How MBTI changed my life | INTJ Female

[@andyhepburn6855]

"It's a tool for understanding yourself, not a box to put yourself in" LOVE IT!

[@CoachKiara]

@@andyhepburn6855 🫶🏻🙏🏻

[@cyberthugFi]

Knowing your type get you ahead of everybody

[@NiTeFiSe.collie]

Knowing my MBTI type (INTJ female) has helped me hugely in my social interactions. After I did a deep dive, and more aware of my strengths and weaknesses, I am working on balancing out the more extreme parts of my personality. My marriage has always been good, but we are next level now knowing that I see the big picture whilst my husband (ESTJ) gets busy with the small details. We are in the process of building a new house. We are both efficient planners/organizers but I come up with the concept and he puts the 'plan' into action and deals with all the people! He and I work brilliantly together. Where we come up short is finding time for emotional intimacy which we have to plan for and schedule in!!!

[@CoachKiara]

@@NiTeFiSe.collie this is the best! Yea it’s COMPLETELY changed my interactions with others, it makes my life so much easier, also knowing where I should offer others more trust where I perhaps once wouldnt have.

[@kyoi761]

Hello Kiara, I'm a teenager and also an INTJ and I'm struggling with the same or similar things you mentioned when you were younger. Im very grateful for this video because i could relate to so many things that you said. It made me realize that I'm not alone and there are other's that are like me and struggle with the same thing's. I am in the process of trying to understand myself and deal with my emotions and problems. Thank you.

[@CoachKiara]

@@kyoi761 you’re very welcome. The fact that you found this so young is amazing 🥰

[@cyberthugFi]

keep being urself: dont be afraid of following ur intellectual pursuits even if adults or other people around your age dont see the meaning in it, what used to make me feel different than others, now is my advantage over them.

[@carloscedillo5081]

Hi Kiara, I agree with you. I am a INFJ and like you I did not feel I fit in the majority of the circles I was in. MBTI has given me better understanding on the reasons why and it has helped me a lot in my personal growth. I totally recommend it !! … pd. I have never seen this as putting people in boxes. That sounds a little negative, but I am a big believer in understanding the big picture by classifying parts into smaller groups for better analysis and comprehension. I also recommend taking the enneagram test, I feel it fills some little voids left by the MBTI. So when you combine both, it’s huge knowledge at your hands. ie I am INFJ 5w6 … which explains why I love problem solving and logic so much and I am able to blend the objective solution with the implementation leading people considering their emotions.

[@CoachKiara]

@@carloscedillo5081 I’ve also been told to take the enneagram, might have to check it out, thanks!

[@christianmoulart]

Thank you for your video. I was thinking that for someone who’s just starting out on KZbin, your body language was already very well thought out, and then I realized it’s probably because of your NLP training. As an INTJ, I completely understand your journey and the struggles you’ve faced, as well as the sense of relief that comes from discovering the MBTI and understanding it for our type. My question for you, as a male INTJ speaking to a female INTJ, is: don’t you think it’s generally harder to be a female INTJ than a male INTJ? All INTJs struggle with the feeling of being different, but we also sense a strong love and ethics within us that don’t require anyone else’s validation. At least for men, if they’re not pursuing women, they have the luxury of being left alone and in peace (which our introverted side deeply needs), whereas women often have to deal with constant unwanted attention from men who don’t understand boundaries, making it harder to be left in peace. Now, I know you’ve lived in a very small community and experienced isolation during the pandemic, so maybe this isn’t something you’ve dealt with as much.

[@CoachKiara]

@@christianmoulart great observation. I’m very intentional in the way that I approach KZbin. The basis of NLP is “modelling excellence” which even without using all of the tools available to me now is such a simple and powerful premise to work off. I’m much more energetic and demonstrative, especially with my hands and smile on KZbin than I would otherwise typically be in a conversation. I cannot speak if it’s harder for women than men only because I have never had the male experience obviously 😅 but I do tend to think there are a lot of gender specific challenges faced, and perhaps women INTJs are forced to adapt a little quicker in certain areas if they are to feel comfortable with themselves and life- I wouldn’t know the men’s but certainly the points you raise hold true. Although I would prefer to live alone, circumstantially I have had to live in share houses, and it does actually end up with men, perhaps by the nature of the houses I want to live- my own bathroom and enough space that it feels like I am living alone- but every time I have to really address it formally, explain I will not be a social housemate, and if they are expecting that I’m happy to move on. I do find I have to enforce it a number of times before they accept it. It feels to me as they don’t understand that I am actually actively wanting to be alone, and they feel the need to ‘help’ or ‘save’ me. I commonly get the comments of ‘don’t take everything so seriously”, “I understand you want to hermit, but you don’t understand what you’re missing” “no need to move out I was just being kind/helpful”. 😂

[@kalkidantadesse6268]

I describe myself as two people, the one before MBTI and the very different one after I discovered my type and many more. I feel like I leaped few years forward by understanding about INTJ type and more deeper topics. The crazy thing is I also checked the MBTI when I was younger thinking its about job and was like "architect, I should be an architect" and just forgot about it until few months ago. And what a tool it has been for personal development.

[@user-dx2dm8oq8g]

I tested intj. It's a relief knowing my weaknesses and strengths to eventually work on them. I had to take the test a few times at different workplaces. I hated that some people treated me like an intj instead of just being present in our interactions. I could tell that they studied the types very superficially and tried to pull other people's strings like puppets. Maybe they were trying to relate, but it didn't feel like it. It is true, it made me realize that some people are alien to each other because of how their mind works.

[@CoachKiara]

@@user-dx2dm8oq8g yea using it just as a tool is a must (not a hard in stone box). It’s increasing awareness of how you naturally approach the world. Haha someone trying to pull my strings would certainly have the opposite effect than they were hoping for 😂

[@hony1717]

18:20 also cried a lot as a kid and then stopped crying completely.

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

Intj's are Fe (extraverted feeling) polar, meaning it is the second last cognitive function and therefore takes least priority over the other cognitive functions. Ni Te Fi Se Ne Ti Fe Si

[@zhonezhone6682]

shared similar experience, came to know about MBTI around 4 months ago. Took weeks to confirm my type. Prior to such exposure, I thought my strength was analytical skill and worked 13 years on a skill with unfruitful results. The past 4 months I have accomplished more than the last 13 years, finally monetized my research by capitalizing Ni cognitive function.

[@CoachKiara]

@@zhonezhone6682 I’m so glad you found it!

[@zhonezhone6682]

@@CoachKiara thanks for sharing my joy. Again, I just expanded the horizon. The most recent new skill I picked up was the ability of predicting blue chip stock prices through some basic financial equations. I also took up your advice in exercising to extend my mental energy. I wish the same success in your life.

[@CoachKiara]

@@zhonezhone6682 thanks! Feel free to jump in my free community I’m building Skool.com/change with other growth minded people ☺️

[@VariantZilean]

Cool😊 im an infp but this is fun learning

[@RahulPatil-yg7vy]

Hello Kiara im an INTJ male here people find me intimidating even when i am just being myself and i dont like dealing with women and people in general its ironic because i am a doctor by profession which drains me. I always feel like im left out or couldn’t relate to pretty much everyone and to further add to the societal troubles i have been told i am insensitive to other peoples emotions and mine as well.

[@CoachKiara]

@@RahulPatil-yg7vy I’m sorry you are experiencing this. I know something that helped me most to start with was that as an introvert, my profession (teaching) wasn’t healthy for me in the long run! I only had the energy to work on the other things once I started making sure I could protect my energy properly and recharge

[@christianmoulart]

Hey fellow INTJ, just so you know, I’m an INTJ too, and I’m a doctor. Don’t feel sorry for yourself-our struggles actually make us stronger. Be yourself, but wait until you’re no longer relying on degrees or others' approval for your qualifications, job, or position. It’s tough in medicine because you have to fit into the system and deal with group dynamics where they won’t give you your due credit right away. You’ll often hear things like, 'You’re right, but the way you said it wasn’t appropriate.' And if you ask, 'What’s wrong with the way I said it?' they’ll either dodge the question or say something vague that makes you question yourself. Remember, all patients are the same to you. You don’t follow the social hierarchies others do, and that’s why you’re fair in your interactions. Focus on tasks that interest you, not what others expect just to fit in. Let your team know you prefer to choose specific tasks and work on them solo, doing them start to finish before presenting for feedback-which, as INTJs, we’re actually more open to than they think. Stick to what’s ethical and just, no matter what anyone says. Use MBTI videos as a tool and play the long game. We always end up thriving and living life on our own terms. One day, people will tell you they envy you and wish they had your kind of 'luck.' That’s even not Ni that’s my experience.

[@Ensivion]

I'd look up OPS , objective personality system, you remind me of one of the creators. ( from this video I'm seeing MM Te/Se PCXX)

[@brocklytodd5317]

an Olympian? Thats cool.

[@Shiraori999]

I think learning about psychology as an INTJ is like unlocking parts of the F package the more you learn about it.

[@CoachKiara]

@@Shiraori999 I agree, understanding how humans work makes it increasingly easier to be one haha

[@tez4792]

@@CoachKiaraor to pretend to be one so we seem more normal to others 😊

[@MrSibinStephen]

Can you link the NLP training you did? Would love to learn more!

[@CoachKiara]

@@MrSibinStephen absolutely! themindacademy.com

[@BerniHard]

"Give the test to your friends!" Yeah, ENTJ giving MBTI to his best friends just to find out that I'm speaking to a mirror😂 3 ENTJs are my best friends, me being the 4th😅 Sometimes ridiculous truths

[@CoachKiara]

@@BerniHard haha it’s so funny hey! Must be some lively debates in that group haha!