feelings with my honesty) if I dislike something. Is really frustrating form me not being able to be fully honest and I feel constantly in the spotlight but I guess I will have to get used to it, because as you said is not that one culture is better than the other, we just grew up with different social dynamics. Aaaaand, give Beemo a big hug for me, he always makes me smile :)

[@KoffeewithK371]

Thank you for addressing this topic! I'm from California and I was in a long-term relationship with a Korean guy. During that time, I actually really enjoyed learning about the hierarchy system. I loved interacting with his parents and friends and learning about the pros and cons of a system that was so different from ours. I've always been bothered by the lack of formality/respect many people from the younger generation have in American culture, so I think the Korean hierarchy system was very suitable for me! ^_^

[@YasoGames]

My husband is Chinese and I am Puerto Rican, and I feel like your experience is very similar to ours, where my parents are very down to earth and joke with my husband but there's a certain image that his parents are expecting of me. Unfortunately it didn't end well for us because my husband decided to cut ties with his parents because of the way they treated not only myself, but him and his sister. It's really hard because in my culture family is so important, I know almost all of my cousins and still talk to all my siblings and parents, and I only know his father, mother, sister and aunt (who also has many opinions about me and my pink hair). I hope that you guys have a happy relationship in both ends and it makes me smile to know that it's awkward, but not as bad as it could be.

[@2hearts1seoul]

+YasoGames Ohh, I'm so sorry to hear it had to come to that :( On the other hand, it sounded like it would have done more harm staying in close contact with them according to what you said, so in the long run it may be healthier for everyone. But again, never an easy situation. I'm glad you have such a tight relationship with your family and that your husband gets along so well with them ^^

[@TheSailorTenjou]

I really love the calm and peaceful way you talk and explain things. My heart and soul rest when I watch your videos, that's why I like you both so much!

[@amberz3217]

I'm Italian/German American and my boyfriend is Korean American. His parents were born in Korea and moved here when they were in high school or college I think. My boyfriend's mother speaks limited English, but his dad speaks English well. I have been getting along with his parents, even his mom. His mom talks to me in Korean and she is very cute haha. I am going to start learning Korean so hopefully I can communicate with her better. They seem to like me so far! I know it isn't exactly the same since they don't live in Korea but they still have a lot of the Korean culture. Thanks for these videos, I like them a lot!

[@kimchimaru]

좋은 한 주 되세요! 선 리플 후 감상

[@sukim5756]

I never do comments a lot but today you guys made me say something lol. First of all, I loooove your videos...especially like this kind of chatting video. I'd love to hear you guys opinions, experiences in korea and everything . Back to the topic, I've been to other country for a year and just came back. And in some reason I felt so uncomfortable just being here. Especially when I went to grandparent's houses during lunar new years. I guess what makes me uncomfortable is their conservative opinions and things that 'I need to do as someone'. I think Korea has lot's of good cultures but also uncomfortable cultures. They said I need to be polite but they ask too much, and they don't care their behaviors because they are older than me...kind of that idk. I really like Korea as my country but I don't know about specific culture. But lots of people are changing, even older generations like my parents. So...yeah. What I wanted to say is even Korean does feel uncomfortable about this sometimes, and it's obvious that it's hard to Foreigners(like Sarah) to adjust perfectly. Yeap. That's what I wanted to say....thanks for good video, G'night

[@taekwondogirl2010]

I am a Canadian and have been living in Korea for 14yrs. I have been dating a Korean guy for almost 6yrs. now and we are preparing to get married...i love watching your guys' videos... i feel like i can relate in so many ways!!! thank you for sharing^^

[@beaangulo5649]

beemo’s so cute listening to you guys hahaha

[@정은지-q7o2k]

욕심없는 두 사람의 영상이 넘 좋아요 ❤️ 힘들 때나 하루를 마무리할 때 보면 마음이 편안해지고 차분해집니다 항상 좋은 영상 고마워여 너무나!

[@Guardian_s2]

진짜 건강하게 먹고 사는 몇 안되는 부부ㅋㅋㅋ

[@bluewhale9067]

매년 하는 말이지만.. ㅎㅎ이번 감기는 한달이나 가더라구요 ㅠㅠ 😢두분다 감기 조심하세요~ 이번주도 잘 보고 가요💜

[@sonesunny7632]

Start a cooking channel!

[@JiwoongandKatharineAdventures]

Another awesome video! We get this question a lot as well, and have a similar situation where the relationships is good, but sometimes the context of social expectations can make things awkward and/or stressful. In our case, as we live in the U.S., communicating with our family in Korea is a bit easier because of the time difference - we have to plan our Skypes and calls so there are fewer surprise conversations popping up. Looking forward to your video next week!

[@M.elonade]

seriously late but I stumbled across this because I'm in a similar situation and thought i'd add on to the discussion even if it's late. My boyfriend is Korean and I'm Canadian ( currently long distance ) and when he first came to visit me he was super quiet and super tense around my parents. A lot of my grandparents remarked " wow he is really quiet" "he is really shy" " I don't know him well enough" but they had an issue grasping that this was a cultural thing. He views them as grandparents. He loosened up around my parents because of my step-dad's outgoing personality but with my grandparents he still remained quiet, reserved and formal. I think in time he will loosen up but I really wanted to emphasis to my family that this is a cultural difference he hasn't adjusted to. On the other hand, I have not met his parents and I'm terrified to do so. They seem beyond relaxed and really us dating and being together but we have not met. I think my "korean" manners are good but I'm very scared to make a mistake when that time comes.

[@blueberry9394]

Discussion session 참 좋네요. 아무생각 없이 보는 유투브 비디오들인데 요편은 생각이란걸 하게 해주네요. 사라님 질문에서 다른 나라이기에 오는 문화적 차이뿐만 아니라 다른 가족이어서 오는 (가족)문화 차이도 확실히 있다는 점을 생각하게 됐어요! 한국인끼리 결혼해도 가족문화 차이 때문에 힘들어 하는 사람들도 많더라구요. P.s 비모가 귀를 쫑긋쫑긋 할 때 듣고 있는 듯한 느낌 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 너무 귀여워요

[@tcfoxdude]

I love ur channel. Prefer the out and about. It's just so relaxing to watch.

[@jerry-cb3nx]

비모 볼때마다 고양이를 입양하고싶다는 생각이 간절히 들어요. 어렸을때 항상 강아지, 새 등 반려동물들과 자라왔고 고양이를 키운적도 있는데 그땐 제가 어려서 엄마가 기본적인 관리를 다 하셨어요. 지금 강아지를 키우고있지만 고양이와는 많이 다른것 같아요. 고양이 털(털빠짐), 배변관리, 식사 등 구체적으로 어떻게 하시는지 나중에 기회가 되셔서 영상으로 만들어주시면 너무 감사할 것 같아요. 항상 행복한 마음으로 잘 보고있어요. 추운겨울 잘 보내세요~!!

[@NYchen-wn6vu]

문화상대주의적인 태도 멋져요👍👍👍 제가 쓸까 말까 고민하다가 ㅎㅎ 한국인 구독자들 궁금하다시니… 저는 아직 미혼이지만 30대의 어느 지인 분은 시어머니가 엄청 잘해주신대요 명절에 요리도 필요없고 그냥 끝! 근데 잘해주셔도 어딘가 불편하고 부담스럽다라고 하셨어요ㅋㅋㅋ 다음 예는 지인2인데 이 분은 20대고 시어머니께 그냥 엄마라고 부르면서 격없이 잘 지내더라구요ㅎㅎ 지인3도 20대입니당. 시부모님이 너무 좋은 분들이고 유쾌하시고 편의를 잘 봐주시지만 뭐 당연한 소리지만 아들편을 든다고…ㅎㅎ 팔은 안으로 굽는거죠(부디 저의 행간의 의미를 알아주세요 어느 상황인지 한국의 며느리는 알거라 생각하며ㅎㅎ) 뭐 그러니까 지인3은 규호가 새라네 집에 입양된 아들 같은 느낌과는 다른것 같아요! 너무 제 지인들 이야기 파는 것 같아서 좀 생략했는데 이 부분때문에 큰 오해가 안생기길 바라고용 저도 존경어 사용하면서 글 쓰는중이긴한데 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 뭔가 영어 때문인지 뭔지 매번 규호&새라를 오빠, 언니라 하면 너무 이상하고 '씨'를 붙이기도 이상하고 ㅋㅋㅋ제가 버릇이 없어서 저렇게 쓴게 아니란것도 오해 없으셨으면ㅎㅎ

[@2hearts1seoul]

+N.Y chen 안녕하세요^^ 정말 사람마다 그리고 집안마다 또 집안의 분위기마다 다른거 같네요. 시어머니께 엄마라고 부르면서 지내시는 분도 있고 지인 이야기지만 그래도 이렇게 많이 적어주셔서 너무 감사해요 😊 저희 부모님은 세라편을 들어서 저는 주로 따라가요 ㅋㅋ 저희를 부르는 호칭은 편하신대로 하셔도 좋아요😊 오해없으니 걱정마세요 ㅋㅋ

[@marieboulay7069]

Hi Kyuho and Sarah, I finally had a chance to view this today and I understand completely about the bit of awkwardness you speak of. It's not a bad thing, just different. I too am in an international marriage and my in-laws are eastern and do not speak English or have ever traveled outside of their country. I lived for over a year In Cairo and I must admit when it was time to return to Canada for work, I was absolutely devastated as we'd become very close regardless of the culture, ranks and religion. There will always be that bit of awkwardness because of the fact we as Canadians don't experience or have these hierarchies that most eastern countries have. But it doesn't take anything away from our marriage, it fact it promotes conversation most of the time. Thanks for the wee bit of insight you both experience as it's very interesting and provides a better understanding of the Korean culture. Cheers to you both! 👍🏼

[@rrojasg68]

Watching this 2yr old vlog I enjoy u two eating at your dining table facing each other, so bonding!

[@danyduch10]

Thank's for wake me Up! Love you guys! .... Good morning from México.

[@Inchonseoul]

Daniela Durán ; 안녕하세요, Buenos dias! des de Corea.

[@danyduch10]

CT K !Buenos Días!

[@Bora_8]

국적을 떠나서 모든 사람들이 마찬가지로 다른 부모님을 모시는 일은 어색하겠지만, 각자의 방법을 찾아내야 할 숙제 인 것 같네요! 화이팅~~!

[@knaala5798]

Thank you SO much for providing videos every week. I'm always so excited to come to watch your videos :,) Korea has always been so interesting to me and I love that y'all give a glimpse into things that I didn't know about. You both are so intellectual and funny and just a pleasure to watch; definitely my favorite channel on KZbin!! I hope that y'all have a wonderful week ahead!! -Hannah

[@shmickyshmoe]

Really liked this "hybrid" type video!😄👍🏻. Very enjoyable and refreshing. So nice to see your healthy eating habits and I don't mean just the food but also that you both eat meals together. So important for a healthy relationship. Just want to thank you for providing lovely watching time for me, really appreciate it!

[@sandyg.7317]

I am an American and my son in law was born in Mexico and has lived in the United States for at least twenty years. We have a wonderful relationship! I became his mother and he became my son the day he married my daughter.♡

[@vhun05]

Thanks for making such high quality videos. I love watching.

[@KC-ls4xu]

Hello! Great job on another eloquent discussion. I had two quick questions: one, when do you think is the best time to visit Korea? (are there certain holidays to avoid/or embrace, weather?) And also, how convenient do you think getting to Japan from Korea during the Olympics will be? Especially for multiple trips back and forth. Thank you!

[@2hearts1seoul]

Around Buddha's birthday there is beautiful warm weather ^^ As for traveling during the Olympics, nooo idea~

[@KC-ls4xu]

2hearts1seoul thank you! I'm just curious as I've seen so many Japanese KZbinrs visiting Korea recently and talking about the marketing they've been seeing everywhere for it (in Japan) I mean. So I'm wondering if they'll target surrounding countries for tourism as well. It's pretty much just a short flight, right?

[@readysetsleep]

Don't go during the winter it's ridiculously cold there. Don't visit during Lunar New Year because everything is closed, Seoul is a literal ghost town. The good restaurants are all closed too. It's easy to fly to Korea and Japan I used Peach Air if you are flying out of Osaka, Vanilla Air if you are flying out of Tokyo. Also research the places you are staying at, there are many shady Hostel and Guest Houses that are run like crap. Agoda doesn't let you review them if you cancel. I had my experience of having to leave one because it was an awful basement one.

[@KC-ls4xu]

readyset thank you for all the info!

[@readysetsleep]

One thing I learned from my travel is the Metro (subways and buses) don't start running until 5:30 AM. Same fore both Seoul and Busan 24:00-5:30 they are closed. I think busan is 5am? So time your flights right or you'll end up paying some crazy taxi fare to get to the airport which is 45 mins away for seoul and 35 mins away from Busan. That 2 hr window before a flight if you have a 7am flight can be a bit stressful.

[@1997kms]

My Korean boyfriend moved to Australia with his family 7 years ago, but his parents spent a lot of time here since they were in their 20s going back and forth between Aus and Kor. So, they are quite well adapted to the Australian culture. However, I still have no idea how to address them, especially because we speak english together. I am planning on marrying my boyfriend and I'm nervous for my future with my future in laws, even though they're amazing and love me. It puts a bit of pressure on me knowing the hierarchy system in Korea.

[@fernanda.duarte]

My boyfriend is Japanese and when I met his family for the first time I had no idea on how to act so I was extremely formal. I speak a little bit of Japanese but I was so shy and so afraid to do something wrong (or to say something wrong) that all I used of my japanese with them was adding the "-san" after their names. They were very nice and welcoming tho and little by little I loosened up a bit. I completely understand you both. It's really nice to be able to relate and compare my experience with you guys and understand that being different is exactly as you said: Just different. We were all raised in distinct ways and it reflects on how we socialize with people in any way (specially when crossing borders!). The pressure comes with the in laws as it would if they were from the same culture as ours but a bit more cause we have no grounds when it's an intercultural experience and we want to make sure to act respectfully. Your videos are amazing and makes me relate in a bunch of things :)

[@nnnyyyj999]

기다렷는데 드뎌ㅜㅜㅜㅜ 항상 기대하구 잼게보구있어요~!!

[@garywon4177]

Loved your conversations! I couldn't stop laughing. Enjoyed it!

[@yshasha]

just found out about your channel and I feel so connected because I am married to a swedish husband (I'm from hong kong), we are also an international couple. You guys are so cute together

[@staroliva6502]

You guys eat so healthy!!! Love it you should do some cooking videos I love Korean Cuisine!!!

[@stevenzechmeister5993]

man I loved your cats facial expression after he groomed his balls!

[@2hearts1seoul]

Best part of the video tbh!

[@AdrenalStorm]

This was a very unique video! We saw you guys walk around and also sit down and talk! I do agree that the Asian hierarchy system is a bit strafing. Which is why I myself prefer the more laid back culture of Sarah's parents and western culture in general. But the hierarchy system differs not just interculturally, but also within the same culture! I'm guessing some Korean parents are a bit more traditional, while others are more modern and laid back, like with some parents in Taiwan. It might be different for Taiwan, because it's heavily westernized and democratic, and some families in the city completely abolish the hierarchy system because sometimes it is stressful, and to be blunt a pain in the ass. But I do agree that respecting in laws and having set rules and boundaries are very important. Asian culture is built on Confucianism and it's all about how respect and hierarchy is important. Established order and respect/love based on that order has worked in many Asian cultures while lack of that established order has caused many dynasties to fall because of backstabbing and lack of dignity and respect. So I do understand both sides. For me personally, I just want a basic level of respect, while too much established order and hierarchy in the in-law system is a bit too much. I do respect both sides, and I don't think one side is more right than the other. It just comes down to personal preferences. Hope you guys are having a great week! Best of wishes and happiness as always!

[@2hearts1seoul]

"For me personally, I just want a basic level of respect, while too much established order and hierarchy in the in-law system is a bit too much...I do respect both sides, and I don't think one side is more right than the other. It just comes down to personal preferences." I (Sarah) sooo agree with everything you said, especially those particular points. Everyone has different preferences and comfort levels, even within the same culture. It's definitely a tricky balance to find sometimes :) Hope you're keeping warm over there btw!

[@AL-yq9tz]

Out of curiosity and personal experience, my family is a pretty large mix of cultures between adoption, people marrying in and living on different continents; so most of my family members have mixed cultural practices. This question may be looking too into the future, and if so I understand, but do think once you have your own family your relationship will lean more to wards a ‘relaxed’ integration of Sarah’s Canadian family dynamics, or the hierarchy system because you reside in Korea, somewhere in between? I live in Canada (currently Halifax!!) and its interesting to see the ways my family members that live here meld there cultural practices together, and how growing up my experiences had differed because of it. Anyways, always appreciate the effort your guys put into these videos, have a great week!

[@hyjung3311]

비모 중간에 벙찐 표정에서 빵터졋네요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

[@hiroco76]

Hi from Halifax! I always enjoy your channel with my daughters:) We're Japanese and Korean 부부 met in Halifax long time ago. After 13years of Korean life, we just moved back here last year. Anyway I just remembered I had a hard time because of 안부전화. You'll be ok soon 화이팅~ Looking forward to the next video!

[@purpleteeth538]

한 주의 마무리는 항상 두분의 동영상ㅇ을 보면서....!!! 알콩달콩 좋아보여요👍🏼 재미도 있구요🤗🤗🤗

[@정정-h8c]

이런 이야기 너무좋아요 ~~~ 브이로그처럼 일상이 담긴 영상도 좋지만 덕분에 많은걸 알아가는것같네용 ㅎㅎㅎ 그나저나 6:15 비모 ..ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 짱귀

[@speak_with_calma]

I have just discovered your channel, and I must say I love it, I have watched on TV some shows related to interracial / intercultural marriages and I love seeing these differences, especially as I teach English to Korean students (adults) so it can definitely help to understand better some differences, keep up on sharing :D I can't wait to see new ones and to catch up with old videos

[@purplemelpo]

i love that your cat is sitting on the table while you're speaking. it's perfect

[@Shaik_Irfan95]

hey kyuho & sarah!! i'm just curious to know...do u guys ever fight?? 😊

[@dasshuttsu]

난 한국사람인데 세라랑 똑같은 이유로 같은 한국사람들 대하기가 너무 어려워요. 저도 허리숙여 인사하고 존댓말 하고 뭘 하든 어른 먼저.. 라고 배우면서 자랐지만 내가 체질적으로 그런걸 못 견뎌요.

[@sonacho3623]

제가 결혼은 안한 학생이라 장모님께 어떻게 대할진 모르겠지만 ㅠㅠ 호주에서 유학생활을 했었는데 친구 부모님 만날때 오히려 어떻게 대할지 모르겠어서 힘들더라고요ㅋㅋ 머리로는 호주도 캐나다처럼 위계질서가 없고 자유로운건 아는데, 그래도 내가 어른들한테 hi 하는건 너무 버릇없지않나 하는 생각에 그냥 bow하고 인사했었어요ㅋㅋ 감사하다면서 계속 꾸벅꾸벅하고ㅠ 다른거는 대부분 받아들여지는데 어렸을때부터 한국에서 어른들한테 예의있게 행동하는걸 배웠던게 몸에 베어서, 외국에 가서도 어른들을 친구처럼 대하는게 힘들고 오히려 그게 불편하더라구여ㅠㅠㅠ 그래도 만약 다른 문화권 사람이랑 결혼해서 규호씨처럼 적응시간을 갖게되면? 바뀔수있을것같아요! 어른을 공경하는 마음의 관점?에서는 위계질서 시스템이 그렇게 나쁜 제도라고생각은 안해요~ 단지 다른 문화인것 뿐이니깐요! 그리고 많이 그런 문화가 사라진거같기도 ㅎㅎ 항상 잘보고있습니다~~!! ^_^ 다음 영상도 기대할게요!!!

[@2hearts1seoul]

+sunah jo 안녕하세요^^ 확실히 살아온 배경과 예의라는게 나라마다 문화마다 상대적이다 보니 문화권이 전혀 다른 경우엔 굉장히 어색해지는것 같아요. 더군다나 예의라는것을 동양과 서양을 섞어서 사용할수도 없으니 당사자에 따라 아예 한쪽으로 치우쳐야 하는것 같다는 생각이 들어요. 🙂 말씀하신것처럼 시간이 지나면서 이런저런 문화도 정말 많이 바뀐거 같아요 다른나라 사람이 전혀 다른 문화를 완벽하게 소화는 못하겠지만 각자 서로 이해하고 배우려는 자세가 더 중요하다고 생각돼요^^

[@mylogic2104]

공감합니다. 어떻게 해야할지 잘 모를 때는 too much 해도 오히려 극진한게 낫다고 생각합니다.

[@경니-n8s]

sunah jo 완전 공감해요!! 저도 영국에 있을때 친구집에 몇주 있었는데 무엇보다 호칭이 참 애매하더라구요ㅋㅋ그냥 이름으로 부르라고 하시는데 제가 차마 못하겠어서.. 그리고 그냥 거실에서 tv보는 것도 신경쓰여서 어른들 왔다갔다 하실때마다 벌떡!! 일어나고 그랬어요ㅋㅋㅋ진짜 몸에 배인 습관이라는게 무서운거같아요..ㅜㅜ

[@richrose82]

Great video! Loved the "hybrid" of the vlog and topic discussion. Would not mind having another video like it again! :)

[@2hearts1seoul]

+Doraly Reynaga Ohh, thank you--glad to hear that! We were a bit unsure when editing, but we're glad the feedback has been so positive 😊

[@MJ-cr9hm]

그냥일상영상임에도불구하고 지루하지않고 너무 재미있어요!ㅎㅎ뭔가 힐링되는느낌ㅋㅋ업로드가 제일 기다려지는 채널중 하나에요ㅋㅋ

[@2hearts1seoul]

+michelle jun 우와 감사합니다 😃 좋은 하루 보내세요! 😍

[@supremacy7489]

ㅋㅋㅋ 비모가 하드캐리 했네요 이번영상은

[@그린블루-e5u]

늘 영상 잘보고있어요 어려웠을 질문에 답해주시는 모습이 멋져요:)

[@고냉이-g8b]

결혼을 아직 안해서 잘 모르겠지만 확실히 좀 두려움이 많네요 시부모님에 대한🤔ㅎㅎ 비모는 언제나 귀엽네요😭

[@lizethgalindo1818]

your guy's editing is always amazing

[@mikebailey9543]

Thank you Sarah and Kyuho for sharing your vlog. It was interesting to see the inside of the E-Mart and how you do your shopping. Thank you for your discussion on the differences in relationships with in-laws in Korea and Canada. Your discussion was informative and interesting. It's minus 15 and sunny in Truro this morning. Have a great week! Thumbs up!

[@2hearts1seoul]

+Mike Bailey So glad you enjoyed it! 😊 And brrr!! Keep warm over there--hopefully February will bring milder weather!

[@leahkauffman4300]

I love how your stray cats are well fed!

[@2hearts1seoul]

+Leah Kauffman Maybe a little too well fed, hehe 😁

[@nicks2824]

You both seem to get along well, good you keep healthy relationship with in laws, saying goes Love your mom but always Love your MIL more, without them you would not have met your soul mate💜

[@lyramona]

Another great one guys!!!! Beemo is hilarious!

[@vesim6420]

미리말하자면 예전엔 절대적이엇고.지금 밀레니엄시대에 살아가면서. 그런 무례함에 대한 것들도 점차 프리덤해져가고있어요.물론 바닥에깔린 분위기 .테두리가 없어지진않아요. 그리고 세라가 어디에 드러눕는게 무례할거라고햇는데 맞는말이지만.요즘와선 그런 젊은사람들의 프리한행동이 무덤덤한 일상에 푼수같겟지만 오히려 귀엽고 고맙게 느끼는 어른들도 적지않습니다.. 그리고 그런 상황이되면 분위기메이커랄지 커리어우먼이랄지 등등 그사람의 능력으로 인정받기도해요.오히려 더 긍정적이죠.물론 그 캐릭터의 컨셉이 그런거라서면 계속그래도 되지만 .그게 아니라면 되도않은짓이 되겟지요.어찌됏든 그런것들이 그렇게 어려운건아닙니다.즐기면된다고봅니다

[@ysnam6376]

비모야 뭘 알고 듣는거니 ㅋ ㅋ ㅋ

[@penpen002]

I love your conversations/discussion. Also the food you guys cook at home. omg.

[@reinasol6110]

항상 영상 재미있게 보구있어요:) 좋은하루 보내세요!!

[@nsoape767]

Today's theme is really interesting. I think Sarah is doing really great, even though I can see it only through video, I can see that she understands so perfectly about Korean culture. I was burst into laugh from what 규호 said: Once you tastes freedom... :) I totally agree with him. As a Korean, I felt quite shocked when I saw my foreign friends get along so well with their in-laws. Now I really envy that friendly, relaxed relationship. Although it's not common, I often hear about people who have such a nice, non-hierarchical relationship with their in-law in Korea. Anyway, Good luck with every people who are living in 시월드..:*) Thanks for sharing your video!

[@MissVampish]

I'm from New Zealand so there's no strict heirachy here. However I was always taught to respect my elders and be polite. If I was meeting inlaws for the first time I'd probably do the same as Kyuho and refer to them as Sir/Maam until they told me otherwise. I'd probably not joke around or relax until they did first. So maybe it also depends on the people and their relationships. Or I'm an uptight weirdo haha.

[@veritush]

Hello! in Argentina there are only 2 levels of formality in speech: formal and informal. You can always exacerbate the formality or informality with your vocabulary (you wouldn't use slang words in the formal speech)... but basically it's either addressing the other person formally (using the "Usted" system) or informally (using the "vos" system). "Usted" and "vos" ("tu" in the rest of spanish-speaking countries) are the only 2 grades of formality for the word "you" that the Spanish language offers (the plural "you" would be "ustedes" for both in my country, in Spain you'd use "vosotros" for the informal plural 3rd person), and I think that is because the culture of the people using the Spanish language never needed more levels of speech. I am not sure what happens in the rest of the Spanish-speaking countries, but in my culture it's suuuuuuper awkward to treat family members formally. It's only more frequent in business. For us, good manners indicate you should address your non-familiar elders/bosses/customer using the formal system and let them tell you to use the informal speech. Usually you end up using the informal speech with everybody, people you'd see all the time feel it's "too stiff" to be treated formally or that it makes them "too feel old". When meeting your in-laws, you always want to make a good impression, so you'd be on your best behaviour, watch your mannerisms, and treat them formally. They will let you know right away to drop the formality, and once everybody is more acquainted, people loosen up and behave comfortably. There are no honorifics or titles. BUT the awkwardness is still there!! you never feel 100% free to act however you want because you want to make sure you're being respectful and that they like you. I think it's a global thing: if your in-laws don't like you, your life will NOT get any easier

[@paulwonlee]

Great video, I enjoyed watching this video very much.

[@staroliva6502]

I love how you guys speak about each other Culture with such respect.

[@Nana_S_T]

I'm really curious about the restaurant at Gangnam station that you mentioned. What is it called? Looked super delicious, and I'd love to hear whats it's called, so I can go and try it out! :)

[@2hearts1seoul]

It's called 'Flying Pan' and we've been going there for years--the food is incredible there! :)

[@girlslikeyou5265]

Greetings and love to both of you! Really good and interesting video, also really informative as Im preparing for my exams in cultural studies, so that was a really good productive learning break. ;) Thank you and hoping Sarah will get better soon. :)

[@밍구-h8h]

맞아요... 연애를 떠나서 결혼문제를 생각했을때 시부모님과의 어색한 관계를 먼저 떠올리게 되는점이 없다고는 못하겠네요 ㅋㅋ

[@MoonlightPassions]

So I'm from Australia and my boyfriend is Korean, I've visited him in Korea twice now and stayed with his parents in their home both times. I think they're definitely a lot more open minded as to the cultural difference and so are a lot more laid back in terms of the hierarchy system, at least with me. I definitely still feel some awkwardness but they have been very accommodating and treat me a lot more casually than I think they would if I was a Korean. A lot of our friends in Korea are super shocked to find out that I stayed with them in their house and shared a room and bed with my boyfriend, which is always really funny witnessing their reactions haha :P

[@gabie1006]

MoiMoi super agree ;)

[@afiranada3006]

i really like this kind of video. it gives a lot of information and i like the way sara express herself with a lot of expression XD love u guys

[@Jen-sy5et]

저는 아직 결혼을 안했기때문에 저희 부모님을 보면서 느낀점은 한국에서는 남편쪽의 장모 장인어른보다는 아내쪽의 시부모관계가 훨씬 어렵다는 점이예요. 저희 친할머니친할아버지께서는 굉장히 좋으신 분들이고 다른 어려운 집들에 비해선 너무나 편하게 잘 대해주시는 편이지만 아무리 그래도 저희 엄마가 시댁에 가서 영상 속의 규호님처럼 편하게 누워있을 수는 없어요 항상 집에서도 양말을 신고 다녀야 하구요 집안일,요리도 도와드려야 하구요 (저또한 예의를 차리죠) 하지만 저희 아빠를 보면 외할머니할아버지 댁에 가서는 누워서 티비를 보기도 하고 장모님과 장인어른께 반말을 하기도 해요 (물론 다른집은 다를 수도 있어요) 제가 보기엔 아빠는 훨씬 편해보이고 별로 신경쓸게 없어보여요 ! 근데 웃긴건 저도 외할머니댁에 가면 누워있고 할머니한테 반말도 하고 그래요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 이건 저의 엄마의 엄마이기 때문에 더 친근하고 편한 느낌이 있어서 그런가봐요 .얘기가 좀 샜는데 어쨌든 제생각엔 한국은 좀 이런거같아요 저도 어디가 낫다 하는건 아니지만. . 위계질서가 없는 편한 캐나다나 미국을 보니 서양인 남편 만나고 싶네요 ..ㅎㅎㅎㅎㅎㅎㅎ 오늘도 영상 잘 봤습니다!!!

[@LaBucci]

I love this weekly discussions !!! Please do it more ❤️ real interesting

[@man80481]

hi Sarah and kyuho!!! good to see your new video every Sunday morning!!! one thing that I am looking forward every week. my husband and I really like your "thanks for nothing" sweatshirt. did u get it from forever 21?

[@oleinkar3933]

Great video. My boyfriend is Korean and I am a Canadian living in Korea. So eventually he will meet my parents and I think he is really nervous about that. So this video will really put him at ease that there aren't strict rules and formalities like there are when meeting Korean parents. Thanks!

[@felisiasmith8071]

I am Asian and married Australian. First time I met my in-laws I called them Mr&Mrs Smith my mum in-laws said Oh please called me Debra, but I said to my self I cant how can I call older person with their name? #hierarchy. Then I called them mum dad even though at that moment I haven't married yet 😁😁😁

This is a pretty interesting discussion. I am Brazilian, so I could say normally here hierarchy is only present in some specific contexts. It obviously exists in families but it is not that accentuated. In my family we stablish relationships of respect, but respect in my culture is not necessarily tied to specific ways of behaving or speaking to someone. Some general "rules" apply, like never raising my voice when talking to my parents or disobeying. But I don't really need to use the most formal form of the language when talking to them, for example. Not criticizing other cultures, just pointing out how mine is different, not better or worse. :D

[@M_Sonata]

Beemo looks so calm and graceful on your coffee table. Seems like he has become so well mannered by adapting to the Korean hierarchy system unless you tell him it's not his feeding time.

[@russellmae7517]

Hi guys! Just wanted to share my experience on the topic. I just got married and my husband is an American-Korean. I did not grow up in Korea, so having to spend sometime there and seeing that hierarchy setup was a bit new because where I'm from children can be chill with there parents but not too chill to be almost like friends. But Korea's system is a bit more stricter in a sense, so for me, I still needed to adjust more aside from learning the culture itself but also being more conscious of my actions around my in-laws and the elderly. We're newly weds, so I can't really say that how my relationship right now will be the same forever but I can say is that, my husband being American born and raised but pure blood Korean, makes his parents more open minded. So they are not as strict if I make some mistakes or not notice if I'm stepping out of line because there son as well doesn't have that pure Korean ways instilled to him. And him having a spouse that has a whole different ethnicity and culture makes them more accepting. So yeah, I can definitely vouch that having Korean in laws can be stressful at times but it's not that bad. I just have to remind myself to understand and respect the culture that's been there for thousands of years and adjust accordingly and be thankful that they are adjusting to me too. By the way, I really appreciate your videos. I've been following you guys for a long time, even after I made a new youtube account and I truly enjoy your content. Bless both of you always and more vids to come! :)

[@eileencolton7498]

I really look forward to watching you guys each week you are a lovely couple and very helpful with life in Korea. I would love to visit there some day. Lots of love from Ireland ☘☘☘☘