How to Break into a Conversation

[@dylnpickl846]

I love the compassionate framing of the talker. So often we assume the worst, but framing this behavior as passionate and invested allows us to give the other person the benefit of the doubt.

[@AlexSanchez-gd7wb]

As someone who is very passionate when talking about literally anything......I completely agree 😅

[@Wormaster]

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[@larrygilbert7273]

The auditory indicator that has worked for me is to say the speaker’s name. Everybody loves to hear their names. So they’ll stop and wonder who is recognizing them.

[@MysTrysTisBek]

I never thought of that. Pretty neat.

[@oz_jones]

Good tip, cheers!

[@Jiixi]

thank you Larry

[@ipromiseimtrying]

Thanks, Larry Gilbert

[@elliesaailem777]

Won't it come across as confrontational?

[@MacRoss44]

Thank you for describing non-stop-talkers in positive terms. 💜 So often, talkers are labled as self-centered, selfish, and/or self-involved. For many, those labels are untrue. There are so many potential motivators for talkers, be it anxiety, passion, loneliness, neurodiversity, never being taught conversational etiquette, etc. that have nothing at all with being self-centered.

[@josephloh3744]

You are a generous and genuine trainer. Your style is so much easy to follow.

[@gasser5001]

His channel and content is second to none. I can easily say his channel is 1 that EVERYONE needs to be subscribed to. Just like every short... and you slowly get more and more blasting you... AND IT'S AMAZING! I even comment every time just to push it into the alg more. I LOVE THIS CHANNEL!

[@AstraVex]

I have literally tried all of these techniques and my sister can STILL talk non-stop, for hours, uninterrupted, from afternoon until late into the night, 10pm, midnight, we're falling asleep, no-one can't stop her! 😂

[@TheRealPearlGemini]

😂

[@Audrey.17]

Knowing and loving someone who is like this as well, I sympathize with you.

[@music_for_a_while]

Oh, I know what you are talking about.... this can be so exhausting. Try to pair the tempo of your breathing with her together with mimicking her movements (try not to imitate, but be more like a mirror). Then find a moment to let her know (lovingly) that you are tired of listening. ❤ This technique has to be practiced, so try it a few times, it works 😊. Good luck 🤞!

[@TheHigherFury]

You know, you said "parrot" technique and it made me think of repeating the other person, like a parrot does. Which I think also works 😂 "...and there was a bird in my car! So-" "THERE WAS A BIRD?? In your car! That's crazy. By the way there's a fire" I think this works because it's relatively natural to repeat what someone just said, but with emphasis, as if it really hit you. Because hey, that's just active listening.. And then you have the microphone for a sec 😂

[@plannermaji007]

intresting 😂

[@powerpath659]

I have also found that a quick tap and a question about the current subject of conversation to be helpful.

[@connied8507]

Thank you. Timely reminder 😅💖 Family time during the holidays. Love them dearly but...

[@hhhhj5831]

I finally found some content on how to talk to PEOPLE and not just girls

[@Rynergee]

I know someone like this, even when I signal her that I need to say something, she stills goes on until I actually interrupt her. I decided to hangout with her less

[@Audrey.17]

Right…. It ends up being exhausting. There is so much work to be done on our part to be able to get a word in. When the talker does not recognize the verbal or non verbal cues… it’s tiring. And then the conversation / relationship doesn’t feel reciprocal. And that doesn’t feel good. Gotta do what you gotta do to take care of your self and your energy.

[@doom7998]

Love your content man!

[@rlane1lsu]

I have spent the last year, watching people talk, and I have noticed that every single person loves talking about themselves and only themselves. I am not one of those people, so it’s lonely out there.

[@rlane1lsu]

Well, mostly all people.

[@ndrauea]

yeah but i think people do this because they crave making connections. they want to feel welcomed and appreciated and maybe even validated, so they talk about themselves. if you are genuinely interested in getting to know them and show that you care, they’ll probably reciprocate and then maybe you can steer the conversation to another topic like the great molasses flood or something 😂 this definitely doesn’t apply to all situations but just a thought!

[@williamjenkins4913]

A note that this short couldnt have is that the speaker is used to this kind of interruption. It might be uncomfortable to you but it is how they converse.. They might actually be waiting for someone to butt in.

[@lyndacrossley9548]

I am loving your Tips Vinn

[@fabuloussamridhi10]

Thank youu it was really helpful ❤❤

[@celiarodrigues2197]

1. ☝️ 2. 🤓 3. "Uhm, actually..."

[@doom7998]

Have a good Christmas

[@chipomusonda1390]

Have a good one too😄

[@NeerajSingh-iq4gw]

Merry Christmas

[@mirage78909]

i like this guy

[@MagSun]

Thanks for all your advice ❤ Any advice how to do so in a Zoom call?

[@AjayChouhan-xr3ud]

I have adhd and problem of going to extremes either I'll talk like there's no tomorrow or just stay completely silent. And also a problem of lack of self awareness

[@vandanajain2384]

Okay, thank you

[@Beast-h7f]

Hey vinh I'm from India and I like your videos ❤

[@AmritMishra-n9l]

At least once in my life, I'm going to meet Sir Vinh.

[@brianlyers7484]

I used to be a visual indicator kind of person but then the ☝️🤓 meme became popular and now I have to adapt 😂

[@thirdymatondo5636]

Pov If you did in the Philippines then you will called "EPAL"(It's a negative word for people who wants to join someone's conversations,business, problem and etc most likely if they don't like when you join in or some other reasons too) toxic mindset but i kinda understand it😂not all wants someone to snuck in their own business.

[@biggreenavocado]

I know someone who is socially aware and I have to create a path every time and 50/50 for that to even and when I do it they get mad 👿 do you have any advice? I would love some, you have helped me so much and I trust your advice if you have any have a great day 😊

[@top_loserrr1221]

third one always work... at least for me

[@MalachyQuinn7]

I called the parrot technique the stutter technique.😅

[@jeffxu8789]

Just drop a pen or something and you pick it up, welcome to the group chat. they might notice or not, but your in the cricle

[@molkereis8626]

What do you do when they just ignore everything?

[@handle-2]

What about if we were in a classroom setting

[@l.h.thinhle6250]

Or just, “sthu! Will you let me talk?”.

[@Ammar_mehmood]

Vin what can I do to get rid of my stutter

[@omitthy5273]

What if it doesn’t work, still?

[@nicolim3946]

I thought the third one would be olfactory indicator

[@dudleyboy5327]

I just leave and u guys can have fun 😂😂 i'll later talk in private with the ppl i want to

[@JccGrid]

Vinh, I gotta say that I just tried all three with you and you didn't let me get a word in.

[@Broth3rz]

I was looking for the opposite of this advice.

[@LIONGOD]

☝️🤓"erm. Can I join in guysh?"

[@AllGloryToAllah]

✋🏻🤓

[@koshermal]

You assume the talker has any idea what is going on around them.

[@SuburbaniteUrbanite]

So in other words: interrupt

[@caindarin9665]

Wondering why I instinctively dislike this guy on a visceral level.

[@mickjagger4707]

This guys diction sucks

[@jamesmorton2621]

Okay, but how do I stop someone from interrupting?

[@Audrey.17]

I am hoping he has a clip on this one too! One thing that I have tried is advice from a content creator named Jefferson Fisher. He recommends to say: I can’t hear what I am saying when you talk over me. I have tried saying that. One thing that does help when I say it is that it helps me feel more in command. That is a good feeling.

[@v10dodge87]

Or just tell them to stfu. That works better.