How to be more demure (and very mindful) | Jamila Musayeva

[@JamilaMusayeva]

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1:31 #1 Less is more 5:21 #2 Be mindful about self-decoration 7:45 #3 Your posture reflects how you feel inside 9:38 #4 Be intentional in your gestures 11:31 #5 Your tone of voice 15:37 #6 Be mindful of what you're saying 17:43 #7 Be an active listener 19:43 #8 Be more private 22:30 #9 Learn to control your emotions 25:55 #10 Save your energy ❤

[@RyanStanley-k9o]

It is interesting that people want you to speak louder. I started watching your channel because of how calm and relaxing your voice is.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you ☺️

[@sophie-sm9qr]

same !

[@rtklarsfeld]

@@JamilaMusayevaJamila, you posses many lovely qualities . You are intelligent, interesting, graceful and beautiful. One of the characteristics that sets you apart from others is your calm, soft , gentle voice. Please do not attempt to talk louder . Please do not race the pace of your conversation! Your calm , soothing nature and voice are your Super Powers! Thank you, a fan.

[@Englishroserebecca]

Please keep your voice soft and feminine just as it is. I can always turn up the volume if I need to.

[@julijakeit]

indeed, maybe others need to learn to listen better, I realized that listening is a form of art. Not many have mastered it though many will claim they are a good listener.

[@Justmybusiness1437]

Jamila, you’re truly a professional, speaking facts for 30 minutes straight! It’s not even a week since you uploaded your previous video, and this one is just as interesting, if not more. I love your perspective on things. People often embrace spontaneity and view it as a positive thing, but I don’t. I think being mindful of how you come across will lead to a better life simply said. Thank you very much for providing us with this valuable, high-quality content. You’re literally one of the best KZbinrs out there, and I feel like I can always rely on you and I really aspire to be like you.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you for your kind feedback 🤍

[@M0odyBlue]

Nothing has gotten me in more trouble in my life than spontaneity, especially in speaking.

[@the7seer]

A rare gem of advice for anyone who aspires to conduct themselves with elegance and grace. Thank you! 🙏

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Welcome 🥰

[@Jane_Churchill]

Please upload more general videos like this on how to become better. I'm having trouble with myself and your advice is very helpful 🌷

[@ShivangiNaithani]

When you said “you are not a Christmas tree limit accessories “ I laughed full heartedly 😂😂😂😂😂😂 As always a beautiful video !!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I'm so glad! ☺️

[@millidw8070]

Me too 😅

[@Herrera_70]

Jamila, your videos are the perfect ingredient for "me time" at home, feeling cozy while sipping a cup of tea. Your content and your delivery gives me that "feel good" experience while learning new things. I love your channel❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I am so glad you find my videos relaxing! 😊

[@M0odyBlue]

Your viewpoint is the antithesis and anecdote for the crassness and crudeness of today’s society. Thank you!

[@supercruchynoodle]

Antidote?

[@gardenflower6640]

really appreciate points about being private and having boundaries

[@JuliaCXCLV]

I discovered your channel 30 minutes ago and it’s such a treat that you just uploaded!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Happy to see you onboard 😉

[@YeYozWayYo]

Just watched ur video on Kylie’s vouge tea shoot… kid you not, my boyfriend said “Kylie isn’t very demure or mindful” and then this was the next video titled “how to become more demure and mindful” 🤣💕

[@JamilaMusayeva]

😂

[@mcht9565]

It was also your phone 'listen', the AI did its job. Jamila does make great videos!

[@reneecrotty6910]

Bahahaahhaa

[@thesnowqueen8900]

Loved the video. There were many ideas that resonated with me, however the one that I truly loved was to learn to control your emotions.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you for sharing ☺️

[@varzamaz1]

I always come with low expectations and leave impressed, inspired and knowing more. Thank you for the food for thought.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

My pleasure!

[@ju6326]

Thank you so much. I'm still working on my emotions. I even asked my husband to call me out when I'm raising my voice or change of tone and be mindful of myself.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You got this!

[@rehet_21]

Hi Jamila, This video was truly inspiring. Reflecting on your tips, especially the last two, I realised how basic social etiquettes can also help you in understanding and identifying areas you need to work upon which can positively impact your overall wellbeing.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Definitely!

[@Jess-l8e]

Dear Jamila, this is a very timely video as I have recently become a mother and now have innocent eyes constantly on me. I only want to be better. I feel that my exterior has become more pleasing but it is my interior that still needs a lot of work. Your comments about public arguments and fights in front of children hit home. My own grandparents used to switch their language when they argued so that we wouldn't understand, but we still knew something was wrong and it made us sad. (But at least their arguments were always short -- I think they agreed to continue it later when we weren't around, which is demure in its own way!)

[@giorgiagatti2621]

Dear Jamila thank you as always for elevating the youtube level. I really appreciate all your videos and I especially liked the last point of this video about energy because I often feel exhausted when being around others too long, being an introvert person, hence the need to control better how I use my energy. I would love a video about how to interact elegantly with household staff and how to organize tasks for them. I find nowadays it's a quite difficult relationship. Thank you.

[@satisuyana]

I agree in all of your points 🌷 this kind of videos help me to learn and improve 🙏🏻

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you for watching! ☺️

[@Denizsvural]

rather than bombarding yourself with a jewelry like a Christmas tree, 🎄 hahaha I love the interpretation, so kindly true: less is more!🌟

[@Zahraashaker0]

جميلة انا جداً معجبة بشخصيتك وهدوئك لانك تشبهيني كن هذه النواحي وكل فيديو في قناتك هو فرصة للتعلم اكثر منك شكرا جزيلا لعطائك المجاني استمري بمحتواك الرائع متابعتك من العراق 🇮🇶

[@helena4528]

Thank you Jamila for your interesting views about beeing elegant and demure. It trully opens up my mind.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You're so welcome! 😌

[@xmahbubax]

One of your best videos, Jamila!

[@catherinenunan3584]

I found the perspective of being more private a timely one for me. My mother passed away exactly 4 weeks ago today and I have felt that even though I appreciate people's interest, I want to not share everything about how I am feeling. It does resonate with me that it is more demure. I am going to watch your videos on posture and a quieter voice as well. I was in the Royal Australian Navy and so I speak very carefully and firmly but I am not sure if that is elegant. I also walk very fast and have been feeling lately that this is not demure or elegant. The mindful choice of accessories is something I already do, thanks to my Grandma who always taught me that less is more, quality over quantity. Thank you from a 52 year old Australian woman who enjoys learning something new.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you so much for sharing this 🙏🏻

[@catherinenunan3584]

@@JamilaMusayeva I realise that in adding to the comments here I did share quite a lot of personal information. However, this was with purpose - to join the conversation. Already, I am more aware and attempting to be mindful.

[@mariellegrant6248]

Thank you so much for this very interesting video, Jamila! I totally agree ! I think being demure is the best attitude, and you are a perfect example ! Also: I love your dress, and your jewellery ! Really exquisite on you!💐

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are so welcome! ☺️

[@fatimahussain9531]

How can we teach etiquettes to children and what are those important etiquettes. Please make a video on it ❤

[@Jess-l8e]

Seconded!

[@theanahoss2600]

Let them be children and then lead by example :-) your actions speak louder than your words.

[@davidaleymusic]

I think you're of the top greatest things on KZbin!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Aww thank you 😍

[@mansoor3159]

Excellent Sharing Jamila✨✨✨ and I truly truly needed this video May God Bless You Jamila

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@a.nna22]

Beautiful as always 🤍 thanks for another video

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Welcome 😉

[@isabellavasquez9357]

I really appreciate these videos!! I always want to improve myself

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Glad you like them!

[@vf9322]

Thanks Jamila, for one more wonderful und enriching video. I've being struggling to deal with a person, whos actions had and still have been harmful to me as as person and to my family as itself. This person is not a family member, but unfortunately someone who's presence I still need to endure. How can I manage to be mindful, save my energy and be selective and still be able to confront this person almost on a daily basis and keep my calm? At the moment, I'm trying to ignore it's existence, not look that person in the eye or engage in any kind of interaction with it. However I feel like I'm running away instead of being selective where I put my energy on. It's a very difficult situation for me. Maybe only I therapist will be able to help. Thank you anyway for your work, your videos are slowly helping me figure out things for myself, regardless. Have a great day and much love from Germany❤

[@deirdreedwards7267]

I just discovered your channel. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, loved this 💕

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Welcome! ☺️

[@komalgupta8528]

Hello Ma'am, A very warm welcome to you ❤️, I was missing you and just the second i opened KZbin your video came and my reaction was like AWWWWW🥺🤗💃

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Happy to hear it ✨

[@shokufehmodarresi8988]

Thank you so much very dear Jamila 💫💫💫

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You're welcome 😊

[@millidw8070]

Thank you Jamila, I’m learning a lot.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Happy to hear it ☺️

[@lucasley20]

Excellent reminders. Thank you!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are so welcome!

[@bess811]

Beautiful HÉLAS 🇬🇷🤍💙 thank you Jamila

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Beautiful indeed 😉

[@baharbehfar2055]

Absolutely loved it, valuable content 🤍 Thank You.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

My pleasure!

[@dalefriesen8676]

I enjoyed listening to you share your thoughts Jamila Musayeva.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@lamimtf8102]

hello dear jamila , very instructive content as usual. I wanted to ask if it's possible for you to share some mindful advices on how to behave elegantly during the menstrual days while dealing with conciderable mood fluctuations. and thank you for your efforts❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are very welcome ✨

[@gunnandersen7412]

Very interesting views on different topics. Pretty dress and shoes.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@angelastef60]

Thank you, excellent video. So much to learn and apply on my personal and professional life. ❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are so welcome!

[@tayyabamulla7821]

Good Day Jamila Thank you for posting this video May you please do a video on a book review ? Loads of love from Eswatini

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Which book exactly? I have done a few book reviews available on my KZbin playlist.

[@tayyabamulla7821]

@@JamilaMusayeva any that you have read recently and have good lessons that you could share with us

[@joanarayapen5369]

Very insightful. Thank you.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

My pleasure!

[@victorpatiu8491]

a beautiful dress for all occasion

[@martacadar4451]

Always an inspiration! ❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@malakwael1506]

Great video as always. But how to react in escalating situations or when you're angry? My household is not the calmest place to be soft and relaxed in talking.

[@cherp5837]

Try changing yourself and steeping away from the situation. They will slowly get used to it and change tier behaviour

[@lizalayl]

Thanks for sharing these tips ❤

[@徳安由美]

this video really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in 'Magnetic Aura' from Borlest

[@yulyabarca7304]

Very demure, very mindful, very cutesy 💅🏼

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you! 😊

[@frixz5489]

We all benefit from becoming more mindful.

[@Preet11801]

Loved your content❤ One suggestion or request for the next video: please make a video on how to dance elegantly❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Noted

[@tushar_sengar]

Such an amazing lady. So demure herself. Today's generation women have a lot to learn from her

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you ☺️

[@由本拓海]

love this

[@Tantanaaa00]

Always on time 😇

[@JamilaMusayeva]

🤍

[@Uni-u1r]

Jamila, dušo moja ,Beograd!

[@ekmalla]

Настолько красивы, что не получается концентрироваться на ваших словах😂❤❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Благодарю 😌

[@queenie66]

I appreciate your style, your personality and your soft spoken feminine ways. Please do not change! I agree that body posture is important, but also so is our tone of voice and our facial expressions. American women struggle with overbearing voices and manly mannerisms. Some of it is culturally ingrained ( many of us live in loud cities and the men around us are steel workers who work in a loud factory) but some of it is due to women choosing not to pursue classy behavior. It seems here in the USA our culture has eroded to the "least common denominator" as the norm. I am older and still remember when women wore day dresses and gloved hands to go to the market. And high-end deparment stores offered us ladies cloth towels, individual soaps, makeup samples for touch-ups, hairspray and breathe mints all for whatever generous tip we might pay the attendants while we made use of the ladies restrooms. A woman must chose to adopt a feminine persona and educate herself. This is why your channel is so wonderful!

[@nathaliechah5074]

Hi Jamila, I hope you're doing well. Do you know any books that can help you in controlling your emotions? I'd appreciate it if you can kindly recommend some. Thank you so much for your excellent work and educating us :)

[@ulviyyaalizade28]

Please do content related to money etiquette.

[@MuyassarSattar]

Thank you ❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

My pleasure! 😊

[@leila9353]

Excelente video. 💌

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@dianaclaudia6388]

Hello Jamila, I wanted to share with you and with your community an experience that I have witnessed and that made me reflect a lot. I was invited to a birthday diner, and at the end of the diner everyone was discussing. One of the men at the table said something mean to his girlfriend "as a joke" but she felt hurt so she was sitting at the kitchen table alone crying. Her close friend, the mother of her partner and other family they all saw and heard everything and no one did or say something. Everyone simply ignored and we talk about grown up adults. All her close friends and family didn't do anything. So I was the one who approached him friendly and whispered in private "your joke hurted her, maybe you should see how she is feeling she doesn't feel quite alright" so he went over to discuss with her and everything got solved. But what made me feel sad is that I am 25 years old, they are all 40 years old and close family to the couple but everyone watched and didn't do anything. Maybe I shouldn't have interfered, but it felt so uncomfortable everyone heard the mean thing he said, watcher her crying alone in the corner and no one did or said anything. What's your opinion in this case? Thank you for all your videos and information!

[@Shokeen7077]

We are same!!! My higher version!!!❤❤❤

[@11REIGN11]

Great information ❤

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Glad you think so!

[@deborah972]

Great video ,thank you so much ❤😊 xx

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You’re welcome 😊

[@lorilynne2030]

Excellent video!

[@Cieraldavis]

Keep private things private! Thank you! I am a private person because I know not everyone needs to hear all my business. However, my extended family keeps telling me there’s something wrong with me because I don’t blab all my business. Thanks for making me feel normal! 💙

[@cngreen2950]

Tesekkurler 🇹🇷🌹🌷❤️

[@antoinette4729]

Very few people are demure, much less polite or elegant, these days, especially in the "woke" culture where some people throw it your face. Of course, we see little pieces of behaviour on youtube shorts, or tiktoks,etc. and it is important not to stereotype because those who are being demure in day to day life may not be shown on those social media. Creativity and self-expression in one's style of dress and make-up may conflict with being demure. I have artistic friends with wild purple and green hair in striking styles and they would not be considered demure, but then they want to shock others and that is their right as an individual. I like being demure and elegant and am given compliments regularly. It is the way my parents raised me; therefore, it comes naturally. Thank you for this video as it will help many.

[@effortlessly13beautiful]

Hi Jamila, I just had a question while watching this video, does elegance and etiquette apply for males also? I would love to see a video on what guys should or should not do.....I'm just curiousl😅

[@marwachan123]

I don't know if you know this, but your name means beautiful in Arabic 😊 I love your content by the way, so relaxing and interesting.

[@Karasus_drug_dealer]

She might know since she’s Azerbaijani (pretty big Muslim population there), but I’m not sure it necessarily means that she speaks Arabic herself. Regardless, I know what her name means now so thank you for the fun fact!!😊😊

[@lauraoshea1701]

I love that and oh my god you look good✨👌

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@Lisa-sp5if]

Jamila, when you talk about the overssharing, are you talking about just KZbin content creators? Or more of a public life? Because I’d have to say as a Christian I highly value authenticity/vulnerability in appropriate settings, but I think the word ‘private’ can have different meanings. Not sure I agree with you on this one… I think it depends on time and place. I so lean into people who are authentic and vulnerable! Unless you’re just talking about KZbin content, creators or people in professional life, I think you have to be careful and more private in those areas… But I think being humble and reachable is also very important in our everyday lives❤…

[@annapekala76]

Wow I was here times ago.. now you have milion sub wow 😅🤷‍♀️

[@Dokhtaremah]

I'm always shocked when a person is asked "tell me about yourself" in a classroom and they go on with their actual personal stuff and provide TMI instead of stating their public self and it's so uncomfortable.

[@Zeynababbasi-bg1ed]

Great video ❤🙏

[@timeapercsi3313]

I would enjoy this video a lot more if there woul not be 2 promotion after every couple of minutes. Othervise very interesting. I am glad that you took up on this trend and talk about this topic. :)

[@reneecrotty6910]

Jamila you are so sweet! ❤🇦🇺

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@nusratfebruary]

Where are you from Jamila ?

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Azerbaijan

[@medhaupponi4634]

Very nice video

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thanks

[@Rosella-z7l]

First ✨️

[@JamilaMusayeva]

✨😘

[@supercruchynoodle]

In my jobs I have to raise my voice to be heard bc it is so loud- it’s unnatural to me and I dislike talking loudly but I have to. I wear noise canceling headphones at the second job bc it’s too loud. But aside from that I’m very grateful to work at both part time jobs: I have 2 jobs that are very rough and loud. I practice dentistry in a prison part time and then work in a very loud warehouse loading boxes to be shipped to get a paid workout and really good heath insurance (bc here in the U.S. we don’t have universal healthcare and the first job has bad health insurance) i grew up in a strict household with deeply inculcated manners and now i feel influenced in negative ways bc many of my coworkers are not very well mannered. But I stick to my values too and try my best not to use foul language.

[@AMERLife-pg7cq]

❤❤beauty

[@Melissa-h4z5o]

I guess i have to change for her so here i am

[@danielmongou8146]

You nailed that sponsorship

[@JamilaMusayeva]

😅 I truly loved the pieces and I wear them everyday these days

[@afkhoso]

12:30 "i've always surrounded myself in a very calm environment". jamila - my dear.. do you not have LOUD FAMILY/RELATIVES that yell over each other and so you have to be a little louder than normal to get through to anyone, or maybe if you're at a party where there is music and people chattering, and our voices NEED to be louder. i struggle with this.

[@nadegetv8309]

What demure mean?

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You can look it up online 😉

[@khushi-rs3js]

So much to unpack here, I'm definitely going to apply these tips from this moment on. Thank you 🩵🌷

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I am so glad you found it helpful!

[@ritagupta6087]

Love your vedios. A suggestion.. you speak very softly , a bit accented and dont shout like many others. But sometimes speak non stop without pauses . That is very tiring to hear and one looses attention. May be you can consider having some clipping in between. Also always starting the vedio with. I AM ...Aothor of...is becoming monotonous to regular subscibers

[@jhankritisharma7607]

“Familiarity breeds contempt”😄

[@BoulaliRima]

02:07 ❤🧕

[@AnkitaSharma1111.]

❤❤

[@chitrasarma7940]

🌹❤🌹❤

[@sayeedafareed266]

👏

[@margaretstokely9016]

Queen Elizabeth never wore skirts above her knees and she never crossed her legs in public

[@laurawolf9613]

🥰

[@khldr]

Unfortunately, in my culture demure and kindness is viewed as "weak", people will quickly be there to take advantage of you or just be rude or ignorant. Whereas, if one is rude or arrogant first, they will act more politely. I hate it.

[@theanahoss2600]

Where are you from? Sorry for intruding. Our cultures are similar.

[@gardenflower6640]

ditto for controlling emotions

[@MrsPaulaTorres]

MELANIA Trump is a definition of mindful demure lady in neon Loubotin heels. 👠 you don’t have to be PLAIN or minimalist to be elegant. That’s boring to me. Consider WHY you’re striving to be demure to begin with? I’m not. Striking elegance and sophistication yes. Demure? Nah not in this lifetime, not in this world we live in. Not in Miami.

[@theanahoss2600]

Strange that you stopped by a video that teaches women exactly how to be more demure 🙄