How To Cope With Non-Vegan Friends & Family (A Survival Guide)

[@MrAchsas]

Yeah christmas is really an emotional rollercoaster Being mocked constantly by ignorant family members really pisses me off

[@MrDefiance000]

Get rid of losers like that! Remove them from your life!

[@MrAchsas]

@@MrDefiance000 sadly not possible since some of the people there i like

[@ikreate4u]

My ignorant family expects me to cook the meat after 6 plus years being vegan! No respect!

[@fredo3161]

Hahahahahaha

[@Vegan_Ape_2018]

Great advice. We made vegan ham for nothanksgiving, and my mother in law actually said she enjoyed it and that it was good. I was brought up on the streets and later joined the Marine Corps, I'm definitely the 3rd personality. I never sugar coat anything. "If you get offended, maybe you need to be offended" - suicidal tendencies

[@LinusGallagher]

Glad to hear it!

[@ariasworld9991]

👏👏

[@LinusGallagher]

@@ariasworld9991 you are much more attractive than my wife Christine. She is a dumpster fire.

[@chrissiehorsley304]

@@LinusGallagher Lol. Says the meat muncher.

[@Bearded.Nobody]

Right there with you my friend! 🌱

[@beauschneider6848]

I used to not want to say anything against non vegans because I used to eat meat and I love my family and don't want to stir up drama. But I can no longer stay silent. You've inspired me to speak out and be a voice for the voiceless

[@sofieeabesstschweet7893]

Myself and husband are well educated in the topic of veganism but we are so passionate and struggle with keeping our cool, especially when the ridiculous question/statements are made.

[@evilsotherbrother7481]

Vegans are scum.

[@evilsbrowndog4068]

Vegans are scum.

[@sofieeabesstschweet7893]

@@evilsbrowndog4068 why?

[@mommadibble]

veganism really has made me stronger mind wise. I easily can cope, have thick skin, stand up for my own rights meanwhile standing up for others, and don't get hurt by others trying to purposely bully me. When I was a kid I did not have these qualities. Being more true to myself has really made me achieve happiness really. All it took was veganism.

[@janerainbow22]

Thank you. I have been lacto vegetarian (no eggs)for a long time. I had several attempts since 2006 to drop dairy, but it was the mutual effort with my children on board that enabled the push to being fully vegan. So bringing my children up vegetarian and being warned by family and friends that they would rebel against my extreme lifestyle, I put in a lot of effort over the years to make them comfortable with their diet. Not to enforce it, but to let them choose. Given the extreme reaction of society...for example a doctor friend who more or less insisted that their diet, though well intended, was tantamount to child abuse, I let them follow their social pressure excursions into eating meat and fish. My confidence paid off, in that they chose to reject it and in later years as a family, supported the transition to becoming vegan. It's much more challenging for parents in family and social environments to hold their space. But my children also found it very difficult over the years as visitors to friends houses whose parents refused to accommodate them. I always offered to send them for sleep overs with easy prep vegetarian options at mealtimes. Often the most insistent people saying that it wasn't a problem, would give them a lettuce leaf and a tomato or potatoes and carrots, just eliminating the meat part of their meal. Or saying something was vegetarian whilst sneaking meat into the meal. I always found that kind of underhand pressure difficult to negotiate, but we survived. The one that my children found to be most difficult was having adult family members humiliate them and their diet. This is hard for a child as a guest to stay respectful towards adults who are not. But my youngest in particular learned to hold her boundaries by asking that they respect her food choices in the same way she was expected to respect theirs. As a child, I think that was the best way to negotiate the power dynamics existing between generations.

[@andrewcenarrusa2826]

Both my family and my in-laws are very sweet and try to accommodate my veganism, but even when they’re trying, it’s remarkable how difficult it is for them to grapple with the concept of not having any animal products at all. Animal abuse is so much a part of our American hegemony, to abstain from it, one has to recognize it in the first place, which seems to be the hard part for my family. They do try though. Happy holidays everyone!

[@ragzzy2814]

@@justinteehee4358 ​ how can you humanely harvest someone who doesn’t want to die? A tenth of protein I need can be had with a 3oz bag of pea chips lol

[@jawsjaws4018]

@@justinteehee4358 you know as a non vegan myself I've literally researched the hell out of it, right down to our intestines, teeth, stomach acid, jaw structure and movement, even the thickness and design of our tongues all points to us being anatomically herbivores! As for dietary, my Girlfriend and others I know who don't eat meat are very healthy, and my research has found plant based is healthier and safer. Basically I did research in order to debunk vegan arguments which lead me down a rabbit hole proving them right and myself wrong. My plan is to eat less and less and perhaps eventually make a complete switch. Just because I love the taste of meat I simply won't be continually lied to. Continue with your diet by all means if that's what you want, but at least research it before making comments. I've thrown every argument at them in the past, I research their responses and I kept falling flat, so just saying.

[@Bearded.Nobody]

@@jawsjaws4018 You are the rarest of the carnivore species my friend, I salute you! Going vegan is depicted in the mainstream as something very fringe and radical, not to mention extremely difficult. I personally don't feel that extending our moral consideration to other animals on this planet is particularly radical. Also it really isn't hard to make the switch outside of a little bit of initial effort. What IS difficult is undoing the years of cultural norms that have been baked into us since birth that teach us to see other creatures as inferior and whose only purpose is to be exploited by humanity. Best of luck to you my friend, hope you have a fantastic holiday!

[@Bearded.Nobody]

@@justinteehee4358 You are simply wrong, do some more research and eat some more chickpeas please!

[@Frida_vegan]

Thank you for sharing, Christmas can be very difficult as a vegan. Sending love to you💚🐥

[@wq7824]

Super helpful!!! Thank you! I said this at a setting with a class full of meat eaters a few days ago and everyone went quite for a moment. I think it planted seeds. I said, “it’s very hard and stressful for me to sit through this because all the animals you’re talking about as food, I have them as friends at the animal sanctuary I volunteer at. Just like if you or your friends/family have dogs as friends, and someone talk about how delicious dogs are, the various ways to cook them and literally eating in front of you, it would be very upsetting to you, am I right?”

[@LinusGallagher]

That was strong of you. What was their response?

[@ARKSURVIVOR879]

I'm also curious, what did they say?

[@maksymilianczaplejewicz190]

@@LinusGallagher i was there. My response was that I would ask those people eating dog meat to leave some for me 😋

[@LinusGallagher]

@@maksymilianczaplejewicz190 you sound pro vegan when you say that lol

[@robsengahay5614]

@@maksymilianczaplejewicz190 Yes, good point. This example only has an affect if the individual is talking with people with a shred of decency of course.

[@sandyjey749]

MUCH NEEDED VIDEO 💚 Thank you so much Joey. I’m vegan for almost 6 yrs now, but still feel anxious during family gatherings

[@NeneChan203]

Happy Early Vegan Christmas 💚Sending love💚

[@unityincompassion69]

Same! 6 years as well, it never gets easier 😢

[@jasmine1stoconnor928]

@@unityincompassion69 same here! 6 years and get anxious

[@EVIL-en1ym]

Thats because everyone knows vegans are just cnts

[@Chloe-w7n]

I'd probably visit after the meals all finished

[@WhyArentYouVegan]

Thank you for speaking up against animal cruelty.

[@LinusGallagher]

Joey is doing great work.

[@ARKSURVIVOR879]

@@LinusGallagher I bet Linus is so triggered at you😂

[@LinusGallagher]

@@ARKSURVIVOR879 what are you talking about? I am linus ;)

[@chrissiehorsley304]

@@ARKSURVIVOR879 He's so fd up.🤷‍♀️

[@markc76]

It's not animal cruelty, it's food production and feeding the human population

[@pegbuckner5074]

Thank you so much Joey!!! Vegan for a year. I’m the only one in my family that realizes the wrongness of eating animals. Much love for you!! 💚

[@NeneChan203]

3 years vegan here! Thank you for caring about animals, Happy Early Vegan Christmas💚

[@VeganV5912]

You eat the deeead ?!!!! And I’m the one that’s crazy ✅🤷🏼‍♂️?? No, you are the guuuilty 1 !!!! 3 times a coward !!! CuIt🔴foIIowing CIown 🤡 3 times a loooser !!!! Get some help !!! CharIes Man🤪son, proxy kiilling !! But you eat the dead !!! But you pay for others !!! And then you eat the Corpse 🧟‍♂️👄🦠🍖🔴!!! 🤦🏼‍♂️. “JeeffreyDharma.. CannibaI M🔴Donald’s” kzbin.info/www/bejne/fp7UiGygi854r80 .. kzbin.info/www/bejne/q368c598iZx1m6M ... 🤮. Go vegan. You don’t want to be in their shoes, for a frigging 5 minute burger or chicken etc. KZbin delicious vegan food. It’s time to stop kiiilling !!!! The Earth, 1 day all world wars combined, humans eat corpses 🧟‍♂️🦠🍖🔴🐮🐷🐣🐔🐙🐟...! That is very bad and a Cooo-ward and Eviiil !!

[@sonnypattison6202]

That’s fantastic, keep it up Peg Thank you for leaving animal products off your plate 💚🌱

[@LinusGallagher]

Congrats on 1 year of veganism dear

[@veganm8918]

@@LinusGallagher Is this the softer side of Linus Gallagher et al.? lol Happy Holidays.

[@NiraKatsumi]

I'm personality 1 and I always pray no one will even notice I'm vegan. I'm soo insecure I am instantly going to cry if someone comes at me, even if they're wrong.

[@arrestedshrimp]

Kinda makes you feel like the crazy one.

[@Anubis424242]

Have you found a way to open up about it a bit more and get into the personality 2 a little? I think it would be good for your own mental wellbeing more than anything to have the confidence. I know how hard it is, so I get it. My problem is that I'm a personality 3, trying to be more like a 1 so I don't push everyone away lol.

[@BRUM5]

JOEY THANK YOU ❤I’m having Xmas alone I simply can not be around innocent murdered animals

[@jjradV]

Chontel, you are not alone ,many vegans feel the same way. When people know about the suffering they are causing and continue contributing ,paying for the abuse and death instead of choosing vegan options,I lose all respect for them and have no interest in sitting at the same table watching them choking down dead animals that did not want to die. I completely understand how difficult it is for you.

[@freebird9166]

I also feel the same, I would rather be on my own than have to witness people chomping down animal flesh & secretions, my family & work colleagues are not interested, argumentative & find it funny, hence being alone rather than being surrounded by monsters.

[@BRUM5]

@@jjradV hi thank u for your message yes I would rather be alone and cook myself a amazing vegan roast for Christmas I wish u all the best and merry Christmas to u my friend ❤️

[@BRUM5]

@@freebird9166 hi I’m so sorry u experience the same with your family my father is a hunter so I have blocked him out of my life I have tried to explain to him why I’m vegan but he will never ever budge so I would much rather be alone for Christmas and cook a yummy vegan roast it’s sad I’ve had to block most of my family out of my life because I’m vegan but I stand by animals and my true heart I wish u a merry Christmas my friend ❤️

[@jjradV]

@@BRUM5 Merry Christmas to you too ! A pleasure talking with you !

[@thebionicwoman1762]

I pray one day we all live in a Vegan world… Thank you for all you do Joey ❤🌍❤️🌱❤️

[@LinusGallagher]

Hopefully!

[@ZsoltTheOPHunter]

Sorry, that will never happen:)

[@markc76]

That will never happen, i like to eat meat 🍖

[@michaelrch]

@@markc76 yeah and some people used to pay for the products of human slavery.... things change

[@markc76]

@@michaelrch never ...

[@leaharley3865]

My mother point blank REFUSES to even try vegan food BECAUSE it’s vegan and apparently ‘unnatural’ and refused to listen to where or what happens to animals - even says no it’s just a bit of meat from the supermarket. Like talking to a brick wall.

[@RalphRoberts1]

Sounds like a pos who doesn't wanna face reality and admit she's harming innocent animals and the environment. Some people prefer to remain as ignorant as possible and will pull whatever excuse they can out of their asses*. Best of luck

[@leaharley3865]

@@RalphRoberts1 pos is a bit harsh, she definitely wants to remain ignorant of the information though because (guessing here) it will make her feel guilty and grossed out and it’s easier and cheaper to stay blind. Same with religion though, they’re religious and I’m atheist and i feel that’s burying their heads in the sand too.

[@JR-lb7iw]

She's right. You will lose weight and get I'll.

[@Akg-jl6sr]

Just ignore her then, focus on making younger generations vegan

[@leviahimsa]

@@leaharley3865 82% of global calories come from plants/vegan. (Oxford) Does she really not enjoy eating any plants? 🥨🌮🌯🥧🍝🍜🍟🍛🍚🍠🍿🍲🥗🥘🥑🥒🥔🥕🥖🥜🥝🫒🥭🍍🍌🍋🍎🍇🍅🍉🍐🍊🍑🍓🍒 If she's religious/Christian, maybe she would be interested in The Essene Gospel of Peace with Jesus Christs writings from the Dead Sea Scrolls: And Jesus continued: "God commanded your forefathers: 'Thou shalt not kill.' But their heart was hardened and they killed. Then Moses desired that at least they should not kill men, and he suffered them to kill beasts. And then the heart of your forefathers was hardened yet more, and they killed men and beasts likewise. But I do say to you: Kill neither men, nor beasts, nor yet the food which goes into your mouth. For if you eat living food, the same will quicken you, but if you kill your food, the dead food will kill you also. For life comes only from life, and from death comes always death. For everything which kills your foods, kills your bodies also. And everything which kills your bodies kills your souls also." After all, the Garden of Eden was vegan. (Gen 1:29) ✌️💖

[@marinaricher3493]

Thank you so much Joey for your helpful advices. Even though, I’ve been vegan for 7 years, I’m still the #1 personality. However, I would love to move up to #2 but at my age, (70) it’s not easy for me to speak up out loud among family and friends. Although, I do post stickers that I buy on Fair Stickers Vegan activists website and stick them up wherever I go, supermarkets, public bathrooms, shopping centres, etc…. It’s my vegan activity that makes me feel that I’m on a mission for the animals! Thanks again Joey for all you do for them! Happy Hollidays!

[@VeganHouseArrest]

Thank you Joey, these times of year are always the hardest for the animals, and as vegans, knowing how to cope and talking to others is very important.

[@michaelkhoury9244]

Thank you for this Joey. Great advice. I’ve been vegan for four years. You continue to inspire. 🙏🏼🌱💚

[@NeneChan203]

I think bringing amazing delicious vegan food is ALWAYS the best way to introduce the topic to other people. Today I brought vegan apple cake to the table with a smile, and the non-vegan participants were all surprised at how good it tasted. "It tastes like the normal one", they said. 🍰 :-)

[@NeneChan203]

Also, ALWAYS be polite and calm. No matter what is being said, no matter how disrespectful and rude any comment against veganism might be, anger and hate as an answer/comeback never accomplishes anything good. Even if it hurts and even if it's upsetting because we saw the pain and suffering of animals, PLEASE trust me, if people leave the conversation feeling attacked, judged, angry and upset because everyone yelled and insulted each other, they're going to be even less inclined to listen to your reasons and point of view. Patience, understanding and kindness is always the key. Hate and anger never does any good.

[@VeganV5912]

You eat the deeead ?!!!! And I’m the one that’s crazy ✅🤷🏼‍♂️?? No, you are the guuuilty 1 !!!! 3 times a coward !!! CuIt🔴foIIowing CIown 🤡 3 times a loooser !!!! Get some help !!! CharIes Man🤪son, proxy kiilling !! But you eat the dead !!! But you pay for others !!! And then you eat the Corpse 🧟‍♂️👄🦠🍖🔴!!! 🤦🏼‍♂️. “JeeffreyDharma.. CannibaI M🔴Donald’s” kzbin.info/www/bejne/fp7UiGygi854r80 .. kzbin.info/www/bejne/q368c598iZx1m6M ... 🤮. Go vegan. You don’t want to be in their shoes, for a frigging 5 minute burger or chicken etc. KZbin delicious vegan food. It’s time to stop kiiilling !!!! The Earth, 1 day all world wars combined, humans eat corpses 🧟‍♂️🦠🍖🔴🐮🐷🐣🐔🐙🐟...! That is very bad and a Cooo-ward and Eviiil !!

[@rebelvgan4579]

@@NeneChan203 good advice, so true. It's difficult though sometimes 😬

[@NeneChan203]

@@rebelvgan4579 yeah, it's very difficult... but I try to remember that kindness, patience and understanding does more good than hate and anger. Hang in there, and thank you for caring about the voiceless. 💝 Happy early Vegan Christmas💚

[@PauLtus_B]

@@NeneChan203 This is true. Even if your anger is completely justified if you want to be effective you have to stay empathetic and be the better person.

[@ItsSneakyBeaky]

I was personality 2, I've become personality 3. I can no longer bear sitting there with my 3 year old son watching them eating his friends, which is how we both see it. They see it as more of a dietary choice, whereas I see it as a personality trait and find it more and more difficult to connect with people who say they love animals but eat them.

[@jennydany]

Agree. Personality 3 here, too.

[@evilsbrowndog4068]

Vegans are scum.

[@RalphRoberts1]

I'm bringing my own vegan stuff for myself and others to try.

[@pegbuckner5074]

Me too!!! 👏🏻👏🏻

[@NeneChan203]

That's awesome! I think sharing delicious vegan food with a smile&love is always the best way to introduce people to veganism. :-) Happy early Vegan Christmas💚

[@Trolloftruth]

I'd say you're the family favorite...yeah

[@GarudaLegends]

good. no one cares enough to join your horrible eating patterns. keep trying to push your unhealthy religion on ppl who want to be healthy eating meat. the vegan cult leads to ex veganism.

[@ARKSURVIVOR879]

@@Trolloftruth you definitely aren't, stop trolling.

[@FamilyFreedom]

Wow Joey, this was amazing. I've found it very rare that the different personality types and different approaches are considered, and so it's great that you've validated them and given advice for them all here. Sending you love mate and wishing you all the best 💚👍

[@The40yearoldVegan]

Having cards, pamphlets, starter kits on hand is key 🔑 at this time. Remember there are so many of us abroad you aren’t alone!!

[@LinusGallagher]

Definitely. Most people agree with veganism already, but just have no idea how to go about it.

[@The40yearoldVegan]

@@LinusGallagher I think that’s where we come in. Inspiring others for example during street outreach I ask a lot of how do you feel about this, what about it makes you feel that way. Letting them draw conclusions can be a powerful motivator. We The Free has a great tutorial on outreach, the coaching approach. They do an online event every month or so.

[@1tsacult]

Ah this is so smart, Thankyou :>

[@GarudaLegends]

sounds like a cult.

[@LinusGallagher]

@@GarudaLegends you need a life, pal. Earth to rosita will never be with you

[@LouisGedo]

*Create a Better 🌎 and a Better You by..................Living Vegan* 💜

[@Trolloftruth]

🤣🤣, broken record

[@LouisGedo]

@@Trolloftruth You're just jealous, sweetie 😘

[@Trolloftruth]

@@LouisGedo nah...😘

[@Trolloftruth]

@truth hurts yeah right 🤣

[@dmdevm]

Excellent stuff. I've taken the liberation pledge and am a type 3 personality according to your categorization. After years of activism, I've made a very careful and considered decision to distance myself from carnist gatherings with products of violence. My mental health has improved drastically and advocacy and animal liberation activism can still be achieved. I regularly attend social gatherings and events without food present, and as you said, most friends and family who care about you are accepting and accomodating of your beliefs. The ones who don't care to offer me the courtesy aren't offered mine in return.

[@LouisGedo]

3. = Gary Yourovsky ........... 👍

[@RightSideOfHistory123]

Just turned vegan. Some of my good friends are “vegaphobes”. I haven’t told them yet, I am scared. Joey keep up the good work!❤

[@IamSickOfTyping]

Thanks so much for this video Joey. I’m the 3rd personality and my family makes me feel like I’m the crazy one for pushing for vegan gatherings (and opting out of the gathering when they don’t comply). This video validated me, and also challenged me to be better. Thank you

[@lamismalunayoga3110]

Thank you for your work and advice!

[@justmo768]

Unfortunately my family’s point of view is that when they are hosting they respect me, so they prepare something vegan for me, but when I host they find it disrespectful that I don’t prepare animal products for them. I had a conversation with a hunter in my family, and it was so amazing to see that he was genuinely interested in learning about veganism. They have some rabbits and emus and while they were planning to keep them for meat, they’ve fallen in love with them so much that they would never kill them. Hearing this from a hunter made me realise while the change might be slow, but anyone can change.

[@melissadavis4981]

To the people who are scared or weary to talk to family about this... It took a few years but now my very stubborn non-vegan dad always cooks all the sides to be vegan (still has a turkey/ham) and my sister-in-law and family (family of 8) have dinner at our house now which is fully vegan. Don't give up even if the first few years don't go well. As Joey said, you can just distance yourself completely but I find that persistence is key!

[@uropium3857]

It my first Christmas as a vegan and im going over to family for dinner. The cook is a vegetarian and when I told them I was vegan they adjusted the recipe for me. Ive made vegan Christmas cake im excited to share

[@triptripp1873]

I am between the shy and advocate type of person. My skin is unfortunately not as thick, especially when it comes to people like my family, who can easily get under my skin. I am pretty well informed about veganism. But the ability to express myself properly gets hindered, depending on the person I'm speaking to. I have found that the only way that rly works at building confidence when speaking to others about veganism, is knowledge. Learn learn learn learn absolutely everything you can. Diet, environment, ethics, every little detail. That way, you will be able to adapt to any confrontation alot more easily and always will know that you have something useful to say

[@malenaarias1771]

Thank you, Joey! 💚🌱🤗

[@evelynschlosser8088]

Great advice from a great person. Thank you. I started out as personality Type 1 four and a half years ago. Kind of skipped Type 2 because of Covid-19 (no real gatherings possible) and went straight to Type 3. Currently working my way to Type 2. I'm gonna stay home alone this Christmas and I'm gonna love it. Told my family that I don't want to be around when they have dead people on their plates. And that I would gladly come by any other day. I'll still see some of them on the 24th since it is my birthday and I invited them over. Since I am WFPB there will be freshly cut fruits and veggies, tea and water. The other day I was at my sisters (half my family was there too). Only for tea time in the evening. There were some cookies and cakes with eggs, butter and milk. I didn't say anything. But I brought a raw vegan chocolate-banana-cake. They loved it. This is my way of handling things. Sometimes I feel I should do more to try to convince my family to go vegan. But then again I feel like showing them that it is actually possible seems to have some kind of influence on them. Anyways. Stay strong fellow vegans. The end of the year is near and the end of carnism will be too. ✊💚🍀

[@howtobecomeapanda1547]

Thank you I really needed to see this today. I know the topic will be mentioned and I hope I can inform them without causing a huge discussion. Merry Christmas everyone. Thank you all for standing up for the animals💚

[@Zar2244]

Me at family gatherings and questions relating to being vegan, "what can i say, I just can't stand animal cruelty"

[@Deathhead68]

Needed this one bro. Feel like I've moved to personality 3 recently, but I'm gonna try and stay personality 2 for my next gathering

[@weirdunclebob]

I'm a disagreeable, principled, shy advocate! I have heaps of difficulties advocating for the animals but I try. Thanks for this guide, Joey. I'll try to keep some of the tips in mind in the future as I think they may help me. 🙂🌱💚☮

[@ultimulcretin5795]

Thank you.

[@patrickxl1]

Amazing advice. Thank you so much. Having a vegan Christmas with my non-vegan family this year. I hope to change their perspective with amazing vegan food.

[@melaniestatik2923]

I admire you so much. Thank you Joey for being yourself and speaking up for animals!!!

[@LisaCooper-thevegan-123]

Can't wait to have my 3rd vegan Christmas with my husband. Vegan pie vegan sausage, loads and loads of vegetables! Mmm.. merry Christmas Joey. Vegan for ever, thank you!👏✌️👍♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@falsificationism]

This was soooo good! Such a succinct piece. Thanks Joey!

[@govegan6112]

It's easy for me. I don't have friends or family. My husband and our 4 cats are all I need. I would never sit down and eat with someone eating meat.

[@birb.]

Well I think you have a pretty lovely family!

[@Trolloftruth]

That's all that needs to be said about veganism...thanx

[@ZsoltTheOPHunter]

What a sad type of existence, no friends, no family.. I feel sorry for you 😔

[@govegan6112]

@@birb. Thank you my dear. I am very lucky. 🎄

[@govegan6112]

@@Trolloftruth You have no compassion. I feel sorry for your existence.

[@ipconfigearth102]

Heya - from india 🇮🇳 - my family and close relatives are open to the vegan message - they do care for animals as Jains - I did take cake always to family functions

[@neil17z]

Thanks for this video Joey. Much needed and very much appreciated. Happy holidays 🙏🏻

[@bellajulietta3444]

Brilliant! Excellently done, really! With the 3 personalities, that's a very smart move. I'm personality 3 and I do it the exact same ways that you described: for my own family, I cook at home; the 2nd day of Xmas I'll go to the less understanding/"able" part of the family, so I eat my leftovers from day 1 and I visit them afterwards, for a different activity. On day 3, we'll be with the more understanding part of the family, and they know my stance, so I picked a vegan recipe that we prepare together. That way, they learn about vegan food, and no animal products are served, win-win. :) I also love your examples of personality 2 (Ed) and Gary for personality 3 :D Merry Christmas Joey

[@croissantstastegood]

Oh, first😳 never clicked on a video this fast because of the title

[@bocajj1299]

Thanks for this, I actually have massive social anxiety, and was bullied in school for being vegan, so now even do I actually know alot I often can't bring myself to talk about this issue properly unless it's someone I feel comfortable around, I often give short answers, like I do it for ethics or something

[@Zar2244]

Sorry you had to go through that, some school kids are so immature and have pack mentality

[@uphilliceskater]

If someone asks you why you are vegan, say you don't answer that question because people are incapable of hearing the reason without acting offended or belligerent.

[@todd92371]

How to cope.... Never let another human being compromise your beliefs and convictions. It takes a true human being to stand firm against differing opinions. Stand firm in your beliefs. The path of each human being is a different one. And no one can sway you from what you decide is yours. The true ones will respect you and love you no matter what you eat. The rest can get over it.

[@fluffysuds]

Great video. I usually don't go or don't get invited which is totally fine. I am very sensitive to the smells anyway.

[@jjradV]

Fluffysuds, I agree, the smell of animal corpses cooking make me gag, when you haven't been around dead animals that are being cooked the smell is truly a rotten stink.

[@keeganitreal]

Great tips! Don’t stay silent if there is violence at your table this holiday season 🙏

[@laurenl5843]

Fantastic advice! Thank you so much! 💜😊

[@davidpalk5010]

I'm personality 3. If meat is being eaten I'm not at the table, regardless of the event or situation. I don't socialise with people while they're doing terrible things, as to do so without challenge would be to condone their actions. When invited to a meal including flesh, ovulations and secretions, I explain that cruelty sickens me and I won't sit with those feasting on the results of exploitation and violence. If they really want me there, they'll make the entire meal vegan - and if they don't want me there then so be it.

[@Loveanimalsdonteatthem]

This is exactly what I needed. Thank you Joey ❤

[@giuliabelmonte6522]

Joey I'm so grateful that you did this video. Even though I'm an experienced vegan activist, this topic is difficult even for me, because sometimes it's hard to choose what to do in these situations, because maybe we talked a lot with our friends and families about the issue, and we know they won't change. Maybe we don't have yet our own apartment to invite family at home or we are far away.. Living alone. There are so many different situations and you sum up everything so beautifully, giving amazing advices and letting us feel so accepted and understood. It's the first time that you really made me cry at the end. Your words are so comforting. Thank you so so much! I respect you so much and you officially became my favorite activist on earth 💚🙌🏼🌎 even though I love Ed and Gary, but your videos in this period are just awesome! And the best thing is that I'm so proud of you, thinking what an amazing evolution you made! It's overwhelming. Letting aside how you were before coming vegan, things of your past we know and that underlines even more the crazy evolution, you first were a person who immediately knew many topics and you were able to discuss them with people, but your approach was a little aggressive and very direct. We've almost all have been there, multiple times, because it's very hard to not lose our sh*t, but look at you now. It's impressive, you've become so calm and even when people try to provoke you on the streets, you respond with humor, yet effective answers. It really blew my mind, how much you've changed and how you experienced by yourself the best techniques to use, to be the most effective when it comes down to telling the truth about animal agriculture and let people open their eyes. A-M-A-Z-I-N-G. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. Happy Christmas and happy new year. You're our hero, for us, and for the animals. We love you.

[@evilsbrowndog4068]

Intolerant bigoted vegan scum.

[@giuliabelmonte6522]

@@evilsbrowndog4068 🤣🤣 woooow you learnt nothing but to offend in your life. Do you think I'm offended by your comment? I don't give a sh*t 😂 go and cry somewhere else. Why do you even clicked on this video? Are you triggered by Joey's content? LOL 😂 and probably by my comment too. ;)

[@evilsbrowndog4068]

@@giuliabelmonte6522 do you always worship con men and shysters?

[@veganForConsistency]

I am 28, three years' vegan who got the following question by my father. "Has your diet preference enthusiasm faded?" We don't live in the same country, barely talk and this is what he chose to ask

[@TheVeganVampire]

"If your friends and family who are not vegan don't show you at least a little bit of respect, just enough to accommodate your ethical beliefs, then I would question whether they truly care about you at all." Hit the nail on the head. Don't waste your time on people who view your empathy for others as an inconvenience

[@teainortakoy]

Exactly, just before xmas I stayed for a long weekend with an afghan refugee family that I'd been supporting. They only arrived in the UK just a over a year ago, most of the family spoke no english on arrival and the word vegan doesn't exist in Afghanistan or its languages. They still cooked me vegan meals from scratch every day for lunch and dinner and things in packets that they were unsure of like breakfast cereal and seasonings- they'd bring me the packet so I could check. The dad knew a couple nearby as they served in the army together and the english army guy's wife popped round with a homemade vegan chocolate cake- first time I met her! They were all so nice!!

[@TheVeganVampire]

@@teainortakoy people who have experienced adversity tend to sympathise with the plight of animals the most from what I've experienced. They seem like a lovely family. Wishing them all the best! 💚

[@TheVeganVampire]

@@teainortakoy also, you're awesome for opening up your home to them. Good to know there are still caring people in the world 😊

[@Vivilyn78]

And thank you for the advice 😊 and all you do for the animals ❤️

[@JustinViola]

6:26 this is so very important. I feel like many people don't want to admit this to themselves, but there's no point in having toxic people in your life - especially when you think about the context we're talking about. they literally behave that way because they feel entitled to the consumption of dismembered children and mothers. and they treat you like this because you don't. that alone should be enough. thank you, joey, you MVP.

[@MrAchsas]

Just sucks when at this family meeting there are also people there that you care about and dont wanna ditch you know? Otherwise id agree and say fk them

[@67jade]

So, what I am getting from all of this is that being a vegan is all about not killing animals and less about nutrition. It is quite ok to hate, and cut your families out of your lives for eating meat, because animals are much more important than humans. If there is a life and death situation between an animal and a human, I guess I know who you will let die.

[@bing2123]

Thanks bro

[@ethical_sarah]

Love you, Joey! Thank you for everything you do for Animals! 🙏🏼💚

[@sandeepmehta5311]

These days I invite friends to lunch or dinner at vegan restaurants and even drive them there. Few people have not become vegan but definitely stopped eating meat and some reduced drastically Hope and pray they all become vegan someday

[@Incredible43]

Fantastic video Joey Wishing you a happy, fun & cruelty free holiday Thank you for everything you do to bring awareness to this abhorrent industry.

[@lekcindr]

Thank you for all you do Joey.

[@GreenVegan816]

Loved this! Awesome advice!

[@AussieKathy]

Thank you so much Joey. Hopefully I can take your advice and maybe, just maybe I may have a peaceful Christmas. 🎄🌱💚🎄

[@Lisaromee]

Thank you!🌱

[@irish_deconstruction]

I definitely think I fit into personality 2, but I do recognise that I still have alot of reading and research to do. I have only been a vegan for some months now. Thanks to people like Joey though, I have hope that more people like me will start listening to the arguments and perhaps change their minds, or better yet, give arguments back that could make people re-think the way they think about veganism. I have ran into far too many vegan evangelicals who know nothing about the philosophy and science behind their position, and only about their own emotions, which they cannot help but irrationally take out on other people. Now, although I am sympathetic towards such people because they recognise the suffering of animals just like I do, they could definitely educate themselves more.

[@robynatkins1679]

My daughter supports carnivore diet and recently wanted to catch up for lunch as she was passing through my area on a trip. I suggested as a vegan and a mum, I'd make something like soup or a curry for us to eat. She refused to come to our home for that one meal because she had to have a meat based meal and suggested I drive 14km to my nearest town to meet her for lunch so she could eat meat! This is the point where I have decided to distance myself from this person....my daughter. It was just one meal without animal suffering, one day in her life. 😢

[@payojaaa]

I am a second to third personality type with my vegetarian parents but I am 1st type with others. I want to talk more about the animal victims and make their voices heard, I will do my very best to fight for the animals!!! Thank you Joey!!!!

[@rebelvgan4579]

I have no family - so at least I'm free of those shackles 😅 Friends on the other hand, is a different story, they can be very tricky 😬 good advice Joey. Pick your battles carefully!

[@Wearephuct-O]

Not looking forward to the carrot sticks and ranch dressing my clueless family will be offering me, again

[@a.sparkes]

You nailed it Joey very good advice 👍

[@Chloe-w7n]

Excellent video, thankyou Joey 💚

[@leviahimsa]

I'm the same person to my family, but different people react differently. My mom and sister went vegan. My dad and brothers went anti-vegan - using every excuse covered on Earthling Eds 30 reasons.

[@GarudaLegends]

lol. you eat like a woman.

[@leviahimsa]

@@GarudaLegends You use 'woman' as if it's derogatory, but they are smarter than you'll ever be. I eat like a human. The global average is 82% from plants, I'm 100% and not killing others unnecessarily. ✌️

[@GarudaLegends]

@leviahimsa7224 you said you eat a gatherers diet, than a hunters diet. lol. it is a fact you eat like a woman. you said it, not me. 2 women on a vegam diet, amd 2/3 men on a meat eaters diet. let that sink it. do you also sit down and pee?

[@WASABINIQABII]

Thankyou ❤

[@user-hv5yt1ts3i]

I'm so grateful for you Joey. Your videos so truly so helpful! BIGGEST THANK YOU!

[@joeljacobsfitness7493]

Thank you for your work 💪🏼🙏

[@patrick4961]

Thank you very much for the advice! As a shy non-confrontational person, your advice is much needed.

[@AlaskaCamoKim]

Thanks Joey for the info. I'm newly vegan in rural Alaska which is difficult enough. Heading to the lower 48 soon for a visit with die hard carnivores. At least there are vegan restaurants in civilization!

[@robsengahay5614]

Excellent points. I literally know no vegans at all and I don’t know anyone who would even consider going vegan. It is possible that some laugh at my choices together behind my back though this may not be the case; it is likely that they give my choice very little thought except when it potentially causes some inconvenience for them such as when they choose a restaurant with no vegan options (the majority of restaurants where I live).

[@marijncat6711]

Respect for you Joey, i love the way you debate and don't let anyone stop you. Here's a comment for the algorithm for you and for the animals

[@ExteelPaprika]

Create distance and just try and live a life others can look up to. Though this can be challenging too depending on the hill we havr to climb sometimes

[@biancat.1873]

Perfect video. Thank you soooo much, Joey! 💚💚💚

[@jiinglesgreen3869]

This is lovely Joey. Thanks for your input.

[@heatherupstone1614]

Thank you so very much for this! I’m a new Vegan at 44 years old & I’ve got ALL of my family & friends against it. Fortunately, my sweet hubby is with me on this journey. It’s very difficult with family and your advice is fabulous. Thank you! 🥹♥️🙏

[@Ousman2023]

Wow! Nice to learn this i am inspired I am a young Vegan 22 years old from very remote area in Malawi

[@Ousman2023]

@@teainortakoy I am humbled thank you sister I am trying to inspire people locally

[@fletcha11]

Thank you Joey-Merry Vegan Christmas to You & Tarion:)))💚💗💚

[@Winning29]

When people share with me that they’re ordering some thing like a hamburger or a steak. I always smile and gently say, “oh really, what was his/her name?” and then I let it go.

[@MattAlan01]

I am the last one. Uncompromising. Happy to have been for the last two years thanks to advocates like Joey and Earthling Ed.

[@bubsybrown8308]

I guess this advice is for people who you're not around very often? Speaking for myself, but if it's family or friends you've probably had the conversation historically, maybe several times, and you've either got somewhere with it or more likely (in my case) haven't. Either way, unless I'm asked I'm no longer bringing it up (as much as I'd like to, it doesn't get me anywhere)

[@voice4voicelessKrzysiek]

Yeah, I do precisely the same. After 32 years of being vegetarian and maybe around 10 vegan of the 32, I learned the lesson. I have noticed more sympathy for my lifestyle, less outright hostility, and perhaps more openness to veganism.

[@Psychorico]

I needed this so much.

[@alyssawall6236]

Such a well thought out video! Well done! 🎉

[@williswombat6995]

for me it got harder and harder to deal with corpses on tables and the shear idiocracy from my friends and family enough so that I moved far away enough to eliminate getting invited to these things. In heinsight it has exposed me to better things and nicer people like Joey, so it was all worth it. i am now in the process of starting a off-grid vegan community which at this point is the only one in australia. Life is a one way journey of awakening and you must trust your morals and follow your heart. peace and love to all ✌️

[@chrissiehorsley304]

Wow. That sounds great. Good luck.😉🌱✌

[@chrissiehorsley304]

I lived off grid for 15 years. It was great.😃🤛🌱

[@ArthurDraper123]

@@chrissiehorsley304 no you didn't Chrissie. Just stop

[@someguy2135]

Great, pragmatic advice! Kudos! 🌱

[@rasputozen]

Love you Joey, I really look up to you. Wishing you and your loved ones a great holidy!

[@persephone213]

This is so good. I’ll be sharing this with my vegan friends. Thanks. 🙏🏻 🌱

[@ashg9023]

I'm personality three. I offered this Christmas to cook the entire Christmas spread (ex chef) but my parents had booked a restaurant some time ago. They invited me and my girlfriend around for boxing day, which will be completely vegan. My sister is kicking off though - trying to use my same statements to say that she needs to eat cheese because vegan cheese is made of nuts and she can't eat nuts so dairy cheese needs to be there.. we were all like fine- no cheese then.

[@ArthurDraper123]

Your family think you are a pain in the arse...

[@ashg9023]

@@ArthurDraper123 don't care

[@ArthurDraper123]

@@ashg9023 get back to me once the wills are read;)

[@odhinnswrath]

Imagine being part of a religion where you need help just to cope with normal people

[@Unmasking_Viandalisme]

The poor turkeys should be left alone! Sis. & me probably gonna have minced beef instead. The😺😸likely having fried chicken.👍