How This Sinister Father Destroyed His Family | Nightmare in Suburbia | Absolute Crime

Abusive husband Russell spent years isolating his daughter and wife more and more, even moving them from England to Canada for a period of time. When they arrived back in England, Russell took on a mistress, Patricia, and moved her into the house. Soon enough, his wife mysteriously vanishes, and ten years later, a yachting accident reveals the dark truth behind the woman's disappearance.
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[@didimagnin3744]

Poor Sam. This is extreme parental psychological abuse and her father was a POS!

[@laurenlample3714]

My heart breaks for this sweet girl. She had a father that she adored who was a narcissist, selfish, and held him self over everyone. Her mother was detached and never had a relationship with her only child, and a stepmother who helped to get rid of her mother. You can hear and see the remaining trauma in her face and voice.

[@pommydiva1]

she actually said that SHE didnt have a close relaltionship with her mum, the mum may have tried and tried to gain her love, but Sam was so into her dad she wouldnt let her mum get close to her

[@m.y.o.b.724]

What about Patricia? There's a good chance that she was complicit in the murder and/or cover-up. At the very least she was a confidant of her psycho boyfriend. I bet she knows what happened to Sam's mother and where to find the remains. She should be in jail with Russell.

[@amandamccormick5009]

The fact Patricia dressed up as her mother to sign the house over to herself, shows she knew the mother was dead and wouldn't contradict her. It's at least fraud.

[@franceslynch8815]

This poor poor girl. Traumatised and still very distressed today after two damaged psycopaths left her without kindness, support and love from childhood to walking the dangerous city streets alone without a bed to lie on at 16. Deeply disturbing these people slipped through many safety nets meant for abused children. I am so sorry for her and hope she is happy and contented with her beautiful son and getting all the support she needs. Heartbreaking story.❤

[@Bruintjebeer6]

I had a controlling husband who did not wanted me to see my family. It became worse and worse. After two and a half years I choose for myself and my kid and left. This was in 1977. I did the same when I was 16. In my country there was no help for kids at the time. I left school, found a job en rented a room. She should have left with her daughter way way sooner. Even before her husband took in his mistress. I feel very sorry for the daughter. Her story made me realize I made the right decision. But the mother should have made better life choices

[@abhijitchatterji7587]

What an awful awful man. How she could admire this monster is baffling

[@Thewildmanwoods]

She’d been groomed, brainwashed…probably parental alienation as well

[@jshanks8571]

She was deprived of the love from her mother and he showed her attention in love. So that's what she cre are very easily.Multiple manipulated because they want to love and they want the love of their parents.

[@sneekz07]

Did you even bother to watch the video or are you just dumb?

[@annedoyle222]

It’s anything but baffling,what do you expect from an extremely deprived of love and abused as well as being extremely lonely child,children depend on their parents for their very survival,her father is a psychopath,psychopaths are pure evil,dangerous and treacherous,they’re the scourge of the earth,they wreck the lives of everyone they’re involved with

[@JOHANNA-qd6iz]

A daughter and sister missing all these years, I hope one day she will be found and laid to rest with the respect she didn't have while alive.

[@eee163]

Her father, a narcissist, abused his first wife and daughter. I've seen comments criticising the daughter for "loving" her father, but it's important to recognise the manipulative nature of narcissists and the impact it can have on their victims. It's unjust to judge without understanding the complex dynamics at play, especially considering she was an only child and her father's behaviour may have been the only form of "love" she knew.

[@pattythrower5700]

I’d have had him jailed for the dog 🐶

[@barryspurr9577]

Same here. Disgusting. Such monsters are usually also animal abusers.

[@janetcw9808]

AMEN

[@sammic974]

what a gripping and poignant tale. one person who was like a grenade, shattering lives without conscience.

[@mingdagreatest]

Even after she knew her dad was responsible for her mother’s disappearance.. she still failed to believe he was faking his own death 😒😒😒😒😒

[@jennodine]

Yes because we are programmed to believe our parents. What he did is beyond what anyone could imagine their father capable of. Successful psychopaths avoid prison by blending in. what better camouflage is there than to be a husband and father?

[@jen6106]

She is delusional, naive and easily manipulated

[@barryspurr9577]

So another monster who’s an animal abuser. And still people don’t get the connection.

[@wendouse8893]

Poor dog as well as the poor woman.

[@zombiechicken7114]

Why would he ask about acid if he already knew? What an odd egotistical man. he broke his wife and manipulated and broke his daughter. She's cleatly still so damaged. I hope she gets help.

[@shirleybezuidenhout2724]

This whole story is so sad. The daughter is walking around with regrets. She wasn't close to her mother, just the fact that she told her mother that she doesn't love her anymore, how that poor woman must have felt. But the father who was nothing but a cheat and a fraud she adored. She definitely has regrets. 😢😢

[@connierenna-xf9um]

Love doesn’t ever seem to be regulated by whom deserves it.

[@mountainman4859]

I hope he remains in prison until he gives up the info. My hope for Sam is that her son marries a lovely woman and gives her 5 or 6 grandchildren who will bring her the greatest joy she has ever known.

[@Fallen_Venus]

So sad her loyalty was misplaced. She was obviously a simple, trusting soul, easily manipulated. I hope she's wised up and not continued the pattern. I hope she finds the peace she deserves and her mother's remains are found.

[@beckyhofheinz6245]

Sams' son is a beautiful young man!

[@johnkeating4221]

A very traumatized lady God Bless her.

[@tisketisja5528]

yeah your god blessed her all right. Gave her a great daddy

[@johnkeating4221]

@@tisketisja5528 We are all God's Creation but some people fall to the temptations of Satan

[@jolo3118]

​@@tisketisja5528 Unfortunately, that's where free will comes into play.

[@86crud]

My mother was controlling, dramatic, ridiculous. By the time I was 14, I was too furious for it to be worth anyone’s time to bother me, including hers.

[@_Meng_Lan]

Dang.. horrid man. Hope he tells them where she is... He aint a real man till he does ..

[@catherinegriessel56]

He is no man no matter what

[@athena8729]

😭😭😭😭 too much evil in this world 💔😭🛐

[@beatrijsvannuffel1922]

Very nice voice you have. (narration)

[@ProfessorM-he9rl]

Sam, you have my thoughts and love. Do not ever blame yourself, try to put it behind you, albeit very difficult and enjoy your life.

[@Leo19rash]

Women who tolerate abuse don’t understand what kind of impression that leaves on their kids..Chose your children over a bad abusive man poor Sam my god

[@stuartinnes81]

Unfortunately it wasn't as easy back in the 70s /80s women couldn't even have a mortgage or credit card till the 80s even being a divorced woman was a stigma not to mention dv wasn't even taken seriously by the police till a few years ago plus there's wasn't as many women's refuges then and she was probably fanatically abused as well .from sarah .

[@user-ph4pc4mg7z]

In my case my mother was abusive to Dad who was our buffer from her! He wasn't weak, he was strong enough to protect us, we seven children. She was 😢severely bipolar. Verbally and emotionally abusive. To this day I trust men more than women! 😅😅

[@jennodine]

Please don’t blame victims of abuse for “staying”. Most are utterly trapped and get no real assistance from the $2 Billion/year taxpayer fraud that we call The Domestic Violence Industry. The DVI is controlled by an extremist organization who have co-opted DV to front and fund their political agendas. They have just as much blood on their hands as the actual killers. Too many victims seek their help, follow their advice, and still wind up murdered by their abuser for it to be unintentional. Nothing drives donations like a mom who has been murdered by her abuser!

[@kristineeuribe4357]

Abused people are terrified and traumatized. It's not as easy as some say.

[@brandyyolidio4213]

Her father knew he was not good enough to be around a sweet, innocent, pure baby. It drew fury out of him to see his daughter happy with her baby and not mentally destroyed like he planned, and like he was.

[@lovingmayberry307]

For the Americans: Her father was in a "cot" (crib) with a "dummy" (pacifier or binky) in his mouth, wearing a "nappy" (diaper).

[@sabrinatscha2554]

We called pacifiers dummies growing up. My parents had a hell of a time weening me off of mine.

[@user-if8sj1pq6j]

Don't assume that all Americans don't know what those words mean. Many of us are well read and we understand.

[@OneBadAssMoMo]

What a dim and limited view you must have of Americans….. 🤔 I do not think media is the best source of information!

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

Was aware of what all of those weird words UK uses for things we have better sounding words for. 😅

[@Monalisa0622]

​@user-if8sj1pq6j I don't think she assumed ALL. But she was helping the one's like me that had no idea what all of that meant. So totally thankful. Now it paints more of a disturbing picture of who this man was

[@urbangipsy]

I really cant believe Sam still loved her monster father after a hell childhood. So wrong.

[@tminatorrrr]

This is a prime example of a psychopaths conditioning. Most people don't understand why they are the way they are until around the age of 35 🤝🙏

[@brandyyolidio4213]

She could not control that, this is the only father she ever knew and we are discussing the mind of a child that grew into a very dysfunctional adult as far as her feelings of inappropriate love and acceptance, thanks to her demon father.

[@janeclarkson8471]

Those "parents" didn't want Sam or love her. Absolutely no avidence of that. I find immense compassion for Sam and how she's coped. Unbelievable trauma and unhappiness to have to live through. This whole episode makes me feel sick and uneasy like no other episode. You Sam were absolutely blameless. I do hope speaking and revealing this is some help to you. Sam's trauma hasn't resulted in her becoming an abusing person (as her father's experience is suggested). I hope you can survive these terrible terrible actions towards you. Her mother seemed so totally controlled by this demon. It destroyed any mother, daughter relationship. He controlled and destroyed both his wife and daughter. A life full of fear. Unbelievable too that he kicked the family dog to death. There's really no words to describe but pure pure evil!

[@riverwilson5501]

Someone needs to tell Sam that she is a strong, brave, and wonderful woman and mother!

[@andreawannop8670]

Wow painful story. Wish you joy and peace, Sam.

[@bossrodrigues5173]

She deserved better parents You poor sweet angel. I'm sorry she dealt with all of that

[@karenspoors771]

My heart goes out to her a trauma shell never fully recover from so very sad. But good on the police for never giving up and working together between different forces to achieve what they did.may her mum now being at peace in a far better place, another person to good for this world. 🙏

[@maighaleb786]

Uhm are we under the impression if the photos that he took of her would have been normal and ok if they had just been “oh this is how you were developing when you were 13…” ? Because uhm.. no.

[@verityowens9638]

Daughter was so naive. Even after the way he treated her and the mother

[@stuartinnes81]

Unfortunately children who experience abuse take on a form of Stockholm towards their caregivers and tend to be protective and people pleasers ,especially if it's experienced at a young age ACEs (adverse childhood experiences) can have a big effect even into adulthood .

[@Joelswinger34]

Well yeah, she never knew a normal life.

[@user-gy7rk5pk5y]

I find it really really hard to hear or see videos of murder of any kind,, but this is just evil,, nothing more ,, inocent people whom are left behind have to suffer for the rest of thier natural lives,, its so unbelievably wrong😮

[@jolo3118]

She looks just like her mum. Absolutely beautiful.

[@user-fh4tm6vw6y]

That woman is very disturbed 😖

[@sallylibby8254]

Amazing! Sam felt her dad wouldn’t put the family thru a faked death?! He did everything else that was monstrous! The desire for love is often desperate.

[@richardsharp8276]

Everybody ignores the mother, but she was just as narcissistic as the thing called Russell. Both were absolute losers of the highest order.

[@jourdymoretti9081]

You’re an idiot if you don’t think she was being beaten and threatened. Cowed down and treated horribly. The mother wasn’t abusing her she was detached. If you can’t see all of that it’s clear you were never in a situation like this so you are a thing not either of these women that were done this way. If you want a thing that would have been the tramp that moved in that house and slept with that woman’s husband with full knowledge.

[@zombiechicken7114]

It sounds more like the mother was totally subjugated and broken. She seems to have had very little ability to speak up for herself or her daughter. She was broken as much as Sam was. Her mum let her down by using the ammunition Sam gave her but she must have been struggling to not use it after so long. Just tragedy all round. And a disgusting man.

[@Theowlhawk]

Her mother enabled the abuse to her daughter, maybe thinking he love her for it .....

[@bornaries7213]

The mother was just as much a victim as her daughter!

[@Emiliapocalypse]

She can be independently a monster and also a victim of his abuse. Victims don’t have to be perfect

[@cherylween4973]

That poor girl. I don't understand why she idolised her father. When I lived with my parents I was an insomniac because I was worried that my dad would kill my mother and I but thankfully it didn't occur.

[@jshanks8571]

Where's mom also being abused. That's one of the reasons why maybe she closed out a child is that she was being abused and if she said anything that it be worse on sam

[@MzRaizo-mh6mr]

Narcissistic abuse.

[@jodiefindlay382]

😂😂😂 Nappys what a freak 😜

[@saratimmons8300]

The thing is u will always love and want ure parents approval no matter what they have done too u😢

[@laragara]

I disagree

[@anniechang6078]

You free yourself when you realize you don't need your toxic parents' approval in order to live a joyful life. You just need God.

[@Forestlif3]

True

[@tabularasa9104]

No thanks for ANY relationship with ANY human not ever not in my lifetime. Looking at these gives me the chills....

[@jodiefindlay382]

That's sad not everybody is a monster 😢 I personally prefer animals but u have to give love a chance x

[@LaurieValdez-zk3dy]

Sounds like being treated like furniture 😢

[@connierenna-xf9um]

Daughter of a narcissist…..very tough.

[@pommydiva1]

so Sam said to her mum "i dont love you any more" and shes never had a bonding with her mum. Id be devastated if my only child said that to me. Because of her attitude, i wasnt really interested in this story. She had a loving relationship with her dad, who was into BDSM and baby dress ups, weird a daughter saw nothing wrong. I felt sorry for his wife

[@user-hb1nf1xt5y]

You have obviously not gone through abuse as a child to say these things. Sam had a bond with her mother clearly, but she blocked it due to the abuse that messed with her head. The tears and pain that she is feeling now shows that she loved her mother and feels deep guilt in the way that she reacted back then, but it isnt her fault. She was angry with her mother for allowing her fathers mental and physical torture over the years and that is why she hit out with that statement. You will never truly understand a child that has been abused over many years because you are not trained or possibly have never experienced it. I have. Not in the same way exactly, but it messed with my mind for many years. My sister went through totally different reactions to me. I just hope Sam got therapy and her mothers share of the house at least was given to her as some sort of compensation. It is a pity that Patricia isnt in jail along with him because I honestly believe that she was a part of the murder plot too.

[@amandamccormick5009]

Agree!

[@amandamccormick5009]

​@@user-hb1nf1xt5yI did.....I sided with my mother......that woman in story was just like her dad. My childhood was much much worse actually, and I dont milk attention like this chick is. Who she got a single beating but could still walk? That's nothing!

[@Lola-AreaCode212]

​@@user-hb1nf1xt5y you said it all very well. Unfortunately, I suspect that not many will have the intelligence and emotional depth to be capable of understanding what you wrote.

[@Wowwwzaaa]

She is her mums twin! Wow 😮

[@helenellsworth9556]

Music, why the music, it's too loud

[@TheSpotleight]

My heart breaks for Sam

[@beckyf2845]

Poor woman. I wish i could give her a big hug ❤❤

[@pomelo4086]

I do feel for the girl, can’t imagine being at that age and who ones acknowledge her and how she feels. The people who are suppose to be there for her doesn’t.

[@hilaryclarke1183]

Seems she loves her father more than herself 😢

[@nahbird3620]

I find it hard to feel sorry for Sam. She doesn’t seem to have loved or cared about her mom. The only person she cared about was her dad and his girlfriend. What’s hurting her now, is knowing that her father does not love or care about her the way she expected.

[@wisecoconut5]

I think that's too harsh. The mother was incapable of displaying affection towards her daughter, probably because Russell intimidated her to isolate her from her child. But I know from personal experience that it is very hard to have empathy for those who not show us empathy. The daughter was simply the child that her father raised her to be.

[@ElaAusDemTal]

Exactly!!

[@mingdagreatest]

I thought the same thing. I didn’t hear her explain any abuse from her mom, yet knew what was going on behind her mom’s back for years and she knew her mom was abused. Idk how she continuously sought out her father but didn’t look for her mother nor question her disappearance. When she stated that it was basically a relief when she left I was mind boggled.

[@justjustice430]

She's a bit slow, huh??

[@mountainman4859]

That is a load of baseless speculation. Lol.

[@heikkijhautanen4576]

What a peculiar and a tragic story!!! :/

[@MediaMAC871]

About to watch the show, I saw the title and wondered if it was my story 😆 hope not

[@fannjohnson5608]

She look like her mum brave lady to go against your parents

[@burglar42]

Deviants have always been around...so sad this happened to this lady as a young girl.

[@amethyst1826]

I wonder if they checked the New Forest at all?

[@AshleySpeaks4U]

Yech-what is it about Patricia's? My ex step mother was Patricia and she was after dad's money and land.

[@daviddavid1346]

The old adage "Loose Lips Sink Ships".

[@user-ym3xf6xp4c]

Careless talk costs lives.

[@lynettewashington6443]

She couldn’t believe her father was capable of committing fraud 🤣🤓😉🤪😝 He hated you and your mother. It broke your heart again and again when he rejected you. He probably drugged you when he took you on that trip and had arranged for your mother to be murdered , then pretended that she had left.

[@charmaynebruce6215]

Aww, you seem like such a nice, kind person 😅

[@ravenblack2406]

That poor fuckin Mother😢😮😢 ABSOLUTELY sad what a strong woman Carrol was😢

[@misstbull]

Selfish not strong...allowing her child to be treated n such a way

[@joanalmarghani661]

This girĺ let her mother down

[@amethyst1826]

She was a child!!!

[@elizabethjohnson53]

Woah!! Daddy was a complete nightmare! Loser to the fullest!

[@Nat-lg2ks]

My Ex insisted on calling me by the name of his big sister as a pet name.

[@user-bq8nc2eq3z]

If a daughter or son have a secret about a parent please until they are of age to be on their own keep quiet . Parents have destroyed the image of good people only to be viewed as villains.

[@catarinagracio1997]

Deveria haver uma forma dos psicopatas não puderem ter filhos, o dano que causam é tão grande que entendo que seja muito difícil viver com todos estes traumas! Espero que a Sam encontre paz e felicidade naquilo que a vida lhe deu depois de passar por este inferno.

[@Lipstick81]

I love the narrators voice ❤

[@ocarmen2009]

Keep loving your adorable father. What an awful story.

[@SusanKelly-ox2kk]

I wonder why she named her son after that disgusting father .

[@EC-fm9dd]

Child named after his own father, not grandfather.

[@swbcwb]

Yep Bournemouth now. The Cultural enriches.

[@sabrinatscha2554]

It is positively nauseating. A rat died in my wall a few days ago, and removing its corpse, left a less negative impression on me, than going to the grocery store. We are completely alone now.

[@microchip1697]

17:55 Manchester University - that will be MANCHESTER

[@laragara]

????

[@Forestlif3]

There's a documentary about this story on Netflix

[@user-ph4pc4mg7z]

What is a 'nappy'? 😅

[@jennodine]

“Nappy” = diaper “Dummy”= pacifier In other words, her father was dressed up like an infant. Sicko.

[@maryahmed4899]

It’s a diaper

[@thisisme3238]

Turn down the music, much to loud.... overpowering the people's voices.

[@jodiefindlay382]

What a fucking werido 😮poor sam she still looks traumatised bless her i hope her children give her the love shes needs 😢 remember she was a child 😢 her mother new poor girl xx

[@jacquiesbrood]

Such a riveting story did not need loud background music

[@TerryFord-sr9nr]

Alright, cool 😎. THANKS GUYS!!

[@tomasotreasaigh111]

Ronnie Pickering is out to get you!

[@D.H.-mg2cz]

Wait, what? You can be convicted for murder in UK without a corpse?

[@leigha2814]

You can be convicted of murder anywhere without a corpse if there is enough evidence. Why are you so surprised by this?

[@cezra833]

Yes? You can in other countries, including the US, as well. You need a ton evidence though.

[@86crud]

Sure. Video evidence, dna evidence, the sheer amount of blood found, eyewitness testimony, expert testimony, all kinds of ways.

[@sally-kz7nz]

Yes you can. Even more you can be convicted without a body, without a murder weapon and without forensics. It's called 'absence of life'. As long as the police have made every effort to find a body in a 6 year period , or other evidence to no avail, then a suspect can be charged with murder

[@hayleyjones518]

That mum betrayed her daughters trust....so so sad

[@sharonsekhon9475]

He was released last year.

[@user-xr2lv4ll6j]

Living his best life.

[@myreasonforlife.9511]

Never should anything like so walk any street. If u get more than 10 yrs or life it should happen. D. Penalty. STOP using our tax payers money !

[@jodiefindlay382]

ENGLISH JUSTICE

[@user-xr2lv4ll6j]

24:05 YOU LIE!!

[@user-tq9pv1zw6x]

Who lies about what?

[@KerrieKruegner]

I sorry I would of known what was going on and what I was doing at that age

[@Joelswinger34]

Hmmm...yet you don't even know that it's would have, not would of?

[@Joelswinger34]

Also, you're not sorry, and you have no idea what you would or would not have known. You also show a complete lack of empathy.

[@DVelez-wz3fe]

Don’t feel sorry for any of these losers except for Sam who was treated horribly as a child

[@kingquinn3897]

He seemed like a nice bloke!

[@misstbull]

I would have sued my mom if she wasn't dead

[@TRIXOMIX]

SNITCH!!!

[@inacollazo2483]

Such an uncaring daughter towards her mother.

[@terribongers2465]

Brainwashed. Stockholm syndrome?

[@mgpitt8331]

I think Sam was traumatized by the abuse she suffered. Sometimes that will blunt any empathy you have.

[@samanthahicks3333]

That's what her mother taught her. You cannot have a relationship with someone that isn't willing to put any effort into the relationship. The first time she trusted her mother in the smallest way she was betrayed.

[@SuzyQ334]

That's probably because her mother did nothing to protect her from her monster father.

[@Joelswinger34]

What? The mother never cared about her or protected her.

[@Joelswinger34]

Her mother colluded with her father and abandoned her.

[@RiversLove]

Wtf. It doesn't even play

[@circletranch9642]

To this day I do not understand this fixation humans have with dead bodies, trying to find dead bodies and bury them in the ground as if the person was still alive. Let the dead bury their own dead, go on with your life and stop obsessing over it.

[@fenix310]

You didn’t love your mother move on

[@amandamccormick5009]

She was nasty to her mother. Keeping secrets for her dad. Even asked for her dad not to be told....we all grew up in abusive households....even though we risk beatings we side with each other. He abused the mother and the child still favoured him. The mother was his first victim sweety. But yall want your sympathy,,, but can't give it to your mum Im treating you right job, how you treated your mum. I don't care. How dies it feel? Lovely?

[@c.alexander4622]

Buncha' drama queens. Time to change the channel..

[@beckyf2845]

Nasty piece of work.

[@sarahimcoles7115]

You have no idea about narsassic men unless you are a narc . Who are you to pass judgement, narsassic trauma never goes away , and even kids who have been sexually abused at the hands of there parents still want there love . And if you had any insight you would see the trauma on her face . Put a frog in boiling water it will jump out put it in cold it will stay until it dies . My psychopathic diagnosed mental health team narc uncle did this to five women and beat his children had sex in the back of the car with women when they were in in front they can rember. So fuck you and your stupid answer

[@lovingmayberry307]

None of this is your fault, Sam. 🫶 And shame on the court system for releasing this horrid man.

[@leigha2814]

This channel has shown many stories that prove the UK courts have a history of ignoring the violent behavior of men. Wonder how long it will be until Russell's next crime?