How NoFap Helped Me Get Into Tech

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@marcchami8851 Жыл бұрын

"its way better to spend time sucking on good things, then spending time on bad habits" - well said!!

@thetruthsayer8347 Жыл бұрын

Hard Pause!!!!

@Zondels Жыл бұрын

It is not always. This video is referring to entertainment as bad habits. While if done too much, they do in fact become that but so does everything, even doing "good things". It does good to you to take a break and entertain yourself by going out with friends, playing video games etc, especially after a long day, if you just don't do it too much. Also one thing I have noticed is that if I do what I believe was referred to as "stealth learning" in this video (meaning watching tutorials, reading manuals and other ways of learning something without actually trying to learn it 100%), I get burned out waaaay faster and doing it becomes painful even tho it was really fun before. That's why it is just important to have breaks and sometimes just do literally nothing.

@marcchami8851 Жыл бұрын

@@Zondels everyone read this too

@slayerzerg Жыл бұрын

is it not better to spend time sucking on bad things, then spending time on good habits?!

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

NoFap is pseudoscience. There is no evidence that nofap helps you with anything. NoFap claims are worse than what flat Earthers say. Only a person that slept in biology classes in school can become NoFap. NoFap was started as a sarcastic joke by some kid and it was then taken seriously by uneducated, guillible people and religious crazies. You can't be addicted to masturbation In order for something to be called an addiction it needs to have a widrawal effect, it needs to make your brain physically dependent on it and it needs to interfere with your normal daily functioning. Masturbation doesn't do either one of these three things. Also, there is nothing wrong with having a lot of sexual partners before marriage. In order for behavior to be immoral it needs to have negative effect on society. If everyone has a lot of sexual partners before marriage and uses contraceptives there are no unwanted pregnancies, there is no spreading of diseases there is no negative effect on society. Have sex, if you want to have a lot of sexual partners before marriage, or if that simply happens because you break up often then go for it. If you want to masturbate go for it. There is nothing wrong with either of these things

@bakermrad Жыл бұрын

I swear a couple of hours ago I was thinking of starting nofap and admitting my addiction so I can start fixing it. And boom you uploaded this, I guess that's a sign for me to take this seriously this time. Thank you so much you are the best.

@Just4Pro1 Жыл бұрын

chill down. its all about youtube algorithms, not a sign haha

@kehan6252 Жыл бұрын

bro it was the same for me. Whether it's the youtube algorithm or not, this is definitely a sign that we might actually make it this time

@GodofStories Жыл бұрын

I just thought this too. Not just no fap, but controlling my distractions in other ways so I can grow as a software dev.

@GodofStories Жыл бұрын

@@Just4Pro1 the algo sometimes does be reading our minds.

@bcampera Жыл бұрын

You can do it!

@somerandomguy001 Жыл бұрын

"it helped me change my mindset from expecting good things to working on them every chance I get" couldn't have been said better. love to see you discuss about self-improvement and mental health. incredible content as always bigbox 🙌🙌

@animeOjisan69 Жыл бұрын

this line has to be written in golden ink in modern philosophy

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

@Erisu-wg1hg Жыл бұрын

best video for me

@dosomestuff1949 Жыл бұрын

I don’t understand this. Work just for the sake of putting urself through pain?

@somerandomguy001 Жыл бұрын

@@dosomestuff1949 exactly.

@jaredhead9503 Жыл бұрын

To people that are inspired by this video. Remember that quitting takes multiple tries. I almost guarantee you will fail breaking your addiction for months. As long as you try again and again, you will get further and further. The key is to do your best to forget it exists. Whenever a thought of engaging in your addiction again enters your mind, do your best to block it out and distract yourself. This will teach your brain to forget it and the number of thoughts related to your addiction will start to decrease. At the start you will more than likely not be able to handle the torrent of thoughts and feelings, but the more you practice resisting that you will get stronger. It is okay to fail, make sure you do not discredit the work you did before your relapse because that work is the MOST important part for beating your addiction. That was when things were hardest and you fought anyway. The more you fight the stronger you get and the easier resisting the thoughts and compulsions become. Eventually you will have the required willpower to fight off those thoughts as they lessen over time. This leads to place where you are stronger than your thoughts. There is a tipping point where your thoughts lessen and your willpower is strong enough that you will win the battle every time. In so doing, you also get stronger at resisting other things. I found that when I quit porn I also quit biting my nails at the same time. I found myself wanting to find other things to resist like over-indulging in KZbin videos. It becomes a muscle in itself to build over time and the results are astonishing. The practice of resisting our desires helps us become more conscious of our subconscious decisions thereby giving us more control over our actions and the future of our lives. I also completely agree with the idea of "Work without purpose" that is one of the hardest things to do especially growing up in these times. The way I phrased it when I found it was "do things for no reason" crazy that we came to the exact same idea lol. Probably cuz it is just so important and true.

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

@S_U_M_E_R 9 ай бұрын

underrated comment, i appreciate it a lot

@easywhaler2387 Жыл бұрын

AIN'T NO WAY YOU POSTED THIS IN NOT NOVEMBER (jokes aside nice video i applaud your bravery)

@japz321 Жыл бұрын

i think consistency is also one of the key in becoming better but also one of the hardest to maintain, you get better in programming if you constantly do programming activities, the hard part is making it enjoyable especially if you're bombarded by errors while you're still a beginner (im still even struggling at this part)

@ten_cents Жыл бұрын

throw yourself at them(read and excruciatingly decipher them) until you get jaded

@user-th2cp8uh8r Жыл бұрын

consistency without having fun doing it , leads you to a burnout(or maybe just for me). Im currently in my 2nd week not coding anything because I've decided to take a break and learned a new hobby(gardening XD). In my opinion, consistency is really hard when you experience no pressure and fun when practicing. All I had was practicing to code and solve programming problems when making projects but once I took a break, I begun to notice other things(outside world). Just try to go outside in your breaktime or dayoffs and forget about programming.

@MrXdawg Жыл бұрын

@@user-th2cp8uh8r Hard agree, some people learn better taking breaks. I personally need weekends off to stay consistent, If I force myself into an everyday coding routine I get burnt out

@Ariaa76 Жыл бұрын

imo i feel like figuring out first and knowing yourself would make everything just much easier. if you're serious about something just don't talk to anyone about it, do it yourself and grind. cuz i learned as soon as i fking talk about my plans or passions either the whole universe collapses on me or the pressure builds up so much that the passion and excitement you've had in the beginnign disappears so so quickly. delayed gratification is something he mentioned, (still not there yet) but took me like 25 years to learn this... keep up the discipline and do NOT lose your focus and goal. if you have to write them all down, put them on your walls or monitor or wherever you spend your most time on! just don't punish yourself if you make mistakes or "repalse", there are many many tips and tricks out there but they only can function once you know how you work and how your brain works, it's individual and unique to yourself so find the way and don't lose focus! wishing you all good luck♥

@NoOne-ev3jn Жыл бұрын

That’s why you start simple and don’t jump to hard stuff or complicated projects right away.

@pranaygupts6035 Жыл бұрын

Your video on "being ok with not knowing things in CS" was extremely instrumental for me, when I started my first job. Been following you ever since!

@emeraldzhu Жыл бұрын

what was the title of the video

@PrashantMishra-oc8ud Жыл бұрын

I am unable to find that video. can you please help?

@ShawnFX Жыл бұрын

Tech is not my field of study, currently in my last semester of MBA, hoping to land a good job as FP&A or FA in Finance, but just wanted to say this was a great video! I'm the exact same way, I've wasted sooo many months and years on BS things. But now working everyday towards learning new skills like SQL, Python, Tableau, financial modeling and forecasting. I want to come back to this video around December 2023 with the news of having my first ever real world adult job as FP&A / FA! See you then bros! Until that keep working hard, with practice you will see what you need to work and improve on :)

@mbrown2640 9 ай бұрын

Update? You got the job yet?

@hadeseye2297 9 ай бұрын

It's December mate. xD

@ugib8377 Жыл бұрын

An incredibly wholesome and well elaborated message that can not only be applied to tech, but also to many things in life. Your channel is amazing man. Thanks so much for taking the time to create these positive messages. Giving a mid 30's newbie coder hope in the calamity that is breaking out of my old career for something ultimately better.

@godnyx117 Жыл бұрын

Amazing video brother! No "motivation talking", no "no-fap is good, everyone should do it", no "go to gym" BS, no fake-motivation and hopes, and no *BULLSHIT* in general! Just a small video with pure experience and logic and of course, lots of MEMES!

@alanespaguetiis2460 Жыл бұрын

How is going to the gym and believing nofap is a good thing bs??? Lol

@godnyx117 Жыл бұрын

@@alanespaguetiis2460 It has become a culture online in the "self-improvement" community.

@suibhnesweeney3497 Жыл бұрын

@@alanespaguetiis2460their fine but none of these things will fix your life their just tools though sadly there sold as silver bullets

@GodofStories Жыл бұрын

What a great coincidence or not. I'm re evaluating my career as a software dev after being unemployed. And realizing I'm wasting a lot of time on other things in my life. Delayed gratification and controlling your dopamine centers is so important for growing in any field that requires hard work. It's all about the long term. Small steps every day will lead into big things in the future. Just be very consistent, and persistent.

@vietnguyenquoc4948 Жыл бұрын

“Nothing makes sense until one day it clicks, then you hit a ceiling and repeat” This is very true, I started self taught CS and going from needing to constantly searching for javascript syntax and don’t understand a lick what OOP is, to coding in Java, shell bash, working with cloud and infra and everything makes sense. Until I hit a new wall and started learning it from scratch. This very sentence describes the whole learning process, CS is very vast and when you stumbled on a new field, you feel like a toddler tumbling around.

@UNKNWN96 Жыл бұрын

Amazing video, I'm a Christian and was always told what I should/shouldn't do growing up but it took me until I was in college to finally understand why these things were so important. I'm currently doing the self-taught route to become a SWE and I'd say not entertaining immediate pleasure definitely helped me a ton with not being too discouraged when my code wouldn't work. And it feels SO much better to delay gratification for something that's actually worthwhile (finally benching a certain amount of weight, being able to code your dream project, etc.) than settle for a quick fix that won't actually make me feel much better in the long run.

@RepublicOfWesternCanadaNOW Жыл бұрын

Awesome. I'm a Christian too. Desiring to transition to tech from industrial construction(welding). I'm 33 years old

@XnonXte Жыл бұрын

I've been on nofap for the past 2 years or so (although haven't yield much success so far), and this video is really motivational. Good work my guy!

@bigboxSWE Жыл бұрын

it's not about the direct success of nofap, i haven't felt many benefits, but what i did feel was this sense of self control over any instinct i have. and that is priceless.

@alezlevi1959 Жыл бұрын

Pls tell mee how did you do it???, i literally dont see any hope that i can get fixed😢

@5446isnotmynumber Жыл бұрын

The only difference between someone who jerks off everyday and a rich celebrity who has sex everyday is there self perception.

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

@@alezlevi1959there is nothing to fix. Masturbation isn't bad and you get no benefit if you stop doing it. Have self control over not doing bad things. Masturbation isn't a bad thing. Everyone who wants to masturbate has more than enough time to masturbate every single day. Every person who works 40 hours a week and doesn't have small kids has several hours per day to spend however they want. Everyone has 5 minutes to spend on masturbation. Everyone who doesn't have small kids has several hours to spend with friends per day, to have sex and to masturbate. If you don't have a job, it is not necessary to program 8 hours a day when you practice, i.e. you have even more free time.

@joeljacob4685 Жыл бұрын

Right on Money !! Delayed gratification is one of the most important things to have in programming and in life in general.😉

@krishnaprasad38 Жыл бұрын

As an Indian i want to chip in to add something here. In India since ancient times sexual abstinence has been recommended for bachelors. There's a word called 'brahmacharya' which is used but to denote a way of life that stresses on self awareness of mind, control of one's speech, sexual absitnence , balanced diet, anger control, religious education and many many more things. Unfortunately in today's hyper sexualized word, only the sexual abstinence aspect is renamed as NoFap is being popularised while so many other aspects of 'brahmacharya' way of life are discarded. Sexual abstinence is important but it has to be in tandem with so many other things one should do. For example - taking control of the words one speaks is super important for a a student who follows brahmacharya. If one constantly speaks F word or sexual lingos daily and tries no fap , it's not useful. It's not about sex, it's about are controlling the things we can control? Brahmacharya is about that. Where as NoFap is reductive which stresses only on sexual aspect

@_ash64 Жыл бұрын

This channel is a gem in the KZbin code-space. But unfortunately(or fortunately) you gotta go through the hardships and learn it the hard way. Maybe watching these videos might help people who are on the right path to encourage them and make the tweaks!

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

@disco.lemonade Жыл бұрын

Keep it going, man. You're the next Fireship

@twentysixhugs Жыл бұрын

Went through the same thing. I would've never gotten into tech without becoming persistent with no expectations. I just believed everything will turn out fine in the end if I don't stop learning and keep fighting my addictions. It did. Especially true about not stressing. If you apply yourself tremendously, you'll come and bombard the interview knowing your superiority in the market over other candidates.

@botelhorui 9 ай бұрын

good recap on "why do I optimize learning and not fun?" question!

@ViyVoda Жыл бұрын

That exactly what happened to me, I just stopped doing anything whatsoever for whatsoever expection and started doing what I truly want to do without caring about anything. All what I have now this is only mine world, life without anything else. And trust me it feels wonderful and since that moment I feel truly free out of all this life’s pity attachments.

@BriocheHeadphones 6 ай бұрын

You have single handedly inspired me to continue to learn how to program because I was ready to give up. I really appreciate you and the videos you have made.

@RGcrasyRG Жыл бұрын

I was mindlessly driving en Euro Truck Simulator 2 for achievements for several months. And one day it just clicked: I could spend my time on something more usefull. Now I am coding a bit and this helped me in my work which is not directly connected with IT.

@mikeyim9985 Жыл бұрын

This! Terribly underrated and brushed off always. Guys lets get off the copium and do this ✌️

@stubbie4421 Жыл бұрын

This dude has completely changed how I view programming, thanks :)

@jeannoelhonisch7037 Жыл бұрын

This is one of the best vids if've ever seen... no cap. Thank you.

@bigboxSWE Жыл бұрын

@UlisesBarrionuevo-g6v 6 ай бұрын

I consider that I am not addicted to x videos, but I consume them not frequently but you could say that on a "normal" basis, I realized that when I pursue goals and things that make me happy and fill my soul, and I leave social networks, etc, etc, programming is my job and now I need one, so this is my goal, finishing my degree is another, I firmly believe that achieving them will be a before and after in my life, guys, try to pursue goals and enjoy in the process, but really a goal that fills your soul and your life.

@winnieb3324 Жыл бұрын

I am finishing up my summer semester as a 3rd-year computer engineer undergrad. I really needed to hear this at this time because C++ is sucking hard right now but I need A's I wanna cry.

@TheGodfather101 Ай бұрын

I...I thought i was alone. Nofap since 2015. Career in tech. BJJ black belt. 40 lbs of muscle. Engaged. The most important decision in my life. Fellas. Take your power back.

@CrouTonG 7 ай бұрын

i have a problem. each time im several days into nofap, i struggle to focus and mainly to learn new things and concepts, but after a relapse, i can be productive once more by acquiring information much easily. i'd like to know if anyone is in a similar situation to this

@ArekiViolet Жыл бұрын

Yep. Doing things without expectations indeed do help. When I started enjoying my journey to learning in order to improve; it felt less heavy. No pressure. Just the fact that I learned felt more rewarding than having the title that I finally achieved something coz I thought maybe it wasn't enough so I need to achieve more but what I always have to remind myself is that, learning is constant & that's wisdom. I was just here to learn. I am! Thanks for the reminder. I love this channel.

@seanpule266 Жыл бұрын

Bro made a legitimately good and to-the-point video in 2 minutes. Good shit bro.

@coolkidfrost Жыл бұрын

Thank you for not making this a 2 hour video. Short and to the point preciate it 👍

@mikem9098 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making yourself vulnerable by sharing this. You have no idea how much this will help me and others

@AmarjargalB Жыл бұрын

Thanks bigbox. NoFap helps me 10x productivity more clean mind. I am still trying keep NoFap.

@creatikaaa Жыл бұрын

i tried nofap multiples times for some months, and everytime i felt like nothing changed and since i go to the gym, im training boxing a lot (i love it) and i work my 3D projets (even if i really suck for now since i only started 3 months ago) because i want to have a job in 3D art; i don't think i "need" nofap, i don't say this vid is wrong or anything i just wanna share my experience and point that it depends between each ppl

@MrXdawg Жыл бұрын

I think not using porn should be a serious consideration for most young men, It can seriously mess with your perception of women and reward system. Jacking off is healthy and fine in moderation and if you're not gorilla gripping your knob.

@creatikaaa Жыл бұрын

@@MrXdawg totally agree, porn is bad but the act of fapping is completly ok imo (and yes with moderation like everything else)

@stickguy9109 Жыл бұрын

You get it dude. For some reason self improvement vids always tell you to stop nutting lol and I was like you too. I tried it many times until I understood that it is not necessarily bad.

@MrXdawg Жыл бұрын

@@stickguy9109 It's a great excercise in self control for those without but its not a long term solution to anything

@creatikaaa Жыл бұрын

@@Justin_Leahy agree!

@heygema Жыл бұрын

Damn, I'm doing Nofap again, because I've been procrastinating this past years as soon as I became a Junior Dev. I consider myself mid level dev. My friends are seniors at other companies, or have begun making startups or products. everytime I'm on short Nofap streaks before relapse, it's just felt easier to embrace the struggle. I think embracing new hobbies on the side will help too, to distract you from fap or instant gratification from social media usage. like, pick any from photography, skateboarding, music, reading, etc.

@monti242421 Жыл бұрын

no fap biggest advantage is sleep on time. When you start sleeping on time instead of scrolling and playing games. You can complete your day work easily even you use day inconsistently. Inconsistent daily work is still consistent with advantage of less stress.

@solonyetski Жыл бұрын

On NoFap I have so much restlessness and energy that my sleep actually suffers. Need to take melatonin or fall asleep at like 3am. And that's after working a job and even working out during the day.

@legend_6483 Жыл бұрын

You just unlocked the key to success and share it with others

@Cookiekeks Жыл бұрын

I've tried NoFap two times, once for 30 days and once for 15 days. I felt no different at all to be honest.

@CastelGandolfo605 Жыл бұрын

tbh it makes you more horny XD

@HonsHon Жыл бұрын

Only reason I started doing nofap is because I got a girlfriend. Idk why I would do it otherwise.

@shreehari2589 Жыл бұрын

@@HonsHonsex is better than stroking

@gronkhfp Жыл бұрын

@@shreehari2589depends: if your GF or partner is doing the star fish stroking is more satisfiying 😂

@Joseph-C Жыл бұрын

I think it does depend on how bad your addiction was to begin with

@banwa_non Жыл бұрын

What does it have to do with nofap? Instead of nofap, I did no scoial media instead. I turned off all manner of social media on my computer except for KZbin. And I became more productive. To "Work without purpose" isn't that just like Taoist philosophy? I am a big fan of Taoist philosophy.

@pullrequest1481 Жыл бұрын

Thank God a tech guy mention NoFap! I FUCKING LOVE THIS BIG BOX!!!

@zxnnightstalker2289 Жыл бұрын

OMG, almost all of your videos resonate with my life.

@i_zoru Жыл бұрын

"work without purpose " this seems odd, but kind of relate, first time i know about tech stuff like coding, all based on curiosity and fun people ask me "what's your purpose?" well, i do this for "fun", now here i am, a junior programmer with little several experience

@joseph0x45 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this

@ikroac Жыл бұрын

You’re incredible dude! Never thought that my biggest addiction was related to tech😅

@derektong Жыл бұрын

I have a bit of a different perspective. After hitting Challenger in League of Legends through a consistent 1 game per day, I realized life isn't actually that hard. Stay consistent and you will hit your goals (of course luck plays a part, a la Veritasium video). I now apply the goal of consistency to everything in life, from gym to leetcode, using Microsoft Todos. Still fap though.

@yungjohnathan1188 Жыл бұрын

The satisfaction one gets from delayed gratification is immense! :)

@joeyrhorror Жыл бұрын

This is very true, my approach was opposite though, I learned the hard way of what addictions do to people, and live a straight edge lifestyle now, including the disgusting porn industry. In 2017 I fell into the tech world because a lot of my friends careers are in it, and I stopped hanging out with them - a lot of because of alcohol being so normal to them, but I wanted to prove to myself that I can learn it too, and connect with them in a different way. It soon taught me everything you mentioned here, and I have consistently been learning since. It is a beautiful learning world in the cyber space. Hahaha.

@titomohamed2658 Жыл бұрын

not a single word just respect

@bigboxSWE Жыл бұрын

im so grateful you found value in my content. thank you so much.

@josueramirez7247 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience with this. The idea of delayed gratification is important. I think my hangup is that I have a mental block when tackling hard problems.

@farhaannishtar786 Жыл бұрын

I really like this guy's style of videos

@mikeehxz Жыл бұрын

People think is only nofap but is not! This addiction is not "I'm in 10th day. 14th day..." This is not about the 3065th day. This is about removing something really bad from your life! It is! It really is! And when you realize, this is just a surface problem. There are so many feelings repressed and you don't know why

@o-...-.-...-..0473 Жыл бұрын

Assuming one is single, how does one do NoFap for life? It seems like something only an Asexual can achieve.

@mikeehxz Жыл бұрын

@@o-...-.-...-..0473 "NoFap" in the general sense means abstinence from pornography. There is also abstinence from pornography and masturbation ... Besides, when you get to the point of the fall like I did, nothing else makes sense. Even NoFap, not messing up, not anything... You don't even know where the error is. You can't see what good could happen. If you consider porn or masturbating to look at instagram photos a problem, then you will see that it is only a very superficial problem. Because the problem is not having a girlfriend. Not having that 2-week vacation in a different country. Not having someone who cares about you and vents whatever it takes for hours and nights at a time... You don't have someone who is concerned about your well-being. With everything. Soon you will see that behind this addiction is still a great wave of loneliness that you were hiding and trying to give up. It won't bring you incredible benefits and "as everyone says". It's just a problem you don't think about anymore. That's it

@sleekism Жыл бұрын

@@mikeehxz you're wrong

@istolethisaccount Жыл бұрын

how is a totally natural, normal bodily function, similar to eating and sleeping “really bad for your life”? u know ur just gonna nut in ur sleep anyways

@user.Icarus Жыл бұрын

Never done nofap, but I learned this lesson back when I was 14. My uncle bought weights and he would work out in the back-every day after school I would come home and work out with him because he was into the same stuff I was and it was fun talking to him, and we would play video games afterwards. After a while of doing this, when I got into to sophomore year in high school, I started to notice that girls were looking at me more, and a few even came up to me and talked to me-something that has never happened to me. Then I realized that all that time just wanting to hang out with my uncle and play video games had an unexpected effect-didn’t take much longer to figure out that everything in life is about consistency, as long as you don’t stop you’ll get there eventually.

@vectoralphaSec Жыл бұрын

Yeah turns out that if you work out and get fit, girls will start to be attracted to you. Females like guys with good bodies.

@goddamnit Жыл бұрын

Cool, so the fuck do we do without an uncle, or anyone to support us in our lives, and no free weights, while also completely lonely? I'd love to work out, but gyms cost a lot, and I ain't got a car, and public transportation would take me an hour to get to the nearest gym, so like... fuck we do without free weights then?

@vectoralphaSec Жыл бұрын

@@goddamnit use body weight.

@lazaarclubb6981 10 ай бұрын

@@vectoralphaSec That cringy mindset of yours is astonishing

@vectoralphaSec 10 ай бұрын

@lazaarclubb6981 lol it's only cringy because you're fat or out of shape and don't want to blame yourself for your own shortcomings.

@WeAreSoup Жыл бұрын

Very true. When your only worry is an event in the future like an exam, you forget to live in the present. When you're too forcused on the future, you feel devastated by present hardship. You become even more prone to addiction. When you are addicted, you can't commit to anything. It's a self feeding cycle. Corporates are exploiting our tendency for addiction with stuff like KZbin Shorts, Tiktok, dating apps, free porn, MMO games, freemium mobile games, recreational drugs, caffeine (including chocolate), alcohol, MSG. Addiction is why so many 18 year olds are struggling with becoming adults. We as a society have not learned to live with so much stimulation.

@dominicbiggs628 Жыл бұрын

I'm on the programming journey now and excited for what I can do. But I've done many things that have taken long amounts of time (wrestling and bjj). I just realised it's the same, you'll practice every day until you wake up and go , oh shit, I'm finally not bad at this and can finally make decisions rather than reacting to everything I see.

@bandito_kek Жыл бұрын

YES. We must not rush to seek a goal. Rather, we must conduct ourselves as one who obtains the goals we want due to the habits and lifestyle we practice. It's like that quote about building a garden, with or without butterflies, we built something nice. Fav small channel, keep it going, bro.

@Naito31 8 ай бұрын

just discovered your channel. love your content, wish you had elaborate vidoes on how to code. im just starting out.

@cig_in_mouth3786 Жыл бұрын

Small projects and freelancing, i known double edge sword. The lesson i learnt once you get money by doing any work. You will appreciate your job and you will work hard.

@MonkeyManJams165 Жыл бұрын

This was beautiful! Thank you!

@MuhammadKhan-vm5ow Жыл бұрын

I love your honesty

@dave.8 Жыл бұрын

"Work without purpose or expectation" Believe it or not, if you can do this for a task, you will automatically be on the path for greatness at it. This is what passion truly is, to be able to do the work for the sake of it with no expectation to gain reward from it.

@krishnatagore5750 Жыл бұрын

thanks brotha, short and informative

@bigboxSWE Жыл бұрын

thank you Krishna!

@JosephHerreraLeon Жыл бұрын

You're channel really motivates me. Thank you so much for your content

@jeremyashcraft2053 Жыл бұрын

Yep i quit porn, fapping, and video games... And the now i have so much more energy and motivation to pursue the truly great things in life that I have been avoiding for years. Impulsive pleasure is indeed a prison, holding our idealized selves hostage.

@xtran5923 Жыл бұрын

I used to like video game & p*rn, not to the point of addiction, but I needed to do that everyday. That habit lasted for over 15years & it’s impossible to escape it by human effort. Only when the Lord saved me & Im now a born again Christian that I could get rid of this habbit by the power of the Holy Spirit I pray that for anyone who has the same struggle will be saved.

@seeker3794 Жыл бұрын

The only channel where everything is maximum reflected on reality of life.

@ItsTheGoon06 Жыл бұрын

I started nofap last year and my y streak was 3 months and after that i tried hard but couldn't get through it. Even now I'm struggling with that After watching this video there's still 5 months left this year so I'm starting from today and no matter what I'll do it❤️😊 Failure is part of progress but stopping after failure is big L.

@JamesSmith-ix5jd Жыл бұрын

My longest streak was like 2 months or so (I only had a single such long one), so after about a month my lebido went to zero. Basically no urges, even rubbing against the bed was not causing an erection. And then I had an anxiety about it, what if this will be permanent? So eventually I managed to excite myself and 'successfully' relapsed..

@ItsTheGoon06 Жыл бұрын

@@JamesSmith-ix5jd Nothing will happen if you stop masturbating. It will help in many ways you know rhat already 😇 let's do it nofap for 6 months 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

@AMAli-ct5df Жыл бұрын

Last year was awesome for me. And in 3 months late last year and early this year fapped only a couple of times

@WeeklyTubeShow2 Жыл бұрын

Proud of you, man. *faps to completion*

@akshatbhatt5384 Жыл бұрын

I am on the same journey bro . Thanks for making this video .

@Lestibournes Жыл бұрын

It was 13 months ago that I decided to go clean. At first it felt like an uphill battle, every day more difficult than the last, but after a few months it started getting easier. I used to be unable to go for more than 2 weeks without "help"/watching, but now I feel fully in control and like I can go on forever. I have self control, I feel clean, I don't obssess over it, and I can control where my eyes go and last longer in bed. It's all upside. Besides, even tbe most beautiful woman still looks better with her clothes on. Some things that helped were completely disconnecting from anything that would even remind me if "adult" entertainment, including even podcasts discussing why it's terrible and harmful, or game reviews for adult games (even without any screenshots), dating podcasts that feature 304 guests, or anything else. Another thing that's helpful is an S/O who's willing to lend a helping hand when things get too tough. But the most important was a firm unwavering resolution to never give in to desire or temptation and never compromise with it, tet still be forgiving of mistakes and accidents and being vigilant and open to learning and adapting. Having a goal of lasting at least 100 days (because that's what I heard is required to establish a new habit) is also helpful. Now I'm free, I'm in control. Having a dry spell doesn't even bother me in the least and now my wife seems more eager than me, when before it was the other way around. It's great.

@RyanYTTV Жыл бұрын

Glad you’re able to stay on that grind!!! What’s an S/O btw?

@Lestibournes Жыл бұрын

@@RyanYTTV Significant Other. In other words, girlfriend, fiancee, or wife.

@Lestibournes Жыл бұрын

@@RyanYTTV Thanks for the encouragement. I never thought of it as a grind, but now that you say that I feel kind of awesome. Another thing that helps is having other stuff going on to keep my mind occupied. In my case it's my awesome job. It felt really good when one day I realized that hey, tomorrow night is our monthly honeymoon and I completely forgot about it, then proceeded to get back to work and forget about it until the next evening. And of course being so not addicted to it anymore that I can simply do without for as long as necessary without feeling like I'm suffering. But talking about it makes it harder to forget about it, and harder to wait.

@JamesSmith-ix5jd Жыл бұрын

If I had a girlfriend why would I ever be fapping? I could never get how some can do it while being with someone, I thought pn is just a coping mechanism against loneliness and depression, it is for me, but maybe others are getting something different from it..

@Lestibournes Жыл бұрын

@@JamesSmith-ix5jd it's an addiction to instant gratification, which an SO won't always provide.

@Virtuoso_9764 Жыл бұрын

I needed this, thank you.

@meltygear5955 Жыл бұрын

You probably will never read this but your previous video on switching gaming with programming got me into a path that made me remove gaming, wasted time on Reddit and social media outrage, and no porn (not no fap). While the first 2 weeks sucked, it feels like my brain got in a position where I can enjoy the little things again. It almost feels like quitting my shitty habits cured my coding burnout. Thank you. I also got into reading manga. The One Piece is real.

@student99bg Жыл бұрын

Gaming can take a lot of time. Switching a lot of gaming time to programming surely can be helpful. Doing nofap is pointless. Nofap is pseudoscience and giving away a couple of minutes of your day that you spend masturbating won't help you in any way.

@AnkitSingh-em5it Жыл бұрын

One piece is indeed real

@JamesSmith-ix5jd Жыл бұрын

@@student99bg It's essentially like saying that giving couple minutes of your day to snore cocaine is not going to affect you in any way. Do you even realize what you are saying? Sexual activity (or fapping) produces a ton of neuromediators in the brain, it directly affects your biochemistry, mood, motivation and everything down the line, claiming otherwise is absurd.

@LordR123 Жыл бұрын

I think the major problem is the pornography -, the amount of content that is available and how easy you can find it. Literally just some words and clicks. Non-masturbating is something against our own body - I remember that I started masturbating when I was like 5-6 years old and NOBODY teach me about it... If you have a girlfriend or is married (my case), masturbating without pornography once a week at least is something good for us, it keeps our testosteron levels, you can train to not ejaculate so fast when doing sex and come on... half of the time our girls just doesnt want to have sex...

@PsycosisIncarnated Жыл бұрын

@@JamesSmith-ix5jd lmao the fact that you are comparing cocaine to fapping only proves you know nothing about cocaine and have never done it. xD you can't even be serious. cocaine and fapping together is amazing btw.

@gg.cip0t Жыл бұрын

alway on point video. thank you for these premium videos for free.

@HrissW Жыл бұрын

Man, this vid this Truly Enlightening!

@samoldfield9997 Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom.

@kizo-niklas Жыл бұрын

I did not expect to click on a video with a title like this today, but here I am.

@vicious7278 Жыл бұрын

I needed this so much very motivational.

@americanbagel Жыл бұрын

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@bigboxSWE Жыл бұрын

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@ManMadeMoon Жыл бұрын

Hey guys, I just want to say what is working for me because I know it’s hard. I came to a realization that watching porn is unnatural and deplorable. But here’s what really hit me. For thousands of years, all throughout human existence, no one would masterbait watching another man screw a woman. Not only that, but how unnatural is it to look at a screen which only recently invented, and pleasure yourself staring at a virtual screen. Then I realized, what if, by any chance, someone was watching me at all times. Possibly God, my ancestors, anyone or anything. Would I be proud of this action? Or would I be ashamed? I began listening to an audiobook on how to quit porn free here in yt and learned even more about the addiction and how it is a real time experiment that never existed before. We are the porn addict Guinea pigs so to speak. First ever in human history. Ultimately, I live my life as if I’m being watched, as if, I will be judged for my actions when it’s over. And this makes it so much easier for me, I didn’t quit anything, I escaped porn. I am free.

@MahmoudAlSayed-p9z Жыл бұрын

Subscribed so I can find you later when I get better and tell you that your words made difference

@beratsamil Жыл бұрын

thank you my friend. great video, very valuable opinion

@StudioSix9 Жыл бұрын

I agree

@mrmiagi6052 Жыл бұрын

Genuinely wondering what fapping and software engineering have to do with each other. Nothing that I can think of

@vallesterfaith Жыл бұрын

This is mad good content please make more like these💌

@a.i.m4242 Жыл бұрын

I haven’t used my degree after graduating from college. My job is driving me crazy. It has motive to study for CompTIA A+ to break into IT. I do want to get my Master’s Degree eventually as well.

@bruchelich5235 Жыл бұрын

love the silicon valley pictures :)

@happygofishing Жыл бұрын

I basically learnt programming because I had a gaming PC and apart from a few exceptions I'd gotten completely bored of gaming. Also I learnt that its much easier to go from c++ to higher level rather than vise versa.

@chaithdridi2718 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your time bigbox 🥰

@opiumbird5813 Жыл бұрын

I'm just scroll down trends and accidentally saw this header. It got me hysterically laughing

@bjay6054 Жыл бұрын

its better sucking at good things than spending time on bad habits. maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan. that shit inspirational as fuck

@alexz2858 Жыл бұрын

My parents never really dealt with this so eventually I have to parenting myself. I wasn’t smart enough to figure things out, but with you and KZbin it is okay.

@tainoloco2361 9 ай бұрын

I went on Semen retention, staying away from pornography, accepted Christ as Lord and Savior, and He helped me to figure out what to do in life. I want to study computer information systems.