How is our marriage after baby # 2?

[@katherinedennison445]

I had four kids and my postpartum depression got progressively worse with each one. By the 4th child I needed serious help and I was so exhausted I couldn’t help myself. I would say be prepared to talk to your doctor and be in close touch if you have another child ❤

[@pandafox4990]

To think ive been watching since before you were married

[@KasseFishWomens12]

Me too.

[@froggofrance]

17:05 I absolutely love how he worded it. That they're surviving through this difficult time on the strong base that they have built throughout their entire relationship and thinking positively of their future. Basically #relationshipgoals honestly lol

[@eloisebrouillette1161]

The way you look at each other never changed. Your love for each other is so strong, it makes me so happy. Also, i’ve been here since 2016!! Love you guys🫶🏼

[@DiariesofExistence]

Omg same (the look + 2016 part) 🥹🩵

[@melizsaaa]

Feels like Jess has really struggled and doesn't know if she's okay to have any more children, but Gabe really wants more 🥺

[@malihakarim1696]

Gabe is weird and kinda selfish

[@amaraa6367]

I feel as though this is normal. Since women naturally have to take on more parenting responsibilities in the baby stage, they may not want more kids. As for the selfish comments about Gabe..he is not forcing her to have a certain amount of kids. He is clearly understanding. He is not being selfish for answering a question honestly.

[@CillavsGames]

Gabe gets what he wants. 😅

[@ashleybarrios3679]

Gabe is not selfish. Men have a right to express their wants as well. At the end it will be Jess who decides, but he has every right to say what he would prefer.

[@ashleybarrios3679]

& I do want to add, I have one baby girl right now, just turned one, traumatic birth! I feel just like Jess. I’m so unsure about having another baby. The thought is like NOPE. My husband is having a baby fever, in the end he tells me it is my decision, because it is. But he has every right to share his wishes as well! Plus I can tell Jess is not a definite no more babies level. Just like me. But as we are in the thick of it, or in my case getting out of the thick of it, it’s just so hard to be like green light lol. But bottom line, the hubbys are the other half of this relationship. They have to right to share what they want and don’t want. Just like we do. 🤍🤍🤍

[@amberj3941]

This was all exactly why I stayed 1 and done. I knew I had hit my capacity after 1 and so little sleep. I’m also really happy, my son is now 6 and having 1 just felt right for me. I have friends who had 2 when my son was little and they all seemed SO overwhelmed, exhausted, one had postpartum depression, it just didn’t feel like a happy place. Just thankful whenever I see the validation that it’s ok to choose what’s best for you. You don’t even have to have kids if you don’t want that. Be smart enough to know yourself and what is best for your life.

[@treazur4477]

I caught myself smiling in the beginning because I'm so excited to see y'all

[@malihakarim1696]

It's so easy for Gabe to want more kids because he's not the one giving birth.

[@whywhy3845]

wow great observation 🤯

[@nengshiaier8086]

Exactly I wish I was a man too the only thing they gotta do to procreate is to have fun cum game and Walla, no risk of dying no risk of body change no risk of discomfort for 9 months no problem of emotional rollercoaster.

[@lorelwebber6435]

It’s important to not father’s financial provider capabilities , he’s capable of supporting a child and also conceiving that child with her. Not everything is just birth , creating children if it was celebrated way birth was conception is also huge a man basically impregnating their wife

[@nar1708]

You don't have to have 4 or 5 kids to have a full table, you can have 2 kids and then they will get married and have their own spouses and kids so the table will still be full 🙏🏻🥰❤

[@danielaabril7369]

Love yalls growth. So inspiring and relatable! Love seeing you guys strong in your faith and navigating life to the best of your ability because at the end of the day that’s all we can do, showing up 100% and letting God take care of everything else! Def my role models 🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@nishh6852]

For peoples who defending gabe that he’s not selfish & he can express his view. Yes he can . But should he? This women had 2 very traumatic birth experience & now unintentionally u making her feel guilty that she can’t have more if she would they had more, that’s a guilt women carries her with her entire life, she already gave u 2 beautiful children. I know he’s not forcing her or anything but making her feel guilty about it is not ok. It’s ok to say i want more kid when u dont carry them for 9 months & destroy your bory your mental health your back your boobs your Vgg. U can be shut up for rest of your life & make your women proud of it.

[@blessedbygod4472]

And this man child doesn't even work. She does it all. Bring money in, taking care of the kids etc and all he does is complain about being depressed and makes her do what he wants. Idk how delusional people can be to find reasons fr this man child. Jess clearly made a huge mistake marrying someone like him.

[@mariai.3918]

It’s absolutely normal to feel that the transition is hard. A toddler and a newborn is hard. A strong relationship might struggle at first but will get even stronger after hard times like this one. You two have always been so good at communicating (as far as we know) so you are going to make the best decision as a couple as to whether you’re having more kids or not. Wish you guys all the best!

[@hiramajeed2383]

The title/thumbnail scared me, praying for you guys 😢❤

[@thatscreamerhunna]

Me too, haha

[@AshleyJade18]

Same! I hope that their son doesn't see the title and thumbnail to this video in years to come and jump to conclusions. I loved this Q&A though,

[@jessicadaniel6345]

Thank you for being vulnerable & honest about the adjustment from 1-2 kiddos! I totally understand how it’s hard. Especially if he is having a hard napping all of this time. That’s rough! Our 2nd had horrible colic for a month. Soon as we gave her mother’s nature gas drops, it helped sooooo much!!! Other than that, we felt it was easier going from 1-2 than 0-1 because we knew what to expect and how to handle situations when it got rough.

[@thatscreamerhunna]

You guys are always so Honest, real, and raw. Me and my Partner welcomed our First November 2023, after a year of our daughter, our relationship has been tested hard at times but it’s brought us tighter than ever. I wouldn’t trade for the world!!

[@annisamayanghefanti]

My experience from 1 to 2 was way worse than 0 to 1. The hardest thing was not sleeping enough cause the baby keeping me all night in the first 1 month and the toddler wants to play in the morning. Also the postpartum was really emotional, cause I don't know if anyone feel the same, but I feel guilty all the time. When I look at my toddler I felt guilty cause I didn't have time for her as I used to, but when I look at my baby I also felt guilty cause I can't give him all the time I have as I used to when my toddler was a baby. SO I cried everyday and it lasted pretty long. I think 2 months. My first postpartum emotional stage was only lasted 1 week. All respect to family that have children more than two and do it alone.

[@bradw3944]

The absolute greatest couple in the entire world.

[@kayteecee9748]

Ahhh so good to have a video appear on my feed❤ pregnant with my first, a boy- due in May!

[@thatscreamerhunna]

Congratulations, best of luck to you

[@haybby23]

Raising babies is hard! But the hard stuff is what makes it all so sweet. ♥️

[@froggofrance]

7:05 Jess' ok attack is so hilarious I couldn't stop rewinding to watch the compilation again 😂

[@Havixlol]

Oh its always such a true JOY to see you guys uploading! I definitely miss it! Definitely the highlight to my week seeing this notification!

[@amaraa6367]

I understand they post these to the internet and people have the right to comment their opinions, but by constantly calling Gabe selfish or acting as if you know their relationship based on an 18 min video then commenting about it is selfish. Jess is being honest about her mental health and I think we as her supporters should not be adding any comments that may make it worse. Especially when these comments are not constructive criticism, but giving unwarranted opinions that are not needed nor helpful.

[@AParkerRn09]

You guys are above the click baity captions and thumbnail. I say this with love, please don’t.

[@blessedbygod4472]

Yeah.

[@rachaelmanning14]

I love how open & honest you both were🫶 I definitely know my baby number is a big fat 0! I don’t know why, but when you were talking about future baby numbers… I kept seeing 4 kids around Gabe’s “full table” scenario. So strange!!! I love that Gabe’s ambition of a big family is there! You can also tell he’d do whatever Jess feels most comfortable with💖 Beautiful video guys & please keep taking care of yourselves✨

[@Smplsnooze]

Awe such a good catch up!! I can’t wait to see what the future holds for y’all🫶🏻

[@myreamora7892]

Petition for a full F1 video 😭😂 thank you for the insight into your relationship in this season. sending love to your family!! 🫶🏻

[@emilyting438]

I've always loved the heart to hearts 💕

[@hayleyl9667]

Just want to let you know that y'all are not alone. I Have 2 littles and it is HARD. My youngest is 18 months and it's starting to smooth out a little but I still feel like I'm in quite a busy season. I also want a big family but I'm definitely taking it one kid at a time right now. It's a lot on a woman's body/emotions etc. keep pushing through. You got this mama. 🫶🏻

[@RebekkahPound]

Legos should Collab with Gabe at this point😂❤

[@abbiepeytonwyatt]

They have on his Instagram 😄

[@sam_.0613]

Some of y’all haven’t stayed here long enough to call Gabe selfish 💀 Their love for each other is strong guys , they’ll work it out !

[@AnastasiaLepe]

Been following you since 2014😭😭😭😭 love you guys!!!

[@jennimarie_x]

Omggg another day another volg I mean q&a I miss your volg who’s here is an og ! Your babies are the cutest thing ever!!!

[@annalise8178]

Thank you for posting even when I’m sure you are both going through the ringer with 2 kids under 3 😅 I’ve been watching you since before Gabe proposed and it’s been so beautiful to see you both growing in faith and family ❤ God bless you both 😊

[@Monicajardim9-]

Been here since 2016 and seeing your family grow is absolutely beautiful, love love you guys so much and I’m still out here listening to your 2018 Christmas albums in 2024 😍😭

[@sherincarol9376]

It’s so great to see you both 🥹🫶🏻✨

[@jessicasteinagel2641]

The “Okay” blooper real. 😂😂😂💙💚🧡💛

[@ambsxoxo]

missed y’all!! hope you have a blessed holiday season and new year ahead 🤍✨

[@Smplsnooze]

Thinking about you both🤍

[@judithecarlton]

This was so sweet! Love hearing these questions and answers! Thank you for sharing this with us! I love you guys!!

[@RhianneLaventure]

I love the way you said that! I'm 7 weeks postpartum with our first and we really are surviving off of our foundation right now. Missing quality time and physical touch but I know it will come back eventually... It's like we've set romance to the side and picked up this huge project of taking care of a newborn but we're a great team and I can tell you two are too!

[@ash-js5op]

love the F1 talk!!

[@HelloMoto_]

Love a patchwork sleeve! I’m still working on mine. Husband and I have also been talking about how things will look when we grow our family (we currently have a 9m old boy) we’ll wait until he is at least 1.5/2 because I wouldn’t want them too far apart buut I’m also in med school so it’s a tough call timing wise. I think for the US to have a better coffee culture, the lifestyle would have to change a bit. Everything is too fast here so there’s no time to sit down and enjoy a cup.

[@Emrox110]

I loved to see this q and a and its nice to see you two still so enthusiastic despite the chapter of life youre both in. Please Jess talk to us about your post partum emotions comparing your first and second baby. Much love! A conte fan since 2016! Xxx

[@tiffanygreen7061]

Love this content!!! I really appreciate the transparency! I relate to the two of you speak about the number of kids. Now is not the time to have that discussion while you still have a tiny baby. Give yourself the space you need to rest up and get back to yourselves❤️

[@tiffanygreen7061]

I was giggling from that okay segment! So real😂😂

[@autsesameseason4023]

LOVE YOU GUYS!!!

[@Iam_laurenthrasherrr]

Love y’all! Y’all are doing great!

[@lianalowe9137]

Love you guys ❤

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Love your channel ❤

[@brendachaves6375]

Hii Jess and Gabe

[@LightintheDark-7]

I love you guys. Bless you❤

[@anacarmes]

I find it’s horribly normalized to have kids without help. If both families live far you should think about professional help, maybe a nanny or for house chores… specially during this period, your individual and couple’s physical and mental health deserve it 🙏🏽 Also, I am 3rd of 6 children with a dad with a stable job and a stay at home mom, I wish she got more help, I remember her sometimes so overwhelmed, and she was always loving and caring but it’s not a job for 1 (sometimes 2) adults. Think about that before thinking about more children.

[@nikidazed]

take care of yourselves guys❤

[@elenaoakes8494]

Love you guys. Also, just a reminder, if another pregnancy isn't on the cards, there are other options to have another child, like adoption ❤

[@Laura_26xo]

Hey from the UK 🇬🇧

[@gabby8339]

Difficult times but jess still looking with loving eyes. That's what counts. I hope Cuba slept more and you both got some more TLC.

[@iwufpaca]

I love watching u guys🥹❤ and i love how there is a lil of F1 cus i love watching them too🥰💖

[@sarahcolquhoun9596]

Gabe seems off

[@Keyrose-my3xr]

That's what living off no sleep does to you. I'm actually so happy to see them both do a video together. I missed it

[@kaylabrown8341]

Hes tired :(

[@malihakarim1696]

Don't know why he seens off when Jess is the one suffering from postpartum. Pretty he's the one who wanted more kids as Jess just started to feel okay after her first birth.

[@corinna7391]

It's not all about Jesse here and her postpartum. Just because she's suffering under postpartum doesn't mean Gabe can't. Ofc he's tired too and he has a right to be like Jesse is tired aswell. Being a father, having 2 kids is same struggle for him as for her, it's new to both of them​@@malihakarim1696

[@whywhy3845]

@@malihakarim1696people can seem off for a variety of reasons. never know what someone is going through so let’s not jump to conclusions

[@corinna7391]

take a weekend off and do something together. Go out, have fun, recharge your batteries. Married life isn't just about raising children. It's also important not to lose yourself in the process. Otherwise you'll just end up living past each other. Gabe just looks completely worn out, more so than Jesse (probably because she's wearing makeup). But in my opinion you really need time for yourselves. Gabe doesn't look so happy anymore, more sad and tired and lost in thought. Two children under 3 is hard, but it gets better. It's also important to make time for each other.

[@malihakarim1696]

Jess always seems uncomfortable by Gabe making things sexual innuendo but he still keeps doing it.

[@p-abs95]

She could cut it out of the video if she wanted to.

[@londonisforeverblue1022]

they are literally a married couple for years don't think the "sexual innuendos" make her uncomfortable stop trying to create fake scenarios

[@LozAura]

My third child hates the car seat. And at almost 2 ... its still unpredictable how she will tolerate a car ride. I hope this isn't the case for you it's annoying lol

[@lorelwebber6435]

Why is it that Gabe looks incredibly tired and sleep deprived and Jess looks like she’s been to the spa???

[@lindabueckert9559]

If you can try to bring e intentional about having some time to hang out together at least once or twice a month.. get a babysitter.. someone from church? Or a friend? We did not do this and our marriage suffered for many years.

[@LozAura]

Everyone says only have 3 if you've got a solid network of support and hands on people around you often... Or be like other countries who just pop them out without a second worry

[@medialunasx]

You guys look so tired!!! but so happy too! love that for you. Now go take a nap !!!

[@lorelwebber6435]

I doubt the child hates the car usually they cry for hunger reasons nappy changes not so much. Pain tiredness or hunger that’s pretty much it.

[@jcalvarado7879]

Jessica, I have been dying to ask you....I want to order and try Australian chocolate candy. What do you recommend? I remember you did a video on this subject many moons ago, but I can't remember the answer. Oh, and would Amazon be the place for me to order from? Hang in there with the little ones, it will all come together easily when they are both toddlers. Love your beautiful family and God bless you all!!

[@luciaromero1640]

Love u both so much ❤

[@AnakinLamm]

Hi conte family I love you guys u r 1 of favorite KZbin family/KZbin couples I have been watching u guys since day 1 when you were boyfriend and girlfriend 💖 💕 💗 😘 ❤️ ♥️ 💖 💕 XOXOxoxo I can't wait to see more videos of u guys

[@veganbeauty1445]

Just a thought, maybe when in the car put a small blanket or a shirt that smells like you next to him 😊

[@garcia-avalos3490]

MORE VIDEOS YIPPIE

[@cnasaraha.2140]

I thought Christians aren't allowed to have tattoos...!? P.s. not hating, just wondering.

[@rebeccapineda4965]

I guess it really depends on your convictions? I personally am a Christian and i also have tattoos but i know a lot of people that would never. A lot pf christians bring up the verse in Leviticus about not marking your body but it’s always out of context… God was telling them not to mark their body because it was idolatry to other gods. And theres also other laws that if we were to apply this verse to our lives, we should also apply ALL of them (idk if it’s clear 😅) But again, it’s all about convictions i think! Also i think this subject in particular divides a lot of christians which is sad because we’re all called to love one another and not judge based on appearance. There’s a song i think from Nate Diaz saying how most Christians focus more on the tattoos and external things instead of focusing on the heart Anyways hope i answered ☺️

[@thatscreamerhunna]

I have A Cross On My Upper Back, Waiting to get it Finished

[@livdalive]

Okay

[@taylorjane2607]

Why does Jess need to approve gabes tattoos? That feels controlling imo. I wouldn’t stop my husband unless he was trying to get face tattoos lol.

[@blessedbygod4472]

Maybe cause she pays for it. Lmao.

[@Imazdadrags]

Thought God don't like tattoos.

[@vaaanyy_]

❤❤❤

[@edissonpegram]

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[@abmanyu]

2016 X 2025 !

[@taylorjane2607]

I wish I could only work for an hour a day smh

[@nannacat3]

Try Finnish candy or Sweedish. Its the Best 🎉

[@DiariesofExistence]

I LOVE WHEN Y’ALL POST 🥹😭🩵 best day 🩵

[@SofiaS19]

❤😊

[@wildpixel8302]

Early gang 🎉

[@jesuisellee]

1min ago, I'm late! nooo ❤

[@nannacat3]

OMG i have 4 Kids. Its huh🎉😊😅

[@rubycobos5776]

im so early

[@your1supporter]

First!

[@livinwithliz8121]

Go back to putting Jesus first in your life and marriage! He is our foundation peace and joy!

[@LozAura]

There's so much reason as a Jesus follower why not to tattoo...and now so many reasons from informative information why we shouldn't tattoo our skin in general... its not a good choice for your immune system