How To Date A Girl - Part 3: The Second Bar

[@logicwins3492]

Fantastic content! Loved the point you made about "flipping the script" and making the woman earn physical intimacy with you. However, 10:26 highlights the most frustrating issue men have with dating: Why in the blue hell would a woman agree to go on a date with a man she "isn't" attracted to in the first place? 😅 It seems like an unnecessary waste of time for both parties. Would like to hear your take on this. 👍

[@datingthorpe]

Thanks for the comment. Yes it's definitely happened to me many times where I'm told I'm not their type or I'm not for them, then 30 minutes later they have changed their view or they're stating to escalate! Quite strange but it's either true or a test, or both. I find the best way is to not be reactive and just go with the flow. You don't have to do much on a date, I just turn up and chill, screening them in the early phases.

[@sunnykel7573]

So creepy when a guy tries to take your hand randomly on a date. This guy has no charm - he's just blankly looking at the girl and you can tell he's not engaged, just sitting there waiting for a chance to escalate. Massive creep vibes.

[@DanTuber]

They're acting. It's not a real date.

[@sunnykel7573]

@@DanTuber yeah I know. I'm simply illustrating to men how creepy it's coming across, and that he does not display charisma.

[@DanTuber]

@@sunnykel7573 Agreed but i also think he rambles on too much about the hand holding thing. In my experience girls will initiate this if they're really attracted to you.

[@datingthorpe]

First of all, there's no randomness to hand caressing. It comes at a natural moment of tension and chemistry on the date assuming it's there. To escalate means taking a small risk which is being labelled creepy. This label is nothing to fear guys. Escalation communicates confidence and best of all, you are testing her interest levels in a very binary fashion and can quickly screen her as a time waster or someone who is interested in you. You refer to the blank look, this provides little feedback to the lady on the date, again testing her interest levels if she want's to come forward and qualify or not. Not engaged doesn't mean not listening. This is also an attractive trait.