How to Avoid Drama and Stop Getting Pulled Into Other People's Chaos / creating a drama-free life

[@NenaLavonne]

How is everyone doing today? :) Please take a moment to say hello in the comments and share your own experience with the dramatic people in your life. How do you cope and diffuse the situation? Don't forget to subscribe and share this video if you found it helpful! Have an extraordinary day!

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes, there are people who are extremely toxic and create drama because they love it and they are narcissistic! It’s crazy that they love controlling so much ! I talk about these issues in my channel but I never talked about how to avoid those dramatic people! You did a great job explaining how to avoid drama ! Recovery from drama is sooo tough but it’s possible. Loving your tips

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@TheCreatorOfAllThings]

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[@EllasTastyWorld]

"nod and smile" then walk away and forget it all...stay away from negative people! 👍

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes!!!! :)

[@tommyparkerparker]

Even you try hard to avoid drama, somehow without reason some will purposely create drama for you mainly for their self serving entertainment.

[@NenaLavonne]

Definitely! That is why we have to learn how to cope with it and ignore it so it doesn't negatively influence our lives :)

[@tommyparkerparker]

@@NenaLavonne Thank you Nena for the advice.

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@TrendingTopicSeries]

Dealing with other people's chaos can be very challenging. Like you said: it's important to protect ourselves and set bounderies. This is an important subject 👌👌

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes, I totally agree! Boundaries are essential in life for so many reasons! I appreciate you watching!

[@elwynmckenzie6027]

My drama person is my aunt. She constantly nitpicks me. "Your eyes are too close together." (As if I can help that at all) "I don't like long hair on women." (So, you're not wearing it. I actually shaved my head back in March to raise money for blood cancer so its really short at the moment) "You wear too much black". (I don't feel the need to own a lot of clothes so I have a lot of black because it goes with everything. I have a lot of colourful shirts) and my personal favorite "Why don't you go and milk a cow?" (Find me a cow and I'll milk it. My aunt and mother were raised on a farm so milking cows was a daily chore. I have never lived on a farm so milking cows obviously was never a thing for me. I had my chores, but cows never came ito it. There are a heap of other things as well. Of course she also loves to tell my mother what a horrible job she did in raising me. Oh did I mention that my aunt has no children of her own and my mother is a single parent with 4 children. I did try and go see her when ever my brother who has a car did, which was every couple of months. But that wasn't good enough. So I've just cut her off. She now refures to me as 'her'.

[@NenaLavonne]

Hey Elwyn! That must be incredibly difficult. Nagging and drama can be so exhausting. I hope the situation improves in the future. Happy November, my friend! :)

[@tommyparkerparker]

That’s why I don’t go to family gatherings even on the holidays because I have a sibling who’s prone to stir up drama and I would rather stay away than to deal with the drama.

[@roseb8983]

Thanks for making this! I haven't commented in a while but I have a lot to say about this particular topic. Last year I had a friend who would always stir up drama. We'd been friends for years and it gradually got worse over time, so it took me a while to realize that they were creating a problem. Anytime they said something that caused conflict I would try to sympathize by reminding myself of their difficult home life and mental health issues. I finally realized that, while it was important to acknowledge their situation, they made mine worse and it didn't excuse all of their actions. I ended up explaining the problem to this friend and we don't talk to eachother anymore. (They didn't accept that they were in the wrong or apologize, and they played the victim) Now my life is very drama-free. I only wish I could've realized this earlier because they really took a toll on my mentality with all of the conflicts and drama they caused. Thank you for reminding me why I didn't want a person like this in my life anymore. I was just thinking about this the other day and I felt really bad for dropping this friend.

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes! Self preservation is key. If the interactions are consistently leaving you feeling drained or upset, the drama simply isn't worth it. I'm glad you have been able to avoid the people who had caused you drama in the past! Thanks for saying hello!!!

[@theonlinefam6227]

So relatable. Sometimes when I am interacting with someone like that , in my mind I am just like okay . . . Stop. Sometimes I also try to stay away from internet drama 😂. Great video 👍

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes! Drama just makes me exhausted 😊 So glad you enjoyed the video! ♥️

[@tricepruitt7265]

OMG! So necessary! I am usually pretty good about this but I could do better with family. I get pulled in and before I know it I'm saying, "What happened!"

[@NenaLavonne]

Lol, that is funny! :) I agree that it is harder when it is family! Hope you are doing great, Trice!

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

Thank you for posting

[@NenaLavonne]

I truly hope you found it helpful! ♥️

[@jennifercooper3547]

We are not obligated to clean up another person’s messy mental state, placate bad behavior, or deal with their drama. Choose wisely what to internalize.

[@NenaLavonne]

Yesssss!

[@geef5328]

Exactly

[@CherylSlane-lh2cy]

this is why I try to not talk to anybody, if at most I’ll say “hi & bye” that’s about it from me.. I don’t go into anyones lives and you can’t argue with anyone as you said. I try at the ultmost even stay home, less communication from others I’m around, the better. I keep it short and sweet. Sometimes though especially internet now a days, you just can’t block it all out. It’s hard.

[@missrelaxed3872]

Yes when we have feelings involved that’s when the drama arises. In my life there are couple of people and planning to avoid them for good ! Love your video

[@NenaLavonne]

Oh yes, emotions really intensify things! Glad it was helpful!!! :)

[@RelaxRelateMeditate]

The letting it just be and not exert or ego is sooo tough. Having compassion for the idea that that person is responding to something experienced, learned etc. is another tough one.

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes, these things CAN be difficult, but when we apply them, our lives are much more peaceful! :)

[@diego_iiii]

This helps so well! I've been questioning my past choices that I truly regret and I felt like it's time I find a solution so I can be careful since I may not know what's to come. Being involved in too many dramas can cause more harm than good. There is the saying: Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times. If one only remembers to turn on the light.

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes! It can be hard to believe, but there is wisdom there!

[@mikasaackerman8232]

It’s difficult for me because I want to be there for my sisters in order to give them an outlet / support. But it’s just tons of drama between them and fighting and taking shots at each other and then refusing to take any direction or do any work to overcome their unhealthy patterns (like getting help/ doing the work) I’ve started to just say “I’m game if you want to try to seek healthy solutions! Other than that, I’m not a ton of help for issues like this.”

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes, I can totally understand. I think encouraging seeking healthy solutions is a wonderful idea! Thank you for sharing! :)

[@NorlynCodes]

Unfortunately, it's my parents and relatives. I noticed that I often need to mentally prepare myself.

[@NenaLavonne]

Well, the good thing is that you have awareness of how the interactions affect you so that you are mentally prepared. That can be a game-changer for sure!

[@rudig5698]

Thank you so much for sharing this and for using your voice on this platform! 🥺❤️It’s really encouraging and inspires me to improve my own videos, although I really think that your videos are pretty professional and it’s not easy to make such special videos, thank you for doing this! 🙏🏻

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you so much!! I hope you are doing fantastic, Rudi! Wishing you the best!!! :)

[@rudig5698]

@@NenaLavonne I wish you the same! 🤗🙏🏻

[@NenaLavonne]

RudiG ♥️😊✨

[@Sparkle835]

Hello 👋 I am new to your channel and am glad I found it. At my age, I am seeking to dwell in mental states of peace and positivity as much as possible. I find that when I am stressed, my muscles and joints hurt and it's very uncomfortable. Sometimes, I'll even get a headache, extreme fatigue or IBS. So, for me, avoiding stress and tension brought on by palpable negativity, is literally for my own good healthwise. It surely isn't always easy though.

[@NenaLavonne]

Agreed! Warmest welcome to the channel! 🌸💕😊

[@jennifercooper3547]

We are not obligated to be pulled into other people’s messy mental state, placate bad behavior, or deal with another’s issues. Walk away for good. We have the ultimate control in what we chose to internalize. Peace to all.

[@NenaLavonne]

Great points, Jennifer!

[@garynaccarato4606]

F.Y.I I actually used to have a Facebook friend who would actually try to pull and rope me into there personal drama and crap involving other people and would try to have me fight there personal battles.I was even at a point in which I was saying to myself "Why the heck do you even keep interacting with a lot of these A-holes in the internet in the first place just friggen block these people and stop trying to get me involved with this type of stupidity.

[@MONEYANDTIME]

Very well presented. Life is too short to get into others negativity. Like your work.

[@NenaLavonne]

So glad you enjoyed, and I agree completely! Warmest of welcomes to the channel! :)

[@LiveLifeLori]

Great tip not to share opinion, as that could cause drama in itself. Yes, I agree we all have / or have had/ people like that in our lives. Took me about 35yrs to realize that I don't need to keep people in my life if I don't want to. Now my bubble is drama free and I'm loving it :) Way less stress for sure. Great video.

[@NenaLavonne]

Good for you! It's amazing when we get to the point where we fully understand we can design our lives. :) Thanks for watching!

[@marciawhite4993]

Seems like you always choose the “right” topic ! Thanks for the good advice!

[@NenaLavonne]

I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you so much for watching!

[@PracticalInspiration]

Oh great topic, it's so easy to get mixed up in the mess of others, great video Nena!

[@NenaLavonne]

It really is! I avoid drama as much as humanly possible, lol! :)

[@AgainstTheOddsPodcast]

This is so true! If you’re mindful about who and what you choose to keep in your life, it’ll go a long way and make every thing so much easier! I shall send my channel viewers your way cause the kind of content that you’re creating can be complimented with what I’m putting out there with my video podcast series. Keep it going 👍🏻😊

[@NenaLavonne]

So glad you enjoyed, and thank you!!!! It's a pleasure to meet you!

[@AgainstTheOddsPodcast]

@@NenaLavonne likewise, Nena! Cheers 😊🙌🏻

[@Discoveringbandsbymichaelnagy]

Great video topic and I can definitely relate because I often work with these types of people so awesome to hear your advice!!

[@NenaLavonne]

Hey Michael! I truly hope it was helpful! How is everything? ♥️😊

[@HappyFarmsLa]

Oh yay. You know this about me but being off social media has helped me (quit after 2016 election 😂) also having a smaller handful of friends has helped me. I feel like the more friends you keep, the more of their drama seeps into your life. (For me personally) probably because I am a bit of an empath. This is excellent advice especially right now with politics blowing up. 😷🗳 have a great day Nena!

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes! It's so important that we know the things that tend to set us off so we an avoid them, and social media is a great example for many people. I am an empath myself, but have learned to manage it more as I have gotten older. Hope you are doing fantastically well!!! Thank you for watching!

Excellent video beautiful Nena!! You are bang on with all your points! Love your compassionate approach 💗💞🌸🙏

[@NenaLavonne]

So very glad you enjoyed! I hope you are safe and well, lovely lady!

@@NenaLavonne 💗💞🌸

[@HerDestiny]

Hello! Nena. I cannot stand this type of people. I do my very best to stay as far away as possible. Or let them know right away that I'm not here for the unnecessary drama. Great Topic as always and awesome steps to remove from our space at least mentally. I do however give the benefit of the doubt when and if there is a need to. Big Like 👍🏼 Have a wonderful day. 💖🌷😊

[@NenaLavonne]

I think you have the perfect attitude, and I agree that there is no time for drama :-) I avoid it as much as I possibly can! Thank you so much for watching and I hope you are doing fantastically well! ♥️♥️♥️🌷😊

[@HerDestiny]

@@NenaLavonne Thank you Nena. 🤗💖🌷

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@NazaNalani]

Nena you are radiant as always! I love these tips to avoid drama from toxic people, you're so right that these interactions can leave us feeling completely exhausted!

[@NenaLavonne]

You are always the sweetest! Hope you are having a fantastic week! :)

[@spinel1008]

I unfriended the people who gave me drama I feel much better also I love every second of this video

[@NenaLavonne]

♥️♥️♥️ So glad you enjoyed! Welcome to the channel! 😊

[@g90gino83]

Hi Nena love your video it was so helpful God bless you and your love one's

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you so much for your kind words, I’m very glad you found it helpful! 💕😊

[@selfhelpchampion9664]

Thanks Nena, very useful advice to manage crucial/challenging/difficult conversation. Will repost at our blog selfhelpchampion under Therapy❤️🙏selfhelpchampion

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you so much! I’m so glad you found it helpful! I truly hope you are having a wonderful week! ♥️✨😊

[@NatureSoundsoriginalmovies]

Great advices my good friend, I'm glad to see your new upload :) Thank you for all, like and greetings from France !

[@NenaLavonne]

Waving hello to France!! I look forward to traveling there in the future! Hope you are doing great! :)

[@missrelaxed3872]

Needed this video !

[@NenaLavonne]

Awww, hope you found it helpful!! :)

[@Keith-wb2nn]

Stay to your self and work on making your own life better

[@IsabellasQuickRecipes]

Somehow your topics are like your talking directly to me Nena hahaha When I'm at work, I feel like it's a job within itself dealing with everyone's drama!!

[@NenaLavonne]

Isabella, that is so funny! Hang in there! Hope you found the video helpful! :)

[@suchetagw]

Great tips. Thank you so much

[@NenaLavonne]

You are very welcome 😊♥️

[@AhmetKaan]

I absolutely love your videos! Another great one my friend, keep these coming! Keep the great work up! 🙂👌🏻

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you! Will do! :) Have a great week!

[@keitygarden]

Great video🌹😍👍 Thank you for sharing ways to minimize toxic conversations and interactions and maintain peace of mind.

[@NenaLavonne]

Glad you enjoyed it, Keity! Have a beautiful week!

[@AuthorLaliALove2019]

Thank you fabulous Nena, so informative! ❤️🥰💫

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you, my beautiful friend! I hope you are having a spectacular week!

[@The_Midnight_Wanderer]

Good tips. I try to avoid drama, so this will help with that. Thanks for sharing

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you for watching! I hope you are having a fantastic October ♥️🎃😊

[@HarryThomasPictures]

Beautiful video and terrific top sweetest Nena, I always try to avoid conflict by being as kind and caring as I can to everybody around me. It makes life far easier, tomorrow is my 25th Birthday. Huge love and hugs😊❤❤❤✨xx!

[@NenaLavonne]

Well, happy birthday, Harry! Wishing you a magical year!!!

[@RockerRoxy]

Yes, definitely helpful 😀😀😀😀😀 still quite some work on this point 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks for the great guidance ❤❤❤❤❤ full watch including ads as always 👍👍👍👍👍

[@NenaLavonne]

Lol! Glad you found it helpful! How is everything going for you and Roxy? :)

[@RockerRoxy]

@@NenaLavonne yes, very helpful.. busy, she keeps having nightmares 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 how about you, any closer to get your kitty?

[@HealingMelodies]

This is such good advice! I am a sponge sometimes, hahaha. I've gotten better at not being as big of a sponge as I used to be, but it's my default mode. As you said, a lot of times people have no idea about what's happening. If they're that emotional, it can be hard or nearly impossible for them to realize what they're doing in the moment. Thank you for the great advice, Nena! Diffusing the situation, making the other person feel humanly valued (that's what I do), and then giving space really does a lot of good for everyone. Some people have been super scarred from various experiences throughout life, and that can grab hold of them and change them into toxic people without them realizing it. These tips of yours can help heal the world one person at a time :-)

[@NenaLavonne]

Awwww, you are so sweet, and you made a lot of good points. I think much of the time, people do not have the awareness of how toxic they are being. But it can still be exhausting! Hope you are doing great, my friend!

[@steveharris2589]

Great video Nena!!!!!!!!)))) Look out the holidays are coming !!!!!!)))😊😊😊🌺🌸🌼

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes they are! :) Hope you are doing fantastic, Steve!!!

[@cactusstudiossouth]

Hi Nena Lavonne, Psy.M! I really enjoyed your presentation, very good insight! In the future may I recommend buying a Wireless Mic to connect to your Camcorder! Tryn not to use a cell phone, the ambient audio has too much reverb in it! Our viewers get used to the sound of professional audio with EQ & Compression added to our voices! Your message will go much further!

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes! I use one in all my recent videos 😊♥️

[@papashog]

Well shared, thank you

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@GeorgePierce]

This is useful information, thanks, Nena.

[@NenaLavonne]

Glad it was helpful! Hope you are having a great week, George!!! :)

[@ShawnsImagination]

Great advice. I’m adding this to my watch list. I know I’ll need it in the future. Thank you Nena

[@NenaLavonne]

♥️😊🙏 Hope you are doing fantastically well!

[@CrazyBowserMan.]

Thanks for making this me and my friends on the group chat would alawys get to many enemies that starts drama I just wanna say thank you so much for making this I showed this to my friends they said this was very helpful so hopefully you also have a good day I'm sure me and my friends would get less drama this year I just wanna Say Thank you very very much for making this

[@NenaLavonne]

I'm so glad you found the video helpful, and you are VERY welcome! Wishing you all the best!

[@CherylSlane-lh2cy]

I took two years of child/personal development in high school as an elective. I must say, I learned a lot, but from student to coach why do people think I’m crazy and don’t know what it is I’m talking about? Any suggestions…

[@NenaLavonne]

I think unfortunately we just have to realize that we can’t control what other people think, and just know in our hearts that we are not as they believe us to be ♥️

[@janiyajoynes9616]

I love the video so much!! Because it helps me to avoid drama with friends. And I do listen to music to take my mind off the drama that happens. When my friend bring me into the drama about her ex-boyfriend it made me really upset and angry. Because I really didn't want nothing to do with her exboyfriend at all. So I just block the number that her ex was texting me from. Your video really help me alot. Thank you so much. Your the best 😍🥰😍😘😍😍.

[@NenaLavonne]

I'm so glad you found the video helpful!

[@theanimatedshow1990]

Excellent💯💯👍💯💯 Logical Tips💡💡💡 A N D Perfect💯💯 Upload👍👍

[@NenaLavonne]

Thanks 🤗 Hope you are having a great week! :)

[@FoxPerfect]

Good Morning. Great video Nena!!

[@NenaLavonne]

Goooood morning! How’s Team Fox doing today??? 😊😊😊🦊

[@gloriagoodman3659]

My drama is usually family related . So it's hard to avoid. I do my best to try not to get involved . but I end up in the middle.most.times .

[@NenaLavonne]

I truly hope the video was helpful 💜

[@IntoTheTrees_13]

Wise people avoid drama.

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@arushi1306]

Recently I’ve been getting caught in drama and I hate it. Thank you sm for this vid! I’m subscribing and binging your vids

[@NenaLavonne]

So glad you are enjoying the channel! Warmest of welcomes here! ♥️♥️♥️

[@arushi1306]

@@NenaLavonne thank you

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@roncall6065]

Thank you

[@NenaLavonne]

Glad you found it helpful, Ronald! ♥️

[@jamiecee4960]

Why do we get so caught up in other peoples drama on KZbin. UGH. They do drag you in. It does make you exhausted.

[@NenaLavonne]

Awareness is key. When we know it isn't worth it, we don't waste our time or energy engaging in the drama :)

[@CherylSlane-lh2cy]

Then if I stay away from people wanting nothing to do with them, I’m “fault finding” and won’t accept toxic things. There for, I’m the issue. 😳

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@TheeOwlQueen]

Such an important video dear Nena, there is too much of toxicity & drama going on online. I've sent you an email from my personal gmail, something very important I wanted to share with you. I wish you a wonderful weekend.

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you, beautiful lady! I will respond asap! Thank you so much for watching and for thinking of me! :)

[@tavsanliekspres]

Very good video

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@CherylSlane-lh2cy]

Then another one, my home must look like this or that, or go get my brain checked. Like really people…I just want a good case of just “leave me alone”

[@francgoodman]

Hello Nena how are you? I hope you hit 4k very soon🌹😍😎☺

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you, my friend! How are you? :)

[@francgoodman]

@@NenaLavonne im doing great. thanx you☺

[@NenaLavonne]

Franc GoodMan. Relaxing Videos glad to hear it!!! ♥️😊✨

[@prepforlife4425]

How to do when your coworkers are gossips and like drama. Energy vampires.

[@NenaLavonne]

Try as best you can not to participate 😊 You are right - it completely drains our energy!!! ✨

[@Swamp_Thing_4487]

I have a very important question pls if I may, let's say someone at work can try to stir up a conversation about something they dont agree with, to try and get you to respond just so that person wont feel negative alone, how do I ignore that entirely? Like what will help me to avoid that thing where someone gets very upset about one thing but wants me to chime in, knowing it's nothing I personally would be mad at myself? Pls give me a great answer to help me out, I'm tired of stressing over other ppls negativity

[@NenaLavonne]

Hi Zachory! Great question - when people ask me to comment about something I prefer to avoid, I usually try to lightly joke that I "don't like to get involved in discussing these types of issues" and laugh after so they know I am not trying to be critical. You can also say something like "I'm sorry you are going through this" or something very general like "there's always something!" depending on the situation. You never have to offer your opinion or get emotionally invested. The more times you answer in these vague ways, the less people will try to engage you in these types of conversations. I hope that helps :)

[@Swamp_Thing_4487]

That really helps me out! I usually say things like " that's how it goes or that's life I guess" bit always try to avoid it all. It's like when someone very annoying tries to call you over and over and the more you ignore it, it will eventually stop so I see how that can relate! You helped my day out! Thank you, namaste and have a great day!

[@NenaLavonne]

Yes, it can be exhausting getting sucked into these toxic conversations! Glad the video was helpful! 💜

[@methoticaarts1787]

Mine is my 20!year old daughter who lives with me . I try to stay away she drags me in all her drama with her friends and boyfriend ect

[@NenaLavonne]

I hope the video was helpful! :)

[@DavidCruz-nq4qg]

Hi my name is David cruz my nick name is leprechaun. I live in the south Bronx and I'm going fighting my own demons and I'm fighting against other peoples demons. I try to not get in there drama and cheos. I'm a good man and they come against me and in my life. Is it okay if you can pray for me. Thank you.

[@NenaLavonne]

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[@PakistaniVloggerInChina]

Fabulous

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you so much! Have an amazing day!

[@Shemar-sj1mi]

What if u are a discerning person

[@NenaLavonne]

It’s a very helpful quality!

[@mkeditz5206]

loved it dear wanna be friend

[@NenaLavonne]

Welcome to the channel! :)