how I'm able to be alone without feeling lonely | solo female van life

[@nature10879]

There is a saying that goes: People Who Enjoy or Like Being Alone Without being Lonely Are Extremely Powerful Individuals.Loneliness is the poverty of self and solitude is the richness of self. Community is important, I crave for it sometimes but I seem to be always busy with work.However, I love time by myself and I also don't like talking on the phone.

[@sherryreinhardt3845]

Absolutely agree! It is hard to find "our tribe" in life...who we belong with.

[@wildeescape]

Thanks for sharing about being an introvert. Many of us think something is "wrong," but there really isn't! I love spending time solo where nobody else is (and I've learned it's healthy). Community is critical! Also, my favorite part of this video was you making your bed and Tobi being in the way...dogs are the best!

[@katgerbz]

Nailed it. 💯 I am an extrovert and love people but spend a lot of time alone because it’s easier than dealing with rejection sensitivity.

[@Toddster11111]

I so appreciate your awareness on choosing alone. I spent FAR too long learning what you articulated SO well. My last 10 years, trying to make a relationship work - 10 of the LONELIEST years of my life. #respect

[@221jono]

Try meditating Sarah it will help you stay in the moment, all you have to do is chill, breathe and forget any emotional baggage for a wee while.❤

[@JohnSmith-fx4se]

Okay, prior to the bralsss (we both know, don’t lie) and the underwear…less (we also….both know) you were killing it on feeling alone.

[@litnoregrets7551]

Just love your videos. Simple as that. Looking forward to seeing where the wind takes you. Be safe. 🙏🏽

[@GAPTEXPLORE]

*_Hello Sarah... how could you possibly feel lonely. everything is in your van Sarah.... and you are beautiful, surely many men like you... greetings from Indonesia....._* 💯💙👌

[@LateBloomer1111]

We are literally on the same journey, van life/ Bus life has been my outlet as well!❤

[@808KONOSURF]

This video is truly amazing. Listening to the struggles are so true for young professionals! I am burnt out from corporate, working for my Dad. Taking time off for the 2024 kayaking the Rio Grand

[@JohnSaxon-vw5vi]

Sarah I am 51 years old and my family has decided to disown me and I wish I could go to America and do what you’re doing for a few months and maybe even see you ❤❤❤

[@MikePatrick-t9p]

I spent Christmas and New years alone on the road coming back to Cali, love your videos

[@KarinaMichelle]

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU 👏👏👏 2024 is going to be the year of big big things for Sarah and Tobi 😊

[@SarahShamblin]

BIG BIG FOR US!!

[@jeffhouse2031]

Loneliness reflects the sadness of being alone. Solitude reflects one's strength in choosing to be alone.

[@SarahShamblin]

Oooh, I like that!

[@sundaychamberlain228]

You should go to schooliepolooza in Arizona

[@SarahShamblin]

I won’t be attending, but my podcast co-host will be there performing! Say hi to Marti Marti for me!

[@chrishiking8818]

Wishing you both all the best in 2024. Take care both🌷

[@gwstrauss65]

Somehow stumbled on your q and a video, then went back and binge watched your videos. Maybe it's the adhd style that keeps my interests or the simplicity of your lifestyle. Keep up the great job. Actually just here for Tobi

[@SarahShamblin]

Yay, happy you’re here 🫶

[@RonnyWesterlund]

I have been writing to your several times and I love your videos. I also have adhd and knows exactly what you describe. People use to say "You are so lonley",,,, No Im not lonley, I am by myself... Take good care... You are an angel... Ron/Sweden

[@SarahShamblin]

You’re not lonely, you’re with yourself 🤍

[@RonnyWesterlund]

My english is bad but you understand what I meant. When I go for a roadtrip or kajaktrip, people use to say "It must be lonley without company. No its not, Im not lonley, Im by myself. Hope you soon post a new video, your videos makes me happy 😃🥰@@SarahShamblin

[@Dan-LS]

Have time alone feels good, you not alone in that. You have so much beautiful positive energy around you. 🎉✌🏻 ❤

[@TimothyWard]

I totally understand that feeling of 'where do I need to go?' or 'what do I need to do?. I find myself asking myself those questions every couple of weeks lol. I think it comes from having so many options. When you can go almost anywhere and do any myriad of things, how do you figure out what's the right choice? Great video! Subbed.

[@SarahShamblin]

That’s spot on! There’s so much to do, see, smell, taste 😅 where do we even start! Thank you, new friend, welcome to the channel 😁

[@jimbopeebles8210]

Love happy Sarah ❤️

[@espnmk]

Hi Sarah glad to see you back and HAPPY NEW YEARS! I thrive on being alone i love it and all that nonsense but that's me in nutshell as long as you can be real with yourself that's all that matters. The way i see it Sarah your ahead of the game you explore the country as a solo FEMALE van-lifer that says a lot, How many other solos can say that not many. Plus you have Toby he's like the other 60% of the party, lol. Thanks for sharing and happy trails...

[@HorizonsleatherBlogspot2012]

You look great, Sarah, Wishing you the best, stay safe and have fun!

[@SarahShamblin]

Thank you! You too!

[@Martyecho]

Thanks!

[@ronweenk]

Sarah, you and tobi toes belong out on the road. What you said about being alone versus lonely was spot on . I'm an huge introvert as well and I've felt Everything you said .

[@robertboyd4656]

It's because you are a strong independent individual plain and simple nice to see you on again :)

[@SarahShamblin]

That’s right!

[@wardhuff5683]

Sarah and Tobie are an awesome travel team.

[@SarahShamblin]

Heck yes we are 🫶

[@EdwardHolliday-d6s]

Nice to see your beautiful face again,and of course Toby.and your real person ,.......personality ❤😊

[@dogtorphil]

I'm at Santa Fe if you need a place to park and dump and fill. 🤙✌️

[@pamelataylor412]

Have a great 2024, Sarah❣️

[@SarahShamblin]

Thanks, Pamela 💜

[@scottfast03]

Love this. I’m the same way. I disappear in my van for weeks at a time and over Holidays and I think my family and friends think I’m weird. It’s fine. 😂 I’m grateful I’m good with being alone and don’t give in to the pressures of society or my family.

[@dogtorphil]

Welcome to SD✌️ Try Aquarius bar and grill Sunday. Across the street is a party ! Noon through 420🫠😶‍🌫️ I am down for buying dinner. P

[@zephaniahmarion]

.. so like if you come prospecting for gold what I would need help with is filling the bucket up with dirt so that every time I walked this sluicebox and dump the bucket when I come back the bucket is full already so I don't have to fill it, that would help substantially... I'm on East fork of the San Gabriel you'll see my car

[@ceb7894]

If you are ever in Arkansas ….. we can have coffee… 😆 luv your channel and your life. ❤❤

[@JohnSaxon-vw5vi]

Prayers and and blessings for you Sarah and the beautiful Toby and also sending my love to the amazing and wonderful person Corina hopefully Sarah is keeping her van clean Corina lol 😂 😂😂😂😂

[@SarahShamblin]

Don’t tell her I’m not 😅 I’m trying here!

[@aaronriedel5372]

Good video!

[@robertboyd4656]

Yes puppy makes it worth it as well :)

[@gregwilson3395]

Glad you enjoyed your holidays. We missed you. On to the next. Have fun out there!

[@SarahShamblin]

Once I’m on the road again I plan on posting more frequently again!

[@jasonjones5213]

So inspirational, I love being alone.Never feel lonely.The podcast was awesome too.

[@SarahShamblin]

Thank you 💜🫶

[@-RONNIE]

I hope you & Tobi have a great 2024 also good luck with the job hunt 👍🏻

[@SarahShamblin]

Thank you!!

[@-RONNIE]

@@SarahShamblin enjoy the rest of your week

[@akisenv]

happy new year! i agree so so much with your inside about choosing loneliness!

[@timrodatz1274]

You could get into gem hunting etc for fun if find good gems seen them too make money, say fur example Arkansas has a few places to go out and get crystals etc

[@bbyodakb]

Tajin!!!

[@robertpresha9504]

Good for you Sarah 👍. And you are never alone there are always good people thinking about you. And I love Toby for being a protector of you.I love being alone at this point in my life I have been there and done that.And I will keep following you on u-tub. Stay safe.😊.It would be cool to run into you in person. You never know how life turns out.

[@SarahShamblin]

I’m currently sitting in a waiting room getting my oil changed and Tobi won’t let anyone sit near me. Needless to say, he is very protective 😆

[@robertpresha9504]

Love it 😅

[@nickschultz3259]

At the korean market look for Jayone brand canned kimchi (they also make the popular brand of soybean and chili pastes). You may turn your nose up at canned kimchi, but that'd be a mistake. They have different ones, but the one I get is "stir fried kimchi", it comes in a smallish can about the size of green chilies or something, and it's the perfect amount for one cup of rice. you can get a side of rice from your favorite takeout place or make it fresh then just dump it in the pan and heat it up, add some frozen peas and diced tofu or whatever you like, and you've got a perfectly seasoned kimchi rice dish. It's canned so obviously it keeps forever, and it's really quick and convenient and yummy.

[@SarahShamblin]

Ooooh, I’ve actually never heard of canned kimchi. Does that mean it doesn’t have to be refrigerated? This could be a game changer.

[@nickschultz3259]

@@SarahShamblin No refrigeration needed unless you open the can, but the cans are small enough (5 oz. I think) that you'll finish it off in one go. I also use it to fancy up my instant ramen (Shin Ramyen), along with green onions and what not. Look for that "stir fried kimchi" one, it's very good.

[@bobs1648]

Sarah, as a fellow introvert, getting away from California should be job #1 for improving your mental status. Too many people in an area would drive me insane, then again my issues are PTSD driven not so much ADHD.😁👍 Compound that with most of them being idiots and forget about it... Anyway, hope you and Tobi are doing well. As always, BIG HUGS and much❤from East Tennessee!

[@SarahShamblin]

Omg, you would have hated shopping at Trader Joe’s today.. literal cart traffic jams in every isle 😑

[@bobs1648]

@@SarahShamblin I would have made the news for sure... 🤣

[@richarddennis1453]

Happy New Year

[@marcialovejoy9926]

Not everyone likes to be alone. You have Toby and you are not alone. Animals give us a reason . I so agree with you as far as friends. As I am getting older I make the choice of who I want as a friend.

[@SarahShamblin]

You are totally right! Extroverts thrive being around people… this introvert not so much 😅

[@evelynlobos1354]

Hey Sarah why not buy the kimchi in a bag and put it in a jar that you have washed after emptying one you have already used? That way you can keep it in your fridge and use as you need?

[@SarahShamblin]

That is a good idea… the bagged kimchi is superior

[@-Star-Soul]

One day you will look back at the time you did this in your life. Memories are what define the inner self because only you can remember. When life gets stuck in repeat, then its time to make new memories. These are the seasons of life. What season do you find yourself in? Which memories do you save for yourself alone? Do you ever feel like you need someone close to make intimate memories? Time is the thread that keeps us all stitched together. ❤

[@SarahShamblin]

Love this 🫶

[@ScoopGirl]

would love to see what you do for a job. i've been doing retail for over 22 years now and my inflammation arthritis doesnt want to do it anymore. i really want a remote job at home.

[@SarahShamblin]

Working remote I’ll usually take an data analyst or project coordinator job. So if I can land one, I’ll let y’all know!

[@ScoopGirl]

@SarahShamblin awesome definitely and thank you I've been looking for data jobs in Michigan but not sure where to look for remote

[@sherryreinhardt3845]

Love their yogurt

[@Gabesaiz]

Hello beautiful happy NEW YEAR🎉😊

[@premadimauro2691]

What was the powder u put all over the yogurt dish, it went to fast to catch it . Thanks

[@SarahShamblin]

Tajin! 🤤

[@the_dingo_show]

Some folks go their whole lives not learning these things about themselves. I hope you can find work that complements your lifestyle.

[@SarahShamblin]

Thank you, i hope I do too 🤞

[@ExploringTheUnknown1]

Yeah buddy

[@thetinkercook5430]

Love Kimchi! Lived in Seoul for a while, and I had it with every meal. Full of good gut microbes. I would encourage you to migrate to goat yogurt and other milk products. Healthier benefits. Thank you

[@SarahShamblin]

Thanks for the tips!

[@greatcesarsghost]

Those GIANT strawberries are thanks too Miracle GROW I had a neighbor who loved gardening and she used one table spool of Miracle grow on her strawberries .and she had strawberries the size of tangerines and lemons the size of Sunkist oranges .. I remember the first time I saw a lemon .. I said hey never seen a yellow orange before she said its not a orange it's a lemon I'm like 😮 really ?? .. took one home my mom said you picked the orange to early I said no it's lemon she said what 😮!! I said yeah . I worked at a OSH and had lots of customers who bought just miracle grow products .. sorry back to home story . We cut the lemon open yeah it's a lemon 😝 . So that's the story of my GIANT lemon .. tell your friends ...

[@REGGIEKING9999]

New Subscriber

[@SarahShamblin]

Welcome new friend 🙏💜

[@dizzydean8689]

Love kimchi

[@Toddster11111]

PS. I am 56. I am so glad to figured it out at 31.

[@MOTrav]

Does Toby ever ask WTH is going on? You’re never alone with Toby around. Dogs rule! 😎

[@SarahShamblin]

Very frequently 😅

[@RockstarWrecker]

There's not many foods that I don't like, but you happened to eat 3 of them. Add pancakes (unless they're IHOP pancakes) and you would have had all of them. Yogurt, pineapple, and kimchi. Yucky! Lol.

[@SarahShamblin]

Hahah what are the odds of that 😂🤣

[@SarahShamblin]

Also, I had pancakes for dinner last night 😅

[@RockstarWrecker]

@@SarahShamblin lol

[@celestinejewel]

So how much does solo Van life cost? Approx. Would be great 😃

[@SarahShamblin]

Oh gosh, that’s going to depend deeply on how you want to live the van life. It could be the same amount of expenses as living in an apartment, or cheaper.

[@JohnSmith-fx4se]

Do you use an editor?

[@SarahShamblin]

I edit all my own videos with Final Cut Pro ☺️

[@CrustyClad]

Come to South Tx and I’ll teach ya how to find gold and silver jewelry on the beaches metal detecting. Get good at it and ya might not need a “job”. My buddy that hunts basically full time cleared 30k in 4 months.

[@richardross3172]

Had a buddy, Richard Shamblin, from Oklahoma. Retired to Moses Lake Washington. You have his smile. Any relation?

[@SarahShamblin]

Ooh, I’m not sure. My dad is from Oklahoma, so… maybe 🤷‍♀️

[@moirabaines3848]

I love watching your videos I hope you find a job uk Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@SarahShamblin]

Thank you!! I hope I do too 🤞

[@Super23_Super23]

Asian market...kimchi and butane

[@SarahShamblin]

Hahah, yes! I know this now. Asian stores also have some of the cheapest produce

[@zephaniahmarion]

Come to Azusa and prospect homeizzil

[@leslieservantofgod8601]

Very cool thanks for sharing I understand completely and I live the same way I just don't really I don't know the word for it but me and people I just don't feel I belong in today's society at all and it's tough to find even one person I haven't even found one person to get along with I've been a loner and offered for a long time but I have my angels archangels Jesus and God they are all with me always all the time I did miss you and I project to you unconditional Divine healing love and abundance be well and in good spirits🙋😎💕♾️

[@SarahShamblin]

The thing is, so many people feel the same way as you. In fact, I’ve seen comments in videos of mine saying similar things as you. Y’all are out there, you just need to find each other! There are Facebook groups to help you make friends too. Just starting being in places, and doing things you like doing, and at the same time start going to new places and trying new hobbies 🫶

[@TheAbandonedAccount7]

I've been alone without feeling lonely for 6 years now lol

[@SarahShamblin]

Hell yah 🙌

[@jacobiejacobs8668]

So close but yet so far away your in San Diego I'm in Newport Beach and if you're passing through I'd make ya lunch. Probably pizza because who doesn't like pizza. I'm also alone and I absolutely love it. actually I'm doing it right now. Toby toes and boa would've had a good time.

[@Martyecho]

Sarah We need to collaborate. I am just getting started as you can see but this Tuesday January 23Rd 2024 I have a friend who is a film maker and he found me through some high school friends , but we will be producing cinematic videos from here on out and my editor is a guy from Netflix WOW! How the heck did find me ? I'll tell sometime. ok I will keep watching you and your friends to learn new ideas . See Ya . Oh I did leave ya a few $ I hope it helps a little bit. Bye Marty Guarneros

[@crunkin1t590]

👽🤟🏽☮️

[@rodsterjeep]

What's your ethnicity? Cause you like kimchi

[@SarahShamblin]

My mom from the Philippines, and my dad is from Oklahoma.

[@rodsterjeep]

Filipina that's why you're beautiful 😍

[@LifeWithLeMaige]

lol the yogurt feet thing….

[@SarahShamblin]

So gross 😅

[@JohnSmith-fx4se]

Okay, I don’t know how to ask this in modern America, but…..is your family’s lineage from/descending of Korea or another Asian/ Pacific Islander country? White people version of….where you from? Clearly born in Uhmerica, but you get my question.

[@SarahShamblin]

My mom is from the Philippines and my dad is from Oklahoma! I’m 50% Filipina, and 50% Uhmericannnn 🤠

[@jim6070]

How to make a bed in a van with a dog on it 101.

[@SarahShamblin]

😂🤣

[@jayjordane50th]

So your alone to find yourself? Can you do caregiving? Although that might require a residence. I know I myself have been alone all my adult life, I didn't do the marriage thing due to my excluded life. Moreover I'm still alone. I've been through counseling more than once. I have trouble with others as much as you. I don't think I have ADHD and my diagnosis that followed me here and wherever I went, no one would re-diagnose. So I'm alone due to B.S. in my youth or acting out in my youth, let's just leave that as that. At times it has been wrenching. So why did you become alone?

[@TheAbandonedAccount7]

uhh... cant say ive ever heard of someone eating yogurt and fruit with chili pepper seasoning. Thats uh... interesting....

[@SarahShamblin]

It’s soo gooooood! Tajin is addicting

[@KaeTracks]

Jesus is the truth and the way and the life. Us human could never be please of the things of this world. We always want want want which is why we’re never satisfied. God is the piece of that void deep inside.

[@robertboyd4656]

Find a hobby you like

[@robertpresha9504]

And anyone rejecting you would probably be one of the dumbest people on the planet. 😅😂.A beautiful intelligent woman with a free spirit. That is what dreams are made of.😊

[@chadg75]

Drive to New England, the north east.

[@ShamimJahuri]

Sarah..super lady,i am super interested,you my light,just wait.shamim ⚘💞🤍🌹🎯💋❗🤰🤱👨‍👩‍👧‍👦