How do I keep going when I feel like giving up? | ep.217

This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about getting past inner resistance in therapy, how to keep going when we feel like giving up, and what a therapist would do if their client is intellectualizing everything. She then explains what a body memory is and why our trauma memories can be so spotty. Finally, she discusses anxiety about making phone calls, and why we can be so worried about every little thing we do, and believe that people are going to think we are weird.
1. Could you possibly talk about getting past inner resistance in therapy? I’ve been in therapy for about 8 months and feel like we’ve done some amazing work, but have noticed I’m hitting some type of wall within myself that I’m not sure how to get past. It’s like I’ve kind of traveled through all the issues I’ve been conscious of, but now that we’re deeper in I’m realizing there’s a lot going on that I was not aware of... 01:14
2. Hi Kati. How do I keep going? I feel like giving up. I have Major Depressive Disorder. Suicidal thoughts and self injury consume me. I’ve done talk therapy, CBT, DBT, ACT, TMS, and ECT. Nothing has helped. I’ve been hospitalized twice. I’ve been on so many medications I can’t keep track anymore. I feel so alone in this. I do have a psychiatrist, therapist and loving family but they don’t understand... 09:54
3. I was wondering how a therapist would approach working with a client who intellectualizes everything? I find CBT and DBT unhelpful because everything my therapist is saying, while totally true, I've already known about and pieced together myself. I think that's also where I get so stuck with therapy- I KNOW there are these pieces out of place that aren't serving me. I KNOW why I am the way I am, but I don't know what to do about it? 24:54
4. I saw one of your older videos about people not remembering their trauma or remembering it in patches but I’m the opposite, I remember what happened to me in great detail even down to what I was wearing, what they were wearing the day and time everything. The only problem I do have is deciding if what actually happened to me was SA... 33:17
5. I noticed recently that I'm really scared to call people I haven't spoken to in a long time. I know they'd love to hear from me and vice versa if they called me. So what's the hang-up (pun intended)? How do I reduce my anxiety around it? It's just literally a fear of pressing call and waiting while the phone rings. I'm not actually scared to talk to these people. What's that about? How do I make pressing the button or the waiting time while the phone rings before they pick up easier? How do I select who to call? Are there steps I can take to get to that point? 42:46
6. Hey Kati what is it called when you are so concerned with the way you walk, blink , eat, move your mouth when you talk, ect. I feel like I walk weird, and I talk weird. I feel like I’m insecure about my voice being too deep or my laugh being too loud. Just little everyday things. I never hear about this. 46:26
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[@SaltySaltySalty.]

Hi Kati, I love your content! Could you consider having your editors add chapters to the KZbin podcasts? This way, one could easily jump to the question(s) they’re most interested in. I don’t always have the luxury of listening to the entire episode in one sitting. Thanks!

[@LikeABrezeee]

Look in the description❤ I think thats what you are looking for

[@logansmith9437]

Look in the description for the timestamps, but I agree the chapter feature is nice

[@PH-xh4fs]

This is a fantastic idea!

[@victoredgefield141]

Small token of appreciation for your hard work and love. I know it's not much. I got your book Traumatized as a gift from my sister. ❤❤

[@itsabbymaybe]

As someone who graduated with a BS in psychology and is now a year into grad school for social work, I felt question 3 in my soul. I just started therapy last week for the first time and I straight up told her that I know what’s wrong with me, why it’s happening, what caused it, etc. but it doesn’t mean that I can fix it by myself. (I also have a hard time letting myself feel emotions). I’ve been a silent watcher of your videos for about 9 years now and thought I would finally pop in! P.S. You were part of the reason I chose this career and I absolutely love it! Thank you for all you do 🫶

[@hiramalik3818]

❤ nice comment

[@derpaulsahm]

Just read the video title… to all out there who fight against suicide thought. Don’t give up. Scream for help. Ive been living with these thoughts every day for the last 2 years. But I will keep fighting and I promise you it will get better ❤️ much love to you!

[@M-xlz3]

I sometimes struggle waiting while the phone is ringing too. I always thought this was just a “me” thing. It’s nice to know I’m not alone and that there are strategies to put in place! Thank you for the amazing and needed work on your channel, Kati. It’s appreciated!

[@nikkimckay860]

@M-xlz3. I can definitely relate and understand this comment I get anxious while waiting for phone call s or talking on the phone it's hard for Me to make phone calls as well so you are definitely not alone in this ❤

[@M-xlz3]

@@nikkimckay860 Exactly!! Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. You said it perfectly. We would rather text, e-mail, etc, not have to talk. Right back at you with all that love!! It’s so comforting to know I’m not alone in feeling / thinking this way. ❤️

[@nikkimckay860]

@@M-xlz3 we are all struggling and going though mental health issues we all have different types and levels of anxiety I have social anxiety for me I get anxious going out and being in crounded public places or travel makes me anxious it really helps to know we are not alone 🙏❤️

[@M-xlz3]

@@nikkimckay860100% true. Again, perfectly said. You never know what others are going through. Crowded spaces-and sometimes going out-cause me anxiety too because of my mobility issues related to my physical disability. If there’s anyone who would understand all of what you mentioned, it’s me! You are valid and so are your experiences! I’m an avid reader-mostly of personal development books-and so a few years back I read a book called: AnxietyRx by Dr. Russell Kennedy. Dr. Kennedy is an anxiety specialist, a neuroscientist, and somatic practitioner. Just by reading his book-and following his work on KZbin, etc--he’s helped me manage my anxiety better than anything I’ve ever heard that “fixes” anxiety. His strategies are counterintuitive but they deeply resonate with me. Anyway, if you ever end up checking out his work, definitely let me know what you think! You’re awesome!! If you ever need to talk, etc, feel free to write back. I enjoy talking to people like yourself who can fully understand this aspect of myself.

[@erinobrien8457]

I always feel like giving up. The only reason I exist is because I’m afraid of going to hell if I made myself be dead.

[@MagnoliaPantherWoman]

I really like the name Glimmers. I keep an annual jar of glimmers written on slips of paper and folded. At the end of the year I pull them out and read them. Then I keep them in an envelope and start the jar for the new year.

[@sophiadavenport3959]

What motivates me to get through the hard days and challenges is my cats they provide me with tons of love and support plus it's expensive to take care of my fur babies.

[@REwalker29]

respect animals dont lie

[@colleenpeck6347]

They have unconditional love! ❤️

[@nikkimckay860]

@sophiadavenport3959. This is a important comment and I completely agree having and looking after a pet is known to be good and helpful to your mental health but I guess it depends on the animals behaviour I have a cat her names Coco she's black with some white patches she kinda temperamental though when it comes to picking her up and she's not a lap sitter but yeah animals can be good for your mental health ❤❤

[@DebGreen-kx9jd]

Thank you. 💝 Your video clarified for me with great description, my past experiences. I am 79 years old and have not allowed myself to change and create a better life for myself. This includes being present and emotionally available to anyone in my life, especially to those who want me to be in their lives who accept me as I am. I have acceptance for all that was and is. However, I still live with shame , blaming myself for just about , "everything." "True" feelings started coming up around 3 years ago. I spent the next 2 years intellectualizing the who, what, when, where, why, etc. of my life. I still have not allowed myself to move into the many somatic and spiritual practices available , aware of since 60's thru today.

[@celestialcucumber4684]

I asked the first question and I truly thank you and appreciate you for your thoughtful answer. Extremely helpful. And you were spot on with mentioning the need for routine and how I hate last minute plans and just generally like things to be in order and predictable. Trauma is a wild beast. It’s crazy to think I rarely even considered it as a thing that existed before I got into therapy. It’s been such a journey to go from “I’m just a broken fucked up not-even-human being” to “I’m a human who has worked so hard to survive and create a safe life for herself.” And it’s even wilder that it’s a constant battle to not give up and retreat back into old ways where it’s ultimately unsafe and unhealthy but comfortable. Anyway, I’m just reflecting because your answer really did help further my process. You’re so skilled! Thank you Kati. ❤️

[@64maxpower]

I'm grateful for Kati

[@katarzynaskrzypek3731]

I am so BURNED OUT from trying to get myself better. 8 years of antidepressants, therapy (CBT included), I just finished 6 months of excellent inpatient in a Anxiety, Personality Disorders and Eating Disorders clinic... It was supposed to be IT. But I left, having a hard time adjusting - my old life doesn't seem to "fit" anymore, there isn't a new one yet. My relationship is falling apart (we are long-distance, I'm having a hard time with convincing myself to move to him to the US from Europe), my job doesn't provide fulfillment anymore... I am scrambling, every day is a serious struggle. I've been with my parents for the past 2 weeks because I wasn't able to function by myself. I question my whole being, my whole life. I feel so empty inside. My partner was supposed to be my safety, but that doesn't seem to be there anymore too (there was an incident of emotional infidelity) - the relationship feels so different, I don't even know what it is anymore. I don't know who I am.

[@bill4632]

Sorry you're going through a difficult time. I was on anti depressants and anxiety medication for 5 yrs. I took myself off of them. I feel like I have more control of my life. I never felt like myself on meds. I hated it.

[@dawnofthedelts]

Wow. Recognize that you are not the only one feeling this way. Your story sounds very similar to mine. The soul-searching is painful, and the longer it goes on, the more you keep questioning. ❤❤

[@kavleenmarwah4373]

Kati's voice is so soothing

[@slr4092]

I love EMDR, it has really helped my depression! It can be used for alot of things that you are stuck on, or to help where other therapies dont seem to work.

[@yoyofargo]

I loved that section on knowing vs understanding and feeling emotions. I have a metaphor. Knowing or intellectualizing emotions is like watching a cell phone video of a concert or fireworks, feeling emotions is like feeling the bass or heat from the fireballs pass over the surfaces of your skin. I feel like this has been the reason Awe as an emotion has been so useful for me in terms of overcoming intellectualization. For me it is a nucleation point for feeling the rest.

[@MainooMadness]

Hi Kati, thank you for all you do and the authentic way you do it. I am currently housebound I am a Ukraine vet and also a child abuse surviver I have some form of undiagnosed colitis. I have begged for help from my GP and MHS in the UK but our NHS is broken leaving me in a complete mess I can't sleep either nightmares or pain keep me awake most nights. I have stopped eating because the pain is better than the flashbacks' intrusive memories suicidal thoughts and guilt shame in leaving my wife alone. I wanted to take my life but was prevented by emergency services. I don't know how to explain to my wife that I'm stopping eating until the end, I would rather have a month or two left without reliving some horrific flashbacks. Starvation is the only power I have left and it gives me some peace knowing the end is near, sorry for the nature of my message it's taken me hrs to write this to make it as acceptable as possible while remaining true

[@kaleido9631]

Katie, I have been in the position the person was in who was talking about giving up, and I really think your advice is short sighted. If they have tried everything in the psychology world, they probably need to look elsewhere. Philosophy, spirituality, etc. That is what I had to do. Therapy and meds cant fix the problem if the patient is driving themselves into the ground.

[@_no.one.is.always.right_]

you are right. For me it's the realisation that i can only control my own actions; not life or people and the good thing is only my intentions, actions, mentality, choices define me; not life or people. Reputation isn't always same as the reality. _'Everything can be taken away from a human but one thing: the last of human freedoms- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances; to choose one's own way.'_ _-Viktor Frankl._ Expectations, attachments, entitlements were the reasons I was dissatisfied and these three cannot control a thing anyway except my own emotions. I can just do my best and hope. Detachment from expectations, entitlements and the outcome is necessary. I remember that each time i expect, it's like taking a risk. Donation or 'give and receive' mindset seems better to me than investment type, 'give and take' mindset. When i do everything without any expectations and with this awareness that i cannot control anything; then I won't get resentful if things don't go my way because i don't trade my emotions, i don't expect return. I just hope and observe. This mindset doesn't make me a doormat because I can confront, stop, say no, communicate and set boundaries if necessary. But, Investment type 'give and take' mindset is like having unspoken+hidden expectations and can make one resentful if the outcome was unexpected or unfavorable. Whatever we get here; we're meant to lose it all here only. We humans plan to settle in a world where we aren't even meant to stay forever. We can love but with detachment. Love still hurts but at least we are able to accept the truth. I find every attachment meaningless whether it's positive or negative. I don't even know what relationship i had with my loved ones in my past lives or what relationship i had with my my foes in my past lives. Situation can turn anyone into our well wisher or vice versa. The people i am so much attached to; only care about me and prioritise me because i was born in their family or it was in our destiny to be together and same goes for me too. Otherwise? Just imagine if one took birth in a different house. Then? Then the people we call family today would be just random strangers. They wouldn't be attached to us but someone else and same goes for our attachment. This doesn't make any sense to me now so now i know why saints are attached to no one; neither positively, nor negatively but help everyone who seeks their help. Because they know what it feels like when we escape this illusion and realise that no one is really ours. I am not questioning my people's loyalty but i mean i *don't have any right* over them. No one is responsible for us other than us. Even if we and they want to stay together forever+protect, support, serve, love and remember each other; we are not allowed to. So saints become philanthropic because they don't know if a stranger they're meeting now was their loved one from past life. I've read this somewhere: one who only thinks about himself is selfish; who thinks about family also- is family oriented; who thinks about people outside of family is philanthropic and who thinks about the whole world is saintly. Change is the only constant in this world. We are ultimately, at the mercy of our unknown destiny but still we choose to and we should try our best and trying is life. I am spiritual. I don't even know how many relationships and souls i have left behind in my past and i don't even remember and same for them also. I never had any right over even my memories from past lives. Then why to assume i have right over other souls that i didn't even create? I realised the only thing that accompanies me wherever i go are my actions and they write my destiny also. So i prioritise and i am most loyal to righteousness now more than anyone or anything else. Real loyalty is not in unconditional support. Real loyalty to me is when i care about my people's actions and character more than them and i hope the same from them.. because actions write their destiny and will accompany those souls everywhere they go. The one who isn't impartial; cannot be objective either. So i try my best to be impartial. If even my own people have done something unjustifiable then i won't hide it; i will guide them or ultimately I'll support and uphold righteousness even if for it i have to stand against them. I don't choose grudges, hypocrisy, sadism, vindictiveness but calm confrontation, justice, righteousness. I read somewhere that _real friends won't ever let you fall; neither in anyone's feet and nor in anyone's eyes._ I seek real friends and try to be one too. The reason why adulthood feels so saddening is because we were kept ignorant, oblivious and we were deluded and lied to throughout our childhood and then suddenly, reality of life hits us. Our wisdom, EQ is our real legacy. If you have or teach children then share and use your experiences and mistakes to guide them. Just a perspective.😊

[@Ahmed_Phenomenal_Ali]

Thank you for everything Kati ma'am.❤️❤️❤️ #Gratitude

[@j0.ZEF-Who]

Medication is taken to help with the feelings we have, it doesn't change anything and it doesn't take away the trauma. Let's get to the point where we're okay with our trauma and be okay with ourselves and the situation we find ourselves. Good luck everybody! Take back the power in your life.

[@Bat_Boy]

After your internal struggle comes (In the end)...letting go. Because your mind is an illusion factory, at its very core. Illusions of self, time, the past, the future, free will, etc...and all the drama that comes with it. JUST let go. Be calm. Be a good person. Just be in the moment. Everything else is just a distraction (that your mind creates).

[@melissagraber2687]

When suffering from depression try getting your thyroid checked. If it's out of whack it can give depression. There can still be some but it can contribute. My husband for years had atypical bipolar because it didn't fit in "regular" parameters but found out that his symptoms were caused a lot from having hashimotos. He still needed his experience however because he still had bpd symptoms so therapy is still necessary but helping your physical health could be part of the equation for it not getting better to consider.

[@AmethystWoman]

Esp your vitamin D level. The MDR for vitamin D is 400iu. It takes 10,000 for me to stay in therapeutic range. Most of us are not in the sun for hours each day plus we use sunscreen, blocking D. Get a blood level. Low D causes huge depression symptoms.

[@colleenpeck6347]

My doctor precisely me vitamin D3 50,000 iu per week. It is still low when checked every 3 months. I just found out that I have thyroid cancer and need a total thyroidectomy. I got Hashimotos after covid delta in December 2022. I've had covid twice since then, and every time the symptoms came back. Get your thyroid hormones checked and get an ultrasound and a Fine Needle Aspiration of the thyroid and nodules if indicated.

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

Its really as simple as this; dont question your existence, and dont lose faith.

[@MagnoliaPantherWoman]

I didn't know that about doing something you used to enjoy. I learned it as doing something creative that gives short term rewards. Done over 3 days, or a week if you need the time, refocuses the brain on positive achievable actions.

[@chargennaro976]

Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video It really has helped and been informative❤

[@avikchatterjee1945]

My ailing parents. Already see the impending doom. Have no idea how can move on without them. Money is not a problem. But the grief setting in is insufferable. Am planning a self-burial in the sea when they are no more. I am creative enough. But after seeing the movie MARTIN EDEN I find no meaning of getting along with life without any of my parents. I love them too much to live without them. Am 42. An author and an artist.

[@nataliealyssa2080]

You are such an amazing person. We love you so much ❤

[@MagnoliaPantherWoman]

I have phone anxiety too. I've noticed that many of the strangers I deal with are on edge as if every person has the potential to be rude or mean, like it's the new default. I've started adding pleasantries back in -- such as have a good rest of your day -- and deliberately saying something that tells the person what I'm here for and that I'm not here to blame or yell. It helps, although not always. About half the people I deal with in medicine and disability benefits will berate, belittle, and deny me access as soon as the find out I'm debilitated, unable to work, and poor from lifelong chronic illness that became severe. It's happens in all types of roles, from office staff to doctors. Pleasantries don't work there, but other things do, like walking away and telling the front desk to not bill my insurance because the doctor didn't do anything but yell. I give at least one warning and if they continue, I say I'm going now, goodbye.

[@hillarym4550]

We miss you in CA!

[@crystalmckinneycoaches]

Thank you for explaining why things are inappropriate. It’s encouraging to have someone validate things that were never validated by the people we trusted. For instance, “Boys will be boys” statement is inappropriate. It also gives me some language for when someone says this in the future and not feeling like what I’m saying is because I’m in the middle of being triggered.

[@_no.one.is.always.right_]

Peace is directly proportional to Gratitude. And allow your body and brain to rest. We cannot see clearly if the water is not clean or still. Our mind is like water. 🌊 We need a calm mind to make the right decision. _'We suffer in imagination more than in reality.'_ _-Seneca_ I think we should not be delusional but not be cynical either. We can be realistic, optimistic and skeptical. _'When everything in life goes against you; remember that the airplane takes off against the wind and not with it.'_ _-Henry Ford._

[@davidcantone8940]

I can understand. I've been depressed so long . I took tried all those therapies and considering ECT again . Im on and off different meds all the time , increase in meds , adding meds . I've been in and out of hospitals so many times . Attempted suicide several times . I just don't see the point on trying anymore . I go to a mental health program and even that really hasn't been helping . I do what they suggest and all . I lost interest in everything especially my artwork . I try to fight it yet I'd rather give up . People I know keep dieing or moving and I fear growing old alone .I don't even like going out when I don't have to . It's like I hate the outside world . I just don't see a future for me . I don't know what makes me happy anymore . I started watching this video and felt I needed to write how I feel .

[@warrens663]

I've just quit my 4'th therapist in 3 years. Sounds bad but, I had a horrible 3 years. I feel really bad dragging a therapist into my pit of despair.

[@shadowfreddy4044]

i never been to therapy and sadly I dont have the money for it but I dont believe I can be fix I deal with so much that I dont think anyone can fix me but watching your video is nice to hear

[@soilgrasswaterair]

Thank ypu for uploading this video, Kati! I’m at the end of my uni. education and feel me tally worn out and almost ready to throw out all the psychology, law studies straight out the window to just get some weeks of rest after all these years of intense studying and awful exams that are so nerve wrecking even if I came well prepared.

[@MLiesel]

@soilgrasswaterair sending encouragement your way

[@nikkimckay860]

These questions are so interesting and important kati is so lovely and always gives the best advice and offer of support i do however feel like my medication doesn't work or help with my mood or thoughts my emotions are always over the place iv been in a couple of different mental health medications iv had therapy twice iv had a therapist by phone call therapy and use to see a psychologist at a hospital iv had CBT twice i don't even know what type of therapy will help me 😢

[@nikkimckay860]

Kati Morton. so good to see you again and hear your voice it's so relaxing and calming too me I'm so thankful and appreciate your AKA podcast 🙏❤❤I am however honestly feeling stressed and don't understand why I am not getting notifications for your membership livestream s and I'm paying for it iv seen your livestream s on your channel but it won't let me watch them or notify me when you are doing a livestream please help?

[@sylviabadshamiah8435]

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[@tazyou11]

Hey Kati, in regards to the first question I call it Fear of the Unknown and I know it all too well. I relate it to me being Autistic and can't say for the person who asked the question, just for me its rooted in my Autism. I know that when my routine is changed suddenly or say a doctor's appointment gets canceled and I need to reschedule it can feel like I knew what was coming and now I don't and I hate that. Like today, I had an appointment with my psychiatrist and I went inside to check in and was told they didn't find me on the schedule and my heart just sunk. It was bad enough I had to deal with finding a parking space because you have to park in an area where there is a little bit of spaces to begin with and only one space was available, now I have to come back tomorrow and I am not sure if I will find a space. Even though I was told that on Friday it shouldn't be a problem getting parking. I just get this fear of the unknown for little things like this. Initially, I had an appointment that I was told by email that I had to change it because the doctor wouldn't be there and I changed it online and never was told it wasn't available, so to go today and be told they didn't see my appointment really bothered me. I even stayed in my car for like 20 minutes to process everything because the emotions overwhelm me. The other thing is I feel like why do I have to go in person to spend at most 15 minutes to discuss my medication for anxiety that hasn't changed in so many years and all I really need is a new prescription, but I am told they need to see me in person twice a year and I can't do tele health because of that. I hate having to go through this panic, fear and anxiety all because they want to see me in person. Why, just to know I am still here physically. If I was in a really bad way I would go in sooner. This psychiatrist supposedly deals with Autistic patients, so I would think he might understand my situation, but I think its the clinic's rules I guess where he works at. Basically, I hate not knowing what to expect, like when I see my dentist for a cleaning and never knowing if they will find something wrong with my teeth like this last time they found a cavity and now I am scared about how that will go when I get the cavity filled. I just remember it not being pleasant last time which was many years ago and don't know what to expect now. Sorry for the long explanation.

[@Krista-388]

Sure, behavioral activation may be the best apporoach for for MDD (i dunno) But as someone who is now in autistic burnout, and also was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndome( and MDD etc) which means pushing myself, even too much mental pushing, will result in poorer outcomes and harm to me, the patient. Some people have been misdiagnosed. They arent depressed, they could be in a shut down from overwhelming input. Sensory processing differences are ignored way too much. I went thru life thinking i had an anger problem. It was actually how i process sensory input. Its confusing when you say that everyone needs a different approach and also say that people should be pushing themselves through that exhaustion. People tell me to go on walks all the time. I would LOVE to. It is against recommemded treatmemt to do that though, particularly right now as i am still in burnout. Also not a good idea for me right now, is trauma work. Burnout is not a joke, and in particular how its experienced in the autistic community. Cheers ❤

[@kath16red]

Hi Kati. Why do I have such a hard time asking for help and accepting it? For example I’ve spent the last hour or so trying to get the courage to ask you my questions. I worry that I’ll trigger someone or that my questions are stupid. I don’t know. I just thought that I would ask you and hope for the best. Im sorry for being so awkward. Anyways thank you for all that you do. Your videos have helped me so much.

[@AmethystWoman]

I was depressed all the time for years. Many suicide attempts. A dr thought maybe I was bipolar but had not been manic (except in reverse reaction to antidepressants etc.) He put me on lamictal to see if it helped. Lithium usually brings you down from a high and lamictal (and others) can bring you up from a low. I've not had a major major depression since. We can be bipolar bit not have shown the high part yet. Esp if antidepressants have never worked for you. If it helps, it helps. Wonder drug for me. 10 years now.

[@whipwalk]

In 6th grade a boy was harassing me. My parents and the teachers said 'boys will be boys '. So, I took care of it myself. The next time he ran by with the intention of hitting me, I tripped him, and kicked him. Then I called into the principals office and got suspended. They called my parents and they couldn't be bothered. Yep. I got in trouble. For being harassed. But I defended myself and took the holiday.

[@doug3819]

I went through major depression and anxiety yrs ago. I had the swab done in my mouth, tried many different SSRIs for depression and benzos for anxiety. All they did for me was major side effects and messed me up in general. At that point i tried taking natural supplements. What helped me tremendously was L tyrosine, DL phenylalanine, omega 3 fish oil and B 6 with depression. For anxiety gaba, taurine and theanine did wonders for me.

[@MagnoliaPantherWoman]

Beta blockers helped my anxiety attacks, and the one I take also reduces symptoms from chronic illness. I wish I'd been on them decades ago. Then I wouldn't have had so much severe untreated anxiety making my chronic illness worse until I was debilitated and unable to recover to return to work or do any other work.

[@1HeartCell]

If you want to feel yourself, start with some feeling that gets activated. Like, where in your body is the feeling of emptiness, anger, joy,... and follow it around. Closing the eyes is very helpful. Describe it as if the feeling were an actual physical sensation. Does it have a color, a smell, a shape, a message? Watch where it goes and how it changes.

[@REwalker29]

should say that it takes 4-8 docs to give you a real answer REAL BPD

[@GeorgePalmer-m8m]

I've given up on a few things. They put something in my drink that totally killed my sex drive, so there is no reason I should chase after women. They're okay to talk to a little bit, but mostly I stay away from them.

[@brittanywilcox7377]

Extreme sensitivity to psychiatric medications runs in my family. I always have to be started on the lowest possible dose and titrate up. For example, half a milligram of Ativan gave me such horrible anxiety hangovers that I had terrible chest pain and delusional thinking. I cut it down to .25mg and that helped, but ultimately I had to get off of it ASAP. I find my migraine med, which is only 37.5mg of effexor, takes the edge off my anxiety and helps me manage it. For context, typical psychiatric dosage starts at 150mg. I would *die*. I get insomnia if I take my effexor with lunch instead of breakfast. That's how sensitive some of us are. Sometimes less is more!!!

[@syzygy4365]

I'm finally at a place where I can move forward with my life. How do I find the best path forward?

[@Yambataller]

The ego is basically resistance and nothing else than that.

[@Yambataller]

Resistance to an imaginary death of an imaginary limitation. That’s what all saints and avatars have been trying to tell us for millennia now.

[@tinaedwards7840]

So on the calling on the phone. Can trauma cause this as well. When I was 8 we anticipate our dad who had to work out of town would call. On this Sunday we sat patiently. But out if nowhere our mom told us to go upstairs. A bit later our mom came up and told us our dad had a heart attack. And went down stairs. To be honest I thought she just told me my dad was dead. I cried myself to sleep. My dad had to have triple bypass surgery . Again when I was 19yrs. Old my mo. Called me and asked if I was home alone. I said yes. And why? She proceeded to tell me my dad was dead. Again I cried myself to sleep. Then in 2012 I got a call in middle of the nite from my niece. She was telling me something but I couldn't hear what she was saying I finally handed the phone to my son saying I can understand her. My son put it on speaker and my niece was trying to tell me by brother died I hate phones and I hate that people think to call people with bad new and tell when people are home alone. How can I get over fear of calling strangers or to answer

[@dawnofthedelts]

Lithium orotate? Thoughts on this rather than the prescribed version?

[@rkx5408]

Thank u....

[@nikkimckay860]

Hello everyone how is everyone hope people are well and getting by the best they can ❤❤

[@janazimmerman5917]

I freeze too when I want nothing to do with something. But maybe that’s bc of childhood trauma

[@liase2963]

I'm very active and do many things i think i would like if i wasn't depressed. I still feel bad and suicidal every day. And sadly i have no reasons to stay alive.

[@64maxpower]

Lol, your on to my distracting the therapist trick

[@rogueerised979]

Didn't realize you knew Dr.Ramani Channel.

[@cherrylicious8772]

well this video was very interesting, i could relate to many of the topics. - i must say. the phone calling topic. yes i have similar issues but ... mine is more bout visitors, even if its someone i like. like a friend or family member. the anxiety waiting for the arrival.. omgs.. its full on. i also have sign on my door saying plz dont knock. (door/window knockin is big trigger). but of course. its a natural thing to do when u approach someones house.. right? - yeh everyone still knocks and i still go into panic mode. regardless who is on other side of the door. alot of the times i cant even answer the door. - but yes also the phone. mostly my phone is muted. and i dont ring ppl thats how i avoid all of that. lol. ;)

[@ATLTraveler]

I feel like giving up

[@kaylalilly9281]

Can someone share timestamps with questions

[@86GT11]

You are very pretty. ❤

[@johnrainsman6650]

If anyone here is a therapist, I would love to briefly share a concern about myself. Please and thank you

[@kirkwhite1736]

Sorry you couldn't go past you quoting Joe Rogan. Why did you take advice from someone less intelligent than you? I thought you were better than that.

[@juanmacias5922]

LMFAO yeah, that threw me for a loop, not to mention calling anything he says "eloquent"... D:

[@R50_J0]

Caffeine?

[@clifb.3521]

that thumbnail

[@REwalker29]

shrooms mdma aregood not in a room with astranger tho that wont help

[@audreygeis4531]

Cockroaches have feelings too.

[@REwalker29]

id talk on here no vid not high msg if care

[@REwalker29]

smokin ganja

[@Yambataller]

So grooming is what happens with tv and cinema. How first you are allowed to watch kids programs and then little by little more violence and sex… it’s fucked up. In the end society makes people believe that that’s freedom.

[@johnbillings5260]

You seriously quoted Joe Rogan?! I had to turn off the episode in disgust

[@juanmacias5922]

Same, guilty by association, I tune out everyone who references him, or someone like Jordan Peterson.

[@moderngoblin]

I listen to all sides of all arguments and that’s the healthy most honest approach to life. Try it sometime you’ll see any and every person has some strait bangers and wisdom you can glean.

[@XThirdEyeX]

Really?? Why?? 🤷🏻‍♂️...Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson are both great people. Who have both sadly fallen victim to many blatantly false propaganda attacks and unfair character smears. Neither are perfect by any means of course, as no one is...they both have been absolutely right on many things though.

[@juanmacias5922]

@@XThirdEyeX ah yes, the "they are right on some things" talking point, and as the saying says, "even a broken clock is right twice a day", I have better things to do, than to listen to mindless lunatics.

[@XThirdEyeX]

@@juanmacias5922 As I said, none of us are perfect. We are all right on some things, and we are all also wrong on some things, that's life...and even when this broken clock has the right time only twice, its still the right time, regardless. Can you please explain what exactly makes these two mindless lunatics though? I'm curious.

[@REwalker29]

also full circle adds pushing some kind of $ no actual care yet again oh plz i need that add revenue

[@REwalker29]

out to all CEOs we do not want to make you $ ANYMORE

[@moderngoblin]

How come the advice to major depressives is never “stop caring how you feel so much. Look around and asses your current, safety, satiation, nutrition, etc etc. and base your levels of well being off of those, since they’re real, when your feelings are just ephemeral and not tangible”. If a person said it feels like my hand is on fire… after ruling out chemical burns and possible health problems we don’t just continue to validate and enable the misplaced imaginary idea of fire on one’s hand indefinitely. At what point is depression considered psychosis or hallucinations? It seems like it’s in therapists and practitioners vested interest to keep people convinced they “have” depression, so they keep coming in and paying the bills. How can we trust people who willfully enter into a super predatory for profit healthcare system, isn’t the willingness to be a part of that a ethical infraction in and of itself? Can a person like that be trusted?

[@REwalker29]

tqake half off 1%s share that no econemay problems who fuckin knew

[@REwalker29]

take $ from the top ten no tax payin comany ditribut that in low income areas

[@REwalker29]

funny the doctors and plice will do the same dont trust anyone gs