How modern families increase social inequality

Modern families with two working adults are richer than those with a single breadwinner, and can afford to take a different approach to parenting. This is exacerbating inequality between rich and poor families. Film supported by Mishcon de Reya
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The family has always been a central building block of society. But families have changed dramatically in the rich world over the past 50 years. Changes to society mean that the old model of a breadwinning husband and a stay-at-home wife has all but collapsed. And the different ways rich and poor families raise their children are increasing social inequality. Today, gay families like Maggie and Joelle’s are widely accepted in the rich world. A generation ago, it was almost unthinkable that same-sex couples would get married.But now most people in rich countries think gay marriage is fine. Fears that gay marriages would undermine heterosexual ones have proven unfounded. And this is one reason why marriage equality has spread so extraordinarily fast. Before 2001 gay marriage was not legal anywhere in the world. Since then, it’s been legalised in nearly all rich countries and developing nations are starting to follow suit. It’s a far cry from the 1960s, when families typically consisted of a dad who went to work a stay-at-home mum and three or more kids. Better access for women to contraception education and jobs has changed this traditional family portrait. Across the globe, families are shrinking.
Nowhere more so than in South Korea. Here a growing number of women are rejecting marriage and having children altogether like Go Lee, who is 26. She says traditional employers make it hard to combine a career with marriage and motherhood. Go works in IT, but is also a vlogger on KZbin, where she urges South Korean women to be more assertive. She believes South Korean men are part of the problem
Many expect their wives to do all the housework and childcare, even if they have a job. There is a huge mismatch of expectations around marriage in South Korea. Most men want a 1950s-style relationship whereas women want something more modern and equal. The result is they often end up not marrying or having kids at all and that’s left South Korea with a problem. Its population is in free fall. In 1960 the average South Korean woman had six children. In 2018 that figure shrank to less than one. A fertility rate of one means each generation is half as big as the previous one and in South Korea this means there are fewer workers to support the country’s ageing population. In rural areas, men are viewed as poor prospects by South Korean women. So the government is helping these men to find brides from poorer countries.
State-funded assimilation centres like this, teach immigrant brides how to cook Korean food how to speak Korean and even how to deal with Korean mothers-in-law. Like most of her classmates studying here today 19-year-old Nguyen Thi Cam Thuy is from Vietnam. She recently married a South Korean man 40-year-old Kim Dae Hyun who found her through a matchmaking website. Over a fifth of married South Korean farmers and fishermen have tied the knot with a foreigner. But cross-cultural unions can be difficult and around a fifth of marriages between South Korean men and foreign women end in divorce within four years. This video of a man beating his foreign wife caused widespread outrage. 50 years ago in most rich countries domestic violence was considered normal. Now, it is universally condemned and rates have fallen sharply by three-quarters in America alone, since the mid-1990s.
Today, other factors are more likely to affect the stability of families and these are contributing to a growing gulf between middle-class and working-class families. In most rich countries, if you don’t go to university you are more likely to have kids outside of marriage. And women who don’t finish high school are more likely to end up as single mothers than women who have a degree. In Jamie’s hometown of Hartlepool in north-east England, 70% of babies are born outside marriage like her twins, Sean and Liam. In Hartlepool in the 1960s men did heavy work in shipyards and factories which was much better paid than any job their wives could find. So the women stayed at home with the kids. But as technology advances manual work has dried up and uneducated men have struggled to find good jobs. If the only men available lack steady jobs and don’t help around the home some women feel they are better off alone. Middle-class families have remained solid in rich countries over the past 50 years while working-class families have grown much less stable. Women with a university degree are more likely than women who do not finish high school to be married and raise children with their husband as a team.

[@thrasher7090]

This video can be summarised in this statement "Rich families pass their advantages to their kids while poor families pass their obstacles to their kids "

[@r3dp1ll]

and that's why we need a fair redistribution and social services

[@thrasher7090]

@@r3dp1ll well it's very hard to convince higher classes to check their privliges , to admit that they had more than their share of opportunities and to ask them to contribute back to the society and lift the other classes out of poverty they really think that they are responsible/entitled for/to all of their achievments/benefits. They also have the same ideas about the poor they are lazy dumb refuse to develop themselves and they want to take their stuff for free

[@Benzknees]

Rich people are rich because they are intelligent, and as intelligence is 80-85% inherited those advantages would be passed on regardless of whatever system you had in place.

[@thrasher7090]

@@Benzknees intelligence is an indicator of job performance but not wealth or income try to convince me that trump is smarter than einstein or that bernard arnault is smarter than grigori perelman ? wealth and income are affected by the type of connections you have (networks) your family your education access to information access to resources access to capital access to opportunities etc the majority of those factors are out of your hands and in the hands of luck/chance

[@Benzknees]

mahmoud mahfouz - I didn’t say there was a direct correlation, but intelligence does enable you to manipulate the world around you to gain economic advantage. And as intelligence is largely genetic, it would be strange if those advantages were not sometimes passed from one generation to the next, including any resources built up by your father or grandfather. Bur equally there are plenty of self-made rich people around, who’ve often come from nothing, but have sharp minds. Meanwhile unintelligent people will typically squander resources, like devaluing the ‘free’ education we get in the West, the myriad of opportunities for betterment, and blowing any windfall that comes their way like a lottery win.

[@emmacat3202]

If you are spending 30k on one child's education, you are not middle class.

[@394pjo]

Wrong. Im a truck driver and my wife is a carer for old people, we spend 70% of everything we make on a private education for our daughter. When you put your kid through private school you are paying for the contacts and opportunities granted to them in later life, you are not paying for the _actual_ education. Whatever my daughter does in life it won't be driving trucks or wiping the backsides of your folks when they get old.

[@LFPMultimedia]

Yup definitely top 10% of earners..

[@OsOmne]

@@394pjo ^Gets it.

[@JOJOKOFilm]

@@394pjo You are awesome dad.

[@NaticalaChica]

@@394pjo as the daughter of a truck driver father and babysitter mother, thank you. My parents invested their blood, sweat, and tears to give me and my sister a well-rounded education and to teach me how to find resources that would later help me in my career. While sometimes I resented my dad for missing key parts of my life because he was driving long distance along the east coast, I appreciate him more now that I'm older. You're doing great.

[@zsokarati9228]

It was painful to watch that 19 year old girl who's 40 year old husband was boasting about their marriage. She looked dead behind her eyes.

[@Sayfullah570]

She married for money, he married for looks. In the end both will be disappointed

[@zsokarati9228]

@@Sayfullah570 I'd rather say she married for survival. It's depressing that people are still forced to do such a thing in the 21st century.

[@sdsurfgirl60]

She didn't look enthused or even present.

[@koreafashionyoutube]

Many ladies from Vietnam run away from their husband after getting a permanent visa and go dating with Vietnamese guys in korea...

[@jheanelltabana8713]

@@koreafashionyoutube I can't say I'm surprised. But these men must know the women don't love them, right? I mean, women from wealthy countries aren't on these types of sites. It's obvious they are simply trying to escape. Is it really that hard to date a modern Korean woman?

[@MrMannyhw]

I love how they pitch working class and middle class against each other. The elite class is the ones at fault. Pure greed.

[@saxybandgeek9645]

Unfortunately, this issue and sentiment bleeds over into reality. I work in manufacturing and there is this divide between the plant workers (who tend to fall into working class) and the office people (who tend to fall into middle class). Definitely some enmity there sometimes.

[@davidbolha]

Revelation 3:9 & John 8:44 tribe. 😉😎

[@neitherlink6612]

What is the issue with greed? If more people in the working class were greedier, they would have crawled out of the hole already.

[@matildamaher2650]

Absolutely right

[@TerrifyingBird]

@@neitherlink6612 ...Did we watch the same video? Because it provides overwhelming evidence of the contrary...

[@Quanic2000]

How come middle class families are being blamed? What about the increasing cost of college? The privatization of education? Decreasing wages? Increased costs of housing? I think there's more the whole puzzle than just blaming middle class families.

[@TheJeremyKentBGross]

The top want the bottom to hate the middle, obviously. It's how you stay in a position to rule and control. Divide and conquer. Keep the middle class from rising to challenge you by feeding them to the bottom. Even alpha wild dogs use that trick.

[@emuriddle9364]

I agree. We're just upset that they have something, and we don't. Poverty isn't "misfortune" or "laziness." It's a chronic condition. Pay doesn't meet expenses, Projection and Abandonment, replaces Support and Mentorship. Before I was homeless, I told the doctors that I didn't feel safe at home (Abusive dad). And they ignored it. Ironically, the people were more Warm and Friendly at the Homeless Shelter.

[@unusuario5173]

All of those points only apply to USA. This video has examples from around the world for a reason.

[@jdlc903]

Shuuut up

[@unusuario5173]

@@jdlc903 don't want to.

[@danielab535]

Maybe the problem isn't women becoming more educated and marrying people similar to them, but rather the fact that quality childcare costs so much and therefore is inaccessible to poorer populations

[@user-do5zk6jh1k]

That's the conclusion the Japanese government came to. They are trying to provide more free childcare, since single-income families are not viable there. Unfortunately, this hasn't affected their decline in birthrates much.

[@lawrnc]

Yeah the video jumps at individuals' choices rather than saying that policies against inequalities can be implemented (eg Scandinavia, France where childcare is free). My point is various policies that help with work family balance do exist

[@angelfi]

Law Childcare is not free in Scandinavia...

[@user-do5zk6jh1k]

@@omi691 Like what?

[@user-do5zk6jh1k]

@@omi691 So here's why the first and second proposals won't work. 1. Japan needs to have high productivity in order to maintain its high population on such a small island. Most of its food and all of its fuel is imported. They can't abandon force-multipliers in the workplace. 2. The government is already deep in debt. They can't provide any incentive that is expensive, unless you have a cheap solution in mind. As for education, Japanese college is a waste of time when compared to American college. It's mostly a place to network. They can definitely shorten it or increase the level of education offered.

[@enzomthethwa5861]

"We're paying more for our daughter's preschool than I paid for college." Then they just laugh it off. Umm... Hold up. What do you do for work?

[@c.aresty]

​@Jorge Garcia and given they live in SF more likely they bring in $120k EACH

[@nickmiller4262]

@@c.aresty That's low-end for a Silicon Valley Harvard grad mid-career. Maybe if they're working at a non-profit but not a Tech company.

[@huangmingcha]

I am from indonesia.. my brother's all boys boarding school is much much pricey than my university tuition fee (my father is just a civil servant.. we lived simple to afford better education) My nephew and niece's kindergarten and elementary school also much much pricey.. It's normal for private school to have tuition fee much higher than university. But if we go to public school.. it's free.

[@Erin-rg3dw]

My mom worked a summer job and paid for her college tuition with a check - approximately $400 for a semester of college. I'm pretty sure even average daycares cost more than that per week now.

[@julieb7785]

@Jorge Garcia My grandfather's Harvard tuition (Class of 1927) was $750 a year. Or thereabouts. His parents wrote a check.

[@notsoreverendbecca2308]

This misses factors like decreasing wages, increasing costs of living, and increasing power/wealth transfer away from families.

[@tw8464]

Exactly.

[@caracho7191]

Oh and you forgot about taxes!

[@zednumar6917]

Moms work because they have to make up for the falling wages of their husbands.

[@trishapellis]

As well as the cost of daycare and education

[@MA-gu2up]

​@@zednumar6917 Isn't it the opposite? With the inclusion of more and more women into the workforce, it became harder and harder for a household to live on one income. This video shows that household income inequality is increasing with the current state of things( more women employment and education).

[@sazopro]

I guess we can all agree the Vietnamese lady is just surviving.

[@user-dj5cz4cc6d]

sazopro indeed, most foreign wife struggles to live in South Korea

[@user-wg5hc1cd1u]

Yeah .. she is actually 'sold' for the money.. which could help herself and her family

[@yak2425]

Michael Liu , ..... not just in South Korea ..... a friend of mine didn’t speak English properly (Spanish mainly) .. she was beaten by her husband for years because her English skills weren’t 100% ... she shouldn’t of married him .. or moved to Canada 🇨🇦....

[@TENGU13]

MSM = Satan's Minion.

[@sazopro]

Jay you’re obviously a boring person...

[@rodaxel7165]

The Vietnamese woman doesn't look happy

[@walkersmith2791]

When women ever were happy?

[@hugglescake]

Her body language speaks volumes.

[@romanengelbrecht6717]

seriously! i was like is this woman being held against her will or something??? but then it reminded me of this couple i know and they pretty much the same hahahaha

[@erzan]

@@walkersmith2791 When sexist dirt like you are far away.

[@walkersmith2791]

@@erzan simp? Go to your mama :)

[@oliviadesign]

This has little to do with the "modern family" and everything to do with society putting profit above human life.

[@juliamorrison1898]

Preach!

[@kayceequesadilla]

Oh, be quiet. You're just a leftist who can't stand to see people make responsible decisions for themselves and their future families.

[@pajeetsingh]

Lol no. It's about people failing to be responsible. In one day you can either read a book or watch Netflix.

[@dezbiggs6363]

Exactly. Most moms i know what to be home with their children or at least with them longer

[@danielj8858]

@@kayceequesadilla much argument, such reason

[@Yeshanu]

Yep. Let's blame inequality on changing families instead of pointing out that 60 years ago, a family with a single blue-collar worker could afford to buy a four bedroom home in a big city, pay for two cars, yearly vacations, and camp for the kids. Not hypothetical, that was my life, and my parents grew up poor. Today, their grandkids struggle to pay the rent on a subsidized townhouse with two jobs and only one child. Something's changed, but it's not just the family structure, and until the social conservatives figure out that the greed of the rich and not the poverty of the poor is the problem, things won't get better.

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

...Why not criticize BOTH inflation AND single, out-of-wedlock parenthood?

[@EspritsFantomes]

The Vietnamese girl face... she doesn’t want to be there 19 and 40 She looks extremely sad

[@user-lv1qp2xc6e]

i agree.. but sadly,, it was her choice to marry him...

[@EspritsFantomes]

마리 true

[@nintendo9231889]

Imagine how much sadder she would be in Vietnam!

[@elenchus]

@@nintendo9231889 Vietnam's fine.

[@MrApple12610]

nintendo9231889 uhm Vietnam is fine though

[@Agtsmirnoff]

The Economist labels people spending $31,000 for a single child to attend an elite preschool as “middle class”. Great journalism there!

[@Algorand12345]

Karl Tanner from Gin Alley I noticed this too. I found it insulting.

[@72tubedmiaz]

It is for most big cities like San Francisco

[@PulpHouseHorror]

that is middle class, upper middle class maybe

[@jjeherrera]

That's relative to the cost of life where you live. An income that might put you in the highest percentiles in some regions or countries would only allow you to be middle class elsewhere. Very unfortunate indeed.

[@Agtsmirnoff]

72tubedmiaz there is no middle class in those cities

[@baejina9683]

As a woman born and raised up in South Korea, i found this video talking about Korean women who decide not to get married just represents one side of the society rather than understanding this phenomenon from all angles. Although i understand it’s hard to cover all aspects, contents like this should not cause any bias.

[@Andres9562]

I'm upper middle class, well educated, married to a wonderful wife with two children and we spend a lot of time and money on them to ensure they are being raised in the best way we can possibly provide. I won't change that for anyone. The systems are broken, contributing to the instability of families and the crevasse of inequality all comes back to the gap in quality education. Education is the single greatest key to changing systems, people, and social paradigms and it is what we must all strive for.

[@DS-fv4rx]

Misleading title. Should be “How Modern Families EXPERIENCE Increasing Inequality”

[@MrAutore]

Yeah the title bugs me too. I thought they were going to talk about non-heterosexual marriages causing inequality. But what they really mean is how mate selection increases inequality in society.

[@tachiebillano6244]

My thoughts, too. Title deserves a rewrite. Right now it sounds as if it’s implying the great divide is the modern family’s fault. (Instead of the government failing in its duty to use taxes to implement policies to assist the poor, like the way they’re supposed to.)

[@Fists91]

And it doesn't even consider the possibility that laws, tax/social security systems and trade deals have changed in the last 50 years

[@batkomahnoX100]

its a clickbate

[@Anita_Dick]

Now it makes more sense

[@hipporage18]

Seriously question the message this is attempting to cobble together. How does equity between men and women drive this narrative of inequality? Maybe inequality is rising because of the erosion of social safety nets? Unions are undermined and weakened, automation, stagnant wages, etc. Surely those are more relevant factors

[@AgeofCraccadilliaassent]

hmm also the value of the societies currency

[@Tina06019]

The lack of manual labor jobs has made it impossible for a lot of men to find a job on which they can support a family. Fundamentally, this is an economic change fueling a major social change. If a couple can tolerate some marital disappointment (NOT abuse) along the way and stick together, usually their children will benefit economically.

[@shake6321]

this video is an ode to “coming apart” and “the bell curve” by charles murray. the central thesis is that IQ matters and that “the cognitive elite” are in essence “blasting away” from society. i am not sure what “the death of labor unions” or “social safety net” has to do with anything.

[@richardwilde1348]

Though this video doesn't seem to provide any causal link for what it claims in the title, Thomas Piketty explains why declining population increases inequality. That's the sort of thing I thought the video would be about.

[@shake6321]

Richard Wilde can you sum up pikkitys hypothesis. thanks.

[@evijamelece1967]

I have a Bachelor's degree, but I come from a poor country, and that means we have thousands of educated poor people.

[@AnimeFanClub909]

This documentary doesn't work everything together like it thinks it does.

[@yohanessaputra9274]

An incohorent one, too

[@Hakkyou13]

I just realized that was what had me confused. It was a party bag of... observations. Decent ones, but all over the place.

[@yohanessaputra9274]

@@Hakkyou13 too bad, the economist has fallen from their grace

[@xanderjames8682]

Yeah, pretty all over the place

[@SE-xg2pi]

“The breadwinning father doesn’t exist anymore” Not being the only accepted thing and not existing are not the same thing. This whole script sounds like it’s coming from some college freshman who took their first sociology class and feels edgy because they disagreed with their professor.

[@leonamay8776]

The breadwinning father with the SAH mother / housewife was strongly influenced by social class as well. My maternal grandmother did all the house work, child care *and* still worked in a factory (my maternal grandfather worked as well, btw). Whereas my paternal grandmother didn't have to do housework due to hired help... 🤷‍♀️ The old fashioned 60s family they described wasn't a thing on the paternal or maternal side of my family.

[@tatjana7008]

And low key hates Korea, because nothing positive have been said about it

[@cristiniarguedini6186]

@@leonamay8776 can confirm. My grandmother was a rather poor immigrant, who worked night shifts, yet still did the house work. She had to. She is much better now tho

[@tatjana7008]

@AoiAlice I see many families where father is still breadwinners, but law in Germany is so that you either finance your family or divorce and still must finance your family. Strong woman nowadays are more victim and must fight on her own, while some use the system and being parasites. They call it love marriage, but for me it's more like continued war who gets more from another. So I dont think arranged marriages are so bad, at least you are protected by your family

[@leonamay8776]

@@cristiniarguedini6186yes, exactly. My grandmother was an immigrant as well (my grandfather was not) but they needed two salaries. And they were not a rarity. Housewife and mother + breadwinning father was a societal ideal but it wasn't a reality for everyone....

[@amadeaalmarada130]

That single mom of two boys seems so humble and down to earth. What a wonderful woman!

[@marcusinfinity9386]

I'm suspicious of why she's so single

[@violethaye6987]

I’m suspicious of your thought processes

[@yunahnam]

@@marcusinfinity9386 Maybe marriage just wasn't for her. Who knows. whatever. it's her choice.

[@marcusinfinity9386]

@@yunahnam those poor boys, punished by HER selfishness

[@phillipchan6044]

@@marcusinfinity9386 her partner chickened out, how is it her selfishness punishing her boys

[@adrianavaca4469]

This feels like this video is pinning women as responsible for this divide for not settling for irresponsible men instead of addressing the systemic inequality that keeps the working class from being able to ascend i.e. access to contraceptives, the increasing cost of education and child care

[@Rothkoface]

Agree with this

[@cannabudsguru]

Calling welders, shipbuilders and manual labourers in general uneducated was the moment I switched off. It takes a lot of skill, that is hard to master, that needs to be learned over many years to be a craftsman. Don’t call craftsman uneducated.

[@GGCanLove409]

Sounds like single mothers should join forces and get homes together. Raise their children, split the bills and expenses. Think like capitalist, two failing businesses do a merger and become successful again!

[@lildrippa1759]

That’s the most dumb thing I’ve ever heard

[@GGCanLove409]

@@lildrippa1759 "dumbest" is what I assume you meant. Typical coming from a man! So please tell me what's so dumb about women who have already been abandoned by men helping each other out instead of fighting each other over men who are clearly useless in their situation. You are dumb sir!

[@beyond12021]

I Love Your Thinking :-)

[@hepthegreat4005]

I agree. Sounds ideal, and is what I try to do as a single woman.

[@marissaojeda2700]

Yes! All women roommates, rotating chores, raising the children together like siblings. Bunk beds for all the rooms. Get a large van and take them out daily for play time. Would be a great idea

[@androidbey]

The Vietnamese Girl was blinking in Morse Code It says Help me Help me.

[@duc24101986]

haha

[@tasha3757]

Lol

[@oracle2478]

8:03 lol look at her reaction when he said they had no kids *YET*

[@pistolen87]

maybe her alternative in Vietnam was worse?

[@christopheraloo5121]

I thought I was the only one who noticed sth peculiar in her reaction or lack of it thereof

[@ataa69120]

The rule is simple: invest in yourself and your education so that you can mate with someone who is similar to you By doing this you will bring up healthy well balanced children who understand the value of unity and high education who will later on spread the same values to their off spring -don’t start a family if you are not mentally or emotionally and financially fit to take care of them -have a goal and purpose in life so that your kids could have a sense of legacy Wealth attract wealth Successful people attract successful people And sadly poor people attract poor people

[@streamsan580]

The thing is there are still will be gap between lower and higher class forever, since rich people don’t give birth that much, unlike lower class who breed like crazy rabbits 🐇

[@smoothbanana]

Perfect example of when common sense is not common. We should all exercise regularly, stretch and avoid alcohol too.

[@user-ih9dx7wj5n]

Exactly! Every generation should aspire a bit higher than the previous one. Thats how current Upper middle class got where they are now. It cannot happen without some sacrifice...Supporting kids is a sacrifice so have as many as you can afford to part with (money/Time/love)

[@KingRyanoles]

The dual income parent family is a bit of a trap IMO. My wife makes just enough to be considered middle class in America, and I’m a stay at home dad. It means we have to budget smart and sacrifice some things, but we are deeply invested in our son and his development. I was raised in a working class broken home and vowed not to repeat that. The cycle can be broken.

[@trishapellis]

Considering the cost of daycare these days, having one of the parents stay at home may actually be the wisest thing to do... Because if you're going to be working fulltime just to spend the entirety of that salary on daycare to compensate for the fact that you're not home, you may as well actually be there for your kid and bond with them. I am mostly glad to hear that you are willing to take that position instead of forcing your wife to do it. The stay-at-home parent could be either one, but it has to be their own choice. Congratulations on breaking the cycle. I don't want to say I'm proud of you as a random stranger, but it does warrant pride.

[@whitelutik]

​@trishapellis I'd need to make 5 bucks above minimum wage to be able to afford government subsidized daycare cost ($0 of income left after) where I live, or as its being sold by politicians as " " "the $15 a day daycare" " " 😂😂😂

[@banabachung4490]

I don't think this is a well researched issue. It's more a compilation of this and that manupilated to drive an agenda than a critical analysis.

[@juliandavidac]

True

[@meiko431]

Indeed

[@overcoercion590]

One look at who owns the economist should tell you all you need to know

[@Xob_Driesestig]

Exor?

[@TheJeremyKentBGross]

@@overcoercion590 who is that?

[@Claudio_Santos_1974]

It's videos like this that help us realise how out of touch the media is. The seductive narrator's voice, the dramatic music and humanizing interviews are there to lead its viewers to believe that the families have much choice in all of this. What they fail to mention is that the one-percenters, who rule the world and pay the advertisements that keep this media outlet afloat, are rigging the system to their own advantage and imposing on the poor people and middle class a very limited number of choices. Unfortunately, I'm not going to be alive to see these so called jornalists apologize for their contribution to this oppressive system and start speaking truth to power instead of doing their bidding. But I truly hope it happens eventually.

[@vengefulavenger1510]

They are known as presstitutes

[@terejov]

Noboby inthe video saidthat poor families choose so

[@pushista9322]

If you take off the responsibility from poor families, why not take it off rich ones? If the free will doesn't exist it doesn't exist for anyone

[@waynelast1685]

Well said, and agreed.

[@victoriashi7124]

It’s sneaky and subtle propaganda to make people confused and distracted from the truth

[@brittrblackwell]

My husband and I come from poor broken homes. It has been a struggle to break away from a life of poverty. It can be done! We are determined to change our family tree. We have 6 kids who we homeschool. I am giving them the stability and education I wish I had gotten. Because we are nowhere near rich (lower middle class) I invest my time in learning how to raise emotionally stable well educated children.

[@Derlet30]

Beautiful story! Thank you for sharing! And I agree with you 🙏

[@Efalonda]

Don't overcompensate. Homeschooling 6 children? You are making them grow up weird and thus alienating them from their peers.

[@TheBooty28]

You already made a mistake by having 6 kids.

[@vkrgfan]

The struggle could be cut in half by choosing to have less children. Sorry don’t mean to insult, I know a lot of people have different values maybe some coming from strong religious beliefs but if you think rationally today modern women have access to reliable contraception and don’t have to struggle raising multitude of children in poor financial situation.

[@MssSima]

@@FloresOrtodoxas is it working-moms-shaming?

[@possible1111]

I’m 26 and following the more traditional “1960s” model (by choice) and it seems to be working out fine for us. Living frugally and spending more time with my kids is well worth it to me, and I feel lucky to have found a man who shares that same outlook.

[@Brian_Friesen]

I've been married 24 years, raising 13 kids on a single income, and I feel very blessed. There are times when I do not have the markers of wealth that I see among my peers, but I wouldn't trade my life for theirs. The nuclear family is the best model no matter how much the culture hates on it. It is God's design.

[@Erin-rg3dw]

I think the key there is an agreeing partner. I've heard of many couples who struggle on some level with either both parents working or one parent staying home. Sometimes one stays home and misses their career or doesn't feel valued. Sometimes they both go back to work, but wish they could stay home with their child. To have a situation where both partners are in agreement and the financial situation works out is definitely a blessing.

[@Efalonda]

I hope he saves up for your retirement privately so you will not have a rough awakening when he runs off with a 19 year old.

[@amandabhandhel1388]

I don't have kids because it just never worked out for me, but if I did, I would have stayed home. If my husband runs off, such is life. If I have kids, I feel like my job as a mother and to society is to raise them right, and to me that means giving them parental attention. I think what you're doing is cool. I have a great job and a ton of freedom, and I would give it up and raise my own kids. I get where other ladies come from, too, but I like your way.

[@dcg590]

Not only traditional, the right way according to the Lord.

[@asdf951]

As one who realized how tough it is for single women to keep careers and lives in Korea' patriarchal system, I deeply admire you GoLee. But it's a shame that some translations are quite inappropriate and not representing her points. She's talking about society and system, not men.

[@Sp1n1985]

She meant men

[@Mica_T]

@@Sp1n1985 Social systems and traditions can also be reinforced by women, especially those from the older generations and especially in nations like S. Korea that have seen rapid growth and changes in wealth, social norms and traditions. What I'm curious to know is what the actual translation is.

[@Sp1n1985]

@@Mica_T OK? But whenever speaking about society, females solipsism kicks in And they're talking about men.

[@Mica_T]

Maybe in the US but I rarely hear this where I live. I only want to verify what the accurate translation is. Nothing more.

[@Sp1n1985]

@@Mica_T possibly the planet you currently reside on your females may have accountability. But regarding Earth girls. Unless specified they default blame men.

[@ashh1371]

When I was in middle school the other kids would assume I was from a rich family because my parents were married, I lived in a large house (instead of a trailer like most at my school), and my dad came to school events just as much as my mom. I never understood the logic behind this until I was much older. I grew up lower middle class but my upbringing and home life more closely reflect that of upper middle class children than lower. Fast forward and I’ve graduated college and have a decent job. I’ve been very fortunate compared to most of my peers. I can’t believe I’m exception and not the rule though.

[@Moniranan]

Yes, me too. My father worked with lower and upper middle class, he would observe how some families would raise their children and he was able to raise me with love.

[@kelis9416]

So this is not only about money but also education. Interesting!

[@classicalmusic2388]

I can relate to this because I'm one of four kids in a lower-middle-class family, although dad probably is more working class, and we all (the kids) have out of school activities like piano, cello, and drums classes, parents haven't divorced, and are together roughly for 20 yrs. And, yes, because we all have high grades, our parents are very much involved in our upbringing, classmates and peers have assumed we're a rich family.

[@Erin-rg3dw]

By high school, my family was mid-middle class: we had enough and my parents would scrimp so we could sometimes have the "big-ticket" things like going to summer camp. By that time, we had a fairly new house, mom worked part-time so she could be home with us more, and dad had been in his field for 30 years. We moved to an area where majority of the population was at/below the poverty line. Among my classmates, few had parents who were educated and still together, and they were the ones who took advanced classes and ended up going to college. The majority came from lower income households, most didn't have both parents under one roof (if both were around), and not many went to college or took advanced classes. My friends from lower income families thought we were rich, but we really weren't. While living there, I swore I'd get out and never go back. I go visit now, but that's it.

[@alias9025]

You are from a "rich" family.

[@sidewinder3781]

Agree with many of the commenters; inequality is an incredibly complex, dynamic measure with varied, equally dynamic catalysts. It’s very well documented that early childhood development is crucial, but that’s not something we can guarantee to every kid. Personally, I prefer content on solutions revolving around ensuring opportunity to the most people possible.

[@echelonrank3927]

this will work, but to get there you will have to machete a wide enough tunnel in the human meat wall of personal greed. excuse the graphic metaphors, im picturing huge bank security guards with no brain.

[@LA-cm9uo]

The reason south Koreans aren't having children has nothing to do with mismatched gender expectations. If a couple love eachother, they go through lengths to support one another, no matter what that means. So many south Korean couples are in heartbreak because of overtime culture and high living expenses.

[@micahluarez9289]

I was expecting a more in depth conclusion for an 18 minute video

[@davidbolha]

Sadly you're going to have to make your own research. 😞

[@matildamaher2650]

So true

[@SquizzMe]

The blonde British woman with the twins is a gem. Seems like a great friend to have.

[@emuriddle9364]

If only we had more of them.

[@erk44]

I could relate to the lady holding the toddler throwing a tantrum that swatted her in the face

[@heathercook691]

As someone who loves language learning, it’s really sad to see that it’s the families with money that can afford to send their kids to multilingual preschools. It’s hard to believe how expensive these preschools get.

[@noemizuniga-perez7601]

I grew up in a poor divorced family on welfare. Mom spoke no English and dad spoke very little, but enough to get by and on SSDI. My way out was the military and I took full advantage. I started my degree in the military and when I got out I finished it with the help of the GI Bill. My parents didn’t teach me this I found out on my own and decided I didn’t want to live the way I grew up I wanted more. Now I have my bachelors degree and married and our household combined income is over $80,000 a year and I’m teaching my kids what I learned and strive for a degree and career, not just a jobs and settle. It is possible to get out of poverty but you need to find was to get out of it by having goals to do better, not settle in poverty. There are so many programs and assistance out there that make it possible you just have to go find it and want a better life.

[@tamaramcrae1347]

South Korea seriously have issues overall: suicide rates, conservative views, man and women roles and age roles. This marrying from poor countries so the women can feed their families is sad. That 19 year old sacrificed her life and happiness just to help her family eat. The fact that this is still going on in 2019 is even more alarming.

[@UIAL570]

Tamara McRae conservative views are not a reason for issue. Just as liberalism isn’t

[@matovicmmilan]

Exactly! Letting in some foreign women is not the solution and I would've kicked her back to her family so she wouldn't have to suffer anymore!

[@yusufcagowayne1990]

Typical western women.. she thinks conservative views is the problem lol

[@majl9585]

I agree. In Japan it's similar though there is of course a lot of change in the younger generation. Many Japanese women I have talked to in their 30s are very unhappy with gender roles, but they don't want to speak up either because they think it's rude and selfish to demand things that you should be a given. :/

[@yohaneschristianp]

Salah Usufi This! +10000 Being conservative doesn’t mean you’re not open to ‘new’ things, it is being more selective to which values are better

[@WastedContender]

the title should be: "how low income families struggle under an increasing social inequality".

[@supersharda]

Bildertal Yes! Misleading title and conclusion

[@mme.veronica735]

Exactly! Correlation does not equal causation. There is a decrease in the decades old idea of a family and there is a rise in social inequality

[@AlexS-oj8qf]

Thing is, it's not that social inequality increased, but more poor people are being born everyday. Average poor family will have at least 3 children, and up to 10 in impoverished family. Meanwhile the rich often have only one or two child, some didn't even reproduce, leaving money into the hands of few, especially when both parent are rich. My father, for example, is the scion of his family. His uncle and aunt died childless, leaving their fortunes to my father and his siblings, who's also childless, which means that I'll inherit the fortune of at leas 5 people by the time my father passed away, and then I have inheritance from my mother too (they keep their money separate and both have their own income), which means that in the future, money will be concentrated in the hands of few as the rich often keep within themselves and they didn't reproduce and share their money around.

[@WastedContender]

@@AlexS-oj8qf in capitalism the final state will be: one person owning everything and all the others having nothing. Doesn't depend on reproduction preferences.

[@WastedContender]

@@mme.veronica735 true! its a shame that "the economist" can't figure out.

[@fatdadracing]

You want to give yourself and future kids and advantage in life? Step one: Stay in school and go as far as you can or learn a trade which requires schooling (think electrician). Step two: Don't have kids outside of wedlock. It seems pretty clearly documented that 2 parent homes make better lives and better kids by any reasonable metric. (earning power, incarceration rates, etc..) Step three: Stay out debt. That's it folks. The three secrets to success.

[@minervaowl8298]

Whelp most college students in the US are already in debt

[@AwkBlackGirl]

I get your points but life obstacles and/or the socioeconomic background you grew up on can keep you from that path. We also need a solution for individuals that ended up in bad situations, we can’t just leave them out to suffer. I sometimes wish the USA was a little more collective as a society

[@jaxongoble9987]

True, as much as I believe in the beauty and power of individualism, it’s just wrong to believe that someone can live in a society, benefit from it, and expect to give nothing back.

[@fatdadracing]

Jaxon Goble : Give nothing back? A self sufficient citizen is a net positive for all of society. They have jobs, pay taxes, buy homes, pay taxes. A productive citizen is also a consumer who supports the market economy and pays taxes. A productive citizen does burden society as a welfare recipient or become incarcerated. In other words, living a normal life is truly a blessing to the individual and society.

[@fatdadracing]

Oops. Meant to say : a productive citizen does not burden

[@1983maya]

The key take away from the whole thing is that irrespective of which class they come from, when fathers pay attention give love and are more involved in the lives of children, children succeed. Then these successful children marry other successful people coming from involved fathers and then have families of their own with involved fathers and grand parents.

[@romanengelbrecht6717]

i like that blonde chick with the veggie garden she seems so chilled, you can have a proper conversation with someone like that

[@pizzaroll2645]

Jay why u so angry?

[@ZainKhan-sm8gr]

@Jay you're the type of guy that the woman had to let go off because you didn't have the guts to face up to reality and support a family..

[@nintendo9231889]

She blamed men for societies ills, when society is to blame! See Jordan peterson, who says that "life is hard for everyone", no matter the cause.

[@eedragonr1576]

@@nintendo9231889 well I would pay no social security, benefits, welfare nothing to a man not paying for the child support. Because he's making the life harder for such a single mother with her twins. They are right - one income for three persons is clearly less than two incomes. Indeed single parents are generally in the official registered poverty.

[@d3r4g45]

@@eedragonr1576 what if she decides to leave him for no reason?

[@renatanovato9460]

The title and the beginning of this video are misleading and the conclusion has nothing to do with it. The social and economical gaps are increasing, but the "family" is not the cause of all of it. Wealthy families having a better education is a consequence of our economic system.

[@xythiera7255]

Kaptialismus woud do its jop if there werent lobbyismus and goverment giveing companys free bailout money every time the cry for help.

[@ingridberglund9790]

Thank you! I totally agree! Interesting topic but dangerously misleading message!

[@alexpotts6520]

"The family" is not the cause of all of it, but it's certainly a factor. (Like most problems in society, it has many causes, and all the time spent between people arguing with each other to determine a single target to blame is time spent not solving the problem.) If you have middle-class parents you are more likely to be middle-class yourself. This is because they can give their kids a head-start. And I don't see a way to solve this problem without stopping parents helping their kids. Do you want to go down that path?

[@OmzLaw]

If one of my students submitted this as their research presentation they'd receive an F instantly. Correlating topics together and saying they actually cause one another is poor journalism to say the least, not to mention dishonest reporting and forcing your own narrative. You have a responsibility towards your watchers. Don't take it so lightly.

[@pipebomber04]

Earning more causes inequality Raising and providing for a child well causes inequality Doing favors for others causes inequality Doing favors for yourself causes inequality Seriously people, the only way to solve inequality is if we all become robots moving together synchronized.

[@hananokuni2580]

The inequality will always be there.

[@DasGrosseFressen]

Oh wow... There is a correlation between inequality and academic performance? Who would have thought that?!

[@tarasivashchuk1973]

Inequality is the size of the gap between the rich and the poor so your statement really doesn't make sense. You're talking about likelihood of being poor, not inequality. Does education correlate with future success? Well, it certainly did with the past generation. That correlation is getting weaker and weaker.

[@DasGrosseFressen]

@@tarasivashchuk1973 I don't want likelihoods because then you need priors or at least a model and it's a mess for a youtube discussion (and I am not an economist)... If I fix the reference of the inequality to be 0 for the poorest, then the statement makes sense, what doesn't make sense is to talk about inequality in my statement without a reference point, there you are right. And anyway, how is the "likelihood of being poor" defined?

[@lordblazer]

it comes down to access to the jobs that pay well which require higher education...I mean you have people who finish high school and start a business, learn how to do everything via internet and are quite successful/happy. But these are acceptions, and more than likely those types come from Middle class and upper middle class families. Like Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg. Everyone is like "they're dropoouts and look at them now" and ignoring that Bill Gates literally had access to a freaking computer lab in the 60s/70s in an upper middle class family. this dude had every advantage. he couldn't have done that if he came from a poor family.. Zuckerberg's family put up a lot of money to get this company going. don't let people tell you myths of self-made men.. those don't exist and never had. very very few have done this in human history. most wealth is inherited wealth. even if it's something as small as your parents getting you a $2000 car, you have that wealth transfer advantage over even other people who are poorer than that.. It's a big deal and it changes how your life goes.

[@Deltasource]

Taras Ivashchuk the correlation is only getting weaker in relation to higher education, a lack of education (high school etc) still correlates with poverty.

[@shake6321]

Deltasource thank you for pointing this out. its easier than ever for anyone to be rich but almost everyone who is poor is uneducated.

[@SerCrumb]

The title is misleading, it's not "modern families" that cause the social inequality. It seems to me that is the deindustrialization without a plan, limited access to education and patriarchal views that keep the social inequality in place. It keeps saying that "working class" families and "middle class" ones have differences in raising their children, but the social inequality was already in place allowing for the differences to increase over time and be replicated in the newer generations.

[@squamish4244]

Yes, it's clickbaity and a 'blame everything on modern society' generic title.

[@nwabuking8830]

Life doesn’t make plans. Capitalism does make plans. Industries are created and Industries die, capitalism keeps marching on. Perhaps, we should concentrate on how (or if) skills can be created when Industries are about to die. Perhaps, everything happens randomly.

[@nintendo9231889]

Yes, the inequality is caused by society, not by the patriarchy or by poor men. The poor men left! Live tribally! Leave women!

[@VixxKong2]

"Patriarchal" huh? How?

[@pablocalderon9528]

You're 100% correct! 👏👏👏

[@kszaczyszcz]

Apparently it is easier to import women and teach them korean language and culture than teach a korean man to do some housework. Wow!

[@bestill365]

"Man I'm so glad I neglected my family so I could spend more time at work!" Said no one ever.

[@no_more_spamplease5121]

I once had a workmate who preferred to have multiple jobs just to avoid being too much time with his wife. (They were childless.) 2 years later, they got divorced, and he began to live with a woman who was a workmate too, and they had a child.

[@gregorybrew427]

That family is not middle class.

[@666yaoz]

Probably upper middle class

[@audriellaaudrentia3598]

Their upper rich families limits is bill gates 😂

[@LizThrash]

Didn't you know, you need to two parents that attended Harvard to be middle class in this country....

[@AsthanaMe-mp4wp]

There is tendency of lower middle class families to consider themselves as middle class and some times as upper middle class, it's hard to accept that many of them are not actually middle class. Middle class families have around USD 4000 to USD 10000 per month as their stable income

[@chavvy9074]

They probably are, middle class is a VERY wide range. It's literally anyone in the middle of the two extremes of poverty and multimillionaire status

[@rania3830]

Mother in-law classes should be available everywhere.

[@edithtorres25]

Change is hard even more so to people that is already past half their lifespans.

[@ocmetals4675]

only if daughter in law classes are available and taken by the mother-in-law

[@Haru-nee]

I think we need DIL/ SIL classes too. If you expect your child to marry, you need to learn to deal with their spouse.

[@leonamay8776]

Oh yes. Please.... 😅

[@chome4]

It takes two to make a marriage - the bride and her *mother*

[@PebbleBeachLife]

The South Korean woman fighting against traditional roles of woman doing housework and looking after children makes me extremely proud! You go girls! Live your lives to the fullest.

[@LegendoftheGalacticHero]

In certain countries , economy was what forced the “traditional” family model to disappear and not the other way around

[@72tubedmiaz]

Brilliant story but only half the story has been told You seem to make an association between increase equality to the down fall of nuclear family, but it’s economics that are driving this inequality. The gap has always been here, just made worse by growing economic inequality

[@lahabitaciondelatrapado4621]

I disagree The easiest example is divorce When you marry you share your income. Today divorces are more common (in my country they were forbidden 50 years ago) and that means that each individual makes a different income and lives in a different house

[@FISHCAKEZY]

I agree with you that economics is driving inequality- but this observation actually shows the video's position is correct. When nuclear families break up the kids end up with fewer resources available to them due to depending on one rather than two sources of income. This means after expenses on necessities like housing, food and utilities these single parent families will not be able to afford extra-curricular classes- unlike the girl who was already learning 5 languages in pre-school. Of course, there are exceptions but by definition they defy the norm.

[@MrGrenade121]

It’s more of a social perception than economics. Like the perception that people in our time can raise kids by themselves. The normalization of single family households and different households are wreaking havoc on a system built to support the nuclear household

[@Deltasource]

It also should be mentioned though the economics of today’s world has moved beyond that of nuclear families too. A nuclear family today by no means grants the same degree of economic stability than it did in the 60’s. Very few middle class professions (if any) allow for people to live comfortable and raise a family (with multiple children) on a single income. This is the nuclear family; 1 husband who works, 1 wife who raises the children and 3+ kids - the video said it themselves. Yet, in most western countries this dynamic puts you into poverty for the middle and lower class. We no longer live in an economic world for single income households to be secure. Dual income is the only way, but a dual income necessitates shared responsibilities over child raising (if you can’t afford child care). This is what is catalysing such social change (of equality) not the other way round, money changes society and it is doing just that.

[@thelaw3536]

@@Deltasource People live more comfortablely today than they ever did in the past. I'm poor and i had a tv, internet, and a smart phone.

[@UrsulaDorada]

Weird sort of twist on this video So poor people have less opportunity to "intensive parent" because they need to earn money, and that is somehow their fault? ffs

[@jeremy7372]

Did they ever pin the blame on poor people?? I'm pretty sure they're just pointing out that there is a growing problem.

[@UrsulaDorada]

@@jeremy7372 Yes, the growing problem is that people are getting poorer by the minute, as the wealth inequality skyrocket. Who do you think does not have the resources to properly parent a child? This whole video is about having time and resources, guess who has more free time and resources? yeah

[@kingDrAgOnZoRdS]

They chose to have the kid

[@osharedayz3762]

There is nothing responsible or adult about having kids if one can't afford proper upbringing! Also, breeding is neither a right nor a holy act; it is selfish & shallow at best!

[@2012Jessilene]

Intensive parenting! That's how I wish I grow my children when I have them.

[@abdullahyo]

I guess the most important statement here is that " the family is the basic building blocks of society" any thing that destroys the family, drugs, alcohol, prostitution, etc, will eventually destroy the society.

[@IDH2008]

The title of this video is very misleading, it’s mostly about class than it is about how modern families are raising their children. Not sure why they decided to go with that

[@nlmlkadhsu1868]

Clickbait

[@overcoercion590]

Communists always talk class, or failing that the oppression Olympics narrative

[@yohaneschristianp]

Over Coercion I don’t know, where did you get that kind of impressions?

[@ammanite]

It's The Economist, what do you expect? Lol

[@a2.squirrellette]

this feels like a teenager wrote it for a high school project.

[@RoniForeva]

Yeh im in 11:29 in and am not getting the point of this video

[@ShannonsBibleStudy]

@@RoniForeva It's all over the place.

[@chiii2793]

or some boomer-

[@matildamaher2650]

You could be right

[@tw8464]

Exactly.

[@damesurina2629]

For some reason listening to the 40 yr old farmer talk about her wife like he won her at the lottery made my stomach crawl up to my throat.

[@yunikage]

"Capitalism isn't the problem. You can trust us." -Capitalists

[@firstlast9916]

Socialism is the equal sharing of misery.

[@alexpotts6520]

This argument is content-free. Every proponent of every ideology says this about their ideology.

[@07Flash11MRC]

Exactly, @yunikage!

[@VeryPrivateGallery]

“We are paying for pre-school, what I paid for college.” Back in the old times colleges were for free in many countries. Nowadays college tuitions could easily reach some 60k USD a year... Nowadays education is a luxury product.

[@d3r4g45]

That is very bad.

[@rv292]

IT'S STILL FREE in many countries. Even European ones.

[@VeryPrivateGallery]

Rose Vieira I studied in two European countries. You just pay for matriculation and books, activities, semester card for transportation, and accommodation. It costs about 50% of a parent’s earning in Europe. So it’s cheaper to study in Europe, but still hard for parents to support their kids because they earn relatively less than their US counterparts.

[@Cortesevasive]

@@VeryPrivateGallery Nope its free, just pick a cheaper flat or live in a dormitory, education is literally coins .

[@VeryPrivateGallery]

C- I wish it could be cheaper. I spent 8 years in 5 different universities, graduated, but at a high cost. None of the schools I went offered dormitories. And not being able to work fulltime meanwhile, is also a huge opportunity cost.

[@mnati25]

The middle-class phenomenon is also here in Kenya preschool is more expensive than college. Crazy!

[@woolfulrebellion]

In Chile as well. The price of school is ridiculous

[@mnati25]

@@woolfulrebellion it seems like it's everywhere. I worry many people may be in perpetual debt in the pursuit of a better life.

[@vighdavid9495]

Same in central Europe. Preschool cost the same as college: its free.

[@woolfulrebellion]

@@mnati25 absolutely, and I'm pretty sure that's the plan.

[@eddykagia4212]

I keep saying the Kenyan Middle Class aids in the income inequality we see in Kenya. Very evident in Nairobi.

[@dreamfield92]

Picturing a middle class family as the only example of “rich” in comparison to the very abstractly explained “poor”, interesting choice right there

[@lewis7242]

So this video just ignored the fact that the root cause of this inequality isn't modern families, its the rising cost of living. Most media outlets will do anything but point to the actual cause of socio-economic strain which is corporate greed/record breaking profits.

[@tarasivashchuk1973]

Is it just me or that woman 's face at 7:45 just screaming of "I'm not sure I made the right decision?"

[@indrinita]

When you marry for money, you work for every cent.

[@meiko431]

@@indrinita meh....depends from individual to individual

[@lezel4swarts]

Shes probably abused

[@nzungu7773]

@@lezel4swarts or maybe she doesn't speak Korean

[@aped]

The Vietnamese girl is not happy.

[@felixxdenolo6793]

aped 21 year different wot do they talk about I mean to me a 5 year difference in early twenties is like worlds apart

[@kageyamareijikun]

aped she just wants Korean money

[@royrodgers3296]

This is just gross and I can’t get through it. I fear for my children. Don’t be fooled this is not ok people. Think of the children

[@davidbolha]

They only want 500 million peoole on the planet. 😎

[@tensaijuusan4653]

Anyone who thinks single mother families without a father in the home are the future.........is insane!

[@mooodswings]

The correct title is "How the destruction of public education and social services increase social inequality". Replace it and then throw your video in the garbage.

[@oizys6381]

Love how Jamie's twins keep interrupting her. They must be really close to her.

[@Hanaconda_Aquaponics]

This doesn't mention another aspect of families that is changing: the role of grandparents and other family members in child care. In the countries with an aging population and a problem with providing state pensions, governments are pushing the retirement age later and later. This means that when someone's kids get old enough to have children of their own, their parents are still at work and unable to provide childcare that would have been available in the past. Also, a scarcity in jobs forces couples to move far away from their families who may have been able to provide some childcare previously.

[@kelis9416]

What they forget to say is that intensive parenting and very early extra classes turns a kid into a depressive and anxious adult later (source: my experience). Balance must be found to let kids be kids

[@saffrons12]

I just kept waiting and waiting for a conclusion to be drawn but it never really materialized.

[@alexpotts6520]

I think it's quite revealing of how partisan the political content on KZbin is, that people are actively expecting to be told what to think, and are disappointed when they have to make up their own minds.

[@KristinaTheCoolGirl]

@@alexpotts6520 I don't think that is why people expect a conclusion. When you talk to people, you don't just lay out a series of facts. You tell them why you chose those facts so that they can tell you if your conclusion makes sense to them or not.

[@user-oz2bc3dp6e]

40years old Korean men wanted to marry 19years old…..

[@dandre3K]

Fat meat is greasy.

[@NookTommy]

Natasel because older women are full of red flags

[@shippoustuff]

@@NookTommy 🤢🤢🤮🤮

[@HelgaCavoli]

As would 40y old Korean women also prefer 19y old men?

[@serrael-182]

@@HelgaCavoli no she would prefer a 60 year old with 60 million and not a forty year old with normal income.

[@gabrielcastor5084]

I think the title is completely misleading, as it implies a false causality between being a modern family, and increasing the inequality gap.

[@satriaamiluhur622]

This video is rather surprising for me because i've never experienced the hardship like these. I don't exactly come from rich family, but family members have strong bond with each other. I married my first cousin and now live with parents in law (essentially my uncle and aunt). I and my wife work day jobs while my aunt takes care of my daughter at home. There's not much financial burden because living under the same roof we can share the bills together. We don't really like to hang out outside and spend much time at home with our daughter. This video makes me think that my world is so small and there's so much more things out there

[@gamer-ff6mh]

It is basically about the debt thing. One cannot debt their way out of poverty, but in many different ways direct and indirect debts are becoming popular, primarily due to loss of moderation. Families become the reverse of helpful when the members start becoming debt trapped. Once one individual gets debt trapped, slowly he drags the whole family into it.

[@taylortaylor5854]

You Married your cousin?!

[@kanegallagher9533]

This video can be summed up in the statement- none of this is normal. No matter how hard the economist tries. A sign of the decline of so called civilized societies.

[@davidbolha]

From order into chaos (& inversed). 😉 The common modus operandi of Revelation 3:9 & John 8:44 tribe.

[@pfmcoop]

@@davidbolha I’m sorry did you. Miss the part about domestic violence having declined sharply ? Is that order to you?

[@yasnyne]

The Vietnamese wife doesn’t look happy or interested in the husband.

[@rv292]

Her parents got the money, so she has no option but to go through with the sham.

[@thefuture5386]

He's Korean, what do you expect?

[@samanthahardy9903]

Working class parents have less time to spend with their kids because many have to work longer hours for minimum wage to be able to keep a roof over their heads and put food on the table. A lot can't afford extra activities for their kids and are too tired to for anything else other than work and housework.

[@Zikomo7]

$31K for preschool? I was gonna leave my kid with some Nick Jr Espanol and some Gerbers

[@87channels]

$31,000 a year for daycare?? And I thought my friend paying $5,200 a year was a lot... what do those parents even do for a living?

[@majl9585]

Thank you, I was really confused about this!

[@tuandarius4000]

I believe those couple were in their late 30s and already built solid financial that came from investment they made on early careers..It means they got enough saving for their kids education..they might have high paying jobs and still investing..not all wealth came from their salary alone.Poor financial management also can lead to bankruptcy or poverty even for the upper middle class.

[@elgooges]

Tech "start-up"?

[@ThisOneWillHelp]

Not that hard to do... my kids daycare was $8.5 an hour. He went 9 hours a day, 5 days a week (I worked 8 hrs plus travel time). At 50 weeks a year this is just over $19k a year and his schooling was considered quite cheap as we live in an affordable area.

[@anastasia10017]

I dont know why you are surprised. it has been like this for over 20 years.

[@JP-uq4ii]

A lot of disturbing things in one video.

[@trollingisasport]

Check your inbox for one more disturbing thing...

[@reno.zed1]

Or your mirror :-)

[@davidbolha]

End Times

[@ll2nycell]

Im confused as to why you chose to compare women who finished university with women who didnt finish high school? Isnt that too extreme of a comparison?

[@MMircea]

I'm not bothered about people doing what they want with their lives. I am bothered though about how modern workplaces regard family life as something to be easily disposed of

[@enochbrown8178]

"50 years ago, families didn't look like this." Try twenty years ago, families didn't look like this.

[@jessicacharlesson5198]

Lol true but sad

[@davidbolha]

"We cortupt in order to rule." (Guiseppe Mazzini)

[@vooteimer1234]

If the Economist would admit its extreme bias, itd be less laughable. As a student of Economics, this rag disgusts me

[@patriciabrown2962]

Truth! Maybe if they looked at fiscal and social supports for fatherless families that started in the sixties and seventies we could find a root cause or two. Legal changes meant to support mothers whose HUSBANDS deserted or divorced them became the 40-75 percent illegitimacy rates for single women. It is the fast track to lifelong poverty for the women and her kids. Poor kids have less stimulation and attention, do poorly in school due to this and self selection of less "clever" parents creating them by poor planning and lack of ambition.....rinse and repeat. The liberal left hand. - wrings over the inevitable outcome and ignores a HUGE generational cause of poverty!

[@jessicacharlesson5198]

What is their bias, like I don’t understand what they want from the video, can you explain.

[@chiii2793]

The thing is I feel that they are biased but I don't really get their point- like at all

[@KarlaDayelin]

I just had a highschool economic class and from what I learned in those 4 months I could point out the many, many, things wrong with this video.

[@KarlaDayelin]

chiii Yeah, Is like they are trying to say that the modern families are a problem but are nit even bravery enough to say their point. I mean, they shouldn’t because their point is mislead, but from a composition point lf view is not even well done.

[@sharky5874]

This is ridiculous, the government is the reason there’s so much inequity people can barely afford to even have a family nowadays

[@gspaulsson]

This is anecdotal, but it may mean something. My great grandparents were wealthy industrialists who lost everything in the Russian Revolution. My mother came out of WWI out of a concentration camp with not even the shirt on her back She married, I was born, they were divorced, we moved to the UK. My mother worked as a typist at Cook's travel bureau for 7 pounds a week. We lived in a single room with a hot plate that cost 3 pounds a week. She couldn't afford babysitters, so I spent a lot of time wandering around in London, in the Exhibition Road museums and a public library. I got a scholarship to a prep school, but after a year my mother remarried and we moved to Canada, where we had a middle class sort of life. I was bored in high school and got middling grades until the last year when it counted. Then I got a minor scholarship and with a lot of student loans and summer jobs I eked out a BA. It was the 60s, and there were many more exciting things going on than school. It was also fashionably hip to disdain the system, so I didn't even show up for my graduation. Then I got a job in IT, was married three times with a son and a step-daughter. When my son went off to university, I began taking grad courses, got an MA in history then went to Oxford on a scholarship and earned a D.Phil. I had quite a meteoric career in academia, until some guy with an axe to grind planted disinformation to the effect that I'm a Holocaust deni. Actually I'm the son of a Holocaust survivor, the author of an award winning book, and two of my articles were reprinted in an anthology of "the most significant articles on the Holocaust published in the past 60 years"/. But with that kind of stuff going around, my career was toast. Now I live on a poverty-line pension. If there's a moral to this, it's in Ecclesiastes: "The race is not to the swift nor the battle to the strong, but time and chance happeneth to them all."

[@MB-dp1rj]

I just read your "comment"...thanks for sharing. Hope you are well and indeed, the quote from Ecclesiastes is on point.

[@MVanDamm]

And in just 20 years, South Korea became a place where finding an apartment got really easy.

[@capsulamental]

I believe immigration will sure help to balance their population

[@casstsj]

P. C but still many Koreans resist immigrants. They think that they steal jobs from Koreans because fresh graduates in Korea still have a hard time finding jobs.

[@sankaranarayanan831]

How? Can you explain

[@rebeccabarlow4383]

'Ahh get in! Fetching me cucumbers cause they're awesome!' made me smile so much! It's the quality of parenting not the amount or gender or income of parents that makes a happy child in my opinion

[@NightinGal89]

Fr her kids seem to be healthy

[@12bluering]

why made u smile?

[@fazarsargani177]

I think the correct title of this video should be "the impact of social inequalities on modern families"

[@TheMan00007]

This reminded me of the intro from Idiocracy. Educated parents take the time to educate their kids and don't have more than they can handle. While uneducated ones just go and have a lot of kids and let society take care of them.

[@julianam.v.3210]

During the entire video I kept thinking "ok, the problem isn't modern families, the problem is capitalism". Kinda obvious.

[@mahanemahn8098]

and communism is better right, mass starvation, everything just grey, and probably these modern families wouldnt even be existing, because you wouldn't have time to think, cuz you'd be working in a freaking mine.

[@FreyaEinde]

mahane mahn Theres a middle ground between capitalism and communism and we should strive to get there instead of assuming being critical of one is an instant slide into the other.

[@itslene]

@@FreyaEinde we live in that middle ground right now

[@julianam.v.3210]

@@FreyaEinde nah, we are already in the middle ground. The extreme of capitalism is fascism and anything in the capitalist range is based on exploration and poverty. We have to destroy capitalism completely and then build a system made for the people, not for the rich. Reforming capitalism is just finding new, "kinder", ways for us to be robbed and killed.

[@UltimateAlgorithm]

@@julianam.v.3210 you have any alternatives that work?

[@randomuploadsism]

The video of that man beating his wife as he child watched screaming was horrifying :(

[@eedragonr1576]

That woman better take her children and run away to a safe place. Some day their children will step forward to defend their mother against their father and it will be worse.

[@polypus74]

@Julia A shhh, you're fudging the narrative

[@polypus74]

@Julia A didn't you get the memo, narratives are just power plays ;)

[@pushista9322]

Half of mothers beat their kids to some degree.

[@pushista9322]

@Julia A you can google child abuse

[@madisonmakepeace1734]

Lots of interesting information in this video but I don't think middle-class families are to blame. Especially in Canada where we don't have many private schools. I also think it's really sexist to frame women being educated and having more technology as a bad thing. I think you can draw attention to the barriers families living in poverty face without putting down families with the means to live a comfortable life. All kids deserve parents who pay attention to them, and we need to focus more on improving working conditions for those living in poverty rather than putting down people who live comfortable lives.

[@gretareinarsson7461]

This shows why equal level of education for all is so important.