Hitting Women - That's Messed Up - Nouman Ali Khan

[@saraonashelf]

"People arent mature enough to learn it" then why are they mature enough to marry? This is a conversation that needs to be taken place when one is ready or going into marriage.

[@mercy2daworld490]

Mohammed maybe that was her son , how do you know it was the husband 😂

[@mercy2daworld490]

Sara Moussa yeah it's bad cultural practices in many Muslims countries like Saudi Arabia, Somalia, Pakistan etc. They beat these women and justify it. Its sad sad world smh

[@Saber23]

MERCY2 DaWorld it’s easy to know for example if they looked the same age or if they were wearing rings

[@gingerninja2269]

Then share it. No Haram in that.

[@noahunderwood7381]

Sara Moussa I don’t know y u r complaining when men r the one getting hit and they don’t hit women

[@menna-tallah7814]

Oh my.... Abdel Haleem is my father!! He used to work in Oxford!! MY FATHER KNEW MY FAVORITE SPEAKER! I'M SO HAPPY!

[@standreamcatcher544]

No wayyy!!

[@Ranirenren16]

Really?!

[@Humanity894]

Menna-T Allah Wait WHAT 😱

[@iffatmufti6559]

MashAllah

[@billzkhan100]

Woww.. i wish to meet him.. 😊

[@Rassabollan]

Uttermost respect. From a philosophical perspective, and as a (non-Muslim-western-truth-seeking) woman, I found this video not only informative but also very enlightightning. Thank you, all those involved, for making this video and Nouman Ali Khan for a great talk. Peace be with you.

[@menyouh771]

banana aya playa Agree!

[@Karradaguy1]

So Klara, you're ok with men beating wives?!

[@ohnoyoyo]

the punishment for sex out of wedlock is death! so his claim that its only in the case of cheating is dishonest. plus, at the 10m mark, he totally says its ok to hit your wife! as a western truth seeking woman... how dont you find that outrageous!? if you are new to studying islam, have you got to the "what thy right hand possesses" part yet? (*hint; its worse than the wife beating verses)

[@tasneem6052]

Yes, the punishment for adultery is death, only if there four witnesses who are righteous whom witnessed the incident caught them in the actual act and that is a case that almost never happens there is actually a punishment for those who accuse for the crime and don't bring four witnesses , and that and that is mentioned in detail in Sura An-Noor. These cases need have to have deeper understanding and you cant go read the Quran and then translate what it means from your own perspective, then what is the point of having scholars? I don't think anyone who reads a book of law can understand and go by it unless he/she learns it. If that's the case why go to law schools? Quran is far more than that, it is the words of Allah and constitution for mankind. May Allah give us and you a better understanding and guide us to the straight path.

[@ohnoyoyo]

such a peaceful religion then... having the death penalty and all. (rolls eyes)

[@wolfgang7812]

A message to women out there; keep,away from weak men who can't control their anger.

[@dwighthayes4738]

Also send the message to weak women who can't control their anger or their hands that think they deserve a pass for their behaviors just because they have a vagina. WE CAN ALL CHOOSE OUR ACTIONS BUT NONE OF US CAN CHOOSE OUR CONSEQUENCES. I do not recognize nor do I give vagina passes. Apparently, too many people are still perpetuating the normalization of societal abuse against men and employing shaming tactics against men to convince them that accepting physical or verbal abuse from a female makes you a better man when we all know that is incorrect, hypocritical and foolish.

[@dwighthayes4738]

@Nayla Khan Were you aware that over 70% of ALL UNPROVOKED acts of domestic violence are at the hands of WOMEN against men in the United States? ALSO In the black community ALONE... Intimate Partner Violence in Black communities is routinely blamed on Black men. Reports show that BLACK WOMEN have historically been as violent (at times more so) than black men Please do research *"Black Men as Victims and Perpetrators of Dating Violence” in the Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma, p. 240-243.* Also, violence in the black community is not affected by large-scale black male incarceration or an absence of men. It is a FACT that violence in black homes and communities CONTINUES even without black men at the hands of none other than BLACK WOMEN. *SOURCE Straight Black Men Are the Scapegoats of Black People: VSB’s Black Eugenics Renaissance and the Pandering to Make Attention Outweigh Death” by T. Hasan Johnson, Ph.D.*

[@atejani6994]

I agree but women also need to be taught how to control their anger as well. Women can be just as violent and abusive. Domestic violence should always be condemned regardless of the gender of the victim or the perpetrator

[@Farah-ij4qf]

👌🏼

[@dwighthayes4738]

@Altair So you hate wife beaters but this same hate is not extended to women that strike people or engage in violent abuse? Why is that? This idea of Men only expressing anger physically and women only by mean words is BS and completely misleading and false considering the FACT that 77% of all unprovoked acts of domestic violence are committed by women against men and even children. Women are running more than their mouths these days and in case you have not noticed, women are now comprising the fasting growing group being incarcerated for the female increase in violent crime. Please give women their just due as it concerns this issue and cease giving them passes just because the have vaginas. Domestic violence is NOT a one sided issue. women are more than just mental abusers. They are also violent YET they believe they should not have the same consequences for their violence purely because they have vaginas. All of us can choose our actions but none of us can choose our consequences and YES this includes women too.

[@SuperCatwoman09]

To be honest I always felt uneasy reading that Aya & so finally I tried to pretend that it is not there because otherwise I would have fallen into a serious faith crisis...You can't imagine how glad I am that you cleared that up for me!!!! Jazakallah kheir, may Allah grant Nouman Ali Khan the highest rank in Jannah

[@drdreams5578]

+SuperCatwoman09 Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@enmei__________]

Men can't hit women on face. Men can't hit them in such a way that they get hurt. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: “This means that it should not cause pain.” ‘Ata said: I said to Ibn `Abbas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh? He said, Hitting with a siwak and the like

[@naimashueyb1868]

I’ve been so lost about my religion but the way this man discusses and speaks about things makes everything easier and so much clearer oh my allah thank godd!!

[@randalthor647]

Protect your Imaan don't let yourself get distant from Allah Subhanwatala

[@shiningdoe3611]

Same after reading surah nisa some verses really disturbed me but after hearing this man I feel better

[@symphonicemotions9553]

my problem with this ayah is not about beating. if allah wants to demomstrate a legal framework allah may say this and also i would say allah shouldnt say it only for men. my prime problem with this ayah is about the caretaker part. How come allah say husband is the caretaker or responsible one upon wife. its the premis which cant be supported. if allah start with this position its not surprising to say beat her. in husband wife relation none should be given caretaker title alone. this is flawed logically, ideologically and philosophically

[@symphonicemotions9553]

I already reached to my conclusion that its not from devine creator not only for this also for so many issues with islam. My concern was even if I assume its from allah, he cant justify it anyhow how man have upper hand on women. allah literally said it. There cant be any correlation between who would authoritize over another based on gender

[@symphonicemotions9553]

born in muslim family. now dont idntify as muslim. though in my circumstances its not possible to declare publicly.

[@Rockstar88879]

We need this video to resurface in Pakistan right now.

[@user-uw1dz7er1d]

Abbhay idhar kuch nai honay wala jab tak Khadim Rizvi jese dallay paye jaein gay. We need to first eradicate such type of idiots.

[@lujainawwad1526]

Furqan Haqqani ..and the Middle East

[@Penn.obsessed]

Don't just say in Pakistan it happens in the west & in other countries too. In Yemen if anyone hits their spouse in public they will get jumped. It rarely happens tho.

[@nagisa0931]

Or in Iran, afagn, Syria, Somali

[@yyy8963]

@@nagisa0931 in Somalia if the husband so much as puts a hand on the wife her family beats him up lol

[@raeyanbakerkheil7455]

A man is not to harm his wife physically nor mentally, he should be her protector not abuser!

[@ツLewisHD]

Well said brother

[@dustsparkle3752]

Then why did Mohamed trike Aisha on the chest causing her pain. Every one says the hitting of women isn’t to hurt but to mostly grab the attention. By the prophet Mohammed’s example he has inflicted pain to his child bride. Search it up.

[@ツLewisHD]

@@dustsparkle3752 Pipe down kid, you know nothing about Islam as a whole so your whole point commenting is irrelevant. You don't even know what your talking about

[@dustsparkle3752]

Ninja Bro Ninja Bro look it up your self Sahih Muslim 4:2127 Aisha his kid wife explains how he struck her and caused her pain. Need more? Sahih al-bukhari 5825 Aisha says “I have not seen any woman suffer as much as the believing woman, look! Her skin is greener than her clothes” she is speaking about the Muslim women, but hey don’t believe me do your own research.

[@raeyanbakerkheil7455]

Dust Sparkle The Qur’an and prophetic practice clearly illustrate the relationship between spouses. The Qur’an says the relationship is based on tranquillity, unconditional love, tenderness, protection, encouragement, peace, kindness, comfort, justice and mercy. prophet Muhammad, set direct examples of these ideals of a marital relationship in his personal life. There is no clearer prophetic saying about a husband’s responsibility toward his wife than his response when asked: “Give her food when you take food, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.”

[@thebachu786]

its sad that some people out there can resort to hitting their spouse. IF you feel that angry that you feel the need to hit them for matters of infidelity or whatever other perceived threat, just divorce them. Your spouse should be your cuddle and salaah partner, not your emotional or physical punching bag.

[@Dust2Turaab]

absolutely!

[@EasyPeasyCookingWithMaria]

+thebachu786 true

[@excuseme6602]

If you feel that angry that you have to beat your partner then it probably means you need anger management, therapy, reevaluation of your ethics and morals. Rather than thinking the solution is just to divorce, one should take responsibility for the failure of the relationship and for one's actions. It takes an ego free person to do so and I pray for the perpetrators of physical violence and emotional abuse and I pray domestic violence and abuse victims to seek help from Allah. We are all being tested by each other's egos and from the silent whisperings of the dark forces coming at us from in front of us, behind us and from our sides.

[@dailyhadithguy]

+thebachu786 SALAM ALAYKOM, my name is Ahmad, I record daily videos about the prophet Muhammad PBUH, Hadiths etc. check my videos out and if you like them please support me by subscribing.

[@numidianking9759]

+thebachu786 your wife is your pride you must control your pride,

[@BebeGunsz]

I really appreciate your perspective on this ayah. I have just been blessed to begin my journey of exploring/learning God through Islam, (which my family are all Christian) so I don't have any type of influence/help beside my own self and what I'm learning from reading the Qu'ran... so I am always cautious that I am ingesting the proper authentic wisdom that God has gifted us with, understanding that God does not oppress us, rather help guide us if we open our hearts to His glory. Anyways, I did just read this surah recently and came across that... naturally from reading that, I perceived that ayah along the lines of how you have explained... but of course as I've said I am very cautious that I don't develop these understandings because I am new to everything. I'll close with saying thank you for the affirmation and this have encouraged me to trust my heart under God. Peace & blessings to you!

[@DaZZlAck385]

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[@lomeowmeow]

+Bianca Davis I wish you all the best. May Allah be with you and guide you. :)

[@BebeGunsz]

+jiniya azad Thank you, I appreciate it. Peace to you! :)

[@BebeGunsz]

+DaZZlAck385 Thank you so much! I will definitely check it out. Peace to you.

[@bieberlover489]

+Bianca Davis i love people like you. (assuming that you live in the west). all of this drama is going on about islam and muslims and its the people like you i appreciate. you chose to dig deep into islam and find truth instead of getting brainwashed by the mainstream media. thank you hun! may allah bless your heart!

[@citizensmart4408]

Very wise and accurate analysis please answer it fully publicly without being in a sorry state because Allah and Islam is absolutely positive,only we are negative and we lack wisdom that’s the problem with Ummah

[@zainabm6773]

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[@Glory.Be.To.Allah_swt]

Thank you so much for this explanation.. we are so blessed to have a Quran teacher who helps us to dig deeper into the treasures of the Quran

[@Jeon__gogh]

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[@Jeon__gogh]

Borsalino Kizaru I would like it. If u didn’t assume that I’m not focusing on it :( and it’s fine to actually get happy to see someone. Bro

[@Jeon__gogh]

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[@Glory.Be.To.Allah_swt]

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[@Glory.Be.To.Allah_swt]

Borsalino Kizaru Happy Eid!

[@syeddawood566]

May Allah protect us and improve our understanding of the Quran !

[@drdreams5578]

+Syed Dawood Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@HendrikNegrete]

That's sad. Try to teach us Islam yet you guys are confused af by your own shit.

[@alexaminonaa263]

Islam has a pedophile, abusers and terrorists. That is how people see islam

[@syntaxDE]

Wallahi, I am speachless. So unbelievably great... Allahu Akbar!

[@ly3163]

Ich glaub besser kann man die aya nicht erklären mashaAllah

[@syntaxDE]

Ja, genau!!

[@sysarcher]

+syntaxDE - Der Tod genügt als Ermahnung. SubhanAllah, gut erklärt!!

[@Malique1982]

+syntaxDE - Der Tod genügt als Ermahnung. Wirklich beeindrucken, die Erklärung, die Aufmachung einfach zu beneiden. Wenn wir in Deutschland doch nur Bruchteile dieser Professionalität hätten.

[@syntaxDE]

+Malique Yasin Es wird daran gearbeitet. Geduld!

[@xhibah]

*This video made me love my dad more than I ever had and I'm so grateful that he is so caring, generous and never EVER hit anyone ♥ - I hope every other muslim family shows how great and equal islam is so that Islamophobia no longer exists and make western people turn to Allah and stop spreading propaganda about muslims.*

[@ayshali5012]

Jazakhallaahu khairaa for explaining. As a muslim woman, i have always felt uneasy about this ayah. However, i truly believe that this is the word of God and He knows us better than we know ourselves & He knows what is good for us. I did lots of research and also came to the same conclusion alhamdulilah.. but you have a gift of explaining mashaAllaah. May Allah bless you. you are a means of spreading hidaayah may Allaah accept your great work aameen

[@leiapeison]

I'm not a muslim, but this is hands down one of the best videos on this subject I have ever watched.

[@muslimfundamentalist1410]

I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart for being open-minded. Peace be upon you, sister.

[@chummychimchim]

Match more of his videos sister 😊

[@enmei__________]

Men can't hit women on face. Men can't hit them in such a way that they get hurt. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: “This means that it should not cause pain.” ‘Ata said: I said to Ibn `Abbas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh? He said, Hitting with a siwak and the like.

[@WorldsEdge608]

That was so AWESOME! I had NEVER EVER heard that interpretation before. Thanks Nouman Ali Khan. You are the best.

[@bayyinah]

+yasirjamal285 May you continue to benefit from this channel.

[@sadiajavaid8717]

It feels so good to understand more about my religion and remove the misunderstandings.......May Allah bless all of us and help us understand our beautiful holy book better...

[@mariumali4852]

wallahi this video is a piece of gem...this should be shown to all non-muslims who picks on quran on this ayah and say that islam is oppressive religion for women...May allah bless Nouman ali khan both in this world and hereafter, give him more knowledge

[@ahmadk1400]

The Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever directs someone to a good, then he will have the reward equal to the doer of the action.” [Muslim 1893]

[@iMohamad79]

its funny how u hear the background sounds of people talking yet everybody that is sitting behind them is silent

[@ajmalali1875]

+iMohamad79 lol its just for effects.

[@iMohamad79]

+Ajmal Ali lol i know, still funny :)

[@ajmalali1875]

Haha

[@dailyhadithguy]

+iMohamad79 SALAM, my name is Ahmad, I record daily videos about the prophet Muhammad PBUH, Hadiths etc. check my videos out and if you like them please support me by subscribing.

[@SA-wh9oc]

could be people that are not shown or just some sound effects

[@farahaqilah6338]

After this video i realize how absolutely crucial it is for me find a life partner that is knowledgeable of his deen. And not simply ones who were 'born muslims'..

[@kaleighfetcko5706]

I don't think anyone should hit a woman for ANY reason. I don't think anyone should hit a man for ANY reason. There should NEVER be physical violence or abuse in a relationship. Ever. I have heard that the word used in this ayah (daraba) means to separate. This makes more sense to me because other places in the Quran Allah explains how good it is for a person to swallow their anger and control their anger; this skill can greatly elevate you in the eyes of God. Also, the prophet NEVER hit or physically abused his wives or any other women; so using daraba to mean "hit" doesn't seem to go along with the Sunnah of how the Quran was lived out by Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Furthermore, defining the word daraba in the context of the ayah (4:34) as "separate" seems more logical considering the sequence of events---trying to talk to your wife first, then leaving them alone in their beds, then...hit or separate (moving out for a period, perhaps divorce as a final result) rather? It seems more likely that the word should be translated as "separate" here because each step in the ayah is a progression of adding more space between the spouses. "Hit" just seems like it came out of nowhere and overall doesn't seem to fit here. (In addition, aren't there several Hadith about the Prophet stating that men should never hit women?) Brother, can you or anyone else from Bayyinah please comment on this interpretation a little further, and especially in terms of why you don't necessarily agree with it yourself?

[@marmour10]

+Kaleigh Fetcko first time i hear this interpretation as separate , yes it does make sense and it is conform to what we know of the sunnah especially that the prophet saw never hit any of his women. but in case it really means hit which allah knows best, then its a light tap on the body not the face and without leaving a mark so it doesn't fit into the description of hitting as darb but rather its like scolding or being mad at someone without hurting them and it doesn't seem off too!!

[@tsgillespiejr]

+Kaleigh Fetcko We aren't talking about ideal situations though, as I think NAK made clear. We're dealing with unfortunate realities of the human experience.

[@siddiki9778]

I don't know from where you heard that "Daraba" means to, "separate"? One needs to look it from a linguistic side not just mere assumptions. Anyhow, Ibn Abbas (RH) explained it as a light tap, like using a meswak. Not actually a hard punch or something like that. Also, one must keep in mind that, one shouldn't just directly resolve to this light hitting but the matter is s you described that needs sequential efforts made before this light hitting. Ex, separating them, not talking to them, making them understand etc.

[@DaZZlAck385]

+Ittemad Tanzil Siddique here İs a analysis Why Daraba Can mean Separate cdn.muslimmatters.org/wp-content/uploads/The-End-to-Hitting-Wome-2-2.pdf

[@tsgillespiejr]

DaZZlAck385 Wow, what a good read. JazakAllahu khayr for sharing.

[@SukixRpG]

Man..first time I've ever heard this interpretation *shock* I am really shocked! Unbelievable! the differences it is between the interpretation that I used to hear are so different that the way Ustadh nouman ali khan did which is really makes me happy :) I really can't expressed how shocked and happy I am that I able to watch this video. This really show how important it is for me to really learn The Quran, ,isnt it? :) Jazak Allahu Khairan ustaz nouman. :)

[@nimraaslam7715]

The way you enlighten this Ummah Ustaadh Nouman , its just amazing SubhaanAllah. I believe Allah has gifted you this quality of making things extremely clear and understandable .I have literally never been more satisfied. Islam is the most beautiful religion, its the best way to lead a successful life! JazakAllahu khair!

[@bushrakauser1594]

Allah is perfect and his book Quran is perfect. It's just that people are imperfect Blessed to have ustad like nouman Ali who stands for justice may Allah bless all the Muslim and guide us to the straight path ameen, Have a nice day 😊

[@AMY-724]

This is the perfect explanation of Aayah of Allah , I wanted to hear from any scholar .سبحان الله

[@skippingsam_]

Subhanallah ....Subhanallah ...Allah has sent you down to let people understand how merciful Allah is and how beautiful Islam is.....Alhamdulillah ,Jazakallah khairan

[@haryantisamekto4463]

Thank you, this beautiful logical explanation is what I have been searching for so long and it makes me value Quran even more.

[@nufaz_]

Islam is beautiful, subhanaAllah...

[@mrmrshercules3361]

Alghumdullillah

[@sblong07]

Brothers, Hitting someone who is physically weaker than you weather they were women or children makes you less of a man REGARDLESS of the situation. A simple rule that I live by life by is “ treat others as you want to be treated” This allows me to live in peace knowing that I can’t mistreat other human being ever. Also,let’s not forget that Allah SWT revealed his word to a people (the Arabs) who were living in sin and were probably ruthless kuffar at that time, so it is normal to come across Surats that were made for that specific context. And Allah knows best. May Allah bless you for inspiring such dialogue.

[@PureHealthPath12]

Soumaya L. No it doesnt. Someone may be weaker that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt. A man OR woman is allowed the hit each other in self defense

[@ADeeSHUPA]

Soumaya L. hmm

[@AbangPete]

Treat someone how you like to be treated. Yes, sometimes i prefer to be hit when I'm not right. I was and it brought good to me. Imagine if you find out you are going to hell in the day off judgement. You will have hoped that someone had put you to your senses whichever way it goes.

[@User_47536]

When you commit a crime you go to jail. Your will doesn’t matter. If a woman disobeys her husband (who is righteous and not abusive) over and over again then Allah commands first to discuss together with reason, then separate and then beat Lightly (as commanded by the Messenger of Allah and supported by Mainstream Scholars) this right given to men from Allah is only possible with "certain" factor not applicable for all. People in Middle East and South Asia Mistreat and Mistand this verse. On the other hand people in west sugercoat this verse. Both are wrong and we need to follow the middle path, the path of Prophet, Salaf and Ulama

[@letsHopeOneMoreTime]

Im full of tears hearing this speech. I never ever asked Allah to bless anyonee with knowledge as i asked foe you at this moment when i listened this explanation from you Ustad. May Allah give you divine knowledge and health to serve us which starve for knowledge of Quran like homeless starve for food. Subhanallah what a amazing video

[@creater12]

I've had a problem understanding this ayah for so long, I couldn't find anything that made sense to me! The way Nouman Ali Khan speaks about issues makes sense to me and I'm so so so so glad I can finally understand it, Jazakallah Khair brother!

[@assiduous2011]

shows how deep we need to understand verses.

[@abuibu]

... or how much we have to re-interpret without basis and pretend we know how to articulate God's words better than God himself.

[@assiduous2011]

Abu Ibu what do you mean?

[@abuibu]

It means anyone can pretend the Quran, or any other book for that matter, has a hidden meaning. You can tell us not read things literally all you want, but by saying that, you're basically saying that you are more eloquent than God himself if you believe God actually wrote it.

[@assiduous2011]

That's a messed up logic. The Quran is a Book of Signs. It was meant to reflect every time. Literslist often forget that when Quran was revealed in Arabia, it liberated people to progress. Quran is always meant to liberate people to progress, not go backwards.

[@abuibu]

All you're doing is repeating rhetoric that you've been indoctrinated with since birth. It is of little actual value. I made a valid point and your rebuttal was pretty useless. Try again. Think it through this time. You don't have to respond if you're not adding anything to the conversation.

[@WorldsEdge608]

That was so AWESOME I had NEVER EVER heard that interpretation before. Thanks Nouman Ali Khan. You are the best

[@suzainshaikh2498]

I admit I had literal religious faith crisis after reading this ayaah...💔💔 Like i stopped thinking about it cause i felt like I was sinning!! and my heart was beating so fast in fear and crazy thoughts covering up my brain making me feel even worse... only After watching this video did i get peace i swear oh god... Brother Nouman Ali Khan you don't know what giant crisis you've solved for me.. thanks a lot May Allah swt grant you the highest rank in Jannah. Ameen ❤.

[@nijaydosslin4720]

It’s not for exceptional cases it’s for all women. Infact Aisha was beaten by the the apostle. It’s a common practice and that’s why it’s ok to seek the truth.

[@octaviawinter9768]

@@nijaydosslin4720 he never beat her, the most he did was tap her on the chest. Never enough to leave a bruise.

[@nijaydosslin4720]

@@octaviawinter9768 he struck her chest to cause pain- Hadith 2127! Beating women is allowed! It’s normal for some to change beating to tapping/nudging / pat

[@octaviawinter9768]

@@nijaydosslin4720 i looked for the Hadith you were talking about and it said “He said: Was it the darkness (of your shadow) that I saw in front of me? I said: Yes. He struck me on the chest which caused me pain, and then said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal unjustly with you? She said: Whatsoever the people conceal, Allah will know it. He said: Gabriel came to me when you saw me. He called me and he concealed it from you. I responded to his call, but I too concealed it from you (for he did not come to you), as you were not fully dressed. I thought that you had gone to sleep, and I did not like to awaken you, fearing that you may be frightened.” 1) she narrated the Hadith saying “which caused me pain” when referring to him(SAW) striking her, not that it was the intention like you claim(he(saw) struck her chest to cause pain.” It was not reported that she told him it had caused her pain, so we can understand that he likely didn’t even know. Its haram to hurt enough to cause a bruise, or to feel a lot of pain. 2) Because she lied to him(SAW) and hid from him(SAW), he criticizes her asking her why she thought he(SAW) would deal unjustly with her to make her lie like that. 3) He didn’t awaken her because he(SAW) didn’t want to frighten her and because he(SAW) thought she’d gone to sleep, caring for her. If he(SAW) knew it had caused her much pain he(SAW) would have likely gone lighter. Just because you would like the conclusion to be “beating women is allowed,” doesn’t mean that it is true. Many scholars agree that beating(enough to cause a bruise) is forbidden.

[@nijaydosslin4720]

@@octaviawinter9768 the apostle had the habit of going with different women . it’s clear that Aisha followed him but he dint like it! so he gave a lame excuse that jibril spoke to him and punched her. No 55 old man will punch a teenager especially a person who is supposed to be an example for mankind Furthermore! Sahih bukhari 5825- Abdur Rahman beat his new wife Rifa to a pulp since she wanted a divorce and when the messenger of Allah came to know about this he came up with a new rule which is -Abdur Rahman should have sex with rifa first! Let alone the beating , the apostle dint even care about that . I really wish qurran has equality for women . If Islam takes over the world like how it took over Middle East women won’t have education like how taliban has imposed! Men will have 4 wives. No other religion will be allowed . If you critique/ doubt the apostle I will be imprisoned and many more like this.

[@keithmoschetto3566]

My wife and I have been married for 32 years. We have had our differences over the years but I will never strike her. In my opinion there is no debate!

[@donhue4546]

imagine having 2 wifes,you still can beat one when the others in hospital

[@User_47536]

​@@donhue4546You dont need to imagine. You guys change your wife like clothes. Not to mention the number of new "girlfriends" and "call girls" that cuddle with you every night. And when a Muslim man marry 2 wives (marriage -built on love and respect not on lust) you fall from the sky like an angel 😢 a day without hypocrisy is a day wasted

[@donhue4546]

@@User_47536 we dont imagine we live in reality,we marry women,you mary chioldren,now lets see what the false god of islam says,he made adam and eve,so why not adam and 4 eves??,wheres the womans respect??? sharing her husband,see you use imagination,not logic, who can a man take upto 4 wives if the county is 8o%male,you have no logic,god bless israel,please watch the 2016 su.n summit where israels leader tells how iran/palestine/hamas will attyak israel...learn your history

[@cherriixo]

@@User_47536both are wrong

[@neha11423]

I just can't think of any physical abuse in a relationship be it towards husband or wife.. SORRY I JUST CANT... Just divorce that person who cheated on you.. I would never cheat on my husband but the day he raises his hands on me will be the last day he is living with me..

[@cipiripi6644]

He never said that you are allowed to hit her. That's against islam itself. Listen again to the entire video. How can someone who is supposed to be the best person to literally everyone around him be allowed to hit his wife? Makes no sense. What he literally says is that IF you hit her , even though it's forbidden and wrong (in a blackout rage coz catching your wife in bed with someone else is really messed up no matter who you are) Allah will let it pass. Didn't say it's ok , but He will let it pass ALTHOUGH He says earlier in the ayah "leave the bed". Divorce her. So it doesn't happen. Hope this helps

[@cipiripi6644]

What hadith are you talking about ?

[@khushboodhingra5356]

@@cipiripi6644 so you mean there should be no punishment if a man beats a women ?

[@cipiripi6644]

How did you get that from what I said ?

[@khushboodhingra5356]

@@cipiripi6644 you said EVEN IF YOU HIT HER (THOUGH ITS FORBIDDEN AND WRONG) ALLAH WILL LET IT PASS.

[@sauliha3132]

beautiful! He explains every word with so much dept, and i had so much trouble understanding somethings and he actually helped me. May Allah bless him! May his voice reach every home, every kid, adult, elders, everyone. aameen.

[@lillylayson]

So glad to hear this logic after watching enough terrible videos about this subject I felt sick and dizzy. Definitely a wise man! Wish more people were dedicated to faith, wisdom and understanding. Thank you for this video, it restored a bit of hope inside me.

[@glurppuffloid9796]

I just realized that if you were to shave off Nouman Ali's Beard, he'd look like Nicholas Cage!

[@HaseebMarudoKhan]

Same.first time i saw him even the voice have similarity

[@ADeeSHUPA]

Glurp puffloid NiCe

[@jinxthekitty7647]

Glurp puffloid 😭

[@adnan-khan]

Oh shit! You're right!

[@rabiesa4163]

Jazakallah, brother. I needed this. My father never listened to me regarding my age, but inshallah he shall change since he also likes and understands your way of speaking. May Allah bless you, mashallah.

[@ramshafatima7178]

JazakAllahu khairan kaseeran kaseera. I couldn't understand this part for a long time. Indeed only Allah has the highest position. The position of power.

[@simonvrxx]

Great Topic, needs to be discussed more in our community. It is from culture, not from Islam! JAK

[@zamanasif5766]

The problem is that not everyone can understand such a deepness of a verse and ends up doing what he has been to exposed to or heard of!

[@valeriedhodson3014]

I like this way of teaching. Its nice like going out for tea and having a conversation. Thank you.

[@wolfgang7812]

He's actually having coffee.

[@tayyabahmakda7086]

As Ustaad stated that Men are Caretakers to their wives.. And fidelity is sacred... We know that women can manipulate thei sexual relationship. in a marriage to create an uprising... Many times not warranted... So chastisement over suspucion... The Quraan speaks of balance... So balance form if care... So that the relation can pissibly become nirmal as women refuse the consul ignoring sroeration.. So its in a form getting rid if uorising abd then if it wirks take them back lovingly if it works.. So how much chsdtisement needed without pondering to

[@valeriedhodson3014]

@@tayyabahmakda7086 I am not sure what you mean. But I have a cycle in marriages. Men ignore wife except when they want sex. Women need emotional attention to feel physical attraction, so do not feel attracted to their husband. So men feels rejected and ignores wife. Wife feels rejected so loses attraction. I have had men complain to about their wives not wanting sex. I ask them if they treat their wives like furniture? Than I tell them they need to talk to their wives. If only couples didnt think of their own needs only, but be willing to give of themselves and time to their couple. Because of men talking to me about their wives, I have concluded married persons should not be friends with oppisit gender. Its too easy to comfide in a friend than start to feel close to that person. Its easy for a friend to comfort the other person because they dont have with that person and their life doesnt rely on them. That is how alot of affairs start. I love how the Quran speaks of marriage and encourages both men and women to be good to each other. As a women, it has saddened men so many men just see women as a means to satify themselves and not as a friend and partner. A pretty women can twist a man into anything it seems, while us women less appealing to lust get the worst. If men were not so shallow and lust driven, they would not be so easily malipulated. I would like to see more men be more than driven by their desires. If it didnt work, women would not do it. I hope my marriage will be of mutual love, respect and friendship. Such a marriage is above mulipulation. I dont want beg for attention nor have my husband beg for affection.

[@prettygirlclub.7719]

@@valeriedhodson3014 may Allah grant you the best of men. And bring you both tranquility and love. Dw sis Allah has got u

[@amandakayyali3570]

Thank you so very much for this series. It is hard to believe these issues have never been tackled in this way before when so many people in the ummah are struggling for these answers! Alhamdulilah. This is wonderful.

[@rosyshadow4963]

I wish I could thumbs this up a thousand times over and over again. I know Nourman Ali Khan will never see this, but I hope he enters the highest level of jannah inshallah. He has thought me so much, what a fantastic teacher! 💕💕

[@Cyjijnrdh]

This is amazing thank you so much for clearing this up I only hope that people will listen

[@abidasultana7004]

Mashaallah, thank you very much for this! I always find myself confused about this topic, but I was too scared to ask anyone about it for the fear of questioning my faith, so I'm so glad I understand now!

[@bayyinah]

+Abida Kirigiri Alhamdulillah. We are glad that you found this video of benefit and may you continue to benefit from this channel.

[@menyouh771]

Now you know that your husband kan hit you :) Hope you'll like it...

[@daryllights]

I believe that dharba or hit really means to walk away from entirely. The Qur'an gives 3 steps: direct the woman to a better course, leave them alone in the beds and then dharba... separate totally. This is why ayat 35 goes directly into "if you desire reconciliation"... why would you need reconciliation after hitting? You need reconciliation after TOTAL SEPARATION.

[@Umaima_Faheem]

This is by far, one of the best explanations I've ever heard. Clear, simple and ultimately the TRUTH. I don't know if Bayyinah TV has an institution for Islamic studies. But if there is, I would inshallah love to join it. Jazakallah Khair for explaining it so beautifully and Allahumma Barik.

[@famousguy7829]

Immensely grateful to Ustadh Nauman Ali Khan and Bayyinah Institute for this video and this series.

[@gewoonik4335]

Every woman is a queen. A diamant. She deserves respect.

[@snowpawzvideos]

Every word of the Qur'an is so important , Insh'allah I must pay close attention when I read

[@TheRealHarsjan]

This needs to be aired in every single household

[@EasyPeasyCookingWithMaria]

Amazing explanation brother. I've seen girls around me complaining about their husband's physical or mental torture and apparently they all seem to be quite educated and modern. Alhamdulillah I am blessed to have a husband who respects me Infact helps me to be a better person and I believe that respect and love between husband and wife reflects the happiness on their children's faces and character

[@Undead8351]

It's always beneficial to listen to wise persons . Although many of us know the meanings of the verses, we can't explain in proper words and base knowledge. Jazakallah khair

[@mrd49995]

Men in the Middle east and many places NEED TO understand this content NOW. Another possible interpretation of وليضربوهن could be from اضراب which means go on strike or something . We need to know that Arabic of the Quran is not necessarily our version of Arabic nowadays.

[@i.8885]

I realize that it's actually so dangerous because I study ancient greek and many words that are still used in Modern Greek have a very different meaning in the ancient text. So if you have to interpretate a very important text like the Quran then I don't even want to imagine how far away from the actual meaning a person can go.

[@taufeeqkhan2629]

In Arabic hit , bash , beat .all three have different words and here used is hit.

[@celestialvenus6711]

@@taufeeqkhan2629 Learn English before trying to teach others Arabic.

[@ADeeSHUPA]

Mothersday Gifts uP

[@randomhuman4493]

Alexa Minonaa Oh wow did you watch the video

[@engrArifAnwar]

See what happens when you try to understand The QurAn from a word-to-word translation. The Holy Book of God rather talks in patterns; even the position of an Ayah makes its meaning. And a superficial translation can even make you believe and do exactly opposite to what is originally meant.

[@upsidetown6256]

Im seeing people going with the flow rather than verses

[@menyouh771]

With that logic it means that there will be over 1 billion different translations and understandings of the Quran.

[@saarkoene2761]

So true! Even if you are native in arabic, tafseer is a whole science on it's own. It is so important to hear scholars explain these things and to compare views before thinking you understand what is written.

[@ADeeSHUPA]

Arif Anwar Indonesian

[@NidaSyeda]

@@menyouh771 True

[@aimanazlan90]

May Allah bless you and increase you Brother Nouman. Ameen.

[@MrBossmedia]

Salam Alaikum brother can you check out my channel, I like to make Islamic videos and reminders.

[@MrBossmedia]

***** Thanks

[@syedfazalrahman3717]

I didn't have answer for this for my whole life but Subhan Allah u cleard this to me. May Allah bless you with heaven

[@greenerokify]

i'm so grateful that I come to this. May Allah add His blessings upon you

[@techtips3062]

Thanks so much for clarifying it. I literally had tears in my eyes listening to another scholar who said hitting wife is allowed if she is not following husband in any small matters even.

[@heliahs-l1m]

They can hit yessss

[@mostviralvideos3905]

Sorry for going out of context but he looks so much like Ross from Friends.

[@deborahshumba2101]

Lol so true

[@HaseebMarudoKhan]

He also looks like nicholas cage

[@ADeeSHUPA]

Most Viral Videos hmm

[@chummychimchim]

Other people look like him He doesn't look like them 😤

[@isalee5249]

Haseeb Marudo Khan lol I couldn’t think of who he reminds me of till I saw your comment thank you for finally putting this to rest for me lol

[@queenkizkurt]

I have so much faith in our generation after seeing this

[@kuheylan123ify]

i just discovered this channel and it enlightens me a lot! I had a lotta contemporary questions regarding women and society in Islam, now I'm starting to get some modern and sensible answers! thank you everyone who's producing content for the channel!

[@talhamalik6500]

This was an ayat that i often found hard to explain to non muslim friends of mine even non practicing muslim friends. Thank you so much brother Nauman

[@tahreemakif1445]

Can I like this twice? It was beautiful! Everyone should watch this series!

[@sugarchick09]

Loving these series, Al hamdulillah!

[@drdreams5578]

+sameenah sheikh Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@peaceful5159]

Domestic violence, mental violence and narcissistic abuse...these are no joke. These are very real and happening all around the world right now. These kinds of abuses and their traumatic impact can change a person completely and spred their effect like a pernicious virus in the whole family. Some can’t leave because of the psychological matrix of the mental abuse - they end up locked into the relationship manipulated, threatened and gaslit to an extreme. And some women end up dead. It is absolutely awful and sad.

[@safinabegum5905]

May Allah Keep Brother Nouman ali khan safe and safeguard his knowledge and family. Ameen

[@isatoukonateh1149]

Ameen

[@haifa8475]

The way you explain cant get any better, never thought that you're gonna take me to a whole different perspective in just 20 min and 23 sec. May allah grant you and your loved ones jannah

[@OmarAli-iy4tw]

I was waiting for this episode. That was really messed up! Thank you

[@jennyl.2689]

Hitting is domestic violence and it's a crime as well. And not only does the victiom suffer, the kids as well. They suffer emotional and physical abuse way beyond childhood. Some kids go on to hit themselves, or get mixed up in drinking, etc. Others vow not to be like the abusive father or in some instances the abusive mother and do well in life even with emtional scars. Anyway, there is no excuse to hit someone you love. If somebody hits...it's time to get out. Marriage is love. It is not about control and getting whacked across the face or punched. The one who does these horrible things probably got hit him or herself by a parent...and yes, usually by the father. Sometimes one can get therapy but chances are slim. The best thing to do is get out of a violent situation and move on. Nobody deserves to get hit whether a woman or a man. This also includes verbal abuse as well. Abuse is a crime and one can go to jail. There are tough laws out there against these crimminals.

[@streetjazzdanza]

we need more men like this mashAllah

[@1eV]

Subhan Allah. This is a gem of a discussion. This is one of the best discussions I've ever heard in my life.

[@muneerah8026]

This is the most informative video about Surah An-Nisa. thank you very much

[@clairvoyant1491]

i love this new series iA there are more to come!

[@drdreams5578]

+NAZRAH Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@JenN-ti8iy]

Like I've said in other posts bring up domestic violence...see how many women are being killed. This is a major crisis...its time to educate families and no woman should ever be touched or children!! Abuse starts when kids are little (Like they see one parent hurting their other parent) and they learn it's ok to abuse. You have to bring this topic up and go into detail. Where do abused women go for help? What about their children? What laws protect them? Where do men go for anger management and what is their punishment? HUGE TOPIC. Needs a lot of discussion.

[@marisafaith8664]

Jen N Don't forget abused men they are more in my country

[@i-love-comountains3850]

This is great, and his eyes are beautiful! Great analysis though, i appreciate this!

[@celestialvenus6711]

@banana aya playa And you look like a banana...

[@sabrinaaboobacker]

Brother Nouman your way of explaining things is simply beautiful. This episode is speechless.

[@sanmom3181]

Brother Nouman, your speech helps us to strengthen our eman.

[@drdreams5578]

+Habiba Habeeb Abdul Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@Mahmood7305]

Alhamdulillah. This is the best interpretations of Ayat 4:34.

[@shafinazyasin7012]

fairly justified and preached! i'm glad i got my time into this.

[@drdreams5578]

+Shafinaz Yasin Thank you for your comment. Please check out my channel and subscribe. Thanks

[@esrateleb5020]

I watched this video based on a recommendation from a friend who really liked it. However, I can't find a single reason to like it. Mr.khan doesn't talk directly about the Aya. Instead, he starts by telling people that you can't disagree with an Aya. He uses people's religious feelings to prevent them from refusing what they see as wrong. I have been grown up and taught to think critically and criticize what my mind refuses. Now, he is saying that I can't see Ayas with neutrality and try to build a neutral opinion. I have to limit my mind to think only about the positive parts. That is not respectful to the human mind. I don't believe that Islam treats my mind in this way. especially when I take into consideration that Quran keeps encouraging people to "think." another thing that I really didn't like is how he mistranslated the Aya. He said that you get to hit the woman if you SEE her cheating on you. But this is not what the Aya says. The Aya is still speaking about "those women you are afraid of their noshooz", (he says that noshhoz is cheating on the husband). The Aya talks about the fear of noshooz not the action of noshooz. and No. nothing in the Aya talks about the perpetual infidelity. It just talks about FEAR. I'm feel that he is just making this point of SEEing your wife cheating on you, a point that is not really there, to reach a predetermined goal which is showing Islam as a good religion that does not really allow hitting women. However, maybe he just misunderstood the Aya (if Arabic is not his first language). I expected to hear something better, to find a good explanation of this Aya, and to find more integrity. Instead, I only found someone who mistranslated the words and increased my negative feelings toward this Aya.

[@abuibu]

+Esraa Abdelmotteleb Brilliantly put sister. There's no justification for beating women. He begins with pre-supposing that all verses are perfect but I don't think that's the case. I think for Islam to have genuine meaningful reform, we need to concede that the Quran may not be perfectly preserved. The best Muslim argument for why they think the Quran is preserved is using a verse from the Quran itself, and that as we know is circular logic and not a sound argument.

[@9salman]

Esraa Abdelmotteleb listen again from 10.0 Its only for a specific case which is committed repeatedly ..

[@farzanatasneem]

Esraa Abdelmotteleb Islam puts most of the burden of marriage on the man while woman is the one who is supposed to demand the conditions to live with the person in marital relationship. She asks for power and she asks for the house to live in and the husband is supposed to provide her with all the commodities of life in his own capabilities. He is also supposed to take care of her safety in accompanying her or to arrange for her safe journey if she has to travel somewhere. With excessive responsibilities comes the rights of faithfulness and trust. When he is out for work, his wife, who married him for money or other life comforts can call another man of her choice for her gratification. This is quite common in Western societies. And westerners accept it as their right to enjoy bed with whomever they like. But a husband who is working hard to bring lavish life for his wife is ditched and Islam gives right to this husband to take measures to bring his wife back to himself and thus save the family from breaking while in West a husband takes the right to sleep with someone else while still continuing the marriage ties, which brings an end to family life. Obviously a family where husband and wife both are cheating on each other can't have peace with it's children as the husband will always suspect the paternity of children attributed to him and will not feel like working hard for them. And the society as a whole will lose hard working men.

[@naveeedd]

Abu Ibu You are damn sick! You concede what??

[@farouk85279]

At 18:30 he says the word it self does not have a preposition... like pre / positioned to indicate to hit or anything like that nor figuratively.

[@aishaa6012]

Thank god, finally someone explaining this aya from a to z with 100% clarity. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@nadakhan6686]

I just really wanna thank Ustad Nouman ... May Allah grant you with all that he loves ..... 👌👏👏👍

[@Steven_Rowe]

Nounan your the best, you just speak such truth and honesty and are prepared to be critical of your faith, also so much of what you say goes way beyond islam it encompasses other faiths . but then again all the monothiestic faiths in essence means to surrender to god which is muslim

[@nazzyos4598]

Have you by any thought of becoming a Muslim? I don't need to be pushy, just asking :)

[@Steven_Rowe]

Nazzy Os i think about it often

[@nazzyos4598]

+steven rowe May I ask what's holding you back? I have a friend who is also thinking about but she's scared of what her family May think. I always say, if you know that's the truth, you should never delay it as you could die anytime. in sha allah (God willing) you will become my brother in faith :)

[@Steven_Rowe]

Nazzy Os yes family or wife, she doesnt understand and she isnt one to think outside the box not one to step outside any comfort zone. She knows I read thw Quran and can even recite some in arabic.

[@nazzyos4598]

+steven rowe yes, the above brother is correct. Even we go through hardships and I'm born Muslim. All of us have struggles between culture and religion but Islam US submission to God, which means our human needs should be below us. I'm assuming your wife Christian, if so you can revert and just show her the life of a Muslim, be a good example and in sha allah everything will be fine. Allah helps those who remember him and remember, the people that we are putting above him......he can take them away anytime.....put your trust in him. May allah guide your family in good health.

[@mertmitm]

4:34 is a very interesting ayah, since it's actually one of the very few ayahs that can have so many different meanings. Some scholars including Nouman Ali Khan believe that it actually means "beating", but clarifies that it's a form of light beating. But I have to be honest, it doesn't make sense to me to give my wife, whom I've caught in bed with other men and thus left the sleeping bed, to give her a light strike/tap. First measurement is to talk with them, secondly to leave them and the last one is to give them a tap? Smth doesn't seem right. Actually beating the wife seems to be against some ayahs in the Quran (men being protectors, constantly doing morally good things, that every life is sacred, embracing justice, kindness and peace, that we all belong to Allah and only he can judge us, etc.). I also found out that "daraba" can mean "to go away" in certain cases even without a preposition, this would also apply to its form in 4:34 "idribuhunna". Also the prophet Mohammed's (s.a.v.) view on violence, especially against women, was no secret: he absolutely detested it. In one hadith his two wife's started to become jealous of the third one, because she was so beautiful. The prophet loved honey and was eating honey in the home of the third wife, hence why the other wife's planned to say to the Prophet that his breath was smelling unpleasantly of honey, so that he'd stop eating and spending that much time with his third wife. After he found out about their plan, he went away for 1 month. Because of this, the translation of "going away" seems to be the most plausible one to me. Some translators even translate it as "go away", the Sublime Quran by Laleh Bakhtiar for instance does so.

[@nishahabib2008]

salam! in my opinion it is allowed for you to leave your wife if she cheated

[@mertmitm]

​@@nishahabib2008 Es salam aleikum! That's your absolute right, there'd be no shame nor sin upon you if you did so. In fact it's also encouraged in the Qur'an in 24:26. Allah (s.w.t.) says that pure men should get married to pure women and unpure men to unpure women. If your wife cheats on you, it is your right to leave her. Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed life in this life and the hereafter! Jazakallahu Khairan!

[@nishahabib2008]

@@mertmitm Thank you for giving me a little bit of more knowledge on that topic. Also wishing you and your loved ones a blessing life in this life and the akhirah too. Jazakallahu khairun 💖

[@mertmitm]

@@nishahabib2008 Amin! Thank you!

[@farzanahasanshashi5267]

Best one till now. So beautiful :)

[@hasanrashed9311]

The greatest thing I ever heard about this so called 'controversial verse'!! Zazakallah.

[@tmhmz]

Nouman Ali Khan, a blessing for this ummah. May Allah bless him and his family.

[@redforest9269]

12:11 Sounds like those senior members were just trying to not look like fools. Like "Oh shit, he's right! But he's junior so we can't admit it."

[@shiningdoe3611]

I was confused about islam after some one told me islam gave permission to hit a women and many other practices and it also consider men as superior but now I feel a whole lot good about my religion after hearing this man

[@randomhuman4493]

Lol wot who said that David wood no wonder

[@wanderingstar5270]

The trouble with any of these explanations is they assume the man is the authority here. He is the one to correct a woman's behaviour - not the other way around. What gives him this authority? Simply being born with a willie.

[@celestialvenus6711]

He is not at authority! God is with authority. He is just a human with emotions, and in this ONE case, he is allowed to express them.

[@user-pg5re1cg7d]

@@celestialvenus6711 He is talking about that this surah ismainly talking about people who are not in the right mind or exceptionnel cases. Yet it is talking about inheritance which a very normal subject. It is also talking about polygamy which was a common practice. The story with the orphans is indeed an exception. However you could also say that in some communities orphans are cared for by families and get to be a part of the family. While other communities have orphan houses. The mortality rate was higher in the past so there would be more orphans than nowadays. So in that sense it is not that exceptionnel. And nowadays we find incest disgusting but incest was normal for a long time for families that find there status very important. How do we know that this ayaa is talking about cheating and this ayaa is very specific about the order you have to advice them, then you don't have sex with them and then you strike them. However what if you didn't have any suspicion at all and suddenly you see your wife cheating on you that could happens as well do you still have to through each step before you strike them. He made a scenario that fitted nicely in this ayaa his scenario contained three parts as well first your suspicion starts. Second your suspicion gets strong third you caught her. Sometimes you get caught directly without any suspicion.

[@wanderingstar5270]

@Abdul Rehman Shaikh what do you mean

[@wanderingstar5270]

@Abdul Rehman Shaikh i was asking what men are supposed to posses to deserve such authority that they can correct their wives Ibn Kathir says that a man can discipline his wife (or hit her) when she “acts as if she is above her husband, disobeys him, ignores him, dislikes him, and so forth.” Is this a wife or a slave? The reason he can do that is apparently because leadership suits men and not women - and he spends money on her so he has this right. He goes on to quote Hadith that a place with a female leader shall not succeed (they should not be judges too) and that angels curse women until dawn if she refuses to sleep with her husband. I have to tell you that men are no better or worse leaders because they were born male. And that it doesn’t mean because you provide for someone that you have the right to hit them. Where does the Quran talk about women who provide for men like Mohammed’s first wife Khadija did for him. Did she hit him when she feared his disobedience? All of these reasons are weak and demonstrate a harmful man made law designed to keep women under the thumb.

[@wanderingstar5270]

@Abdul Rehman Shaikh no I am not Muslim.

[@FatehaF]

I asked this question once and mailed on bayyinah's mail but the person who replied said it's something related to fikh and couldn't answer me. JazakAllah Ustad for raising this issue and explaining it thoroughly. May Allah bless you a lot!

[@brilliantbrain4496]

Ma Shaa ALLAH ...Subhan Allah very nice explanation... islam is an ultimate and utmost solution for all the problems of humanity ...May ALLAH bless you more brother aameen...

[@suenasar]

Thank you so much bayyinah team. I love this series so so so much. Please please please keep up the good work.

[@bayyinah]

+sue nasar We are glad that you enjoyed this series and may you continue to benefit from this channel.