Hook-up holdup | Carte Blanche | M-Net

This story originally aired on 23 April 2023.
Dating apps have become very popular for singles looking for love or hook-ups. But for some users, instead of falling in love, they’ve fallen prey to unscrupulous and violent criminals exploiting dating apps for nefarious gain.
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[@cassandradamon1879]

Part 2 repeats part 1...plus some judgement by commenter Riaan Pienaar below.

[@GoostTube]

The first date has to be in a public place at a restaurant, coffee or bar. You can even take a friend with on the first date.

[@KKOPPONG]

That’s beyond impractical 😂. 1. Hookups don’t have dates. 2. Hookups don’t have 3rd parties either.

[@yellowdiamondrocks]

@@KKOPPONG book a bnb

[@mandlas.4305]

@@yellowdiamondrocks book a time to give your life to Jesus.

[@shaunsproule1086]

Brought me to tears. That final question hopefully taught us all something about our community. We live in danger

[@thanos9209]

Imagine my shock when I realise that the location in this story is 5 minutes from my place and I actually just came from the garage that was shown when he was showing where he parked 💀 never would I expect such to go on there

[@kylemcnamara3697]

I'm glad they included the couple that met on Tinder and it worked out for them. Dating apps are not all bad you just need to see the red flags. And meeting in a public place should be insisted on. Red flag: "I thought he was a genuine man." "What was his name?" "I wasn't given a name." 👀👀

[@bambieyedgirl7846]

😂😂😂😂😂 not cool to laugh but I died at that part 🤣😂 Is that not the brightest red flag you've ever heard of 😂😅

[@monjenverleyvanheerden1252]

What an insensitive question, I hope he felt horrible when that young man burst into tears.

[@karooblue7634]

My heart broke when Brice broke down as he realised his life could have ended that nignt. This could happen to anyone no matter your sexual preference. No one deserves this. 😢

[@Bond58]

No. Bryce needs to learn to control his urges.

[@emilevanrensburg8094]

​@@Bond58no.

[@SirJacto]

Thank you for this episode… very insightful

[@alexmorton5618]

We’ll that’s Grinder for you, the name of the site says it’s all!

[@ahmeddavids3021]

It's giving Jeff Dahmer

[@TheUsworldwide]

This is a lesson to meet people the regular way like at the gym, in a library, at a party... You know, how it's supposed to be done 😂😂😂😂

[@colleenward3425]

the one who was arrested should have been interrogated to name the others ...simple

[@felicitywillboughby6901]

These dating apps can be dangerous, the yahoo boys, psychopaths, scammers etc, a no no for me.Catfish, taught me well lol.I don't understand how peeps, in this day & age, agree to go to a strangers home first off😱. Guess I am old skool.

[@corbinjeffries6870]

It's sad you think you can find true friendship and a pure connect only to be let down or heart broken .

[@natashakahiuoua4101]

Very sad indeed

[@tsehlankhi4205]

Sometimes mistake happens, but people risks too much, I mean I'm still cautious and suspicious when going to bed in the dark as there is always a possibility that something may be hiding under bed just waiting for opportunity to act.

[@jamesmay1900]

As a straight man, I wouldn't even dare to go to some lady's house on a first date. That's just a red flag...

[@october2291]

3:23 that’s the South of Joburg , that building is in a place called THE hill

[@warrenbunleashed]

I was in Kempton Park hotel the other night then I logged in grindr, there was this guy we had a chat earlier during the day and at night around 11pm the guy texted me to come over his place at that time of the night.....i told him am not desparate I will come in the morning how pissed he was sweared at me then blocked me, I was certain he is one of the criminals

[@colleenward3425]

simple to keep in mind ....FOREIGN PEOPLE BE CAREFUL. ...

[@nilesrsa]

Yoh... Hurtful things.. Glad they made it out alive...

[@JudithMarais]

Yes, it very sad, here I'm lonely single. To scared to trust anyone. But happy to be on my own rather.

[@meirspector1947]

The fact that you dont have the real name should be your first clue not to persue the relationship

[@alexanderyoung1099]

How would you know they not making up a name

[@meirspector1947]

@@alexanderyoung1099 you dont, but with a name you can at least verify on other platforms. If they aren't even willing to put down a normal name it should be a non starter. You should still only meet in a public place and make sure that you have a friend tracing you while you are on the date.

[@XBooks.]

What if their name is Baby 😂

[@BanditZA]

“Sorry man” 😂

[@XBooks.]

Grinder is like Uber now😂

[@Eddie-tn2om]

Life is like a garden, you reap what you sow.🤷🏻

[@orangeninja912]

Not a dating app. More like pay to play app.

[@QuantumBeatscape]

you have this on a loop???

[@colleenward3425]

a smart move to apprehend the grindr thugs ....b safe guys there is a lot of nasty people out there ...

[@fredawassink4129]

No no no . Really . This is desperation. 😮

[@tearyb]

Me, I just want to puke seeing these sad people.

[@manero7634]

Part 2 is a repeat of part 1 mos

[@joaorodrigues6526]

Editing is sub par, so frustrating!

[@azeemhoosain4004]

shooo we not safe anymore, always follow safe rules. same applies with selling goods on facebook.

[@corbinjeffries6870]

😢

[@kegomoditswelenkwe1578]

Noooo it’s terrible. Sorry man

[@MrMariuspretorius]

thanks for showing criminals how to make money

[@ScribblebytesWorldwide]

4:07 I never thought I'd see that before! Good edit. 4:25 Who is the shorter guy in the re-enactment? Is he single and ready 2 mingle?

[@joe_lubinda]

As a Bi dude grindr is a no for me 😂 everyone is obsessed with looks, race and social status there. Hell no 😭😂

[@chrisfalcon9804]

hahaha mooi so!

[@eleanormaxwell721]

As a banker it is very important to set low limits if withdrawal on your account.

[@fatimabraz8227]

But you can now increase your limit on the app😭

[@Ameerah07]

Now thy want access to ur banking app with a gun to ur head

[@fernandvdg8368]

I got 2 phones 1 is my sons where my apps are but my main phone has limit to everything

[@joe_lubinda]

​@@fatimabraz8227 you can lie and say it can only be done at the branch 😭

[@Eddie-tn2om]

Don’t think you need to be a banker to know that 🤔 just a little common sense.

[@luyandachamane2093]

I’m so glad Bryce made it out alive so sad 💔💔💔💔

[@sweetartbloemfontein5332]

THIS BROKE MY HEART!!! So many lonely people in the world.... who are being taken advantage of. It is disgusting. *sad*

[@aubreynomvela6864]

But they are us a favour by sending these freaks back to where they belong,the closet. They must only be visible on this useless piece of paper that is said to be the best constitution in the world

[@cheznone9296]

Utterly heartbreaking. There are people everywhere who will take you for the ride of your life - literally.

[@Ca55-WP]

Your part 2 is repeated twice in the upload. You might want to crop it out.

[@zanderkirstein9829]

“far from a happy ending” thats some seriously funny stuff 😂

[@mrkatse]

Dude! 😂😂😂😂

[@bambieyedgirl7846]

There are some hilarious gold nuggets here and there 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@colleenward3425]

that building alone looks scary n shifty .

[@bradcauthon7244]

I work with this dude who is on Grindr constantly. He hooks up with at least 4 people a week-sometimes more than one at a time. It's unreal, but he puts out a call for a hookup and has a response in an hour or two. At least half the time, it's someone new. Two in the morning he will get a message from someone who is looking for a b j and he is in his car and driving over there. I've been warning him about this very thing for a long time. But for those asking why they don't first meet at a restaurant and take a friend along, this is why. The people going to these seedy down-town flats are not there looking for a long term relationship.

[@handhealingyourbodyerica8319]

Just dont go on ANY DATING APPS! They are all dangerous. Try meeting people the old conventional way.

[@annegreyling]

LOL! It doesn't matter where you meet a person, you can still be in danger and get taken advantage of by someone you met at church or at Woolworths.

[@XBooks.]

Yeah... Like at a funeral of a family member... Cousins are safer😂😂

[@JohnLawYouTube]

18:24 Whyd you do that to him... 😢 thats not cool... not a good question from you as a journalist...

[@pamelamuzambi2363]

Aaaw that baby is traumatized,I hope he heals and doing okay 🥺🥺🫂

[@Eddie-tn2om]

Where was the baby?😂😂😂

[@mandlas.4305]

I hope he never attempt to lay down with a man. Give your life to Jesus

[@refiloethokoana7890]

Was there an error with part 2 because is just repetition of part 1 ?

[@eleanormaxwell721]

There are no real people on social media unless you know them in the real world.

[@hilarywilliams4946]

Am so sorry that this happend to you guys😢

[@ryanmorgann]

Colombia vibes.

[@gugugumede3199]

Seeking love on dating apps is not dangerous at all. Anything can happen to anyone anywhere! But it looks like Grinder is becoming more and more dangerous. I’m convinced the wrong doers are not even part of the “community” sies!

[@princefilmfactory7291]

I was talking to John tht week before he was murdered and its funny how he died same day i was in his building just upstairs at his neighbor which is a friend of mine . Just never got to meet him.

[@gxobinjasambemntungwa9694]

Nigerians at it again nice 1Gee easy way to make money

[@neilfortuin1571]

This is a very poorly done story. Tries very hard to sensationlise the story then misdiagnose the main problem and runs off tangents on peripheral issues. There is absolutely no problem with dating apps. Many people met life partners and friends and these instances are tiny proportion and avoidable. All the apps have long lists of safety tips and in these cases were clearly ignored and that is at the core of the problem. Dont know where the software security becomes an issue? How is anti-gay attitudes an issue when it happened on tinder as well with str8 ppl? Very dissapointing. Wish it can be redone properly by someone else.

[@Stemtion89]

😪terrible just terrible

[@versaceboi4762]

This must have been so terrifying. Glad Bryce made it out alive.

[@SueZieQ1964]

My son and daughter in-law met on Tinder. One of the lucky ones

[@sumanmadhan6363]

As someone who uses Grindr, I am so saddened by this. In some of the smaller towns, where most of society is so closed-minded, Grindr is one of the only ways to really connect with other LGBTIA people, in what we believe is a safe space. This is heartbreaking that criminals are now targeting people who have already been through so much! My heart goes out to these men. I certainly will be far more cautious when it comes to interactions on Grindr going forward, and I encourage all of you reading this comment to be cautious as well. ❤

[@sumanmadhan6363]

Edit: David is a legend!!! I have so much respect for this man!

[@warrenbunleashed]

Inspecially in Johannesburg be on the look out.

[@KaHadebe]

I fear social media...meeting people through social media is a no for me. Paranoid, I know.

[@felicitywillboughby6901]

Totes agree.Same here. 💃

[@mpiloenhlesibanda3666]

Better safe.

[@ntokozondovela8273]

😢🥺 bless him, what a horrible experience to go through.

[@Dude-1689]

Just go on a date by yourself or with friends and mingle with strangers then leave them there. Give it time when it's dating. Don't act desperate guys!

[@warrenbunleashed]

I prefer dating someone I have known for sometime online eish.

[@kim_i_said6598]

Hetero women have also come to that conclusion. It's scary out there Stay safe beloved. Rather take your time the old fashion way...err on the side of caution

[@magitambo712]

But that question from the journalist to someone who has been severely traumatised was irresponsible cold and unnecessary 😢

[@warrengriffiths2049]

Why is part 2 a duplicate of part one Carte blanche bad editing???

[@asiphenyabelemosha9345]

David single handely apprehended them.

[@Relienatrix]

💔

[@puseletso98]

💔💔💔💔

[@BA_Baracuss]

I think it’s not necessarily a hate thing as the Organization lady suggests, but more of an opportunistic thing, criminals are efficient and look for the easiest way to get ‘paid’ they figured that women are more cautious and most likely won’t take the risk at a strangers place on mere request for a ‘hook up’ but guess who will…

[@hehehe6810]

Make it possible for men to get laid without paying for it. Gender equality and all that

[@harrismashego8318]

Addsafrica there's bunch of them per township

[@AfrikanContent-82]

Lol Looks like the presenter and the presentee were a bit tipsy on the last scene

[@thlonolofatsokgaole2997]

Trying to hard to be sad but sadly unable to

[@ScribblebytesWorldwide]

That's why I invented Night Game. Internet dating is great when you pair it with emotional intimacy work on yourself. When you develop emotional intimacy you tend to naturally avoid risky situations. I did a 13 month ethnographic study on 18 - 45 year olds and online dating was part of it. I'm just presenting my personal impressions as stated in my thesis.

[@KrispyKrunchee]

Okay…how do I learn more about this “night game”???

[@southernafricanboy4148]

I feel sorry foe the victims But wht drives someone to look for love on the internet

[@Phumelela_X]

Hai shame Brice 😢😢😢 may he heal.

[@20BumbleBee23]

such a shame as I met my husband on a dating site. stay safe

[@Nelson_Mandela_]

🤮🤮🤮

[@Lordbleu]

for some awkward moment I thought that was aka 0:46

[@Tswana_King]

I've been lucky. I only hookup with other men during the day. No hookups after 21h00 unless we've "had relations" before.

[@marky5493]

im even luckier, i dont even hook up with men, i prefer to keep it less complicated lol

[@zentodale]

​@@marky5493 this is not about you then

[@marky5493]

@@zentodale shame....

[@riaanpienaar5611]

If you want to live in SIN, expect these things.

[@pivz9955]

Ok boomer

[@cassandradamon1879]

@@pivz9955 He should be reminded of john 8:7 "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone...". But ja, in Afrikaans, it's called "skynheiligheid" Anyone who is fine with someone being attacked for a choice that does not affect them, needs to look at themselves and what they're going to say once they are judged one day.

[@sweetgurl8028]

My question didnt ramaphosa n the whole government did they watch what is happening in South Africa..or mybe their part of the problem😢

[@tshepo7122]

Any lawyers here that can help me understand they copyright implications of being able to use the actual Grinder logo and animation video?

[@Ca55-WP]

There are no implications because they're not making money off Grindr's marketing material. You're allowed to use this material for fair use like journalism etc.

[@donnemccabe7660]

Need them to contact me😢😢😢😢

[@HeinzizBaKeD]

dude looks like someone glued a carpet sample on his head.

[@bluecouchpodcast24]

😂😂

[@Eddie-tn2om]

😂😂😂LOL 😂😂😂 sending you the medical bill. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nthabikm]

This haircut is not the one