How To Be An Amazing Conversationalist

[@xermy1648]

My right ear learned a lot today.

[@gohan2091]

Haha

[@Aivy2]

+Wizerd mine is left. hahahahahaha

[@kodymileski5541]

I thought it was just me going insane

[@JahlilEllis]

Lol I thought something was wrong with my headphones.

[@DerrickthePinecone]

Right ear-gate.

[@shogogarcia]

Start paying attention to everything around you. Everything that's happening, what people are doing, saying, wearing, things that are going on, every detail. Think about what you could say in that situation. Think exactly about your impression and reaction in that moment and the thoughts that are going through your head. Then you say exactly what is in your head to whoever is right next to you. You're holding back because you're worrying too much about what other people think of you.

[@nicoleclerc3629]

I had a short amount of happiness inside me, i thought it would be an amazing and original idea to say that my right ear liked the video. Then i scrolled down. I have never been so wrong ;-;

[@faqoff3893]

but you did write that

[@noc_yt]

My left ear is lonely.

[@mitchelltnewman]

Both my ears are fine, you should get those headphones checked

[@jlnappi]

Mine too, your headphones are fine.

[@noc_yt]

The left side doesn't get has much volume as the right.

[@alee0294]

0816Egg Might be your breathing. I used to have that problem but then one day I tried taking deep and calm breaths

[@arsenalbloke]

my left ear is really curious as to whats going on

[@MAGNETO-i1i]

ask your ear doctor

[@itsSalSal]

And i thought something was wrong with my earphones. Thank God lol

[@barbaraaraojo504]

Oh thanks : ) I read this comments, I thoutgh my earphone malfunctioning.

[@Jerrydupris]

same, it feels its missing out

[@shiqutafields1718]

lmaooooo omfggg sameee.

[@nicoleclerc3629]

My right ear liked the video

[@roughryder5]

You make it sound so easy. I just dont have the ability to spring into a fluent conversation about something or say something witty to start a conversation. I just dont know many facts about enough things to openly talk about them for a long period of time.

[@jin2135]

I just dont this, I just dont that, learn the basics first. even babies don’t just start walking out of nowhere

[@Ottah1999]

oh God you can hear every gulp

[@Aivy2]

+Sphinx hahaha

[@tinachristoxo]

You leave the conversation saying, "What the hell was that all about?" She leaves the conversation saying, "...What the hell was to about?... That guy was just asking me a bunch of random questions?!" He didn't really care You don't really care WHAT IS GOING ON??? Anyway. I found this pretty helpful as today I attended a session about the psychology of conversation and this is all getting pretty interesting to me. I like what you said about our lives affecting the topics we speak about which is so true! ~*apples*~

[@NyuAtreides]

this conversation was very... one sided

[@static3909]

Talk directly into her right ear

[@strawberrylimez]

This reminded me of focusing my interest on something, this got me motivated. In order to be interesting, you have to be interested.

[@TehMociIndonesia]

I lost count after the 15th saliva swallowing

[@ochukotubie6849]

XD

[@marct47]

Veronica Delly Suriadi 😂😂😂😂

[@XxxBackFromHellxxX]

I think whats important in a conversation is talking about something that both people in the conversation are interested in, something they have in common

[@napoliav]

you are a strong gulper

[@shogogarcia]

Yes, that is very true! That requires some explanation: be interested in the girl you're talking to, be interested in enriching your own life, and be interested in exploring and experiencing all that you can about the world around you... One of the most significant and satisfying ways to live life I believe...

[@areyes16536ar]

this guy is super awesome he' s a great conversationalist im trying to improve on myself to talk to anybody better he's teaching me a lot im trying to bond with my brothers they dont talk to me at all we argue more then anything and my dad is too quiet i hate it when my Father just ask me about my job i want to be involved in a great convo with anybody and that shows me get a long more then anything. I feel like some convos are competitive lol maybe not

[@rodrigorivas97]

You know what the problem is? Sometimes i meet new people, and i try to talk and talk and talk, but they are so flat, just answer, yes, no, ok, but they don't give their opinion, they don't say anything, therefore i feel like i am boring, but it's hard to be the only one putting the effort, what can i do? What is really happening?

[@Kidvicious707]

THIS. Please I am struggling with this too. Well I realized maybe just a lot of people just aren't as open as we are so it pretty much seems like a dud. I mean if you find a person that is as open to meeting new people as you are then that's great. But, some people are just aren't willing expand. :/

[@dr.mohammedbakr2855]

Rodrigo Rivas the question is how to solve his problem not yours you are ok 😊

[@tinabeana4495]

Rodrigo Rivas I'm probably one of those people you talk about! xD; In my case, I never really know what to say? My mind has a hard time thinking of things to say quickly, or if I have something to say, I'll be too worried about saying it wrong or have it come across wrong. Personally idk what people like you could do to make people like me come out of that. People online often assume I'm outgoing because of how much I type! For me, it's a lot easier to collect thoughts in a message at a quicker pace for some odd reason. And I can say an opinion, and know I said what I meant to say, where as in real conversations, I'm bound to not say what I meant to say? Idk But you know, I have a friend in person who can talk so much, but when it comes to typing, she's the one with short replies xD

[@IWILLBRINGBEAUTY]

WOW..you are amazing...where do guys like you exist? Is it only you?

[@carlosspicywiener6058]

It's the weirdest thing. When I am at work and being monetarily compensated for my time, I am an amazing conversationalist. I am able to engage listen and give good feedback. In my personal life. Meeting and talking to new people is my nightmare. I have tried on several occasions to rectify this but to no avail. really frustrating

[@WilliamKKidd]

My right ear REALLY enjoyed this..

[@GhostBoyX13]

So.. Gulp. What's your favorite kind of Apple?

[@POPINTHETAPE]

haha 😁

[@shogogarcia]

No need to defend your comment mbloom18, I'm not here to criticize you. It's all an exercise in speaking your mind, and I'd rather have you comment openly and honestly than keep your feelings bottled in. Just make sure that everything you dish out, you can also take in.

[@iannestor5406]

Sho is the BEST life coach on youtube!!! So glad I found this channel :)

[@virginijakontrimaite6797]

amazing...

[@JoeyLevenson]

Half Japanese/Half Latin? Man, you could make 100 convos just from that. Good advice. After reading a ton about PUA, I think its better for me to improve my convo skills. Nice video. thx

[@megabaneen8057]

this guy knows what he is talking about

[@bangfury]

Loved the practical experiment suggestion. I think its a great tool and will use it right now.

[@furypenguinz]

Good video, and thanks for the documentary suggestion learnt a lot from it.

[@qymj]

Thank you this is so helpful tips i was so wrap up in and im not a great conversationist but nowni understand how thank you

[@GoldJacketLuke]

Congrats 100,000 views! Amazing!! Now 100,000 people know how to "Shogo" and are "Shogoing" social man around town!! haha

[@shogogarcia]

Hey there, thanks for the congrats... Looking forward to doing some "Shogoing" with you again soon! My guess is that we'll be calling it "Luking" after the one and only GJL style

[@maxmad9005]

+Roberson Lubin You don't know what to talk about with girls. You see, that's the problem! You are looking for something to talk about with women, you are not respecting yourself. You know what man! if you don't have anything to say, so be it, say nothing ! If you were with a 50 yo old man, would you really care about what to say? Would you even feel the NEED to say something? NO You HAVE to put everybody at the same level. "Alpha males", don't have this problems, WHY? Because they put everybody at the same level, they see her like they see NORMAL people, not any superior being whom they need to seduce. Seduce yourself man! That's the only person you should impress, YOU. There is no need to impress any girl, if you want to improve, do it for yourself, never for the girl, studying pick up? WTF? Study to be better, to be more self-secure, never ever ever study anything special to conquer any girl, cause that means that you don't feel that you are at the same level as them, do they study how to seduce us? They know they don't need it, you neither bro, what man need is some BALLS, that's it, and some common sense, you want to seduce? That doesn't depend on you and It's a pathetic objective, what depends on you is to improve. Improve your sense of humor, FOR YOU, improve your self steem, and self-confidence FOR YOU, learn to take care of the ones you love, FOR YOU. And apply all of that, WITH EVERYBODY, that will reinforce the fact that you are not doing it for the girl, but for you. Once you apply that with everybody, I promise you will be able to do it with the girl, but of course, self-confident means you are not needy, you treat everybody equaly If you do it with everybody, you will have an infinite amount of practice, and you it will be way way way more easy to believe that In fact, you are doing it for YOU, to be a better version of yourself, a version that treats everybody with the same self-confidence, and gives each individual what he/she deserves. Once you know this, I will tell you what to talk about. Talk about what YOU want to talk about. What really amazes you? Be genuine, What is it this thing that you can't stop talking about? Focus all that need to impress on you, and believe me, when you really like something, automaticly you will talk, but because you want, not because you "need to say something" I want to finish saying that, don't misuderstand me, everybody likes to impress, it feels good, but that doesn't mean we should tolerate it, just like we like to f*** and we don't rape women, we shouldn't try to impress ANYBODY but us. So yeah, love women, but you go first, so no tolerance for needing to impress them. I hope it helps you, greetings.

[@isabelsantos8209]

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[@shogogarcia]

Thanks for watching Dylan, more videos on the way...

[@INSOMNASTALGICAL]

My mind is blown... I didn't think all that much of it when I first came across this video, but this had some great information... yep... great information... I could go on for hours about it... I think I need practice.

[@TheAncientss]

This Video has helped me so much! I realised my speaker configuration was wrong because of the comments about the right ear :D

[@limppimento55]

Good stuff. Thanks.

[@breakdancerQ]

This guy is like the Bruce Lee of conversations. He really said some things that made me think about it.

[@jin2135]

is that really necessary?? is it because he’s asian 💀

[@shashikumar7778]

Don't listen to idiots .Your video has its importance on its own.Its nice

[@manishprakash3555]

Hi,thanks for all the good videos they really help me and I really appreciate the work you have done once again thanks and my support is there for you my bro SHOGO😊😊😊👌👌👌✊✊✊👊👊👊👏👏👏

[@am33x]

MAJOR WIN to all these comments.

[@Dylan230393]

this was really good, and I can tell that you are really receptive and engaging, you have woken me up

[@myriahmartinez9323]

Very good video, so true. I find myself doing this ALL the time. Definitely going to give this a try. Thank you, keep up the good work! :)

[@shogogarcia]

:) Yes, the spit sound is something you don't want to do if you find that behavior annoying. (I'm guessing I was smacking so much and drinking water in this video because I got so excited talking into the camera that my mouth was salivating!) I want to make it clear, however, that while physical mannerisms are important on a superficial level, much more important is (a) the substance of what you are communicating and (b) how open, receptive, and genuine you are being while communicating.

[@b.d7021]

Great! learning "How To Be An Amazing Conversationalist" from a boring guy.

[@heather8901]

You're fun to listen to

[@kingpanda1]

Thanks for sharing! GOD BLESS!

[@OTHno3TLA]

never have i been as interested in apples than this moment

[@MaryMary-ty3rh]

I just love this video . Iam just sooo shy and unable to express my feelings. . only when I watch a movie or song , then I say Heey this is what I reLly feel. Please help me out

[@carlenekemp8136]

you have a new sub 😊 i just always find myself being awkward when talking to people cause its like theyre looking at every detail on my face lol so i feel uncomfortable and thats where it gets awkward lol but im definitely gonna give it a go today as i am going to church for the first time 😀

[@tarekkerbedj1031]

this video made things right

[@Interdiffusion]

How do you like them apples?

[@ralphruiz2120]

Dude you blew my mind

[@oberhauser6427]

Shogo, how to respond to what other people say? Whenever i am in a big group icant think of something to say about what they just did before the conversation moves on, please help!

[@Theilovewaffleguy1]

my right ear enjoyed this video

[@shogogarcia]

Glad you got something out of it Carlos. Keep at it man, it's all practice and experience!

[@shogogarcia]

I've got a conversation tip for you: Don't act like a little asswipe to people you've never met. (Though I will give you etiquette kudos for using the word "please".)

[@Troyskey]

Thank u hommie

[@invaderz1919]

Amazing what you were able to do in the conversation example about the apples. I'm trying to replicate what you did in my mind, and am still struggling to come up with even one original thing that I can connect back to apples. What's your secret? Is it just that I do not have enough interesting stuff floating around in my head?

[@jomamacruz]

Wow. Such a great video!

[@sun--li]

Thank you so much haha... this is exactly what i needed

[@MAGNETO-i1i]

My left ear is deaf now, thanks.

[@cobhcdr]

Thanks for the advice man!

[@TheJosh1966]

Hey shogo good video but i am sometimes just stuck with nothing to say and I am try and looking around me to see if there is something to talk about.can you help?

[@Trudragon88]

I used to have great conversations with a friend of mine. Until I started getting feelings for her, now my convos suck!!how do I get back to having good conversations with her ????

[@gracejackson476]

Hey you had a few interesting tips but it got boring after a while. Over all it was good. :)

[@giovanniarellano2925]

That's pretty good

[@richardjames6580]

Bro you're amazing , thanks ;D

[@heidiportillo6152]

lol i thought my left earbud broke.

[@et3nal496]

Me too

[@memo8506]

Your cute do u have a facebook

[@MrTheKrafter]

Guillermo Qintero lol

[@KANUsAlpha]

+Guillermo Qintero L

[@ethanSADTP]

wow you are truly the master of conversations, you made apples epic!

[@mitchelltnewman]

Great video. Subbed

[@roc8083]

Aderral makes me a great conversationalist

[@RondoMcBuckets]

Much appreciated! Great tips... I'm going to use these with a girl I've been talking to! :D

[@realnigga7107]

Are you saying that most guys don't live in the moment and try too hard ?

[@ABetterYou1993]

Shogo the enlightened one :3

[@u3030426]

really liked this! :D

[@derek92ful]

So basically be detailed in the conversation

[@sleyaraze8916]

"BOTANY OF DESIRE!"?? LOL

[@samuelm.8436]

Ok you're good

[@proflob]

your advices are very cool, but why you cut your hair? It was so much convincing with them. You were like a Samson :)

[@KakeR.]

After watching him talk id actually ask him out

[@songwritersgalore]

Most people are dumb, just stick to sports, entertainment, work and gossip...there u go.

[@Frankie0100010]

Ironically enough, when i clicked on this video to figure out how to be better at conversations, my headphones stopped working. FML

[@shogogarcia]

Girls don't care what you talk about, just like guys don't care what girls talk about. What she cares about is where you are coming from when you communicate, and how you make her feel. Talking about apples doesn't matter. How I talk about the apples matters.

[@lainiwakura7556]

What if I want to know what time they wake up in the mornings?

[@patttiana6760]

how to start a conversation with a shy person or a person who doesn't talk much?

[@ManOfTellus]

My problem is I get stuck if Im in a large group and people are talking I become selfconcious and can`t say anything. Any tips ?

[@michaeljones1109]

I watched a documentary about how apples stared off being too sour to eat so were only used as cider. Because of that apples were as demonized as ganja and it wasn't until one particular farmer selectively grew only the sweeter apples until we have and love all the apples we have today. I didn't fact check or anything, so I don't know who is right here. Not that it matters anyway. lol

[@bailinnumberguy]

Good tips, but generally if you try to make a conversation w/ a woman in a grocery store or at an ATM or standing in line at a drug store you'll be looked at as a bit of a weirdo. Strange as it might seem, most of the time people out doing chores aren't there looking to get laid at some later point in time.

[@shogogarcia]

Randy, yes, if the first thing on your mind is to try to get laid, then trying to make conversation with someone at the ATM or in a grocery store is going to come across very strange indeed. If you want to get laid, go to a bar or a club or find events where other people are also trying to get laid. The purpose of interacting with people while you're going about your day is to connect to those people. Treat people who you think you want to sleep with the same way you treat people you have no intention of sleeping with. If there's chemistry for something beyond the conversation, deal with that as it comes--not before. In a public setting, my first reaction to someone with an I-want-to-have-sex-with-you attitude is, "Why do you want to have sex with me? You don't even know me." That is what makes you come across as a weirdo. Don't cover up those feelings if those are your real intentions, but there is a time and a place for that. The grocery store is not that place.

[@kiewerleraz]

i read in a book that to be interesting, you have to be interested

[@CagonDeMierda1548]

are you from the Philippines?

[@D34tho]

As a logical introverted guy what is going on through my head is usually not appropriate to the social settings I'm in. You can't just talk about anything.

[@nstrauss33]

i didn't even notice the lip noise until I read the comments....i suppose i was too wrapped up in the convo at hand!

[@Kanartist]

don't think that the apple conversation was the best, but i get the concept... have something to talk about instead of a Q&A.

[@ecasales88]

Where did this guy disappear to

[@Donzo89]

What if there isn't anything in that moment that you can talk about with passion?

[@shogogarcia]

Matt, the key is to find curiosity and enjoyment in whatever it is that you're doing in the moment, no matter what it is. The passion I talk about in the video is easy to practice when you start directing yourself toward doing more things that you find enjoyable. (The commenters who think I am suggesting they talk about apples didn't understand this message.) If you're not enjoying what you're doing, and it's not something that you have to do, go do something else. Too many times, we go through the motions hoping that sometime, somewhere, we're eventually going to find something we're passionate about. However, the only place we will ever be in life is RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW--so we may as well embrace it and enjoy it.

[@201_ace]

looks like i have to go learn everything and anything i can on apples

[@genericname34]

alright, cool. Yeah I wasn't trying to be cynical or anything and if I hadn't seen the comments and/or this wasnt a video focusing on speech it probably wouldn't have stood out haha

[@holiboys]

RIP right ear

[@CarribeanAwakenedProductions]

I bet these remarks are coming from people that more than likely do not get laid as much as you do, here is what I have learned. When you speak badly about someone who is respected by others, you may have hidden jealousy When you speak badly about someone who you believe is not respected by society, you may be secretly discriminately criticizing yourself We are reflections Accept yourself totally and you will accept others effortlessly Change Begins With --》You《--

[@ladyindicaa]

Wow... what a great time for only my left ear plug to work ._.

[@RawliglatX]

Pull out your headphone jack a lil bit. Pull it out bit by bit slowly and at a certain point you'll get audio on both ears.

[@D34tho]

Rawliglat x you're a fucking genius!

[@ladyindicaa]

Rawliglat x I'm fine with the audio. I just found it ironic that the audio was only playing through the left earplug & it just so happened that only my left earplug was working.

[@rowanwilson511]

My left ear got to curious so I took my headphones out