How My Mom Made Me Hate Islam

A raw story of how religion turned a mother's love into fear and control. From physical abuse to emotional manipulation, this is a journey of breaking free from religious and cultural chains.
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[@chrisazure1624]

Dad failed him as well. He left him in that situation.

[@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036]

"..that situation"? How about educating yourself, trying to understand what it's like being a female/male literally brainwashed and trapped in the Islamic faith - before you venture into a 'diagnosis' of the mother in this particular case?

[@chrisazure1624]

@@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036 I have. I have a master's degree in psychology. While i detest islam, his mother had psychological issues on top of it all. Why so defensive?

[@iridoscyclitis]

@@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036 "trying to understand what it's like being a female/male literally brainwashed and trapped in the Islamic faith" You can't use Islam to explain away all of the mom's behavior. She would have likely just used something else if it weren't for Islam honestly.

[@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036]

@@chrisazure1624 Doctorate in psychology here - and, I was taught that we don't diagnose someone we've never seen/spoken to in person, before I even received my master's degree. How does having a psychology degree equal one's knowledge of a religion - especially, a religion one doesn't practice? It doesn't. Only this young man knows what went on at home, before his parent's divorce. Perhaps, the father was a total jerk? And, no excuses for the mother's behavior, whatsoever. Once you read the Qur'an/Hadiths (as someone that has been taught to apply common sense and critical thinking skills...) and you truly understand what it is you're reading, the faith has lost its appeal - if there was any there to begin with. Defensive? I think not. I simply disagree with your approach and conclusion.

[@chrisazure1624]

@@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036 You BPD? You seem like it. Very reactionary. There are many good muzlim parents. This isn't definitive from their religion, although it teaches horrible things. His father failed him regardless.

[@Artemidia]

Poor man. The level of indoctrination and suffering. I hope he is free and happy now

[@mastercrossing]

I'm glad I left islam

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

Me too🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@eileenspamer-kw3kz]

[@lisadabbs2181]

Just imagine how liberating it must feel, to finally be able to get rid of the monkey of islam on your back.

[@ankitanandy6076]

abusers often find their shields in religion. this is universal.

[@jami7772]

Yes they have the assurance of a verse (interpreted correctly or misinterpreted) to justify their actions which is completely wrong. To abuse a child on this way shows a distinct lack of basic humanity.

[@el_killorcure]

​@@jami7772No verse in the Bible condones abuse (not to Christians nor Jews). The Quran however...

[@holyarmor578]

Especially islam

[@RosalinaCastro-o8b]

That is not a mother,that's the devil itself.

[@helendancelot]

A desperately unhappy traumatized woman

[@michelepascoe6068]

​@@helendancelotyes. But no excuses for her violent actions and words. She was helpless to object to the abuse of her father and perhaps of her husband - he abandoned her at least - but she took it out on her helpless child.

[@Diana-yn2ho]

Nothing wrong in honoring or respecting your parents. The problem is, if and when there is an abusive parent. In the West, the mother of this young man would be arrested for child abuse. She had no right to take her anger out on her child which she harbored against her father and possibly her husband. It is not the child's fault. Good thing he left them.

[@michelepascoe6068]

He did wrong leaving his son.

[@Carlie_flower]

I think OP meant good thing this man left his mother and uncles. You are right though, his father failed him too.​@@michelepascoe6068

[@freeyourmind7538]

I getcha, parenting like this just causes harm and suffering We need to teach people that consensual non reproductive incest is perfectly fine, this can help alleviate grudge between family members. This usually helps traditional couples too, they argue, they have make up sex and feel okay afterwards. Sometimes releasing that angery tension and getting a good massage after is all one needs in life and a fat beef burger with melted cheese and a cigar after make up sex.... perfect ❤❤❤

[@michelepascoe6068]

@@freeyourmind7538 you creep! Incest is never fine, and even if it seems consensual, there will almost certainly be a power imbalance and coercion.

[@Diana-yn2ho]

​@@michelepascoe6068 - Yes, if he knew what kind of treatment his son was receiving from his mother. If he wasn't the abusive type of parent, of course he should have taken his son away from his mother. Life and suffering means nothing in those cultures. Mo's religion does not promote charity, kindness and compassion towards others who are suffering as in Judeo-Christianity.

[@maya8792]

I can not even listen to this... I am a mother and this just breaks my heart. So happy you got out of this cycle of family violence.

[@Ex-MuslimTestimonies]

Absolutely sick what family members can do to each other. In the Netherlands a Syrian father unalived his daughter for becoming to westernised….😱

[@Mupyeong]

Daily business. A lot of women that are unalived in the western world are femicides committer by Muslims.

[@Tragic.Kingdom]

But yet they move to the west

[@iridoscyclitis]

@@Tragic.Kingdom It's not hypocrisy because most immigrants are not leaving their home countries for the culture or liberties of Western countries. They are leaving for the political and economic stability. Yes, I know they're both linked and having no separation of religion and state or a significant influence of religion on state hurts it but it's an important distinction to make.

[@agnesmichel1286]

Well, to unalive is a new english verb for me !

[@popsy5676]

​@@agnesmichel1286otherwise KZbin will block your comments.

[@kerenfarhi5024]

My mom was the same way. I run away from my family two years ago, I'm still collecting the pieces. Stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@readyforknowing3009]

I am sorry to hear this🙏😓😢. I pray you overcome your tribulations & attain pure happiness & peace.

[@Brigitte619]

Also read Yasmine Mohammed’s book “Unveiled”.

[@MarkAffeltranger]

Her book is heartbreaking. Well written, but heartbreaking.

[@Brigitte619]

@@MarkAffeltranger She has come so far and is so well spoken, a treasure.

[@balsarmy]

That is sad. It is hard to heal from this. I hope he heal his soul and mind. Bad and evil things are everywhere. People try to live in war and all. Find things you like and follow path of love. Dont repeat evil path of hate.

[@jooseppib1082]

Just stopped by to wish you well and salute your bravery.

[@ivfchic3316]

So sorry you had to go through this, you did suffer for your mum, so glad you realised that had nothing to do with you!

[@dyak4284]

Watching from Kuching Borneo

[@isaT]

I wonder sometimes, if muslim women are so harsh or even abusive with their children because they were forced into marriage and forced to have children, with often very abusive husbands. (No excuse of course)

[@blueStarKitt7924]

Very good question.🤔

[@em499]

Yes, the cylcle of abuse. On the atheist sub Reddit, there was van article about religious fundamentalism caused by brain damage (anything can cause brain damage mistreatment, grape,... )

[@chichiboypumpi]

This happens in all ideologies/religion, I was raised Catholic and witnessed god-complex, narcissism not only from my parents but also from other pretentious fanatics, most good Christians are often converts. Still, smart people become apostates, wise men avoid islam as if it were a diseasedturd.

[@readyforknowing3009]

Only abrahamaic religions support this. NOT religions from the Indian subcontinent.

[@millannegarcia7450]

I'm so sorry for what he went through, and his later realization left me in shock

[@mysotiras21]

Horrifying but enlightening testimony. What sort of a mother treats a child in this cruel way? And if she did it because of Islam (which does advocate beating children), then it is no wonder that this man rejected that religion as an adult.

[@agnesmichel1286]

To be respected by their children parents should deserve this respect. Abusive parents deserve no respect. Religions too often cover unacceptable behaviours.

[@holyarmor578]

They all hated him became quran says you are of your father. So they saw him as an exact copy of the father because of islam.

[@desperado_777]

Abusers like that should be in jail, but pretty tenuous trying to drag 'Islam' into it, I have never heard anyone quote Quran 17:23 to justify such abuse

[@ВладимирПутин-ю9р7я]

Same I'm 15 years old but I'm tired of "fake praying" I'm just tired and i can't leave islam i would be a burden my father will be so angry if i miss one prayer just imagine how angry he will be if i left islam i love him to death but religion just poisons everything

[@mysotiras21]

When you are an adult, get out on your own. Then you will be free of Islam as well. Sounds like you have already left the religion in your heart.

[@NoneNone-zg1cv]

It feels like this because you’re a few years away, but it will pass quickly and you will be truly of your own will. Don’t worry, you will be ok in the end. Find peace in what you can do, you can also have G-d in your heart even if it’s not Allah; should you choose.

[@ВладимирПутин-ю9р7я]

@@mysotiras21 I have left it when I was around 12-13 years old

[@ВладимирПутин-ю9р7я]

@@NoneNone-zg1cv mark my words I will

[@mysotiras21]

@@ВладимирПутин-ю9р7я , good! You are a wise child, then. Wishing you all the best.

[@saiftaher2210]

I cannot overstress how impressive it is for someone as old as you to leave Islam. I'm barely 20 and it took me 5 years of being knee-deep in doubts before I was finally able to cut islam out of my life. Not just your age, but after fervently promoting Islam for 15 years as well?? I am so proud of you boss. I cannot, even in my wildest dreams, imagine my parents (who are roughly as old as you are) ever making that move. They've never learnt to critically think and scrutinize their religion. Religion and THINKING seem to reside in different compartments of their minds, with no overlap whatsoever...

[@saraoostrum300]

Sick...

[@praisegod5366]

Hello Abdullah I am a convert to Christianity. Would u be interested in a half hr program with me?

[@NicholasNappi]

I’m sorry about your situation. It’s truly sad. There are abusive parents and horrible parents in every religion and every culture. Honestly I don’t believe it’s Islams fault there are a lot of Muslim people who are extremists and they twist words and hurt others. It is unfortunate that your mother was abused it’s not okay for her to use the Quran to justify abuse and violence towards you. Allah is a forgiving god and how your mom treated you is not Allah’s teaching. Yes Islam believes in justice but not injustice and cruelty for no reason whatsoever. I am sorry for your experience. I hope it gets better for you.

[@momo19991]

I hope he can get therapy and overcome all the emotional and physical abuse from his childhood. It affects his relationships going forward.

[@newcivilisation]

That's terrible. She sounds like she has NPD. Have you looked into that? The Risalat al-Huquq attributed to 'Ali Zayn al-'Abideen, son of Husayn ibn 'Ali, says that parental rights depend upon parental responsibilities and that children have to be treated with compassion; but culturally, the respect due to parents mentioned in Islam is heavily abused by parents. Surah Luqman says to follow Islam, but if your parents make you do something unIslamic then don't follow them (e.g. tolerating abuse is unIslamic).

[@helendancelot]

I don't think the mother had much choice over having children.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

Yeah, but that boy paid for that.😢😢😢

[@starlightHT]

This story about Abraham is very confusing, it was definitely taken from the Quran....

[@mysotiras21]

Yes. The stories the Qur'an plagiarized from the Bible are so garbled that they care incoherent.

[@JPabloRL]

My mother made me hate Catholicism.

[@bruceyawen6160]

My experience is that women who beat their children never wanted kids in the first place and thus vent their anger on them at the first given chance

[@CaroAbebe]

I knew a woman who’d been beaten and sadistically abused as a child. As a mother, she was unpredictable and difficult, but she did have the self awareness to stop that vicious cycle. She did NOT beat her children because she did not want her children to go through the same things she had. I greatly admired that woman. She came from a poor background, had little education, no access to therapy. But she had love for her children and the will to make their lives slightly better than her life had been.

[@chr_my]

It's one thing to be beaten and abused by thugs or by prison guards - even if it was dreadful it kind of fades with time (though some of it remains in you). But when you get abused by your parents it really undermines you, it scars you forever, even if you understand it all. But we can heal and recover, I'm sure of it.

[@proverbs2522]

Not God, the devil. Al lah is just another name for the devil.

[@JohnStopman]

Yes, allah's love is conditional and that's because human love is conditional: which is a behavior allah has in common with us. Although the qur'an claims allah has nothing in common with creation, his behavior clearly contradicts that. Claiming allah is infinite only makes things worse for islam because an infinite God ought to love infinitely (meaning: UNconditionally), and the same ought to be true for God's peace. But no, when you do no do what he wants and don't ask for forgiveness, you'll burn alive in hell for an eternity (which is an act of violence, proving that allah's peace is finite, not infinite)...

[@emptybucket1988]

And how did he benefit from all that domestic violence and what good did it do

[@amandadewet4022]

Watch ps Chris Oyakhilome and find the God who loves you unconditionally and rescues you❤

[@helendancelot]

He escaped....the mother couldn't

[@annafirth6738]

Is that the version of the Abraham story from the Quoran? Because it's very odd.

[@villapulla]

Yeah I noticed the same

[@kalinaribic6383]

This also happens in the Christian community as well. When in the Christian household children are being abused by the parents and when they try to seek help from the adult family members, their teachers, the authorities or even their own community, the very same people that the children were supposed to trust are justifying the cruelty by saying nonsense like:" Spare the rod, spoil the child" and "You must always worship, love, honour and obey your parents just like how you must always worship, love, honour and obey God." and start quoting the Bible to make their idiotic ranting valid.

[@mysotiras21]

Actually, in the west if Christian children report abuse by their parents, teachers and other adults will turn the matter over to the government. It is illegal to abuse children.

[@michelepascoe6068]

Five mothers who can't love: * drug/alcohol addict * smothering mother who over-protects and doesn't want her child to ever leave her, even as an adult * mother who knows her child is being abused and doesn't rescue them but looks away * narcissistic mother * mother who neglects or abuses her child physically. All abuse emotionally and psychologically as well.

[@michelepascoe6068]

So sorry you had a mother like that. You endured such abuse: physical, emotional, psychological and religious abuse. You deserved to be loved without having to earn it. She chose the dark, evil side, in her pain.

[@manuelajager8517]

Big hug. 😔

[@19Zee]

Why did you suddenly started behaving like ass of on asadullah channel when he start attacking ur position because before that you were were aggressive.

[@earthmuthoni8558]

Your mom had broken heart , that's why your mom acted like that, Jesus said he has come to heal the broken hearted. Let her know about Jesus and she will be healed.

[@popsy5676]

Makes me think of the story of Lale Gül, a famous ex muslim writer in the Netherlands.

[@nemoscriptura]

Ah yes, the wonderful islamic parenting

[@LightofHoliness]

come to Jesus, Allah cant do anything for you

[@choti2268]

She is having psychological problems

[@choti2268]

After age 7 the boy should go to live with father

[@sarasohaib6765]

i always says one word in childhood new mother not father

[@lilalovenoor1859]

What is his name? This is sad

[@Dinobs8089]

As a muslim this is so sad

[@readyforknowing3009]

😓😢

[@shingAMarie]

if what other people say or do shape your thinking on whether something is true or not like a religion or a philosophy then you’re just basically saying that you are controlled by your emotions and not by your reason and logic. adults shouldn’t act or think this way that’s just being simple minded and lacking independent thinking skills. An idea is good or bad on its own and not because of how other people treat you.

[@mysotiras21]

BTw, Qur'an 17:23 does NOT say to "honor" your parents, only to be good to them. The command to honor your parents is found in the Bible.

[@MustAfaalik]

Excellent unbiased testimony addressing the Abrahamic faiths' failure to formulate a religion & code of ethics that is both universal & valid for all humanity regardless of creed/atheist, race, culture or gender/LBGTQI+. Refer to the five precepts for a happy, noble & spiritual life.🙏

[@mysotiras21]

This is a failure of ISLAM. And Islam is NOT an Abrahamic faith, just a pretender.

[@sharonthompson8061]

I hope this man can access and read the Gospels (New Testament). Peace be with people of goodwill. 🙏🏻🤗

[@zealousepileptic2690]

so he can be enamoured with more false books?

[@iridoscyclitis]

​@@zealousepileptic2690 Other religious people are always present in these comments sections, all ironically not realizing their faiths are also parts of the problem just for other individuals. Not many of them get called out, thank you for calling this one out!

[@iridoscyclitis]

NGL the title and thumbnail really feed into the stereotype that people have of exmuslims just disliking Islam because of abuse or frustrations with family, unfortunately to invalidate the valid criticisms of Islam out there.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Yeah. But it's okay to feel this way if you were abused. Especially if it was religiously motivated

[@wallydee8398]

Parents are ruining their children's lives daily (in the name of Islam/ religion). It's also a very common occurrence in western countries (I'm a victim in Canada). If the abuse stems from religious teachings, then I don't think it takes away from the original arguments, rather it could only strengthen/ support them. I think ex-muslims need to start speaking out more about their experiences. I did not leave Islam because of my personal experiences. But, what my family did to me, led me to start studying Islam on a deeper level, and that's when I started to understand just how vile of a religion Islam truly is, and realized how my family was able to justify abusing me for many, many years.

[@iridoscyclitis]

@@FriendlyExmuslim The title should not be "How My Mom Made Me Hate Islam" then because the issue was not the mom, it was Islam.

[@iridoscyclitis]

@@wallydee8398 The title should not be "How My Mom Made Me Hate Islam" then because the issue was not the mom, it was Islam.

[@wallydee8398]

@@iridoscyclitis I understand what you're saying. It technically is a false equivocation (from your perspective). But it could also be valid from someone else's subjective experiences. There are millions of people in the world that are suffering by the hands of the followers of Islam. The followers are following the teachings of the religion. Islam is not a threat unless its followers practices its teachings.

[@jamesjameson4303]

Although I am not religious I have looked into many religions and Islam has got to be the worst one around. It is a mixture of cult, spirituality and authoritarianism to the extreme. Your mother was someone incapable of rising above the indoctrination and probably buried her pain in it as she was taking it out on you instead of islam. Nevertheless at least something good came out of all the brutality you suffered and that that is you left Islam. I hope you found peace (as if anyone really does anyway?).

[@xena83]

It's so sad and devastating to hear, as a hypnotherapist I suggest to go to one hypnotherapist and just get rid of this trauma or any other trauma that is still there.

[@markeden767]

🙏🙏🙏

[@YtUser-c1c]

It may be a sad thing but on the other hand, if that is what made you leave Islam, it served a purpose nonetheless. I hope you are doing well now and have been able to work through all this.🫶🇳🇱