How Does It Feel To Be Adopted

[@timhaskins100]

I hate going to the doctor and being asked if I have a history of some medical illness. I always have to explain

[@coralineparmentierpianist]

OMG Same this is stress me out since ever

[@shabanafelix449]

Don't feel bad I come from a biological parents and don't even know mine I'm serious

[@uditatj]

same

[@ruthruthy421]

I hear that

[@Twinkleshine43]

Same dude that shits annoying

[@faithemmavaz6311]

I'm here because I wanna understand my best friend

[@Anonymous-mp3wb]

so true....im exactly doing that only.please help me out too, i will help u out too

[@dylancallow1783]

Good on you, I’m adopted and when I told my friend all she did was tell me that my parents sent my real parents, she didn’t try to under stand me and what I go through. Good on you for trying to understand ur friend. That means your a good friend. Well done

[@shawreelol]

Iam Adopted but the people who i leave with are not my race so its very uncomfortable

[@raisotope]

I was adopted at birth as well as grew up an only child. Right now I am 18 struggling to adjust to adulthood. Both of my parents sheltered me as a kid and didn’t tell me much about my birth family. Sometimes to me this all feels like DLC i have yet to unlock about my life.

[@Certi-S]

damn man, i feel for you man. I hope you find ur truth

[@geckowithamustache3146]

im adopted, my step dad is abusive my step mom is dead, and i meeting my new family in 3 days... wish me luck!

[@hahahahaha315]

How is it going? :0

[@geckowithamustache3146]

@@hahahahaha315 umm... it is a huge improvement actually! I was finally able to come out as trans and was able to live a normal life! Chase (my step bro) is really supportive and I’m so glad I have him for company... overall it’s so much better, it’s hard to forget the past but I think I will soon

[@hahahahaha315]

@@geckowithamustache3146 I'm glad to hear that! And I think it's impossible to forget the past, but we can work to get a healthy relationship with it! ^^

[@heliosash4675]

@@geckowithamustache3146 Congratulations!

[@geckowithamustache3146]

@@heliosash4675 thank you!

[@michellemanookian9773]

People dont understand that being adopted is not always as happy as they show in movies like the hurt we feel never goes away and they always time heals but its really just u pushing your emotions down. Im adopted and thats what i do is push my emotions down and when they build up i finally let them go but i feel like no one ever listens and cant relate because unless you were adopted u can never relate to a adopted kid thats just how it is.

[@subyashin]

Cheer up. Always think about the memories that brightens your day 😊 Don't forget that you are awesome

[@geckowithamustache3146]

@@subyashin nothing cheers me up... Im contantly thinking about my dead step mom and my abusive step dad doesn't help with anything. i usually just sit in my room and cry for hours so ya. i dont think anything will cheer me up... thanks anyways!

[@ddaniyamir2898]

Truth

[@josephjames4423]

same

[@C00LESTJEDI]

I hate everything about me because i feel im not like the rest

[@x8bitam3l1agamer5]

I'm adopted was a orphan but then adopted when 1. People at school don't know I'm adopted but say your adopted as a joke.. what's wrong with being adopted tho???

[@milkymochi8001]

well others think you're a rebellious person cause you're adopted and i hate it when you got to fill up paper about where you got laboured

[@sophiarivera7973]

F

[@ruthruthy421]

@@milkymochi8001 im adopted too. I dont like it. It sucks

[@BingCK]

omg this is happening to me now

[@sameenzahin1255]

nothing is wrong with it's just different then normal people so remember your strong to be an orphan at such a young age and blessed with a family your unique

[@TonyBurke100]

I'm 70 and being adopted really sucks, broken marriages addiction alcoholism etc but if I had the knowledge that I've learned through the internet at a younger age e.g. my preteens life would have been much easier.

[@eileenbrougham9238]

I've had an identity crisis all my life being adopted. My Christian name was changed at 4 very confusing for a child and then my adoptive mother emotionally abused me in many ways. I am angry at my birth mother for giving me up. She did not want contact when I finally found her after research all my life... All I can say what have children done to deserve this?

[@ajrwilde14]

Nothing. It's just that some people don't want to be parents they just want sex without consequences.

[@dexie3849]

Banning abortion in usa on top of this is going to make thousands of more children like these. Two alcohol addicts are gonna have sex, give birth and throw the baby away. Idk what pro lifers are thinking.

[@DezaRay24]

@@ajrwilde14 notice how you only talked disparagingly about his birth mother, but said nothing about his abusive adopters. This is why it’s so hard for us adoptees to speak out against adoptions that don’t fit the societal norm

[@lifedagame]

​@@DezaRay24Exactly!!! Some of us get adopted to bad families.

[@malayaspurpose7499]

I don’t even know my dad , but I know and have a relationship with my Heavenly Father and that’s all that matters too me 🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@unsmartasian4454]

The best thing you can do for an adopted person once they tell you is that....you act the same. They don't want to feel different. Of course if they are down about it help them but don't treat them different better or worse. You might think ur helping but ur only making it worse

[@leehollis9297]

Both of my daughters are adopted. Both don't care about being adopted. We brought them up as our own children. We didn't make a huge big deal about being adopted. Eldest daughter is 35yrs old and youngest is 30yrs old Both beautiful women who were beautiful children. We love our DAUGHTERS 🎉🎉

[@lii114]

I'm adopted but it really eats me up the older I get . Me and my adopted family always fight . They are always right they will never try any of my ideas . All I need to do is say yes and obey but the older I get the harder it gets . I just don't wanna be here and I cant stop the anger and confusion in my mind . It's like every thing we can't agree on . I feel like a tennis ball getting tossed in a store room full of stuff trying to find the exits . Not knowing myself loosing myself more and more

[@fsketchdesignsfengmei3762]

I am also adopted, however I feel as though this is more of a growing up thing than a specifically adopted related thing. Yes, your adoption may be adding pressure to it and fueling it, but it sounds like this is more of a growing older issue than anything. It's sounds like communicating is the main issue that's causing all of this. You're not alone. The best recommendation is just to sit down and speak with them. If you can't handle a face to face conversation, you could try writing a letter to them and placing it on their bed or handing it to them.

[@subyashin]

I agree with Hai zhi. I'm not adopted but there was a time when I used to argue with Parents and felt they can never understand me. But that is phase. It has nothing to do with adoption. Talk to them.

[@subyashin]

Many Ppl are trying to adopt kids so that they won't be alone and can share love, effection and their life with them.

[@geckowithamustache3146]

@@fsketchdesignsfengmei3762 i hate my family... im adopted, my mom commited suicide from my step dad, and hes abusive.. i dont even bother to talk to him.

[@fsketchdesignsfengmei3762]

@@geckowithamustache3146 I won't go into details of my family, but I sympathize. Someone who is arguably quite abusive is living in my household rn.

[@N-A-uw5fp]

I have two adopted daughters from birth. I have been completely open with them about their unique and special story. They don’t think anything of it. Now that they’re 15, I think they’re slightly aware that they stand out because they are adopted. I just recently explained to them and the kids that are not adopted can’t comprehend what that would be like. It can be an unconscious threat to their stability to imagine it. They can’t imagine being without their parents. They don’t understand that to my girls, my husband and I are the only parents they know and love. They feel very stable. Adults usually respond, how wonderful ,when I say they are adopted. Infertility is much more common and much more talked about these days. I think it’s different when a child is a foster care. I know who their biological family is and the trauma that caused them to be taken away and put into foster care

[@K1jaxkson]

Am adopted and it is fine I think we are all a family together and we should take this opportunity to show the world that it is not that bad like people say it is

[@trevormunster235]

I was adopted by Maddie and it was good home for me and my new brother and sister I love them so much

[@Elyhhk]

Thats cooool!!..

[@jaceyarlene6154]

something you can not put into words 🙏🏽

[@pinkeyvideos6520]

i was super young when i realized i was adopted i cried in silence, (meaning i would cry when no one was around) it also made me feel unwanted, i was a depressed, sad lil boy

[@joelbohlin537]

My older brother was adopted by our parents and I wouldn't change it for anything!

[@linealjr07]

As someone who was adopted, now 35yrs old, lost both adopted parents due to cancer, it’s has been a challenge. Yes I know my biological parents, however, my bio mom & I do not get along at all but I’m close to my bio dad. When it comes to building friendships/relationship, it is difficult because it can be scary trying to trust people when knowing the things you dealt with when being adopted. As a grown man, I still struggle with building healthy relationships with people. And it’s very sad when knowing the type of man I am. I’ve gone through therapy several times, yes I have a better understanding of myself, however, when it comes to building relationships with people, I find it challenging for me.

[@remix808haaaiian6]

Honestly it’s fine that I’m adopted I always get to win a parent age game. I love it that I was adopted.

[@mandyconnecteddogs]

Im 54 now, adopted at 5 weeks old. I remember that feeling of no baby baby pics, a strange birth certificate. It freaked my mom out more than me. But i dis have issues from adoption. Its a thing! More needs to be done to not put kids into these awkward positions. That baby thing and family history thing.....so much

[@iv_oreos]

Always remember guys. Relations are to be made by heart. If you accept someone from your heart it would not matter if you are adopted or the biological child of the person.

[@dexie3849]

Exactly

[@Snakefinger1000]

It's that easy is it?

[@MustyUnderboob]

@@Snakefinger1000 Thank you! 😂

[@sarahg3396]

Guessing you aren't adopted

[@ohthankg-dforthebourgeoisi9800]

You are telling people how they should feel. This is rude. This is a major problem with being adopted. People will lecture you about how lucky you are, you should be grateful. Your mother was probably a … name whatever negative idea is on their mind. And so on.

[@snowyuan1650]

I get the same questions as Caleb and I'm adopted I am even bullied for being adopted its hard talking about my history because I can't be like everyone else and fit in so its hard to go through being adopted

[@laylenhope9327]

I know how you feel. I have the same problems. I am left out a lot because people think I'm weird for being adopted and I get mean comments about it and I never talk about my past because of that. I just hope some day it will go away because it is hard to watch all these kids having big groups of friends and there's me with out anyone to be friends with. The only time that I ever get a friend is if they are adopted to and that has happened twice. Both times they moved to far away to see each other. And the only biological sibling I have that I can see once in a while is my 11 year old brother( I am 13) and he still lives very far away with his adoptive family and I hardly ever get to see him. The last time he came over was when I was 10. But when we do see each other we are always happy to be seeing someone with the same blood as us. I get asked a lot what it is like to be adopted and I just tell them that it feels normal like you are like everyone else but I know that is not true.

[@snowyuan1650]

I so understand I'm turning 13 and I have to pretend I'm somebody else for people to even like me so I became popular for being somebody I'm not and everyone talks about there parents it just discourages me and its hard because we're both different from others

[@hannablake1885]

I was adopted I love my mom so much I just get very embarrassed because she is white and I'm Hispanic we have no dad and I have adopted sister I love her so much. But I feel bad for always yelling at my mom I can't control it.

[@shawreelol]

It feels thankful but also hurts the feelings

[@moonlightstargem1006]

My adopted parents were abusive alcoholics. Just shitty parenting. And now they are old and decrepit & my alcoholic dad is stuck in the hospital because he cannot walk & my mom got a colonoscopy because she is STILL an alcoholic. She has a stoma. A bag attached to her stomach that catches her poop. Both my parents were really mean to me & it made me feel unloved & hated and it got worse as they aged. Just cruel behavior. My dad let me know how much he hated me in his later years. I always knew he was a mean person but i later realized he was a full on narcissist. Like if he got mental help they would diagnose him with npd. But he never got diagnosed. I think the doctors realize he’s a narcissist. Theres no hiding it. He’d have to be the sweetest person in order to hide his narcissism but he cannot do that. He’s always mean. Just grumpy & angry all the time. I hate him. He’s the meanest adopted father i’ll ever know & I won’t cry when he dies.

[@HarypietJulfa]

I get called adopted as a comeback but I don't feel offended its calm so don't worry about shit people say its calm

[@dimebagdio4204]

For me, I have so many opportunities now since I was adopted and I have a better life than I could have in Guatemala but It hurts worse than anything else not knowing who you parents were or why they gave you up. All I know is that my dad left before I was born and my mom threw me out at 3 days old. It's caused self esteem issues and it's contributed to one of the worst choices ive made in my life. I've grown up not feeling like my adoptive parents are real parent figures, its more like they're aunts or uncles that took me in but I've never had a parent figure.

[@cool_kid103]

It was never a big deal for me untill this year when I found out my biological dad died. It really struck me that one of the people that gave me life is now dead.

[@m00thegamer]

It's a whole lot of stress

[@ruthruthy421]

Yes it is for life

[@ruthruthy421]

Hard to date

[@DreScarlett96]

It feels like car addict but I survived it

[@TommyCiios]

I’m here cause I was adopted and didn’t know bout my parents till after high school 💔

[@DeadOrcherd]

Being adopted for me is the best/worst thing

[@MrRobmac1984]

I came from an orphan from the Virgin island I was n foster then I got adopted It’s been very hard

[@impeachjoebiden2215]

I was adopted it’s hard especially when kids tell you haha you don’t have a mom or dad your parents didn’t want you it hurt s

[@sophiarivera7973]

I'm thinking about getting adopted because my family just always play

[@onceyoujiminyoucantjimout483]

im adopted and super super jealous on my cousins and all and i dont go in our reunion because i dont belong to them my mom says that im adopted when im 7 years old and its so hard for me growing up knowing that your parents blood is not flowing inside you im depress

[@jaiverse_9190]

Family doesn't requires blood it requires love Actually I'm adopted too,i haven't seen my real parents yet, if i would meet my real parents i dont know what to do 😫

[@subyashin]

Yes, it is not correct. Children are children, biological or adopted doesn't matter.

[@vickyandersen8660]

Blood or not, parents still love you. My husband isn’t the biological father of my 2 oldest but he still loves them the same. He even defends them from his sister that doesn’t like our 2 oldest.

[@taliacoletta8776]

Omg I am adopted too I am trying to be happy it can be hard to be happy really I love that I get adopted bye my parents how love me I should be happy I really want to be happy it is not easy to except it so far I am trying to except best I can to be happy I will make another video of how to be happy they are adopted and stuff

[@ddaniyamir2898]

It’s really hurting me so much after knowing that i am adopted but I am not sharing my emotions with anyone I am killing myself from inside bcz I am hiding everything I love me family so much but sometimes they hurt me So much it’s hard to explain I need my fathers love the most but he is always busy in his doings 😭

[@Pactadopt]

Hi d daniya Mir, if you're looking to talk with other adoptees, Pact offers an adoptee support group for BIPOC adoptees. You can email us here: [e-mail]. If you are a white adoptee, you can check out adopteesconnect.com/ Be gentle with yourself. Adoption is a complicated, life long journey and there are many of us out here connecting through support groups.

[@thallwin5130]

I am lucky that nobody adopted me I am still now in orphanage with the owner of that orphanage 🙂

[@subyashin]

I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you all happiness. I hope adoption process becomes simple.Proccess is bit complicated, hope I well learn the adoption process soon.

[@horatiotodd8723]

I know this is not everyone but my grandad was adopted and had a great life, this is why i will always be anti abortion as if that happened none of my family would exist

[@blickiminjaj9162]

I was adopted at birth. My parents now r horrible. Good luck all y’all

[@blickiminjaj9162]

My birth mom kept my bro she had a year after me. :/

[@Virgo-zx3ez]

That last girl was the most believable! The rest were reading from their internal scripts that they’ve been taught to recite. “I’m so lucky..”

[@HKim0072]

I think you may be conflating kids / teens who haven't come up with ways to express complex emotions or even know the emotions are there. Generally, I would have said the same when I was their age. When you get older, things are more nuanced.

[@louannalear7806]

In white.. was adopted into Mexican family.

[@gowherqayoommir6977]

My life is being with worst by it, not because of my parents they love me a lot, but society understands me very down and sometimes I felt bad destiny in it ! I am depressed having suicidal tendencies plz help me out I need love my frnds cheated me a lot

[@ahmadaligaming4903]

Same condition

[@cherrymetha3185]

There’s a family on You Tube . They are all white Americans . They have 3 young boys then adopted a 7 year old girl from India . She was the only girl in the family . Then the mother had a baby girl . The 3 boys cried when they held their baby sister . The adopted 7 year old girl didn’t . She’s loving and sweet towards the baby but the boys had a bond with their baby sister that the adopted girl didn’t have . I also find that the mother is not that close with her adoptive daughter as she with her sons and biological Daughter . But the father is very close to his adoptive daughter and cherishes her . Y I wonder what will happen as all the kids get older . The little Indian girl is the only child that isn’t biologically related to her parents and siblings . I wonder when she hits her teens if she’ll feel left out .

[@jcryptogoldsilv2826]

I was adopted. The women of my adoptive family treat me same way. The men treat me just the way you describe. Very interesting.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Why do they say am adopted like it’s some personality trait or adjective that describes you? It’s a verb.

[@nailmechanic3559]

I'm here because I wanna adopt I have no kids

[@mihirrao9537]

okay i have a really heavy question... my indian friend is adopted by their indian parents... good upbringing. luxurious lifestyle barely .5 % of the indians could afford. studied very well, stable career (but not to sustain the lifestyle she is used to growing up with). now their parents are old mother is old and unable to do the housewife related jobs..my friend has to now be the "housewife" of the house and take care of her ailing parents... her work doesnt allow that time and energy for her to give to her parents although she tries. AND the lifestyle she and her parents are used to, cannot be supported by her she either can stay home and take care of her parents and not provide for the lavish lifestyle (also unlearn and totally rethink of a new career)... or work super hard and not be there for her parents....her parents are kinda unreasonable since they pretty much said that they did so much, gave her so much, and now its her turn to return the favour(this happened during a fight i tried to subdue)... they are progressive but not progressive enough in the field of getting profession consultation... I want to help since i have been around this family for three decades.

[@neelanjanachatterjee4857]

I am not adopted but an only child. I was also a single parent by the time my parents needed help. I arranged for caregivers to be at home during my absence while I was at work. Filial responsibility does not increase if you are adopted. Be expressive about the concern , take care of them to the best of one's ability but not at the cost of one's own life. And most importantly one should try not to be bullied to agree to anything by the extented family well wishers . Best of luck to your friend.

[@oliviaerin9333]

I’ve been adopted from birth, my mom cut off all contact when I was 4 I just got back in contact with her - she blocked me

[@7lool125]

ohh :(

[@geckowithamustache3146]

thats really sad... im so sorry to hear that... my parents died from a car accident when i was 11

[@helloxeniaaa]

I felt that so much 😔

[@nabeelahmedchaudhry]

Im adopted and my mum is a heart braker

[@HKim0072]

2:30 That's just wrong. Can't get around the topic, but drawing a picture seems a bit odd. Why not just the youngest picture available?

[@DreScarlett96]

How lonely it is

[@architecclp2647]

I honestly don't care about how I looked like as a baby (I was adopted when I was 1)

[@sophiarivera7973]

I mean fight

[@Ana.K.Rodriguez]

I can’t have kids of my own and i wanted to adopt but my husband says adopted kids are ungrateful and dramatic and unhappy so after seeing this i actually agree with him now 😢😮

[@jenebamartens4627]

Then maybe you dont deserve them anyway😂

[@MustyUnderboob]

Get a hobby.

[@jcryptogoldsilv2826]

Please don't damage innocent children. You are a POS so is your husband

[@Ana.K.Rodriguez]

@@jcryptogoldsilv2826 that may be true but how is adopting harming them

[@jcryptogoldsilv2826]

@@Ana.K.Rodriguez good people with empathy should be adopting children. Unfortunately I don't think you two should adopt with your mentality.

[@TsarOfRuss]

America needs to fix itself first !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Snakefinger1000]

Lousy

[@adrianmartinherrera4213]

Fake fake fake I’m adopted at 6 so sorry you don’t know what’s it’s feels to be abandoned I am still waiting to my mother to come back Think about that

[@alicesanderson1459]

2:09 That's 11 year old Rue

[@Nemo-rq9rz]

I was adopted, abused, sexualy assulted.