How To Deal With a Narcissist

[@jonihyde8612]

Just on my way out of a very toxic marriage with my extremely narcissistic husband. I have been hanging on and praying for change. But he has said no to biblical counsel. I have tried everything. This video was spot on! Thank you so much for allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you in the message that you shared. From point one to point #5 great news and scripture to someone in this type of situation. God bless you!

[@VestalNumbre]

So am what are you really like ?Isaiah 15 A pronouncement against Moʹab:+ Because it has been devastated in a night, Ar+ of Moʹab has been silenced. Because it has been devastated in a night, Kir+ of Moʹab has been silenced. 2

[@evangelinecabacar776]

Thank you for your encouraging testimony. Been married to an extreme narcissist for 25 years.. I’ve tried prayers… he refuse counseling.. IT’S BEEN SO DIFFICULT TO LOVE & often times resented…I am an ordained pastor, chaplain, Christian counselor, worship and prison ministries, but it’s been difficult… considered stepping down, but I know it’s my calling in fulfillment of the great commission. Please pray for me.

[@kkfd1908]

I find it's treating them with love that causes them to be more abusive and manipulative...

[@LindsayLongOfficial]

Right they see it as weakness… these people arent normal brothers and sisters in Christ where you overlook offense. I get out the Psalms and pray enemy prayers against the narcs in my life. David asked for them to get trapped in their schemes.

[@gracea8345]

Yes that was my marriage. The more love I gave the more he acted out. I engaged to my own detriment. I gave my pearls to swine. I got entangled in the devil's snare

[@lean3HisBeloved]

One positive thing about being married to a narcissistic husband,is that I am constantly led to repentance,as I have to check my heart every day in responding to ky husband. But I won't lie,some days I forget to guard my heart and it hurts. But it keeps me on my knees in prayer for a husband that really is just so broken..

[@superbiobabe]

It’s just so hard

[@prescint10]

It’s so hard to be married to someone like that I was and couldn’t remain . 🙏🏼

[@olisafreund6638]

Narcicists CANNOT REPENT AND CANNOT LOVE!!!! A TREE IS KNOWN BY ITS FRUITS!!

[@toliveischrist950]

I want to love my father. I don’t want to believe he’s a horrible person. I do pray for his well-being and that action is loving. So it seems possible to be really angry and hurt and show effort to love him at the same time. It feels like such a dichotomy pulling back and forth inside. I honestly don’t think my father even knows how to love anyone, he just thinks he does. I don’t see 1 Corinthians 13 love from this man. This greatly saddens me. I pray God’s mercy on his soul. And I thank God for his mercy on me through faith in the shed blood of Christ.

[@graciebfitwbffpro5222]

There is a very big difference in narcissistic traits that we all can have and dealing with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder . I have tried to reason, love, and be kind . However that is not doable with someone who wants to harm you financially, emotionally , and psychologically. There is no reasoning. It’s all guarding and seeking council. Specially when you are divorcing one who is completely filled with deception and lies. There is only so much looking at yourself you can do to try and make a situation better with a mentally delusional person.

[@kristieholliday5117]

You just described my husband’s character

[@kigzman1745]

I 100% agree with you on this one. 💯. There's no amount of kindness you can show them, tht will cause them to change. The lies, manipulation, smear campaign...all of it. I lost everything, I'm starting over by God's grace. I just walked away. 🚶‍♂️ I have my peace. I'm glad I don't have kids with this person.

[@charmainenorth9714]

I love those beautiful words at the end of this video. Guard your heart, you've got a lot to give. May God bless you. Thankyou Jesus ❤❤

[@karinh91]

It’s so hard to deal with the constant lies and deceit. And the worst part is trying to talk to them about it and you wind up getting screamed at because you’re exposing them. Not sure how much more I can take.

[@lindamariani6921]

Created my boundaries.

[@evangelinecabacar776]

Thank you for your encouraging message!. I’ve bee married to an extreme narcissist for 25 years.. I’ve tried prayers… he refuse counseling.. IT’S BEEN SO DIFFICULT TO LOVE & often times resented… I am an ordained pastor, chaplain, traveled 1/2 way around the world for missions; Christian counselor, worship and prison ministries, but it’s been difficult… considered stepping down from ministries, but I know it’s my calling in fulfillment of the great commission. Please pray for me.

[@Gothicforever1790]

Experience has taught me that they will do their best to exploit you and take advantage of you if you show them love. Pray for deliverance from the relationship.

[@alivingstone4Him]

Agree! King David ran and hid in a cave from King Saul. He said for my love they are my adversaries but I give myself to prayer. - Psalm 109 They rejoice in our pain and suffering. Best to not share anything with them and spare your words if you have to live with them or work with them.

[@StrengthNLove]

A Narc is a mentally disturbed person 😢

[@jamiefonseca2262]

This is incredible. I needed a biblical guide on narcissism.

[@shockjay]

It's even worse when they are a Christian, listen to worship music and volunteer at the church. The ultimate mask and I can only sit back and see it play out in public while being portrayed as the "lying liar who lies". Lord continue to work within all of us and protect our children.

[@mfuego7164]

How do you guard your heart when it’s been hurt so bad already?

[@crazilyhappy1]

It's even more necessary now that its fragile. I'd say it's impossible without the help of God so pray about your hurts. Give them to Jesus. I realised I was securing myself with that pain as a means of preventing it from happening again. But you can't guard your heart with pain. God is our refuge. Jesus is our Advocate. He is our healer. And vengeance is His. I also realised I needed to forgive and let the hurts go and not idolise them. Pray for the person. Even if you view them as your enemy, the Word says love your enemies and pray for ppl who use and persecute. Anything we put above God, in the place of God is an idol. If you go to the hurt and pain for security instead of Him it becomes an idol. And also read the Psalms everyday several times a day. Recognise your identity in Christ. If you know who you are its difficult to be hurt by others actions. Imagine royalty being hurt by the words of a peasant. Remember how David as a boy saw Goliath even if he was much bigger, he said who is this uncircumcised philistine...David knew that his covenant with God made him superior to Goliath. How much more ours in Christ. Im praying that the peace that passes all understanding guard your heart and mind through Christ Jesus our Lord.❤

[@jeannachebat]

With the word of God. ❤

[@Re-ic3uc]

There are a few things that can be done. The “heart” is a figuratively way to say “mind”. So when the actions of a narcissist comes your way, think it’s not you, you didn’t do anything wrong, you’re fine, God is your shield, etc… think positively, think the right things.

[@nicholecornes1915]

Yes be polite but run like hell

[@donaldbrown4711]

Excellent words of wisdom brother. For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. ❤

[@laughinghawk8522]

Sometimes you cannot kill them with kindness because of how resistant and angry they are. Stonewalling them throws them off and you don't have to stonewall in a mean fashion but just stop interacting as much as possible with them whenever possible. Some people are beyond narcissistic and think they should be treated as your god.

[@scotopicvision]

I almost skipped this video because I think narcissism has been blown out of proportion and everyone labels their EX as one. But I like your videos and watched it anyway and Wow!…. I had no idea about the meaning of coals on their heads. It hit home with me, because all my life I was criticized for “killing people with kindness”. I have done a lot of wrongs in my life. But conflict resolution is one of the few things I get right.

[@Vivi-km8wk]

What about that you have try all and love them and they continue abuse you? Still need to try and try and try? I can’t No more - I am physical and emotionally exhausted of trying to love by God wisdom and receiving abuse after abuse…

[@reneejanzen3127]

How do I guard my heart, not engage, but still love a toxic person?

[@nicholecornes1915]

Dont! Theres nothing to love about them ? I was married to one give up

[@lindamariani6921]

I disengage and stay silent. Learned to be silent.

[@cristylea80]

The best biblical response to narcissism I've seen.

[@koreena4667]

This wisdom and instruction applies to all day to day conflict, not just narcism. Thank you.

[@biggerock]

Killing with kindness will not work with my mother. She absolutely would think it's what's hdue to her, and she'll just see it as one more thing to take advantage of. As far as setting boundaries; she simply blows right through them.

[@LindsayLongOfficial]

Ya doesnt work for Jezebel

[@nicholecornes1915]

Keep up the good work 👏 please because people are having such a hard time

[@Davaimes]

Grateful for this video. Your last statement struck hard. I know who I am in Christ and something my guy friend said was you are always sweet but…. I know now God does have His Hand on me. It’s ok! I trust God. Thank you!!! Brought joy to my heart. I am Who Christ says I am

[@michaelb6519]

Would love to talk to someone like you about what this looks like when the person is in a ministry leadership role.

[@MarriageWarrior23]

Very hard am a minister in family ministry and in a narcissistic marriage for 25 yrs tried everything I could but only me working it out with therapies and back to same abuse.Now am walking it out.

[@kyrieeleison7328]

So many examples in Scripture that guide us on what to do. I have had an issue with clergy for years, that just push love, love and person who is evil and don’t equip them on how they handle these situations.

[@gabriellelindsay3581]

Thanku

[@sumiissac-]

I like your videos but when you are dealing with real narcissist, love , care, compassion etc won’t work out because they don’t have empathy what’s why they are narcissists . I tolerated 18 years and completely blindly believed that one day God going to change him . But at the end he cheated on me. However God has made me to be independent way before that happened and also God gave me complete recovery with in 3 months. So tolerate them or leave them, it’s totally up to you but they will never change but God will guide you through.

[@alivingstone4Him]

Correct! I agree with you. It does not work! They think they deserve our love. Like King David said who was surrounded by these people/enemies - “For my love they are my adversaries, but I give myself unto prayer. They rewarded me evil for good. ” - Psalm 109:4-5 They rejoice at our hurt and sufferings. They rejoice in evil. God bless you. Hope you are doing ok!

[@KirstenQuickFit]

Really good advice. Thank you. Many people deal with this. Don’t engage!! Yes!! So good!! I used wise counsel and it saved me! This is amazing!!

[@Livingwaterzz]

What if you're married to one????

[@austin33785]

Because you enjoyed it at first.

[@nicholecornes1915]

Divorce thats what im doing

[@Livingwaterzz]

Yup... my divorce is final next month ​@@nicholecornes1915

[@natewatersyeah]

Sound advise and how to deal with people who are trying to stiffle you and bring you into their mire. It’s taken me many counseling and prayers to learn how to deal with them.

[@marilynjarmon5324]

This is the best mindset I have heard regarding this topic. Thank you!

[@coreyj233]

Thank you so much. I want to listen to all your sermons

[@prescint10]

How do deal with a parent like this

[@carleene18]

This is such great advise! I am so glad to hear it as I needed it today!!

[@heightsundergod23]

How does one honor their father and mother (in order to honor God) if it is a parent who has these narcissistic traits?

[@TheREALLibertyOrDeath]

Being a parent isn’t a license for abuse

[@paulettecrisman8666]

I would like an answer to that question too. My daughter emotionally neglectes and abused my granddaughter. I just want to help her. She is twelve now

[@MissEuna]

How do I honour a narcissistic mother?

[@terramaguire6209]

Thank you for sharing this, I needed to hear it today!

[@n_plus_k]

Nice job! Added it to my "best sermons" playlist so I can share it with family and friends.

[@fullypersuaded2952]

😂😂 a narcissist won’t go to bed thinking “they are so nice, why did I talk to them like that?”. This kind of false info is damaging. I continued to be verbally and physically abused because I was “loving like Jesus”. Sometimes you need to take the axe to the root. What fellowship does the light have with darkness?

[@JKshandle]

True!

[@alivingstone4Him]

Agree! The Bible says they devise mischief upon their bed. - Psalm 36:4

[@LindsayLongOfficial]

Right church tells us to keep loving its not wisdom to keep giving to someone who has evil in their heart toward you. Not with Pharoah. You let God deal. Takes wisdom to know what level of evil you are dealing with. There is no “loving” a Jezebel. Church has so many people stuck in cycles of abuse. Jesus wouldnt tell us to continue to fellowship with a diseased tree. Leave them to be dealt with by our loving Father who can correct them.

[@alivingstone4Him]

@@LindsayLongOfficial - true true sister!

[@lathanf-5432]

Yes-great wisdom and advice!

[@FarrahCroft-mf2bd]

I believe my husband is a narcissist…. How do I get out of this torture?! He is not a believer, can he be saved?

[@austin33785]

Can you be saved? You married an unbeliever.

[@chrisliebenberg4322]

Thank you Sir

[@NicoleBlumberg]

Appreciate your videos on instagram, subscribed!

[@cogniacademy]

Bringing others in for wise counsel - Jesus is the ultimate Wonderful Counsellor👍🏼

[@marissarissa5495]

What it means when you do that and the narcissist tell you he love you ? It's minuplation?

[@flower18777]

What if you're dealing with a narcissistic mother? Im concerned about honoring mother and father command.

[@TheREALLibertyOrDeath]

Being a parent is not a license to abuse people

[@JKshandle]

What does his coaching cost?

[@user9victory1968]

Humility is very divine quality cultivate it pride is sin the devil fell because of pride

[@texaslovelylady]

When you have both Malignant and Covert as parents and always felt like your different as you don't do things like them, like am I adopted or something 😅?

[@phinmcdole9612]

Hi

[@nicholecornes1915]

Have nothing to do with them! You will regreat it

[@nicholecornes1915]

YOU DONT!

[@lesabrydson2526]

I was almost dead numerous times being with narcissist Melford Morris, me being a Christian, forgiving, giving second chance.......that is todays church culture.... not Jesus Christ.....get out and be healthy..... Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👑🇯🇲

[@carlanfoltz8536]

No need for the music really… content is enough 🥰

[@Re-ic3uc]

But narcissists don’t repent and they don’t feel embarrassment like us.

[@nicholecornes1915]

Omg you just dont

[@nicholecornes1915]

They already hate you so....

[@austin33785]

Women, christian and not, loooove narcacist men.