How OnlyJayus Lost Over 700k Followers and Became the “TikTok Villain”

[@SpillTea]

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[@veolcat1780]

Slay

[@JmKrokY]

Cool bro but WHO CARES?!?

[@rickee9909]

Smh why are you reposting old videos lo

[@rickee9909]

Smh why are you reposting old videos lo??

[@rickee9909]

Smh why are you reposting old videos lololol

[@Mysterynovus]

While I don't excuse them saying slurs, it is curious how the person they said it to had accepted their apology, yet chose to put them on blast for it years after it happened. That's definitely gross to me, to say you forgive only to renege in the future.

[@lilac_calico]

Btw jayus's pronouns are they/them

[@Mysterynovus]

@@lilac_calico Thx, I was unsure if it was that or they/she since people in the video used both sets

[@Losnina13]

Just as the group of people on the other side of the slurs didn’t have a choice to be called what she called them. She has to face the consequences of her actions. Nobody could have predicted what would become of her apology. Obviously, those people didn’t feel justified by her apology. Although they accepted it. It was not forgotten. It’s not fair to expect them to keep quiet about it even though they accepted the apology.

[@Noname-oo9gn]

@angel scott your either a she or a he... Nothing more nothing less... I honestly do not know how on God's green earth you can say we have pronouns non-binary... You are all insane. And I for one will NEVER play into your insanity.

[@Pemenari]

@@Losnina13 then they shouldnt have accepted it in the first place. As a human being with emotions they have the right to not acceot an apology. But both accepting and then bringing it up years later? Kinda sus in my opinion

[@ImElytra]

Honestly, the Internet, especially tiktok, can be so toxic sometimes. Rumors spread like wildfire and suddenly the truth is all mulled up and warped into this crazy idea of people.

[@mza2195]

Except the facts are there, and Jayus never really changed their behavior. There were multiple people who had proof of bad behavior. I’m not on TikTok often but my daughter is and she’s an older teenager and now in her early 20’s. She was fascinated by the whole thing because she thought they were all not hearing each other.

[@sweetchocolate7113]

Tiktok is very toxic

[@dangerousmango88]

This is why my fyp is just filled with kpop content

[@Gulezworld]

@@dangerousmango88 and I Stan you for that

[@liana_1717]

@@dangerousmango88 Some kpop content are becoming toxic, like fanwars, sexualization, and etc… Every topic on tiktok is really becoming toxic! And tiktok doesn’t even ban the toxic people sometimes.

[@Soapy_Sink]

Just how the internet can build you up and easily break you down.

[@ccappa2001]

We're no strangers to love~

[@snowflake458]

@@archangel8826 Say goodbye ~

[@s-t-a-r-r-y_n-i-g-h-t-s]

@@snowflake458 never gonna gove you up

[@sabrinawong8165]

@@s-t-a-r-r-y_n-i-g-h-t-snever gonna let you down~ 👍

[@gamingbrb2771]

@@sabrinawong8165 never gonna run around~

[@skddgsshootawahmyn8mewhtha865]

these social media personalities need serious managers to educate them on how to deal with social media. Apology videos never ever ever ever ever work, they just give the detractors and the people that already don't mess with you more reasons to pick a part and ride the clout train all the way up to the top. this Jayus is girl reminds me a lot of cardi B for both of them respond to each and every single piece of criticism on the internet but the difference is cardi B's brand is already a mess and Jayus has more of a clean brand. protect your brand at all costs, this girl didn't do that hence why she ended up losing 700,000 subscribers.

[@Mint_River11]

Yeah but these content creator need to done this business in private first rather than straight to the public. I have severe social problem since my depression time so i used to ignore my friends and families message and answer it after i have the courage. I can't even answer their call in their first call. It's a shame for me but i gradually make them understand me. Sometimes people just need to ask rather than shame the other on social media without confirming in private first. Btw, i talk about all of them including that jay girl

[@caitlin6658]

Interesting point, but I believe jayus uses they/them pronouns.

[@annagreen3670]

@@caitlin6658 she does

[@astyanax__]

@@annagreen3670 yes,"she" goes...🤣😂😂(use they/them pronouns)

[@YaToGamiKuro]

the only way to fight this dirty culture is to fightback, fight and never stop fighting, banned? make another account, IP banned? ur rich, buy other phone, get a new network provider and then make a new acc and start all over again, endless fight it is against this culture

[@katiechisholm]

Also, there’s no excuse for a content _creator_ hiring a ghostwriter to write an apology unless they’re either (a) not sorry, or (b) not creating their own content 🤷🏻‍♀️ Writing is literally part of your job.

[@justagamingpossum2915]

She has a managment team so im thinking that her management hired them.

[@EnderEntertain]

Yea that’s weird but they were probably just busy.

[@a.ro5]

@@EnderEntertain Better to wait and write it themselves then- it just makes them seem dishonest otherwise

[@CiinaBunnii]

There is quite literally no screenshot or evidence to prove they ghost wrote for Jayus Only hearsay 🤨

[@Imbroke69]

Right? That makes the apology seem dishonest, and who knows, it can be.

[@rileypickett778]

I'm sorry, I do believe in holding people accountable for their actions but at some point it really became harassment. :/ Jaysus clearly has issues and isn't a nice person but the dogpiling only seemed to make her spiral further. At some point, you just gotta let go and let be. She apologized, tried to educate herself, and said she's been going to therapy for her past issues. That's really all you can do with folks like that.

[@dakotakulha8376]

Jayus has a past like the rest of us. The past is the past for a reason. If people bringing up the past then how can anyone move forward

[@Batsnorats]

⁠@@dakotakulha8376Fr

[@alizulfiqar4888]

It's crazy how some people lose thousands of subscribers for being rascist and others get forgived so easily.

[@jameshusentoff2953]

It’s cause of the simps

[@rizwanakousar2970]

Facts though

[@st4rdyy]

And being racist that was YEARS ago, like people be acting like they haven't argued on the internet before??

[@morganeady6551]

@@st4rdyy that doesn’t excuse any Thing at all

[@lamp6798]

@@st4rdyy “arguing on the internet” and being racist aren’t exactly synonymous now are they?

[@PestoPasta666]

"I'm not priviledged therefore I can't be racist" is the shittiest excuse known to man, it's like these people don't realize two things can be true at once

[@YawninHaze]

Anyone of any background, ethnicity, or skin color can be racist. It really isn't an excuse. 😤

[@breathlesscharm6709]

And honestly the person saying it probably is oblivious to their privilege as they say that, looking silly af.

[@m..1376]

@@YawninHaze to be honest it depends on how black people take it most reasons of black person has a right to be mad at white people white people do horrible things to black ppl very day and it might not be all white people, but it's unexpected, you can't say all white people when these attacks are completely unexpected

[@YawninHaze]

@@m..1376 You can be mad at legitimate supremacists/awful people and still not be racist yourself. That's fully welcomed and praised.

[@m..1376]

@@YawninHaze let me explain we get mad at all people, you do something terrible to the black community you are facing backlash

[@123UpNorth321]

I am so glad that i am not part of this toxic media World.

[@a.r.375]

100%. What a miserable, unstable existence. You dunno when you're gonna wake up to a volcano erupting on you

[@Shadouma2]

you and me both girl

[@Stariiko.]

Same

[@chiaisannoying]

....you say, as you’re on a social media platform rn lol

[@Azriel_is_real]

yeah the only reason i have tiktok is so my friends stop sending me video links in discord

[@jenniferlewis7508]

Reason 1,029,744 why I'm so glad that social media wasn't around for my teenage years! Outraged over this but didn't say $h!t about people like Onision who are actual PREDATORS. I'm in no way condoning Jayus's actions but people need to get their priorities straight. This is absolutely nothing compared to some very real and dangerous "content creators" that deserve this kind of hype. Edit: Autocorrect mistake.

[@mza2195]

Onision is who you’re thinking about I think. There have been multiple predators on TikTok that have been convicted.

[@angelofdeathtarot]

white people don’t get to decide this. Every time the Black community is hurt, white people show up to downplay it and vindicate someone who clearly shouldn’t be on social media and should instead focus on working through their trauma and manipulative patterns of behavior. Racist people ARE predators in the sense that they prey on BIPOC to boost their image, money, social capital etc.

[@jenniferlewis7508]

@@angelofdeathtarot **TRIGGER WARNING** And I didn't decide anything. I never said what she did was okay. As I said, I don't condone any of it. And I not once said I think she should be forgiven or that it WAS my place to do so. But when there are actual pedophiles openly grooming others online and no one talks about it as much as this, there is a problem.

[@sashavonkirsch4948]

True

[@breathlesscharm6709]

@@jenniferlewis7508 There are definitely way bigger influencers with more influence- Ones that will literally influence a new generation of up and coming influencers to be just as problematic as them. I agree with you, 1000%.

its like everyone forgot the vegan teacher existed...lets keep forgetting

[@inquisite472]

😁😂😂😂😂Oooohhhh thats a good one.......... Ooooh yessssss.... Thanxxxxx.... For makin me laughinnnng....

[@childeofepickness]

yes please, let’s all just pretend she doesn’t exist, maybe then it’ll be true 😔

[@koolaidguy315]

@@inquisite472 you high bro?

[@TurtlesAreHumansTooMsp]

@@childeofepickness didnt she actually pass away a few weeks ago?

[@GaLexi8833]

@@TurtlesAreHumansTooMsp excuse me?

[@christychapman6590]

TikTok is toxic af. But Jayus explaining how they grew up in a small, all white conservative town, i was the same way when i was 16. I left that town, moved around, went to college, traveled and by the time i was 23 i was a completey different person. That is possible. People do change through growth and learning.

[@sunpi]

Reading books about how not to be racist left me dead lolllll

[@latto_SSM]

Aleast shes trying to learn

[@arr3business939]

@@latto_SSM but shes literally reading on how to not be racist 😐

[@graciek2685]

@@arr3business939 it sucks but a lot of people have internalized racism.

[@onlyjayus]

It’s “how to be anti racist” not “how to be not racist”

[@arr3business939]

@@onlyjayus same thing

[@lilacsnack4927]

i love how spill doesn't correct spelling errors lmao makes me laugh when im not expecting it in the middle of work

[@sketchybunny5003]

Creatours

[@aperson.a]

@@sketchybunny5003 creatwors*

[@djsbjaaa6306]

@@aperson.a kriaters*

[@aperson.a]

@@djsbjaaa6306 cratours*

[@aperson.a]

@@redactedname8228 creeawtwors

[@daniellevillanueva8621]

Jayus was literally in the wrong but to all those other creators teaming up and continued to harass her is literally crossing a line.

[@Risiruxe]

they used them first from what it looks like, everyone else would've minded their business if they weren't even contacted by them

[@azrienstewartenasen1508]

True. They're not really saints in that case but we do not forget about the main problem here which is Jayus.

[@lawfullucyless6715]

💯 someone's gotta be the bigger person.

[@XOCailleach161XO]

Crossing a line is a euphemism you don't "literally" do it 😩

[@BugabooASMR]

There’s a difference between harassment and giving someone consequences to their actions. These Black and disabled creators were trying to get OTHERS to hold Jayus accountable and still, nothing was being done.

[@katiechisholm]

Yikes. This was hard to watch. I realize they’re not “young” compared to their audience/target demographic, but they are…they’re very young and clearly still an immature person who has a lot of learning and growing to do. and if they do it right, they’re gonna look back at all of this when they’re 37 and cringe so effing hard. 😬

[@systemerror404notfound]

OnlyJaysus uses they/them pronouns

[@katiechisholm]

Edited :)

[@systemerror404notfound]

@@katiechisholm thanks!

[@charmander466]

If minority kids are young enough to endure slurs, how old do white people need to be to understand saying slurs are bad?

[@shoutatthesky]

*She!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@smhlexxie]

They really wait till your at your highest to attack you. What she did was wrong, but where was all this evidence before? It only showed up when she got clout.

[@megansstallion818]

They're a racist 🤨 like come on 🤦🏿 it doesn't matter if it was before or after it's a good thing it came out now we know who their really are

[@wilmagregg3131]

because she got clout and now they get clout for ruining her life and carrer its the biggest drive behind cancel culture

[@knowledgeoftheworld4919]

So true

[@knowledgeoftheworld4919]

So many of these people who cancelled her , are also same if they ever get clout they would be exposed in similar way

[@nice1cool]

People didn’t know her when she was a nobody. Seems like common sense

[@shaye4210]

This just goes to show that the internet is completely insufferable.

[@oceanbaby2191]

The fact that we need books to teach people how to not be racist is just sad

[@misspiggyASMR]

Hey, i think jayus is not a great person but sometimes people really do grow up in a racist viewpoint, people wanting to learn to be better shouldn’t be talked about like this, they are trying to get away from such a horrible stance and sometimes they lose their family but still wanting to be better despite that fear. It sad to be in this situation but it’s not sad to want to do better.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

I never met one single racist person in my life

[@1000OtherFoxes]

@Frog ?

[@sexygirlmax2019]

@@1000OtherFoxes So clearly racism doesn't exist. Are you white?

[@1000OtherFoxes]

@@sexygirlmax2019 Where did I say it didn’t exist I said I didn't encounter a single racist person in my life.

[@prensimonaj5812]

Ok the fact that people have dealt with something YEARS ago and bring it back to the person they had beef all these years forward with really disgusts me on how toxic people can be even tho it wasn’t even involved with the problem they are experiencing right now. This really shows you how humanity has evolved all these years.

[@Gaibreel]

Exactly. We could all dig into each other's past. It will destroy people. They took this and they ran! Her saying that wasn't right but she should be able to prove herself and move on. I feel people love to mob together and destroy people.

[@joshuanaalexander9066]

Nah let them come out, we don't condemn racism

[@lumityviktuuristanartist4100]

@@joshuanaalexander9066 true but they apologized to this person and the person said it was ok, why do they feel like exposing them now ????

[@aiperthatgotmutatedbytruth5638]

​@@joshuanaalexander9066was racist*, how do you know she has not changed? Maybe she understood that all races are same by interacting with people.

[@candylide]

​@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100 Maybe now that they were more popular, so they could gain attention calling them out? But then it would mean that it wasn't about the racism, so I don't know

[@hennesey8]

I got to say, Jay's response video where she's screaming was pure gold. And it Karen's infuriating response video just doesn't cut it. Seven videos is excessive and screams for attention. I would have been just as infuriated.

[@SpongeHashi]

Now thats a good point 😌👌

[@drakeduped2872]

Karen did what she could so she can tell people how awful and racist she is.

[@ricki_mirag6828]

if youre going to promise to collab with other creators and not show any effort then thats your problem… they did not go to any effort into correcting their wrongs. And trying to literally justify racism by saying “I plAYEd tOo MUcH cOd” like tf… does a video game justify defamatory racial slurs? No.

[@rebekahbailey4942]

That Aunt Karen chick is literally known for harassing multiple creators, putting false information out there, and when she is proved wrong, either doubles down, doesn’t apologise or admits to being wrong, or just completely stops covering that topic. What Jayus did was very wrong and I do not agree with anything that she has done, but I ain’t like Aunt Karen either. They’re both bad in my books.

[@Chubbypussycat]

Her name isn't Jay it's Bella or Jayus

[@skipppyy9814]

As a 22 year old women diagnosed with ADHD for 12 years, I can say that blaming your ADHD for every little problem is not the answer. I work everyday to better myself while having ADHD. This is not a joke, stop blaming your ADHD for all your problems! P

[@scremmy_draws]

while i agree that using adhd as an excuse for EVERYTHING is bad, i think that using it to explain the reasoning behind certain things like ghosting someone and rejection sensitivity is a very valid thing to do

[@Silentx3Step]

I agree with you . I am 30 years old right now and I was diagnosed with add, depression and anxiety, like 1-2yrs ago and i am working on improving myself everyday and be a better person. Using an illness for everything done wrong is the wrong way to solve a problem. Things Will only get worse for the person.

[@JD-ht7yw]

@@Silentx3Step add isn't really used anymore, it's now just different forms of adhd

[@spugelo359]

@@scremmy_draws That's like using alcohol as excuse for doing bad things... only difference would be that alcohol is a choice.

[@cupcake8905]

I even have ADHD at a young age and this is ridiculous!

[@mariamatmos4506]

Using racist words is never right. That said, I feel she has been harassed quite a lot which can break anyone.

[@pitonpriscal3379]

The fact they're trying to change further the past form of their (she use they/them) but got instantly pulled back by people bringing up the past they wanted to burn. May the guy saying he feels like they're use it for venting or cancellation handling is considerable. When the video starts to show creators going out of their way posting on the internet pulling her back instead of confronting her privately is honestly expected from how toxic the internet was. And people ignore the person they're trying to become recently. I don't say they're a good or great person but instantly pulling them down because of their past actions is not a good way to go. Tho the video joke and mental excuses might need to be fixed.

[@hdw_Kn]

@@pitonpriscal3379 she uses they/them?

[@kiera1200]

@@pitonpriscal3379 *they, not she

[@vickym9221]

I felt that way until the service dog joke. And her rant to Aunt Karen was unhinged. She needs to grow and mature before she can handle being an online role model.

[@tonyb1984]

@@hdw_Kn did you not listen to the video at all? She's a she though! Y'all are weird ASF these days

[@walltomatoesval]

Saying slurs is something that should be punished. But every single creator piling up on them, harrasing them, there was even a clip where they said people had found their adress. It's just not ok at that point. She did a lot of bad things including not partnering with a content creator. They were just not checking their email. Still all of the stuff she did should be punished. But not to the point of doxxing them and constantly harrasing for months on end.

[@giselletdc1871]

Nothing justify being a horrible person, but abuse can affect the brain and the way of thinking, and can even loose empathy. I was in a dark place before and had horrible thoughts,vgladly I didn't do so much harm as I was more mature. Being young, immature and abused is recipe for disaster in the adult life.

[@alexthegr8estt]

Ok well I was abused as a child but that didn’t turn me into a racist person, and I’m literally the same age as her when she said that slur. It’s not an excuse, stop making excuses for her.

[@giselletdc1871]

@@alexthegr8estt There is no excuse, it's a real possibility and recipe for disaster. Affects every person differently.

[@giselletdc1871]

@@alexthegr8estt I'm so sorry about that

[@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother]

My sister actually has massive issues with selective empathy due to the abuse we faced as kids. She's never been a racist. It's one thing to have issues with empathy, abuse truly can do that to people, but she was racist. That's something that she learned growing up, not something that stemmed from abuse.

[@alexthegr8estt]

@@giselletdc1871 No need to apologize. I’m just surprised so many people jumped to her defense. She’s not even a child, and wasn’t one when she said the slur. I know she had a traumatic past, and it’s great that she overcame that to get where she is, but I just wish she wouldn’t try to use mental illness and trauma as an excuse to harass others or to act immaturely.

[@ladylaura8641]

All these “creators” seem toxic to me. Jayus is young and messed up. Jayus apologized. I’d LOVE to look into the past of everyone saying she shouldn’t be followed or death threats etc… he without sin throw the first stone ya know?

[@omarfayoumi3005]

Iam not on jayus side or any side actually but alot of these creators that criticised her were always putting black black black black on their video to dig jayuce garve deeper and deeper when he said ths n word 5 years ago to a person in private where then he apologiesd to him and he accpeted the apology all these white/black creators dont care about blm as much as they care about their fame

[@omarfayoumi3005]

I wouldn't even apologised for things i said 1 year ago (unless it actually truamtised someone) and the n word in CHAT never truamtised anyone they better grow tf up

[@ronnielyn1489]

@@omarfayoumi3005 n-word in negative context is seen racist though, but I agree

[@skippersnacks]

I think people are jealous of their fame and are unforgiving strategically. Picking on Jayus helps them. People grow and change all the time. Why would it be hard to believe Jayus is trying to be better.

[@sketchybunny5003]

They're being unreasonable people like that are disgusting, making someone bad for your own gain just isn't right.

[@wioi]

I think that her apology was really good. She didn't make excuses. She owned up to it. 16:23 but some people can never be pleased because they feel entitled to more than just an apology. You can't ever make the happy. Which is even worse than just a mean word.

[@sopse4816]

Jayus is clearly in the wrong here, but I feel terrible for them. They way the other content creators handled their apologies and continued to not let it go even after "forgiving" them is nothing but toxic. But what else to expect from Tiktok.

[@SugaryLove15]

THAT'S WHAT I WAS THINKING I hope she's okay mentally

[@hxhsbsbx2947]

@ of course you do

[@hxhsbsbx2947]

@ did you just watch a few mins and wrote this or your as problematic as them

[@kmnaaaa]

​@ shut up

[@PuggleCake]

@ I don’t know why you’re so concerned with this person’s gender

[@AngelCakez]

Honestly, I don't really care for Jayus but they don't seem like a terrible person to me they just really need to focus more on their wellbeing and be on the right headset for handling conflict it seems. This is also very telling on how toxic and unforgiving the internet truly is (TikTok I'm lookin at you)

[@aeithy]

bella is a really nice person imo, but they said they have adhd a while back, and another commenter told me thats why she didnt handle this so well, but idk tbh

[@Seabass1206]

tf u mean they, u mean her do you speak english?

[@chelsythai3127]

@@Seabass1206 dude are u in 2022 like the rest of us "they" is used to be respectful towards jayus.

[@projectionv.accountability1010]

Truth. Extremely toxic, and a magnetic lure for those with mental illness.

[@bluewolfchicken7310]

@@Seabass1206 the video literally said "they" during the entire video, did you not listen or what💀?

[@beanslife1869]

As a poc with a service dog (generational trauma ✨️) I laughed at the service dog one. As I do relate to some things she goes through like memory loss, I'm surprised that it didn't dominate their mind. They had handled the situation terribly tbh

[@dakotakulha8376]

Even I laughed at the serviced dog one. Yes, it's dark humor but it was so obvious that it was a joke

[@divaofthedamned365]

You need a service dog because of "generational trauma"?? I call bs so hard. It's perceived trauma you've never went through but want to bandwagon off of because you want to be apart of something. If we used your logic, every single person on this planet would have "generational trauma" because every single group of people have been; subjugated, enslaved, and persecuted for one thing or another. Just because someone's family has served their country for multiple generations doesn't mean their children will have PTSD. . If that's the case then all of China should be traumatized after what Mao and the CCP did to the Chinese people in 1958, yet the people who survived through generations of starvation, extermination, and brutality like you can't imagine continued to have families and lives. The Chinese people instead focus on other countries who they feel have wronged them like Japan and Taiwan. Why? Because it's not inherited, it's taught by the CCP. Just like racism, sexism, and being a victim - it's a taught and learned behavior, not one given at birth. . . . I honestly don't believe people like you even study the history you go on and on about. Please try looking at world history from across ALL of human history instead of nitpicking the facts that fit your narrative. Yet people like you are so quick to tell others to "educate yourselves" and then follow it up with "it's not my job to educate you" because you don't know what you're talking about and CAN'T educate those with legitimate questions and facts they bring to your attention.

[@MelissaSeoulLiving2023]

As someone with a Service Dog, and who occasionally passes out it doesn't matter if it's a joke someone out there will take it seriously. Many of my service dog handler friends were actually ROBBED and STOLEN from while they were passed out in various public places. It doesn't matter if it's a joke kids will take it seriously and we already have enough problems as it is with the public. If you were a legitimate Service Dog handler you wouldn't believe or imagine what we have to go through with the public daily. We shouldn't have to add worrying about being stolen, and robbed from when we're passed out helpless.

[@DeathBatBabe97]

I have a service dog too. If you can, try to dye their tail (they have dye made for dogs, of course) some type of identifying color. They're much more less likely to get snagged. When my golden, Lila got taken after I was having a grand mal seizure in the park, I went to the shelter and let them know. I dyed her tail half purple, half pink. She was found within 2 hours.

[@MelissaSeoulLiving2023]

@@DeathBatBabe97 I'm for sure thinking about dyeing mine since he's highly likely to get taken cause he has one blue eye and one brown eye as well as a great mix (Shepsky)

[@kittenmimi5326]

If everything is suddenly fine just because "it's just a joke" imagine how many crimes I could commit then! It'd feel like the purge everyday. Yay?

[@lostcitieseditz4044]

can u get a service dog for anxiety??? Like i will get rly upset or something and ill start shaking or it feels like im not rly there and then like im gone i go to my bed lay down and im fine. This all started one night when i literetly thought i was dying. Like i couldnt focus but like i knew i was there but i wasnt there and i like i dont even know how to describe it. What's wrong with me!!! And i dont want to tell nobody cause i dont want any attention and my mom may not believe me. I swear im not crazy

[@MelissaSeoulLiving2023]

@@lostcitieseditz4044 Yeah! It's called a Psychiatric Service Dog, as long as the dog alerts to you before an episode occurs and is properly trained to help you through each episode then it's a Service Dog :)

[@nachgeben]

How many of you defended Tana Mongeau as being 'just a kid' at 21? How many of you defended James Charles as being 'just a kid' at 19? 20? If you have to say that you did either of those things, but are bandwagoning against this 20 year old, go rotate on your high horse, hypocrites.

[@ashly1461]

Period

[@sneha.k7104]

True

[@Gulezworld]

PERIOD

[@zaza1998ful]

Tbh, I’ve never seen anyone defend James or Tana, but you’re right

[@josiemincey1494]

EXACTLY

[@elleash3040]

Grown adults arguing by going back & forth on tiktok is truly the beginning of the end.

[@mortemtool1783]

This is 1st world issues for you

[@rinpaisys]

I’ll be honest, I find myself far less invested in people turning out to be sh*tty when I stop assuming that people in a very public spotlight are who they present themselves as on camera, irl. (Very) Generally speaking, people who seek the spotlight aren’t necessarily the nicest or most stable people off camera. Not saying they don’t exist, but I tend to think of those who are decent people irl as more the exception than the rule. I feel this way about most positions of power, be it monetary, political, social, etc. People who want these positions to the point they actively pursue making them a reality….there’s a reason for it, and it’s rarely a normal, healthy, and/or good person behind those reasons.

[@froggyringu]

So far the only big youtuber I am inclined to trust is Simply nailogical. XD;;

[@Aeybiseediy]

Preach

[@despop2342]

I think you are very right.

[@jazwhoaskedforthis]

That's actually a pretty good point. The nicer people I know really don't draw much attention to themselves

[@irenegonzalez201]

@@jazwhoaskedforthis being humble is good.

[@HeyItsKayJayBae]

She should’ve just embraced the fact that no matter if someone is talking good OR bad about you, it’s still giving you “clout” and exposure.

[@ronnielyn1489]

even if they responded or not, people would still continue and make it worse. it's like gossip man, once someone starts a gossip about you - negative or not - it will spread like wildfires. if you try to stop it, people will attack you. if you don't do anything, it might even affect your career.

[@breathlesscharm6709]

So basically then anyone can have clout and exposure nowadays. How basic. Off to chase having survival skills and talent over fifteen seconds of fame from ungrateful people on the internet. ✌️

[@mossertosser]

All the creators in that argument were in the wrong,Jayus SHOULD NOT of said the things she said , But the creators should not have kept it secret and then keep on ambushing her,seems like a obvious cry for clout

[@goldyd144]

Ngl, the rant at 23:00 was terrifying. I mostly listen to these videos, and I was not expecting *them to be screaming in anger like that. 😳

[@xy9580]

At this point its not healthy anymore...

[@ronnielyn1489]

I'm not defending Jayus but like imagine being in that situation. it's quite stressful, with ADHD it even gets more stressful (because sensitivity is a symptom of ADHD, and self regulation as well)

[@_ducky_625]

She needs therapy

[@Milkyy_Shake]

*they :)

[@_ducky_625]

@@Milkyy_Shake no :)

[@spindledoesstuff7074]

While I don’t excuse saying slurs, it’s still rude to continue to harass someone who clearly wanted to be left alone. As someone who had a bad past where I said some regrettable stuff(not as bad as theirs but still), I would want to leave it in the past and continue to grow as a person instead of being held back by my past. The people who keep making a big deal out of it are rude, like everyone already knows, you can stop making videos about something that happened 6 years ago. Honestly I’ve seen people do worse and not have this much backlash, I think it’s too much.

[@dr.temperancebrennan]

Yeah... no... you don't get to be racist and then have everyone forget it. If jayus didn't want people bringing up the fact that they're racist, they should've just, you know, not been racist.

[@SorarikoMotone]

@@dr.temperancebrennan so what, we should harass everyone who said racist things whn they were much younger but since then learned not to be like that? thats f*cked up and most likely will lead to radicalization of these people

[@AxolotlQueen]

@@dr.temperancebrennan bro people can change. if people started bringing up the time i picked my nose in 1st grade or whatever and called me gross and inexcusable after like 10 years i'd just want to be left alone. I'm black and honestly find OJ as a good content creator

[@strawberryboy9045]

@@AxolotlQueen same a lot of people forget that how racism started in the firs place and it’s just insensitive as a whole to label someone as racist so easily when racism was a history in itself and instead of sharing those TikTok’s about a college student being treated unfairly or a teacher dividing the races of their students well THATS segregation and the same as back then but nooo keep on back and forthing between a popular social media influencer because they will solve everything

[@irenegonzalez201]

What do you mean she wanted to be left alone? That's not what a social media star wants. If everyone left them alone, they would no longer get attention. She is just unhappy that the attention turned negative.

[@RaniaRiazWagan]

This is like a kindergarden fight

[@giap830]

REAL 🤡

[@angelaplays]

As a black person. As long as they aren’t being actively racist then I accept their apology. And they was a kid too so they were still learning. As long as they aren’t in the streets calling black people the n word I don’t care

[@millie1680]

Fr

[@Sarah_t420]

We really need to start teaching kids that "if you dont have anything nice to say, then dont say anything" a much more important thing cause it really seems like its become a forgotten lesson smh 🤦 i really dont understand why it is so hard to treat everyone around you how you want to be treated this whole situation was completely avoidable, i swear people are becoming more and more disappointing 😑

[@Ya_boi_jasper]

Its not forgotten. Just some people never learned.

[@gachatana9656]

My mum teaches all of us jn my house that and then I get told off for not answering people when I'm in a bad mood lol, literally can't win with that one

[@Sarah_t420]

@@gachatana9656 lol just gotta tell her sorry but im in a bad mood and if i answer it will not make you happy, i usually make it known immediately when i am in a bad mood so people know not to ask me anything cause i will probably hurt your feelings if you do lol

[@jfew1847]

What ASTOUNDS me is how wrapped up people get in a random strangers online persona.

[@breathlesscharm6709]

But why would smaller time influencers ever take responsibility when large ones, like the Kardashians, are never held responsible either? No one seems to get that being an influencer implies you have influence over others- That alone implies you have responsibility. You don’t get to say “oh it’s just the internet” “oh it’s just a joke” “oh it doesn’t really matter”. IT MATTERS. IT INFLUENCES OTHERS. THINK BEFORE YOU POST THINGS TO MASS AMOUNTS OF PEOPLE. THINK ABOUT THE LONG TERM IMPACT. DUH.

[@ajplayz4138]

People like the kardashians are just too popular to call out, they have been, but it never worked

[@breathlesscharm6709]

@@ajplayz4138 I live in Los Angeles, call it like it is: They are TOO RICH to be held accountable for their own behavior and how they impact others. 🍵 Everyone lets them skate by because eventually they either get something out of being connected to them or they get tired of trying to tell people to see the bigger picture, the consequences of these INFLUENTIAL actions. No responsibility for what they do and yet they want the clout that comes with the status. Seem familiar? Look at some of the people all around us. Guess thats what happens when they get influenced by trash. The bigger influencers will always impact the ones that are smaller and just coming up. Until they start behaving more and more kids will be doing stuff like this.

[@Jaceyy]

As if you've never made a mistake, especially as a young adult. Get over yourself

[@twgok3162]

The kardashiens are influencers Janus is a content creator they both influence but only one makes anything of value

[@Danovio]

Correction none of them makes anything of value

[@the-meriem945]

man what happened to the internet... it used to be full of fun, useful information, a safe place to make friends, but now? I understand it wasn't completely free of toxicity before but now it is literally the place you'd go if you want to be humiliated or bullied, I'm so glad I was raised in a traditional way and didn't get a phone at a young age because I'm sure it would have affected my mindset and self growth

[@shayZcajun]

Thinking the same. People used to get on the internet to escape real life and now they use real life to escape the internet. My kids didn't get phones at young ages because I wanted them to know what it's like to just be a kid without the added pressure.

[@shayZcajun]

@@the-meriem945 my oldest came to me after she moved out and thanked me for a great childhood and all the memories. True story. 🥰

[@Klee.the.destroyer]

I seriously can't find one good creator that I can support without them turning problematic, its a curse 😭

[@ReddCinema]

Your consistency and quality of content never disappoints! ❤

[@Thomasaquniaswannabe]

This ain't ishowspeed

[@ImElytra]

o_O

[@dripchungus]

This isn't billy eyelish

[@dummydee4671]

When she first got popular on tiktok I think in 2019 I couldn't stand the false psychology "facts" she was putting out. She never did in depth research, she never put in effort. So seeing her screwing over so many good people isn't surprising cause she is lazy and hasn't ever cared about people, just thinks of them as views. I feel bad for the slander these black creators are getting from her viewers who are choosing to be ignorant to a glaring issue.

[@pillsburysoyboy2078]

Ikr they already bothered me when gladly educating people and I had no clue that all of these issues went down regarding them

[@breathlesscharm6709]

“Doesn’t care about people; Only cares about views” (aka what she can get out of people.) hmmm. gosh wonder what influencer family this reminds me of. can’t possibly be people who have way more influence than this girl and yet people gas them up left and right. gosh wonder what happens when more influential people have impact on others and they never stop. maybe we keep having the same issues over and over again with smaller time influencers coming up? yeah, probably. >.>

[@ashly1461]

Get over it

[@GabiRojas-jx1rm]

If someone tells me my favorite food is tacos I wouldn't give af because I'm not a victim and an attention seeker. I'm not on anyone's side but you do know that these "victims" that you feel bad for are making money off of these vidoes. They know exactly what they're doing.

[@dummydee4671]

@@GabiRojas-jx1rm still damaging to having a gang of people trying to gaslight you into thinking you're doing something wrong. 🤔

[@darkgardevoir99]

That "Aunt Karen" was very aptly named. She's more insufferable than OnlyJayus, and that's saying something.

[@elijahsesi4755]

Honestly that women seemed insufferable

[@burningcaiman]

this is simply what happens when you push imense stress onto people

[@Izlandprincess1]

If someone apologizes what determines how genuine it is....you take their word for it and judge their current actions going forward. If she cried or didnt cry I'm sure someone would make an issue about it. The fact they apologized to the person before it got blown out then that must say something. Also she is not obligated to make videos with black people....matter of fact it's best not to make a promise because it will come back to haunt you.

[@Kalani_Saiko]

Plus, making videos with a person just because of their skin colour is kinda racist in itself...

[@thecat7803]

@@Kalani_Saiko ah, yes. Helping to promote people who have been historically put down is racist.

[@Kalani_Saiko]

@@thecat7803 That is not what I said

[@gachatana9656]

@@thecat7803 No, actually listen to what is being said. Making a VIDEO with a person JUST FROM SKIN COLOUR can be seen as a RACIST action because you are focused on SKIN COLOUR and not their skill or content.

[@toasxter9804]

@@thecat7803 what's racist is making videos w someone JUST bc their a poc for views

[@lyraoehl7218]

What some people don't understand is when you apologize you don't state why you are in the right, or make an excuse. SMH

[@itspiinkyrose4324]

Exactly !!!

[@breemcneedy6492]

I'm a fan of theirs and this is the first im hearing of this. Never seen anyone bad mouth them on tiktok or anywhere else. In short I'm very surprised about this To be clear, I am a casual fan and don't go out of my way to see everyone's latest post...

[@megansstallion818]

How did you not? OMG ☠️

[@InfyFish]

Same, i didn't know 💀

[@nithbell]

yeah I only found abt this a couple weeks ago and I hadn’t seen it mentioned anywhere else

[@emilym3013]

@@megansstallion818 not everyone is constantly worried about everybody else😐

[@thehappypancake6079]

@@emilym3013 but they themselves addressed it on their page. They made an apology and pinned it. It's truly really hard to believe their fans never heard of this.

[@jaclynns.jungle]

All of these people need to touch grass

[@evahernandez1463]

I think it would be completely different if they didn't react so negatively, saying one thing and then backtracking, and generally using their diagnosis as an excuse rather than a reason and moving forward.

[@lizxu322]

All in all she played her cards really badly and should have fessed up without making excuses...But you know what the say, the higher you are, the further you fall...And people like watching others fall

[@Jaceyy]

Sorry what would it have looked like if she used her diagnosis as a reason, rather than an excuse?

[@irenegonzalez201]

And also the nonbinary thing conveniently happened after exposing the n-word dabaucle. A convenient distraction.

[@tia7125]

@@lizxu322 if she ignorez everything then she is ignorant and racist...if she givez a reason then itz a excuse for yall...idk wut do u all expect from her? to change the past or smtg?

[@Meh_idk__]

I think she gets stressed to easily, therefore making her lash out, the internet can be stressful and it’s not for everyone and I think she just needs to accept she’s going to get backlash in these situations but she can’t be mad at ALL of it since those are peoples feelings and opinions, or not be here at all since it seems to be to much

[@voluntarism335]

She absolutely does not have to put up with targeted harassment, doxxing and threats, people who do that not only should be banned but they should be imprisoned.

[@Ghostie43]

@@voluntarism335 💯 thank you yes!

[@justaperson2804]

Adhd is most likely the reason for lash outs is due to emotional dysregulation “ Emotional dysregulation is a term used to describe an emotional response that is poorly regulated and does not fall within the traditionally accepted range of emotional reaction.” And it is a core trait in ADHD

[@tommyo2450]

And this is why kids shouldn't have internet. Bunch of children arguing over literally nothing that matters.

[@cchiuco7266]

I’ve heard of some controversy surround Jayus, never dwell on it, only fallow her friend Matty. Also ADHD isn’t an excuse for everything, my cousins have ADHD and they do forget but not everytime and they don’t make it as an excuse

[@cosmicmilk9294]

I AGREE

[@aurahyhj]

Many ADHD patients have this disorder where they feel more sensitive then others when arrows are shot, both her and this guy are toxic and they could have met up and talk but both are beefing on the internet

[@cosmicmilk9294]

@@aurahyhj I have ADHD but is that really an excuse

[@cosmicmilk9294]

@@aurahyhj but ya I agree it didn't haft to go too far

[@Morelloxo]

I thought Jayus and Mattie were dating?? Mattie is awesome x

[@roadworkahead8967]

As someone who has relatively severe ADD now just called ADHD, I’m sure others have like their interpretation and just like essentially how their own ADHD affects them personally. But I find it to be an extreme exaggerated statement, I mean you could go hours, maybe a whole day but day(s) but like procrastinate sleep, kinda same thing. I mean your body needs it, to function so like she would be looking like a lot worse physically. But the joke thing about stealing from incapacitated disabled people with service dogs, sure she may be joking. But I mean in situations like that where their life could be in real danger, it just is in very bad taste

[@MissCaraMint]

Thing is that I have actually gone days without eating because of my ADHD. Sure it doesn’t happen often and I take steps to make sure I stay healthy, but when I’m in a negative spiral this absolutely is a thing I experience.

[@nimhfinitepossibilities7609]

As someone with several mental issues, ADHD being only one of them, I also forget to eat or sleep sometimes for days at a time. Either because of a negative spiral, or because of spending extended hours hyper-focusing. (Sometimes hopping from one hyper-focus to the next in a way that there isn't any time in-between to realize that I'm hungry/tired). The joke about stealing from someone while their service dog seeks help, though... bad taste, no matter how you look at it.

[@eden_xoxoxo]

The only thing I’m helping Jayus in, is that all these people called them a “she” WHEN JAYUS GOES BY THEY/THEM! That’s the only thing

[@LuvvLiii]

I'm dissapointed in Jayus, I really loved them before. Also, makes me really happy Acrello use the right pronouns for Jayus even though they were fighting.

[@geeloxoxo2574]

Bella goes with any pronounce

[@AutoAimer]

@@martinfragoso9841 If a random white person said racial slurs in public would they receive backlash?

[@mhrau444]

jesus christ, I got ADHD and I feel cringe when she tries to blame it all on the fact shes neurodiverse lol

[@1337-i3v]

23:18 she blamed forgetting to email back on that Do I cringe by someone saying "I forgot, you know adhd" nah not really.

[@hixpster6650]

ok but you and jayus are different human beings? Stop minimalizing other people's problem just bc u don't have it as bad smh. You're being ignorant asf.

[@carve519]

ADHD can cause improper emotion handling/regulation. She is being harassed for having a neurological disorder yet she is the one painted as a bad person. As someone who has ADHD, I am getting sick of people thinking it is just an excuse/joke/content for shiwwyy ADHD tiktoks...

[@mayonakaexpress9382]

Keep In mind Due to it being a Neurological Disorder NOT EVREYONE HAS THE EXACT SAME EFFECT'S, I Also have ADHD have struggled with it my entire life It caused me to Now develop a eating disorder Due to forgetting to eat for multiple days On end I forget to sleep for multiple days On end There have been Plenty Of times I lost amazing opportunities Because I forgot They even existed for me at the time, a lot of people assume especially those with it that the way IT effect's you is the same It effect's someone else ADHD can also effect Other disorders and The other way around We don't know what underlying issues she has But from what this shows She hasn't Gotten proper Treatment or Learning to manage her ADHD as a child To help her Into adulthood So she's Learning It now You probobly Had that help with management SO Please take into consideration Even though its the same disorder Everyone feels it differently And it effect's them differently Because No brain Is the same, While I'm not trying to defend her or her actions Or the way she blames it on that entirely And not herself when she could has put it in the way "Hey sorry I'm ADHD I Forgot and I will try to make a better Management plan to Contact you so we can do this" That would have bene much better But Because it might seem "Cringy" Because You learned the proper management AS someone who STRUGGLES HEAVILY due to ADHD That it hurtful when It is something that Does happen but it's Not entirely On the fault of ADHD but it does play A HUGE factor

[@Lloydproductions4171]

I got ADHD to but sometimes I often forget things

[@eviesawdy441]

i dont understand why full grown adults are fighting like teenagers its embarrasing

[@davioncarvalho6890]

What she needs is someone to sit down, talk to her and make her understand the things she did wrong, she needs someone to help her own up to her mistakes, not backslash causing even more of a fuss. If they really want this to stop, get someone to talk to her, make her realize that she's being stubborn and racist.

[@dollar_store_harley_quinn1480]

agreed

[@pitonpriscal3379]

If they did this in the first place, they don't have to use their energy to fuss about it. Although some creators have much more to say.

[@Cyberneticfrk]

They literally had three people who did that tho

[@davioncarvalho6890]

@@Cyberneticfrk I when those 3 people to help her, and she apologize and justified herself, ya'll still cause a fuss about it. so what do you do now??

[@davioncarvalho6890]

@@Cyberneticfrk What do u want her to do? After she apologized so much times

[@coconutsinbarbados]

Nobody in this is sincere. As a 35 year old woman looking in from an older perspective it's kind of sad that the biggest top trump they have is how many thousands of followers they have that don't know them. I bet she's barely had any real friends it's sad

[@Ghostie43]

Exactly 💯

[@21BearPapa]

This is the reason why I never plan to join TikTok... Well that and the notices before signing up.

[@faerieeyukii]

Tbh I feel like the TikTok and Reddit communities put too much pressure on her. Like, first that guy she insulted is toxic because he said he forgave her but showed their conversation years later. And THEN many TickTokers start harassing her for a mistake she made years ago... plenty of people recalled her mistake, so others need to stop and leave her alone. People change over the years, plus she has a dark past. Aunt Karen seriously harassed her, I get she said racist things, and that makes people really offended, but no need to make 10+ TikToks about it, that is harassing... But I am kind of disappointed on her response about this problem. To ghost people like that is not something you want to do to fix your problems. I used to watch her Shorts :(

[@irinaparent9066]

with their actions, she was smart to ghost them. they are nothing more than clout chasers. all those people going after her were toxic, but she does not know how to not respond. just stay out, don't respond, even if they demand it. she seems unable to do this

[@moruwen]

@@irinaparent9066 there’s nothing toxic in getting offended ;-;. It’s just the backlash of her actions. And no she said something really bad and harmful so she has the obligation to address it and apologize. For the gurl that talked about the ghost part I KINDA agree with you tho.

[@vanessasmith5067]

@@irinaparent9066 one of them set up a way to help Jayus, set up meeting times, and then paid for equipment just for jayus to ghost him

[@danieItiger]

Jayus should probably just leave the internet, and go to therapy

[@megansstallion818]

She should

[@EsraaAMadoh]

internet fame is not for the faint hearted

[@diy_cat9817]

Half the people on tiktok should

[@alcardosi7549]

@@diy_cat9817 yep

[@lostcitieseditz4044]

but i still like her videos!!!!

[@kaibaiarrio1299]

Yknow, its interesting how they repeatedly "called out" black creators for "copying", on top of the use of the n word to insult someone. Also the aunt karen situation...as someone who HAS adhd, racism isnt a trait of adhd, its a trait of a racist. The "joke" about service dogs is not funny. Disabled people, especially disabled people who visibly have aids like wheelchairs and service dogs, are frequently targeted by able-bodied people. Making a video thats intended to look and sound like one of their regular life advice/tips and having the "joke" be "if you follow a service dog youll see a disabled person you can steal from!". Edit: also, as an abuse survivor, being an abuse survivor doesnt mean you have 0 privilege. Thats not how that works. You can still come from an unprivileged background and still perpetuate bigotry, intentionally or not

[@liisarefa5705]

I don't think they are a bad person, they only have to learn how to react/ behave respectfully and not to put wood into the fire.

[@Sebastian_guy]

They use they/them pronouns!

[@soapytin]

she is bas

[@chicanalex4529]

I don’t think she is a bad person either, and your right, she just needs to learn

[@liisarefa5705]

@@Sebastian_guy Thank you for telling me.

[@64156ful]

You changed she to they but you didn't change "is" to "are"

[@TiffTok]

As someone with adhd I feel really bad because rejection sensitivity is really contributing to their downward spiral, HOWEVER, you have to be open to criticism and learn how to prioritize self improvement when you’re neuro divergent in a neuro typical world. A simple, “ I’ll do better” followed by taking small steps to be better would have been great…I feel bad for them but its their fault for being resistant to growth….also some of their critics definitely took things too far under the guise of being an ally/ accountability. I hope they take a break and get better. Change is still possible, you just have to recognize that you can.

[@N95j]

I fully agree

[@LoisVaughn545]

Why do some people do this every time a new person becomes big on social media

[@purplebugg]

jelly

[@stephaniejaboh8929]

Regardless of the issues the video is talking about, I just thought that all of those people shown in the video seem very toxic. It's like they were all racing to add more more toxic to the toxicity of the issue and it unnecessary dragged on and on. Some of them tried to sound positive but none of their actions were any positive no matter what they thought they want to push.

[@tuga__64]

EXACTLY people online just cant call out someone for being toxic without being toxic themselves

[@anishaganguly1440]

Exactly, everyone in this was toxic

[@waytansea]

I casually discovered they are dating Maddie Westbrooks and it breaks my heart because Maddie seems like a genuine, funny and enthusiastic human being while they(Bella) looks having a really short temper and a quite aggressive way to express feelings.

[@MakaylaRG7]

Okay, I’m gonna play the devil’s advocate here. I follow Mattie and Jayus, but I’m mostly a casual fan for both. Jayus does seem to be a little better now, but maybe I’m not noticing things. I’ve also seen them together and they both seem happy, so it’s probably okay. Please don’t come after me I’m really just saying what I think.

[@geeloxoxo2574]

I agree she seems a bit aggressive I used to watch her content n i still do cz yt keeps recommending it in the yt shorts 😅

[@MALL0RYMULLEN]

I know this is the Internet, but the lack of private communication is so terrible in this situation. Of course everything Jayus did was not excusable and not acceptable, the way all of these creators teamed up to harass her publicly is insane. This whole problem would have been made so much better if stuff like Aunt Karen had just talked to Jayus on other platforms to get her opinion

[@N95j]

I agree. all these creators could’ve just tried at least once to contact Jayus and talk to them privately about it, but *most* of them didn’t

[@yellowlab1173]

Yes! Just got home from a horrible day at school now I get to play my videogame while listening to my favorite youtuber! You make my day so much better Spill thank you!

[@tsu4595]

I've watched videos on the timeline surrounding OnlyJayus' scandals, so I know what had been going on, but nothing beats Spill's format on covering topics!

[@majiira2]

She didn't just call someone an n. She called someone an n-lover as an insult. Implying that even liking a black person is shameful, disgusting, wrong. Using a slur just because you want to use an insult is bad enough. But her words showed that she genuinely held the belief that loving a black person is disgusting. So it goes deeper. I will never forgive her

[@cute_praisee8362]

What is n word ?

[@m.a.9648]

@@cute_praisee8362 a slur used against african-americans

[@aqua5552]

Never forgive her? You do realize change is real right?

[@alijane6675]

Wasn’t she a teenager when she made those mistakes? We forgive teenagers lol. Come on.

[@sofirachanchae]

Jayus pronouns are They/Them

[@RoxanneLavender]

Based on the social media careers of previously cancelled people, it seems the best thing to do is take a break for between 3 months and a year, or a little longer, then come back seeming scared, shy, apologetic, and say in a shy exacerbated way that you and everyone is ready to move on. In the meantime, get a office job or something.

[@lizxu322]

Except they can't or won't...cos they got a taste of tiktok fame and can't deign to get a desk job...

[@biazacha]

The good ol Shane Dawson playbook

[@Imissnormal]

Some of these people are pulling tens of thousands a month so they could definitely disappear for awhile and be fine if they were smart with money. If it were me, I would rent a cabin in the mountains and just chill.

[@etliedroidx3468]

Imagine hearing Jayus screaming this "Rage apology" next to your car in a parking lot 😂

[@petermorgan4720]

Sooo glad I'm not on TikTok...

[@giap830]

REAL

[@gksora]

I came up in an abusive home life. Yet: I don't feel the need to drop racial slurs, or tell my following to rob disabled people.

[@AxolotlQueen]

the first one was a mistake, and the second one was a joke. it was illegal life advice, entire video was obv a joke, don't overreact please.

[@streamsetmefre3]

@@AxolotlQueen mistake? she willfully called someone who was in a relationship with a black person an n word lover. thats not a mistake she knew what she was saying she directed it at a blk person. robbing disabled people also inst a joke and isnt funny

[@3mindrebel]

@@streamsetmefre3 A mistake can be something that people do that is wrong, but they realize it was wrong. Mistake isn't just one definition hon.

[@puii7683]

@@AxolotlQueen Ok even if the first one was a mistake the second one being a joke shouldn't just be excused ://. Jokes can still be crossing the line and in bad taste. Their "joke" with the service dogs and stealing from ppl who have them when they're out is not ok especially when a lot of people have actually experienced that and can spread misinformation to more impressionable people. They also knew the joke was in bad taste with multiple creators with service dogs pointing out it's problematic but can't even be bothered to take the video down? Don't excuse people for nasty things they say just because "it's just a joke bro"

[@AxolotlQueen]

@@puii7683 i found it funny idk

[@michaelklockner8539]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I do think some of these black creators who allegedly wanted to collaborate with her were too quick to call her racist. I mean I honestly don't have any place talking about this bc I'm not black. But to me it seemed like both parties were in the wrong here and both handled it wrong. Not a white privileged racist girl vs black ppl. But yeah I Def do think she should take some time off, maybe go to therapy, reflect and then fulfill her promises she made.

[@Versilius]

I agree

[@derth9230]

As a black person i agree.

[@Alexandria87]

@@derth9230 I agree too. That was kinda annoying me.

[@kat-ub1dx]

“i honestly don’t have any place talking abt this” *talks abt it*

[@caffeineandmemes]

Okay, a thought: I know Jayus has ADHD, I do too, but if content creation is your JOB, and part of that job is collaborating with other creators or helping along brand deals, shouldn't you try to be on the up and up with it? Don't get me wrong, I understand executive dysfunction and forgetting things, I struggle with that at work as well, but like at least give Aunt Karen an update. Say something like 'hey, things are crazy rn, I'm so sorry, give me some time and I'll get this together' or if you can't do the collabs anymore, explain yourself. If you can't be on the up and up, ask your managerial team to set up an away message or have THEM email Aunt Karen. I don't entirely know what managerial teams do, but I feel like that makes sense.

[@anon0268]

The internet is so incredibly toxic. People make mistakes, even horrible ones. They apologized. We are human and we can grow and change. Stop it with this "holier than thou" attitude.

[@gawd4582]

The fact of the matter is people want to give heartfelt apologies when their financial purse is on the line. Do you believe that she would have apologized with tears in her eyes and so much emotion if Netflix wasn't considering pulling out of her brand deal, I don't think so either.

[@seli.popcornpfoten]

I mean, I feel like this has become way bigger than it should have been. Sure, using a slur like that is not okay and sure, her way of reacting to it may not be ideal either... But is it really THAT big of a deal? Isn't there worse stuff going on in this world at the moment?

[@shirabukenjiro1151]

as someone who has adhd and bella has explained that she has adhd people can forget things very easily with this condition and from many other experiences it’s easier to get depression as well losing interest is also a huge part of this memory loss is one of the symptoms of adhd setting goals with adhd hardly ever works unless you force yourself to do these things on the daily because its once in an entire week i actually have motivation to do the goals ive set for myself adhd isn’t a joke and i can see exactly where she is coming from

[@iesroo]

As someone woth adhd and other neurological disorders i can confirm

[@scremmy_draws]

EXACTLY

[@j3nki541]

yea

[@MissCaraMint]

Yeah her video made a lot of sense. The ghosting also makes sense from a procrastinating and then forgetting to respond perspective, which is an ADHD thing. It’s frustrating for everyone involved when that happens, and is something that needs to be worked on to avoid doing.

[@danibarrios5416]

I have adhd too and yeah we struggle a lot with executive function but her reacción te being called out for ghosting is CRAZY to me, that’s just someone who doesn’t want to take responsibility and be held accountable for their actions

[@aisha7278]

Why read books about how not to be racist if you’re not? When people start canceling you you don’t act like you did nothing wrong as if your are the only sane one here and all the thousands of people are the insane ones, another thing that pisses me off is blaming everything mistake you ever did on adhd it’s an illness it makes doing stuff harder not impossible, and also why letting someone write your apology that is supposed to represent how sorry and ashamed you are of what you did?! It’s either A you are not sorry or B you don’t see yourself wrong and don’t really care! I really hope you get the help you need

[@ashly1461]

Just let her live and get over it

[@aisha7278]

@@ashly1461 i gave my opinion nothing more nothing less

[@laurazepam8382]

The amount of mails, messages and phonecalls i have not responded to because I genuinely forgot is ridiculous. It happens

[@chickenchickenmc7740]

I am a colored person and I honestly forgive OnlyJayus. Other people aren’t listening what she has to say and are overreacting. I understand their mindset tho. This is my opinion btw not tryna force it on anyone.

[@biancasimone2265]

Not ‘I’m a colored person’ I’m cracking up. Y’all are annoying 😂😂😂

[@lilskittlenamedlittle]

I'm colored and I'm not forgiving them, they KNEW it was a racist and hurtful slur and said it anyways and bashed and clashed on other creators.

[@derth9230]

@@biancasimone2265 Bro what.

[@3mindrebel]

@@biancasimone2265 Please touch some grass.

[@anishaganguly1440]

@@biancasimone2265 Yup racist, trying to quiet other people of color? How do you like being Racist?

[@lowkeybree]

Racist people make me SO angry. We are all human, yes we might have different skin colors, but that's what makes all of us so special! Bc we are all different in our own ways. Have a nice day everyone. 💗

[@iesroo]

Bruh its obvious that everyone is a human

[@lowkeybree]

@@iesroo yea ik. But some people treat others with darker skin like they are objects.

[@iesroo]

@@lowkeybree :(

[@lowkeybree]

@@iesroo ik...

[@PlatonicPurplePanda]

The toxicity of social media is crazy. Society really was better off before social media came to be.

[@yinyin8769]

That video of jayus yelling into the camera is so fcking scary dude💀 and then also saying stuff like "she wanted to collab with me" like no?? It was jayus who started all this and never went through with it so I completely stand with anyone who doesn’t forgive them. They don’t deserve it imo

[@cupcake8905]

As a kid Diagnosed with ADHD, I like how she even blames her racism and her memory on ADHD, but she do realize that ADHD has nothing to do with those things, especially racism.

[@kawaiic418]

ADHD can actually have a lot to do with your memory... not the racism thing though

[@darius684]

I had someone say somthing racist to me and they had adhd but he realised his mistake like in a few seconds so i was confused at why it was blamed on the adhd

[@CoolerFriezasBro]

can confirm but some things are defintely true cause i have ADHD

[@PanicInDucky]

I would say the it's not so much an "ADHD thing" and the path to overcoming a bad upbringing being made more difficult by ADHD. So, if OnlyJayus has a childhood where racism was explicit and condoned, they may have developed mental schema where in different situations they were taught to believe the appropriate response was racism. So, they leave that environment, and learn that racism is bad but there's a problem their brain wouldn't have the same explicit "no go zone" around that is programmed into most of us as small children. So, now onlyjayus knows that racism is bad but still has the mental schema subconsciously suggesting that racism as an option but hasn't yet got "no go zone". This means Onlyjayus needs to be consciously of the possibility their schema is going to lead them down the racism track, needs to remember the situations that might trigger that response, needs to have the presence of mind to avert racist disaster, and actually stop themselves before the disaster has already happened. Honestly, with someone of OnlyJayus's background I wouldn't be surprised if they're slipping up a whole bunch in their private life, possibly not even realising they're saying stuff offensive unless it's pointed out because they've basically go to deprogram themselves and that is HARD. We'd like to believe that there's a little switch in our brain racism: good/bad we can switch at will, but that's not how it works and it's a lot of work to do when you're in your 20's, particularly when you've had a sh*t time of it.

[@CoolerFriezasBro]

@@PanicInDucky wow that s long but i get the idea its just it some of thoose thing are really true and also its hard you know what its fine

[@Stoic-xm7uo]

OMG, I’m horrified seeing what has occurred to service dog owners. It’s already bad enough assault occurs, but to fear that needing help can be more harmful is beyond fearful. I’m totally on board stopping sadistic fame seeking people using malicious norms to get attention, nevertheless personification.

[@jamiederamus3832]

As someone who has ADHD and experiences the same thing, i get it. I forget things and I have time blindness too. It seems like she was going through alot with moving and everything. BUT this issue is massive, and if she needed to delay the colab for what ever reason, i think if she kept in communication with Aunt Karen and explained what was going on, things would have gone on better.

[@charmander466]

But that adhd didn't kick in for the sponsors did it?

[@thatonekidfromkindergarten4495]

So much of this could have been mitigated if Jayus kept their mouth shut and thought about consequences before they said things

[@unusual_sandwich]

This is the internet we're talking about. People would keep shitting on her anyway

[@Ghostie43]

Yea and others could have learned to forgive and move on no matter what she tried to do to make it right it was going to be wromg

[@lorenaloyola4488]

not defending anymore: IM ACTUALLY DONE with people of color talking and taking everything so personally (relating eveything to color), im latina, I AM BROWN. But i will not go around blame everything bad that happens to me ''oh because this is what happens bc im brown''... it's like to stop using that card and just accept that people are MEAN AND BAD no matter what color you are.

[@bee7137]

i was abused by my family too but ive never said the n word and im not racist. huh, funny

[@ashly1461]

Wow props to you here’s a candy

[@Ssouna]

@@ashly1461 if that's the only response you can come up with, keep it to yourself.

[@alizulfiqar4888]

@@Ssouna true

[@anishaganguly1440]

@@ashly1461 You are no better than the girl this video is about. Grow up