HOW TO BE A B*TCH pt3 | owning it, not caring what other people think & self-confidence

[@pauc.f.8146]

Actually, I just cut out someone from my life that I could recognize a gaslighter and a manipulator playing victim, so I'm super proud. I literally couldn't have done it a couple of months back. Thank you, you're a huge part of this improvement!

[@avarie555]

Same girl! I feel so proud

[@laptop-w3s]

Hi, could you describe a gaslighter and a manipulator playing victim?

[@pauc.f.8146]

@@laptop-w3s sure! Gaslighting is when the other person makes you doubt about your perception, your memory or your feelings, making you feel confused about a situation. When someone tells you "you're exaggerating", "you're crazy", "that never happened" or even turn something you were hurt about until you are the one apologizing, that's gaslighting. And a manipulator playing victim will say "I did so much for you, I was so good, and you were terrible to me" when you did nothing wrong, but the point is to trigger you into being anxious and not sure about anything. Hope this helps! I would encourage anyone to read and watch everything on these topic, or you'll end up in bad places for a long time 💕

[@ewingloren2766]

The feeling of letting them go and then realizing that you actually feel BETTER and not WORSE, gives you so much confidence too. We just had to build up the courage to do it 😊

[@Idekatthispoint0000]

Well done yall !! :)

[@vrindav8]

Recently my dad cheated on my mom, didnt accepted his mistake, tried to blame it on my mom whos under pressure since years, i had to break the silence and told him to get out and so he ran away. I really wondered if it was okay or not, but thanks a lot to your advices it really helped me mentally. I feel a lot relieved than being trapped in thoughts. A man is a man. And to all the gurlies out there, live your life and be a bit*h forever. ♡

[@SanasulthanaSyed]

Gurlll....so proud of you ❤

[@Edithfr]

Oh my my we are proud bae!💋💗🎀

[@rutuharke]

Are u okay ??

[@renatavazquez6738]

This was my dream when I first found out, I couldnt, we all grew, we are all still together, but im so proud of you

[@НурситТурабек]

WAKE UP, QUEEN POSTED

[@MiftahulJannatArabi]

YASSSS

[@Idekatthispoint0000]

YESSSS

[@abdulmalek9088]

"I am not responsible for other people experience". What a line!

[@Goingconcerned]

Not explaining and not over apologizing has been game changing, I think people will be shocked how easily it actually flows and people actually just respect you more…

[@Sahalielove]

I healed from a childhood of poor success in friendships! I people pleased because I was so scared to lose my friends as a young adult, even though I only had those friends because I didn’t yet understand that I could drop them and get better friends!

[@wheelofortune]

timestamps + notes ♡ #1 the transition. 4:26 1. dont be afraid to be a b*tch! 💋 - dont make ur life a never ending to do list - 6:25 why would u want them?? - 6:52 7:22 2. speak highly about yourself 🗣 - 8:06 its not arrogant, its self respect. - 9:23 its a natural filter 10:24 3. be prepared 4 da haterzz 😵 - 10:55 its okay! -11:19 stop putting others feelings first 12:11 4. stop overexplaining urself 🤐 - own it. 13:50 5. STOP saying sorry that much ⁉️ 15:12 #2 the reality 15:38 1. embrace the temporary loneliness 💫 17:26 2. replace external validation w/ self-validation 💄 - be ur own cheerleader! 19:06 3. u probably are going to be misunderstood 😵‍💫 u got this, xoxo 💋💋

[@avanikalambe]

literally thank youuuu so muchhh !!!!

[@Hiraeth_Kalon]

THANK YOU!!

[@venikachaudhary9621]

the amount of joy I get when tam uploads >>>>>💘

[@Arina_Glare]

Frr I click on the video so fast❤️

[@Thestar_ka]

TIMINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG , THAT'S INSANEEEEEEEE I LOVE YOU TAMMMMMMMMMM SO MUCH

[@ellenfe]

THE TIMING IS CRAZY, LOVE YOU QUEEN

[@Klaudjaa___]

Tam, you helped me build character and now I feel unstoppable, thank you so much ❤

[@nott.txxira]

can you please do a video on lessons you learned in starting and growing a business please. You are such an amazing and inspiring individual for teen girls like myself. I'm so grateful for your content, it's honestly a life saver

[@mahek1842]

PERFECT TIMING!!! GIRLIES IM PULLING OFF MY FIRST EVER EVENT AT 18 YRS OLD TODAY!!! IM SO SCARED BUT THANKFULLY TAM UPLOADED TO GIVE ME A REALITY CHECK🥹🥹🥹

[@SahiraZAli]

Congrats 🎉🎉

[@LuceroVolk]

Good luck 🍀 Love and light surrounds you and the whole world! ✨✨✨✨ Woooo! You’ll do amazing!

[@ShrutiAgarwal574]

17:10 she calms down my anxiety for feeling alone during this self healing solitude journey

[@solobanks79]

The fit, the timing, the information. Triple threat❤❤❤

[@enjk12]

TIMING IS CRAZY>>> GIRL I NEEDED THIS !! THANK YOU

[@fiieyy]

girll i littrly just thought abt how i want a part 3 on this series OMGG PERFECT TIMING

[@violetpolli]

I just can’t explain how better my day is when I watch tam

[@mahzxba555]

I love this HOW TO BE A B*TCH series so much this should have more parts to it!!!

[@Blissy7777]

4:30 . I needed to hear this 🤌♥ Thanks Tam, you are always reminding things which I learn & forget . 💕

[@jamieisalwaysokay490]

I just found out that people think I’m arrogant because I said that I’m pretty. Wtf? I am sorry, but I didn’t say that I’m prettier THAN YOU girl, I just said that I’m pretty? I’m sorry whaaaaaat?

[@cutekitten45]

OMG this video is just what i needed. I recently moved to a new country for my masters and decided from the beginning that this year would be my self love era where I stop falling into my old people pleasing habits. In fact, a few weeks ago i intentionally distanced myself from a group that i know were not good for me (in the past i would have just accepted them) And just last night, I was feeling so lonely, wondering if I'm doing something wrong by not socialising and talking to everyone like everyone else is. Then this video drops, LITERALLY FOR ME. THANK YOU TAM FOR YOUR WISDOM ❤

[@mousumisarkar2836]

In life for so many people I have done what you are doing in this video for us but never really got back that for me maybe because of that you have created this video ❤ Thank you this video means a lot for me personally 🌸

[@Bangtan3mylife]

I just saw your post and know I'm VERY early, but I just wanted to tell you. Thank you. You changed my life and made me very very very happy your videos motivated me and now I'm finally the person I want to be. Keep making people happy and your videos are the best! I love you girlie🤍

[@Esthetician_club]

TAMMMMM IS BACKK WITH ANOTHER ICONIC GAME CHANGING VIDEO!!!!!

[@yoongistangerine86]

im 20 and im here to confess i suck at taking stand for myself and being a lil selfsh for my own life! Basically, since im still under the caretaking of my parents i have to go by the decisions they take for me and this has been the cause i cant be independant when it comes to taking desicions. In the process, ive become a "nice girlie" who talks so sweetly and never says no coz, wy would she, even if she tries to, her parents will force her to say yes for their so called image right! THANKS FOR HELPING OUT TAM

[@Lilybasumatari]

Yayy part 3!!! 🌸🌸🌸 Video Request - especially for the girls going to turn 18 in 2025 to prepare for a golden future and to be ahead of this time covering things like advice, financial planning, wellness anything so we can blossom in our 20s

[@kyoha9840]

Im turning 20 and I need it too!

[@carolinamilanesio6057]

@@kyoha9840same girl😂 already

[@scarletchase9913]

ohmg I'm turning 18 in 2025 too!!! And that's an amazing idea!! I'd Iove such a topic from Tam!~

[@dumsycat6976]

Boring

[@astha2604]

Yesss please I'm about to turn 18 soonn I'd love to have a vid like that!!

[@Wolf_and_moon]

Girl you helped me a lot in my healing journey…. Thankyou for being you❤

[@CAGirl421]

You're literally my online therapist 💕 Whenever I feel down you come up with Banger videos✨💗💯

[@StellaVenus-ov5go]

Tam you wont belive it but the other day I was over thinking what other people think of me after I said that and blah blah,Your voice came in my mind saying " And why do we give a F ?" 😂 You know i love you so much ❤

[@ArtistryAlchemy-d9z]

I just needed it. Few days ago I complaint about my friend as I was captain. Then I started feeling guilty and than I became too caring for her but she started getting jealous about me and I couldn't bare it now anymore because the tam is my queen!!!

[@PrakritiDahiya]

Girl I just I really manifested this video 2-3 days ago I was like I really need tam to bring pt3 for this and this is what I get Omg

[@crystalclear536]

NO WAY THE TIMIING!!!!!!! Tam i love you omg i needed this y'all!💗

[@samanthasingh7831]

Hi Tam, love you so much! Could you please do a video or podcast in depth about toxic managers/coworkers/ workplace when you are not in the financial position currently to leave, and how to handle them? Your help and advice is life changing, thank you❤

[@VeronicaPurcell-vp2ru]

I am so happy you made this because I’m always overthinking about what others think. But now I realized who freaking cares, only I know what I am doing and that’s good enough ❤

[@Diptidiva1]

Thank you for all the advice. Btw those glasses really made me realise how important eye contact is😉

[@YusharaSamarakoon]

The timingggggggg omg I LOVE YOUUUU ❤

[@Eun_ieMin]

Hey tam can you make a video about thoughts in your head that continuously criticize your every decision and won't let you be the best version because it's not perfect

[@YasminMahmoud-po3qp]

honestly, Tam's videos made me realize that the people in my life might either just like me for who i am, completely hate my guts, want to be me, or want to be with me. and i mean, not just me, but anyone. but either ways, you should accept that. thank u so much

[@sonicsymphony1212]

This is my most favourite series

[@anajamito]

ACKKKKKKK, MADE MY DAY IN AN INSTANT! Only you can do this, Tam. Love you 💗

[@ikshita2400]

15:30 This video is so specific . I just let go my best friends and now im suffering this temporary loneliness. In the morning I was thinking just this that I am setting high standards and meaningful friendship will take time. I happily let go and allow abundance to flow . Thanks tam for the amazing video just wanted to share my story ❤❤

[@nergiznextdoor]

Tam posted perfect timing. Needed thisssssss ❤

[@kimshane903]

right on time. I'mma say it again as always RIGHT ON TIME ❤ Thank you Tam so much!

[@Jen-nx3wd]

I WAS WAITING FOR YOU TO BRING THIS SERIES BACK!! ❤🎉

[@aaryajoshii]

PLEASE CONTINUE THIS SERIES TAM ❤

[@rowlinggrowling]

sorely need it for what happened today 😢 thank you Tam, it just came at the right timing

[@Diya_06]

Tam please make a video on inner child healing

[@StellaPutzhammer]

Tam !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for that video, you are very helpful. I am currently reading your book, and the awareness, precision, clarity, maturity and enlightenment you possess are striking. If you ever do a M&G in London again, I’ll do my best to be there ! Have a lovely day ❤️

[@shriMeenakshi]

The timing..... Gurl how omg

[@leoguy022]

The 16:50 part helped me so much during this period. Thank you.

[@ShagunTiwari-v4f]

Oh! My gosh that's what I was waiting for the most damn ! The girl is back with the most amazing energy and aura ! To transform our lives ! ❤️💕💕

[@xoxoraylove]

I'm 16 and I cut all my friends out of my life because they truly weren't meant for me and didn't align with me anymore. I don't have any friends in my new school too rn because I chose to not mingle with the people in it as they simply didn't align with me. What I did is absolutely right but it feels pretty lonely at times. Thank you tam, for this video. It's channeled my b*tch energy back and I feel much more confident to thrive in my solitude 💪 I'll continue to work on myself and my goals, and I know that I'll find the right people very soon. Love ya❤

[@HEYYISHIIII]

Omgg TAM , you really don’t know how much i needed this video 😭❤️ Your timing is always the best ❤️🧿 You’re my inspiration fr 🥺🫶🏻

[@CharmiDave-l6o]

I waited for this one SO BADLY!!!! LOVE YOU TAM!! ❤️

[@browngirlshire]

your advice is top notch as always but omg the quality and the outfit ateeeee ❤

[@MiftahulJannatArabi]

Tam, Can you add the outro a little bit early while you're still talking? It just makes it SO MUCH better. You did that with your other videos and it's super cool!

[@lojain333]

your skin is improving sm girl!! 💖💖💖💖

[@nonayabusiness]

MY FAV GURLIE IS HEREEEE🥺💌 I LOVE HER SMMMMM🧸💌🎀

[@ShreyaDubey-f2h]

Yk you love tam when you watch her videos as soon as she posts

[@anitawilliams22]

Thanks TAM ❤ needed the reminder. LETS GO 🎉!!!!

[@anitawilliams22]

37 year young girlie here by the way and love your insights! ❤

[@harshitaa_s]

My fav woman!☀️

[@tannaz_21]

In 2 minutes !!! I LOVE THIS SERIES !

[@iamdariawolf]

Tam, I just love you. And I seriously hope the next video from this series will be 3 hours long. 😃🥰

[@mishthinayyar6502]

tam i love you, you have no idea how much i needed this

[@Kaushalya-sd6gh]

Tam your videos are always so helpful . I hope that you will make a video about attachment styles. It is so necessary to talk on this as it affects our lives so much . 😊😇

[@13joanne_lr]

LOVE THIS SERIES AAAH

[@Aisha-xh6zs]

QUEEN HAS THE BEST TIMING

[@sushmitanaik1577]

Go girl.... Much love for loading this blockbuster video... My jaw just dropped as .. this video actually have all the answers , I have been searching for a while now

[@MairaSehar-yq8go]

we need a part 4!

[@Divasha-t2n]

The timing TAM damnnn😎

[@basvi20chunara]

OMG, you just post it at the very right time!! SO excited to watch this

[@Aditi-pr4gh]

I always get happy when I see your videos, it’s like I just know that I’m gonna transform for the better!!😊😊 Also, I’ve been reading your book, it’s just so good with a lot of useful information yayy thanku keep uploading

[@fatimaaliAli-e3b]

Its been a while since I focused on my mindset growth and l realize when we are in our growth journey people around you made tou realize that i am boring or not good and mostly we let alone in this journey like i always listen we mirroring 5 people whom we surrounded our self so o decide to surrounded my self with podcast books education skils learning and after i did that its been 6 month now i detached my self i stsrt focused on my growth if someone not giving me same efforts i let them goo and i am not saying its an easy process but it's far better then being traumatized Thanks 💝tam

[@IrmaRidjali]

Tam posted the timinggggggggg love you tam ❤❤

[@ximenacastillo1428]

I feel very inspired by you Tam Thank you so much ❤🌟

[@marx_anthony]

Queen delivered right on time. 🥰

[@Aromaticoffical]

In love with these videos Tam 🔥

[@bangtan_lily_sona]

Yoooo I woke up cuz the queen is here!!! ✨

[@Namjooniee97]

I loveeee when you teach us this topic>3❤

[@6cozythoughts]

This is going to be my relaxation timeeee❤ love youuuu

[@sketchbookdraws0]

YES! the coolest and most loving b*tch on the internet is back you guys! Love u Tam ❤❤❤

[@Bluesamt]

Thank youu! I love your videos. Your advices helped a lot and i am doing much better in life thanks to you!

[@CLAUDIAMASUWA]

I get so excited when I see your videos popping up .......coz I know the tea will be teaing 🎉❤❤

[@M1SS.H3R.TH3.F1RST]

I LOVE THIS SERIES

[@avanikalambe]

THAAANKKK YOUUUUU TAMMMMMM

[@CassieGrande]

Queen Tam posted!!!!❤️❤️

[@TwishaBhatt1]

Thank you so much for being the great supporter of us. You r really so amazing. I really want you to make one video on dating tips as I am not really good at understanding others intension for me so if you can, make it will really love that thanks for listening

[@Beomgyuscheesecake]

LOVE IT WHEN SHE SPOILS USSSSSSS

[@arienmaia26]

I bought your book today and am very excited to read it

[@itszepyur]

My all time happiness source❤

[@AnneJolievDijken]

Queen, another amazing video. Love your outfit today! Love ya! ❤️❤️

[@CallmePrincess78]

i love this series

[@anajamito]

Love the coat, so perfect for this talk 😊

[@victoriaschubert5911]

I looove the intro too good slay queen 🖤💅🏻‼️

[@navneetkaur3781]

Wake up TAM posted !! ❤❤🎉

[@Not-really-Naisha]

Arghh was waiting for this video all day 🤌✨

[@sanskriti_barua]

Mama posted‼️🙇🏻‍♀️🫦

[@Ria23854]

Thank you for that reminders! So damn important ❤

[@TrashBagAria]

LETSSSS GO! PART 3!!!!