How Social-Emotional Learning Benefits Everyone | Caige Jambor | TEDxBemidji

We breathe without even thinking about it. However, when we do start to think about each breath, something changes. Likewise, when we pause to consider what is really going on with the people around us, some things become remarkably clear. Childhood trauma can affect a person’s entire life, but changing how we respond to others makes a big difference to individuals and our whole society. Caige Jambor explains how social-emotional learning (SEL) changes the conversation from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” and how everyone can begin to use SEL tools. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@MrDawnRise]

This Sourh Park episode writes itself

[@gc2696]

I stuck with it for 2mins 30 secs.... who died at the end ?

[@paolaferrer6013]

I only watched this due to an activity for my English class

[@DalwinderS]

lmao me too

[@gord2508]

Same

[@RealNezy]

@@gord2508 U from info tech?

[@RealNezy]

kosagar yo thats cool g, what grade r u

[@RealNezy]

kosagar ooff, i’m a freshman ;((

[@sync_mxlly5610]

I had to watch this for my pe class.

[@bizcutss8642]

me too

[@sidneyali2560]

@@bizcutss8642 me too

[@nitrox3852]

@@bizcutss8642 Same

[@Cools911]

Same

[@Soul-xi1qr]

same in highschool pe class

[@Voornoek]

the coddling of the american mind

[@scrappydoo7887]

Yup. Creating weak useless people

[@DembysPlayfulParables]

Investing in teaching S.E.L. a little everyday will help create a self-corrected classroom in the long run! This is very important.

[@kellymerrill5294]

I'm finding it doesn't work. Our school implemented SEL two years ago and I'm seeing twice the amount of behavior issues. Perhaps it's being implemented poorly and I want it to work, yet kids know the consequences are kindness and compassion rather than... consequences. When they want a brain break or a snack they just misbehave and bingo SEL to the rescue.

[@gial8862]

@@kellymerrill5294 , there is a lot of info online explaining that SEL sets up children for communal thinking and socialized solutions rather than independent thoughts and success going their own way. I dont have a lot of experience with it yet, but im learning about it with skepticism

[@funnyguyinlondon]

@@kellymerrill5294 emotional support chocolate?

[@FerristotheBueller]

​@@funnyguyinlondonSEL is why the kids who are pushed out the door are unable to read and write at the 12th grade level.

[@ginamcewen8167]

Really makes you think about what students go through daily.

[@KOSMICole]

Mindfulness is an ongoing practice. To let go of expectations and deal with the moment at hand. This a is a good reminder to slow down, reflect and then act.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you! The comments section are full of people who sound scared of emotions!

[@JaneMarksHastig]

Well done Caige! I want to live in a world where everyone practices SEL skills. Thank you!

[@scrappydoo7887]

That's because you are a weak person

[@toms8393]

This is how you create a hive-mind.

[@funnyguyinlondon]

An indistinguishable bee. Scary thought

[@adamdrouin2295]

This all sounds so nice and sugar coated but the reality is that it enables teachers and aides to essentially practice psychology on children in public schools without a license and without the parents knowledge or consent. It is the state, through the public school system, pushing values on your kids that an administrator decides. An administrator who is almost guaranteed to be a progressive liberal whose ideas will permeate every aspect of the curriculum Funny how he mentions the WEF and "Stakeholders". Equally terrifying is his use of a chime at the beginning and end if his little talk. I suppose we are to react as Pavlov's dogs did. It's actually sickening

[@mrswags73]

I couldn’t agree more. Notice the SEL diagram shows the schools in the center of the ring. Then community, and at the very last outer ring is parents/families. It should be the opposite, the family should be the nucleus of a child’s life, then community, then schools.

[@redcedar8292]

Look up James Lindsey, and what he has to say about this. Not for the easily distracted, but he digs and lays out the real foundation and goal of SEL.

[@MrChampionchimp]

Because this is forced on the school as a school teacher...noh?

[@gSWG3R]

Oh please, at the end of the day, the word "liberalism" triggers you and prevents you from actually being critical and engaged with this concept. Tin foil hat down, clown.

[@Pawltron]

Ditto. Read “Race Marxism” by James Lindsey. Transformative SEL is how school children are prepped to accept socialism, Marxism and communism.

[@redcedar8292]

They have done a Bait and Switch. It's no longer SEL, it is now Transformative SEL. Big difference

[@1browngirl29]

The comment section is full of people who could have used SEL as a child and could still use it now Watch them run and scream from SEL in ignorance

[@johnnycassell4338]

SEL: Helping build children, one thundercuck at a time.

[@muskduh]

thanks for the video

[@abhilasha9608]

Comment section did not pass the vibe check

[@stephenkneller6435]

“What’s happened to you” doesn’t explain or justify Josh’s outburst. Josh doesn’t need to be coddled, he needs to learn resilience. He still has to function in the world despite the bad things going on in life. In real life, most people don’t care one bit about Josh’s problems because they have their own. In the real world, we are expected to do our jobs and do so professionally. Coddling Josh will only make him a failure in real life. And this is far worse than what he is suffering through now. Resilience is the answer, not SEL.

[@jaashuab]

SEL would turn Josh into the kind of guy who needs a chime to get through a nine minute presentation that provides zero actual details about the topic and relies on a fictional story as its basis.

[@billsimms2511]

I know, our society is literally doing the exact opposite of what they should be doing- instead of making kids more resilient, they are giving into their tantrums.

[@SchnellTim]

So is child abuse ok? Spankings? Forms of psychological or physical trauma/torture? Wouldn’t these build resilience?

[@MrBonney1990]

@@SchnellTim Do you know what a positive affirmation is? The fact is that your unconscious, mammalian brain doesn’t understand the difference between actually experiencing trauma, and talking about experiencing trauma. The intentions these people have may be good, but SEL is child abuse. Period

[@scrappydoo7887]

@@SchnellTim yes they do breed resilience and In some cases what you call child abuse is just a fitting punishment that got labelled by hand wringers

[@ambrosewilliam33]

S.E.L. and C.R.T. should not be utilized in the classroom nor used as a basis for a curriculum that is taught to kids of any age level. There are several hundreds of schools across this country where the kids can't complete Math, Science, or other subjects at their own grade level because the schools would rather focus on BS. Just my 2 cents.

[@littlebabyhoho6750]

Summary... be kind and considerate. Don't be rash. Think. Be honest.

[@gc2696]

Mao said : Indoctrination must begin with toddlers.

[@1browngirl29]

Your ignorance is screaming in your message

[@williamcribb1044]

Thank you

[@jonahmillerduvalrazed]

Let the parents do the psychoanalyzing, the teachers just need to teach the information.

[@jackiej.4387]

Well done Mr. Caige! Loved it.

[@waitwhat6059]

I think I lost it at the bell. So we're not supposed to say "what is wrong with Josh," but rather "what happened to Josh" -- which essentially positions Josh as a victim and devoid of his own agency. Perfect conditions for Josh to learn to trust the nurturing school and hate his bickering, insensitive parents! See how this works?

[@abbeybattaini99]

Missed the point 🎯

[@abhilasha9608]

Josh *is* the victim, he's a CHILD. The adults should know better. Josh being a child he's still developing and environment plays a big factor on what he learns and how he learns it. In my perspective, the adults failed Josh by not modelling on how to manage and work with their emotions, but using him as a safer option to take out the stress of their emotions on.

[@thejuiceking2219]

so you think it's wrong to ask why someone is the way that they are?

[@scrappydoo7887]

You are spot on. It a move towards seeing other figures than your parents as those who care about you. Meanwhile the parents have to deal with how the kid actually is in the real world

[@timothyraymond3368]

You can't build resilience in a damaged system. Perseverance and resilience are skills rather than senses we're born with.

[@bowler3329]

SEL is a shipwreck.

[@tallyho1506]

This is what alcoholism is for, it’s worked since the dawn of time.

[@boilingindahoodbyladytamel9304]

Amazing absolutely amazing thanks for the eye opener.

[@johnnyphive8197]

Sarcasm? I hope so.

[@drujones8883]

yessir thats my old teacher bro

[@travissharon1536]

He made it 8 whole minutes before I noticed a critical Marxist buzzword.

[@jacquelineburgan6787]

Awesome!!! I could relate to this video. We have to be very careful to really listen to what people are saying or not saying. We must practice SEL skills. Great Job!!!!

[@tigergirrl]

Who is here because of PE class?

[@aim8174]

People and parents should really think how what they do can impact there children or young family members

[@gymvision1905]

Yes

[@scrappydoo7887]

Or maybe kids shouldn't be being made progressively weaker by the removal of any and all adversity by people who have no business having any involvement at all

[@FerristotheBueller]

And this right here is exactly why 18 yr olds who are pushed out the door, are years behind in math and reading comprehension.

[@SF-og3fq]

Invokes WEF

[@judyhoward5719]

I can relate this video to my on life being abused as a child. it has helped in my teaching using these strategies that i wish had been used n me when i went through my difficult times

[@buggyboo25]

Same. I hope you are doing well these days ❤️️

[@gymvision1905]

Bro I'm going throw it now when it end

[@BridgettSmith-ke2fh]

this was cool

[@scrappydoo7887]

Trust TED to put a supporting view of this on. Teachers should teach. Beyond that they should have no involvement with the kids at all.

[@MrChampionchimp]

....teach what?

[@scrappydoo7887]

@@MrChampionchimp is that supposed to be a good question? They should stick to the things that kids need to know in order to be more intelligent and capable in basic skills. What they shouldn't do or be able to do is shape a child's mind in the way they see fit

[@FerristotheBueller]

​​@@MrChampionchimp Math, Eglish, History, and Science. Teachers are not supposed to be teaching anything "social".

[@shadymccoy7]

Only teach academics and not teach social/emotional skills and see how chaotic the students act. This is not being taught at home, so where are they gonna learn it???? 🤔 They spend most of their waking hours per week at school...🤔🤔🤔

[@scrappydoo7887]

@@shadymccoy7 no. There should be a better culture of parenting and less culture of consumerism and selfish behaviour. Parents managed just fine without the interference of the state in the family. They can again provided there's some actual reality based expectations

[@creativemind8406]

I'm interested in learning and becoming a trainer/teacher.

[@whitemagus2000]

Top psychologists are calling this dangerously manipulative of young children.

[@gc2696]

@@whitemagus2000 oooops.....they called it out ? sayonara practice license 🙏🏻👋🏻

[@ArmerKhanachang]

thanks for sharing good details about SEL

[@johnnyphive8197]

Really?

[@GabrielleSolange]

thank youuuuuu i love it

[@jeremyponcy7311]

The reason why Social Emotional Learning seems so innocuous is that what it effectively is is parenting. The reason that it is not at all innocuous is that what it's proponents are proposing is that parenting ought to be outsourced to global elites and major share holders within the global banking system (i.e. the World Economic Forum). This should be terrifying.

[@TheTangofrog]

Agreed.

[@adampurcellrrt]

Absolutely

[@cathydanielson9995]

How's that tinfoil hat fitting?

[@gaozhi2007]

Sponsored by the World Economic Forum.

[@mh.m4653]

SEL

[@paolaferrer6013]

Hiiii

[@gymvision1905]

Does it ends plz give me answer

[@xtremity2361]

SEL is CRTs trojan horse...

[@will5026]

Marxism

[@funnyguyinlondon]

Rubbish. It's parents jobs to teach their children ethics and how to regulate their emotions, while learning to trust their intuition - not the state that gaslights natural defensive disagreeable behaviours. SEL often teaches kids to dull themselves with niceness and divorced from their own intuition. SEL elevates group harmony over individual at peace with himself or herself

[@scrappydoo7887]

Communism in other words

[@funnyguyinlondon]

@@scrappydoo7887 Exactly. Or Calvinism and possibly Lutheranism. Not a surprise that Hegel the grand-daddy of a philosophy giving rise to fascism, socialism, Marxism, Communism etc was a Lutheran mystic

[@mckenzieg]

What about the child who does not have that kind of support at home?

[@cutecannibalpuppy]

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[@DDM-tp2dn]

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[@gc2696]

3rd graders give TED talks now ?

[@nicoleadiaz1]

That ring was annoying

[@SuccessdiarySD]

lol

[@Mr-rager08]

Oof

[@NathansHVAC]

Fluf

[@webchez69]

Ok, I got the "feel good" part of this video, now.... What does this all mean? It is a no brainer to say that our children need to learn social and emotional skills. But I want to see what these people actually do to make all this goodness happen. This sounds very creepy to me. Sorry to burst this guy's bubble, if a child in class has a tantrum and throws his backpack across the room when the teacher asks him for his homework, he has a behavioral problem... And hand holding is not the answer.

[@abhilasha9608]

You have a behavioral problem if you think a child will not throw a tantrum having experienced stressors like that.

[@ggooch97]

@@abhilasha9608 I didn't throw a tantrum after that. It can be done and it ought to be taught. It's not bottling emotions it's controlling your actions.

[@abhilasha9608]

@@ggooch97 when was the last time you cried?

[@jenniferdavis8912]

@@ggooch97 Exactly. You were taught how to handle emotions and what to do.

[@FerristotheBueller]

​@@abhilasha9608lol teachers are not sociologists. This has absolutely no place in public schools.

[@FreedomIsntOffensive1776]

So if I understand Josh's home life he lives in a two-parent household and one parent stays at home which means one of them actually makes a lot of money but one of them doesn't make breakfast for the children because they're too busy being a one parent household while the other parents at work and essentially this program will allow Josh to be okay with his irresponsibility identified as victimhood?do they pass out tampons at the beginning or the end of the class? if I understand what he's talking about correctly this is a program to get children to be okay with being victims with the adults as oppressors in the oppressed oppressed dynamic and I I do notice the fact that he said caregiver and not parents

[@lukedoc2697]

The Greatest powerful tool parents and others have in any child's life, is not used as it truly should... LOVE, the greatest of all! And I completely understand we were all not loved as we should have, but let us take head now... least we lose them all!

[@Individual_Lives_Matter]

Teachers are not psychologists and moralizing or teaching a moral belief system has no place in the public school classroom. Not every parent agrees with the “wisdom” you’re teaching and many disagree. This is not the domain of the public school teacher. You are not the parents. Until this is gone, my kids will be homeschooled. Everyone has bad days, be kind. Don’t give kids surveys about their psychological state or provide convenient excuses for bad behavior. Standards are standards. They must be neutral or they are useless.

[@Individual_Lives_Matter]

Watch people exposing SEL and its connection to woke ideology (Intersectionality, CRT, “anti-racism”, critical social justice, grievance studies, etc). It’s not good. It’s turning schools into woke seminaries.

[@gial8862]

Im finding several SEL teachers are woke CRT plants. They toss out a bunch of generalities and broad goals, but the day to day just means the teachers can be lazy, remove the American flag, ignore the pledge of allegiance, and stiff hand parents that want to be involved and have transparency.

[@user-zq5eb2hj9o]

Thank you! This has no place in the schools. Kids are being used as a means to further educators political goals. I would argue that teen suicide rates will skyrocket under this mind poison after they become so fragile they won’t be able to deal with every day inconveniences

[@the-based-jew6872]

@@gial8862 they are rebranding crt as this. Watch out and let people know. I've seen this comment a lot. And it seems likely. If I was a tyrant I would rename something that got a bad wrap.

[@gial8862]

@@the-based-jew6872 i have a kindergarten teacher right now that is doing this sel junk

[@Voornoek]

HAHAHA YES YEEES! KEEP DOING THIS! in every school, in every community, this should be implemented! REMEMBER: weak men make hard times, hard times make strong men. the cycle continues... ACCELERATE THIS SH*T

[@scrappydoo7887]

You clearly don't understand that this is designed to create weak men

[@joellowe5373]

thank you.... Amazing

[@gnamissibarockkiansi7781]

That makes total sense