How Important is ROMANCE in a Relationship?

Hey peeps! Today Dan and Felicia take the love language quiz and discuss what they think about modern romance and how important it is/should be in a relationship. Take the test! What did you get?!
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[@xueyingli6034]

It's so interesting to hear you two talk about topics related to love and relationships even though I'll never be in one.

[@xueyingli6034]

BigBrotherPinkie AWH thank you and congrats on your marriage!!

[@BurgerwithPeanutButter]

Romance, to me, is being there for someone no matter what...showing them they're the only one you want, even when they feel the most unlovable. It's not infatuation, or something you do over infatuation. It's something that persists. The way you hold someone; the way you look at them like they're the only thing you see. And gifts CAN convey romance, if it's done in the right way. It's not about impressing them; it doesn't have to be some grand display (unless you want to.) It's...random gifts, even after being together for 10 years. It can be flowers. It can be cards. Any small thing, just doing something nice because you want to. Because you love them. It can be opening the door for someone, or sending a random text in the middle of the day to say you're thinking about them. It's...small things (or big things, if that's your style, but not necessary) to show someone is important to you. Romance can be anything if it's done in a way to show your partner you love them; it's all the things you do to express that. Not infatuation. Real love.

[@rogerfaint499]

I told my (then) girlfriend that I had nothing to give but a lifetime of love, care and joy. She married me straight away without hesitation. *I was very poor then but very rich now*

[@charlesrusso7646]

So true

[@williamgomez1521]

"hey bitch I brought you flowers"

[@Ze-Germanzuk]

Anderson Sanchez The words of a poet.

[@Theasiankiddo]

He's lucky she wasn't the type to throw out letters after she had read them.

[@lukjad007]

People don't usually toss handwritten love letters.

[@cafezo87934]

Luke Trust I did lol I lost everything o well.

[@luciangrayson2517]

I know it's kinda off topic but do anyone know a good website to stream newly released series online ?

[@edwardbronson1101]

@Lucian Grayson I would suggest flixzone. Just search on google for it =)

[@vancebrennan7668]

@Lucian Grayson Lately I have been using flixzone. Just google for it :)

[@smileywolf]

The Five Love Languages you discussed is a series of books & a theory by Gary Chapman. It is an excellent tool for every couple and individual. It is so important to be able to first understand how you experience and express love; & second understand and adapt to how your significant other experiences and express love. I love the way you guys define and talk about expressing romance. to me that's practice romance. The societal understanding of romance, the kinda of things you see in rom-coms is unrealistic and unsustainable. My husband and I will be married for 11 years next month & together 16.5. we went through The Five Love Languages at the beginning of our marriage and it set a great foundation and tone for knowing how to communicate love to each other and how to best communicate in general. Some of the most important things in any relationship is open & honest communication, compromise, and working at "fighting fairly" when there's an argument and disagreement. Because believe it or not, there are ways to resolve arguments that bring you closer together instead of teasing you apart. John Gottman's work in understanding the psychology of relationships and what makes for successful long term relationships is some of the best. His research has found that the most successful and longest lasting couples have a 5:1 ratio of positive: negative interactions.

[@woooohooooayo]

That sweater is on point.

[@priyankanaidu132]

Thank you for your insights and completely agree with what you both said. Takecare

[@905shooter]

I love Felicia

[@Hrairoo555]

"Ying and Yang". That's awesome! Miss Yi on these videos

[@fredericasteller7280]

From my bad experiences, I seem to be in class of the rule; not the exception! I've only had three truly romantic relationships in my life; a long, long time ago!

[@geema2281]

i think love languages can make or break a relationship. you don't have to have the same, but you need to be aware of theirs and able to speak their language and they yours. and the other way, they need to also understand yours and you theirs.

[@joanaefuaaggrey-fynn2154]

I love these two!

[@fredericasteller7280]

Very interesting viewpoint, in a good way!

[@lubnamanso]

Yh go Felicia.... I guess Act of service is important for me too. So probably first in my list. You know what they say. 'Actions speak louder than words.' 😊

[@dickyharlim2026]

I thinks it is the matter of instinct of acting certain way towards comforting our partner.. romantic can not be forced or planned in a long time to show a certain gesture, it will seem not sincere

[@JoyGilmore]

Who else thinks Dan is so cute!?!!?

[@maranatha8148]

He sounds so sweet. She's lucky!

[@axosrain4825]

Quality time Acts of service Physical touch Receiving gifts Words of affirmation

[@axosrain4825]

I love words of affirmation though.

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

Lets get serious here. Romance and sex go together. 150 million copies of 50 Shades of Grey can't be wrong. Your right about romance being a fundamental component of strong and beautiful relationship. Gifts are somewhat superficial, that are kinda of an aftereffect. Hey when the sex dies, so does the relationship. After sex it's momentum, obligations, convenience and momentum that keep things it going. Low maintenance = boring! You never fully know somebody. Innovation will keep the romance going. Sex is NEVER mentioned here!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@madison6401]

I love you guys so much 😊

[@lifetobelived9102]

After having a rough time of it in my marriage I would relish a peaceful almost boring just hanging out without the all the "romance" relationship because at the end of the day it is more about how we get along when things are mundane or stressful. I joke but it is sort of true when I say a boring guy would be ok with me. I don't mean mind numbing boring but just calm.

[@cafezo87934]

it's important. just because a married couple or couple that's been together for decades, doesn't mean they don't need romance. even a simple thank you would suffice. people work too hard nowadays, they need a reminder what made them chose their significant other in the first place and their SO needs to know. keep the relationship fresh and alive.

[@nexusofboredom]

So... He took three years to propose.. ? Good thing they stayed together that long. Lol Girl : " we've been together for two years.. When are you going to make a commitment ? " Tim: " one more year " ... Girl : " what do you mean ? Why one more year ? " oo Tim: " working on it... One more year ." :D

[@add1cc]

VERY IMPORTANT.......

[@MrSanktjakob]

Good video!

[@Ezero8]

Oh hey, my love language test results are in the same order as Felicia's!

[@Johanneslol11]

xD i did the test to, I got a 1 of recieving gifts lol. :) I agree with you two there is nothing better then quality time ! :) I scored a 11 on that.

[@Stef_phanie]

hair looking good Dan

[@TheZeldaforce]

I just did my test, and it was the same as Dan's haha

[@chi_kin997]

You guys need to read the book to fully understand

[@fredericasteller7280]

What do you feel about FB messenger "love" relationships! He plays on a woman's emotions; then, springs on some dark, and money-motivated request large amount of money, which she can't financially able to follow thru on! Yet, if she doesn't send the $; he accuses her of "not showing back the

[@fredericasteller7280]

" not showing back the love"; is what I was trying to finish saying!

[@BaconBabe87]

Then hes using her for money. Feelings should NEVER be based on how much money or stuff someone has!

[@mooncake5016]

I don't think there is definition on romance otherwise your partner will judge. If you take every moment being together as precious blessing, there's a romance around, even when not being together. If couple can find romance while changing diapers, they are solid and forever.

[@kaielafeen1417]

True

[@Adriana030496]

True love is romance

[@stevenphan9993]

Is it too late to ask Dan about Invisalign ?

[@calirebear2713]

I've never been this early to a video XD

[@bt135]

So am I hahah

[@tinyGiraffasaurus]

i love you, felicia! :D lol

[@archanapatwal5946]

I have neverrrrr been sooo early.......

[@charlesrusso7646]

Very interesting

[@charlesrusso7646]

But the girls in Flushing ny only want go shopping

[@kimberleysze7402]

When I was in a relationship I was the guy I was dating he didn't he was PDA kind of guy so lucky and he super me

[@lifetobelived9102]

The idea of getting love letters sounds wonderful but when did he know he wanted to marry her because he took 3 years to finish the proposal. You would have figured by month 9 he would have been ready to pop the question. I think things that are romantic is if I am sick and the man I am with actually takes to the time to make sure I am ok and ask if there is anything I need or he would do things like make sure my car got an oil change or something like that. A hug here and there for no reason. I am pretty basic just pay a little attention. I don't need an expensive bouquet of flowers on Valentine's Day just a little TLC on a regular basis.

[@Ze-Germanzuk]

I bought my girlfriend a Nintendo​ Switch, then she agreed to sit on my face. Does that count?

[@EdwinTheGreat337]

i bought my first girlfriend a ring and she thew it away because she thought I'd stole it.i worked so hard for it.

[@Matt-fn3mo]

i remember i bought one for my ex girlfriend and during a little argument she took it off and threw it out the car window and me getting out and searching for it and being unable to find it..

[@MelissaBrownapt215]

I like ocassional, very rare, grand gestures - almost never. I like little everyday things. Yes. Take out the garbage, rub my feet. I'll wash you back, surprise you with your favorite food and build you up & when you have new ideas, I'll be supportive.

[@lifetobelived9102]

The wedding is the party to start the marriage nothing more. It is what comes after that counts so having some sort of super romantic wedding isn't really necessary just a fun wedding.

[@asianteasets]

I may be mistaken, but didn't you leave OTGW?

[@snatcher420]

Yes, that's why they posted a new video on Off the Great Wall.

[@seemapoudel9272]

'For me, you taking out the trash without asking me is romantic.' hahahahahah

[@MeiWang]

Mmmm, if he makes the effort, I find it romantic xD and btw Japanese movies do indeed show the little things that compose a romantic relationship :3

[@bdbd3317]

can yous do a video where u all speak in allthe chinese languages you know ? that would be awesome.

[@chrisspreacherman7400]

Need to date Felecia!!!

[@lifetobelived9102]

Making plans for the future whether it be planning for a trip together and how you can achieve or what you want to do achieve together in the future, I find romantic. I think I have really low standards because in my marriage it was always just getting through the day or month without any thought of the future. Living parallel lives is not what one should have in a relationship. It doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip because I would find that suffocating but there has to be something that the two people in the relationship like to do together on a regular basis. I am sounding like a debbie downer so I am going to stop commenting.

[@Tomc3218]

Where you guys at???

[@mangopog9814]

They came back

[@_gongster2835]

OMG I have a romantic relationship with this channel hahahahahhahahahaha.

[@relafen66]

Romance is different for asians, sometimes it can be very materialistic and that's enough..

[@amena488]

Off the Great Wall Make a video about what you can find in a BENGALI Supermarket plz I was born in England but I my parents born in Bangladesh.

[@mangopog9814]

They are Chinese dummy

[@wongjefx980]

...so if Romeo changed his mind, he would change it to spell "Will you breakup with me?" Romance is important, but don't over do it, because you can't keep it up at the dating level after you get married and have kids... it is harder, and you don't want the wife to get ticked because you can't keep that level of romance going.

[@lifetobelived9102]

Wow I like the idea of that romance is a band aid.

[@nicholaslam831]

I wish i had gf like Felicia or where's my fav mia!!!!

[@DesolationYT]

Esss verrry empertent

[@swagMan253]

Felicia looks like Nayeon from Twice a bit lol

[@tugbug82]

This channel is dying

[@aishaasim4309]

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[@Manananggal-oe8gs]

Good for them.

[@JTuam101]

@@Manananggal-oe8gs no you

[@MyBodyIsDamnReady]

Man, Fellatio is so damn cute

[@icysnow57cold64]

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships. Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot. And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends.

[@icysnow57cold64]

Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone. Also, you're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse. So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is. And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING". Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating. So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone. So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.

[@icysnow57cold64]

Also, here are 13 reasons why your best friend is more important than your romantic partner or spouse is: 1. Your best friend has seen you at your worst and they still love you. They have no need to see you looking pretty or together all the time. You could show up in curlers with the biggest pimple ever and they’d still accept you. 2. Your best friend has probably been around longer than your partner. They are reliable, loyal and entrenched in your life. 3. You don’t necessarily have more fun with your best friend but it’s a different kind of fun. It feels more relaxed and honest. 4. You don’t have to impress your best friend. You can be yourself. 5. Your best friend will drop everything and come rescue you and you’d do the same for them. 6. Your best friend will understand you and not judge you. You talk to them and feel totally understood for once in this big, bad world. 7. Your best friend has probably known you when you were a grungy, gross middle schooler or when you puked all over yourself freshman year. They’ve known you through every phase of your life. 8. You’ve always been sure about your best friend, but you sometimes doubt if your partner is really “the one.” 9. You never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner. 10. Your best friend is there for you after every break up and through every awful ex. They will put you back together when you’re hurt. 11. You know if things get tough you and your best friend can run off to Mexico and go on the run. 12. There’s nothing sexual going on so you can cuddle up and watch TV together for hours and there’s no pressure to do anything but that. 13. Your best friend has probably done more for you in life, in terms of favors and life experience, than your partner has. You should show them more appreciation.

[@haoyan7947]

Lol is that the white sweater bought from Uniqlo? I got one exactly the same

[@Suffkopp0815]

It is important in the beginning to establish a relationship. After that you keep it to valentin´s day, wedding anniversaries and for the times you screwed up pretty badly.

[@SendohJin]

that's awful.

[@lifetobelived9102]

Yep that sounds like a person on the way to divorce court. It pisses women off to get treated good on the holidays and then squat the rest of the year says the divorced lady.

[@Suffkopp0815]

Life tobelived You treat a woman good by providing for her and the rest of your family and by being a decent father for your children, says the guy who isnt divorced

[@SendohJin]

those are really low standards. not every women needs to be provided for and being a decent father is just being an average decent human being which should be done for yourself and the children not for the spouse. being average is different from being good.

[@lifetobelived9102]

Sufkopp82 sorry i sounded a little snarky in that last post. I am going to blame it on the 3 hours of sleep I got. In my case my ex had issues mostly not of his making. He grew up under a dictator and bad stuff happened. He didn't believe in therapy so he just wasn't able to fully give of his time and energy. I have to say when he got laid off at the beginning of the recession after 20 years of employment, he didn't miss a beat. He left a job on a Friday and start working at the new one on a Monday. Didn't even have time for the unemployment to kick in. And he loves his daughter dearly. I can say nice things because the anger has almost dissipated.

[@Razear]

"Too much romance make your heart....weak." - Khabib "I don't like chick flicks" Nurmagomedov

[@Sixplusadditionalnbr]

Romance is when yor lover takes all crums out of the bed: Thats what it makes.

[@mooncake5016]

Someone commented that Mia not present in this OTGW talk b/c she ain't in relationship with someone. Well, girls like Mia's qualities should get many quality guys lining up all the way to few blocks away. Mia might be picky in a way.or had bad experience before.

[@werewasyo]

felicia you need to get with me. I'm a 5'3" tap dancer and I can take you out for a romantic getaway in a restaurant of your choice.

[@yohaasakura4134]

felicia looks so fluffy and cute :)

[@gabrielacarvalho4793]

No Mia? This video is less cute!

[@kevek1903]

I'm way out of date with this channel recently. I know that Dan and Yi returned to NY and rejoin OTGW. But what happened to the other 2 or 3 guys that were part of this team before Dan/Yi returned? Were they terminated because of them (Dan/Yi) returning?

[@vickyzeng4834]

I feel so early😂

[@SimratSinsinwar]

are they dating???

[@robinchisholm4756]

You guys are totally from new Zeland 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡#blackgirlmagik

[@robinchisholm4756]

Taking out the trash without asking #hyggelust

[@totoro9009]

Wait is Dan and felicia dating

[@SiaZS]

the lady is either closing one eye or just plan stupid ifshe did not realize the alphabet Will You Merr_ until she receive the last alphabet y.. hahaha

[@SparksandBubbles]

Regardless of their personal relationship status, Am I the only one who think Felicia and Dan would make such a cool couple?!

[@Lady_Edwardia]

Why do you have the Japanese flag on the thumbnail i didn't know you too are Japanese

[@dnliin]

Chresolaくれそら Atsusunoアツスノ thats a letter..

[@Lady_Edwardia]

Angela Ma I know

[@dnliin]

Welp im confused now but ok

[@Lady_Edwardia]

Angela Ma Dosint it look like a Japanese flag, the red dot in the senter and the white

[@dnliin]

Chresolaくれそら Atsusunoアツスノ sorta

[@francisbawasanta6310]

This sounds like a lot of work. I'm out! 🤔

[@thisistotallyfine]

No Mia? I'm skipping this.

[@ras2010able]

Mia is not here because she not currently involved in a relationship so her input wouldn't be appreciated much compared to Dan and Felicia who are in relationship with their respected partners.

[@legaleagle7226]

So I think her input would be interesting - she still has feelings, and will know what she is looking for. We could compare what she is looking for with what the others (now in a relationship) want.

[@bdbd3317]

ras2010able YES !!!!! :)

[@beckylau7294]

greentealatte I just love green tea latte my all time fav

[@thisistotallyfine]

Mia is single? Damn I'd totally go after her lol

[@genghis1417]

female host is pretty hot