How I Used a Bathtub to Be More Confident

[@islandgirl75]

I didn't realize that a style channel would make me feel good about myself - you're just good vibes, dude! Thanks so much.

[@thomasp3360]

Strange, perhaps, but I find I've had a major confidence boost from watching Parker York Smith videos. Not so strange?

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Best compliment! Thanks

[@JacquotMarshall]

I’m with you! It inspires me to get creative with the clothes I’ve got, and have some fun with my wardrobe!

[@killervanilla3987]

Taking the time to dress up a little, even if I'm not leaving the house, has definitely helped me through some rough patches of depression. I used to take selfies every day just for myself to record when I had that little boost. It helped!

[@chasemman]

The idea of a “confidence checklist” is a really interesting idea. Even on my good days where I’m really productive, I somehow find a way to talk down to myself. Having a list of “feel good” actions to strive for and remind yourself that you’re doing good is something that I can’t say I’ve tried personally. Great idea, I’m gonna try it out

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

It worked well for me

[@calebwilliams8727]

​@@ParkerYorkSmith Will you please do a collab with Brian Shaw and Alex Eubank?

[@ayuahjain2055]

@ParkerYorkSmith can you please make a short on Plain t shirt 👕 which are essential for a men and plain palnts asweell​@@ParkerYorkSmith

[@niccidahl5811]

I’m a 61 year old kindergarten teacher and I really enjoy all that you share and you make me smile! Thank you for sharing you. :)

[@robdavies4294]

I'm 38 and always struggled getting interested in clothes and basically disengaged, partly because it was tough to find style I genuinely liked, so I gave up, thinking, fashion isn't for me. This video made me realise that makes clothes can be a confidence drainer too if this is the attitude. I recently discovered this channel and it's given me a real boost in the arm to keep trying to find my style gradually through experimentation. I've started from minimalist tonal. Gradually upping the formal looks from casual and that's been fun. It's really great to find an item, small or large, that you genuinely like and it does boost confidence. A big thanks to Parker for facilitating this revelation - I'm most grateful for you sharing your passion and skill, keep up the good work.

[@kimberlycostello3198]

I love this, Parker! I'm a stylist in a little boutique. Clothing is my armor. Taking the time to put yourself together for the day is so transformational! Get up, dress up, show up, & never give up!

[@Recno00]

Even me as a guy whenever i see your videos ,I smile ,you have pleasant vibe and a gentleman guy💫

[@MsShellectable]

I'm a 73-year-old woman and I found this to be a very useful, insightful video. I'm recovering from the effects of a hip replacement that left me not getting great exercise (pt was hard for me to be consistent with. That's just me) and also being isolated, due to weather and recurring Covid spikes. This video offers a good gauge for keeping confidence afloat. I also add meditation for lifting and smoothing my moods.

[@avinashwar]

Are you rich?

[@moanahopkins713]

Thank you for recommending talking to a therapist for boosting self confidence. I've been struggling lately, and your comments about other lifes issues were spot on. You're the best, i love your enthusiasm and positivity. And your fun styles with dressing. 😊

[@Amber24426]

Thank you for making this! I’m not all the way through the video yet, but as someone who desperately needs to work on my own self-confidence, I deeply appreciate your willingness to share something that has had a significant impact on your own life 🙂

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Yeah totally! It’s worked well for me

[@fourmacs8167]

I’m just finishing 18 months of trauma therapy and I find my confidence waning. I’m sure some of it’s normal after ending such a long journey but, I worry about slipping way backwards. I suppose that’s normal as well. Anyway, the bathtub analogy is very helpful! Thanks for sharing it and for giving examples. 🙏

[@cassvanessa5]

You are what every content creator should aspire to be like. This was wonderful, thank you 🙏

[@Ravenpicks]

I love this guy. He is relaxing. He seems smart. Thanks.

[@trevorrobinsonjones4371]

Love this Parker. Thank you for sharing! Very helpful analogy to reframe some of the thinking around confidence.

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Totally - thanks for watching

[@MidnightPavilion94]

Something I started doing is going from a goal checklist to a done checklist. List the good things you did each day (even the little or fun things). It takes less than 5 minutes each day and if you keep the log you see how much you’re achieving each day and it helps keep a better track of positivity/productivity.

[@kimosk2775]

Your content is really awesome and helped me discover more fashion and more style than I knew I wanna thank you for this, keep up your awesome content. Love it

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

So great thank you

[@arturduchene]

I have followed your dressing and grooming tips for some time. This one came as a bit of a surprise albeit greatly welcomed. Thank you, good sir, for sharing this insight. Very informative and illuminating.

[@marisalabonte4121]

Watching your videos Parker always puts me in a good mood. Thank you on sharing your stylings and sensibilities. This gal appreciates it!

[@Andycontrer]

I’m currently going through a time where I am reaching out to my inner self so I’m very glad you posted this video. It’s helpful.

[@Ashlord]

Man, you're awesome! Confidence is something I always struggle with, so this hit perfectly. As for the BetterHelp sponsorship, they've been called out for selling sensitive user data, so I would refrain from promoting them 😅 Still a great video!

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Thanks for watching

[@cbalian]

Just watching your videos is a great help to take a break and get out of my head. I've never heard of this "bathtub method" but the analogy really makes sense. Thank you for sharing. Definitely great tips that are relatable to most humans. For me I'm my own worst critic. I hold myself to way higher standards than anyone around me expects. High standards aren't bad, but as a perfectionist it IS impossible to truly meet them all perfectly.

[@ScottKilmartin]

Great video Parker... never heard of this analogy before. Very apt.

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

For sure! Thanks

[@indiahawkins4559]

I'm not only subbed for your tips (Which I really do want to take on board, and thinking of getting a neutrual all white G-Shock watch which can go with like, anything.), but I also subbed for you positivity. You seem so deadset on people being themselves, and knowing how to find fits for people who are on a budget it's great. Sorry to ramble for so long lol

[@pamelagood8077]

What a lovely metaphor that is easy to visualize. So grateful I found your channel. What a beautiful family!

[@MsTwissy]

1:20 crawling person spotted 😂 threw me right back to those zoom business meetings at home back in 2020

[@maureen14]

I think that's their dog.

[@MsTwissy]

@@maureen14 ah you’re right. How boring

[@PokhrajRoy.]

5:32 Omg I do this too! I love planning my outfits.

[@yolainehalljeanphillipe6311]

Elegant and sympathic...Congratulations!!!❤

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

So nice thanks

[@JNMKlover]

Love this content. Love the openness. Love the sobriety journey. Love the dedication to family. Love content creators that put out quality. For free! Love them to get paid. Love them promoting human health and wellness. No sleaziness or diets, or MLM. Parker is all the ✅ boxes. Better Help...use ur own research to see if it is good for u. Therapy is a lifesaver. Not all therapists r. Better Help has two areas that have many negative complaints. Frequently cancelled and rescheduled appointments by therapists and not the full 50 minutes that u pay for. Again, not being a hater, just a person very familiar with mental health ❤

[@jenniferlawrence9598]

Great advice. A little disappointed that the bathtub method doesn't actually involve a nice bath. (I love baths!)

[@MUSQUIZanimation]

It surreal watching a video from you. I’m just used to watching your shorts since I subscribed.

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Yes! One of these days I’ll do long again

[@matthewtheuret8215]

Brother, you are a force for good. Thanks for helping us fellas that excel at a lot of things, but style isnt one of them.

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Absolutely thanks

[@janephillips9934]

Thanks Parker....good talk ❤

[@ellenradford8582]

Thank you! I needed that

[@salannegrant6967]

I mentioned confidence in a conversation today and my phone heard and brought me to you, love your vids, Parker! ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉 Cool analogy! I use posture movements to keep the confidence level up and in balance. And a big yes to your wardrobe!

[@mstery23]

Love you channel! I have been binge watching your videos. Your style is awesome and you are helping me find what I like, and not wear what I think other people want me to wear. Thank you so much.

[@halfcastify]

AI Summary: The video is about how to boost your confidence. In the video, Parker York Smith uses a bathtub metaphor to illustrate his idea. The water in the tub represents your confidence level, and the drain and faucet represent things that drain or boost your confidence. Here are some ways to drain your confidence according to the video: Negative self-talk: For example, Parker says that he gets down on himself if he is not meeting certain levels of content output. Not keeping your body moving: Parker says that if he is stagnant and sitting around too much, it starts to affect his confidence mentally. Negativity from outside sources: This could include bullies, negativity from people around you, or even negative comments online. Here are some ways to boost your confidence according to the video: Activity: Parker says that he tries to be intentional about moving his body every single day. Therapy: Parker says that he is a user of BetterHelp and that it has really benefited him. Having fun with your style: According to Parker, when he can play around and have fun with his style, it allows him to feel really good in his body and feel really confident. Spending quality time with friends and family: Parker says that spending quality time with the people he loves allows him to feel more confident.

[@marciamusiak7659]

Parker, thank you for a very thoughtful video.

[@mitchybooooy]

Funny I should watch this now, so I’ve had a pretty crappy couple of years and my confidence is at an all time low, I’m fat, I’m lazy and I’ve created this myself.. however that’s not the recent issue, my support network are amazing and they help me in more ways than I could possibly imagine HOWEVER I was spending all my time with them and I felt like I was starting to bring them down so I’ve just entered into a self help state of mind.. I’m not isolating myself but I am changing things to not rely on other people so much, I basically need to give them some rest bite from my rubbish and actually try and help myself

[@samiscebba4332]

You're a gem.

[@user-pb2jp5sg8c]

Just discovered this guy. Shared this channel with my 3 sons.

[@scottzvidzo5564]

Great analogy Parker and nothing more to say , just happy to be here man.

[@welder062]

Many comments. I really dig the analogy. It definitely applies. Breaking it down like that really offers some perspective about each and every piece of the puzzle you are un-boxing. This is about the 3rd thing that has made a random appearance in my life today. I had an epiphany earlier this morning. Found your Dinero from Casino video after that. I had to comment on that as well by the way. And now the bathtub analogy. C,mon man..... Well done.

[@lukedisney2756]

In one of your shorts can you style a leather jacket I have one but I don't really know how to style it. I love your videos btw you've been such a big inspiration for my style

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Yeah for sure

[@Sabitar1]

Petition to get a hair styling routine/tutorial 🤔

[@pawz212]

wow, finally another long form video!

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

I know I suck at putting them out haha sorry

[@fthurman]

@@ParkerYorkSmith bah nono, don't negative sellf-talk - flip it: you're such a well-loved content creator that folks are excited about when you do upload more long form videos! It's a positive; take the compliment, Parker!

[@stephenfermoyle4578]

PARKER ROCKS he makes you want to dress better AND THE HAIR ROCKS

[@james.beesley]

Thank you for the Video! ❤

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Thanks for watching

[@nathannebraska2408]

Thanks for sharing. Great content

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Appreciate it

[@1CaptainLaw]

I love a good workout and a good activity just as much as the next person, but I just learned a couple days ago that running on concrete, especially downhill on concrete can actually affect your knees and cause them to. I guess hurt more if you will so I like I said love activities love sports love exercise have a very fit Body, but be careful whenever you’re running up and down on concrete.

[@Anthony-Playzz]

This really helped thank you

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

So glad

[@LukeTyler-jr3nn]

Hey Parker, huge fan of the videos! I am looking for some advice on a prom outfit, the theme is Cloud 9 and my date is wearing a black dress with a white bow. What're your thoughts on what I should wear? Thank you!!

[@SandiKnowler]

Good for you thanks Parker, I will try it.😊

[@sfernando04]

Thanks for these videos ❤

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Glad you like it

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Nice to see a new video at last! Your Shorts are awesome and I LOVED the series on Scooby-Doo.

[@Brandon-mc1ml]

I’ve been waiting for you to make longer videos

[@robuser9812]

Thanks Parker! Question. What brand is the curved hem white tee you wear?

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Buck Mason

[@lynnemacinnes1502]

Great use of bathtub. I get it.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

What do you think goes by faster? Shooting a longer video or batch shooting YT shorts?

[@bluepascua9448]

Do outfits inspired by Disney princes: Aladdin, prince philip, Prince Charming, etc!!

[@nelly5954]

Hey Parker, my mountaineering club's annual dinner is this weekend- the dress code is "half outdoor, half formal". Could you style me an outfit?

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Oh interesting. Maybe shirt and tie with a blazer up top and some cargos or whatever pants and boots you wear on bottom?

[@nelly5954]

That's more or less my thinking, maybe with an OCBD to blend the trousers and blazer a bit better. I'll need to test it out. Also considering using a buff as a cravat...

[@evelynsaungikar3553]

My bathtub drain is clogged at the moment, this vid makes me wonder whether I should unblock it 😂

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Haha fair

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Negative comments? We can’t have that!

[@Pozzy]

Hey completely off topic, but what was the type of brown shirt you were wearing during the video? Brand? I want to pick up a few of these for spring/summer

[@frankcarrillo190]

Thank you. I appreciate your content.

[@terrybear5398]

What a Great video! Thanks!

[@Dominic7449]

He finally uploaded

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

I know rigjt

[@Dominic7449]

@@ParkerYorkSmith I thought you died :(

[@0638]

finally you're back!

[@Lutzgohome]

This is a great idea!

[@marsrecordings]

He’s back

[@IeshaWaysJones]

Thank you for sharing!

[@raraavis7782]

And there I was thinking, you were going to tell men, how good hygiene makes you more confident 😂

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Haha well it certainly helps

[@Pshpshpshpshpshpshpsh]

Something my therapist says is the negative talks and even negative self talks can really affect us. Even if it isn’t current and is from our childhood. Some advice he gave was to drain your energy to not allow your mind to wander, increase positive self talk and words of affirmation, and even surround yourself with positive and supportive friends and colleagues. Man you hit the nail on all of this! I’m so glad I found your long form videos

[@craftsbeautyandlife5163]

Oh Parker...you are the best looking man on KZbin...turn your facet on full force. ❤

[@cbazxy2697]

Better help sponsorship? Was any research done before promoting them?

[@peanutbutrs]

I was looking for this comment. I'm really glad to see people promoting therapy, especially men, but not a company that has a long past exploiting patients and practitioners.

[@Clear256]

Great advice

[@Dominic7449]

Can you style dunks and air forces

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Don’t have any forces and I have one super old pair of dunks

[@Dominic7449]

@@ParkerYorkSmith you don’t like air forces/dunks? buy the Kentucky or the panda dunks and style them

[@TheSeji]

Your wife is very lucky! You're amazing.

[@Onlyjohnsbowlingclub]

What would you wear to the Super Bowl?

[@treydornn8835]

lovely vid

[@renukristin1976]

Are you naturally Grey og is it color?

[@cornSliceBreadDoesIt_pffft]

Hello there,i have just started getting your videos and i cannt believe it hasnt been in my feed till now....am so happy and motivated to find a solution to my current ordeal(let me just put out there the absolute fact of how you dress to the point while bring out the artistic beauty you have,welldone)....now my boyfriend have been wanting my controbution on how he dresses because he feels it brings us closer and well he says "i dress for you but the way i dress isnt to your enjoyment and i want to you to pick my clothes so i can compliment you dress wise" let me point out his clothes are pretty expensive but verry......how do i say this? verry 2024ish on a 24 year old when infact he is almost 30,also he doesnt have a particular taste and just throws things on,dont get me wrong that man is lava hot in a potato sack but i want to encourage his awareness and need to experiment and live up to his age and the people in his life....sooooooo,can you please find a way you can do dressing styles for dark darker skin tonned men? Both of you have simmilar build except that he is a light chocolate shade....looking forward to this,take it as a challange if you will,your fellow brothers of african decent await you,goodsir.

[@ayuahjain2055]

@ParkerYorkSmith can you please make a short on Plain t shirt 👕 which are essential for a men and plain palnts asweell

[@thomascherry8155]

How about a country tweed look

[@The3318]

Adorable.

[@MonirulIslam-fc5lv]

Betterhelp!!?? 😳

[@MacDaddy635]

Can you do video on 1940s suits

[@nathanherr1473]

Great video, but considering that you are filming in a white room with lots of light, maybe use blank on-screen text in the future?

[@VivHolloway]

I enjoy your posts,you have an attractive accent, where are you from ? 😊 (I'm a retired person from the 🇬🇧.

[@ryangraham7012]

Lack of any confidence whatsoever has truly ruined my life thus far but I keep fighting everday…..

[@ИльяРыженко-п2ъ]

Лучше бы ты рассказывал о том как именно моешься, а не про психологию

[@mcanpimuuu]

I'm here for the shirtless workout snippets 👀

[@Danielscuriosity2]

are you telling me to go take a bath? because i got a bath in my house, its portable too

[@s.b.sieber2007]

I thought you were going to take a bath, lol.

[@justind9019]

Then I’m basically a walk-in shower

[@plujllap2200]

how is his skin as smooth as baby's bum? ... phenomenal

[@moonlightfitz]

🤨

[@banglevision8207]

Hey a notification

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

Wooooo about time

[@13blackcatzzz]

Why do I find it hard to believe you've ever lacked confidence?

[@ParkerYorkSmith]

I get that but it’s been a long road of working hard at it

[@svtime5541]

The therapy plug was terrible and you know it. Do better.