How Do I Make Sure My Kids Don't Act Entitled?

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[@philipgerry5228]

Raise them with high expectations and don’t reward misbehavior. Let them know that if they work hard, you will help,but if they do nothing, they will get nothing.

[@kbanghart]

Sometimes it doesn't matter, which is sad.

[@philipgerry5228]

Plen22- Unfortunately you are correct.

[@kbanghart]

@@philipgerry5228 I'm living it right now. Grrrrrr

[@benmyers9030]

​@@kbanghart or maybe you didn't do as great a job with them as you tell yourself? Is throwing your kids under the bus a sign of someone who takes accountability?

[@kbanghart]

@@benmyers9030 oh, I did plenty. Anytime you want to come and raise the two kids I adopted out of the foster system, who had verbal and physical (including sexual) traumas from a young age, and have been diagnosed borderline and bipolar 2, just let me know and you can show me how it's done.

[@tcgtpl]

A key point not mentioned is that you have to live the example for your kids. You can preach to your kids all you want about what you want them to do, but if you're not actually embodying those principles, your words are going to fall on deaf ears.

[@terriesmith2616]

Exactly. 💯💯 Show by examples. Preaching never work, it goes in one ear and put the other. Children can see for themselves if you embodies what you want to teach them. Just telling/preaching does not work.

[@kbanghart]

@@terriesmith2616 sometimes showing doesn't work either, I'm living my own example.

[@joshuat770]

@tcgtpl Dave did mention working in the backyard WITH your old man. That means Dave was working and having his children observe and work with him.

[@JohnJohn-wr1jo]

tc, you are 1000% right on the money. I feel that "leading by example" is the most underrated and underutilized gift you can instill in your children and in the working world to your subordinates. All of the verbal communication in the world is wasted if one doesent walk the talk. Today's kids are being bombarded from all angles with the wrong messages. Parents in so many cases are creating monsters that they will walk away from but.then the public has to deal with them

[@zachg9065]

Parents need to be PARENTS and not their Child's friends.

[@kbanghart]

So true, and yet even then sometimes it's not enough.

[@Ilovedachshunddogs]

My husband and I came from nothing and are millionaires. Part of me is scared of spoiling my only son. It’s hard to know what to give and not give. First world problems. I just don’t want to raise a d- bag

[@GhostRider659]

That you‘re even concerned about this is already a good sign. On top of what was said in the video, it might be a good idea to keep people in all financial states in their social circles and yours as much as possible. I went to a rural secondary school with a large catchment area despite my family being able to afford private, and it did a lot to keep me grounded.

[@georgewagner7787]

Make them work for what they get. That's how the real world works. My sister has money and her son had to work for his dad, the first year outdoors with the gardeners.

[@AyeJye]

You can still give to your son….. just also teach him how to be a giver and to be thankful….. take him to homeless shelters or children’s hospitals to volunteer…. And teach him that if he wants a new toy he has to give one away

[@laurens.2503]

Don't buy them everything they want. Maybe one thing for their birthday and one thing for Christmas. Otherwise only give them what they need. Make them work for other things they don't need.

[@AtticTapes14]

Work for need

[@aaronalquiza9680]

Kids usually copy their parents. Set an example for them and mean it. I see parents who protect and censor their kids from mature or 13+ rated movies/shows but then at home they swear a lot anyway.

[@bridgettetraveler658]

After my daughter married I eventually got to the point where I was tried of her bugging for money! I started telling her I didn't have it! I had it, but I had to cut her off!!!

[@FancyRPGCanada]

As the kid of rich parents, I agree with Dave on this 100%. My mom had me do tons of gardening, and now I actually know how to take care of my own yard. My sister is 10 years younger and is an entitled brat because she whined hard enough that our mom didn’t make her do gardening. Guess who is happy with a good career and who is not.

[@joshuahealy2228]

Geez that was painful. Just ask your question dude.

[@chocovanille5809]

Kids look at parents’ behavior. If they act entitled, their kids copy the exact same thing. Most crazy trust fund kids saw their parents’ obnoxiousness, uppity ways and they just carried it on.

[@barbusie5217]

Unplug the T.V. take their phones away, don't let them on the computer until they are in highschool... ... ...

[@KT-sv6jx]

I Agree With Dave. Age Appropriate Work, Meet Them Half Way On Making Purchases, Teach Them How To Fish 🐠🐟, Show Them The Locations Where The Fish Are. Money 💲💰 Management Is A LIFE Skill

[@Jayyy64]

Make them work without handing them everything they want .

[@kbanghart]

That's easy to say, and I am trying, but my son gets violent.

[@SovereignMoney]

I'd love Dave to check out r/antiwork

[@danielvasquez3758]

Simple. Don’t give them anything, teach them some discipline, tell them to ignore their delusional friends, and find a skill to succeed in the future!!

[@millsathn]

Don’t give them anything? Wow.. great parenting 🫣

[@reese85]

@@millsathn yeah. He sucks

[@JAP1994]

@@millsathn if they had good parenting they don't *need* you to leave them anything. Leaving them money or assets would be a plus, not something they depend on.

[@donaldlyons17]

@@JAP1994 in my experience kids with nothing tend to have a harder time getting anywhere. There are always exceptions but nothing is likely to lead to less overtime.

[@JAP1994]

@@donaldlyons17 you did give them something: education, morals, and ethic. That is enough for them to create their own wealth, one they can be proud of since they earned themselves. Always with you by their side to help and support them, but no kid should be depending on their parent's inheritance.

[@clarifyingquestions]

Dont act entitled yourself - that is how.

[@kbanghart]

LOL no it's not that easy.

[@yagushka]

Absolutely love ❤️ your advice.

[@rayn1ful]

i hate when people give advice that says "get a job" if yer gona give advice give very specific advice do it right, tell the person when they start the new job that you have gotten for them or keep your mouth shut , Dave and his personalities always give good advice but many others give bad advice like not being very specific.

[@oogie-boogie]

this sounds like my dads advice to all us kids,, you know at 18 you were out of the house.. but he also thought you life stuff,, my 1st job was picking up cans and bottles on the side of the road and pilfering through trash cans in the park,,then helped my sisters rake leaf;s in the summer,, then i saved my $$ to buy a used mower,and mowed lawns in the summer, then i got a paper rout at 10yo then i got a real job at 13yo,, i worked after school and all summer and moved into my own place at 13/14yo and never looked back,, at 13 i made more $$ per month than my dad did,, thats my life if you want something you get a job,,,, but now im with a girl that lets her 36yo son live in the house,, we fight about it every day,,,, :(

[@georgewagner7787]

She doesn't have the same values as you

[@blackorc1136]

chill boomer today is not your age nodays thing cost 10x times than in your time and lawn mowing wont enought

[@walkingmiracles9706]

39 years old still call friends parents mr or mrs... because even now my momma would tell me they taught me better than that if i didnt

[@cuh720]

The way my parents did it was by being poor. Worked out great, and I am not entitled

[@georgemendez6760]

I grew up poor and people say that I'm entitled fir wanting to eat healthy food (example, I refused to eat street food and opted to go home instead of eating with the family outside because I value my health).... is that entitled?

[@georgewagner7787]

My Goddaughter acts entitled and she grew up poor. But She's on drugs

[@StayingDownJay]

The belt whistling threw the belt hoops 😭

[@catlady2795]

Really good question. Yeah, let them work for their keep. Don't hand it over to them too easily just because they are young. Age appropriate is a good idea too, but they should get rewarded when they do the task/s so they don't give up.

[@howlgal17]

How does becoming an activist have anything to do with money 🤔 pretty sure that’s only based on beliefs and morals.

[@BigMichael78]

For most people it's only superficially about beliefs and morals, it's really about telling others what to do. In order to make it real you need to be an "activist" with yourself first -- and that can temper your activist impulses.

[@gingerphillips1194]

Great video!!!

[@johndone8045]

Work hard is just bull, work smart, when u can slack off, slack off, work the minimal for the biggest return If a person can work 50% efficient and making 80% return, why would he work 100% for 100% return, thats stupid

[@KFG721]

Spot on 👍🏻

[@tkdevlop]

Don't leave anything when you die & give them money when they win at something that matters

[@reese85]

Crazy! I’m trying to leave my kids every I can! When I die

[@stewart2898]

@@reese85 that’s also good, because your children see your work ethic and they will strive to be like you, they will be very accomplished later in life.

[@edhcb9359]

Who should we leave all of our money to then?

[@OptionSniped]

@@edhcb9359 me

[@tkdevlop]

@@edhcb9359 enjoy as much as you can & donate rest.

[@doublet8142]

Yup without struggle their is no story...😏

[@Mr_Fairdale]

I’m torn on leaving kids inheritance. I’ve seen it go both ways. If I ever have kids, I think I’ll tell them they get nothing and must make their own way in life but I’ll secretly leave them something when I die lol

[@inmate0054]

Just teach them to be responsible moral and how to properly manage things. Poor or rich

[@Sinful_Survivor]

I like this idea, the kids might end up hating you for it lol but still teaches them to survive and make it on there own. Very important

[@doubleaz1234]

I wish there was a way for inheritance to be used only for medical bills and insurance. I hate for them to be tied to a job because of medical insurance or medical debt.

[@reese85]

@@doubleaz1234 so you would rather them be tied to a job for everything else that life brings on to them?

[@doubleaz1234]

@@reese85 it's more like I don't want to rob them of their self-esteem. People get their self esteem from working or for buying their first home or providing for their own family. I think it's important that Men stand up on their two feet.

[@IgoOutlateAtnight]

If Dave wants to try and instill those values in a 38 year old man id appreciate it...he could adopt me as well...

[@donaldlyons17]

Yeah math matters all that other stuff matters a whole lot less!!!

[@ramonaearnest4709]

Amen!!!!

[@A.--.]

Your not from south, your from centre

[@AtticTapes14]

Having gratitude for rich parents. Bull

[@fsmoura]

Frequents beatings. Should put the fear of God back in them. 👌

[@karenross6990]

Excellent advice from both! “Allow kids to struggle”, i just realized that now

[@armchaireconomist8648]

We like to be very genourous to our children. We balance that out with extremely rigorous expectations and work them very hard.

[@andrewbranham]

That sounds like a fruitful in between.

[@edhcb9359]

Your children sound like very well loved farm animals.

[@armchaireconomist8648]

@@edhcb9359 our children are thriving, worry about your own children.

[@fsmoura]

...And if they get out of line, a quick smack to the head should bring them right back! ( oДo)

[@kbanghart]

@@fsmoura lol are you being facetious?

[@donaldcornwell1151]

This is good advice. I am thankful for every challenge and setback because it prepared me to thrive in the real world. I am a big fan of kids having some skin in the game

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

That “They don’t end up becoming activists.” was hilarious because it’s true.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

@@kara1460 this isn’t Afghanistan.

[@ConradOPrice]

@@CaseyBurnsInvesting that’s the point

[@sm1123]

@@kara1460 agreed. Activism in USA = civil rights for folks/ votes for women. Activism has its place

[@RemixerDarken]

@@sm1123 More like had.

[@dontdoit6986]

So the public should shutup and let those in power rule as they please? There’s a 100% that the rights you enjoy were cemented in place because of the pressure of activists.

[@JasonGroom]

You teach them that just because i have money doesn't mean they have money. I worked hard for what i have, my son will do the same

[@toddseales8222]

Entitlement has no dollar sign. My mom acts entitled and is broke as a joke and has serious debt and spending issues.

[@markg999]

How does she feel entitled in that position...I'd be embarrassed.

[@georgewagner7787]

Someone taught her somewhere

[@toddseales8222]

@@georgewagner7787 that’s the thing. No one taught her anything. Her mom and dad divorced and all her mom said was yes to everything.

[@toddseales8222]

@@markg999 broke people act just as entitled when they are given everything. Just ask the welfare people.

[@Thomas.Wiggin]

Teach your kids, nephews, nieces and grandchildren the word No.

[@lancastro2268]

You have to raise them right from day one. If they're intitled, you failed as a parent.

[@G_Money_]

Shaq- "where not rich, I'm rich"

[@MontyQueues]

i grew up in a household where i was never taught to work, my dad didn't like teaching me and would rather do things himself... my mother didn't like the concept of me working or struggling and believed i should "only focus on school"... aka not build work ethic, these things come back to haunt you especially if you're not successful in academia

[@therealsunnylife]

So true! My sis is a great mom & her kids have awesome manners! He’s preaching the truth.

[@RudyC27]

Listen up left side of America!!!!

[@roolyfe]

Stop paying for the 1st car college wedding and down payment for a home

[@reese85]

No! The purpose of me working so hard, is for my kids! So imma do as much for them as I can! While showing them what hard works get them!

[@metaltera86]

@@reese85 No meet halfway. Pay for half of their first car make them responsible for some of it. Teach them that things aren’t free in life. When it comes to their first home don’t pay for a down payment but maybe help pay their inspection fee or some sort of closing cost

[@reese85]

@@metaltera86 1st car is on us as parents! 1st house if we could as parents on us or we got the down payment!

[@georgewagner7787]

Nope. My dad LOANED me half the money for the first car.

[@katemiller7874]

Absolutely not. These are milestones.

[@positive_vibes_2427]

This might be your best segment this year!!! Woah!!!!

[@markg999]

Kids learn from watching parents so much. If the parent themselves act entitled well sorry your kids will also be entitled you can't stop it. So if your not entitled and you do a good job raising your kids...good chance they will grow up well adjusted.

[@selfoblivionalex6262]

Please parents tech or introduce your kids to skills to many of my friends I went to college with dont have outside skills besides their work field. Like theres 27 year olds who cant install an AC or even change a ligh bult.

[@montymython754]

Thé problem isn’t “how do I raise kids that aren’t entitled?” It’s “how do I build generational wealth that doesn’t cause my grandkids and great-grandkids (etc) to act entitled?” Put another way, how do I make sure my lineage doesn’t act entitled?

[@kbanghart]

Still confusing to me worded either way. I have adopted half siblings who endured abuse, possible drug exposure, are in therapy for significant behavioral issues. Not sure there's any way to "make sure" these things happen in many cases, unfortunately.

[@montymython754]

@@kbanghart Yeah, I don’t think so either. But I wish there was a way and if there is, I want to know.

[@georgewagner7787]

Don't give them anything. Leave it to them in your will. That's how.

[@djpuplex]

The social pressure much like the bullying doesn't stop at the school "social media" is facilitating alot of the 🐂💩.

[@queen4u281]

Why is your financial business any of your children’s business? I don’t give my daughter a weekly update of what I have in the bank or what bills I do or don’t have.

[@patrickkelly2451]

Well said gentleman!! We need common sense old fashioned parenting!Gratitude,instead of entitlement.

[@PianoMatronNeeNee]

We made our kids earn their money for anything special. We supplied the basics.

[@reese85]

What’s considered “special”

[@william8855]

@@reese85 Ferrari’s

[@kbanghart]

@@william8855 lol

[@Da_padilla]

I think the biggest take away is "age appropriate struggle". Most 18 year old kids are not going to land a life career and independence without support.

[@kbanghart]

Yeah well my son better clean up his act or else he will be

[@georgewagner7787]

My friend's son became independent at 18. She got him bicycles and he learned to work at a bike store until he could repair things. At 18 he got a job with an apartment at a marina.

[@Da_padilla]

@@georgewagner7787 glad to here it worked out for him.

[@kbanghart]

@@georgewagner7787 so, support.

[@davidvar9209]

Sounds like Dave Ramsey will straighten trouble young adults up like a soldier 🎖️🎖️

[@rikmik3046]

So glad I don't have any kids.

[@castlequay2327]

our kids never asked for help but they all have different attitudes to money. They would be shocked to learn me and my husband earn less than all of them. i buy holidays to give all their children cousin time but i am still waiting for the day they treat us to a holiday ( like i did for my mum) my husband is 70 and still working. After an expensive xmas 2023 for them all ( i booked the house and paid for the food as well as cooking) i have booked a 2 person cottage for me and my husband in 2024 so nobody can join in....first time i am looming forward to a no family xmas.

[@michholl2]

Aww, this makes my heart hurt for you. But also learning from you.

[@johnb1121]

Facts best video ever 🥰🥰🥰

[@christinacollins7456]

Excellent question and advice thanks so much for sharing!!!

[@tjj5337]

When your dyslexic and ADHD, everything is a struggle…. Simple things are a struggle, like giving change back etc

[@blackorc1136]

its negativ goal: How Do I Make Sure My Kids Don't Act Entitled? positive should sound like: How to make my child sucefull but also caring for others

[@katieg7679]

This is a very complex question but the short answer is you that you can't. Your safest bet is to not be entitled yourself, and foster a healthy relationship with your kids, they will most likely emulate what you practice. It's funny because my parents were always worried us kids would grow up to be entitled and would hang money over our heads a lot telling us how spoiled we were and how much harder they had to work to get what they have. I would've rather them just not give us anything.

[@pt192]

Just double home costs again. How can they be entitled if they’re all homeless?

[@vickieturner8688]

Our Mama fully expected us kids to be respectful and polite. We addressed adults with Mr. or Mrs. Whatever. If we slipped up, all it took was one special look on her face to make us immediately straighten up! We simply didn't want to disappoint her. Work and manners were required of all us. Thankfully, my grandkids are raising their little ones in the same manner.

[@donaldlyons17]

No performance is rewarded manners don’t matter much!

[@katemiller7874]

Let your kids see how hard you work.

[@thesmartbudgetchannel2940]

I can answer this question out very easily. I told my kids I have money. I'm rich. You are not. Go get a job. They are no handouts in my family. They're not entitled to s***. End of story

[@bobmarker6812]

2:00 WELL SAID!!

[@theforeignerinamerica1817]

Every kid from a very rich parent will be spoiled and entitled. I don't care what Ramsey says, there is always a bad apple in the family at least. As a kid if you grow up in a $10M house and are driven in $300k cars, IM SORRY, there is no way in this world you can be a simple, humble, understanding, kind, and down to earth person. SImply because you haven't known any different. Not your fault either.

[@georgewagner7787]

Not true. My niece and nephew are very down to earth. My sister paid for college but they had to earn their own spending money.

[@georgewagner7787]

It was a 4 million dollar house though.

[@marshamata2687]

My 10 year old daughter really wants an iPad . My husband and I said we would not buy her one due to the amount of money it cost ($300-$500). She has agreed to work hard and save her money to buy her one. Should we then let her buy one if she saves her own money?

[@georgemendez6760]

How does she work if she's 10?

[@marshamata2687]

@@georgemendez6760 She does inside work and yard work around the house. Buys stuff at yard sales then flips them for more cash and recently started collecting aluminum cans.

[@georgemendez6760]

@@marshamata2687 my brother was exactly the same way when he was around 10 years old, he's 20 now and does the same thing for ps5s.... tbh it can be a good thing

[@georgemendez6760]

@@marshamata2687 that type of work ethic drove him and others in my family to work hard even throughout college.... I had multiple jobs while in school and maintained a 2.9 GPA while my brother & cousins maintained straight As.... their work ethic was always greater than mine starting at a young age because they had to work harder for things earlier on (that's not the only reason ofcourse but that's 1 of them)

[@marshamata2687]

@@georgemendez6760 Thank you, I just wasn’t to sure if I should maker her save her money or let her go ahead and make the purchase on her own since she’s worked hard for it

[@A.--.]

His children are entitled

[@gritskennedy5007]

Put your kids in band symphony and strings orchestra music or sports because there are competitions invitations tournaments hosting tournaments and volunteering and working as a whole team means something there is a sense of belonging of self esteem from accomplishments keeping grades up surrounded by other kids who are not only maintaining a 3.5gpa but learning new instruments or music always learninh to read music or their marching positions for field shows and for all parades they are doing volunteer performances invitation only to do things like march in the parade to celebrate the ex queen of hawaiis birthdate. Its all good.

[@christersmith5470]

I’m grateful for what I do have, but I’m restless to make myself greater. But I know I need to work for it: no one’s walking around offering a free lunch. I’ve been told I’m greedy (simply by wanting to earn more by creating more value) by people who want more without having to work for it.

[@tomj4506]

This should be required to watch at schools. This was the way we were brought up and all of us are sucesful & never in trouble & have happy lives. LFOD !

[@georgemendez6760]

"I'm due something that I didn't earn".... babies didn't earn a place to live buy they need it anyways

[@BrideofJesuChristo2]

How do I re-parent myself as an adult child without having any money lessons growing up, financially?

[@private464]

This is a FANTASTIC answer....WOW!!! I am following this with my own children.

[@justinlawson3493]

Rachel is insufferable…He failed with her

[@georgemendez6760]

How do you even quantify entitlement?

[@odium3691]

It took me so long to learn that work Is good.

[@A.--.]

Brother (caller) you have been decieves that his kids are humble, that's only in front of camera.

[@jygood3718]

Very wise

[@AtticTapes14]

Working at home with family vs. Working out in society. Get your facts straight ramsey

[@lordmagicpants]

Boomers talking about entitlement will always be hilarious and very angering.