How Our Second Pregnancy Changes Everything | {THE AND} Sidra & Ben (Part 1)

[@cieranelson3609]

I love Sidra's ability to be so vulnerable about how she feels. No one ever talks about motherhood in that way.

[@OnyinyeNwokorie]

ciera Nelson agreed. It’s so liberating in a way. Like wow.

[@drmedwuast]

I've never heard that in real life before. Women are just supposed to be glowing lights of wholesomeness while they're pregnant. Why does nobody ever talk about it that way?

[@nikkimendoza2720]

ciera Nelson so true !!! I felt the same ways!!! Change is hard

[@MahoganyGlaze]

Ciera Nelson RIGHT!!!!!!!!! I love her honesty. Because as a women who is yet to be married or have babies I have some of those same fears!!!!

[@sherry1253]

Because it is easy, if you do not want it -dont do it. DO NOT BRING CHILDREN IN THE WORLD IF YOU HAVE NEGATIVE FEELIINGS ON IT. Common Sense people! She sounded DUMB not vulnerable.

[@ione97]

They are the most active listeners!! They never interject with stuff like "well i just feel like...". They just listen, take it in and, i'm assuming, make the changes needed to rebalance the relationship . Even when you can tell they are flawed and their relationship takes work, the love is so palpable

[@Victor_ailey]

Ione Shakur what an intuitive reading of them. you must be an awesome soul ✨

[@pinkunicornglitter]

I find it so beautiful how Ben clearly FEELS what Sidra is saying. It's almost like he knows what she's saying, beyond her words, and when he is looking to her eyes he not only sees her soul, but he feels it too. I know that sounds incredibly romantic, but their intimacy and closeness is so palpable, and it's a divine thing to see.

[@kikiejx]

"It is a commitment to hold onto each other through all our forms and changes" Wow.

[@Izzy-bk8iw]

Awww. The way he looks at his wife ❤❤❤ he shows great appreciation and she appreciates it. Love this couple

[@hannahlou7011]

Im so in love with how she shared her raw and truly deep feelings about having another baby, and Ben's response was so welcoming 'thank-you'.

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Hannah Katherine I understand her feelings completely. I was so down with baby #2 she is now 20 y.o. And the best decision ever. She was such a good baby and a wonderful balance to the family.

[@HoustonKeith72]

Man, this couple does the WORK. They articulate their feelings so well. It makes me terrified but also excited to experience this kind of relationship.

[@Izzy-bk8iw]

I need to work on myself lol

[@thegossipswan009]

I'm in love with this couple!

[@anya876]

And all of the sudden, this day just became million times better

[@emmru7073]

me rn , in 2021 on my birthday:)

[@bellindahmaseko_]

Ben is looking at Sidra...like my God you so Beautiful...

[@CrustyUgg]

Bellindah_ M and she is! They're beautiful physically but their souls... My God. They're so gorgeous. Even in all their flaws

[@priusa8113]

Wished my husband looked at me the same way:( but he is clueless

[@LoveFinds]

The way she talks about having a baby is exactly how I feel. The fact that she already has one makes me believe more that feeling is valid.

[@Lalouthe007]

They remind me of the parents from "this is us". They have so much love for each other it's mesmerizing :)

[@izziethan2]

mrs noname omg yesssssss

[@elliewithg]

Jack and Rebecca ❤️

[@daphinekatushabe618]

I knkw OMG I love it

[@bobkuusela3273]

Me on the phone: yes, I’m leaving now. See you in ten Also me: sees notification of Sidra & Ben vids Me on the phone again: something came up. Will need 30 more minutes

[@VoiceYourSoul]

Bob Kuusela hahaha I was gonna watch a movie but saw their vid and was like see what had happen was.....

[@worldtrends3592]

Haha

[@jaycejidb]

I hope they figure out how to deal with some of the issues Ben was addressing. The marriage is still the most important relationship in the family, please keep your romance a priority and never feel like your voice and fears don't matter. You guys have something so special.

[@yana6225]

I hope every man finds a woman like sidra, and every woman finds a man like ben! Or every man a ben, and every woman a sidra, just how you like it :D

[@madamzajj980]

Jo An well put 😊

[@kkibela]

Jo An lovely x

[@thegossipswan009]

Best comment (:

[@soulsmusic15]

I dont want someone who pressures me into having a baby.

[@Tontoquienloleation]

@@soulsmusic15 It's not pressure. You look like the kind of person who doesn't care about your partner's opinions and needs.

[@anabluu]

These guys have taught me how to be in a relationship!!!

[@kelseyl288]

AnaSocial I feel the same way. I don’t think they’re aware of the impact but it is such a big one for someone like me, who grew up with an extremely dysfunctional family. To be so vulnerable, and feeling safe with someone. I don’t know, everything. It’s making me a better woman.

[@ThamirisMuniz]

same

[@fakingdeep6418]

How do you find such introspective and articulate people? They've always been my favorite couple to watch because I always enjoy listening to their perspectives.

[@vinamistry5263]

the open line of communication they have between each other and the ability to listen to each other with their hearts is so beautiful. I can't wait to have a relationship like this one day

[@marianapomme7595]

They are both so open and willing to be vulnerable and honest with themselves, with each other. I strive for that in my relationship. It is so important. And that story about holding on through all of our forms hit home. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

[@growthinorederwithdiane]

I wish every couple was this mature. Most aren't. That's why this couple is getting so much praise. Maturity in a relationship should be the norm but it's not.

[@Mrschristinehubert]

Sidra and Ben are my favorite couple ever. They are 1000% couple goals. Their body language is so perfect. Please don't ever stop featuring them on this!

[@compassion2126]

I am so grateful for someone to be honest about how they feel about expanding a family even when thier not happy about it. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and it needs to be talked about. Not everyone just feels joy about having a baby. It’s difficult and takes so much out of the mother. It should be discussed in a way that acknowledges the challenges and frustrations as well that’s real; and not make a probably more common than realized feeling marginalized.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Yes, all for this! Absolutely agree. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us.

[@natcourt8719]

I always feel like I learn such valuable lessons listening to these two specifically. Such beautiful wording and intelligent thoughts. Such wonderful honesty and respect towards each other.

[@priyanshisharma750]

Their honesty and love for each other is so raw and engaging.

[@rachellerockel]

My favorite couple is back #goals

[@yourfavdietitian6715]

I freaking love this couple😭 The way they look at each other is just so intense

[@lishamarie2752]

Wow he looked like he wanted to cry as she started explaining how she felt. Kudos to him for his vulnerability and the depth of love he has for her. Wish I could find that

[@alexxolo]

Some people are just blessed... They managed to find each other in the world with 7 billion people (or more) ... that's a true blessing

[@hanablakqori4432]

Her laugh is contagious!!

[@tant6990]

The background noise is very distracting. It took away from the intense moments.

[@drmedwuast]

I noticed that too, then I thought that it's kind of like a metaphor for how there's nothing perfect in life, and love.

[@tatiannatownsend1531]

I believe it’s because they had to shrink their office and the space probably isn’t just theirs now

[@tant6990]

drmedwuast thats an optimistic way of looking at it, i like the way you think!

[@curatedmindset]

I just realized when you said. 😂

[@AmandaMuse]

I want to tell him so bad that there’s a special magic between a father and his first born when mommy & newborn baby are bonding. The adventure is about it begin, you won’t be left out!

[@TheJasomto]

Never clicked so fast! ❤ love they are back. One of my favourite couples so far... ❤❤❤ Thank you skin deep for giving me the opportunity to know them. ❤

[@chiamaka_barbara4820]

Kaylez LmAo me too

[@ni3070]

Are they separated...? Why their daughter is not close to father?

[@TheJasomto]

Nandita Iyengar they're not. He meant it that she's not as attached to him as he would like her to be and she constantly chooses her mother over him. But they're together :)

[@ni3070]

Kaylez ohhkk

[@JayyyD12]

I Love how this couple is so deeply connected and in love... just the way they look at one another and are so honest with each other. There's not very many relationships like this in our world today, which is so sad. But couples like this give hope to a world with so many failing marriages/relationships. Thank you for sharing your life with us. ❤️🔮💯

[@math9068]

Yass! My favorite couple in this series along with Andrew and Keisha. They’re literally goals.

[@lonnieloupaints]

Andrew and Keisha are my other favorite too!

[@bblillian]

Andrew and Keisha are my favoriteee!!

[@0Tajcia0]

Love how well they communicate ... he says “you do love being right” And she agrees because she knows it’s a fact and not an assault on her character and she knows she’s not perfect yet comfortable in her imperfections and easy to admit he is right about them. Lesson one ☝️

[@Kathleen5429]

Love Sidra's perfect smile and teeth and Ben's eyes. Wonderful couple. Love the way they look at each other and LISTEN.

[@amandamaeval6725]

I love this. Their effortless ability to eloquently express how they feel is blowing my socks off. I admire themselves as individuals and as a couple sO much, and for me it’s really comforting to see this. It seems like the people I’m around have a hard time expressing themselves and being their raw selves no matter what. It all takes time, but this is making me excited to meet people like this. Love

[@OnyinyeNwokorie]

A.T. valentine completely agreed.

[@projektbrot]

Their love makes me cry because it's so real and so pure. I wish those two all the best in the world. We need more good people.

[@sylvia6474]

Dude is extra ordinary. A Lot of men leave when Feeling further away

[@IwasBlueb4]

yes and i understand how they must feel

[@ichooseme4life]

And the fact that he wanted to expand the family with the fear of not feeling included...

[@DarkContrabandMusic]

I'm sure this has been mentioned before but something I absolutely adore about Sidra and Ben is how they really take the time to think over their answers, breathe, formulate a good response that isn't based on the first things that come to mind, with a lot of intention. It is something I am always inspired to work in in my own interpersonal interactions when I see them on Skin Deep.

[@lluna1266]

I couldn’t help feel a little resentful towards him for pushing her into a second child

[@pumladada7133]

When she had just finished sharing and he said "thank you. Thank you" 😭my heart. These two are so honest with each other and I hope they stay together 💖

[@ashleyt2953]

"where's your tissue?" me too, pass it over

[@architecturaldream1]

The honesty, the vulnerability, the rawness, the patience, the care, the listening, the articulation - I love all of it. This is such a gift to the world, thank you. They are a moment of clarity and realness in an online world of nonsense. I look forward to their annual updates. ❤️

[@bloomingblue2371]

I cry so much but I feel grateful for them to have each others. They are giving me kind of insightful messages about the quality of partnership I want. They listen deeply to understand one another, they take accountability towards their own feelings and actions. They truly do care deeply as well. What a blessing!

[@kslucki]

Ben is so in touch with his emotions and I love and appreciate he is expressing it so openly for all other men to see that it is natural. Thank you.

[@savannahlee7571]

people having a party in the back right when things get emotional? mood kill lol

[@TheSkinDeep]

Agreed. Background noise really dampens the experience and we are sorry about that. It was a new location and the people in the studio next door weren't helpful in staying quite. We aim to never have this problem in future shoots.

[@savannahlee7571]

The Skin Deep totally understandable! I figured it wasn’t anyone in your own studio, maybe an open window or something. still a good video regardless!!!

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thanks Savannah. Doing our best. Unfortunately it came up a few times in different conversations but we're making sure won't happen for future productions. Thanks for the love.

[@Chaxbs]

The Skin Deep I actually didn’t notice, because I was listening so attentively to the couple... it’s fine ☺️

[@Staceyisrad]

Sidra has a way with words!!! Made me tear up too.

[@Jezyra]

Oh man you know I have never considered that dads feel left out of some "club". This one was a tear jerker. That was probably one of the best marital advice ever. Long-term relationships with the right person is always worth holding the f on.

[@tangled55]

Skin Deep: If you all don't start keeping a set of tissues at the table...I don't understand...

[@Music4evahh]

I love it! But why is there so much background noise,.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Background noise we agree with you. New location and we couldn't quiet down the people in the studio next door. We aim to never have that problem again. We know its a downer. :(

[@hotcheeex]

Ya it’s terrible, can’t focus on the couple because I’m hearing chatter and laughter

[@oscarcat1231]

The noise is very quiet. Hardly noticed it

[@Katinka0218]

One time you guys used Sidra and Ben as a thumbnail for a promo clip and I have never felt more betrayed. So when I realized this was a new video from them I honestly screamed

[@GabrielaRodriguez-tm7mx]

I love them so so much! And just when you think they can't share a little more wisdom with us Sidra hits us with her tale of the mortal girl! *sobs uncontrollably*

[@fakingdeep6418]

This is a beautiful relationship that I think everyone wishes to strive for. They've been together for several years yet still sustain that infatuation look in their eyes for one another coupled with the fact that they seem to have really good communication with one another.

[@letterstoanaipoet]

8:51 That look they give each other. No words.

[@AnnPCD]

This is just too beautiful, they way they are able to reflect about themselves in such a introspective and honest way. I might been able to think like that to myself and while I write but never had the courage to speak like that with someone, it just too deep. I'm working on that. This is just brings a lot of faith in people, thank you for that.

[@MinaMina-tf7ig]

Great to see how they have/are evolving and still maintaining love for one another. I wish them all the best.

[@Mrs.Ohara1]

When she answers the first question. His first response was thank you. Brought tears to me eyes. He wasn't thinking about himself or what he'd say in response. He simply said thank you. He heard every word she said. How lovely they both are.

[@ESE33]

Oh my god are these two beautiful people. They listen to each other so well and are so attentive to one another. You can see how much they mean to one another, especially when Sidra talks about the Welsh fairytale that reminds her of their relationship. That was a beautiful insight on her part. I sincerely hope these two keep it up.

[@kristinalarue3866]

These two are beautiful inside and out. Being together they just radiate!!

[@katj8569]

They are just unreal. Love them!

[@josepha133]

I don't know if this is of any consolation to ben, but the older I got, the closer I became with my dad and now at the age of 20 I'm much closer with my dad than with my mom.

[@ichooseme4life]

I think he hints at it when he mentions they will need him at 15...lol. His honesty is so refreshing. The fact that he knows this from the 1st pregnancy and still wanted another says alot as well.

[@lakep7798]

I adore how well they both express themselves! So eloquent, so well-spoken. Impressive.

[@nusaibahhusain1241]

It's like connecting with your soulmate and experiencing paradise briefly and then spending the rest of your life on this crazy adventure combating all the challenges and obstacles that pop up, all the while chasing that brief glimpse of paradise. And then holding on becomes a struggle. But then if you remove all the hardship life throws at you, you know that you would experience euphoria with this person. But you two are constantly evolving. And so on this journey together, you have to continuously try to connect again. But at the end of the journey, when the kids are grown and have left the nest, when you are retired, when your health is failing, you know who you want to spend your last days with. Life is such a complex mosaic of so many components. You need to often stop, breathe and reflect. But more importantly, you need to know, love and connect with yoursel before you can move forward.

[@sabahfirdous1742]

I was about to watch this, first thing in the morning and then I realized, I will feel depressed the whole day because they are the perfect couple and have such good communication compared to me & my husband. So ciao! I will watch it later when I am depression-resistant.

[@DeeDubb247]

Their love for each other is palpable! It's beautiful how emotionally vulnerable they are with each other...a rare thing to see these days.

[@lola789ify1]

cute but what toothpaste do they use

[@kiannah3306]

I found out I was pregnant with my first child, then I suddenly and tragically lost my father 2 days later. Her description of her first trimester rocked me to my core because it was exactly how I felt. The way she really detailed her depression was incredible, vulnerable and honest. I'm now in my second trimester and my perspective has also shifted. I can lean into the joys of my pregnancy and the anticipation of motherhood. Thank you for being so honest. For any other struggling pregnant women, just know you are not alone.

[@lyndiona]

Ahhh sidra and ben are my favorite ❤️

[@dabroncobabe7441]

I love how they bravely expose their inner most selves.

[@jaijai1132]

I know everyone keeps mentioning the background noise, but it’s crazy that they didn’t seem to notice it. They were so interlocked with each other, the rest of the world seemed to have fallen away. This is me trying to find the bright side. 😂

[@lisarobinson1990]

I appreciate that they are so self-aware and in tune with each other's feelings. So beautiful!

[@BoredRandomCraptv]

Her vocabulary and ability to articulate exactly how she feels are literally "goals"

[@Brooque613]

Sidra is so beautifully articulate and you can tell it's something that still astonishes and impresses Ben. They're so enjoyable to listen to and watch.

[@whoisshweta]

The part from 8.50 onward is pure gold as far as relationship advice is concerned. It is one of the best things I have heard about sustaining long-term relationships and commitment. So beautiful, raw, honest and wise.

[@mrmidnight8975]

I love how Comfortable they are with each other

[@sc-bj2fs]

So, if I'm listening actively,he wanted a 2nd child, despite her objections,& now they are in a rocky situation emotionally. It reminds me of becoming a sister at 12. I really didn't want to become one. I was fine as an only child,& I felt resentful of my mother for changing my life in such a dramatic way.

[@marianekalliny4053]

i love the way they listen to each other fully. they always make sure to listen to what the other has to say. that's important.

[@lindsey2340]

They should have a tv show! These two are my favorites, along with Andrew and Keisha. They are so vulnerable and honest with each other. So respectful too.

[@savannahlee7571]

how are their teeth so white though. the real question.

[@prettyalina7237]

Savannah Lee insurance

[@fel6533]

Hahahahahaha

[@irenelb7821]

😂😂😂

[@ravenanderson1695]

I love that they can be so open & raw with their emotions & feelings. I can tell Ben feeling left out really hurts but you know what i think if he doesn’t think about it and just is the best dad he can possibly be, one day he’ll look up and see a shift. ❤️

[@TheWr0ngAlice]

The way they both speak is so eloquent and so well thought out

[@k.a.e.3216]

I’ve loved Sudra & Ben since the very first video. Sides is soooo beautiful, & they way they look at each other with such love. They can also be so very honest with each other, without feeling guilty, knowing that the other person will really HEAR & try to understand the other. They communicate well & each one is able to verbalize emotions (which can be very difficult for other people). I can imagine that many people/couples wish that they could be just like Ben & Sidra.

[@gulc04]

These two are amazing and have the ability to be so open and honest in accessing and expressing their feelings. It's so healthy and hard and evident of a lot of trust built up over a lot of years.

[@IngridLovesHorses]

Ugh thank you so much for bringing back this couple! They are so full-hearted and honest, nothing is quite so refreshing.

[@ShoshanaSarahLJ]

"Hold on to each other through all of our forms, and our changes, our metamorphoses over time." 💚🙌🏽

[@marlenealves3535]

This is so absolutly rare and beautiful, im frozen.

[@tastyanagram]

Legit started crying when Sidra invoked the tale of Tam Lin.

[@mariahonaida]

Just being able to put everything you feel into actual words is a virtue. I wish I could speak with my husband of 21 years like this. He never has time for me. I feel stuck in a vicious circle ⭕️😔

[@faykhudairi3738]

she's so well spoken, wow so beautiful :)

[@KKstaygold]

God, this man just wants a family that loves him 😭

[@jennicanning2076]

The noise in the back of this video ruins the intimacy of it

[@SoThomasBeckman]

Love these two. the people talking in the background takes me out a bit and now its something I actively listen for in these videos now. Cant wait until they're back.

[@cowsrock1q]

I love how they listen, really listen to each other. How they look at each other, how they're clearly express emotion. You can see they TALK unlike other couples. Relationship goals!!

[@NadiaFleurantin]

What a beautiful couple, inside and out! You can tell that there are so many emotions between them; it’s not perfect, but they love each other and that’s all that matters. Beautiful and real.

[@indrinita]

Omg that Welsh fairytale took my breath away and brought tears to my eyes

[@mathilde4305]

I would love to see a new video of them! They’re such a good exemple of an healthy relationship ! With low and high but still supporting each other and sticking to each other side !

[@user-og8mu4ff4m]

The story about holding on to one another, through all of our forms, changes, wounds, hit home. It's why my own marriage didn't work - we couldn't hold on to one another through those forms. Bittersweet for me, although it comforts me to know and understand that this is not easy work *full stop*. Both have to be committed to holding on, and making that choice daily.

[@MrKry]

These two seem like the worst thought that crosses both of their minds is for their relationship to end. Like it's the worst thing that could ever happen to either of them, above anything else. So they never leave anything unsaid and they try to work through everything that comes up so that it doesn't poison the relationship.

[@littlangel37]

My faves !! I'm so glad we get to see more of them, their communication skills are on point and they're so articulate! Relationship goals right there 😊 Congrats on baby number two ! Wish you all the happiness in the world xx

[@elisamartinez6728]

Awwww my son will always be my number one , and it has effected our relationship but now after two years were trying .... because its not just our kid its our FAMILY my son loves us both equally ... faith is there

[@goodinbf]

It makes me sad that she didn't find motherhood as fulfilling as she would have thought, and decided, essentially for her husband, to go ahead and do it again.